HOW TO UNDERSTAND MYSELF 101
A 4-Week Course
By Jakes: For Carol , Energy: Becoming
WEEK 1: WHO TF AM I, REALLY?
Theme: Self-Awareness | Identity | Unfiltered Reflection
“Before you figure out your future, figure out your fingerprint.”
Monday – "The Mirror Moment"
- Journal: If nobody had ever told me who I am, who would I be?
- Write a raw freestyle about how you feel in your own skin. Spelling doesn’t matter.
Honesty does.
Tuesday – "The Feeling Lab"
- Track your emotional weather. Every 3 hours, rate your mood (1-10), and ask: What
just happened?
- Note: What do I usually feel, and what do I avoid?
Wednesday – "The Playlist of Me"
- Create a 5-song playlist that describes your current season of life.
- For each song, write: Why this one? What part of me does it speak to?
Thursday – "Behind the Scenes"
- Journal: What parts of me live backstage? Why do I keep them there?
- Draw your “public self” and your “inner self” — simple sketches or emojis are fine.
Friday – "Real Talk Recap"
- Have a self-check: What did I learn about myself this week that felt true, surprising, or
hard?
- Bonus: Record a 1-minute voice note saying one thing you’re proud of about yourself.
WEEK 2: WHO PROGRAMMED ME?
Theme: Beliefs | Influence | De-conditioning
“We inherit stories — but we also get to rewrite the script.”
Monday – "The Origin File"
- List 3 personality traits or fears. Then trace them: Where did I learn this?
- Ask: Was it love, fear, pressure, or survival?
Tuesday – "The Voices in My Head"
- Prompt: Whose opinion still echoes in my choices — even when they’re not around?
- Write a fake convo between “me” and “that voice.” Then write how you want to
respond.
Wednesday – "Myth Breaker Day"
- Pick one belief about yourself that you’re done with. (e.g. “I’m too emotional,” “I don’t
finish things.”)
- Destroy it. Cross it out. Burn it (safely). Replace it with a new truth.
Thursday – "Soft Rebellion"
- Do one small thing today just because you want to — not because you should.
- Reflect: How did it feel to choose myself, even in a tiny way?
Friday – "The Inner Child Check-In"
- Journal: What did 10-year-old me need to hear but never did?
- Write her a letter. Let your present self be the one she needed.
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WEEK 3: FEEL IT ALL, THEN CHOOSE
Theme: Emotional Intelligence | Authentic Reactions | Energy Awareness
“Feelings are teachers. Energy doesn’t lie.”
Monday – "Emotions Are Not The Enemy"
- List 5 emotions you’ve felt in the last 7 days. What triggered them?
- Rank: Which emotion do you trust most? Which one scares you?
Tuesday – "Emotional GPS"
- Draw a map: When this emotion shows up, where do I feel it in my body?
- Add: What’s one thing I usually do when I feel this — and one thing I could do instead?
Wednesday – "Vibe Audit"
- Who or what has been draining your peace lately? What or who gives you life?
- Create a “Stay close to / Step back from” list.
Thursday – "No More Shrinking Day"
- Say one thing today you usually hold back — a boundary, a compliment, a truth.
- Reflect: What happened when I spoke up?
Friday – "Emotional Alchemy"
- Journal: What am I holding in that wants to be felt and freed?
- Use art, poetry, or a 3am-style rant to let it out.
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WEEK 4: THE GLOW-UP IS INTERNAL
Theme: Self-Compassion | Purpose | Personal Power
“Knowing yourself is the beginning. Loving yourself is the revolution.”
Monday – "Redefining Self-Love"
- Write your own definition of self-love. Forget trends. What does it feel like?
- What does it look like in practice, not just affirmations?
Tuesday – "No More Sorrys"
- Write a list: What parts of me am I done apologizing for?
- Stand in front of a mirror and read it aloud.
Wednesday – "The Becoming Letter"
- Write a letter from your future self (age 30?) to your current self.
- Let her tell you what you’ve overcome, who you’ve become, and what still matters
most.
Thursday – "Create Your Creed"
- Write 5 soul truths you live by now — your personal code.
- Example: “I choose peace over proving.” “My soft is not weakness.”
- Optional: Design a wallpaper or lock screen with it.
Friday – "Graduation Day (No Cap, Just Realness)"
- Reflect: What have I understood, reclaimed, or accepted about myself in these 4 weeks?
- Final task: Record a video or voice message to yourself. Save it. Rewatch on your next
breakdown or breakthrough.
BONUS IDEAS
- Weekend walks or snack chats. No deep talk required, just presence.
- Have “Wild Card Wednesdays” — one day to do something spontaneous or weird just
for fun.
- Share memes, music, or poetry that match your current self-discovery mood.
