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April 1, 2010
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Commentary
St. Maj. Scarlett Stabel
Command Sergeant Major U.S. Army Garrison Japan
Conict resolution: A life skill for today’s world
Life has no end of difculties. No person lives freefrom internal or external conict. The amount of stress produced by a conict depends on the complexity of theconict and the difculty involved in resolving it. Butconict has many positive points. Conict is a sign that
change has to be made, as well as a time for clarifyingroles and objectives, while reducing tensions. Basicallywe have personal, interpersonal, intergroup and organiza-
tional conict. Personal conict is within the individual;interpersonal is between two individuals or within a group;intergroup is among several groups; organizational conict
is structurally built into the situation.
Conict is inherent in any dynamic organization. Theaim is not to repress conict, but to devise ways of resolv
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ing it. During conict, both complimentary and conicting
views are basic elements for the resolution of issues. For example, an essential skill is to develop an awareness of the dynamics working within the group and have sensitivityto the needs of individual group members. All staff must be attentive to attitudinal shifts in communication betweenmen and women. Some men think that to be masculine,they have to be radically different from women. This cre-ates the communication model of superior-subordinate, and produces a masculine certifying atmosphere that makesmen hostile to accepting women as colleagues. You are as
you think and attitudes inuence perception.Each person who is resolving conict is actually in therole of a negotiator; as such, they must cluster, consolidateand liquidate issues and nd a common agreement amongthem. Stabilizing and guiding confusion requires patience
and a high degree of rational control over feelings. There-
fore, the longer the conict exits, the more stress a person
will experience. As such, the negotiator needs to humanize
the conict and develop a tolerance for ambiguity. The next
task is, do not to create problems, resolve them. Then, an-ticipate issues, have a conceptual map of cause and effect,and create incentives to motivate people to change.
Resolving conict means identifying and labeling feel
-ings. Feelings build trust. Concealed feelings create sus- picion and doubt. People observing us know that we haveexperienced some feelings, but they cannot identify it, assuch, an atmosphere free of psychological threat must be
created. So, when you are resolving conict, communicate
to express, not to impress. Then separate what you observehappening from your opinions about what is happening.Then separate how you feel about what is happening fromyour opinions about what is happening. Progress will moveonly as fast as the other person’s resistance will allow. Asa result, people need time to understand and integrate thedynamics of the cause and effects of the emotions associ-
ated with conict.
By hlary Valdez
Camp Zama Army Community Service
Greetings U.S. Army Garrison Japan!Spring has sprung on the Kanto Plain andthat means more than just longer days, ris-ing temperatures and skyrocketing pollencounts. It also means it’s time to kick-off
the USAG-J Quarters Beautication Com
- petition.I’ve got to say that this is one of myfavorite programs that we do here in theCamp Zama community. That’s because
Quarters Beautication is not just a contest,
it’s a way we all actively take ownership of our fantastic community.When I am out and about on Camp Zama,Sagamihara Family Housing Area or SagamiGeneral Depot, I love seeing folks out tak-
ing care of their yards, planting owers
and really putting their personal “stamp”
on their quarters.
Not only is getting out in the yard a great
way to transform your living quarters in a
home, it’s also a great activity for the wholefamily. Kids love getting down and workingin the dirt with mom and dad.Another great thing about the programis that it’s extremely contagious. If yousee your neighbors out making their yardsinto a landscaping masterpiece, you willhave an extra incentive to get out there andmake your yard a work of art, too. Nobodywants to be the person with the knee-highgrass and unkempt foliage pouring outeverywhere and if neighbors on all sideshave their yards looking sharp, you may be more inclined to get out and keep your place looking sharp.There is nothing better than coming back
from a long day at the ofce and seeing a
pristinely manicured lawn adorned with
an assortment of owers and other plants.
Taking the time to spruce up the yard really
will turn your quarters into your home.
Every month USAG-J communitymayors for Zama, SHA and Depot chooseseveral of the most outstanding yards inthe community for a prize. We post thesign in front of these winners’ homes torecognize the hard work they have put into
their quarters.
In addition to posting a sign in your yard,
winners are also presented with gift certi
-cates from Army and Air Force ExchangeServices and other local vendors from bothon and off post. Last year, we had someoutstanding yards and I was extremelyimpressed at how serious folks take their landscaping ventures.On or around April 22, which is Earth
Day, the self-help stores give out free owers
and plants for members of the community.All you have to do is head over to the self-
help ofces and pick up your owers.
We have one of the best Self-Help Pro-grams around here at USAG-J and thereare hundreds of mowers, tools, and other
home-improvement equipment available
for our residents in on-post housing. CampZama, SHA, and Sagami Depot all have
self-help ofces. Camp Zama’s self-helpofce is closed Monday and Tuesday, SHA
is closed Tuesday and Wednesday and Depotis closed Thursday and Friday. They are allopened from 8 a.m. to 5 p.m. but closedfrom noon to 1 p.m. for lunch.I look forward to seeing all of you outworking in the dirt!I also want to remind all of you that thenext Community Information Exchangewill be held at the Camp Zama CommunityClub at 9 a.m. on April 6. There is no better venue to make sure that your concerns areaddressed and your voice is heard. USAG-J just completed a fantastic Army FamilyAction Plan conference last month and weaddressed a lot of important issues facingour community but the AFAP process is not
just an annual conference; it is a continuous
process and the C.I.E. is a great way to buildupon the AFAP process.April is also the Month of the MilitaryChild and Sexual Assault Prevention Month.Stay tuned to the Channel 13 and be sure tokeep reading the
Torii
for news and notesabout these important events for our ArmyFamily.Support and Defend! Ichi Dan!
Quarters beautification puts a personal stamp on your home
Disharmony in life is expected, but people who facetheir problems and do something constructive about them
are most likely to make an adequate response to psycho
-logical stress.In most cases people are adaptive and willing to makea social adjustment for success. Most of the time, peoplewill do what is asked of them, providing they know what isexpected of them. A critical insight factor is to be attentiveto the expectations we put on people who lack skills or thefundamental levels of insight to make sudden changes.The art of living is trial and error. The pain of life isthe tax paid for participating in life. Understanding the
paradoxes of conict in everyday life is a stepping stonetoward resolving conict successfully. To manage conict,
remember the three Rs: Recover, Refocus, Regenerate.Recover means take small breaks. Refocus meanslook at the big picture. Regenerate means get some rest,talk with friends. All change is stressful for your body.Your body cannot tell the difference between positive or
negative conict. In either case, your body experiences thesame stress effects. No one can escape conict. Conict
is a necessary and important part of life. If you become
accustomed to the dynamics of conict, then you will beable to see the pattern within the conict. This will helpyou to be at ease with the ambiguities that conict creates.
And for that reason, a person needs harmony. Harmony isunity in diversity.
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