Q. Why is being non-judgmental important for a Same Night Lay and how do you show that you're non- judgmental?
A. There are lots of reasons for this, mostly related to female psychology. One of the simplest reasons isthis: if she likes you, she doesn't want you to think she's easy. It also makes her feel better about herself,which allows her to enjoy the experience.How do you convey that you are non-judgmental?I like to use storytelling and embedding. Embedding is the technique by which you appear to be telling astory about one thing, but it’s actually designed to communicate something else. So, you could be tellinga woman something funny about your ex-girlfriend and drop in the back-story that you first met her randomly hooking up in a club, and that some people just seem to click when they meet. If you aretalking about your ex-girlfriend and meeting her in a positive light, what you are really saying is “if wesleep together tonight, I won’t disrespect you or treat you differently.” Since it would be awkward toactually say that explicitly, you can use embedding.There are a bunch of “non-judgmental” routines in the Love Systems Routines Manual. Some you can
give fairly early on, like the Ring Finger routine, while others are used later in the game. Most of themuse embedding. The Love Systems Routines Manual is a great resource because it has hundreds of thingsthat top guys actually say and do when meeting women, word-for-word.TheLove Systems Routines Manualalso has a bonus chapter on how to create embedded stories from theground up, in a step-by-step approach. It’s kind of funny, one of the examples starts with Savoy talkingabout his mom’s cat, and then adding more elements each time until it becomes a useful routine.
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Q. Do you let the woman know your intentions? Do you tell her you’re bringing her home for sex, or do you get her out of the bar “to get some food” or for some other reason and then take her home? Are youinnocent or sexually aggressive?
A. Don’t have a one-size-fits-all approach. One of the things I teach at bootcampsis how to test for andread different situations so you can know which approach will work better. Most guys who aresuccessful can use either approach, depending on the situation. To simplify, if she isn't responding wellto you being sexually aggressive, calm it down and see if you can get her to come for a cigarette withyou. It doesn’t matter if you don’t smoke; say something like: "I don't smoke, I just like to go where it'squiet. Come!"Leading and dominance is king here. I don't ask so much as I tell women what we're doing. A little bitof frame control and she will follow you anywhere. One of the best ways to learn frame control – other than one of my bootcamps – is theSinn and Savoy Frame Control interview from the Advanced
Interview Series (the interview is about an hour long and you can download and keep it for $40, or getthe first ten minutes free online).I actually had a period when I was learning this stuff when I was super-good at frame-controlling womento coming home with me, but didn't really have much attraction, and so wasn't converting. That was a bitweird, but shows how good you can get at leading!
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