This week we talk to Dan Harris and Oren Sofer about
mindful communication
Our guests this week are Dan Harris and Oren Sofer.
 
Dan was a previous guest and we discussed his great book, 10%
Happier. In addition, Dan is the current anchor on the weekend
edition of Good Morning America as well as Nightline.
 
He has begun creating a series of courses based around 10%
Happier. One of those courses features Oren Sofer.
 
Oren is a teacher and practitioner of Buddhist meditation,
Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and Somatics. Oren is a specialist
in the role of mindfulness in creating better conversation.
 
This conversation was recorded in Dan's office in the ABC
Studios in New York.
 


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In This Interview, Oren Dan and I Discuss:



The One You Feed parable
Why mindfulness is useful in communication
The
10% Happier app
Learning to see confrontation as an opportunity to improve the
relationship
How our cultural conditioning teaches us the Win/Lose
paradigm
How we have a strong negative conditioning against
confrontation that becomes hard-wired
How mindfulness allows us to slow down and monitor our
emotional reactions in conversation
The role of curiosity in communication
How to become more curious
Learning to ask "What matters here" when listening to
others
Learning to say that we don't feel like talking instead of just
pretending
The minor discomfort of being real
How to say things in a way that the other person can hear and
understand
Learning to hold our tongue in certain situations
How being silent can lead to its own challenges
The importance of timing in choosing when to address
issues
Context sensitive communication
The two criteria of good communication: does the other person
understand and does it lead to connection

Dan Harris Links
10% Happier Homepage
Twitter
Facebook

Oren Sofer Links
Homepage