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Staci, Self-Injury Survivor Its February 6, 2014, and beside me in my tiny home office, sits twenty-four year old Staci, a gregarious, freckled redhead who has recently announced her engagement to Sean, the young man shes been dating for nearly two and a half years. Were perched on office chairs, facing the screen of my home computer, where Ive written questions Im about to ask her concerning her addiction to self-injury. Its a grizzly topic, so Ive steeled myself for the interview, although Ive heard most of her story before.
tion on self-injury to her health class when she was in high school, and that the teacher asked her to present it to the school board, who in turn asked her to consider sharing her message with students throughout Granite School District.
I know other details, too. I was at the meeting where her high school counselor broke the news to her mother, after two friends had reported her self-destructive behavior. I remember that day vividly, because I am her mother. Regardless of what I think I am prepared for, I am about to be blown away. But todays interview isnt about me or my reaction. Its about Staci and what motivated her to overcome an insatiable craving to carve her own skin. And so, our interview begins.
How old were you when you started purposely harming yourself?
In 8th grade, I found it relaxing to take the point of the spiral from the spiral-edge notebook and run it against my skin. I never broke skin or bled when I did this, and I didnt do it very often. By the end of 9th grade, I had a friend who was cutting. It really worried me and I told her that for every time that I found out that she had cut, I would cut. Eventually, we stopped being friends, but I still continued to cut.
Why did you continue self-injury when you were no longer motivated to help your friend?
I liked the feeling.
When did you realize that your self-injuring behavior was a serious problem?
I was in my bedroom and had just finished cutting probably like twenty to thirty cuts down my left arm. I went in the bathroom to wash off all the blood and looked in the mirror and suddenly felt sickened by what I had done. I was so freaked out about it that as soon as I had washed off the blood, I went back into my room and did the same thing on my right arm. When I returned to the bathroom to wash, I was so sickened by it that I went back into my room and grabbed the blade again, but I had no where left to cut. Thats when I knew I had a problem. I just knew that the fact that I had run out of space was bad - not in a desperate for the high and now I have no more room bad - it was bad-bad.
Did seeing your reflection in the bathroom mirror become your motivation to stop?
It became my motivation to slow down.
I have a vision of myself in the future: holding my kids, and them asking why I have white
lines all over my arms. Im not going to try to shelter them from it, but Im scared of them seeing me differently when they understand exactly what that means.
Ive made the decision that I dont want my kids to think of my arms as something from a horror movie, so I dont want my arms to get any worse than they already are I think that vision is the biggest motivation to stop.
As I said before, one of the most common misconceptions about self-injury is that people who cut are suicidal. Somebody who is suicidal doesnt see that they have a future.
As of February 2014, Stacis scars are barely visible.
For me, the reason I wanted to stop was because of the vision of my future.
How long has it been since you last participated in self-injurying behavior?
Last May, when my computer was stolen. Before that was June, 2011. The time before that was probably July, 2009.
Thats just three times in the last five years. Thats a huge change from two to three times a day. Do you consider yourself a recovered addict at this point?
I do. Even though, realistically, I dont think Ill never do it again. When I talk about it, I do use past-tense.
What part do you think motivation played in your ability to overcome addictive behavior?
Motivation is the only way to stop addictive behavior. You have to want to
stop, and find a reason to stop. Sometimes the reason becomes apparent before the wanting, and can make you want to want to stop. Sometimes the wanting to stop happens before you have a reason. But I really felt that neither the wanting nor the reason, alone, were enough. I had to have both.
Is there anything else that youd like to share that you feel is important?
Dont pressure anyone who is dealing with it. If youre the one doing it, find a reason to stop.
You cant stop any addiction until you really want to.