Dismissive Avoidant in Love: How Understanding the Four Main Styles of Attachment Can Impact Your Relationship
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Changing your attachment style isn’t something most people want to think about, and what incentive do they have to do so. They’ve been doing things a certain way for very long, and it’s hard for many people to take an honest look at themselves. It’s no wonder your relationships aren’t working, or worse, they end before they’ve even begun. People who are in this position struggle with not knowing what they truly need from their partner, which leads them to feel a whirlwind of emotions that often fluctuate between highs and lows. Knowing your strengths and weaknesses in a relationship can help you alter your mental processes and gain an understanding of what makes a relationship flourish.
Attachments are established during childhood and throughout early adulthood. Everything you know about the inner workings of relationships is predicated on the attachments you’ve formed throughout your life. How you go about getting your needs met today may be no different than when you were a child. But knowledge of the four attachment styles can help improve your understanding of your and your partner’s needs.
When you learn about your attachment style, you’ll understand what you need and how to get it. Also, you’ll understand more about your partner and the attachments they are connected to. Your attachment style may be the key to understanding your perspective on how relationships should work. Certain attachments can create misery that leads to insecurity and feelings of being unfulfilled. Are you constantly putting your desires before your partner’s needs? And are you expecting someone else to make you happy instead of realizing that happiness comes from within? Is your partner distancing him or herself from you?
We all want happy, healthy relationships, but are you willing to take responsibility for unhealthy attachments you’ve created and make the necessary changes that will foster an unselfish and loving relationship? If your relationship is falling apart and you’re not sure why, you’re not alone. More people are starting to identify the negative attachments that were developed during childhood and the impact they’re having during adulthood. My goal is to help you understand the four types of attachments and how they can either hinder or improve your relationships.
Johanna Sparrow
Antoinette M Watkins writes under the pen name Johanna Sparrow, she has been writing for over 17 years and has published a variety of books from children's books to self-help books dealing with relationship, personal growth and conflict issues. She uses her expertise, knowledge and experience on a system she's created and used over the years dating back as far as 1995 in improving relationship issues, called the (HBCCR)© Heart Bruised Conscious Connection Renewal codes which we either have or don't have inside of us. When she is not writing self help books she writes Novels and Novella under the pen name SPARROW.In 2015 Johanna Sparrow will release for the first time her powerful and inspiring HBCCR system she's created for the rest of the world in hopes that we all can find a common goal or ground within our daily connections. She has researched and studied over the years connections between human to human and human to nature interactions in which she concluded in her research how understanding ones connections and disconnections in life is the essential step code and laws for love, happiness and tragedy, governing and guiding us in becoming life's greatest or worse creation to ever exist.
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Reviews for Dismissive Avoidant in Love
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Short, sweet and to the point. I like that. Full of good practical advice without getting too far into the weeds.
It's a quick read. I also feel like it's reference material to go back to the next time your attachment style lets you down and you fall on your face in your current relationship. Take a quick break, jam through this book, and get back in that arena. - Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I already have some understanding of attachment styles before reading this, so when I saw the title, "Dismissive Avoidant in Love", I thought, HEY! That's probably ME! And with less than 50 pages, it was such an easy and digestable read that I felt I walked away with another layer of understanding on attachment styles--but more importantly, about Myself and what I need to do to start healing myself and my relationships. If you have just a few hours to spare, I highly recommend this quick read.
- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5Easy to read, few pages, good ideas but nothing revelatory. The ad at the end wasn't necessary.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Very insightful and helpful for someone like myself who is beginning to understand attachment, how it affects my relationships, and what I can do to start taking me and my relationships in a healthy direction.
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Dismissive Avoidant in Love - Johanna Sparrow
Dismissive-Avoidant in Love
Dismissive-
Avoidant in Love
How Understanding the Four Main Styles of Attachment Can Impact Your Relationship
JOHANNA SPARROW
Dismissive-Avoidant in Love © 2018 Johanna Sparrow
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CONTENTS
Introduction
Understanding the Dismissive- Avoidant Partner
Loving the Anxious-Preoccupied Partner
What’s Up with the Fearful-Avoidant Partner?
Everyone Wants the Secure Partner
Change Your Attachment Style
Who Are You?
Change Your Attitude
How Attachment Styles Can Affect Your Relationship
Conclusion
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INTRODUCTION
You come across this person more than you’d like to, yet something about them draws you in every time. What that is, you haven’t a clue. Not yet, that is.
You see yourself as someone who has their head on straight. You’re a pretty good judge of character, based on your past relationships, and you definitely don’t jump into a new relationship solely for the sake of having someone. You’re far from being confident, maybe even a little reserved, and you experience mixed emotions once someone really gets to know you. And you still act as if you aren’t interested in finding a life partner.
Sure, that may work for some, but I know who you are. I know you don’t like anyone getting too close to you or having insight to your feelings, no matter who they are. Sometimes, you have a sharp tongue that makes you seem cold-hearted, but when you’re in the moment, your calm, cool demeanor draws your partner in every time.
You don’t want to get hurt by foolishly loving someone who isn’t willing to understand you, so you switch up your attitude like the weather. One minute you’re hot, the next ice cold and not giving your partner a second look. Which one they get depends on how you feel or what signals they’re sending you. If they want you as they say they do, they have to get their heads out of the clouds and meet you head on. You’re not going to babysit another grown person that’s in his or her feelings, and it’s best your partner knows that you have a take-it-or-leave-it attitude.
You know that anyone would love to have you as a partner—you’re sweet, loving, and a natural nurturer, but once you have someone in your web, they’re trapped, and there’s no way in hell they’d ever want to leave you, no matter how thick the smoke screens they put up or how many arguments you have. You know who you are. You’re just too damn good to them when you want to be, but for your partner, could it be all lies?
It’s that on-and-off switch that takes your relationship from 100 to 0 real quick. This kind