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Here's a bit about who I am and my journey to, through, and out the other
side of Islam.
I was impressed by the fact that this woman clearly had chosen a lifestyle
and not simply a neat set a beliefs to hang on a shelf and pull down when
times got tough. I was surprised, but not put off, by the fact that she
dressed very modestly and wore a headscarf. I thought it was cool that she
was so out of the mainstream and I identified with that as I had always
felt different from the world around me. I listened intently as she
described the relations between the sexes, Islamically-speaking, and
thought it made sense to have more boundaries in society. On an
unconscious level I suppose I wanted some rules to live by, though I was
probably the most free-spirited person I knew at the time.
After some weeks of thinking and reading, I began to feel drawn to Islam
on a more personal level. Through my teen years I had struggled with the
big questions to the point of almost feeling that I would go crazy. Why,
why, WHY were we here, I would ask myself again and again. How could there
be a God? How could there NOT be a God? Over and over my mind would race
and move in circles and debate itself. By the time I met my husband
though, I had more or less reconciled myself to agnosticism and had thrown
all of my energy and passion into the study of dance. It gave me something
to focus on and helped mute the questioning voice in my head.
The fasting month of Ramadan was soon upon us, and I took the surprising
step of deciding to take a month off from my dance training and experience
the fast. Initially I tried to do both, but a full day of dance classes
doesn't really work without food and drink in your body. By this time,
Islam was clearly impacting my thinking and affecting me emotionally.
However, I had rejected Christianity previously because it didn't provide
the proof I was looking for and was not compatible with science. Any other
religion would have to pass where Christianity had failed. So despite my
attraction to Islam for its structure and unique way of life, I didn't
accept it right away because I wanted some concrete proof that I could
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A few months later I was off to Egypt for a 6-week honeymoon and had my
first taste of the Muslim world. I was particularly curious about Muslim
women and how they were treated in the family, and especially by their
husbands. We stayed with my brother-in-law and his wife who fortunately
both spoke English. I talked to my brother-in-law's wife about Islam and
eventually they brought someone they considered knowledgeable and
religious to come answer my questions, most of which at the time centered
on the status of women in Islam.
I had issues with polygamy, male dominance, unequal inheritance, etc and I
asked about all of those and more. I was struck with how this man had an
answer for everything, though the answers were not always what I wanted to
hear. After he left I felt depressed and confused and remember crying in
frustration. I had developed an emotional attachment to Islam, felt it was
probably from God, WANTED it to be from God, but at the same time, felt
some of its laws were just too hard to swallow.
I returned to the US not any more convinced than when I had left in an
empirical way, but with less fear and more understanding of the Muslim way
of life, and this set the stage for me to continue my journey with less
trepidation than I had previously felt. I continued attending the classes
at the mosque and eventually acquired a copy of "The Bible, the Quran, and
Science" by Maurice Bucaille. Though I had approached this subject early
on, I was emotionally primed, I now realize, to WANT to accept Islam by
this time. The author's thesis that within the Quran there were so many
scientific pieces of information that were unknown at the time of its
writing that it must have a supernatural author was just what I wanted to
hear and see him prove. By the end of my reading the book, I was ready to
become a Muslim.
PART TWO:
science are in perfect agreement, unlike the Bible and science. This
impressed me very much, and these "scientific proofs" that were presented
ultimately led me to convert. In addition, the Quran is said to be
preserved just as it was 1400 years ago, and so there was no reason to
doubt if it was really the same message that Muhammad had first preached.
Muhammad's character as "the best of creation" gave me a clear guide.
Also, it was emphasized that because the message is word-for-word what
Allah said, that there is no room for doubt and must be followed exactly.
That was good for me, because it gave me something so black and white when
before I had felt so lost and confused.
But getting back to the new test I was setting up for my faith-- If this
is really the word of God then it will make the world a better, not a
worse place-- I could see that it was not passing. I could see, for
example, that there would never be peace in the Middle East as long as
Islam had anything to say about it.
And the idea that Islam is a perfect lifestyle handed down by God was
assaulted in my mind by other glaring facts as well. Here are a few that I
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1) Men may marry up to four wives, and the wife can do nothing to stop
him, save asking him to divorce her. He can refuse, and then, unlike him
who can divorce her by saying "I divorce you", she must go to an Islamic
judge and plead her case and hope he agrees that she has a right to a
divorce. If not, she is stuck. Furthermore, she must give him back
whatever he has given her and is not entitled to any share of his
property, no matter how long they were married. I personally know of
several situations where a man has trampled on his wife's feelings and
married another woman. And of course these men do this in full conviction
that God has given them this right. No matter that he will now see his
wife and kids half the amount he used to, or that she will now have access
to only half of the money she had before.
3) There are many points under the subject of Islam's view of women that I
eventually found to be more based on the thinking of ancient people than
anything based on reality, such as women cannot be good leaders, they are
deficient in intelligence, they are most of the people in hell (despite
men doing most of the crimes!), they must sleep with their husbands
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whenever the husbands wish or the angels will curse them, if God was to
ask anyone to bow down to another it would be a wife for her husband,
women can't pray on their periods because God won't accept the prayers of
these unclean people, etc. And my favorite- men will get the hourieen
(beautiful virgins of Paradise) while the women can go screw themselves-
no virgins for them! In short, the Islamic view of women, much to the
opposite of what I was initially told, is really quite disparaging. I
finally got the courage to look at these concepts critically and to
determine that even a mere mortal of our times wouldn't say such hateful
and demeaning things about women, so therefore, how could God's final
messenger?
It occurred to me that a loan would make life run much more smoothly in
these cases. Not to mention that most of the businesses are very small
because they are started with just a small amount of money that the owner
is able to invest from his savings. I started to ponder over whether a
completely interest-free economy would ever be better than the developed
capitalist economies. And certainly it would HAVE to be better, if it were
really based on God's perfect plan for humanity.
5) Islam allows for the wholesale punishment of groups and the stealing of
their belongings. Would the "most gracious, most merciful" really want a
person to lose his life's savings in tools, land, or cattle because his
tribe had a disagreement with some Muslims?
6) On punishments:
Would God really tell his followers to cut off the hands and feet at
opposite ends of those who fight the Muslims?
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Does God really want the children of adulterers to grow up without their
parents because they need to be executed?
Does God really think that a person who has doubts about His existence or
one who sees grave problems within the Islamic system should be killed?
Does God really want homosexuals to be put to death for expressing what
they feel, often against what they wish they felt?
Does God really think public whipping is the most enlightened way to deal
with those who have sex before marriage?
Does God really want a person who steals to have difficulty for the rest
of his life by losing his hand?
7) The book that I read which prompted me to convert, ³The Bible, the
Quran, and Science´ neglected to mention or explain effectively the verses
and hadiths which contradict science such as the idea that the sun rests
above a muddy place or that the stars were created to throw at the devils,
or from the hadith that no soul will come into existence that wasn't
destined to, hence, there is no need to use birth control.(Wrong!)
As I later discovered when researching more about the Quran and science in
order to try to SAVE my faith, the supposition that the Quran confirms
scientific fact isn't in fact true at all. Some of it contradicts, some of
it can be nudged to look like it matches scientific facts, and some is
information based on logical guessing. And strangely, the author has never
publically declared himself a Muslim when asked.
8) Contrary to popular belief, the Quran is NOT the same book it was 1,400
years ago, and this contradicts the Quran itself because it states that
Allah will protect it. However, there is a caveat to this in one verse
which says that Allah will not allow Muhammad to lose any of it, except as
Allah wills. A nice cover in case anyone should notice that the Prophet
forgot some of the verses, or a stray goat should eat them.
I once read a hadith which clearly shows that there were some verses of
the original Quran which are no longer there. I believe they are related
to mutah, the practice of temporary marriage. And yes, a goat is reported
to have eaten the only written copy. Furthermore, when the Quran was
written, it was written without any diacritical markings which would
indicate the vowels or even the dots which could change a consonant sound.
So both the root words and the grammatical gender and number of words
could be lost.
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9) The character of the Prophet came into question for me as well. Why did
he encourage and order such brutal treatment of the Jews? Why did he
"marry" women whose husbands had just been killed by the Muslims? Why did
he have more wives than the other Muslims? Many of his statements recorded
in the hadith also show disturbing thought patterns. If you haven't
already, you could see the www.faithfreedom.org site for specific hadiths
on this.
Ok, so these are some of the major issues I have. I could do more, but I
think you have enough to chew on for a while.
My guiding principle now is that we are all here making connections and
living life in order to learn and grow together as spiritual beings.
Religions are merely human expressions of the longing to understand this
process, but are not the end-all of the process. In other words, I think
life is not for the purpose of reaching the point of believing in some
dogma, whether it be that Islam is God's final message, or that Jesus died
for our sins, or that there are a million gods, etc.
You also asked about whether Osama Bin Laden represents the true Islam or
not. Of course, at the time of 9/11 I would have told you absolutely not.
But something I have discovered about myself and other Western-raised
converts is that Islam for us was in large part what we were told it was,
or what we wanted it to be. So we would read the texts with a different
eye than born Muslims and incorporate human rights as we know them into
Islam, mostly on the understanding that OF COURSE Islam doesn't allow this
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or that because it went against our principles of decency. And since Allah
would never give us anything indecent or bad, of course such revolting
acts would be against Islam. However, when looking at the Prophet's own
life, as recorded by Muslims, one gets an entirely different picture. So
now I would say that more or less, OBL has a clearer understanding of
"true Islam" than I did or than many Muslims do.