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IN THE YEAR AHEAD, NEW DOORS WILL OPEN FOR ALL OF US HERE AT HOME.
It promises to be a joyous 5772 for our entire community as JFS will move into the new building, adjacent to our existing Jessie Danz Building creating an actual campus in the heart of Capitol Hill that will allow JFS to better meet the needs of family, friends and neighbors, today and well into the future. This campus is the result of incredibly generous community support of the JFS Family Matters Campaign in response to the need for services that seems to grow every year, every month, every day. You made this building possible (as well as opening doors for enhanced and expanded programs that are already serving community members in need). The names of donors making gifts of $10,000 or more to the JFS Family Matters Campaign will be inscribed on a permanent donor wall in the entrance of the new building in heartfelt appreciation and recognition of their commitment to communityour community. After all, family mattersalways has, always will.
Jewish Family Service wishes you andyours a happy and healthy 5772.
For information about how to add your name to the donor wall and be part of the future of JFS, please contact Shelly C. Shapiro, Major Gifts Officer, (206) 861-3148; e-mail scshapiro@jfsseattle.org.
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A man is grief-stricken after the earthquake and tsunamis devastated Japan in march. rabbi Kushner guides the way to facing God after suffering tragedy and the loss of loved ones.
him unfairly. Moses has spent his entire life, at considerable personal sacrifice, bringing the word of God to the Israelites. He has
endured their complaints and their deviations from Gods ways, and instead of rewarding him for his efforts, God has decreed that the people who have made his
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How to make friends and impress people: The High Holidays edition
rivy PouPKo KLeteniK JTNews Columnist
Dear Rivy, Confession: I have a lovehate relationship with the High Holidays. On one hand, I very much look forward to the season of holiday meals, get-togethers and keeping all the family traditions. On the other hand I find all the talk of soul-searching a bit prickly. I am not the most spiritual of people and am frankly not keen on all the talk of penitence. I dont think I am a bad person; I just cant get into the be-a-better-person sermons though of course, being a better person does resonate with me who doesnt want to be better? my screen recently offering the following promise: How to Make a Good First Impression Five Pros Share Their Most Effective Moves. The five, by Anne-Marie ONeill, are to the point and pretty reasonable. When I first read them I thought, Hey, these are good and wait a minute, these are Jewish! Though they suggest quick techniques for acing an interview, they are, if taken truly to heart, methods of deep self-improvement. And as our mantra teaches, self-improvement leads to world improvement. The five first impression strategies are very much in line with the classic Jewish practice of Mussar, a path of spirituality through inner growth. Not too frightening, though definitely on the track toward an examined life. Here are the Five Tips to Follow to Make a Good Impression and the internal work, the Jewish middah ideals, needed to stretch them beyond the interview experience. 1. Stop Talking. Ann Demarais, coauthor of First Impressions, reminds us that overtalking may make you think like you have impressed others with your erudition and expertise. Ironically, though, it is listening that makes others feel good and indicates your interest in them. Try it; make it a practice to pause, and to process, to slow down and to really listen. Train and discipline yourself to vigilantly watch your airtime are you talking too much? Are you able to practice actively listening? Or are you rapidly thinking instead of your response, ready to jump, the moment the other takes a breath? Silence surfaces several times in Pirke Avot, with teachings that specifically emphasize keeping quiet. Shimon ben Gamliel reveals that, All my days have I grown up among the wise and I have not found anything better for a person than silence, while Rabbi Akiva teaches that the very key to wisdom is silence. Later in the 12th century, Maimonides, in the section of Hilchot Deot in his Mishnah Torah, lays out his approach to personality development, reminding us that a person should never rush to respond and should not talk excessively. This discipline will surely develop your humility and selfcontrol. Its practice will not only help you make a good first impression, it will improve your life with minimal discomfort on the piety barometer. 2. Use a Persons Name, urges sociologist Julie Albright, and repeat it often. Do not stop there, but also find out the names of family members. She goes so far as to even suggest that we should actually care enough to ask after these peoples wellbeing; all in the name of course, of making a good impression. It is here that I ask which comes first: Caring for others or behaving as if we care for others? Our tradition actually believes that our thoughts follow our deeds and thus, by all means start by trying to impress others by frequently using their name and by the asking after their family members. But, why not allow this practice to actually have an effect on you? Start with that first greeting of the day. Good morning, Mr. Cohen! Our tradition places pronounced esteem upon those who are the first to greet the other, with elders such as Shammai and of Rabbi Yochanan ben Zakkai, of whom it is said, no one ever greeted him before he had already extended a greeting himself. That our sages go out of the way to prescribe this greet first policy indicates its significant worth and is not merely a
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It sounds like you are in need of a more-hands-on, less-touchy-feely kind of navigation for the demands of the New Year. It might help you to think of soulsearching less as an intense mystical experience and more as an enhancement of everyday human life. Consider this tweak of one of those ubiquitous self-help pop-ups that present themselves irksomely every time you open your computer. One appeared on
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Leonard Felder, Ph.D. is the author of 12 books, including Here I Am: Using Jewish Spiritual Wisdom to Become More Present, Centered, and Available for Life (Trumpeter Books/ Random House, 2011). For more information on how to use Jewish mindfulness methods for daily growth and re-focusing during stressful moments, log onto www.hereiamremedies.com.
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they heard in the Temple into their own practice. As Christianity developed in Rome, the orchestral psalms of the Levites blended with Grecian influences to form the Gregorian chant, which had a single melody, based on a diatonic scale. The mesmerizing quality of the chant comes from an exquisite longing always
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Jew-ish has a new look and a new story to tell. Visit jew-ish.com for event listings, blogs, columns by our growing team of columnists, and stories by and for Jewish Seattleites that you wont get anywhere else. Around town doing something Jewy with Jews? Take a snap and submit it to posterchild@jew-ish.com. Follow us on Facebook /jewishdotcom and on Twitter @jewishdotcom.
Each week jew-ish.com picks a theme we think youll relate to. In honor of September, were talking about Hebrew school its follies, its failures and its future. The stories shared on these pages practically talk to each other: Almost everyone has shared the same pain, suffered the same amount of amnesia. Theyre also all committed Jews today, and optimistic (mostly) about the future of Jewish education. We hope you enjoy this edition of jew-ish: the magazine and come away with something new.
Hillel UW Rabbi Oren Hayon, August 1985. I read Torah twice that week, once at my grandfathers Moroccan synagogue in Tel Aviv and then at the Kotel.
Lech lecha, go west young man. Joels Bar Mitzvah, November 3, 1984.
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When I think back on all the crap I learned in Hebrew school, its a wonder I can think at all
By Joel Magalnick
I was an advanced Hebrew school student. My mother used to tell me how, when I was in kindergarten at our little Conservative shul, I walked up to the chalkboard one day and wrote the word brotherhood. So I got moved up to the first grade. It was the same class. But from then on, as the older kids moved on, I went with them, through Bar Mitzvah training (half the kids, their parents feeling theyd fulfilled their religious school duties, had dropped out by the time mine rolled around) and the 10th-grade Confirmation trip to New York. I made out with my longtime crush Melanie on that trip in a room filled with sleeping sophomores. It had been her idea. She was older, after all. Now that were all grown up and shes living with her dozen or so kids in an ultra-Orthodox enclave in Israel, it makes me wonder if I was as good a kisser as I thought I was. But my aptitude goes way beyond the age differences of a few months. I can recall a warm summer day, just as I was entering the second grade (thats grade 3 in Hebrew school years) and my parents explaining to me that now, instead of just going to Hebrew school on a single afternoon, I got to go three days a week! Including Saturday mornings! So much for cartoons. I screamed. I cried. I pleaded. For even as a young child, I knew long before my classmates the
one thing that eventually came to nearly every Jewish kid: Hebrew school sucked. Ill admit I learned plenty: How to watch the clock as the second hand turned slowly, slowly, slowly until that hour and 45 minutes was up. The recitations of any prayer in the siddur, though each psalms significance or what exactly those Hebrew words meant never really was passed down to us. I learned how to be patient and punctual as I would wait, usually in the dark, for my dad to pick my carpool and me up long after everyone elses parents had carted them home for a warm dinner. That lesson, incidentally, has not stuck with me. But a few things from those interminable classes did. We had a citywide Bible bowl when I was 11 or 12. I wiped the floor with everyone at that thing, even the Orthodox kids. I convinced the Hebrew school principal that I one day wanted to be a rabbi and she believed me. I voluntarily participated in Hebrew High, youth groups, and many years of Jewish overnight camp. I spent a year in Israel in college and made friends that I still talk to and see and, in one case, wake up next to each morning. But will you find me at synagogue every Shabbat? Dont count on it. As my own son gets ready to enter the second grade, the question of whether he should go to Hebrew school is very much a question. Should
I actually send him and allow him to make his own religious choices when he reaches the age that he can do so, with knowledge and context to back it up? Or, more important, will he hate it as much as I did? As they say, Ldor Vdor, from generation to generation.
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Temple De Hirsch Sinai Associate Rabbi Daniel Septimus at his Bar Mitzvah in Houston, Texas at Congregational Emanu El, February 15, 1992.
E: As the new congregational learning director at Temple De Hirsch Sinai, whats your vision for the congregation? D: I believe in a visionary approach to education, which means something called holistic ethos. The parts all fit together. For example, the three major points of entry for education are early childhood, religious or day school, and adult education. But how do all those things fit together? I believe if you dont engage the parents, youre going to lose. Otherwise
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E: At that age, some kids dont get why theyre there. They feel like theyre forced into it and theyre being pulled away from what they really want to be doing. Do you have to go back to the source and reform everyone from preschool on? D: I think its a change in what we say, in a way. You go to Hebrew school not to train for your Bar Mitzvah. E: But theyre still going to think that. D: You cant change everyone. Thats the honest truth. Thats the message some of them get at home or from their friends or what they come up with in their own minds. But I think you can change more people if you talk about becoming a responsible adult in the community. Learning Hebrew and learning how to lead a service is about being a participant in our community. And thats not said enough. We have to change the message. It starts at early childhood. But if a child enters at third grade because their parents want them to have a Bar or Bat Mitzvah, you almost have lost. It is very hard to change the message. And thats why we need stronger early childhood programming that gets the parents engaged and the kids engaged from an early age. E: What are the chances you can get all those parents on board? A lot of adults dont want to change. What do you do about them if they have no relationship to Judaism? D: Some of them never will engage. What has worked in terms of strategy is building a culture of learning and engagement and ritual at an earlier stage. Its saying, this is who we are. I dont think we do that enough. Most parents do want an entry point. The question is, are we providing the right entry point for them? Are we providing it early enough that were engaging them? It goes back to the relational model. And we have to plant seeds so that in the next year or the year after it begins to grow.
youre going to have kids who say, Eh, Im doing this because my parents want me to do this, not because my parents really believe in it. Some kids will get it and will love it and theyll be the exception. With adult education, sometimes we forget that education continues after religion school, and there are needs for people whose kids are growing up, versus people who have kids in religion school or early childhood age. My goal is to create programs that have ongoing connections, or for people who come in at different entry points, to be able to connect. E: So, lets talk practical application. How is this year going to be different than other years? D: For example, were in the process of putting together a proposal based on an early childhood study the Federation did a few years ago, which talked about the need to step outside of our organizational walls, and to get into neighborhoods and create a chavurah style of programming. Like a parent education group, where people who have babies ...if you have a gather together, or to provide childbirth ...how old you are. ...how educated you are. ...how young you are. job (or two). classes from a Jewish perspective and post-birth gatherings to talk about the WE KNOW. experience. With questions like, what do A startling 1 in 7 families are financially stretched to the point where they cant be certain that all members of their you want this childs Jewish life to look family will not go hungry. like? How can the synagogue facilitate that for you? WE ACT. In other words, we can no longer rely At Food Lifeline we work diligently to meet the increasing need in Western Washington. Our trucks pick up nutritious food that otherwise might go to waste. Our volunteers sort and package the food for distribution to our network of on the programs inside the synagogue 300 food banks, meal programs and shelters. These agencies ensure this food gets to hungry people. walls to draw people in. We have to go out and reach them where they are. WE CARE. Thats where I think the Jewish commuHunger doesnt care, but we hope you do. We make sure hungry people in our community have access to the food nity is going. they need. Every $10 donation provides enough food to feed a child, senior or adult for an entire month. Another example is our kesher program for sixth and seventh graders. Its a trimester program in sixth grade, so weve got Holocaust education, tolerance, and healthy relationships. Each 206-545-6600 trimester is going to have a parent1702 NE 150th St., Shoreline, WA 98155 teen dialogue component and most
likely a parent education component to it. We want to make sure the parents have the tools to respond to the needs of their changing teens. And creating dialogue with trained facilitators is going to be helpful. E: But how is that Jewish education? D: Each of those parent-teen dialogues will be related to Jewish topics. For example, the tolerance curriculum is going to be talking about what we learned in the first unit, but bringing it to the present day. Were focusing on how were created in the image of God. In Jewish texts we have so many texts that talk about while we may have differences, we respect other points of view. The healthy relationships unit is going to focus much more on the concept of btzelem Elohim [creation in the image of God] and talk about why relationships are important in Judaism. Judaism is a relational kind of religion. How do we create healthy relationships to facilitate that kind of dialogue in our society that very much needs it?
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Jew-ish managing editor Emily K. Alhadeff talks with Rabbi Olivier BenHaim of Bet Alef Meditative Synagogue about an integrative approach to Jewish education, and donuts and hot chocolate. they heard in their synagogues. But what I understand is that they mostly survived those years because of the friendships they created. And thats what got people to keep on going. There were people who told me the reason they kept going to Hebrew school was that their synagogue had a youth program where they got to play basketball. But you couldnt play basketball unless you went to Sunday school. So they dragged themselves so they could go and play basketball with their friends. A lot of our members are returning after being in the ashrams, after being in the Buddhist temples, even the Sufi communities, the Dervish communities. You name it. People have been longtime spiritual seekers and have explored different paths. Most of the people are at first really upset when I talk to them about the divine within and the divine manifest in nature and culture. Their first reaction is, Why wasnt I exposed to that kind of understanding growing up? Theres a lot of resentment and anger, unfortunately. E: Whats your approach to teaching young people? O: What is critical to me is creating excitement within the kids. My goal is when the child goes home, they tell their folks, I like Judaism. When they think Judaism I want them to think fun. I can do a puppet show for 20 minutes to explain the story of Purim, then call that a day. Then have donuts and hot chocolate. For the younger kids, when they go home they think puppets, hot chocolate, donuts. E: Youre bringing the basketball game into the classroom. O: Thats right. Make the basketball game the place for learning. E: What about your Bar Mitzvah program? O: I dont like starting with the negative, but the
Emily K. Alhadeff: Tell me about your Hebrew school experience growing up. Olivier BenHaim: I was born and raised in France, where I was part of a scout movement that is Jewish, religious and coed. Its a group that started during the Second World War as a Jewish resistance group and continued as a scout movement. And it was Orthodox, because France doesnt know of any other denomination other than Orthodox. Throughout the year we did Sunday Jewish education, and I really loved it. E: What did you love about it? O: Some Sundays were indoors, some Sundays were outdoors. For me the outdoors was really important. At that time I was dreaming of becoming a photographer. I did that for many years, even after my parents divorced and we moved cities. And I was always spiritual, as long as I can remember. E: So now youre a rabbi of an alternative sort of congregation. Many of your congregants hadnt been back to synagogue since their Bar or Bat Mitzvahs. What kinds of stories do you hear from them? O: Most of what I hear is that people felt they were forced to go through this process. Most of the time they were dropped off and they didnt feel that their parents were really involved beyond you have to do this Because. They had little to no connection with their rabbi, little to no connection to what was going on, or why they had to sing those prayers. Most of the time they were challenged by the theological concepts in and of themselves. They didnt have a belief in God in any way and were not turned on by what
Emily K. Alhadeff at her Bat Mitzvah candle lighting ceremony, after she changed out of her dress into a super cool baggy Banana Republic t-shirt and jeans. Groton, Conn., April 16, 1994.
impetus to start that program was, How can I create something that is not what these people are talking to me about? For me, the Bar Mitzvah program is lets talk. I got one book on Jewish history, one on mitzvot. I tell them, Go home, read the paragraph. When you get into the classroom lets talk about what you read. So we can have an hour-and-a-half discussion about what does it mean to keep kosher? How does that work in your life? Whats the essence of keeping kosher? We talk about healthy eating, habits of eating, you are what you eat. When I sit down with them to learn how to chant the shma or the veahavta, first we talk about what that means. Before you go in front of the community and chant the veahavta, I want you to be okay with saying words that you believe in. So we have the most remarkable conversations about God, the universe, what it means to love. Should we love? How do we love? To me, thats the excitement.
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Fast-forwarding more than a few years, I find myself recalling my previous pickle experiences and wanting to learn more about the process, wanting to embark on a journey into the world of pickling. The problem was that I was a little bit terrified I had never pickled at home, the process was unfamiliar, and the fear of botulism loomed. Nonetheless, with my handy home canning kit, some encouraging words from friends with pickling experience, and an excess of CSA produce, I set forth on my first pickling experience, managing to successfully seal my pickles in their jars while only splashing myself with a marginal amount of boiling vinegar. Like many other ideas introduced during my Hebrew school education, I might not have been interested in learning about the history of pickles or how to pickle at the time, but the introduction has served to spark my interest later in life. Despite that introduction, it was still difficult to get started learning something new in unfamiliar territory, and it might not have happened at all had it not been for my friends pickling enthusiasm or the vegetables accumulating in my refrigerator. Im excited to report that after my first pickling project, some spicy dill zucchini pickles, Im only just beginning on my pickling journey. Im excited to see where Ill end up, and Im certainly not sad about all the pickles Ill potentially have to eat along the way. The same goes, more or less, for the questions about Judaism sparked during my Hebrew school experience. And whatever happened with the zucchini pickles, you ask? Theyre still pickling, but Ill keep you posted on how they turn out when theyre ready. Joelle Abramowitz is a Ph.D. candidate at the University of Washington in economics and jew-ishs resident gastronomist economist. Follow her cooking adventures on jew-ish.com and on gastronomisteconomist.blogspot.com.
E: Explain your selection process for the Bar Mitzvah program. O: I meet with the parents and the kids together. They interview me, I interview them. Then I have a one-on-one with the parents there with the student. I ask them about themselves, about school, to give me a sense of how they are. Then I ask them, Why do you want to be here? And when kids are 10, 11, they tell you. If they say its because my grandfather wants me to, my mother wants me to, then I tell them thats not going to work for me. Its not something you should do with external pressure. Because it wont work. I tell them, you dont have to be here. Maybe youre not ready now. Its breaking a traditional barrier, but maybe in our day and age we might want to look at moving the Bar Mitzvah age to later. I find that most kids get most of what they need when they start at 12 or 13 and go
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By Joelle Abramowitz My experience as a Hebrew school student was a little spotty, with some lessons more memorable than others. Sometimes we would rotate through the class reading aloud about some story from the prophets, and now I cant really remember anything from those classes. But sometimes we would learn about a topic with more depth, something that might actually change the way we would think about some aspect of Judaism or our lives more generally. Looking back now, I regret that I didnt come away with more from my Hebrew school education. Perhaps theres only so much you can try to teach a 12-year-old kid and hope that it sticks. At least you can hope that it piques their interest and inspires them to want to learn more on their own or when theyre older. As a 25-yearold now, I have recently found myself recalling experiences I had and wanting to learn more about my relationship with God, about halachah, and among other things, about pickles. Growing up, we would almost always have pickles at dinner and any trip to a Jewish deli was not complete without pickles, but it really wasnt something I gave much thought to. During my last year of Hebrew school our class took a field trip to New York City with the rabbi and cantor to go to the Jewish Museum, to buy halvah from a shop on the Lower East Side, to eat at the Second Avenue Deli when it was still on Second Avenue, and what no synagogue trip to New York should be without, to eat Gusss pickles from barrels on the sidewalk. The trip was both a gastronomical and cultural experience, and I remember finding it remarkable to see so many of the foods Id grown up with in my home to be in their natural environment in a place where they really seemed to be in the right context.
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through a two-year process. Its a rite of passage. And sometimes youre just not ready. E: What would you say your philosophy is? O: To me, I see the Jewish community as an oasis, where people can let go and gather together with a community of likeminded spiritual seekers. I think thats what matters. Thats what gets me excited. I see it as integrating all the generations in this spiritual container that supports everybodys evolution and healing. I dont want to start with a place of fear, just because were so afraid were going to lose it. Because what happens? We lose it. If we create this kind of community that is all-inclusive and all encompassing, that would make a difference. E: Its kind of nondual. O: Very much.
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UW Chabad Rabbi Elie Estrin, around his Bar Mitzvah in 1993. I have no idea what the date of the party was, but I read Parshat Lech Lecha at Lubavitch Center, in Pittsburgh, Pa., he said.
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1 3-pound chicken, cut in quarters 1tsp. honey 1 Tbs. freshly squeezed lemon juice 3/4 cup pitted prunes 3/4 cup Marcona almonds, roasted with oil and salt Preheat oven to 350. In a large skillet with a heat-proof handle, heat oil. Add onions, garlic, coriander, cumin, ginger, cinnamon stick, saffron, sugar, salt and pepper. Cook over a medium flame until onions are light golden brown. Add chicken; turn to coat with onion mixture. Continue cooking until chicken is golden. Add honey, lemon juice, prunes and 1 cup hot water. Cover and place in oven. Bake for 45 minutes until chicken is cooked all the way through and sauce has a honey-like consistency. Saut almonds in oil. Drain, reserving the oil, and sprinkle almonds over the chicken. Add remaining oil to the sauce. Place chicken in a serving tagine, pour sauce on top of it and top with almond. Serves 4. chicken tagine
2 tsp. cumin seeds, toasted, then ground 1 tsp. saffron threads 2-1/2 cups mixed dried fruit (raisins, currants, cherries) 1-1/2 cups sliced almonds, toasted and chopped 1/3 cup sugar 1 Tbs. cinnamon 2 Tbs. lemon juice 6 eggs, beaten until frothy 10 sheets frozen phyllo dough, thawed according to package directions 1/2 cup (1 stick) parve margarine, melted Powdered sugar and cinnamon for garnish To poach chicken: In a large stockpot, place chicken with enough water to barely cover. Remove chicken. Add onions, cinnamon, ginger, cumin and saffron. Bring liquid to a simmer. Place chicken back in pot; continue Kuba/CreaTive CoMMoNS to simmer gently for about 45 minutes until it is tender. While chicken is poaching, place sugar and cinnamon in a small bowl; set aside.
Remove chicken with slotted spoon and cool, reserving poaching liquid. Remove meat from the bone. Combine with dried fruits and almonds. Over medium-high heat, reduce poaching liquid to 1/4 of the volume. Add lemon juice and beaten eggs to the reduction. Cook until liquid evaporates and eggs look scrambled and are no longer wet. Remove from heat. To assemble and serve: Set oven to 425. Brush a 9 x 13-inch baking pan with melted margarine. Cover stack of phyllo dough with plastic wrap and dampened paper towel. Working very quickly, place 1 sheet of phyllo in pan; brush with margarine. Repeat with 5 sheets, brushing each with margarine, placing each sheet on top of the previous one in a star pattern to form a round. Spread egg mixture evenly over the sheets. Spread chicken mixture on top. Place 5 more sheets of greased phyllo over almond mixture. Bring edges of bottom sheets over the top and fold into circular, hexagon, or free-form shape. Bake for 20 to 30 minutes, until phyllo is brown and crispy. Let Pastella sit for about 10 minutes; make holes in the top to release steam and cool. Remove from baking dish and sprinkle with powdered sugar and cinnamon. Serves 4.
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were repeated over and over. And wasnt it enough to hear the words of Kol Nidre once? But three times? Really? All while standing and listening to musical notes dragged out for what seemed like days. And I was cynical of the whole spectacle, of synagogues having to move locations to accommodate larger-than-normal crowds (reminiscent of college days when on final exam day the lecture hall would fill up with students who had not shown up all semester for class). And of the fashion shows and maneuvering for the best seats that money can buy. But all of these thoughts changed about a decade ago, when I was in my late 30s. The holidays were approaching, and I was anything but looking forward to them. Then a colleague introduced me to a work booklet called Where Are You? by Jael Greenleaf, subtitled The Inventory of the
Soul in Preparation for the High Holy Days. Each page included a verse from the High Holiday prayer Ashamnu. Following the verse was a trigger for thinking and a half page for written reflection. Every night I would read the page and journal. That year, as I reflected upon the High Holidays just past, I realized not only were they meaningful, but I actually felt refreshed and empowered. I reflected on it after the holidays and realized something that had never occurred to me previously: Every year until that year, I would walk into services on the holidays and expect to be somehow transformed. I would enter the sanctuary on the first night of Rosh Hashanah and unconsciously be thinking: Rabbi, Cantor, do your work. Make me a better person. Make me feel something. Only that year, on the cusp of my fifth decade, did I realize that this was my
responsibility. I couldnt expect to walk into the final exam having not done the work and then expect to ace the test. Every year since I have done my homework. Beginning the first day of Elul (traditionally the beginning of the days of preparation for the holidays) I have made a plan to get me into the mindset of the challenging work of reflection and selftransformation. One year I bought a book that included a reading for each day of the month preceding the High Holidays. One year I journalled each night, focusing on ways I hoped to do better in the year ahead. Another year I read a psalm traditional for this time of year each night. A few years ago I decided to focus my preparations on a specific goal and aspect of my life that was troubling me.
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trivial social nicety; its very adoption may even lead to something profound. 3. Show Your Flaws, stresses Lucila McElroy, the founder of WeAreMomentum.com, a life-coaching company. Reality check: We are all only human, few of us have all the answers, nor is that ever the expectation. A classic sobering Mussar maxim is the teaching of Akaviyah ben Mahalalel: Know from where you came and where you are going and before whom you are destined to give account and reckoning if that isnt enough to shake us right to our disaffected core, then I dont know what will. The good impression embodied in this practice will reflect humility and honesty to those around you. The lasting
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impression on your soul will be immeasurable and the relief of not having to know everything? Incalculable. 4. Dont Take All the Credit, asserts Ben Dattner, an organizational psychologist, workplace consultant, and the author of The Blame Game. Being self-serving and exaggerating ones accomplishments do not make a good impression ever. Channel your inner Ben Zoma, who proclaims that the wise person learns from every person and Rabbi Chaninah, who boldly declares he has learned much from his teachers and colleagues, but even more from his students. This quality of making sure to give credit where credit is due is a hallmark of redemption. Queen Esther is ascribed with being privy to the perilous plot of Bigthan and Teresh due to the infor-
mation that she had learned from Mordechai. Through this action the Jewish people were saved all because she gave proper attribution to her source. Bottom line in the words of Hillel: One who aggrandizes his own name will lose that name. Redemption, a good name and humility gained in one fell swoop a bargain. 5. Look Interested, counsels Joe Navarro, special agent to the FBI and author of the book, What Every Body is Saying. A slight head tilt powerfully conveys the message that you are listening. A quick eyebrow arch is another small but effective gesture that communicates curiosity. Here is where a good eye may come in handy. In response to being asked by his teacher, What is the best approach to life? Rabbi Eliezer answers, A good eye. It takes a
lot to be interested in the other time, patience and generosity. It is the truly generous person who can listen as the other speaks and communicate genuine care and interest. This stance is not easily faked it must assuredly flow from a persons true and sincere inclination. One more baby step toward being a better person and what more can we ask of anyone especially at this time of year?
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At the time I was feeling disconnected from friends and social relationships. It was taking a toll on my spirits, and I knew I needed to do something to repair this. I decided each day to call a friend with whom I had not spoken for a while. By the end of the month, having spoken with or left voicemails for 30 friends with whom I had been out of touch, I found myself feeling much less disconnected and significantly more whole. Walking into services on the first day of Tishrei I was ready to engage. I had done my homework. This year I am feeling less charitable than I wish I were. I have decided that every day I will put a dollar in my tzedakah box. My hope is that I will make a concerted effort to carry this over for the rest of the year and beyond. And when I sit in services this year I know I will reflect on my active engagement in the Elul preparations. This year, as I have these past several years when I teach about Elul and prepare
for self-transformation and when I journal with my students about this, it will be from my heart. And when I walk into services on the first evening of Rosh Hashanah, I will be able to say, as Abraham and Moses say in
the Torah and as the cantor chants on Kol Nidre evening, Hineni, here I am. I am here. I am ready.
Jeff Bernhardt is a Jewish educator, Jewish communal professional and writer living in Los
Angeles. His dramatic readings including Who Shall Live? and Standing at Sinai have been used by synagogues around the country to help their congregants prepare to enter the High Holidays. He can be reached at www.jewishdramas.com.
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What are some of the Jewish guidelines that help us become better people? They are found throughout the Torah, Talmud and other sacred Jewish texts. While the following is by no means an exhaustive list, it is must-read for any syllabus on How to Be a Mensch. Love your neighbor as yourself. (Leviticus 19:18) Do not do to others what is hateful unto you. (Talmud, Shabbat 31a) Do not stand idly by while your neighbors blood is shed. (Leviticus 19:16) Justice, justice you shall pursue. (Deuteronomy 16:20) Do not separate yourself from the community. (Pirkei Avot 2:5) Do what is fair and good in the eyes of the Lord. (Deuteronomy 6:18) Do not hate your brother in your heart. (Leviticus 19:17)
The world stands on three things: Torah study, service of God and acts of loving kindness. (Pirkei Avot 1:2) He has told you what is good and what the Lord requires of you: To do justice, love mercy and walk humbly with your God. (Micah 6:8) You shall be holy, for I, the Lord God, am holy. (Leviticus 19:2) This year when someone wishes you Lshana Tova, remember that within those two words lies a deeper, more profound meaning. For in those words is the hope that this year will be a year of learning, opportunity and commitment to becoming a good (or better) person and the knowledge that the world will be enriched because of your efforts.
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rabbi Jonathan singer of temple beth Am, left, rt. rev. Greg rickel, bishop of the episcopal diocese of olympia, center, and Hisham farajallah of the idriss mosque lead a procession from the olympic view community church in north seattle to the mosque nearly a mile away on sun., sept. 11. the procession followed a service in commemoration of the 10th anniversary of the 9/11 attacks. whether we like it or not we are all brothers and sisters, farajallah read from the Koran. let not the hatred of others to you make you depart from justice.
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A senior IDF officer (who requested anonymity per army policy) spoke about the logistics of holiday security: How do you prepare to secure the
West Bank and Israel for the holiday? First of all, we dont have any specific preparations for these holy days, [meaning we dont have special orders to alter our deployment from previous] years. We bring more forces to the area and back up the regional forces. We try to focus on the settlements and the synagogues. What about for the average soldier: How is his or her life impacted by the holiday? Every holiday there are special meals, but the mission comes first. The schedule of his day will follow that of the civilians around him. When the civilians are praying [he will be guarding them], so he will begin his meal at 11 p.m. That is what we usually do, because we dont want that the schedule of the forces will be similar to that of the civilians. We give the soldiers the right conditions to have a nice holiday.
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