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Be Careful Of What You Wish In Choosing A Friend

Friendship is a very honorable for his role in shaping the personality of an individual. There are friends who are willing to reach out and become difficult when we are companions in time we are grieving. However, there are also some friends who only know how to ride comfort on the other companions. When once we have fallen, much less to stretch out your hands, our faces look far. I am sure, is not this kind of companion you want. Friends? What is a friend?. Some people say that kind of badminton friends, not play held, when playing percussion. Some others said that his likened like rugby balls, can not take it, I can be protected and preserved. Whatever the definition, for me a friend is very hard to find, more difficult to leave, and impossible to forget, a friend who is willing to share joy and sorrow and exploring feelings of other friends, extended her hand at a time when we need help and assistance. Unlike the term friends, depending on the individual defines it, but to me a friend of nothing special, only as a place for friends chatting and generally more fun than friends grieving. What are the characteristics of a good friend? If you feel the need for friendship with someone, let you choose the character such as: if you serve him, he will protect you if you here with close friendship, he would take back your friendship, if you need help from him, he will help you, and if you offer a benefit to him, he will receive it well, if he gets a welfare (assistance) from you, or says he will appreciate your goodness. "If he saw something better than you, he will close it, if you ask for help from him, he will be working on, if you remain silent (as embarrassed to ask), he will ask for your trouble, if the next disaster strikes a soul, he will alleviate the trouble you, and if you said to him, he will allows you; if you plan something, he will help you if you disagreed, he would more easily succumb to protect the interests of friendship: he helped perform the responsibility and prohibit doing bad things and evil, and the last is the one to lead you in achieving success in the world and the hereafter. But be careful what you wish for. "Have your friends stab you from behind?. How do you feel then? Are anger, pain, burning, hatred or revenge reigned in the hearts of your. From what I understand, back stab is a behavior in which a two-sided front of his other friends. For example, our future all good, sweet, but behind us, he was cut in the fold. The secrets and the trust we

share with him, exhausted sold to others and the more frightening when it involves our pride. Such acts do not benefit even worse on both sides and also the surrounding community who have known such things. Indirectly, the party who was stabbed behind the former will feel oppressed, persecuted and humiliated by his own. Stab back usually happens when a person is jealous feelings towards others, not happy with what they have, jealousy and envy on the success of others. In the course of business, the person is willing to stab their friends in order to achieve what he wants, dropping his own and they laugh at after being on top. In addition, for those who keep a grudge against a person may be one cause of back stab occur in friendships. The sake of revenge that does not respond, these individuals are willing to take the easy way to persecute even his own friends for many years. As a result of the incident, the individual relationship with a friend will become a barrier to further estranged them to become intimate. This situation will continue, probably for a month, a year or maybe forever, depending on their experience and the extent of their personal strength to with stand. Sometimes, those who have been stabbed behind this will keep the ill feeling they've been forgiven individuals who wronged them. This is because, not easy for them to forget what has been dealt to them, especially if it involves the honor of those who have scratched and known to the public. So, beware when we talk because we do not realize sometimes we opened up other people that could bring shame on the individuals involved. Here are some respondents who had persecuted by his own, especially if our friend is a place that family members share everything they have known each other. Follow the story of Sarah and Qistina "Sarah friends with Qistina when she relationship with Ahmad. At that time, Qistina is aware of our relationship and will never fail to state that we joined together with his prayer. Sarah parents also know the relationship between the three of us. Sarah regard as his own sister and Sarah mother considered it as a child. Our relationship is so intimate until Ahmad and Sarah every time go out, Qistina will participate. The days passed is beautiful but it is not going anywhere. At first Sarah did not suspect anything, but after Sarah see, Ahmad and Qistina seems to have a special relationship but conceals from Sarah. One day she woke to the news in that she did not expect at all. Ahmad and Qistina told her about their plans to build a mosque in the year. And they want her to be in the ceremony. According to them, Sarah presence is very important. She so confused, where should her put my pride that was bruised, in front her they painful my feelings, my heart broken and crushed. At that time, only God knows how Sarah condition. Yet they do so. Sometimes she say alone, what is my mistake that they are willing to persecute their own friends and lovers?. I have forgiven them but to accept them back in my life, it's impossible and I can not do even if they appeal. "Was the expression from Sarah. As a friend, should not such things happen, especially our friends know that we already have someone special in his life. And as a lover, do we behave as if there is no sense having nice words and promises have been applied to the Creed.

Next, let us follow this other opinion . "In a friendly, not all good. Sometimes the friends I only know two-sided. Ahead of us, sweet verse, soft teeth from the tongue. Behind us, everything is said to not realize that we have insulted the other person. Such as, before we close and tell each other and share problems. But one day, I would tell my friends behind me bad. God only knows fury. To me is a patient, and not revenge. I will not attack this person, but if behavior above limitations, it is possible I "explode". For me, maybe he wants to be perfect in the eyes of others, or perhaps other factors. Our relationship is tenuous and sometimes even just greet only. Difficult to find the right companion friends, only friends who accompany the moment we are just happy. " Stab back or backstabbing is a condition in which close friend did one thing that should not be to his own. Depending on the individual, would stab the back of this one habit or need to do so to protect or to prevent him from accepting the consequences. (Depending on the situation). This situation arises when three elements are combined the thoughts, behaviors and feelings. Three elements are important in our daily behavior. When they join, then the act is the last thing. Sometimes it can be more severe for both sides that lead to hatred, but we have to distinguish whether our smart owners hate themselves or act. Beside, the term stab back when a friend has done is a matter beyond the scope of his friend and make us feel betrayed. His term in contrast to the term friends. Causes of such acts caused jealousy and greed. For example, when people want something with a quick, he wanted to show the public that his powerful and more robust. An idealistic, this thing should not happen but it is an experience that everyone has experienced or is likely to be experienced. People say, when the friends we can not choose, but that's wrong. We need to wisely choose friends because friends can cheer us. Do not we worry that there are people who want to make friendship with us because the world is vast and many others who want to make friendship with us and accept us as it is. In closing, all what happens in our lives, consider it as an acid salt of life. We did not ask for all that, but we can not reject what has been written on the self and strive to improve the lives to be more cheerful in addition to the friends that you love. Remember, whatever we do let the sake of Allah. Here I want to share a song that is suitable for this title. Let us take to heart with this song Selama ini Kumencari-cari Teman yang sejati Buat menemani Perjuangan suci

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