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Katia:
Hey, Enam, I'veheard that in Bangladeshthere are still arrangedmarriages. Is that true?
Enam:
Yes, it is true. Westill have arrangedmarriages but the number of arranged marriages isdeclining these daysbecause students, or evenyou can say (the) younggeneration don't like thiscustom anymore. They wantto choose their own bride or groom by themselves, butyeah, we still have thisarranged marriage in our villages where the bridedoesn't know the groom andthe groom doesn't evenknow the bride. Their parents just arrange themarriage and introducethem for two days or a fewweeks, they just get to knoweach other, maybe just littletalks ... then they just getmarried. Everything startsafter the marriage.
Katia:
Wow! That is sointeresting, but what aboutyou? How do you feel aboutit?
Enam:
Actually, I havedecided not to go for anarranged marriage, and Ihave already talked with mymom and she said, " OK,you can choose your ownbride" ... but tell me Katia,what would you do if youwere in Bangladesh and youhad to do arrangedmarriage? Suppose you arein Bangladesh. You are aBangladeshi girl and your parents are asking you tomarry a guy they choose for you.
Katia:
Well, I would reallytrust my parents that theywould choose the best thingfor me, however if I wouldmeet somebody else beforethey did, I would probablywant to choose my ownhusband, but then it wouldalso be interesting tounderstand my parents andbecause I know they wouldwant the best thing for me,but it's a little bit difficultquestion.
Enam:
So, Katia, do youhave arranged marriages inMexico? Or you don't have?
Katia:
Actually, not really.Mexican boys, Mexicangirls ... they fall in love andmany times actually they goagainst the parents andactually that's common inthe movies. So, no arrangedmarriages in Mexico. ButEnam, I'm very curious, howdo arranged marriageshappen? How do theywork?
Enam:
Well, it's kind of interesting I think becausethe match makers oftenstudy about the familybackgrounds, their valuesand they perceptions,everything, and when theysee that this two peopleshave the same, kind of,values, and they share thesame level of understanding, then theytalk with the parents andalways both the man andwoman has a chance to talkabout the values and how tothink about the lives andthat then they decidewhether to get married or not.
Katia:
That is so interesting.
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Summarize
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Part 1:Bangladesh, arranged marriagetrue but declining, young peoplemeet for a few daysIt is true that in Bangladesh there are stillarranged marriages. They don
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t happen asmuch as they used to because young peopledon
ʼ
t like this custom anymore. However, whenit does happen, the parents choose the brideand groom and they have a few days or weeksto get to know each other before the wedding.Part 2:Enam
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s thinks that...talked with momchoose his own bride____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________Part 3:____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________Part 4:____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________Part 5:____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
 
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Start a Conversation: ANSWERS
Match the following questions with the responses.
 
1. Have you ever tried online dating?
_____
Actually, I think my mom wouldpick someone good, but all my dad caresabout is money.2. Don
ʼ
t be sad about her, there are
many fish in the sea.
_____
Of course people can be veryattracted to each other, but how can theyknow enough to really
love 
instantly?3. If your parents wanted to choose yourmarriage partner, would you trust them?
_____
My parents are very religious sothey would definitely say no, but I think itis a good way to get to know someone.4. How many times have you been inlove?
_____
No way! It
ʼ
s crazy to spend all thatmoney just for a big party.5. Do you believe in love at first sight?
_____
A lot of girls like to hang out at theoutdoor mall.6. Do you think it
ʼ
s ok for couples to livetogether before they are married?
_____
I know that there are many othergirls, but she was perfect!7. How long should a couple be“together
ʼ
before they decide to marry?
_____
No, I have to meet someone faceto face, not on a computer.8. Are you going to have a big, traditionalwedding?
_____
I
ʼ
ve was in love once, but I don
ʼ
tthink she loved me so much.9. Where is the best place to meet girlsaround here?
_____
It
ʼ
s ok only if you have a reallygood hiding spot.10. Do you think it
ʼ
s ok to keep picturesof old girlfriends even when you aremarried?
_____
If both people know what theywant in life, then a few months isenough, but if they are immature, then afew years.
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