Dear Therapist: My Father and Grandmother Haven’t Spoken in 30 Years
I’d like to meet her before she dies, but I’m worried he would see my fraternizing with her as a betrayal.
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Dear Therapist,
My dad hasn’t spoken to his mother in more than 30 years. The first (and only time) I’ve seen her in person was at a family party when I was 19. My dad didn’t know she’d be there and told my younger brother he wasn’t allowed to say hello. Afraid to rock the boat, I didn’t approach her either. It’s my understanding that she was an abusive parent and unfaithful wife. My dad expresses the utmost disdain for this woman.
I’m now in my late 20s. Recently my mom told me that my grandmother had to move
