Is It You or Your ADHD?

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Is It You or Your ADHD?

FromMore Attention, Less Deficit

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May 24, 2010

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People often wonder whether someone’s actions are due to their ADHD or a more conscious choice. The answer is that it depends, but regardless, we can still find strategies to deal with demands more effectively.

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May 24, 2010

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Success Strategies for Adults with ADHD

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Executive Functioning: Who’s Calling the Shots Around Here, Anyway?: The executive functions are our highest-level brain processes. They enable us to make good decisions in a complex world. Research is increasingly explaining ADHD struggles as deriving from executive functioning weaknesses. by More Attention, Less Deficit
6 min listen
The Four Stages of Adjustment to a New Diagnosis: Getting diagnosed can be a really big deal that can take a long time to adjust to. Although not written in stone, people tend to go through certain stages in that process. by More Attention, Less Deficit
8 min listen
Missed Diagnoses: Why Did It Take Me So Long to Be Correctly Diagnosed?: Most adults with ADHD have been diagnosed only recently. There are many reasons for why these people were missed for so many years, even when it was painfully obvious that there was something going on. by More Attention, Less Deficit
12 min listen
Announcement: Welcome to the site, the podcast, and the books!: 2,000,000 downloads and still going strong! Welcome to adultADHDbook.com, where you will find all sorts of good stuff related to ADHD, particularly in adults. You can find every podcast episode I’ve done, going all the way back to March 2009. by More Attention, Less Deficit
6 min listen
Response Inhibition: It Starts with Stopping: The key to successful decision-making is that tiny little pause where we think through our options and make a good choice. People with ADHD have difficulty creating this pause and as a result get distracted, forget things, and leap without looking. by More Attention, Less Deficit
5 min listen
Working Memory: The Brain’s RAM: We use our working memories constantly to hold information in mind as we remember what just happened, relate it to long-term memories, and think ahead into the future. People with ADHD tend to have blinky working memories which leads to a wide variety ... by More Attention, Less Deficit
7 min listen
To Tell or Not to Tell?: There are no absolute rules about whether you should tell someone about your ADHD, but there are some issues you should consider when making your decision. by More Attention, Less Deficit
12 min listen
Is ADHD a Gift?: Some people claim that ADHD also has positive qualities. I don’t doubt that people with ADHD have all sorts of positive qualities, but I wouldn’t say that those strengths come from their ADHD. Fortunately, you don’t have to attribute them to your ADHD ... by More Attention, Less Deficit
9 min listen
Self-Activation: Getting That Heavy Ball Rolling: Everybody has to use a certain amount of force of will to get going on boring tasks, but people with ADHD have a much steeper hill to climb. As a result, they tend to procrastinate until the pressure of a looming deadline pushes them into action. by More Attention, Less Deficit
5 min listen
Sense of Time: It Can’t be 5:00 Already!: People with ADHD have difficulty monitoring the passage of time and planning accordingly, a skill that’s really important in today’s busy world. As a result, they tend to spend too long on some activities and not plan enough time for others. by More Attention, Less Deficit
5 min listen
Rewrite History: Understand Your Past (and Yourself) in a Different Way: Being diagnosed with ADHD not only enables you to create a better future, it also changes your understanding of your past. It explains all sorts of events in your life in a much less pejorative way. by More Attention, Less Deficit
6 min listen
Fully Accepting the Diagnosis: Coming to a full understanding and acceptance of your ADHD isn’t easy, but it is empowering. by More Attention, Less Deficit
7 min listen
Remembering to Remember: It’s All About Timing: In our busy lives, we all have dozens of little (and not so little) things to remember to do over the course of a day, such as phone calls and appointments. People with ADHD have great difficulty reminding themselves of these tasks at the right time, by More Attention, Less Deficit
5 min listen
Emotional Self-Control: Having Feelings Without Acting on Them: People with ADHD tend to express their feelings more strongly than others do and are more influenced by their feelings than other people are. This also affects their ability to see beyond their emotions and to take others’ perspectives into account. by More Attention, Less Deficit
5 min listen
Persistence of Effort: The Little Engine That Sometimes Could: Once someone with ADHD gets going on something, there’s the second challenge of sticking with it all the way through. Unfortunately, most of our daily obligations don’t give partial credit for tasks that are mostly done. by More Attention, Less Deficit
5 min listen
What’s the Difference Between Coaching and Therapy?: It can be hard to know where the line is that separates coaching and therapy. There’s definitely some overlap between them, but there are also some important differences. by More Attention, Less Deficit
10 min listen
ADHD & Depression: Virtual ADHD Conference Interview: Jennifer Koretsky interviewed me about the session on ADHD and depression that I will be presenting at October’s virtual ADHD conference. It was fun for me and hopefully interesting for you! by More Attention, Less Deficit
11 min listen
The Value of a Good Apology: Since everyone blows it sometimes, we could all benefit from knowing how to give a really good apology. It may not change what happened, but it can change how the other person feels about it. by More Attention, Less Deficit
9 min listen
Talk It Out: Therapy Can Offer Clarity and Peace: Therapy can be especially helpful for adults with ADHD who spent most of their lives undiagnosed. It can be helpful to understand yourself in a more accurate and less pejorative way. Here are the professional directories I mention in the podcast. ADD. by More Attention, Less Deficit
7 min listen
Find a Job and Career That You Can Enjoy (and Maybe Work for Yourself): It’s much easier to be happy at work if you’re in the right job. Rather than continue to work for someone else, you may find that you’re happier starting your own business. This can be a great opportunity for the right people. by More Attention, Less Deficit
10 min listen
What’s in a Name: Attention-Deficit or Deficit in Attention Regulation?: “Attention-deficit” implies that people with ADHD don’t have enough attention, but the real problem is that they don’t control their attention effectively. Mostly, they get distracted and shift their attention when they should have stayed on the origin... by More Attention, Less Deficit
5 min listen
Hindsight and Forethought: Using the Past and Future to Guide the Present: We use the lessons from past experiences to make better choices the next time around. People with ADHD have a hard time stopping long enough to remember those lessons and apply them forward, so they’re more likely to make the same mistakes. by More Attention, Less Deficit
8 min listen
Thanksgiving + ADHD = Stressful: Planning and pulling off a big family gathering is no simple feat and requires really good information processing. Fortunately, there are some ways to make it easier. by More Attention, Less Deficit
9 min listen
Get the Most Out of Therapy: Unmedicated ADHD can affect many parts of your life, including getting treatment for it. I cover a number of the ways that this can happen as well as what you can do to minimize these effects. by More Attention, Less Deficit
13 min listen
Always Moving Forward: Folks with ADHD tend to focus more on the next thing in front of them than on circling back around to tie up the loose ends of what they were just working on. This comes mostly out of weaknesses in their working memory and prospective memory, by More Attention, Less Deficit
10 min listen
How to Get Help When You Need It—For You or Someone Else: Many adults with ADHD are conflicted about getting help from others. Sometimes they really want it; sometimes they really don’t. Life gets easier when you find a middle road. by More Attention, Less Deficit
13 min listen
ADHD Is Real, But Not Everyone Has It: Although the science clearly shows that ADHD is a genuine condition, there are some people who believe or say they have it when they really don’t. by More Attention, Less Deficit
9 min listen
Actually Get a Good Night’s Sleep: A good night’s sleep is fundamental to a productive day, but that doesn’t mean that it’s easy to get. Try these strategies to do better with this important topic. by More Attention, Less Deficit
7 min listen
Expectation Management: Promise Only What You Can Deliver: Given that ADHD behaviors are so often misunderstood, your relationships will be more satisfying and less stressful if you actively manage what others should and shouldn’t expect from you. by More Attention, Less Deficit
7 min listen
Can I Trust Myself?: People with ADHD learn that they aren’t as reliable as they want to be. This makes sense when their ADHD is still untreated, but you can learn to legitimately have more confidence in yourself once you do get on top of your ADHD. by More Attention, Less Deficit
6 min listen

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Fear of Failure: After too many setbacks and struggles, it’s tempting to want to avoid future failures. Sometimes we mask our fears with apathy, sometimes we even fear success. As easy as it is to fear failure, you don’t have to. by More Attention, Less Deficit
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Awareness, Honesty, and Willingness: The Three Keys to Success: In order to do something, you first need to be aware of it, then be honest with yourself about the need to do it, then be willing to do it. Separating it out into these three parts makes it easier to identify where things break down when a task isn’t d... by More Attention, Less Deficit
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Neurology Matters, But Psychology Matters More: Having ADHD tends to lead to certain kinds of experiences which makes certain mindsets more likely. We’ll talk about how to rise above that early learning and live a better life. by More Attention, Less Deficit
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Good Ideas Are Just Good Ideas: The strategies that work for people with ADHD are just good strategies that work for most people. Rather than feel self-conscious about the strategies that help you be successful, do what works and enjoy your success. by More Attention, Less Deficit
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Is It Your ADHD or You?: It depends. Often it’s both, but in the end, it kind of doesn’t matter. by More Attention, Less Deficit
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