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PR ESS AND T ES TIMONIALS

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Only Turn to Brad P to Learn How to Attract Women I& you-re serious a out %earning how to attract women( I high%y recommend that you %oo' up !rad ". 2 I-,e gotten nothing ut 03+A# &eed ac' a out the inter,iew I did with him( and I thin' he-s one o& the &ew rea%( so%id guys teaching this 'ind o& materia%.

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The #ost Ori(inal and Successful Teachin( Style !rad " is one o& the est dating coaches around( a true origina%.

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ABOUTTH EAUTHOR

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4i. I-m !rad ". and I run the Underground Dating Seminar in 8ew *or' City. #han's &or chec'ing out my oo'. <or those who ha,en-t met me at one o& my seminars( I-%% te%% you a %itt%e it a out myse%&. I-m an a,erage %oo'ing guy. 29 years o%d( 'inda ta%% and gang%y. I want pro a %y the same type o& gir% that e,eryone wants2 hot( smart( got2it2together( not psycho. Unti% a &ew years ago I was ,ery scared o& approaching gir%s. I was pretty dor'y in high schoo%. I had no idea how to act or what to do around women. I a%ways &e%t %i'e they didn-t %i'e me( and that &ear o& re=ection rea%%y was para%y$ing &or me. I started doing things that seemed to e wor'ing &or other guys. I got in a roc' and( p%ayed sports( got good grades( ut nothing seemed to wor' ecause I didn-t ha,e the right attitude. +,erything %oo'ed great on paper( ut I sti%% cou%dn-t get a gir%&riend( ha,e se.( or e,en 'iss a gir%. +,entua%%y as I got o%der things got a it etter( ut I cou%d a%ways see that there were other guys that seemed to get A77 the gir%s( and they weren-t super good %oo'ing( rich( or &amous. #hey were not much di&&erent than you or me( ut they had a certain something that women cou%dn-t resist. I decided to try to %earn their secrets and I read up on psycho%ogy( attraction( and e,o%ution. It turns out that women e.perience attraction in a ,ery di&&erent way than men. 1hi%e men are attracted y physica% stu&& > ig oo s( waist;hips ratio( etc?... 1omen are attracted to "+3S98A7I#* #3AI#S2 things %i'e con&idence( %eadership( humor( etc. A %ot o& the things that women are attracted to simp%y don-t ma'e sense unti% you start to %earn what insiders %i'e me 'now. <or e.amp%e( why are women attracted to ad ass guys( guys that treat them poor%y( guys who don-t ca%%@ It ma'es no sense:: 8ow I understand why things are the way they are( ut it too' time to %earn it. 8ow I-m at the point where I ha,e tons o& hotties( threesomes a%% the time( and I can get a gir%-s num er pretty easi%y. Succeeding with women is a s'i%% that you can %earn2 %i'e 'ung &u or p%aying the piano. *ou don-t need to e good %oo'ing or rich( you =ust ha,e to show the right persona%ity traits and 'now what the insiders 'now. I-,e een tra,e%ing a%% o,er the wor%d since 200A testing di&&erent techni6ues and theories. In the eginning( I went out and approached women B days a wee' &or A2C hours a day. A&ter a out a year o& doing that( I had %earned so much that a%% my &riends were as'ing &or ad,ice on meeting women. It was %i'e I had magica% powers and e,eryone wanted me to grant them a wish. #he on%y pro %em was that my ad,ice was usua%%y the e.act opposite o& what mainstream society te%%s us wi%% wor' with women. ,

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5ainstream society te%%s you to uy women drin's. I say don-t o&&er to uy stu&& &or peop%e you don-t 'now. It ma'es you seem weird. #he mainstream te%%s you to comp%iment women. I say it-s etter to tease them and act chi%dish. #he mainstream te%%s us the &irst thing a woman %oo's at is your shoes. I say that-s ridicu%ous. #hey %oo' at your &ace( your coat( and your hair e&ore noticing your shoes. #hin' a out it. 1hen was the %ast time you saw a group o& women wa%'ing around staring at guys- shoes@ #hese are things I %earned y spending thousands o& hours meeting women in ars( ma%%s( gas stations( and par'ing %ots. I-,e e,en met women at tra&&ic %ights and success&u%%y seduced them in under 2A hours. It-s pretty disi%%usioning to &ind out that 9DE o& e,erything you-,e e,er een to%d a out meeting women is wrong( ut that =ust ma'es &inding the right way so much more e.citing. So I decided to throw it a%% out and teach peop%e a new way. #his is how the Underground Dating Seminar was orn. In 5arch( 200D( I started gi,ing %aid ac' seminars in the upstairs o& a pi$$a p%ace in 5anhattan. #he students wou%d come in and ha,e some pi$$a and a &ew eers. I-d ta%' o&& the top o& my head &or a &ew hours a out how to succeed with women. I was happy to e a %e to pass on the %essons I had %earned and earn a &ew uc's in the process. #he seminars were %ots o& &un and a rewarding %itt%e side corner o& my %i&eF unti% word o& mouth spread and peop%e started showing up &rom 4ong Gong( Austra%ia( and e,erywhere e%se. "eop%e were getting resu%ts. 9ne guy started dating a semi2&amous newswoman. Another guy had a threesome with 2 strippers. #y wac%y little &i))a &lace seminar had turned into a $ew .or% City le(end, It 6uic'%y ecame a &u%% time gig &or me( and I had to %earn how to create a we site( CDs( and e!oo's. >Some o& this technica% stu&& was more comp%icated than anything that goes on with meeting women:? It-s a &un e.perience to impro,e your dating %i&e( and it-s something you owe to yourse%& as a man. It ta'es time to get good at it( ut there are some things you can try right away that wi%% get you resu%ts that are surprising. As &ar as my 6ua%i&ications2 I ha,e a degree in psycho%ogy and phi%osophy. I-,e had success&u% careers as a teacher( a as'et a%% coach( and a socia% wor'er. I 'now how to teach peop%e new s'i%%s. I 'now how to get the most out o& my students. 4e%ping peop%e reach their potentia% has a%ways een important to me. I-,e wor'ed with chi%dren who ha,e cancer( at2ris' ur an teens( peop%e with %earning disa i%ities( and the menta%%y i%%. I-,e read a great dea% o& scienti&ic %iterature on the su =ect2 which consists o& anthropo%ogy( e,o%utionary psycho%ogy( and cross cu%tura% studies. Since I-,e read it and wor'ed it into the method( it means you don-t ha,e to read a%% that dense( ,i

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con&using in&ormation >e,en though it wou%dn-t hurt?( you can =ust reap the ene&its. Again( than's &or chec'ing out my oo' and I wish you a%% the est o& %uc' in your dating %i&e and re%ationships: 2!rad ".

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TH EPURPOSEOF THIS BOOK

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#his oo' is intended to gi,e you a 6uic' start on approaching women and impro,ing your dating %i&e. It is designed to e read in one or two sittings so you can go ahead and get started approaching women the same day you uy the oo'. I-,e ta'en the est openers and most essentia% pieces o& pic'up theory and put them into a concise guide that wi%% get you e.cited a out meeting women. 9ne pro %em I o&ten see in men who are =ust getting started approaching womenH is in&ormation o,er%oad. #he prospect o& approaching women seems &rightening at &irst( so in order to put it o&& &or as %ong as possi %e( they spent wee's and months reading e,erything they can &ind on the topic. #hen when they &ina%%y get up the guts to go out and ta%' to a woman( they ha,e so many di&&erent ideas swir%ing around at once that it ecomes di&&icu%t to &ocus on anything. Don-t %et this happen to you. Don-t %et education e your e.cuse &or procrastinating. *ou must get some rea% %i&e e.perience approaching women. 1ithout this( there is no conte.t &or the in&ormation you-re reading( and it a%% ecomes meaning%ess. I ha,e so many things to teach you a out succeeding with women. In my CD set( Underground Dating Seminar you wi%% hear me ta%'ing to students &or o,er I2 hours a out the intricacies and particu%ars o& meeting women. I strong%y suggest you wor' with this oo' &or at %east a wee' or 2 e&ore pic'ing up those CDs. *ou need rea% %i&e e.perience in order to get the most out o& Underground Dating Seminar. 9G now( get usy reading. I want you to &%y through this oo'( pic' out your 2 &a,orite openers( and get out there and do it:

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T ABL EOF CON T E N TS

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Cha&ter / 0 ntroduction,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, / S'i%% Set...................................................................................................... I Cha&ter 1 0 Pur&ose of O&eners,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, 2 Cha&ter 2 0 Contin(encies,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, 3 Cha&ter 4 0 The Shoc%er,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, 5 4orse 0ir% Shoc'er ......................................................................................B Sea&ood Shoc'er......................................................................................... 9 Se.y Shoes Shoc'er...................................................................................I0 Cha&ter 3 0 Build .our Own Shoc%er,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, // A out the Shoc'er..................................................................................... II !ui%d *our 9wn Shoc'er 1or'sheet............................................................ I2 Cha&ter 5 0 +ree +orm O&eners,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, /2 #e.t 5essage 9pener................................................................................ IJ 4igh <i,e 9pener ><or 0roups?..................................................................ID 7es ian D#3 9pener..................................................................................IC Kua%ity Contro% 9pener.............................................................................. IB #a%'ing Shit 9pener................................................................................... IL Secret Shopper 9pener..............................................................................I9 Cha&ter 6 0 $eutral O&inion O&eners Analy)ed,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,17 9prah 1in&rey 9pener............................................................................... 22 5onster #ruc' 9pener............................................................................... 2J Disney 5usic 9pener................................................................................. 2A Cha&ter 8 0 Hi(h 9alue O&eners,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, 13 9n%y 0ir% 9pener....................................................................................... 2C 7ast 1ee'-s 7ay.........................................................................................2C 4eather 4arrison >rapid de%i,ery?................................................................2B Cha&ter : 0 Low 9alue O&eners,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, 18 <or dor's and p%ayers................................................................................ 2L "sycho%ogist 9pener.................................................................................. 29 Giss 9pener.............................................................................................. 29 #hum 1rest%ing 9pener........................................................................... J0 Cha&ter /7 0 Situational O&eners,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, 2/ Shared enthusiasm.................................................................................... J2 3idd%e Sty%e...............................................................................................J2 Internet Date >ridd%e sty%e?.........................................................................J2 i.

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Common #hemes...................................................................................... J2 Carson Dai%y 9pener >common theme?....................................................... JJ Customi$ed to the group............................................................................JJ Cha&ter // 0 Cold Reads,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, 24 Seria% dater >&ema%e truism?....................................................................... JD *ou-re gonna e rich >&un to e%ie,e in?......................................................JD Sudden &ashion e,a%uation ........................................................................ JD Cha&ter /1 0 How to ;se This nformation,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, 25 3u%e MI) "repare 2 openers e&ore going out. ............................................JB 3u%e M2) 0o in right away. ........................................................................ JB 3u%e MJ) #ry each opener at %east D times e&ore discarding it. ...................JB Cha&ter /2 0 'ealin( with Ad"ersity,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,28 "ercei,ed "ro %em) She-s with a guy........................................................... JL "ercei,ed "ro %em) 1hat i& she says 9h is that a pic'up %ine@ I-,e heard this one e&ore............................................................................................... A0 "ercei,ed "ro %em) 4er oy&riend wa%'s in in the midd%e o& us ta%'ing...........A0 "ercei,ed "ro %em) 1hat i& I get in a &ight whi%e doing approaches@.............AI "ercei,ed "ro %em) She-s with a group.......................................................A2 "ercei,ed "ro %em) I &ee% %i'e I-m interrupting.............................................A2 "ercei,ed "ro %em) She seems usy........................................................... A2 "ercei,ed "ro %em) She says she has a oy&riend........................................ AJ "ercei,ed "ro %em) She-s wa%'ing and I don-t 'now how to get her to stop.. .AJ "ercei,ed "ro %em) She 'eeps saying weird things trying to throw me o&&.....AA Cha&ter /4 0 A&&roach An<iety,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,43 Approach An.iety Dont-s............................................................................ AD Approach An.iety 5usts ............................................................................AD Cha&ter /3 0 +ear of Re=ection,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, 46 3e=ection is your &riend. <ear&u% para%ysis is your enemy. .................................................................AB 3e=ection &orces you to get some a%%s........................................................ AB 3e=ection is your &riend ecause it ma'es the &ear go away..........................AL *our rea% enemy is &ear&u% para%ysis. ...........................................................AL Cha&ter /5 0 The ntan(i!les,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,4: <un Attitude.............................................................................................. A9 0ir%s =ust wanna ha,e &un...........................................................................A9 Sincere interest in the woman.................................................................... D0 "ositi,e Intentions &or the Interaction......................................................... DI Cha&ter /6 0 Where Learned This Stuff,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, 31 Bonus #aterial>,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, 32 .

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Cotton Candy............................................................................................ DJ *oga 9pener............................................................................................. DJ Glossary,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,34

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CHAP T ER1 - IN TRODUCTION

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Dating eauti&u% women is hard. #here-s a re%ati,e%y sma%% num er o& them out there and they get as'ed out I0 times a day y a%% 'inds o& guys. #o ma'e matters worse( most men ha,e ne,er een taught how to interact with women in an attracti,e way. *ou can-t %earn it in schoo% or &rom your parents. As' your &riends or cowor'ers and you-re ound to get use%ess ad,ice %i'e N!e respect&u%(N or N!uy her a drin'.N #hat 'ind o& ad,ice is ,ague and counterproducti,e. 1e-,e a%% tried &ocusing on eing respect&u%. It-s a one way tic'et to the &riend $one. So what-s a guy supposed to do@ I-,e spent a great dea% o& time studying what wor's est to attract and date eauti&u% women. I-,e disco,ered that there are 2 important aspects to this part o& a man-s %i&e) I. De,e%oping an attracti,e identity. 2. De,e%oping a set o& s'i%%s that he%ps you through the ,arious stages o& interacting with women. <or more in&o on de,e%oping an attracti,e identity( p%ease re&er to my audio CD series( which is a,ai%a %e at radp.com; oo's2audio. #his oo' wi%% dea% with speci&ic parts o& the s'i%% set needed to e attracti,e to women.

SKILL SET
Attracting women is a s'i%% that can e %earned. I& you read up on the topic and wor' hard( you wi%% impro,e and meet your goa%s. 7i'e any s'i%% worth %earning( attracting women re6uires a great dea% o& time and e&&ort. #here are no 6uic' &i.es &or most guys.... ut the rewards o& %earning this s'i%% set are e.treme%y en=oya %e. 1hen %earning a s'i%% set to approach women( the &irst part most men &ocus on is the opening %ine. #his is a great p%ace to start. I& you can %earn how to approach any woman you see and ha,e at %east 2 or J minutes o& interesting con,ersation( it ui%ds con&idence and opens the door to a who%e new wor%d o& ad,enture and &un with women. #here are pre%iminary s'i%%s you shou%d consider %earning in order to de%i,er opening %ines e&&ecti,e%y. #hese are)

2 !ody %anguage 2 /oice tone 2 <ashion and sty%e 2 Identity ui%ding

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2 Con,ersationa% repertoire 2 9,ercoming approach an.iety 2 "ro=ecting 4igh Socia% /a%ue

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"%ease consu%t my audio CD series &or more on these topics. #his oo' wi%% &ocus on e.posing you to L di&&erent strategies on openers( and how to &o%%ow these openers with additiona% con,ersation. A&ter a%%( what good is a great opening %ine i& you don-t 'now what to say ne.t@ I-%% a%so e inc%uding some in depth ana%ysis on the e&&ects o& these di&&erent reeds o& openers so you can choose what-s right &or you. I& you choose wise%y and practice( you won-t need more than 2 or J great openers in order to approach any woman at any time.

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CHAP T ER2 - PURPOSEOF OP EN ERS

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#here are D main goa%s that you shou%d try to accomp%ish with your opener)

I. !rea' the ice. 2. 0et the gir% ta%'ing. J. 0et the gir% %aughing. A. +sta %ish high socia% ,a%ue. D. !egin ui%ding and;or rea'ing rapport.
1hen you ecome pro&icient at approaching women( there is a Cth purpose( screening out incompati %e women. <or now don-t worry a out that( =ust stic' to the &irst D. A&ter years o& research and testing( I-,e come to the conc%usion that prep%anned( scripted openers are the most e&&ecti,e in accomp%ishing these goa%s. <or some men( this idea o& eing NscriptedN may e a hard pi%% to swa%%ow. 1e-d a%% %i'e to e%ie,e that we can =ust wa%' up to a woman and say N4i( what-s your name@N and ha,e her tota%%y capti,ated and attracted. <or most men( inc%uding me( that-s =ust not the case. I& something as simp%e as that was wor'ing &or you( you pro a %y wou%dn-t e reading this oo'. I-m not saying that N4i( how are you@N wi%% ne,er wor'. I-,e seen it wor' here and there &or guys who are e.treme%y good %oo'ing( charming( or ha,e ama$ing ody %anguage. 4owe,er( my goa% in this oo' is to gi,e you strategies that can wor' &or e,eryone( not =ust guys who %oo' %i'e mode%s. So i& you are rea%%y stuc' on the idea o& wa%'ing up to women and saying Nhi thereN go right ahead and try it out. #hen a&ter you-,e e.perienced the %ow success rate o& this techni6ue &irst hand( come on ac' home and &inish reading my oo'. N4i thereN is what e,eryone does. *ou must set yourse%& apart &rom a%% the annoying men who approach woman this way. I& you do e.act%y what e,eryone e%se does( you wi%% get e.act%y what e,eryone e%se gets) %aid occasiona%%y. 1omen %i'e men who can ma'e them %augh( so thin' o& yourse%& as a stand up comedian. Comedians don-t get up on stage and ta%' o&& the top o& their head. #hey p%an ahead and prepare the est possi %e materia%. #hen they e,a%uate the ,i e o& the audience and do the routines that they thin' wi%% wor' est. #hen when things are going we%%( they start to &%ow into more spontaneous interaction with the audience. 7i'e a stand up comedian( you can de%i,er a &ew &unny things to start o&&( and then get into a www. radp.com O radpP radp.com J

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I encourage you to open your mind to new ideas on how to ta%' to women( starting with scripted openers. Are you &ee%ing open minded@ 0ood. 7et me te%% you a out the C reeds o& openers that are most e&&ecti,e &or meeting women)

I. #he Shoc'er 2. <ree <orm 9peners 2. 8eutra% 9pinion 9peners J. Situationa% 9peners A. 4igh /a%ue 9peners D. 7ow /a%ue 9peners C. Co%d 3eads
+ach o& these reeds presents its own set o& ad,antages and cha%%enges( which wi%% e e.p%ained in Chapters A thru I0. !e&ore we get into that( %et-s thin' a it a out how to &o%%ow up these openers with contin(encies.

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CHAP T ER3 - CON TINGENCIES

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An opener genera%%y generates on%y 2 or J possi %e reactions in a gir%. 1hen you go out and try these openers( pay c%ose attention to the reactions you get. A&ter you de%i,er an opener I0 or 20 times( the reactions wi%% ecome ,ery predicta %e to you. #hen you can prepare structured &o%%ow ups which are contingent on how the gir% responds to the opener. 4a,ing great contingencies ma'es you much %ess %i'e%y to run out o& things to ta%' a out or get re=ected. It-s an important part o& creating your con,ersationa% repertoire. #he est way to de,e%op great contingencies is to go out and de%i,er openers. 7earn what the possi %e reactions to the opener are. #hen try to remem er the &unny stu&& you said in the moment. 1rite it down so you can use it again. #hese spontaneous ursts o& humor are the asis &or your contingencies and the rest o& your con,ersationa% repertoire. I see a%% responses to openers as &a%%ing into these three categories)

I. "ositi,e 2. Con&used J. 8egati,e

As you are processing your interactions with women( ma'e a menta% note on whether your opener resu%ted in a positi,e( con&used( or negati,e response. #hese J simp%e categories wi%% he%p you &ormu%ate your contingencies more easi%y.

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CHAP T ER4 - TH ESHOCKER

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#4+ S49CG+3 is my own persona% creation. I &ind it to e the most e&&ecti,e method o& approaching women ecause it accomp%ishes a%% D goa%s o& an opener when e.ecuted correct%y. #here are A main ingredients to #4+ S49CG+3) I. Hoo% ?uestion, #his is a 6uestion which sounds i$arre or random at &irst. A hoo' 6uestion shou%d stop any gir% in her trac's. #hey wi%% immediate%y &ee% con&used and intrigued. *ou can use this con&usion to your ad,antage. 0ir%s who are con&used wi%% usua%%y want you to e.p%ain yourse%&. #hen when you go into the ne.t part o& the script( they wi%% stic' around to hear what you ha,e to say. It-s the on%y way to cure the con&usion. 2. A storyline, In the story%ine( there shou%d e an interaction etween you and a gir%( and you shou%d ha,e higher socia% ,a%ue than the gir%. Using story te%%ing right away wi%% a%%ow you to create a ma'e2 e%ie,e wor%d inside the woman-s mind. #he stories are made up &or entertainment purposes( and most women rea%i$e this instincti,e%y. 4owe,er( the process o& wa%'ing her through the story wi%% ma'e a woman &ee% su conscious%y that you rea%%y do ha,e higher socia% ,a%ue than her. Don-t wait around &or high socia% ,a%ue: Create it immediate%y in your opener: J. Social tension, Socia% tension is the asis o& most humor. #he more you increase the socia% tension( the igger the %augh is when you get to the punch %ine. A. Punch line, 4ere are some e.amp%es o& #4+ S49CG+3 with contingencies. *ou can use these e.act %ines to meet women. I-,e tested them many times and taught them to my students.

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HORSE GIRL SHOCKER
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*9U) N4ey do you %i'e horses@N 0I37) 4U4@ Umm... yeah I guess.N *9U) N4mm( I thought so. 9G chec' this out( when I was in the Cth grade( there was this gir% who %o,ed horses. She used to run around the p%ayground &or an hour straight at %unchtime. She-d e ga%%oping and ma'ing horse noises. 1e used to ca%% her the weird horse gir%.N 0I37) *eah( so@N *9U) N1e%%... you %oo' QUS# 7IG+ 4+3:N
CONTINGENCY #1: SHE'S LAUGHING (POSITIVE REACTION)

0I37) N4ey:: >gigg%ing and smi%ing? I-m not the weird horse gir%:::N *9U) N9G that-s coo%. I& it was me I wou%dn-t admit it either. 8ow I-m not saying you-re de&inite%y her( ut =ust in case you are( I want to te%% you I-m sorry.N 0I37) NSorry &or what@N *9U) NSorry &or a%% the times I made &un o& you. See( in schoo% I was a%ways one o& the coo% 'ids. And I used to ma'e &un o& the horse gir%. 8ow I-m o%der and more mature( and I &ee% ad. So do you &orgi,e me@N 0I37) N9G I &orgi,e you.N ))4U0 4U0 4U0))
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*9U) NAww( so cute( you didn-t get the =o'e.N

Qust rea' the story down( te%% it to her again more s%ow%y( then go into the same e.act routine as contingency MI( which ends with you egging &orgi,eness and getting a hug. CONTINGENCY #3: SHE'S PISSED OFF 9ccasiona%%y you-re going to get a ad reaction. A ad reaction isn-t a%ways your &au%t. Some women are =ust moody or irrita %e. I& you happen to start ta%'ing to a moody( negati,e woman and she has a ad reaction to your opener( don-t ta'e it persona%%y. It pro a %y has nothing to do with you. Qust mo,e on to the ne.t woman. #hey-re mi%%ions more women out there. I& %ots o& women ta'e the =o'e the wrong way( it means that your de%i,ery needs wor'. It must e c%ear that this is a p%ay&u% =o'e( and that you-re not actua%%y trying to e insu%ting. #his can e accomp%ished in many ways. <or me( acting way too serious and a it o,erdramatic is usua%%y a good way to signa% that the who%e thing is =ust &or &un( and not actua%%y an attempt to insu%t someone. 9ther times I-%% do the opener ,ery s%ow%y and act em arrassed that I-m actua%%y te%%ing this story &rom Cth grade. In the moment( a negati,e reaction can e scary: Some gir%s wi%% e rea%%y itchy and you-%% want to wa%' away. 8ow you-,e got 2 options. +irst O&tion@ I& you-re a eginner( go ahead and wa%' away. #hen a&ter you wa%' away( immediate%y run the +RAC# SA5+ 7I8+ on the ne.t gir% or group o& gir%s you see. Don-t gi,e yourse%& time to create negati,e thought patterns: #a%' to more gir%s immediate%y( e,en i& they-re not that cute:: *ou wi%% see that it-s not your &au%t that some gir%s are itchy. #his wi%% he%p you e%iminate your &ear o& approaching women. It is essentia% that you start ta%'ing to other women within ID seconds. I& you wait e,en 2 or J minutes( you might &ind yourse%& rep%aying the ad interaction o,er and o,er in your head and eating yourse%& up o,er it. #his is comp%ete%y counterproducti,e( so don-t do it. Qust &orget a out it and mo,e on 6uic'%y. Second O&tion@ <or those who are not eginners( D9 89# 1A7G A1A*:: *ou wi%% &ee% scared inside( your hands may e,en sha'e a it( ut =ust stay in there: It-s %i'e riding a mechanica% u%%. #ry to at %east stay on &or another L seconds. Show the gir% that you are not scared o& her( you are not at a%% a&&ected y her eing itchy. Stay as ca%m as possi %e. Sit to the side o& her %oo'ing straight &orward. 9ccasiona%%y %oo' at her o,er your shou%der( and de%i,er your contingency. 4ere-s a true story o& how it p%ayed out &or me recent%y)

0I37) N1hat the he%% do you mean a out me %i'ing horses@@ Do you %i'e your teeth where they are@ Cause i& you don-t get the he%% away &rom me right now I-m going to 'noc' your teeth right out o& your head:N
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!3AD ") N7isten( I-m =ust eing socia% and ha,ing &un. *ou D9 %oo' %i'e someone I used to 'now. Anyway( I can te%% a %ot a out you &rom the way your conducting yourse%& right now. I et you act %i'e this a%% the time( and when you do( a %ot o& peop%e thin' you-re a rea% itch. !ut I can te%% that you-re not. I thin' that deep down( you-re as sensiti,e as a %itt%e gir%. Sure( a %ot o& peop%e may thin' you-re stuc' up( ut you don-t ha,e to act %i'e that towards me.N
In this case( the gir% was I00E attracted to me a&ter I showed her I had enough a%%s to stand up to her. 20 minutes %ater I was ma'ing out with her.... and her &riend.... hehehe.

SEAFOOD SHOCKER

*9U) NDo you %i'e sea&ood@N 0I37) N4uh;yes;noN *9U) N9' chec' this out. 1hen I was in Lth grade( there was this gir% who wou%d a%ways ring weird sea&ood to schoo% in a rown paper ag. It tota%%y stun' up the who%e ca&eteria. She wou%d sit there and eat s6uid and octopus. It was so weird. 1e used to ca%% her the weird sea&ood gir%.N 0I37) N3ea%%y@N *9U) N*ea( and you %oo' QUS# 7IG+ 4+3:N C98#I80+8C* *9U) N1e%%( I don-t 'now i& you-re her or not( ut =ust in case you are( I want to te%% you I-m sorry.N 0I37) NSorry &or what@N *9U) N1e%% this one time the schoo% u%%y too' her octopus sandwich out o& the #upperware when she wasn-t %oo'ing. 4e put the who%e octopus in his mouth and wa%'ed around the ca&eteria scaring 'ids with it. 8ow that I-m
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o%der I 'now that I shou%d ha,e he%ped the weird sea&ood gir% out. I shou%dn-t ha,e made &un o& her. I-,e een carrying around S9 much gui%t a%% these years. Cou%d you e,er &orgi,e me@N 0I37) >p%aying a%ong? N*eah: *ou made &un o& me too much:N *9U) NCou%d you e,er &orgi,e me@N 0I37) N1e%%( 9G.N *9U) N9h( I &ee% so much etter.N ))4U0 4U0 4U0
SEXY SHOES SHOCKER

*9U) 4ow many pairs o& shoes do you ha,e@ 0I37) 20 or J0( why do you as'@ *9U) #here was this gir% I used to wor' with years ago( and she had I2D pairs o& shoes. She-d ring a who%e ag o& shoes to wor' with her and then she-d change her shoes e,ery ha%& hour. !ut there was one speci&ic pair that she wou%d put on once a day( and she wou%d prance y my des' in them and do this rea%%y se.y wa%'. It was the weirdest thing. 1e used to ca%% her se.y shoe gir%. 0I37) 1hat-s your point@ *9U) *ou-re wearing the e.act same shoes. Are you the se.y shoe gir%@ Are you sti%% sta%'ing me years and years %ater@ *ou were doing the wa%' when you saw me come in....
Try a Shocker storyline in a group setting. If you're out with 2 girls you know and 2 girls who are new, wait until half an hour in, then ask one of the new girls if she likes horses. Re contextualizing openers helps build your con ersational repertoire!

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CHAP T ER5 - BUILD YOUR OWN SHOCKER
ABOUT THE SHOCKER

Instant Attraction

I-,e tried many di&&erent types o& openers( and nothing wor's near%y as we%% as #4+ S49CG+3. I-,e taught my students a%% L types o& openers( and they-,e had the most success when using #4+ S49CG+3. I in,ented it a out 2 years ago( and it is ased on a true story. #here rea%%y was a gir% in my c%ass who %o,ed horses a %itt%e too much. I sti%% remem er her. She wasn-t a ad %oo'ing gir%( ut ecause o& her o session with horses( she was regarded as ha,ing ,ery %ow socia% ,a%ue. I started te%%ing women the story and as'ing i& they were her( and it a%ways got such an intense reaction. I 'new I had something that wou%d a%ways wor'. A&ter stum %ing onto the idea( I had to &igure out 14* it wor's so we%%. I-d %i'e to pass on these %essons to you so you can ui%d your own S49CG+3 openers that &ee%s com&orta %e and natura% to you.

I. #he Shoc'er ui%ds S9CIA7 /A7U+ y creating a Ncoo% 'idN &rame. 2. #he Shoc'er ypasses women-s tendency to SC3++8 *9U when you approach. J. #he Shoc'er creates a &un( %ight2hearted ,i e. A. #he Shoc'er is ased on a &ema%e truism. 5ost gir%s rea%%y do %i'e horses( sea&ood( and se.y shoes.
8ow that you understand the structure o& #4+ S49CG+3( and why it wor's( it-s time to create a &ew o& your own. Use this wor'sheet to create your own persona%i$ed S49CG+3 9"+8+3:

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BUILD YOUR OWN SHOCKER WORKSHEET

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9pen up a new document on your computer to do some &ree writing. <ree writing is when you =ust %et your mind wander in a creati,e way( ma'ing no e&&ort to criti6ue the ideas you-re generating. 0enerate %ots and %ots o& ideas( then wait unti% %ater to e,a%uate them. FREE WRITE ON THESE TOPICS: I. #hin' o& a situation &rom your chi%dhood that was oth &unny and em arrassing. It can e something that happened to you or to someone e%se. 1rite it down. 2. 8ow thin' o& a time when someone e%se was eing made &un o& and you didn-t he%p them. 1rite it down. J. #hin' o& a time when you were coo%er than a good %oo'ing gir%. 1rite it down. A. #hin' o& some o& the weird things women do when they-re trying to pursue a guy. D. #hin' o& a &ew weird things that gir%s are into. 5a'e a %ist. 8ow write a &ew sentences that te%% an e.aggerated( dramatic story a out how one o& those things cou%d ecome an o session and %ead to a %oss o& socia% ,a%ue. !e creati,e: EVALUATE AND SYNTHESI!E: 8ow that your creati,e =uices are &%owing( ta'e one o& the situations a o,e and create your own Shoc'er 9pener. 3emem er to use the A e%ements o& #4+ S49CG+3)

I. Start with a 499G KU+S#I98. 2. 8e.t comes your S#93*7I8+. J. !ui%d the S9CIA7 #+8SI98. A. +nd with a "U8C4 7I8+.

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CHAP T ER6 - FRE EFORM OP EN ERS

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4ere-s a &ew more openers &rom my persona% stash. #hese are %ess &ormu%aic than the others( ut re%y on some the simi%ar de,ices2 hoo' 6uestions( punch %ines( etc.

TEXT "ESSAGE OPENER

"repare y ha,ing someone send you a te.t message that says 1ow you-re hot. #hen( se%ect a gir% you want to meet and ma'e eye contact with her. Stare at your phone( then stare ac' at the gir%. 1a%' o,er %oo'ing ac' and &orth &rom the phone to the gir%. #his ui%ds socia% tension.

*9U) Did you =ust te.t me@ 0I37S) 1hat( huh@ *9U) N1e%% I don-t get it. 4ow did you get my num er@ Do you wor' &or the phone company or something@N >stare at phone? 0I37S) N8o we don-t wor' &or the phone company( I didn-t te.t you...N #hey wi%% start reaching &or your phone at this point. Don-t %et them see it: #his ui%ds more socia% tension. 0I37S) 1hat does it say@ *9U) 1hat are you shy or something@ I-m right here( you cou%d ha,e =ust wa%'ed o,er and said this to me.N !y this time the gir%s wi%% e pu%%ing on your arm trying to see the phone( then you show it and it says 1ow you-re hot. #hey wi%% die %aughing. *9U) N9' this is a cute game. I-%% p%ay a%ong since you guys are a%% shy. I-%% e,en te.t you ac'. 1hat-s you-re num er@N 0I37S) >say their num er?
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*9U) >#e.t ac' I 'now.?

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8ow you ha,e her num er. She &ee%s %i'e she a%ready comp%imented you and you a%ready ga,e a coc'y rep%y. It ne,er rea%%y happened( ut it sort o& did in the gir%-s mind. #his opener is so dead%y that there are no contingencies needed. #he on%y way it doesn-t wor' is i& the gir% =ust wa%'s o&&.

"ot a great S#$%&'R opener( I'd lo e to hear it. ')ail it to )e. *y e)ail address is bradp+bradp.co).

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HIGH FIVE OPENER (FOR GROUPS)

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1a%' up to &irst gir% and say) *ou-re awesome( high &i,e. #hen high &i,e her. 7oo' at second gir% and say) *ou 'now what( you-re awesome too( high &i,e. #hen when she goes to high &i,e you( you miss comp%ete%y and say) 9hhh: *ou &e%% &or the o%dest one in the oo'. #his routine can e used to meet additiona% gir%s. I& you ta%' to the &irst group o& gir%s &or a whi%e and you-re not into them( ha,e them get you in with another group %i'e this) *9U) NI sti%% can-t e%ie,e you &e%% &or my high &i,e =o'e: 4ow many gir%s in here do you thin' wou%d &a%% &or that@N 0I37) N7ots o& gir%s wou%d.N *9U) N4ow a out that gir%@N >"oint to your new target gir%.? 0I37) NI don-t 'now.N *9U) N9G you go stand ne.t to her and I-%% high &i,e you &irst and we-%% see i& she &a%%s &or it.N 8ow go run the routine on a second gir% or group o& gir%s. #a%' to the new gir%>s? unti% the &irst gir% goes away. I& she stays too %ong( it-s =ust ma'es you %oo' coo%er ecause it shows that you ha,e a %ot o& women interested in you.

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LESBIAN DTR OPENER

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!ac'ground) #he acronym ND#3N means NDe&ine #he 3e%ationship.N 4a,ing a D#3 discussionN re&ers to ha,ing a ta%' in which you de&ine your re%ationship using a traditiona% dating %a e% such as Nseeing each other(N Ndating(N or Ngoing out.N In a D#3( it is o&ten the woman who is pushing to e Nmade o&&icia%N as your gir%&riend( ut a D#3 can a%so e used y a man to ecome a woman-s o&&icia% oy&riend. A D#3 discussion can o&ten e tedious and tends to ta'e a%% o& the e.citement out o& a re%ationship( and this is why most men tend to c%am up immediate%y when a woman con&ronts him with a D#3. #he tense( aw'ward nature o& a D#3 creates an e.ce%%ent opportunity &or humor and socia% tension when used as su =ect matter &or an opener. ;se this o&ener when you see a woman you are attracted to !ut she is with a friend and they seem to !e en(rossed in a dee& con"ersation, #his can e a di&&icu%t situation( ecause you might &ee% %i'e you don-t want to interrupt their important discussion. Using the N7es ian D#3 9pener(N you can use the issue o& interruption to your ad,antage and create comedy( attraction( and ro%e p%aying.

*ou) N7adies( I wanted to ta%' to you( ut I can see that you-re in the midd%e o& something ,ery..... intense( so i& this is a %es ian D#3 discussion( I won-t interrupt. Are you guys in the midd%e o& a %es ian D#3 right now@N
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0ir%s) N1hat does D#3 stand &or@N *ou) N*ou don-t 'now this@ I thought a%% gir%s 'new this. D#3 stands &or -de&ine the re%ationship- and it-s asica%%y when one %es ian says to the other %es ian -Are we going out( or are we seeing each other... ecause my &riends ha,e een as'ing me( and my 5om wants to 'now( and I need to 'now i& you-re gonna e serious a out this...N
CONTINGENCY 2

0ir%s) N*eah( we-re %es ians.N >start hugging and touching each other? *ou) N*eah( I 'now. So which one o& you guys is running this D#3@ *ou 'now most %es ians &igure this stu&& out on the Ist or 2nd date. 9h wait( is this your 2nd date@
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#UALITY CONTROL OPENER

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It-s %i'e that o%d =o'e( what does a %es ian ring on her 2nd date@

Strategy) Use this opener &or %arge groups or groups that seem to e particu%ar%y di&&icu%t to rea' into.

*ou) N4i. I-m &rom S ar;restaurant;par'ing garageT 6ua%ity contro%. I-d %i'e to 'now i& your e.perience with us has een A/+3A0+( !+###+3 #4A8 A/+3A0+( or C3A""I+3 #4A8 A/+3A0+@N
At this point( most gir%s wi%% p%ay a%ong and gi,e you a &unny %itt%e re,iew o& the p%ace. #his is 397+ "7A*I80. Using the phrase Ncrappier than a,erageN communicates to the women that this is =ust a &un %itt%e game( and that you-re not rea%%y &rom the 6ua%ity contro% department. CONTINGENCIES:

I. 0ir%s) NIt-s een crappier than a,erage.N *ou) >9,erdramatic? N09D: I-m =ust trying to do my =o here( you guys don-t ha,e to snap at me and hurt my &ee%ings %i'e that.N 2. 0ir%s) NCrappier.N *ou) >6uiet%y? NI 'now. #his p%ace suc's right@ 7isten I-m here &rom centra% and I-m a out to &ire e,eryone in this who%e p%ace. I might e a %e to o&&er you a position. Qust gi,e me a run down o& your specia% ta%ents &irst.N J. 0ir%s) N!etter than a,erage.N *ou) NAre you =ust saying that cause you-re trying to get on my good side@ Aww( that-s so cute. 1e =ust met and you-re %i'e S999 into me a%ready.... >sudden%y get serious? 9G ac' o&& sta%'er.N

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TALKING SHIT OPENER

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Strategy) Create &a'e drama through ro%e p%aying. #he strong emotions o&ten get trans%ated into se.ua% attraction. #he opener comes out o& nowhere( and this intensi&ies the e&&ect.

*ou) >seeming rea%%y serious? NSo I heard you-,e een ta%'ing shit a out me.N 0I37) N1hat@ 4uh@N *9U) N*eah( you-,e een ta%'ing shit...why don-t you SA* I# #9 5* <AC+@@@N >getting a%% &a'e angry?
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0I37) N*eah( that-s right. I-,e een ta%'in- shit.N *9U) 14* D98-# *9U SA* I# #9 5* <AC+::: 0I37) N9h may e I wi%%.N *9U) N*ou wanna ta'e this outside@N 0I37) NUm 8o.N *9U) >to e,eryone around? N94: I DID8-# #4I8G S9 :: I DID8-# #4I8G S9::N
CONTINGENCY #2

0ir%) N*eah( %et-s ta'e this outside.N 9nce in a whi%e you can =ust wa%' outside &rom there and you ha,e instant iso%ation.

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SECRET SHOPPER OPENER

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#his shou%d e used &or waitresses( store c%er's( or any woman who is at wor' and has no time to ta%'. In this situation( you need to wor' ,ery 6uic'%y. Sometimes these women are not a%%owed to gi,e out their num er to customers( or are eing o ser,ed y their osses or co2 wor'ers. #he tone o& the entire interaction shou%d e secreti,e and mischie,ous. #his ma'es it more e.citing and dramatic &or the woman.

YOU: (whispering intimately) "Hey let me tell you a secret, but you have to promise not to tell anyone that works here. O promise!... "#m the secret shopper." $"%&: "%eally!" YOU: "Yes, an' you are all un'er observation right now." (t this point she#s either going to play along or she#s going to leave an' get back to work. &et#s presume she#s playing along. $"%&: ")ell how are we 'oing so *ar." YOU: ('' situational *unny comment such as ")ell listen, our waiter was missing a *ew teeth, so you#re losing points *or that. " can tell you more later. " 'on#t want us getting caught talking about this. " have a *ew comments *or you as well." $"%&: "+o, tell me now." YOU: ",heck it out " gotta get back to the table, but tell me your number an' "#ll te-t you about the results a little later."

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CHAP T ER7 - N EU TRAL OPINION OP EN ERS ANALYZED

!ac'ground) #he neutra% opinion opener is a techni6ue created and re&ined y the Internet Usenet newsgroup a%t.seduction.&ast >AS<? and it-s more ci,i%i$ed we site <astSeduction.com. #his techni6ue is ,ery e&&ecti,e( and has een around &or years. Somehow( it has managed to stay out o& the grasp o& mainstream media despite it-s e&&ecti,eness. AS< and <astSeduction.com ha,e &ue%ed an important men-s mo,ement 'nown as the NSeduction Community.N "remise) #he neutra% opinion opener is an e&&ecti,e way to get a con,ersation started. It is e.ecuted y simp%y wa%'ing up to a woman and as'ing her to gi,e you her opinion on something that women are interested in ta%'ing a out. #here are certain topics that women %o,e to gi,e their opinion on such as) ANYTHING DRA"ATIC: 1ou%d you e,er ta'e a paternity test on Springer@2#opics that pertain to socia% ,a%ue) 1ho-s the hotter Q. 7o or Qessica Simpson@24o%%ywood gossip) Did you hear Qenni&er Aniston =ust got ass imp%ants@ RELATIONSHIP #UESTIONS: 1hy do you thin' men cheat@ GENDER EVALUATIONS: 1ho cheats more( men or women@ I& you use an opinion opener( there is a %ow ris' o& getting re=ected. 1omen =ust can-t resist the opportunity to gi,e their opinion. 1omen %o,e to ma'e up ru%es and e,a%uations a out what is right and wrong( or what is coo% and uncoo%. 4a,ing an opinion gi,es the woman ,a%idation( especia%%y i& someone is there to %isten to it( agree with it( or &ind ,a%ue in it. !y gi,ing you their opinion( the woman &ee%s she is he%ping you as we%% as eing ,a%idated herse%&. Using neutra% opinion openers( you wi%% genera%%y accomp%ish J or A o& the main o =ecti,es) I. !rea'ing the ice2 .ES 2. 0et the gir% ta%'ing2 .ES J. !egin ui%ding or rea'ing rapport2 .ES ui%ding rapport in this case. A. 0et the gir% %aughing2 #A.BE( i& the script is rea%%y &unny or you ha,e &unny de%i,ery. D. !ui%d high socia% ,a%ue2 $O

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ADVANTAGES:

Instant Attraction

8eutra% opinion openers are ,ery easy to de%i,er( and you won-t get rude%y re=ected o&ten when using them. I& you ha,e approach an.iety or need to ui%d genera% con,ersationa% s'i%%s( these can e a great start. LI"ITATIONS: As a eginner( you wi%% o&ten &ind that this type o& opener is ,ery e&&ecti,e in getting the con,ersation started( ut a&ter J minutes you don-t 'now what e%se to say and you end up wa%'ing away empty handed. 9pinion openers o&ten resu%t in an empty( oring con,ersation. #he neutra% opinion opener has een around &or years( ut remains one o& the most misunderstood concepts in this genre o& se%&2he%p. It is important to remem er that the neutra% opinion opener D9+S 89# !UI7D S9CIA7 /A7U+. #hat-s why it-s ca%%ed Nneutra%.N !y design( this type o& opener is intended to ypass the entire issue o& socia% ,a%ue( to Nget you in under the radar.N I& you choose to uti%i$e this type o& opener( 'eep in mind you wi%% need to ui%d socia% ,a%ue in other ways a&ter de%i,ering the opener.

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OPRAH WINFREY OPENER

Instant Attraction

N9G( %et me as' you guys a 6uestion. It-s a rea%%y important 6uestion. Do you thin' 9prah 1in&rey is hot@N Contingency NCause my &riend has this crush on 9prah( and something is =ust not right a out the who%e thing. 4e-s 2D and she-s a chu y midd%e age woman. I-m thin'ing may e he %i'es her &or her money. I mean she does ha,e a %ot o& money. 1ou%d you s%eep with 9prah &or a mi%%ion do%%ars@ 4ow a out ten thousand@ 1hat i& she =ust wanted to cudd%e@ 1ou%d you cudd%e 9prah &or I0 grand@N

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"ONSTER TRUCK OPENER

Instant Attraction

N9G( %et me as' you guys a 6uestion. It-s a rea%%y important 6uestion. 5y &riend is sa,ing &or a monster truc' so he can pic' up gir%s. Do you thin' it-s gonna wor'@ Do gir%s %i'e guys in monster truc's@N Contingency N1hat i& there were &%ames on the sides@ #hen wou%d you e into the monster truc'@ Ginda gay right@ 1hy are tough guys a%ways painting &%ames on their car and getting &%ame tattoos@ #he satin &%amey utton down shirt has to e the worst. I hope you guys ha,e ne,er hoo'ed up with a guy in a &%amey satin shirt:N

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DISNEY "USIC OPENER

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N9G( %et me as' you guys a 6uestion. It-s a rea%%y important 6uestion. 1ou%d you date a guy who %istens to Disney music@N Contingency N5y sister went on a date with this guy and she rea%%y %i'ed him ut then he put on Disney music in the car. She tota%%y stopped %i'ing him a&ter that. I-d go &or a gir% who %istens to N#he Qung%e !oo'N..... ut I thin' I-d draw the %ine at that N1innie the "oohN stu&&. #hat-s a it much. 1here wou%d you draw the %ine@ 4ow a out i& it was *anni ,ersions( and you cou%d are%y te%% it was Disney music@ 9r may e i& Da,id !owie was singing it@N

Instead of using an opinion ,uestion as an opener, why not sa e it for later( -se fe)ale opinion ,uestions whene er you are running out of things to talk about. *ake the opinion ,uestion a part of your con ersational repertoire.

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CHAP T ER - HIGH !ALUEOP EN ERS

Instant Attraction

A high ,a%ue opener is an opener which %atant%y disp%ays high socia% ,a%ue &rom the eginning through direct statements or humor. I& you %i'e to e direct( 4igh /a%ue 9peners may e &or you. Ad,antages) 4igh /a%ue 9peners are the est way to open i& you intend to get se.ua% with the woman 6uic'%y. #hese types o& openers con,ey many Na%pha ma%eN 6ua%ities such as) Immunity to socia% pressure Con&idence 4umor Strong sense o& se%&

4igh /a%ue 9peners tend to resu%t in a higher rate o& immediate re=ection than 9pinion 9peners or Shoc'ers. 1omen wi%% immediate%y ma'e a =udgment on whether or not you ha,e the right to e so direct( and sometimes the answer is no. #his may seem %i'e a ad thing( ut &or someone ad,anced( it is actua%%y an ad,antage. It-s etter to get re=ected in the &irst D seconds and mo,e on than to waste ID minutes to &ind out the gir% is not attracted to you( she =ust wanted to gi,e her opinion and chit chat. 7imitations) 4igh /a%ue 9peners are di&&icu%t to de%i,er. *ou must ha,e e.ce%%ent ody %anguage( sty%e( and de%i,ery or the woman wi%% sense an incongruence etween your identity and your con,ersation. <or men who are ,ery good %oo'ing( 4igh /a%ue 9peners may resu%t in you eing No,er6ua%i&ied.N 1omen want men with socia% ,a%ue e6ua% to or a it higher than their own. I& your socia% ,a%ue is too high( the woman wi%% &ee% uncom&orta %e around you. 4ere-s a great way to understand the concept o& eing N9,er6ua%i&ied.N #hin' a out how you wou%d &ee% i& a ce%e rity wa%'ed into the room right now. *ou-d e a it uncom&orta %e around him or her. *ou-d e a&raid that person wou%d e N=udging youN or Nacting stuc' up.N #hat-s how a woman &ee%s around a man who has socia% ,a%ue that is too high. It-s =ust an uncom&orta %e situation.

If you sense that a wo)an finds you to be .o er,ualified,. that's easy to fix. /ust gi e her a few sincere co)pli)ents and she'll be )ore co)fortable.

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ONLY GIRL OPENER

Instant Attraction

N4ere-s the dea%( I-,e een %oo'ing around this p%ace( and I-,e come to the conc%usion that you are the on%y gir% here who-s cute enough &or me to e,en ta%' to. So great( now we-re ta%'ing.N
LAST WEEK'S LAY

NI thin' I 'now you. Did we ha,e se. %ast wee'@ *+S: It-s you: 9h my 0od: So good to see you again:N Contingencies N4ey sorry I ha,en-t ca%%ed( een rea%%y usy.N N#e%% your &riend I said hi and she was great too.N N8o@ 1asn-t you@ 4mm( you %oo' =ust this gir% I had se. with.....actua%%y ya 'now( I can are%y remem er what she %oo's %i'e at the moment....I was 'inda drun'.... 8o( I-m pretty sure it was you.N

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HEATHER HARRISON (RAPID DELIVERY)

Instant Attraction

#o 0ir% ) N4i.N #o your &riends( her &riends( or ystanders) N4ey guys( chec' it out. #his is 4eather 4arrison. >"ut your arm around her?. 5e and her went to 4igh Schoo% together and I %ost my ,irginity to her at the each when I was ID. *eah( she-s so coo%. I got way too drun' %ater that night and I pu'ed a%% o,er her toes. She has rea%%y nice toes. 1e%% anyway( she-s a great gir%( she too' me home and put me to ed. #hen I ended up ha,ing se. with her &riend a &ew days %ater( it was 'inda &uc'ed up.N #o gir%) N4eather( I-m sorry a out that. Can we sti%% e &riends@N

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CHAP T ER" - LOW !ALUEOP EN ERS
FOR DORKS AND PLAYERS
FOR DORKS:

Instant Attraction

Are you a guy who has a%most no socia% s'i%%@ 8o con&idence in ta%'ing to women@ Socia% pho ias@ *ou are not a%one. 5ost oo's on meeting women do not address the specia% concerns o& this group o& men. As an e.2dor' myse%&( I can appreciate your situation and I ha,e ad,ice that wi%% he%p you. #he main goa% o& de%i,ering openers &or you wi%% e to &ace your &ears and ui%d your com&ort %e,e%. I& you can e com&orta %e ta%'ing to women you don-t 'now( that-s a ig step in the right direction. 4owe,er( con,ersationa% com&ort is not a magic spe%% that wi%% ma'e women get a%% horny &or you right away. *ou ha,e to go through a process o& ui%ding your identity( s%ow%y increasing your com&ort %e,e%( and genera%%y %earning a out women e&ore you wi%% ha,e any rea% success. <or now %oo' at it this way) *ou-re going to de%i,er these openers and see i& you can maintain J2D minutes o& interesting con,ersation with a woman. I& you can do that you wi%% egin to gain con&idence and com&ort. Don-t %ose sight o& the ig picture: #here is wor' to e done on de,e%oping your identity and socia% s'i%%s. 4ere-s a 6uic' %ist o& suggestions( things that wi%% he%p you ui%d your identity in the right direction. I. 3ead the oo' N8o 5ore 5ister 8ice 0uyN y 3o ert A. 0%o,er. 2. 0et some coo% ho ies. #he sorts o& things women &ind se.y. J. 0et therapy. Chances are you ha,e a %ow sense o& se%& worth &rom so many years o& pro %ems. A. +.periment with your appearance. #ry a %oo' that wi%% get you stereotyped as a Nse.y guyN %i'e i'er( rapper( roc'er( artist( %atin %o,er( etc. Don-t try to %oo' a,erage or %end in so much: D. #reat your ody we%%. 1or' out( eat right( get s%eep( don-t into.icate yourse%&. C. 0et some coo%er &riends. *ou-re now on the =ourney to ecoming a etter person. Don-t e surprised when your o%d dor'y &riends start comp%aining that Nyou-,e changed.N *ou-re supposed to change and grow in %i&e. *ou don-t owe it to anyone to stay the same &ore,er. B. #a'e acting %essons. It-s &un( it teaches you great ,oice tone( and it he%ps you get o,er socia% pho ias. #he good news is that eing good with women is a s'i%% anyone can %earn. 5any o& the wor%ds greatest %ady 'i%%ers started o&& as tota% dor's. I& you wor' hard and choose the proper ro%e mode%s( you can increase your success with women dramatica%%y. www. radp.com O radpP radp.com 2L

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FOR PLAYERS:

Instant Attraction

Are you the 'ind o& guy that-s so smooth with women that they get scared o& you or as' you i& you-re a p%ayer in the &irst D minutes@ *ou can use 7ow /a%ue 9peners to reduce your socia% ,a%ue when necessary. *ou can a%so use a 7ow /a%ue 9pener to create an ironic( comica% e&&ect. #he gir% wi%% rea%i$e a&ter a &ew seconds that you-re eing p%ay&u%. #e%%ing No ,ious %iesN is a great comedic de,ice.

PSYCHOLOGIST OPENER

N4i( my name is UUUUUUU and I-m shy. 5y psycho%ogist to%d me that I shou%d go out e,ery day and ta%' to D new peop%e. I decided to ta%' to you ecause you seem nice.N C98#I0+8C*) 0ir%) NAwww( that-s so nice. 4ow many ha,e you ta%'ed to so &ar@N *ou) Nummm...2L.N >proud smi%e?.

KISS OPENER

0et a ag o& 4ershey-s 'isses. 1a%' up to a gir% and %oo' right at her. Don-t way a word. Qust ta'e a 4ershey-s 'iss out o& the ag and hand it to her. "%ayers) "oint to chee'. 0ir% wi%% 'iss you on the chee'. Dor's)N*eah( I go around gi,ing gir%s 'isses a%% day.N

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THU"B WRESTLING OPENER

Instant Attraction

1a%' up to a gir% and put your hand out %i'e you-re going to sha'e her hand. 1hen she puts out her hand( start thum wresting her. Don-t say a word. A&ter you eat her( gi,e the %itt%e Nso2soN hand gesture. Contingencies) I. She thin's your dea&;mute. Qust smi%e and say( no I-m not dea&. I =ust wanted to see i& you cou%d thum wrest%e e&ore I ta%'ed to you. 2. She doesn-t get the idea. She rea%%y thin's you want to sha'e hands. In this case( =ust gra her hand and put it into the thum wrest%ing position. Don-t ta%'. J. She doesn-t want to thum wrest%e( has no time( etc. N4ey( I 'now you-re in a hurry( ut I-m gonna e on +S"8L -#he 9cho- tomorrow in the thum wrest%ing championship and I rea%%y need to practice. I wasn-t gonna te%% you this( ut I used to e on the 9%ympic #hum 1rest%ing #eam. It-s...'ind o& a ig dea%N

0o you ha e proble)s with your oice tone( 1ou can do openers that re,uire little or no speaking until your oice i)pro es. Try the thu)b wrestling and kiss openers out.

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CHAP T ER1# - SITUA TIONAL OP EN ERS

Instant Attraction

A Situationa% 9pener is when you ma'e remar's or o ser,ations a out your surroundings in order to rea' the ice and ui%d common ground. #he est way to de%i,er this type o& opener is to wa%' up and QUS# S#A3# #A7GI80. I& the woman is seated( =ust pu%% up a chair and start ta%'ing. Do not introduce yourse%&. Do not say hi. I& you do( you-re setting o&& an entire chain reaction o& eha,iors in the woman. I ca%% this the N1ho the he%% are youN reaction. 1hi%e you-re usy saying N4i my name is 7arry( and I =ust noticed you guys here and I wanted to te%% you a out something...N the women are thin'ing N1ho the he%% are you@ 1hy are you ta%'ing to us@N #hen they wi%% egin to si$e you up( trying to &igure out i& you are coo% enough to e interacting with. 8ow you might ha,e a pro %em. #he women ha,e started to screen you( 6ua%i&y you( as' you 6uestions( test you( chec' out your appearance. #hey-re %oo'ing &or A8* SI08 that you might e a %oser. #hey-re concerned that your presence may detract &rom their socia% ,a%ue. 1omen are /+3* C98C+38+D a out their percei,ed socia% ,a%ue. #hey put a great dea% o& wor' into ui%ding socia% ,a%ue. #hey don-t want to e seen with anyone who might %ower it and ruin their hard wor'. !y s'ipping the introduction( you s'ip o,er the entire process o& ha,ing women 6ua%i&y you. #his is ca%%ed NASSU5I80 3A""93#.N !y assuming rapport( you disp%ay high ,a%ue. *ou are communicating to the women that there is no possi i%ity o& you eing a %oser. *ou o ,ious%y must e coo% enough to ta%' to. It-s not e,en something that cou%d e 6uestioned. I-%% say it again. S'ip the introduction. Don-t say hi. Don-t say N5y name is...N QUS# S#A3# #4+ 9"+8+3. Start as i& you-re a%ready in the midd%e o& a con,ersation. Instead o& 6uestioning your ,a%ue( the women wi%% e thin'ing a out what you-re saying. I can-t gi,e you tons and tons o& Situationa% 9peners here( ecause the who%e point is that you shou%d e ma'ing them up in response to your surroundings( ut here are a &ew strategies to he%p you generate situationa% openers. A%% o& these e.amp%es are openers that I-,e generated and used in rea% situations.

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SHARED ENTHUSIAS"

Instant Attraction

*ou can 6uic'%y create common ground and e.citement y commenting on something in your surroundings and eing e.cited a out it. +.amp%e) I lo"e this song: Do you %o,e this song@ #e%% me you don-t %o,e this song: #he women wi%% a%most a%ways agree. *ou can 6uic'%y ad,ance the interaction y ha,ing a sing a%ong or dancing with them. #his is a ,ery easy opener and it wor's a%most e,ery time. *ou can customi$e it &or any situation. In a restaurant you can say I lo"e &ried dump%ings. *ou guys are eating my &a,orite &ood. 4ow did you 'now.... In 1a%25art you can say I lo"e 5artha Stuart-s c%othing %ine.... *ou get the idea.

RIDDLE STYLE
A Situationa% 9pener can o&ten ta'e the &orm o& a ridd%e. Kui$ the women on something that-s going on around you. #hen y trying to answer the ridd%e and ,a%idate themse%,es( they are see'ing your appro,a% as we%%.

INTERNET DATE (RIDDLE STYLE)

N9G so I wa%' up to the ar =ust now and I see this guy wa%' up to a gir% and they introduce themse%,es to each other. #hen they start ta%'ing a out wor' and stu&& %i'e they 'now each other a%ready. Isn-t that weird. 1hy wou%d they e doing introductions i& they a%ready 'now each other@ 4e 'nows where she wor's( she 'nows where he wor's( ut they-re tota%%y sti&& %i'e they =ust met. 1hat do you thin' that means@N A8S1+3) #hey-re on an internet date.
CO""ON THE"ES
Situationa% 9peners can a%so ta'e the &orm o& something e,eryone has in common( %i'e watching #/. #he 'ey is to wa%' up and start ta%'ing a out this %i'e it-s =ust occurring to you( %i'e you-re =ust thin'ing out %oud. Again( don-t introduce yourse%& or say hi( =ust start in the midd%e.

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CARSON DAILY OPENER (CO""ON THE"E)

Instant Attraction

N1hat.....the he%%.... is up with Carson Da%y@ #hat guy-s =ust not &unny. 4ow did he get his own show@ I watched the who%e thing =ust to gi,e it a chance and I didn-t %augh once. It was pain&u% to watch. #hey must pay the audience to show up and %augh. #hey ne,er show the audience either( there-s pro a %y on%y I0 peop%e there. And what-s up with his &orehead@ It-s huge. *ou cou%d show a mo,ie on that guy-s &orehead....N
CUSTO"I!ED TO THE GROUP
*ou can create an opener that ma'es re&erence to your target group. I usua%%y do this y as'ing i& they are some &amous singing group. >#o J %ac' gir%s? N9h 5y 0od:: Are you Destiny-s Chi%d@N >#o A white gir%s? N9h 5y 0od:: Are you guys the Spice 0ir%s@N >#o a group with guys and gir%s? N9h 5y 0od: Are you the !%ac' +yed "eas@N Ad"anta(es@ Situationa% 9peners wi%% ne,er sound NscriptedN or e.pose an incongruence. #hey wi%% usua%%y get the gir% to ta%' to you. Situationa% openers are a%so great &or opening groups o& gir%s or groups that contain men and women. I& you are an e.ceptiona%%y creati,e person( Situationa% 9peners can wor' e,en etter than scripted openers. Limitations@ #hese openers are di&&icu%t to create on the &%y( especia%%y i& you-re ner,ous.

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CHAP T ER11 - COLD R EADS

Instant Attraction

A Co%d 3ead is when you wa%' up to a woman and start te%%ing her a%% 'inds o& insight&u% things a out herse%&. It-s a%most %i'e a psychic reading. 5ost peop%e %o,e to e ana%y$ed in an insight&u% way( so women wi%% usua%%y en=oy a Co%d 3eading. I& your Co%d 3ead is particu%ar%y insight&u%( the woman wi%% thin' you ha,e ama$ing powers o& o ser,ation and great psychic energy. 3ead a woman accurate%y and you ui%d high socia% ,a%ue immediate%y. 4ow to &ormu%ate) Co%d 3eads are not easy to create. 4ere-s a &ew tips) I. 7oo' &or c%ues a out her persona%ity in her c%othing and ody %anguage. 2. 7earn a%% sorts o& secret in&o a out women y reading up( then use this in the co%d reading. #his type o& in&o is ca%%ed a N<ema%e truism.N <ema%e truisms are %itt%e 'nown &acts that app%y to a%most a%% women. *ou can present something as a &ema%e truism e,en i& it is a wide%y 'nown &act( =ust phrase it in a more mystica% way. *ou can a%so use something that a%% women 'now( ut no one wi%% e,er ta%' a out. <or e.amp%eH most attracti,e women go on a %ot o& dates ut %ose interest 6uic'%y. J. 0i,e in&o that contains a su t%e comp%iment. 8ote) I said SU!#7+: Do not use %atant or o ,ious comp%iments %i'e N*ou-re ,ery pretty.N It is tota%%y oring and ruins any chance you ha,e o& ui%ding socia% ,a%ue. 4ere-s an e.amp%e o& a su t%e comp%iment) N*ou-re the 'ind o& person who 'nows what she wants( you =ust don-t a%ways 'now how to get it.N Su t%e comp%iments are a techni6ue o&ten used y psychics to con,ince customer that they can read the &uture. #hey-%% say NSomeday you-re going to ,ery rich. I can see it in my mind.N 1ho wou%dn-t want to e%ie,e in a psychic who to%d them they-d e ,ery rich@ "sychics te%% peop%e what they want to hear. #hen the customers 1A8# to e%ie,e. 7earn to use this techni6ue yourse%& and your co%d reads wi%% e 'ic'2ass: 5ost peop%e choose to e%ie,e in&ormation that matches up we%% with what they a%ready 'now a out themse%,es and re=ect in&ormation that con&%icts with their se%& image. #hat-s human nature. During a Co%d 3ead( you te%% the woman things she wants to hear( insight&u% things( and &ema%e truisms. 7earn to phrase those ingredients in a coo%( mystica%( 'nowing &ashion( and you-%% e a %e to de%i,er some great Co%d 3eads.

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SERIAL DATER (FE"ALE TRUIS")

Instant Attraction

NI can te%% =ust y the way you-re standing there that you are the 'ind o& gir% who goes on a %ot o& dates ut has trou %e &inding someone you actua%%y are interested in. +,ery time you thin' you-,e &ound that person( you usua%%y %ose interest ,ery 6uic'%y and sometimes you don-t e,en 'now why. Is that right@N
YOU'RE GONNA BE RICH (FUN TO BELIEVE IN)

NI-m getting this ,i e &rom you that you-re the 'ind o& person who isn-t materia%istic. *ou don-t care too much a out money( ut you a%ways end up ha,ing enough to get y. 5oney =ust &inds you. Someday you-re going to e ,ery rich comp%ete%y y accident. I-m a %itt%e it psychic sometimes( and I can see it.N
SUDDEN FASHION EVALUATION
>teasing with rapid de%i,ery and mu%tip%e pop cu%ture re&erences?

9G %et-s see what we ha,e here. >Stop( %oo' the gir% up and down.? 9G you-,e got the 8ine 1est shoes &rom %ast spring( those are cute( ut the s'irt is screaming new2wa,e2amish. *our hair is got that 6uasi emo thing( it-s %i'e ha%&way etween #he 5ars /o%ta and Death Ca &or Cutie. #ota%%y hot. 8ow the shirt is that who%e 5adonna thing) "ost 7i'e a /irgin( ut pre 7i'e A "rayer. Are you with me here@ Do you 'now that era o& 5adonna-s shirts@N

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CHAP T ER12 - HOW TOUSETHIS INFORMA TION

4ere-s an easy chart to he%p you choose what wi%% wor' est &or you.

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Instant Attraction

8ow that you 'now a%% the est opening %ines( it-s time &or you to try a &ew out( see what wor's est &or you( and choose 2 or J that you-%% use a%% the time. #here-s no need to memori$e 20 opening %ines( it-s etter to ha,e 2 or J Nde&au%t openersN that you are ,ery com&orta %e with. 1hen you see a woman you want to approach( there-s no time to sort through 20 openers to &ind that Nper&ect one.N Qust go with something you-re com&orta %e with( your de&au%t opener. Don-t e that weird guy who sits there and stares &or I0 minutes trying to thin' o& something to say. I& you see a gir% you want to ta%' to( go do it immediate%y. I rea%%y want you to remem er these important princip%es( e,en when you-re out in pu %ic and you-re &ee%ing ner,ous( so I-m going to ma'e a &ew ru%es.

RULE #1: PREPARE 2 OPENERS BEFORE GOING OUT$

5ore than 2 openers is too much to remem er. 5a'e it easy. Qust use 2. I-,e taught a great many men how to approach women( and I-,e noticed a tendency to o,er thin' your opening %ine. Usua%%y N&inding the per&ect openerN is =ust an e.cuse to a,oid the approach ecause you-re scared. Don-t e an e.cuser: 0et your de&au%t openers &igured out in ad,ance: #hen when the time comes( =ump right in:

RULE #2: GO IN RIGHT AWAY$

Don-t sit and stare. Don-t wait around. Don-t thin' too hard.

RULE #3: TRY EACH OPENER AT LEAST % TI"ES BEFORE DISCARDING IT$
*ou wi%% e impro,ing your de%i,ery with e,ery approach. Don-t panic i& the &irst approach doesn-t wor' out. #he success o& your opener has e,erything to with de%i,ery. I& it doesn-t wor' the &irst try( don-t worry. *ou =ust ha,e to get your de%i,ery down and things wi%% wor' out &ine. A&ter I0 or 20 attempts( you-%% &ind that your de%i,ery wi%% impro,e 6uite a %ot. #he in&ormation presented here is intended to stimu%ate your creati,ity and gi,e you a &ramewor' &or creating openers and a repertoire o& con,ersation. +.perimenting with these openers and other types o& scripted routines wi%% he%p you interna%i$e the attitudes that are attracti,e to women. 9nce you you ha,e interna%i$ed these attitudes( you might choose to %ea,e the scripts ehind. 9r you may choose to create your own scripted materia%. #his is a step in the right direction( as you wi%% e more com&orta %e with things &rom your own e.perience. 8ow wou%d e a good time to stop reading and go try some o& these openers out. *ou can come read the rest o& the oo' %ater. Doing a &ew approaches wi%% gi,e you a%%ow you to process the remaining in&ormation in a more meaning&u% way.

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A&ter you-,e done a &ew approaches( you-%% start to notice that things don-t a%ways go as p%anned. Sometimes you-%% e dea%t a strange hand and you ha,e to ma'e 6uic' decisions on what to do. Sometimes it-s good to change strategies. 9ther times it-s etter to =ust p%ow through ad,ersity without %etting it get to you. #here is a tendency &or eginners to get too wrapped up in thin'ing a out worst case scenarios. #he &ear o& approaching mani&ests itse%& in many su t%e ways. !eginners o&ten engage in creati,e a,oidance. #his is when your rain wi%% ta'e any sma%% o stac%e and %ow it out o& proportion in order to pre,ent you &rom approaching. Creati,e a,oidance is an ama$ing phenomenon. It ta'es away your a i%ity to thin' rationa%%y. I-m going to wa%' you through a &ew situations that students o&ten as' me a out and try to dispe% the irrationa% thin'ing that might e resu%ting &rom creati,e a,oidance.

PERCEIVED PROBLE": SHE'S WITH A GUY$

#yth@ #hey must e dating. Reality@ It-s a out a D0;D0 chance. *ou can easi%y &ind out whether they-re dating. I& they-re not( you stand a etter chance o& creating attraction y approaching her in &ront o& the other guy than i& you approached her a%one. I 'now this pro a %y seems %i'e a dea% rea'er to you right now. <or a eginner( approaching a woman who-s with another man seems %i'e a terri %e idea. It-s actua%%y not as ig o& a dea% as you might thin'. Don-t automatica%%y assume that she-s with her oy&riend. 1omen go out a%% the time with p%atonic ma%e &riends( cowor'ers( or &ami%y mem ers. I-m going to %et you in on a &ew seduction secrets so you can ma'e these situations wor' &or you. #hese are secrets that a%% women 'now( yet 99E o& men are in the dar' a out. Seduction Secret A/@ 1omen %i'e to e approached in &ront o& a ma%e companion. It resu%ts in a high sta'es( dramatic situation. #his actua%%y increases the chances o& her getting attracted to you. 1omen consider it an act o& e.traordinary ra,ery i& you are a %e to approach her with another man there. +,en i& it does turn out to e her oy&riend( she wi%% o&ten ecome uncontro%%a %y attracted to you ecause o& the sheer courage it too' to do the approach. 1omen respect men who are o%d and courageous. Despite the &act that she has a socia% o %igation to the other man( she wi%% o&ten ecome attracted to you. 1omen are &re6uent%y una %e to contro% who they are attracted to. Seduction Secret A1@ 1omen go out a%% the time with guys they are not interested in. #hey use these %oser guys &or &ree dates( attention( socia% networ'ing( entertainment( or to a,oid going out a%one. #hese guys are ca%%ed or iters. An or iter-s primary dating strategy is to get into a &riend re%ationship with a woman( and then esca%ate it into a romantic re%ationship %ater. #his is a ,ery ine&&ecti,e dating strategy and most women ha,e %itt%e respect &or guys who try to e&riend and date.

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Attracti,e women 'eep co%%ections o& or iters. I& you are %uc'y enough to approach a woman who is out with an or iter( you-,e hit the =ac'pot. Compared to him( you %oo' %i'e a tota% stud i& you can do a ha%&way decent approach. Any time you approach a woman who is out with another guy there are a num er o& possi i%ities) I. It-s her oy&riend;hus and. 2. It-s an or iter. J. It-s a p%atonic &riend. A. It-s her gay &riend. D. It-s a &ami%y mem er. #he &irst thing you need to do is determine which situation you-re dea%ing with. 4ere-s a &ew strategies to get things started. I. +ngage the guy in sma%% ta%' or guy ta%'. A&ter a minute or two( as' 4ow do you two 'now each other. #his is considered a ,ery norma% 6uestion( so don-t e a&raid to as'. 1arning) !e sure that the guy is %istening and paying attention when you as' this. I& the woman is attracted to you( she wi%% o&ten %ie a out whether she-s with her oy&riend. #his has happened to me many times. 2. 0o direct%y in and approach the gir% as you norma%%y wou%d. Due to the o%dness o& your approach( many times the other guy wi%% =ust stand there and do nothing. 5ost men ha,e een trained to e socia%%y passi,e and con&%ict a,erse. I& he-s the acti,e type( get him in,o%,ed in the opener. <or e.amp%e( i& you are doing the 9prah 1in&rey opener( as' him &or his opinion on whether 9prah is hot. #hen &ind out how they 'now each other. I& she-s with her oy&riend( one o& them wi%% te%% you. Don-t &rea' out. #a'e your time. Qust say 9h that-s rea%%y coo%. #hen wrap up the con,ersation and mo,e on. 9r may e stic' around a &ew minutes and see i& they ha,e more women in their socia% group. #here is a tendency to thin' that e,ery time you see a man and woman out together( they are dating. #his is not rea%istic. #his is an inaccurate assumption many times. Stop assuming and &ind out the rea% truth. 8e.t time you &ind yourse%& assuming that a woman is dating the guy she-s with( as' yourse%& Is this creati,e a,oidance@ Creati,e a,oidance is a ad ha it and most peop%e do it a%% the time. I& you can identi&y creati,e a,oidance when it happens( you stand a etter chance o& o,ercoming your &ear o& approaching. 0o in and &ind out what the rea%ity o& the situation is. *ou-,e spent a %ot o& time reading and %earning a out approaching women. *ou owe it to yourse%& to dea% with rea%ity( not inaccurate &antasies inspired y &ear.

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PERCEIVED PROBLE": WHAT IF SHE SAYS &OH IS THAT A PICKUP LINE' I'VE HEARD THIS ONE BEFORE$(
#yth@ 1omen hate pic'up %ines and they 'eep a master data ase o& them so they can catch you in the act. +,ery month there-s a news%etter women can read where they e.pose a%% o& our pic'up %ines. Reality@ 1omen %i'e it when you approach them. #hey pay no attention at a%% to oo's %i'e the one you-re reading right now. #he chances o& this happening are e.treme%y s%im. +,en though it-s a IE chance( many students sti%% consider it a &rightening possi i%ity. Don-t %et it throw you. #his can e the eginning o& a &un interaction i& you p%ay it right. 4ere-s a &ew easy come ac's) *es( it-s a pic'up %ine. 8ow you e the gir% and I-%% e the guy. 7et-s start again. >repeat opener or use a di&&erent opener? 9h( you-,e heard it@ 9' how a out this one@ >start another opener? 1ow you caught me. *ou must e an e.pert on pic'ing up guys to ha,e 'nown that one. 9r do you usua%%y pic' up gir%s@ Another thing you can do is minimi$e the accusation and =ust start another opener without rea'ing stride. A &ew wee's ago I was teaching a wor'shop and I ran into a situation %i'e this. Sometimes I %et the students pic' out a gir% &or me to approach and choose what opener &rom this oo' they-d %i'e to see me use. 5y student chose a woman who had a%ready een approached with the Disney opener. Sure enough( I went in with the Disney opener and she said I =ust heard this D minutes ago. I said Aha( was it the guy in the trench coat@ #hat-s our &riend. 1e-,e een ta%'ing a out this... 4ey do you 'now who 9prah 1in&rey is@ Do you thin' she-s hot@ I had her num er in under D minutes.

PERCEIVED PROBLE": HER BOYFRIEND WALKS IN IN THE "IDDLE OF US TALKING$

#yth@ #he guy is going to 'ic' my ass. Reality@ I& you don-t o,erreact to this( it-s not a pro %em at a%%. #his is not the end o& the wor%d. Don-t panic. 0et his input on whate,er the two o& you were ta%'ing a out. 0et him in,o%,ed in the con,ersation. Determine what their re%ationship is. #hen respond according%y. #his e.act scenario happened tome two nights ago in 7as /egas. I approached a woman using Did we s%eep together %ast wee'@ She %o,ed the opener. She p%ayed a%ong and then to%d me it was the most origina% approach she-s e,er seen. J0 seconds %ater( in wa%'s her oy&riend. I said to him Chec' this out man( I-m going to show you the greatest pic'up %ine 'nown to man.... 4is gir%&riend %aughed and said 9h you gotta hear this one. #he oy&riend wasn-t angry at a%%( he thought it was a &un con,ersation and %ater in the night the coup%e he%ped me meet a &ew other women. www. radp.com O radpP radp.com A0

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#yth@ #his happens a%% the time. Reality@ #his a%most ne,er happens.

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PERCEIVED PROBLE": WHAT IF I GET IN A FIGHT WHILE DOING APPROACHES'

It is high%y unusua% &or &ighting or ,io%ence to resu%t &rom approaching women. I-,e approached thousands o& women and I ha,en-t een in one sing%e &ight as a resu%t. I-,e had a &ew guys get %oud with me( ut this on%y happens when me and the gir% ha,e our hands a%% o,er each other. As %ong as you-re =ust ta%'ing( you ha,e nothing to worry a out. I don-t want you dwe%%ing on this too much since it-s a minuscu%e possi i%ity( ut I-%% gi,e a &ew thoughts on the topic =ust in case. #o &ight or not to &ight is something you must decide &or yourse%&. <or me( it-s etter to ta%' my way out o& it so I can continue meeting hot women and ha,ing a great time. I& you rea%%y want to %earn a out &ighting( %earn &rom an e.pert on &ighting( not an e.pert on dating. 4ere-s some steps you can ta'e to a,oid &ighting when threatened. #he goa% is to a,oid the &ight and come out %oo'ing e,en coo%er than e&ore. Don-t ac' down in your ody %anguage( stand ta%%. Use ca%m( de&using %anguage %i'e) N4ey man we don-t ha,e to do this( I ha,e %i'e C guys with me(N N1e were =ust chit chatting( it-s no ig dea%(N or NI can see why you-re mad( ut no ody to%d me that was your gir%&riend.N 8one o& this is direct%y con&rontationa% or disrespect&u%( ut it does indicate you are ta'ing charge and are o& higher ,a%ue than him. Don-t say ca%m down. #hat-s a%ways the worst thing you can say to an angry person. It-s condescending and ma'es the person e,en more irate. I& he-s ta%'ing and ye%%ing( it usua%%y means he doesn-t want to &ight( he =ust wants to e.press anger or get in a shouting match. Qust %et him ye%%. Do not sho,e( do not esca%ate physica%%y. Do not touch him. 5ost times he wi%% not touch you e,en i& he-s ye%%ing in your &ace. #hat-s how you 'now it-s pro a %y not going to e a &ight. I& it-s going to e a rea% &ight( peop%e usua%%y =ust start swinging and there is no warning at a%%. #his is the worst case scenario. 3emem er( i& you physica%%y shrin' away &rom the guy with your ody %anguage( you increase the chance o& him swinging at you. 4e-%% &ee% %i'e he-s =ust gonna hand you an ass whooping and it-s gonna e &un. I& you don-t &%inch he-%% thin' he might %ose the radpP radp.com AI

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&ight. #his is why your ody %anguage shou%d not e ac'ing down( ut your 193DS shou%d e de&using the situation. *ou on%y ha,e to stand ta%% and stay ca%m &or a &ew seconds and then some third party wi%% usua%%y =ump in and pu%% the guy away. At that point you gain coo%ness points &or not &ighting( yet not ac'ing down either. I did this a &ew months ac' and when it was o,er a super tough 8a,y Sea% to%d me he rea%%y admired how I hand%ed the situation. 1hen you ta%' your way out o& a &ight this way( you %oo' e,en tougher than the guy who threatened you. "eop%e wi%% specu%ate that you cou%d ha,e 'i%%ed the guy( ut you =ust didn-t rea%%y care enough to other with him. #he women wi%% ne,er ac' you up( e,en i& they %i'e you more. #hey are spectators to the entire situation. I& anyone is con&rontationa% toward the gir%s you are with( immediate%y =ump in &ront o& your gir%s. 0et etween them and the threat. 1omen thin' this is 49####:

PERCEIVED PROBLE": SHE'S WITH A GROUP$

#yth@ *ou can-t approach women in groups. Reality@ *ou can approach anyone you want( anytime you want. #his is another source o& creati,e a,oidance. 5ost o& the openers in this oo' wor' etter on groups than they do on a woman y herse%&. Qust e sure you-re a%%owing the entire group to ta'e part in the discussion. <or e.amp%e( i& you-re doing the 4orse 0ir% Shoc'er( e sure you ma'e %itt%e side comments to other peop%e in the group. As %ong as the who%e group is interested in what you-re saying( you ha,e nothing to worry a out. I& you ha,e we%% de,e%oped presence and ody %anguage( sometimes the group wi%% ecome so interested in your opener that they ecome a%most %i'e an audience. "ut on a per&ormance. 5a'e it entertaining. 8o one can raise o =ections i& the group is genuine%y entertained y your story.

PERCEIVED PROBLE": I FEEL LIKE I'" INTERRUPTING$

Use the %es ian D#3 opener.

PERCEIVED PROBLE": SHE SEE"S BUSY$

1omen are a%most a%ways interested in meeting an attracti,e guy. +,en i& they seem usy. I& she has headphones on( =ust start ta%'ing and she wi%% pro a %y ta'e them o&&. It is e,en possi %e to approach women whi%e they are on their ce%% phone. It-s a %ow percentage maneu,er( ut it can wor'.

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PERCEIVED PROBLE": SHE SAYS SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND$

#his can mean se,era% di&&erent things. Sometimes women say I ha,e a oy&riend ecause they want you to go away. #his is not a%ways the case. I ha,e a oy&riend can imp%y any o& the &o%%owing) 1e need to 'eep it a secret i& we hoo' up. I& we-re going to ha,e se.( we ha,e to do it within the ne.t ID minutes( and don-t e.pect to e,er see me again. 5y &ami%y and &riends pressured me so much to get a oy&riend that I got one =ust to shut them up( ut I don-t e,en %i'e him. I =ust ring him to &ami%y parties so peop%e wi%% stay o&& my ac'. It-s up to you to read the signa%s and %oo' &or cues in the conte.t o& the interaction. Don-t automatica%%y assume that e,ery woman who te%%s you she has a oy&riend wants you to get %ost.

PERCEIVED PROBLE": SHE'S WALKING AND I DON'T KNOW HOW TO GET HER TO STOP$
#his is an easy one. #here-s a step y step process to meeting a woman who-s wa%'ing down the street. I-,e seen students do this on their &irst try. I. Geep your eyes high. !e aware o& the space J0 &eet in &ront o& you as you wa%'. 2. 1hen you spot a woman you-re interested in( get one o& your de&au%t openers ready. J. 1hen you are I0 &eet away &rom her( start the opener. Spea' %oud%y to get her attention. I& you start &rom %ess than I0 &eet( there wi%% not e enough time &or her to rea%i$e that someone is ta%'ing to her and she wi%% =ust 'eep wa%'ing. A. <rom D &eet away you wi%% pro a %y need to repeat the eginning o& the opener. #he &irst time is =ust to get her attention. D. 8ow that you are within J &eet( stand direct%y in &ront o& her so that you are dominating her &ie%d o& ,ision. I& she tries to wa%' y( step direct%y in her path. C. 8ow that you ha,e her attention( &inish your opener and proceed as you norma%%y wou%d.

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#yth@ It means she doesn-t %i'e me.

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PERCEIVED PROBLE": SHE KEEPS SAYING WEIRD THINGS TRYING TO THROW "E OFF$

Reality@ 5ost women =ust act %i'e a smart ass to see i& you-re man%y enough to withstand attac's. #hat-s how women are. #his is the dance o& dating. *ou try to pursue the woman in some way( she 'eeps doing things to throw you o&&. #his is norma% and has een happening &or mi%%ions o& years. Qust do your est to 'eep her &ocused and contro% the con,ersation. A more ad,anced s'i%% &or this is <rame Contro%. *ou can %earn &rame contro% &rom my audio CD series Underground Dating Seminar. 9G you got a%% that@ It-s now o&&icia%( you-re not a%%owed to wimp out on your approaches &or any o& the reasons %isted here. She out with a guy@ She-s out with a group@ She-s &air game. I& you-re sti%% ta%'ing yourse%& out o& doing the approach( that-s pro a %y creati,e a,oidance messing with your head.

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CHAP T ER14 - APPROACH AN$IE TY

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8ot e,eryone has approach an.iety. I& you ha,e a%ready started your approaches and you are not ha,ing a pro %em with approach an.iety( p%ease s'ip Chapters IA and ID. 5ost guys do get approach an.iety when they &irst start out. #he amount o& an.iety ,aries tremendous%y. <or some( it-s =ust a matter o& getting warmed up and you can wor' through it. 9thers ta'e se,era% months to get o,er their &ear. #hen there are peop%e who are una %e to wor' through approach an.iety no matter how hard they try. I& you &ind yourse%& una %e to wor' through it( there-s a chance you might ha,e something more serious ca%%ed socia% an.iety. I ha,e a system &or de&eating socia% an.iety a,ai%a %e here.

APPROACH ANXIETY DONT'S

I& you ha,e a simp%e case o& approach an.iety( here-s a &ew tips on wor'ing through it. 7et-s start with what not to do when you &ee% approach an.iety) 'onBt start ta%'ing to your wingman a out who-s the greatest pic'up artist e,er and comparing and contrasting di&&erent sty%es o& opening. Sa,e that &or another day. It-s %i'e%y that the two o& you are pro,iding each other with an e.cuse not to approach. 'onBt start cyc%ing through D or I0 openers in your head searching &or that per&ect one. I ca%% this o,er2ca%i rating. 5ost o& the openers in this oo' can wor' in any setting. 9nce you start cyc%ing through di&&erent openers and specu%ating on which one wou%d e right in this setting( you can easi%y &a%% into a pattern o& doing nothing. #o a,oid o,er2ca%i rating( you shou%d pic' 2 de&au%t openers at the eginning o& the night and =ust use those 2. Don-t ma'e things more comp%icated then they need to e. 'onBt ma'e negati,e assumptions %i'e she wou%d ne,er go &or a guy %i'e me. Qust go do your approach.

APPROACH ANXIETY "USTS

4ere-s what you should do) !e socia%. #a%' to strangers. #a%' to whoe,er is around. 4igh &i,e a &at gir%. Spread as much =oy and happiness as you can. Use 2 de&au%t openers. Do J warm up approaches. #hese are throwaways. It doesn-t matter what the resu%t is( the point is =ust to get yourse%& in a socia% mood. 9nce you do three warm ups( approach an.iety usua%%y su sides.

I& you stic' to these &undamenta%s( things wi%% usua%%y &a%% into p%ace nice%y.

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It a%so he%ps to ha,e a good idea what your priorities are &or the night and what p%an you-re going to &o%%ow. I 'now &or me( the most important goa% is to ha,e &un. #he 2nd most important goa% is to %earn some new things a out women and a out peop%e in genera%. #he third priority is to meet one or two great women and &orm a rea% connection with them. In order to achie,e these goa%s( I-m going to &o%%ow the same procedure e,ery time. I. I-m going to approach J women =ust to get myse%& in a good mood. I =ust want to get my socia% s'i%%s warmed up. I don-t rea%%y care i& these approaches %ead to anything. I don-t rea%%y care i& the women are coo% or interesting. I =ust want to start ta%'ing to peop%e to get into a socia% mood. 2. I-m going to approach B2I0 more women using the openers in this oo'. I wrote these openers so I 'now they-re going to e &un &or me. J. I e.pect that out o& those I0 approaches( a out 2 women are going to comp%ete%y re=ect me. #hen A others wi%% turn out to e oring and it wi%% go nowhere. #hen there wi%% A women who get ,ery attracted to me and spar's wi%% start to &%y. A. 9ut o& these &ina% A candidates( I wi%% pro a %y ta'e phone num ers &rom J o& them( and ta'e the other one home within a &ew hours. #hat-s my procedure( and I &o%%ow it e,ery time I go out. 1hen you start to go out a%% the time to meet women( you-%% start to &o%%ow your own procedure. #his he%ps you get through approach an.iety.

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CHAP T ER15 - FEAR OF RE%EC TION

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#he &ear o& re=ection is a huge o stac%e &or guys who are =ust getting started in approaching women. 7i'e e,eryone e%se( I-,e gone through my own att%es with this &ear. #here ha,e een times when I went out to approach women and &e%t so scared that I on%y spo'e to I or 2 peop%e in D hours. It too' me a &ew wee's to o,ercome the &ear o& re=ection when I &irst started. !y ta'ing consistent action( the &ear wi%% s%ow%y &ade. I-m going to %et you in on a &ew 'ey princip%es so you can wor' your way through this &ear. It-s di&&icu%t to ma'e the &ear disappear comp%ete%y( ut i& you 'eep these princip%es in mind( your &ear wi%% e managea %e and wi%% not hurt your de,e%opment. It wou%d pro a %y ta'e thousands o& approaches &or you to come to these conc%usions yourse%&( so try to stay with me here and 'eep an open mind( e,en i& this ma'es %itt%e sense at &irst.

RE)ECTION IS YOUR FRIEND$ FEARFUL PARALYSIS IS YOUR ENE"Y$

1hen you ma'e the decision that you-re going to wor' on your dating %i&e( you ma'e a commitment to yourse%&. *ou are ma'ing a commitment to impro,e the 6ua%ity o& your %i&e and you ha,e to understand that success does not come without a price. #here wi%% e success&u% moments where you-re in ed with some ama$ing woman you =ust met( and you can-t e%ie,e how ama$ing your %i&e has ecome. *ou-%% end up in re%ationships with women who you wou%d ha,e thought were out o& your %eague. *ou-%% &ee% %i'e a roc' star. *ou-%% e standing on top o& the wor%d. #here wi%% a%so e moments o& em arrassment where some woman shuts you down %oud%y in pu %ic. #here wi%% e moments o& pain when you-re standing in some random ar &i%%ed with &ear ecause you 'now you ha,e to do I0 approaches tonight in order to &u%&i%% the promise you-,e made to yourse%&. 5ost o& the pain and em arrassment comes in the eginning( when you-re sti%% %earning the ropes. 0etting %aid %i'e a roc'star comes %ater( a&ter you-,e paid your dues. In the eginning( you wi%% go through a process o& ecoming desensiti$ed to &ear and em arrassment.

RE)ECTION FORCES YOU TO GET SO"E BALLS$

#he MI most important thing you can do to increase your success with women is get some a%%s. I& you had that( you-d e a %e to approach I00 women a day i& you wanted to. *ou wou%dn-t e phased y &ear o& re=ection. *ou wou%dn-t stand there &retting a out the ,ague possi i%ity that her ,io%ent oy&riend is a out to appear. *ou wou%dn-t get thrown o&& y women who test you. *ou wou%dn-t e scared away y groups o& peop%e and socia% situations. #his is the &irst reason why re=ection is your &riend. A&ter you-,e een re=ected I0 or ID times( the &ear starts to go away. As the &ear &ades( you ecome a etter person. *ou endow yourse%& with a specia% power that ,ery &ew men e,er e.perience) the power to approach a woman without &earing re=ection. www. radp.com O radpP radp.com AB

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1ith e,ery approach you ma'e( you get a %itt%e it c%oser to eing that power&u% person. 1ith e,ery re=ection you endure( the pain and em arrassment a&&ects you %ess and %ess. Su&&ering &rom pain and em arrassment is a choice. *ou can choose to su&&er( or you can choose to %augh it o&&. It-s up to you. I used to choose su&&ering. I-d sit there worrying a out who was %istening and what they might thin' a out me. A&ter enduring hundreds o& re=ections I rea%i$ed that it didn-t matter who was %istening or what they thought o& me. It was on%y a&ter this rea%i$ation occurred that I egan to e.perience the highest %e,e%s o& success with women. 8ow that I-,e reached the pinnac%e o& success in this area o& %i&e( I can honest%y say that I don-t ha,e any regrets. I owe much o& my success to the women who re=ected me %oud%y in pu %ic. 1ithout them( I wou%dn-t ha,e the a%%s to do some o& the cra$y stu&& I do.

RE)ECTION IS YOUR FRIEND BECAUSE IT "AKES THE FEAR GO AWAY$

1hen your &ear goes away( you start to emanate a new 'ind o& energy that women are e.treme%y attracted to. It-s unusua% &or a woman to meet a man who approaches her without &ear( without eing ashamed o& his natura% desires( a man who 'nows i& she re=ects him he can easi%y meet another woman. #his is a ,ery attracti,e attitude. 7et-s ta'e a second to thin' a out the treatment o& &ears and pho ias. #he psycho%ogica% community has een treating pho ias &or many years with e.posure therapy. 4ere-s a %itt%e %ur &rom a we site o&&ering e.posure therapy using ,irtua% rea%ity to cure spider pho ia. +.posure therapy has pro,ed e&&ecti,e &or many di&&erent types o& pho ias( inc%uding spider pho ia. +.posure therapy is a c%inica% treatment ased on gradua%%y and systematica%%y e.posing the pho ic person to the &eared o =ect or situation a %itt%e at a time( starting ,ery s%ow%y( and ca%ming them. 7itt%e y %itt%e their &ear decreases and they ecome more com&orta %e with spiders. 2http233www.hitl.washington.edu3pro4ects3exposure3 Sound &ami%iar@ It-s the same idea as doing %ots o& approaches in order to grow into a power&u% person.

YOUR REAL ENE"Y IS FEARFUL PARALYSIS$

<ear&u% para%ysis is when you see something you want( ut you =ust can-t ring yourse%& to do anything a out getting it. #his has more negati,e e&&ects on you than re=ection e,er cou%d. Do whate,er you can to a,oid &ear&u% para%ysis.

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#here are many important 6ua%ities that you can cu%ti,ate within yourse%& to increase your success with women. !e&ore sending you out into the wor%d to start your approaches( I want thin' a out some o& these 6ua%ities. #he &irst J you shou%d 'eep in mind are) A &un attitude A sincere interest in the woman. "ositi,e intentions &or the interaction

7et-s ta'e a moment to discuss these intangi %es and why so many men &ind them di&&icu%t to incorporate.

FUN ATTITUDE
Pro!lem@ Some men %oo' at meeting women as a usiness transaction. #hey ma'e o&&ers and try to negotiate &or the woman-s attention and a&&ection. <or e.amp%e( some men o&&er to uy the woman a drin'. 9thers o&&er to ta'e her out to dinner. #hen they e.pect something in return >se.? i& the woman accepts the drin' or the dinner. #his 'ind o& strategy is encouraged in our cu%ture y mainstream maga$ines and e,erage company ads. 9nce in a whi%e it can succeed. 4owe,er it is not the est case scenario. I& you are wor'ing this ang%e( the woman 'nows she has a%% the power. It-s %i'e you-re a door to door ,acuum sa%esman. *ou-re 'noc'ing on doors trying to cut dea%s. It-s not se.y. It-s not attracti,e. 1omen ha,e seen it a mi%%ion times and they-re ored o& it. *ou-re not ha,ing &un. She-s not ha,ing &un. *ou might as we%% e at wor'. Solution@ *ou ha,e to change the way you ,iew women. A%though women c%aim they want a guy who uys drin's and dinners( this 'ind o& a negotiation rare%y resu%ts in attraction. It genera%%y %ea,es women &ee%ing gui%ty a out the %ac' o& chemistry. She 'nows you-re trying your est. It-s =ust not turning her on. So what do they rea%%y want@

GIRLS )UST WANNA HAVE FUN$

#hese are words to %i,e y. It-s rea%%y true. 1omen are more interested in ha,ing goo&y chi%dish &un than getting &ree dinner and drin's. #hey can get &ree dinner and drin's anytime. It-s routine. A man who is &un and &ree spirited is much harder to &ind. 1omen are more interested in ha,ing great se. than they are in getting &ree dinners. A man who has is se.ua%%y &ree and se.ua%%y e.pressi,e is hard to &ind. #hat-s what women want. Pro!lem@ #oo ana%ytica%. Some guys thin' you can decode the &ema%e mind and then =ust p%ug in data to get resu%ts( %i'e it-s a computer. #his theory is part%y correct. *es( you can decode the &ema%e rain. 1omen do ha,e em edded triggers &or attraction and se.ua% arousa%. #he irony is that i& you &ocus too much on the data entry side o& things( you wi%% %ose the www. radp.com O radpP radp.com A9

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a i%ity to show your human side to women. #his wi%% sa otage a%% o& your interactions. I-,e seen it may times in students who ha,e ta'en in too much in&ormation. #hey get so ana%ytica% that they pro=ect a co%dness to a%% the women they meet. #he women can sense this. 4ow do I 'now@ I ha"e decoded the &ema%e rain. I 'now a%% the &ormu%as. I 'now e.act%y the right words to say to get a woman interested. *ou can get a%% the right %ines and &ormu%as &rom my CDs and oo's. *ou can go recite this stu&& ,er atim. #hat part is easy. #he hard part is that you need to e a %e to put &ee%ing and energy into the materia%. 1ithout that( it-s not going to wor' &or you. De,e%oping a &un attitude is an essentia% part o& this energy.

SINCERE INTEREST IN THE WO"AN

Pro!lem@ Some men ,iew interactions with women as nothing more than a source o& ,a%idation. #hey are trying to &i%% an empty space inside that cannot e &i%%ed y temporary ,a%idation. #his can sa otage your success with women. 5en who ha,e this pro %em ha,e di&&icu%ty &ocusing on anything the woman is saying( and this causes them to pro=ect a co%d ,i e. Solution@ <ocus on some o& the other ene&its o& meeting women( such as se.( companionship( re%ationships( or the education you-re getting &rom doing %ots o& approaches. It-s easy &or this to ecome an ego trip( ut i& you %et that happen you are sa otaging your chances o& success and missing out on some o& the &un stu&&. Pro!lem@ 5ost women are coy and oring at &irst. #hey e.pect you to carry to the &u%% urden o& the con,ersation yourse%&. As a resu%t( it can e di&&icu%t to create a sincere interest in a%% o& the women you approach. #his is an easy trap to &a%% into. Un&ortunate%y( many o& the more attracti,e women out there do not show any interesting persona%ity traits when you &irst meet them. #here are good reasons &or this. Some ha,e een trained y our society to act dum er than they rea%%y are. #his sort o& eha,ior is rewarded o,er the course o& years and years. #he end resu%t is that she wi%% not show you her true inte%%igence unti% the two o& you 'now each other etter. 9ther women are =ust p%ain shy when approached y a stranger. +,en women who are interesting and inte%%igent are sometimes too shy to show their true persona%ity in the eginning. 5any times the woman is waiting &or you to ta'e the %ead. 5ost women wi%% =ust sit ac' and %et you do your thing in the eginning. #hey-re used to men trying hard to impress them. 1omen are natura%%y inc%ined to e &o%%owers and they wi%% o&ten act &air%y neutra% in the eginning o& the interaction( e,en i& they are interested in you. 9nce you ecome pro&icient in using the opening %ines in this oo'( you wi%% start to encounter this more o&ten. #he so%ution to this pro %em is &air%y simp%e. *ou ha,e to dig deeper into a woman-s persona%ity and &ind out more a out her. !e patient and do this s%ow%y. #here-s no te%%ing what you might &ind a&ter the initia% shyness or im o act wears o&&. In the eginning it pays to try to de,e%op a sincere interest in e,ery woman you meet. 1hen www. radp.com O radpP radp.com D0

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you ecome ad,anced( you wi%% start to de,e%op time sa,ing screening techni6ues &or &inding the 'ind o& women you %i'e.

#his is a ig one. Some men har or a secret hatred &or women. 9thers want to use the techni6ues I-,e created to ta'e power o,er peop%e or get something out o& %i&e that they don-t actua%%y deser,e. I-,e noticed that there-s a tendency among some eginners to ta'e on what I ca%% #he practica% =o'e menta%ity. #his is when you-re start thin'ing I-%% =ust %earn a%% these %ines and routines( go out and te%% them to women( then I-%% ha,e se..... hahaha( the =o'es on her. 1hat a suc'er: #he techni6ues I teach are ,ery power&u%. +,en without the intangi %es( you-%% pro a %y score e,ery now and again using what I teach. 4owe,er( you won-t ha,e consistent success and positi,e e.periences un%ess you ha,e positi,e intention &or e,ery interaction. I& you ha,e negati,e intentions( it-s ,ery di&&icu%t to hide them. 1omen can a%ways te%%. It-s %i'e they can sme%% it. I& you har or a secret resentment towards women( this wi%% sa otage you and there-s no %ine or routines that is going to e a %e to he%p you. #his can e a ,ery con&using issue &or many eginners. I& you =ust %oo' at the sur&ace o& the openers contained in this oo'( some o& them seem to po'e &un at the woman you-re approaching. I& you a%ready ha,e a negati,e ,iew o& women( it might sound appea%ing to ma'e &un o& women in a mean2spirited way. #his is something that wi%% ac'&ire e,ery time. #here are many %e,e%s o& comp%e.ity and su 2communication to the openers in this oo'. *ou must de%i,er them many times to understand the ,arious %e,e%s. #he openers in this oo' shou%d ha,e a p%ay&u%( %ight hearted intention ehind them when you de%i,er them. #his is a ,ery attracti,e attitude. #he approaches shou%d e &un &or you and &un &or the women.

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CHAP T ER17 - WHER EI LEARN EDTHIS STUFF

I0 years ago( I was a tota% nerd who had no socia% s'i%%s and no a i%ity to ta%' to women. A&ter many years o& hard wor'( I-,e gotten to the point where I-m so good at pic'ing up women that I actua%%y get paid to do it. 1hat a trans&ormation: I-d %i'e to share the secret o& my trans&ormation with you. #he secret to my success is mode%ing myse%& a&ter success&u% peop%e. I-,e chosen to emu%ate success&u% peop%e &rom 2 o& the most di&&icu%t and competiti,e &ie%ds in the wor%d2 ath%etics and entertainment. 1hen I %oo' ac' on my de,e%opment( there are a &ew 'ey peop%e who I-,e %earned &rom inc%uding) A as'et a%% coach who went on to coach in the 8!A. A &riend who p%ays drums in a &etish2gothic roc' and. A co%%ege pro&essor who has een around the wor%d meeting the greatest thin'ers o& our time. An actor who tra,e%s internationa%%y pic'ing up women e,erywhere he goes. A %oca% musician who has had o,er 2D threesomes. A touring guitar p%ayer who can seduce women in under I0 minutes.

!y spending time around these peop%e and %earning a out how they thin'( how they process success and &ai%ure( how they adapt to the changing demands o& eing success&u%( I-,e %earned %essons are a%most impossi %e to put into words. +mu%ating success&u% peop%e is an important part o& de,e%oping your identity. I& you wor' as hard as I ha,e and %earn &rom the est( anything is possi %e. 3eady &or the ne.t step@ 4ead o,er to radp.com &or more new ideas.

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4ere-s a &ew onus openers that I-,e made a,ai%a %e on%y to mem ers o& the J0;J0 C%u and at 7i,e 1or'shops.

COTTON CANDY
#his is the opener I used on e,ery approach when I was %earning and doing approaches B days per wee'.

4ey do you 'now anywhere around here when I can &ind some cotton candy this time o& day;night@
Contingencies)

1e%% you guys %oo' %i'e you go to the circus a %ot. 1here I-m &rom they ha,e cotton candy on e,ery street corner( you can get it any time you want. 1hen was the %ast time you went to the circus@ Did your grandpa e,er ta'e you to the circus@ 9h( I get it( you-re in "+#A and you thin' the circus is crue%.
YOGA OPENER

So....how %ong ha,e you een doing yoga@

Contingencies)

0ir%) 4ow did you 'now I do yoga@ !ecause I-m psychic. 0ir%) I don-t do yoga. 1e%% you %oo' rea%%y....>s%ow and se.ua%? &%e.i %e. I& you don-t do yoga( how did you get so &%e.i %e@
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Con"ersational Re&ertoire0 #his is a co%%ection o& materia% you can use to he%p you 'eep con,ersations interesting. It can e stories( routines( games( or simp%y a su =ect you are passionate a out. Social 9alue0 #his is the coo%ness &actor. +,ery socia% setting has a hierarchy o& ,a%ue. Some peop%e ha,e %ow ,a%ue( some ha,e high ,a%ue. 1omen instincti,e%y pay more attention to socia% ,a%ue then men. 5en tend do e dismissi,e o& the importance o& socia% ,a%ue( and this wor's against them. #his is a di&&icu%t concept to put into words( so %et me suggest a mo,ie. 5ean 0ir%s with 7indsey 7ohan is a &%ic' you might want to chec' out to %earn more a out this topic. It-s &i%%ed with socia% competition and di&&erent ways o& pro=ecting socia% ,a%ue. *ou can pro=ect socia% ,a%ue using your ody %anguage( c%othing( ,oice( con,ersationa% repertoire( who you are seen with( and many other things. Social Tension0 It-s that &ee%ing you get when somethings =ust not right( or someone rea's socia% norms. Socia% tension is the root o& a%% humor. 1e %augh to re%ie,e the tension. 5ost peop%e who are considered &unny ha,e mastered the art o& ma'ing others &ee% socia% tension whi%e they themse%,es ignore it. Role Playin(0 #his is when you and a woman p%ay out stereotypica% ma%e and &ema%e ro%es in order to get to 'now each other more 6uic'%y. *ou can ma'e it seem %i'e you a%ready ha,e 'nown each other &or years y using ro%e p%aying. <or e.amp%e( in the 4orsegir% Shoc'er( you ta'e on the ro%e o& the re&ormed u%%y whi%e the gir% ta'es on the ro%e o& the nerdy gir%. ncon(ruence0 #his is when you are trying to e something you-re not and the women can te%% it-s u%%shit. <or e.amp%e( i& you tried the 9n%y 0ir% opener whi%e pro=ecting %ow socia% ,a%ue with your c%othing( posture and ,oice tone( that wou%d e.pose an incongruence. 1hen you are &irst starting out you wi%% occasiona%%y show incongruence. It-s a necessary side e&&ect to your persona% growth. Don-t &ear incongruence( ut 'eep it to a minimum. O"er?ualified0 1omen are interested in meeting men who are e6ua% or s%ight%y higher socia% ,a%ue. I& you pro=ect too much ,a%ue it can ma'e you seem unattaina %e to some women( and they wi%% 6uic'%y %ose interest in you. Or!iter0 #his is a man who attempts to win a woman-s a&&ection y eing her &riend. 4e c%aims to e =ust a &riend( ut secret%y desires her and is waiting &or the right time to con&ess his &ee%ings. It-s ,ery ine&&ecti,e( ut many men emp%oy this strategy. *ou can identi&y these guys y their s%ogan( I-m wor'ing on her. O"ercali!ratin(0 #his is when you spend too much time thin'ing a out &inding the per&ect opener. 5any students use o,erca%i ration as a way to a,oid doing an approach whi%e sti%% &ee%ing %i'e they were sti%% doing something use&u%.

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