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The ultimate “parenting bible” (The Boston Globe) with a new foreword—and available as an ebook for the first time—a timeless, beloved book on how to effectively communicate with your child from the #1 New York Times bestselling authors.

Internationally acclaimed experts on communication between parents and children, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish “are doing for parenting today what Dr. Spock did for our generation” (Parent Magazine).  Now, this bestselling classic includes fresh insights and suggestions as well as the author’s time-tested methods to solve common problems and build foundations for lasting relationships, including innovative ways to:
·      Cope with your child's negative feelings, such as frustration, anger, and disappointment
·      Express your strong feelings without being hurtful
·      Engage your child's willing cooperation
·      Set firm limits and maintain goodwill
·      Use alternatives to punishment that promote self-discipline
·      Understand the difference between helpful and unhelpful praise
·      Resolve family conflicts peacefully

Enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, the down-to-earth, respectful approach of Faber and Mazlish makes relationships with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding. 

Topics: Guides, Domestic, Parenting, Communication, Family, Child Development , Childhood, Language, Prescriptive, and Female Author

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ISBN: 9781451663891
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This had a good, clear, often-repeated central message and technique, which in its way, is good. I get that it is based on the teaching sessions the authors engaged in, but this makes the read fairly swift.
Worth reading for reminders, and I have somewhat adopted the central message, so it does the job. I only liked it though - the tone of the writing? The quality? Maybe...more
The first chapter, on acknowledging your child's feelings and engaging in the fantasy (Ice cream for dinner WOULD be tasty and I wish we could have some! But ice cream is for AFTER dinner...): pure magic. Whining has dropped precipitously. Later chapters haven't been tried yet--getting the child to problem-solve with us, getting them to come up with solutions and cooperate--but I can see them working; I just haven't had need of it yet.

This was a slightly older edition, but even within that I'm a little disturbed at how often the authors assume that, without their wisdom of "say THIS to your child:" my interaction would be more like "do you want a smack?" and other physical threats. Uh, no.

Worth at least a skim, if there's a lot of whining and defiance in your household.more
This should be a mandatory read for all parents. It really made me think and start to change the way I interact with my children. I borrowed this book from the library but plan to purchase a copy so I can refer to it as the children go through there phases.more
I remember when Hazim Ginott showed up regularly on the Today Show demonstrating these practical ideas of talking to children..well, actually LISTENING to children. I love these "before and after", the "wrong way and the right way" cartoon strips giving actual scripts for parents to quit doing or follow. My grandchildren will go to college in 2 years, this book may no longer be needed, but I hope it is around when they become parents.more
I read this book when my son was young. He's 28 now. The book helped me. Its recommendations have application outside of child rearing. Highly recommend this for anyone's reading. Very surprised at the few ratings below 3. This is an excellent and helpful book.more
Brilliant and simple parenting ideas, especially for non-confrontational discipline. Well, at least it seems that way, but I'll have to see how it works. So far I've used it quite a bit with my 3-year-old and had significant success, some absolutely startling. It's just amazing what you your child will do when you give them a chance to think things through themselves. There have been a few failures. And it feels a bit awkward to strategically think through whole conversations.What was strange was that while reading this sometimes I would be on brink of tears. I would read the "bad" example and the consequences and realize that's what I've been doing. I've been pounding away at her self-esteem, and I've done it thinking I was teaching a good lesson.more
Oh dude this book is awesome! It's intended as a guide for parents and educators to help them communicate with kids, but instead I got my hands on it when I was about nine years old, and it helped me refine my own immature communication skills. A life-changing book for me, for all the wrong reasons.more
A blameless way of communicating. Concrete tips on how to deal with difficult and ordinary situations; suggestions on how to break negative cycles; and assurances that both children and parents have needs! A definite recommend.more
My all-time favorite parenting book.more
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This had a good, clear, often-repeated central message and technique, which in its way, is good. I get that it is based on the teaching sessions the authors engaged in, but this makes the read fairly swift.
Worth reading for reminders, and I have somewhat adopted the central message, so it does the job. I only liked it though - the tone of the writing? The quality? Maybe...more
The first chapter, on acknowledging your child's feelings and engaging in the fantasy (Ice cream for dinner WOULD be tasty and I wish we could have some! But ice cream is for AFTER dinner...): pure magic. Whining has dropped precipitously. Later chapters haven't been tried yet--getting the child to problem-solve with us, getting them to come up with solutions and cooperate--but I can see them working; I just haven't had need of it yet.

This was a slightly older edition, but even within that I'm a little disturbed at how often the authors assume that, without their wisdom of "say THIS to your child:" my interaction would be more like "do you want a smack?" and other physical threats. Uh, no.

Worth at least a skim, if there's a lot of whining and defiance in your household.more
This should be a mandatory read for all parents. It really made me think and start to change the way I interact with my children. I borrowed this book from the library but plan to purchase a copy so I can refer to it as the children go through there phases.more
I remember when Hazim Ginott showed up regularly on the Today Show demonstrating these practical ideas of talking to children..well, actually LISTENING to children. I love these "before and after", the "wrong way and the right way" cartoon strips giving actual scripts for parents to quit doing or follow. My grandchildren will go to college in 2 years, this book may no longer be needed, but I hope it is around when they become parents.more
I read this book when my son was young. He's 28 now. The book helped me. Its recommendations have application outside of child rearing. Highly recommend this for anyone's reading. Very surprised at the few ratings below 3. This is an excellent and helpful book.more
Brilliant and simple parenting ideas, especially for non-confrontational discipline. Well, at least it seems that way, but I'll have to see how it works. So far I've used it quite a bit with my 3-year-old and had significant success, some absolutely startling. It's just amazing what you your child will do when you give them a chance to think things through themselves. There have been a few failures. And it feels a bit awkward to strategically think through whole conversations.What was strange was that while reading this sometimes I would be on brink of tears. I would read the "bad" example and the consequences and realize that's what I've been doing. I've been pounding away at her self-esteem, and I've done it thinking I was teaching a good lesson.more
Oh dude this book is awesome! It's intended as a guide for parents and educators to help them communicate with kids, but instead I got my hands on it when I was about nine years old, and it helped me refine my own immature communication skills. A life-changing book for me, for all the wrong reasons.more
A blameless way of communicating. Concrete tips on how to deal with difficult and ordinary situations; suggestions on how to break negative cycles; and assurances that both children and parents have needs! A definite recommend.more
My all-time favorite parenting book.more
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