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BILL: “In your recent column on porn,”
writes Nelle, “you said women don’t go for
it because love and sex are genetically
intertwined in us, while men can separate
the two. Bill, when I got married five years
ago, I loved my husband, but if there was
maybe a spat at home, like a drunk
uncorking the gin, I could not rest until I
brought one of my own porn fantasies to
real life with a real man I found on the
Internet or in a bar.” Doc, something old-
fashioned in me resists believing women
can be sexually addicted. Where am I
wrong?”
DR.DAVE: In “The Female Brain,” Dr.
Louann Buzendine writes that “the brain
circuits that are activated when we are in
love match those of the drug addict
desperately craving the next fix." Change
the word “love” to lust and we have Nelle.
The facts are that about 8% of men and 3%
of women suffer what is now termed compulsive hypersexuality. Those research studies
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BILL: B.who is more famously known as Tiger Woods’ own sex addiction physician,
right? But what brings me to this discussion, Dave, it's not only the email from Nelle, but
the conduct of the women in the Mel Gibson tapes that are currently all over the Internet.

DR. DAVE: Women who may help you overcome your notion, Bill, that the female of the
species does not suffer sexual addiction.

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The most notorious
BILL: OK—I’ve read about Russian singer Oksana Pochepa, who allegedly suffered from Twitt er moment s of 2010
sex addiction, who recently stepped out of the closet to identify herself as the lover that Demi Moore tweeting of pics
cost Mel his marriage. herself in a bikini was a
milestone in stupidity.
DR. DAVE: And this month, Polish porn star, Violet Kowal, is being reported by the
National Enquirer as passing a polygraph while saying that she was the mistress
involved in his breakup with the new girlfriend and mother of his son. Mom, daughter accused of
molesting same teen boy
BILL: You know Dave, Gibson’s rants range from intense jealousy that his girlfriends are for 3 y ears
looking for other men to sleep with --all the way to childish threats to burn down the
Police say the pair did it without
house unless one of them performs sex acts for him. Sort of sad—he comes across as knowing about each other’s
a pathetically old man drawn to the intense sexuality of Pocheka or Kowal’s addictive relationship with him.
behavior.

DR. DAVE: With a 30-year marriage and relationships with 8 children burned down
around him, I would say your moth-to-the-flame analogy sounds about right. Patrick
Carnes likely would tell him that it is just as difficult for a sexual co-addict to untangle
himself from the addict as it is for the addict to get out of the addicted lifestyle.

BILL: Which brings me back to Nelle. “Conventional psychotherapy did not work for me,”
she writes. “What did was joining Sex Addicts Anonymous. At first I would find myself
being attracted to some of the men at meetings. But SAA totally gave me back my brain,
and I stopped ‘acting out’ with these others.” Doc, how did SAA give her back her brain,
in a way that conventional therapy could not?

DR. DAVE: First off, addictive sexuality has some unique gender differences. For
instance, I believe all-men’s and all-women’s meetings are the only real viable approach
for addicts and co-addicts. I also think that people might be best drawn to common
features of their type of co-addiction in 12-step groups, particularly for incest survivors or
couples w/ mixed compulsive features. Thankfully, the Society for the Advancement of
Sexual Health has put together an exceptional web page that has links to all of these,
including sites for people like Mr. Gibson himself and/or people who might feel trapped
in the sexual behavior of a significant other like him.
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professional resources as well—with therapists more knowledgeable than the one Nelle
split after 18 y ears
and many suffering addicts bump into.
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and former supermodel Elaine
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7:46:25 AM You really need to check your facts. Oksana Pochepa has nothing to
Jul 23, 2010 do with the infamous tapes or with Mel Gibson beyond her 15
minutes of fame over a year ago when she falsely identified herself
as his mistress. The "real" Oksana is Oksana Grigorieva. She is the

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9:52:57 AM I like to hit it often. Back in the day it would have been my pleasure to
Jul 23, 2010 have hit it with Mel.
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2:41:31 PM Only 8% of men?? Seems like more.
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3:45:47 PM Tara. It is confusing to keep all the "Oksana"s straight. There have
Jul 23, 2010 actually been three he has been linked with. You are correct that Addictions & Answers: Can you really be
Pochepa claimed to be one of his mistresses, pointing to beach addicted to love?
photos of them as well. Not conclusive and Gibson denied he was Addictions & Answers: Narcotics Anonymous
with her. He also denied he was with Kowal. She pointed to her took my daughter away
polygraph for National Enquirer. You are correct that, Oksana #2 and
mother of his young child, is Grigorieva. Oksana #1 had 1-2 weeks of
her proclamations before she released a statement that she wasn't MORE FROM HEALT H
going to fight Mel's lawyers, still contended they had been lovers and
stopped talking about him. Coverage of that can be found at: Don't let 2010 hangover into 2011
www.contactmusic.com/news.nsf/story/russian-singer-silenced-by-
Addictions & Answers: Drinking meds for
gibsons-lawyers_1101485. While certainly everything around the
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5:09:09 PM Sure he is when he gets his prescription for Viagra filled, I'm sick of MOST POPULAR
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6:12:48 PM Sex addiction? How about calling a pig a pig. Let's be honest.
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7:46:58 PM @farsight ..u mean women..there is alot more women who are sex losing their minds
Jul 23, 2010 addicts than men or just about even but in todays age how men are
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12:53:22 AM Gibson is the new God for all the guys who ever got raked over the
Jul 24, 2010 coals in divorces and conned over by goldiggers. A friend of mine
ended up spending $250k in his divorce and his wife still ended up
with everything while he went homeless. Ask him if cares if Mel
Gibson used racial slurs. The thing with Gibson is he is crazy enough
not to care, whatever it takes he is going to stick it up this b**ches
arse. She`s trying to spin it like he is abusive, but he`s not. He`s
abusive because he got scammed and he ain`t gonna roll over like a
Paul McCartney.

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ageddes70
2:04:54 AM That does seem like very low percentage for both men and women
Jul 26, 2010 when the doctor refers to sex addiction. Too many people struggle
with this, including women. There's a great book out there about the
subject called, "FREE SEX. EXPENSIVE THERAPY," by Judith Sagé.
The author is very truthful and candid about sex addiction and
address the media frenzy behind it as well. Here's a link to the
author's website if you'd like to check her book out:
http://judithsage.com/

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