:number of children case 1 Paul male yes 1 case 2 Anne female no 0 case 3 Toni female yes 2 case 4 Hans male yes 2 case 5 Linda male yes 2 case 6 Chris female no 0 case 7 Leo male yes 2 case 8 Sandra female yes 1 case 9 Peter male no 0 case 10 Christopher male yes 2 case 11 Lena female yes 2 case 12 Lisa female yes 1 case 13 Mikel male no 0 case 14 Luisa female yes 2 case 15 Michaela female yes 3 case 16 Felix male no 0 case 17 Susanne female yes 3 case 18 Nils male no 0 case 19 Ole male no 0 case 20 Cindy female yes 1 case 21 John male yes 2 case 22 Charlene female no 0 case 23 Hillary female no 0 case 24 Ana female yes 1 :marital status .bring happiness .bring fullfillment & purpose :education divorced 1 1 highschool single 0 1 some college divorced 0 1 university degree married 0 1 highschool divorced 1 1 some college single 1 0 some college married 1 0 university degree married 0 0 highschool single 0 1 some college divorced 1 1 university degree married 1 0 highschool married 0 1 some college single 0 1 highschool married 1 0 highschool married 0 0 some college divorced 1 0 highschool married 1 1 highschool married 0 1 university degree single 0 0 university degree married 1 1 some college divorced 0 1 university degree single 1 1 highschool divorced 0 0 highschool single 1 1 university degree SQ1:: Reasons for having children Children whittle away your time in ways that are ultimately beneficial: they have an uncanny knack for getting rid of the meaningless hobbies that used to consume you. To Fulfill my devotion to children: so far I am a favorite aunt and my heart breaks a little bit every time my nieces and nephews walk out your door and into their parents car. Its time for me to be the favorite mom instead. We are both past age 35 and are concerned that if we put off having children any longer, I might have trouble getting pregnant or have complications in pregnancy or delivery. To Answer a call: I feel as though I was meant to guide a child. I believe I could do a good job of steering the child in the right direction, so that he or she has a productive, healthy, happy life. I was happy with my partner and had more love to share. I wanted all along to bring light into a new life. To Accept Destiny: I am pregnant. Even if I have not been planning to get pregnant, but it happened. Now,I am thrilled with the news. Desiring children with the man you love is as natural as breathing. You get to read all the favorite books of your childhood all over again. Revel in the simplicity of a child's unconditional love and trust. To Take on a New Challenge: our relationship is on solid ground, and we feel as though we make a good team willing to take on the tasks A child is an unbreakable bond between husband and wife. Love breeds love. And more love. And more. Children are some of the most charming little people I know: full of wonder, curiosity and innate kindness. Properly nurtured, they become equally charming adults. Children naturally grasp the lesson that people are more important than things. Children teach us the freedom that comes with self-discipline and self-sacrifice. Baby toes. Need I say more? Okay, I'll say more. Watching your baby sleep: You didn't know that angels could be held in your arms. While you cannot ensure that your child will be happy 100% of the time, the desire for her happiness is a good, admirable and unselfish thing.The enchantment of being with one's children outweighs any and all other difficulties. Relive childhood and all of its innocent wonder and mirth. When your husband becomes the father of your children, a new man appears: fiercely loving but practical and still-logical, nurturing but fiercely strong and protective. You will fall in love with him all over again. A couple becomes a family -- the whole becomes greater than its parts. Parenting will soften your hard edges and sharpen your compassion and empathy. It's an awe-inspiring thing to have a child and the experience of feeling, "I didn't think I could ever love anyone that much ." Success is not defined only in terms of what one does for money. To succeed as a father or mother is beyond worldly success. Watching a child grow into a caring, sensitive soul is a reward that cannot be measured in book sales. Do something to change the world. Have a child. Raise a saint. You are the center of your childs world, and as much as you may love and need your child, he or she will love you more. Children that are shown love and affection show it back many times over SQ: Reasons for not having children Responsibility. All of lifes prior responsibilities pale in comparison. If you decide to have a child, that new person must absolutely be your top priority. As your child will remind you when he or she is older and something goes wrong, I didnt ask to be born. A child is a life long commitment to a person who is innocent of this choice. Caring for a child takes a lot of physical and emotional energy, made all the harder by babies that only sleep for ninety minutes at a time. Many parents of much older children seem to forget how hard the first few months were as they look at the past with rose colored glasses. Dont believe them. Parents need sleep to work well, and they often cant get it. A baby takes so much time and attention that spouses must already have a great friendship and work well together before the baby arrives. It is a certainty that one spouse will disagree with the other about decisions on how to care for the child. It is likely that one spouse will resent the lost time with the other. A marriage with some difficulties will get much worse when a baby is crying and the parents are sleep deprived. Time: You will have none. Most time not spent with your child will be spent catching up on work you need to get done. You and your spouse must carefully plan any time away from your child, and very little can be done spontaneously. To pretend otherwise is probably neglectful of either your child or your spouse. Parents always worry about their children, monitoring how fast they reach each milestone and how well they grow, eat, sleep, crawl, walk, read, make friends, and so on. And yet there is little a parent can do beyond allow a child to proceed at his or her own pace. It can be frustrating and scary when your child isnt eating well, or cannot read at his or her grade level, or is socially inept. Lots of adults do not get along with their parents. Perhaps they forget all the work that their parents put into raising them, or perhaps they resent that the work that their parents did was not enough. At some point your child will probably be very angry with you, and may even hate you for years. This is not uncommon, and you know it because you can name a dozen people who dont get along with their own parents. Children are expensive in several ways. One parent loses wages while caring for a child. Children need to eat and be clothed. They need toys with which to explore the world. They need health care, they need education, they need activities and hobbies. They will need car insurance. The proper raising of a child is not cheap. The world is already overpopulated. Do you really have to add to it? Do not answer this question lightly. Every new human draws on our limited resources, tramples over previously undamaged land, creates more waste, and accelerates worldwide instability. People without children can easily pack up and move. They can be without work or change careers. They can break up with their partners and find new ones. Children, while often flexible, must be accounted for in all major life changes. In fact, they demand that the world not change around them so fast while their own understanding of the world grows and changes at the same time. Stability and routine allows a child to explore life from a vantage of safety and consistency. You must be willing to give your child such stability at the cost of your own freedom. Raising a child takes more than love and time. You must concentrate on all methods of communication that your child attempts so that you may properly understand his or her needs and wants. You must introduce your child to new stimulation and situations regularly. You have to figure out best ways to teach your child at each age, what to teach them, and when to teach. You must be available and responsive to your child even when you are tired or sad or very busy. If you don't have children, you will have the capacity and time for meaningful, engaged, quality adult relationships. You will be able to save for a comfortable retirement. You can fully pursue and develop your career. . You are more likely to be an engaged and involved aunt or uncle because you are not jaded and worn down by your own kids Your spouse will get all the love and attention he/she deserves. You will come first in your spouse/partner's life. Your home will be a quiet and welcoming oasis, instead of a chaotic zoo. You will have the time and energy to exercise regularly and take care of your health and appearance. You will stay informed and engaged in current events and will remain an interesting conversationalist. You will minimize your carbon footprint and do far less damage to the environment than your childed peers. You will be able to travel more frequently and your travels will not be limited to summer or school break times, or to kid-friendly destinations. You will maintain the capacity to be spontaneous to do things spur of the moment, without complex planning or babysitter arrangements. You can own whatever type of car you prefer you are not limited to mini-vans, SUVs and other family-friendly gas-guzzlers. You can buy a much more affordable home because you wont need many bedrooms and you wont have to limit yourself to more expensive, uppercrusty-good-school-district-towns. You will spend your weekend doing things you enjoy, instead of attending boring childrens soccer games and birthday parties, or playing chauffeur.
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