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Genesis 24:1-21
1 Abraham was now old and well advanced in
years, and the LORD had blessed him in
every way.
2 He said to the chief servant in his household,
the one in charge of all that he had,
"Put your hand under my thigh.
3 I want you to swear by the LORD, the God
of heaven and the God of earth, that you
will not get a wife for my son from the
daughters of the Canaanites,
among whom I am living,
4 but will go to my country and my own
relatives and get a wife for my son Isaac."
Introduction
Genesis 24:1-21
5 The servant asked him, "What if the woman is unwilling to
come back with me to this land? Shall I then take your son
back to the country you came from?"
6 "Make sure that you do not take my son back there,"
Abraham said.
7 "The LORD, the God of heaven, who brought me out of my
father's household and my native land and who spoke to
me and promised me on oath, saying, 'To your offspring I
will give this land'--he will send his angel before you so that
you can get a wife for my son from there.
8 If the woman is unwilling to come back with you,
then you will be released from this oath of mine.
Only do not take my son back there."
Introduction
Genesis 24:1-21
12 Then he prayed, "O LORD, God of my
master Abraham, give me success today,
and show kindness to my master Abraham.
15 Before he had finished praying,
Rebekah came out with her jar on her shoulder.
She was the daughter of Bethuel son of Milcah,
who was the wife of Abraham's brother Nahor.
16 The girl was very beautiful, a virgin; no man had
ever lain with her. She went down to the spring,
filled her jar and came up again.
17 The servant hurried to meet her and said,
"Please give me a little water from your jar."
18 "Drink, my lord," she said, and quickly lowered
the jar to her hands and gave him a drink.
Introduction
Genesis 24:1-21
19 After she had given him a drink,
she said, "I'll draw water for
your camels too, until they
have finished drinking."
Genesis 24:3-4
Proverbs 15:22
Plans fail for lack of
counsel, but with many
advisers they succeed.
2. The Principle of Being Equally Yoked
2 Corinthians 6:14-16
14 Do not be yoked together
with unbelievers. For what
do righteousness and
wickedness have in
common? Or what fellowship
can light have with darkness?
15 What harmony is there between Christ and Belial?
What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?
16 What agreement is there between the temple of God and
idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has
said: "I will live with them and walk among them,
and I will be their God, and they will be my people."
2. The Principle of Being Equally Yoked
Amos 3:3
Usually, when a Christian Do two walk
marries an unbeliever, it is together
the Christian who gives way unless
to the unbelieving spouse. they have
agreed to
do so?
in maturity
in godliness
3. The Beauty of Purity
Genesis 24:16a
The girl was very beautiful, a virgin; no
man had ever lain with her.
Honor chastity
1 10
Holding Sexual intercourse
hands
Pursue RIGHTEOUSNESS
Hebrews 13:4
Marriage should be honoured by all, and
the marriage bed kept pure,
for God will judge the adulterer and
all the sexually immoral.
3. The Beauty of Purity
Sex is sacred.
Purity is the greatest gift for your future spouse.
How do you view your sexuality?
Affective sexuality is
related to the
attraction to the
opposite sex.
SEXUALITY
Genital sexuality
is related to sensuality and
the act of sexual intercourse.
Genital sexuality
must be kept within the marriage relationship.
The Differences Between Infatuation and Love
Infatuation Love
1 Peter 1
15 But just as he who Consider the
called you is holy, holiness of God!
so be holy in all you do;
16 for it is written: "Be holy, because I am holy."
Characteristics of a Pure Relationship
2. A Respect for the Sanctity of Sex Within Marriage
Guys Girls
Guys are turned on Girls are turned on
by what they by what they
see feel
1 Corinthians 6
9 Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the
kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the
sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor
male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders
10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor
slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.
Unhealthy Relationships
Independent relationships
Both parties function completely independent of
the other.
Unhealthy Relationships
Healthy Relationship:
The Interdependent Relationship
Genesis 24:7
“The LORD, the God of heaven, who brought me out of
my father's household and my native land and who spoke
to me and promised me on oath, saying,
'To your offspring I will give this land'-he will send
his angel before you so that you can get a wife for
my son from there.”
4. The principle of shared inheritance
1. MASTER 2. MISSION
Genesis 24:57-58
57 Then they said, "Let's call the girl and
ask her about it."
58 So they called Rebekah and asked her,
"Will you go with this man?" "I will go," she said.
1 Corinthians 7:39
A woman is bound to her husband as
long as he lives. But if her husband dies,
she is free to marry anyone she wishes,
but he must belong to the Lord.
5. The Presence of Willingness
Does God have a perfect ONE for me?
Choose the one that most suits you
from the range of good choices
There is no perfect
one but once we are
married,
we seek to become
the perfect one to our
partner.
Psalm 37:4
Delight yourself in the LORD
and he will give you
the desires of your heart.
6. The Key of Prayer
"Marriage means the handing over of yourself, your body,
your future, your keeping, to the one whom you dearly love
although this person may in
many ways remain a stranger.
This tremendous act of faith
is something that can unlock
in each lover paths of
compassion, generosity, joy,
passion, fidelity and hope
that no one guessed
was even there.
Genesis 24:20
So she quickly emptied her jar into the trough,
ran back to the well to draw more water,
and drew enough for all his camels.
7. The Important Virtue of Kindness
Kindness is a virtue that one should always find in a mate.
DIVI NE
9. Timing
Can we trust God's timing for our lives?
Intimacy
Triangle
A Practical Guide to Courtship
A typical male Singaporean
16 years Complete Secondary Education
18 years Complete Pre-University
20.5 years Complete Army
23.5 years Complete University
26 years Career Established/Marrying Age
A Practical Guide to Courtship
1 Corinthians 7
8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for
them to stay unmarried,as I am.
9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry,for
it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
Pace your
relationship
wisely
BGR Flowchart
START
Know your
Specify your
mission
Ideal partner
statement
no no
Carry out yes Talk to parents,
fact finding Pray pastors,
and profiling godly counsel
END yes
Get married
yes Attend yes Communicate
with your
counselling
partner
no no
10. The Principle of the Well
Where can you find desirable men and women?
Today's "Well”
is the Church
The best place to
look for a future mate
is in the Church.
10. The Principle of the Well
Where is the well today?