Myth of the 'gay lifestyle' justifies bias
, Special to CNNApril 6, 2010 -- Updated 1858 GMT (0258 HKT)
LZ Granderson: Is grocery shopping, getting my son off to school the "gay lifestyle"?
Granderson: Nonexistent gay lifestyle keeps up an "us against them" tension
Gay rights foes drum up the fear of a link between gay men and pedophilia, he says
He writes: Being judged by the content of one's character is a constitutional right
LZ Granderson is a senior writer and columnist for ESPN The Magazine and ESPN.com, and has contributed toESPN's Sports Center, Outside the Lines and First Take. He is a 2010 nominee and the 2009 winner of the Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation(GLAAD)award for online journalism as well as the 2008 National Lesbian and Gay Journalists Association(NLGJA)winner for column writing.
-- On most mornings, my better half wakes up around 5:30, throws on some sweats andheads to the gym before work.About a half hour later, I wake up my 13-year-old son, go downstairs to the kitchen to make hisbreakfast and pack his lunch. Once he's out the door, I brew some coffee and get to work.Ladies and gentlemen, may I present to you the "gay lifestyle" -- run for your heterosexual lives.I understand opponents of gay rights must highlight differences in order to maintain the "usagainst them" tension that's paramount to their arguments. But this notion that sexual orientationcomes with a different and pre-ordained way of life -- as if we're all ordering the No. 3 at a drivethru -- only highlights how irrational groups such as Focus on the Family, the Family ResearchCouncil, the American Family Association and others like them are in this whole debate.Pro-marriage organizations try to stop two consenting adults from marrying. Pro-family groupstry to stop stable couples wanting children from adopting unloved orphans.And somehow, me doing something like going to the grocery store threatens the very fabric of society, as Oklahoma State Rep. Sally Kern spewed. She says "the homosexual agenda isdestroying this nation" and "homosexuality is more of a threat than terrorism." I'm not sure whather idea of a gay lifestyle might be, but with a growing teenager, buying and cooking fooddominates my day-to-day.