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Journal of SCHOOL SOCIAL WORK April 2013

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Editorial Prof Visvesvaran P K Patterns of Power Struggle and Remedy at Hand Dr Vijayalakshmi V Pattern Recognition: A Challenge before Parents Prof Visvesvaran P K Typical Relationship Patterns in Families Naidu P J Concept Paper on Control Vs. Autunomy Casework Intervention for the Hearing Impaired Dr Sinu E Changing Patterns in Daily Routine among Urban Commuters Sandhya Rani P J Nafisa Khan and Dr Charumathi P J

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Journal of SCHOOL SOCIAL WORK April 2013

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Pattern? Yes! Rigidity ? No! Editorial Identification is, however, only the Ruth Benedict in her anthropological masterpiece first step and is not a solution by itself. Patterns of Culture identifies the Also, any diagnosis is only tentative modal personalities in different and the therapist should have an societies. The typical Dobuan open mind to revise his views as he suffers from chronic anxiety, hostility goes along and as new facts come and paranoia. His gods are hostile up. A corollary to this is the fact that beings and all social relationships are characterized by deliberate fraud, symptoms are a mixed bag and not treachery and double-dealings. On a holdall. For example, a person the other hand, the average Zuni is may exhibit symptoms of anxiety, friendly, co-operative and peace- depression and obsessiveloving. That is because his deities compulsion all rolled into one. Any are benevolent and his culture attempt to put it in anyone particular encourages peaceful resolution of all pigeon hole may fail. More important than this is the conflicts. Erich Fromm refers to the Manus who are highly competitive need to avoid labeling, either the and drive themselves to despair and symptom or the client. For example, death pushed to the brink by intense the childs enuresis may belong to rivalry towards one another. the revenge type (punishing the Identification of patterns is, thus, very parents) or regressive type (arising important for human beings to from sibling rivalry) or may represent understand one another. To adapt both, usually the last. Let not the Swithun Bowers (who uses the therapist label a boy permanently as following phraseology to define a mother-hater or an exhibitionist social work) pattern detection is an though he manifests these art, based on the knowledge of the tendencies alternatingly. For labeling science of human relations. One may prove to be a self-fulfilling should have some knowledge of the prophecy and turn an one-time Freudian theory, the behavioural offender into an incorrigibly chronic approach and the modern schools of antisocial character. Identification of treatment such as the client-centered patterns is a handy therapeutic tool Rogerian therapy to discern typical but let us guard against its fall patterns of behaviour in our clients. out,namely role inflexibility. Journal of SCHOOL SOCIAL WORK April 2013 02

Pattern Recognition: A Challenge before Parents

Visvesvaran P K * * Prof Visvesvaran P K, Editorial consultant, JSSW

chastised mercilessly for soiling may Introduction: In this article, the importance of develop a hoarding or withholding recognizing the pattern of behaviour tendency and may become a stingy evinced by children early in life and person who is reluctant to help and of channelising their energies in the part with things though he/ she can right direction, with professional help, afford to. They may even become if need be, will be examined. Also it sadistic, deriving pleasure from will be emphasized that behaviour is seeing others suffer. This is followed by the oedipal not monochromatic, but is a multistage with attachment to the parent of coloured quilt. the opposite sex and hostility to the The psychoanalytic approach: Sigmund Freud (1856 1939) said parent of ones own sex. Here too that every child passes through these tendencies must be handled certain stages and the problems that carefully, lest they become life-long arise in each stage should be problem. Enlisting professional help: resolved amicably or there will be a Let us take the case of a youth spill-over effect or fixation that will who may show symptoms of haunt the rest of his/ her life. First, there is the oral stage, the desire to becoming an intellectual, loves suck and ingest milk at will. If books and encyclopedias, tries to problems arise at this age, he may read works far above his age (not end up as a chronically pleasure- always with success, perhaps). This seeking person, and incorrigible is a welcome sign and must be hedonist, a smoker or addict. So, encouraged and not scoffed at. let parents watch out for this tendency Concurrently, this boy may also in the child, the symptoms being indulge in masturbation, sexual constant pleasure-seeking and instant exhibitionism and may even become fond of housemaids. Let not the gratification. Next comes the anal stage where parents feel alarmed at this the child takes pleasure in activities development or feel ashamed of their related to elimination. A child who is son or be annoyed with him. 11 Journal of SCHOOL SOCIAL WORK April 2013

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Parents who feel they cant handle the latter tendency should seek professional help. In the contemporary world, with advanced medical techniques, therapists have a number of remedies at their disposal with which boys excesses can be corrected and meaningfully channelised. Exhibitionism and voyeurism (the tendency to peep) should be professionally treated lest they become embarrassing problem for the individual when he grows up and occupies prestigious position, as the budding intellectual is almost sure to. Physician, heaThis article can be quoted asl thy self! Parents would do well to be aware of their own shortcomings, especially patterns of behaviour and communication that may adversely influence the conduct of their children. Eric Berne says that adult play some games repeatedly, for example, why-dont-you- yes- but in which a person keeps offering endless

References: Berne Eric (1964): Games People Play. New York: Grove Press Freud, Sigmund (1939): Complete Works, edited by J. Strachey, London: Hogarth Free Press. Fromm, Ercih (1977): The Anatomy of Human Destructiveness, New York: Penguin Books. Landsberg Michaele (1971): How to Understand Yourself, Readers Digest, Jan 1971.

reasons for his failings or reluctance to act. The remedy is to stop playing this game and start acting to overcome ones shortcomings. Berne also says that it is better not to be a stern parent or helpless like a child but strive to behave like a mature adult in our everyday transactions. Let parents identify their habit patterns and correct them, with professional help, if necessary. Another writer says that some parents during mealtime start up quarrels or become critical of others. This becomes a die-hard pattern of mealtime behaviour, day after day. He suggests, instead, learn to discuss ideas with humour and concern for truth. Your children will follow suit. Conclusion: Early manifestation (patterns) should be carefully monitored and be deftly, unemotionally and professionally handled. For, what is at stake, is the concerned childs present wellbeing and trouble-free future.

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