Research shows that three quarters of men climax when they have sex, but only a third of women do. It isimperative to make this a mutually pleasurableexperience and to put the joy of your wife first. Goodsex is not like it is in the movies, where a couple areattracted to each other, meet, go to the bedroom, andkeep having one simultaneous orgasm after another inincreasing intensity as they make mad passionate love. This is all a false dichotomy, and (unfortunately) oftenbecomes a model for real people. To return to ourgarden metaphor, sex is like nurturing various plantsand flowers in various seasons and growing stages. Itcannot be done by following one single set of directions or seeing others do it.
Orgasm and Mood
Orgasm results in increased brain activity and musclecontractions. The urge to climax is a powerful drive inthe human being. Although orgasm can start fiveminutes after arousal, most men can train themselves tolast longer. When a man gets close to point of no return this is where the Kegels and training come in. Ejaculationresults in handful of contractions, about one persecond. The refractory period, between the cool downperiod when penis goes limp and can become hardagain, is short as five to thirty minutes for adult malesdepending upon age. As women are aroused her lips redden, pupils dilate,nipples become erect, and breathing and bloodpressure increase. As she gets close to climax, her