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Distressed! that I no longer loved her. She replied for 1million shillings or else I serve
painful! confused! that we start afresh. I ignored a 7-year jail term. My parents paid
Being dumped or her and concentrated on 700,000/- and I was released. Our
dropped hurts. my studies." Bethany relationship ended there." JT,
Jinas 17, S3, Kaliro High School.
She wanted sex to
prove my love She got Got a better one
"While in S2, I picked interest in a pregnant, "My boyfriend left me. A
girl who was not willing to love me. framed me month later, my friend
I insisted until she agreed. Fine! "I had a girlfriend advised me to get
Trouble arose when she started who refused another boyfriend to
demanding for sex. I was not ready to have sex hurt my ex. I got a
for it. Our goals were different. with me. She bright and saved
She wanted sex to prove my love. wanted us to boyfriend
I talked to her about HIV and early concentrate on who is a
pregnancy. She said we should our studies. One musician like
have sex once in a while. I knew time she visited me. He has
the result of having sex. We called me at home. I later money and
it quits. Was I right? Maybe not. visited hers. She gives me everything
Muhumuza Timothy introduced me to her I need. Life is good
You were right. You took control parents as her OB. and lovely. He hates
of your life. If you do not agree One time she hurting me." MV, 14,
on the dods and don’ts in your called to say S3, VHS
relationship, it is safe to quit. she was sick Do not to
and needed get into
Caught with money for another
another boy treatment. relationship
"Our relationship ended when I After a week, she sent me a just to hurt
found my girlfriend with another message that she was pregnant. She your ex. Take your time.
guy in the dark. He was touching asked for 60,000/- to abort. I refused Wait. In the rush of things, you
her breasts and holding her firmly in since we had never had sex. She told could easily make the wrong
the waist. I wrote a letter telling her her parents I was responsible for her choice and end up being hurt or
pregnancy. I was arrested. They asked hurting someone. Think about
the motive (intention) of your
relationship. Do not be
over-influenced by money.
ideon,
Muyamba G
ta re SS,
17, S3, Kan
w an ts to
Kabale
if o n e ca n tell
know
se xually
a girl who is ze of
th e si
active by
her hips. G
ideon, the
o! you
answer is N
canno t te ll.

Breakups are a normal

part of being a teenager.
Look at the end of a
relationship as the If you meet and discuss the
beginning of a new end, give facts, do not blame.
chapter in your life. State your resolution and stick to
it. Meet in an open place to avoid
Let go and move on with life. violence or getting compromised.
Cry! It’s OK to cry. But seek help from
friends and family and talk about Get new safe hobbies: sports,
how you feel. music, art or writing. Remember
your ex’s weakness. This might
Be nice to yourself help you recover. Resist calling or
Accept that your relationship is over visiting him/her especially when
and learn to be happy before you you are lonely and sad.
, Kaliro Colleg e,
Waako Amuza ar I fe lt like fly in g get involved again. Know the cause
S5, says; "L ast yenship. I knew it was
tio
of breaking up. Deal with it. It helps
into a sexual rela my boyfriends had you learn from your mistakes.
t tim e, bu t all But don’t think
not ye en got me one, an s
d
ev endlessly about
dear ones. They ve m e pr om ise
She ga what went
I convinced her. big.
th e be st among all). I felt wrong. Think
(you are
ed. I about things
sta rte d as ki ng for sex. But I fear e that will help
Sh e r. W
I could dodge he
was still a virgin. g, but no sex. The you achieve
hu
could converse, for HIV your goals.
w in g te rm I told her; let's test sed. Write what you
follo Sh e re fu
Centre III. feel on a piece
at Kaliro Health tested
til sh e accepted. She of paper, then
I insisted un ju st
r; let us remain
positive. I told he tear it up. Take
friends." a nap or go for
a walk.
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Drinking alcohol is dangerous. Alcohol is

a drug that slows down the brain.
Like many drugs, alcohol changes your ability to think, speak,
and see things as they really are. You can lose your balance
and have trouble walking. Alcohol may slur your speech
(make unclear sounds) and makes you unable to concentrate.

What happens when you drink too much?

When you are drunk, you do or say things you would not
normally do. You feel extra relaxed. You lose judgement and
self-control. You can hurt yourself or others. You can easily
have sex. Boys often fight when they are drunk. Drinking too
much alcohol is poisonous. It damages the body. The liver,
which removes poisons from the blood, is especially at risk.
You could die.

Make good choices ...

You may think drinking alcohol won’t hurt you, it’s fun, it’s
cool and besides, everybody drinks. Right? Wrong!
The truth is that alcohol hurts your health in the long term.
In the short term it is very risky because it leads you to have
sex. Too much consumption of alcohol has increased mental
illness in Uganda. In 2005 the World Health Organisation put
Uganda as the leading consumer of alcohol in the world. This
is bad news! The situation in not any better. Something must
be done and it starts with you.

When you drink, you may start

when feeling beautiful and
sexy. But you end up like this!

Alcohol abuse is spreading very fast in schools. Drinks like waragi

which are packed in sachets commonly known as tot packs are
most dangerous. Young people go for these because they are
cheap. They do not know they are very toxic.

Many brands are made locally. Some are not approved by Uganda
National Bureau of Standards. They
can be very dangerous to your
health.

Everyone has a responsibility to

fight alcohol abuse. Teachers,
prefects, students, school
authorities and local leaders need
to work together to fight this
habit. Kasirye Rogers, Executive
lk
s' School Straight Ta
Director, Uganda Youth
Development Link. Bw ey al e Pa re nt
Members of New to is, "To make a diffe
rence.'
in di . Th ei r m ot
Club, Mas
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Roll the
condom
on an
erect penis

Roll it down
to the base
of the penis

Roll it off
immediately
after sex
when penis
is still erect.
When you do
this, it won't
slip off.
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a, 13, in
Akuma Palm ebbi,
N
Pakwach S , there
S
ow if
wants to kn ations
co m pl ic
are any om sex
fr
if you abstain 23. No,
of
until the age
are no
Palma, there
at io ns at all from
complic
It safe
is
delaying sex.
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