EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE AT WORK

A book by DR. DALIP SINGH IAS (Response Books: Third Edition 2006)

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ARE YOU EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT?

OR YOU STILL THINK (not feel) THAT IQ MATTERS MORE THAN EQ

Before we move ahead please note that:

IQ means intelligence quotient EQ means emotional quotient EI means emotional intelligence My website add is: www.eqindia.com

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WHAT ARE EMOTIONS ?

Happiness,

fear, anger, affection, shame, disgust, surprise, lust, sadness, elation, love, frustration, anxiety, failure, achievement etc.
The above are the emotions which directly affect our day-today life. There are TWO dimensions of emotions: Physiological side: Emotion is a complex state of human mind, involving bodily changes of widespread character such as breathing, pounding heart, flushed face, sweating palms, pulse rate, gland secretions, etc. Psychological side, a state of excitement or perturbation marked by strong feelings.

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Emotions And Their Blends:

Anger: fury, outrage, resentment, annoyance, hostility. Love: acceptance, friendliness, trust, kindness, infatuation. Shame: guilt, remorse, humiliation, regret. Fear: anxiety, nervousness, apprehension, terror. Enjoyment: happiness, joy, relief, contentment, pleasure. Sadness: Grief, sorrow, cheerlessness, gloom. Surprise: Shock, astonishment, amazement wonder.
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Examples of Use Of Emotions:

She is too sensitive. He takes everything too personally. He is jealous of his colleagues. My boss is always in a hostile mood. She does not understand the feelings of others. He is always nagging others. The HOD blurts things out without thinking of others. Nobody understands/listens to me. The management is way out of touch with employees emotions. Why does it happen with me only in life. I am always nice with the people around me.

The above statements refer to various emotions we experience in our day to day life.
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What Exactly Is EQ
Emotional intelligence or Emotional Quotient is simply defined as: knowing what feels good, what feels bad, and how to get from bad to good. Knowing your emotions and knowing emotion of others. It refers to emotional management skills which provide competency to balance emotions and reason so as to maximize long term happiness.

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Emotional Intelligence is the capacity for recognizing our own feelings and those of others, for motivating ourselves, and for managing emotions well in ourselves and in our relationships. Emotional intelligence describes abilities distinct from, but complementary to, academic intelligence. Daniel Goleman (1998)
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The Indian Perspective

Emotional intelligence is the ability of an individual to appropriately and successfully respond to a vast variety of emotional inputs being elicited from inner self and immediate environment. Emotional intelligence constitutes three psychological dimensions such as emotional competency, emotional maturity and emotional sensitivity, which motivate an individual to recognize truthfully, interpret honestly and handle tactfully the dynamics of human behaviour. (Dalip Singh 2003)

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Are we giving EQ education in schools /colleges

NO. Our educational system gives stress on IQ and not on EQ. We are taught History, Hindi, English, Geography, Physics, anthropology, Botany, Computers, Medicine, Engineering etc. We are not TAUGHT how to handle frustration, anxieties, stress, failure, depression, burnout, inferiority complexes, ego problems We are not told to learn how to manage emotions i.e.; interaction, coordination, Adjustment, communication We are expected to learn all these from our parents, peer group of other role models At the later stages of our lives we are told to master emotional competencies to be successful.

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IQ v/s EQ
(Intelligence Quotient v/s Emotional Quotient)

The research shows that IQ can help you to be successful to the extent of 20 percent only in life. The rest of 80 percent success depends on your EQ

20% IQ 80% EQ

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WHAT IS SUCCESS

Is it your IQ: Exams passed, competitions cleared, percentage of marks in schools and colleges,academic qualifications etc Earning fat salary, top positions in workplace, being rich and wealthy, powerful,dominating, being influential etc
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OR SUCCESS IS SOMETHING ELSE

The word "success" is a relative term Living a healthy and happy married life may be an indicator of success for some. Reaching a top position in carrier may be an indicator of success for others For some having a satisfying job life or personal satisfaction may be an indicator of success Only the tangible achievements may not be indicators of success in life. Many a times non-tangible performance or achievements may be termed as successful.
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GETS YOU HIRED

GETS YOU FIRED/PROMOTED

THE PROFESSIONAL SUCCESS

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What experts say

Psychologists, Psychiatrists, Management consultants and Medical Doctors have been proving that there are personal characteristics called emotional intelligence which are responsible for the ways how we behave, how we feel, how we relate to others, how well we do at our jobs, and how healthy we are.
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Conted..
Emotional Intelligence tendencies can result in being uncomfortable with other people, not being happy with your job, not succeeding at your job, and even being physically and psychologically unhealthy with stress-related problems, or not having satisfactory interpersonal relations

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The HEAD

The HEART

IQ

EQ

THE PERSONALITY
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THE PERSONALITY
Thinking Part Feeling Part

EQ
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Characteristics of a High EQ Person

A time to wait and a time to watch, A time to be aggressive and a time to be passive,

A time to be together and a time to be alone, A time to fight and a time to love, A time to work and a time to play, A time to cry and a time to laugh, A time to confront and a time to withdraw, A time to speak and a time to be silent, A time to be patient and a time to decide.
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Characteristics of a low EQ Person

If only I had a different job If only I had finished graduation If only I had been handsome/beautiful If only my spouse had stopped drinking If only I had been born rich and famous If only I had good contacts If only I had better friends If only I had married someone else
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TWO VIEW POINTS ABOUT EQ

Traditionalists say that emotions

Distract

High performers say that emotions us Increase our confidence Speed our analysis of Build trust Provide vital feedback Must be managed
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us Increase our vulnerability Cloud our judgment Inhibit free flow data Must be controlled

Motivate

EMOTIONAL SKILLS MANAGERS SHOULD LEARN

EMOTIONAL COMPETENCY EMOTIONAL MATURITY EMOTIONAL SENSITIVITY

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I. EMOTIONAL COMPETENCY

Tackling Emotional Upsets High Self-esteem Handling Egoism Handling Inferiority Complex

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II. EMOTIONAL MATURITY

Self-Awareness Developing Others Delaying Gratification Adaptability and Flexibility

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III. EMOTIONAL SENSITIVITY

Understanding Threshold of Emotional Arousal Empathy Improving Inter-personal Relations Communicability of Emotions

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The Empirical Research

study of 80 Ph.D.s A study of Insurance Sector A study of IAS officers A study on stress and burnout A study of different professions

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A study of 80 Ph.D.s by EQ Consortium

A study of 80 Ph.D.s in science who underwent a battery of personality tests, IQ tests, and interviews in the 1950s when they were graduate students at Berkeley. Forty years later, when they were in their early seventies, they were tracked down and estimates were made of their success based on resumes, evaluations by experts in their own fields, and sources like American Men and Women of Science. It turned out that social and emotional abilities were four times more important than IQ in establishing professional success and prestige.

(EQ CONSORTIUM)
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A STUDY OF INSURANCE SECTOR In another research it has been found that Insurance salespersons who were optimists sold 37 percent more insurance policies in their first two years than did pessimists.
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A STUDY OF IAS OFFICERS

After

studying 60 IAS officers of Assam Cadre it was found that 77 % of them fall in the category of Average EQ. Only 15 % showed High EQ
(Prof NK Chadha, Psychology Dept, Delhi University)
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A STUDY OF STRESS AND BURNOUT

The managers High on EQ were low on burnout implying that they can cope up better with stress.
(Prof NK Chadha, Psychology Dept, Delhi University)

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Do different professions require different Levels of EQ? CLUSTER I: EXTREMELY HIGH Artist, Insurance, Advertisement, Social Work CLUSTER II:HIGH Teaching, Legal, Tourism, Politics, Business/ Entrepreneurship, Police CLUSTER III:AVERAGE Judiciary, Administration, Information Technology, Medicine, Banking, Engineering, Accountancy, Nursing (DALIP SINGH 2002) www.eqindia.com
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SOME MYTHS/FACTS ABOUT EQ

Being EI does not mean a weak, submissive or defensive personality. Being highly EI does not not mean being extra nice, polite or sugar coating your language The females are NOT superior to males in expressing/experiences emotions as most of us tend to believe incorrectly. In fact, the research shows that males are equally emotional when compared to females. There is no direct evidence to prove that EQ is dependent upon heredity. However, the environment does seem to 33 influence the EQ. www.eqindia.com

Myths..

Advocating EQ does not mean that we are promoting low scorers or average IQ people. Having average EQ is not bad or undesirable Having high EQ is always welcome. We are not negating the IQ. In fact a combination of high EQ and high IQ would be a most ideal personality. It would be a win win situation.
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CAN EQ BE DEVELOPED?

YES. You can develop your EQ by upgrading your emotional skills. The popular thinking that EQ is entirely inherited is incorrect. Emotional Intelligence is not fixed at birth. There is no emotional intelligence genes as such that we know of today. It is something one has learned.
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Conted..
Can EQ be developed at any stage/age of personal or professional life. The answer is YES. You can upgrade your emotional skills at any stage of your life. In fact, age and maturity are positively correlated with the EQ. Same is not true about IQ which is more or less static.
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Can EQ Be Measured?
YES. Though some critics may argue that emotional traits can not be measured accurately the psychologists have shown that EI can be measured by using standardized scientific tools.

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THE EQ TEST

Test developed by Prof NK Chadha & Dr Dalip Singh

The test has 22 real life situations It has been standardized on Indian population
This test has a reliability of 0.94 and validity of 0.92.

The test is available online free of cost at www.eqindia.com It is being used widely in research and elsewhere.

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APPLYING EQ IN BUSINESS ORGANISATIONS

Customer Service Hiring Turnover Training Corporate Culture Productivity Goal Setting Emotional Support Leadership
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CONCLUSION: Applying EQ makes you feel comfortable within your own skin and with people around you. You can also understand what makes you incompatible with certain people or jobs and learn ways to deal with the emotional difficulties ease. You can also understand the specific feelings that cause you stress and learn ways to become more at peace.
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QUOTES

Anyone can be angrythat is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way that is not easy.

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FOR FURTHER DETAIL PLEASE CONTACT DR DALIP SINGH AT

Website: www.eqindia.com Email: dalip9999@yahoo.com

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Thanks

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