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    The Thirteen Months of Pregnancy
    The Thirteen Months of Pregnancy
    The Thirteen Months of Pregnancy
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    The Thirteen Months of Pregnancy

    By Bill Atalla

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    "Put down your phone, set aside your work and pick up your baby."

     

    If you think fatherhood means dirty diapers and 3:00 A. M. feedings, you're right!  But it will probably be the most rewarding adventure of your life . . . if you let this veteran dad show you the path to the playpen.  In this lighthearted look at the father-to-be, former executive turned qualified father Bill Atalla brings home the theme of bringing up baby and the "return to family" trend.

                Written for the man who's soon to be balancing romance, career, and the transition into family life, this candid portrayal deals with life beyond the world of mergers and acquisitions.  You'll get all the information you need to be an active partner in your pregnancy and a well-equipped father, as well as tips for performing the juggling act of lover, partner, and Dad.  Entertaining illustrations, professional insights, and anecdotes from successful fathers frame the specific "male" experience that accompanies pregnancy, and assure you that the only duty you're exempt from is breast-feeding!

    Reviewed by dads', moms', and experts around the world and as you may heard on the radio or seen on television . . ." if you only have time to read one book; The Thirteen Months of Pregnancy is that much needed guide for the father-to-be".

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherBill Atalla
    Release dateMar 16, 2021
    ISBN9781393120667
    The Thirteen Months of Pregnancy
    Author

    Bill Atalla

    Former Fortune 500 Silicon Valley executive, current entrepreneur, and author, radio and TV personality; found out about fatherhood the hard way.  Doing double duty as a traveling executive and part-time father, moved Bill to write this entertaining men's guide to  pregnancy, birth and the family.  Written for men, by men; covering all the necessary topics--giving you what your need to know to be proactive throughout your pregnancy experience.

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      The Thirteen Months of Pregnancy - Bill Atalla

      The Thirteen Months of Pregnancy

      A Guide for the Pregnant Father

      UPDATED SPECIAL EDITION

      By Bill M. Atalla

      Tiffany Atalla Hernandez

      with Steve Beitler

      Published by

      Oddly Enough Publishing

      18124 Wedge Parkway #172

      Reno, Nevada 89511

      Copyright © 1992-2021 Bill M. Atalla

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or by any information storage and retrieval systems without prior written permission from the publisher, except for the inclusion of brief quotations in a review. The author and publisher are not responsible for, and make no representations, warranties, recommendations, endorsements, or promises of any kind, regarding the medical statements, businesses, organizations, individuals, products, or other materials in this book, and disclaim all liability in connection with the implementation of this information.

      Publisher's Cataloging-in-Publication Data

      Atalla, Bill M.

      The Thirteen Months of Pregnancy: A Guide for the Pregnant Father/Bill M. Atalla with Steve Beitler p cm.

      Includes bibliographical references (p.) and glossary.

      1. Pregnancy-—Male experience. 2. Fatherhood—Prenatal, labor, delivery, postpartum, early months after delivery.

      3. Parenting—Male experience during the early months after delivery. 4. Relationships—Male experience with mother and child during pregnancy and early months after delivery. 5. Childbirth—Male experience. I. Beitler, Steve D., 1948-. II. Title.

      618.2 -dc20 92-060038 ISBN 0-9631754-5-9: $14.95 eBook

      eBooks created by www.ebookconversion.com

      DEDICATION

      This book is dedicated to my wife Carolyn, who is always my inspiration.

      To my daughters, Tiffany and Ashley, who allow me the opportunity to be a child again and encourage me to be a great father.

      ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

      A special thank you to those listed who contributed directly to the quality of this book. Your insights and support were invaluable. Thank you is also in order to the many veteran fathers and expectant mothers and fathers who have validated this work for those yet to follow.

      Kathleen Archambeau, Dr. Martin Atalla, Dorothy Berry, Pamela D’Angelo, Trevor Glenn II, Gina Renee Gross,

      Lauretta Habermeyer, Dr. Steve Heidorn, David Lowe, and Dr. Paul Madsen .

      CONTENTS

      Author’s Notes

      Forward

      Introduction: Launching a Family

      The Adjustment Phase

      Chapter One: The Big News

      Chapter Two: Foreign Territory

      Chapter Three: Decisions, Decisions

      Chapter Four: A Growing Sense of Fatherhood

      The Active Phase

      Chapter Five: Coping with Changes

      Chapter Six: Your First Family Outing

      The Focusing Phase.

      Chapter Seven: Getting Ready

      Chapter Eight: Lights... Camera

      Chapter Nine: ... Action!

      The Adaptive Phase.

      Chapter Ten: Common Reactions

      Chapter Eleven: Living in Harmony

      Chapter Twelve: From Fantasy to Fatherhood

      The Re-entry Phase

      Chapter Thirteen: Back on Track

      Glossary

      References

      AUTHOR’S NOTES

      This book was originally published in 1992 and within months won the Benjamin Franklin Award for Parenting Book of the Year. It has now been fully updated so you can be assured this winning title is current for dads-to-be. Tens of thousands of copies and thousands of reviews are what put the Gold Seal on our cover.

      Our contribution then is the same today; provide men with the critical information they need to know, when they need to know it, during their pregnancy experience. Unlike so many titles that have followed in what we pioneered; we still are the ‘one’ book you need as the proactive father-to-be. You have chosen wisely. . . this book is for you, guaranteed!

      FORWARD

      This book is the only one you’ll ever read on pregnancy that you’ll want to read again. It’s written for men, by men, in a way that’s easy to understand and is packed with plenty of mission-critical information. Most books about pregnancy treat men as innocent bystanders whose job is done. My book puts men at center stage. That’s because the difference between how you and your wife experience pregnancy is more than just physical—it’s emotional, too.

      You may be wondering if I’ve miscalculated how long pregnancy lasts. I haven’t. It still takes about nine months from conception to birth ... but I also believe that the real adjustment to being a father happens after another four months. A thirteen-month pregnancy takes you and your wife beyond carrying time to caring time.

      My goal is to help you not only endure, but enjoy, pregnancy. I’ll show you ways you can help your wife—and yourself—that go far beyond yelling Push! when the big moment arrives. If you’re a decisive and proactive man to whom participation makes more sense than sliding through on instinct and hoping for the best, then this book is for you. It’s designed for men who understand the value in working with their wives as equal partners on the road to parenthood.

      If you’re looking for the straight scoop from a book that won’t waste your time, you’ve found it. If you’re a modern man looking for balance among family, work, and your personal life, but aren’t sure how to achieve it, I’ve got some proven ideas for you. I’ll also describe how a couple’s relationship changes and grows throughout pregnancy, resulting in a new and multidimensional family relationship.

      As you’ve watched that stack of books on your wife’s nightstand grow, you’ve both probably known all along that you’ll never read them. Relax. The Thirteen Months of Pregnancy is the only book you need to read. It gives men the play by play without the extraneous details. It advances chronologically through the pregnancy, and highlights five phases you are most likely to experience. These phases brief you on what you need to know and when, in order to enjoy this new experience. For, as you’re about to discover, thirteen is anything but unlucky.

      Introduction

      Launching a Family

      Face it—you’re as pregnant as your wife!" My friend’s words hit me like a sucker punch. But where a right hand from nowhere would have knocked my lights out, that comment switched one on.

      I’d known for about six weeks that I was going to be a father—long enough to get over the first jolt but not long enough to feel comfortable. I felt distant from my wife, who was getting all the attention. I was happy about becoming a father, but worried, too.

      My friend’s remark motivated me to start making pregnancy what I wanted it to be—something positive, maybe even fun—not scary.

      The Thirteen Months of Pregnancy is for any man who feels isolated, overwhelmed, or even frightened by the reality of becoming a father. This book cuts through tons of information, advice, and folklore on pregnancy to hone in on what you need in a way that respects your time and intelligence. After all, time is money—and you’re going to need all you can get of both in the next thirteen months.

      I cover sex, work, the transition to family life, and sex some more. I talk about the physical and emotional roller-coaster your wife is on and include status updates on your baby-to-be. I present the entire experience of pregnancy from a man’s perspective, and show you how to reap the benefits of being actively involved during these thirteen months.

      I also suggest ways for you not only to take (some) control over what’s happening in your life but to make pregnancy enjoyable for you and your wife. You have a better chance at enjoying pregnancy than your wife because you’re not carrying the child; and I promise, she’ll remind you of this, many times over the next few months. But you can minimize her discomfort through understanding—and active participation.

      I have two daughters, who were my original inspiration when they were seven and ten. Now they are productive adults with their own children. So, I have first-hand proof that this book will get you through this new experience and you will come out as a successful husband and father. Looking back, I recall making a rapid climb up the corporate ladder, becoming CEO of a Silicon Valley electronics firm that I later sold to a larger Fortune 500 computer company. By then I’d had all I wanted of the executive suite, and I left the company to devote more attention to my young family.

      I didn’t know it at the time, but I had become a pioneer in the father-involved trend of the nineties and now the gold standard for today’s modern man. Now more than ever, men are reexamining what success really means, and they’re redefining it in terms of the quality of their family lives. Money isn’t the only measure of success any more.

      If you think pregnancy means worry, physical discomfort for your wife, and marital tension, you’re right. But it’s much more, and I can help you discover the positive and rewarding aspects.

      The Adjustment Phase

      Welcome to your new life, Dad! During the first four months of pregnancy (chapters ITV), the smartest thing to do is let the news settle in and work closely with your wife.

      She’s adjusting both physically and emotionally, while your adjustment is probably just emotional. But you shouldn’t assume that makes it any easier. You’re likely to feel bombarded by memories, feelings, and thoughts that enter your mind without any apparent explanation. But there is an explanation—you’re going to be a father!

      This section describes common reactions men have to getting the big news. It provides updates on the physical symptoms your wife may experience. It gives you guidance on some key early decisions, such as what sort of childbirth you want and how to get ready at home and work. You might feel a little overwhelmed in these early months, so it’s important to be patient with yourself and your wife from the beginning.

      Every minute of pregnancy isn’t a peak experience. But the right blend of attitude, knowledge, and effort can:

      Strengthen the ties between you and your wife.

      Create a solid foundation for your new family.

      Prepare you for parenthood and fatherhood.

      Help you achieve balance among family, career, and personal life.

      This book will show you how to realize these benefits. Because you’re as pregnant

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