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fellowship
By Jeff Powell
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BIBLESTUDY January 6, 2008 the past several years. So the “foundational five” is joined”. Perhaps the best known biblical word for
nothing new to most of us. Same values, different fellowship is the Greek word koinonia, found in the
visual (hand instead of baseball diamond). New Testament. It means “fellowship, communion,
2. These values are all foundational. Ask, to become a partaker, to have all things in
“When a home is being constructed, why is the common”.
foundation so important?” (Because everything rests Some of you are old enough to remember when
on it. If it is not solid, then everything built on it will hippies roamed the earth. Ask, “What do you
eventually fall.) The foundation for our worship remember about hippies?” (Long hair, drugs,
center at Lincoln Road is being prepared right now. Woodstock, a disturbing lack of bathing, etc…) One
Dozens of concrete footings are being poured, each thing you may remember is their tendency to live in
up to 5’x 5’ wide, and up to 8’ deep. That’s a lot of communes. They would live together, eat together,
concrete! But it is necessary to provide a stable base pool their resources – they shared everything. There
for our worship center. The “foundational five” are is something of the idea of fellowship there. It is the
the foundation of what we do at FBC. They are the idea that I was created to live in community with
five core practices which we are bound to by God’s others. I am now to “do life” on my own. I need
Word. They are non-negotiables. To ignore them is others around me. As Rick Warren, pastor of
to cease to be a biblical church. Saddleback Community Church says, “We are
3. These values are universal. They are not just better together.”
for FBC – they are true for every church. They are This is a foundational truth. Think of the words
true for Main Street, Temple, 1st Pres, Parkway the Bible uses to describe the Church. We are a
Heights,… Body, one Body with many members. We are the
4. These values are personal. They are family of God. We are brothers and sisters in Christ.
foundational for the church, and they are also We are the Bride of Christ. All of these images point
foundational for individual believers. It is the towards strong, deep relationships with others.
responsibility of every church to provide So what would those relationships look like in
opportunities for growth in these areas, and it is the “real life”?
responsibility of every believer to pursue
opportunities for growth in these areas.
Real Fellowship is Practical
Let’s begin with your thumb… Read Acts 2:44, 45 and Acts 4:32-35. What do
you notice about the love and fellowship that these
Since your thumb is the closest finger to the rest early Christians shared? What characterized their
of your body, let it remind you to let others get close fellowship? It was very practical! They were busy
to you. Our first core value is fellowship, and it is helping each other. They were committed to Bible
extremely important! study and prayer, but they were also committed to
As an upstanding member of a Baptist church, helping each other with practical matters. Are you
how would you define or describe “fellowship”? hungry? Let me bring you some food. Need a place
What is it? What do you do at a fellowship? to stay? You can stay at my house. Cold? Let me give
Most of us think of fellowship in terms of a get- you my extra coat. These early Christians didn’t just
together, a party…that usually involves… eating… sit around and sing “Kum Ba Yah” (sp?) – they got
chicken. It involves visiting together, enjoying each their hands dirty helping each other.
other’s company, sharing a meal/snack together. “What do you think that kind of fellowship
Those things are certainly one aspect of would look like today, here at FBC, Hattiesburg?
fellowship, but it involves much more. What would it look like in this Sunday School class?
Webster defines fellowship as: Have you seen it or experienced it before?”
1. companionship; friendly association That kind of fellowship has got to be one of our
2. a mutual sharing. foundational values. But it isn’t. At least the SLT
3. a group of people with the same interests, didn’t think it was. At least not yet. So it has become
company; brotherhood” one of the values we aspire to, a value that the
majority of our church holds.
The original sense was a partner, and the source
Ask, “Why do you think we (our church) is
of this meaning was the Old English word feolaga,
lacking in this area?” (Too busy, didn’t understand
borrowed from the Scandanavian felog, “partner”,
it’s importance, selfish, I’ve got my own problems,
which was made up of fe, “money” and –lag, a
etc…) “What could our Sunday School class do to
person who “lays” something down, the idea being
make that a reality among ourselves?” (Openly share
to “lay” down money for a common cause or
needs, set aside times for your class to do “fellowship
undertaking, to pool your resources. One Hebrew
projects” together, etc…)
word for fellowship is chabar, meaning “to be
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BIBLESTUDY January 6, 2008 Ask, “Why do you think Starbucks now owns
Real Fellowship is Personal the world? Is it because of a $5 cup of coffee?” It’s
Describe an average day in your life, from the because the Starbucks strategy is to create a “third
time you get up until the time you go to bed. place”, a place other than work or home, a place
Chances are it will be incredibly busy, with very where folks could sit and relax and enjoy each
little, if any, down time. other’s company and talk about their problems and
be cared about and accepted and … It’s a place of
Ask, “In a daily schedule like that, what usually fellowship! And we crave it so much that we’re
suffers?” (The answer: personal relationships) willing to pay $5 for a .50 cent cup of coffee. (By the
Personal relationships are one of the main way, there were 12,240 Starbucks at the beginning of
casualties of the speed at which we live. Our 2007, with plans to add another 2400 by the end of
busyness precludes the time necessary to develop 2007!)
deep fellowship with others, with the result being a Ask, “Have you seen the advertising for
collection of acquaintances characterized by surface Bellegrasse, the new development going up out west
relationships. But this has not always been so. When on Highway 589? It’s designed around common
I (Jeff Powell) teach about fellowship I often refer to playgrounds, ballfields, school, church. Houses are
the “coffee ladies”. These were my mother’s very being built with front porches near sidewalks so folks
best friends. There were five of them, and they walking through the neighborhood can visit with
gathered together for coffee (and gossip) at least once folks sitting on the front porch. It’s all designed to
a day, often twice. They laughed together, shared promote fellowship, community.
together, planned events together, ate together, cried We shouldn’t be surprised. God designed us this
together – they did life together. When my mother way from the beginning. Look at Genesis 2:18 – “It
died of cancer, I was in Montana on a mission trip. is not good for man to be alone.” That refers to
When I arrived at my home, the “coffee ladies” were more than just marriage. It is a blanket statement
there – ministering to my family, just as they had about all of us. We are made for community.
done through my mother’s illness. (Teacher, please So what will it take for us to foster this type of
feel free to use this illustration, or to substitute your community among ourselves? In his book The
own.) Purpose Driven Life, Rick Warren mentions several
Now if you are an older adult, the chances are things for us to think about and put into practice. As
you have these kinds of relationships. Fellowship is a I mention these areas, grade yourself. Where are you
part of the world you grew up in. But if you are doing well? Which areas could use some work?
younger, the chances of having this level of • Authenticity – Authentic fellowship is not
fellowship are much smaller. If may even be a superficial, surface-level chit-chat. It is genuine,
foreign concept to you. heart-to-heart, sometimes gut level, sharing. The
The Greek word used in the New Testament for world thinks intimacy happens in the dark, but it
“know” is ginosko. It means more than “I know really happens in the light! See I John 1: 7,8.
2+2=4” or “I know George Bush”. It’s not just • Mutuality – Mutuality is the heart of
“head knowledge”, or merely recognizing a person. fellowship. It is depending on each other. It is
It means to come to know, understand, or building reciprocal relationships, sharing
understand completely. It also carries the idea of responsibilities, and helping each other. Paul said, “I
becoming known completely by another, and want us to help each other with the faith we have.
appreciated by that one. The verb conveys the Your faith will help me, and my faith will help you.”
thought of a connection. I Corinthians 12:25 (The Message)
That is often what we fear the most, but also • Sympathy – Sympathy is not giving quick
what we crave the most. Ask, “What do we fear advice; it is entering in and sharing the pain of
about being completely known by someone others. “As holy people…be sympathetic, kind,
else?” (In a word, rejection. If you really know me, humble, gentle, and patient.” Col. 3:12
you may not like me.) Ask, “So how do we ‘hide’ • Mercy – Fellowship is a place of grace, where
from each other?” (We avoid anything but surface
mistakes aren’t rubbed in but rubbed out. Fellowship
relationships; we stay busy; we never open up; etc…)
happens when mercy wins over justice. “Never hold
Ask, “What’s the result of this?” (Isolation, even in a
grudges.” Col. 3:13 (LB)
group of people.)
• Honesty – You have to care enough to
The paradox is that we also crave being
lovingly speak the truth, even when you would gloss
completely known. Deep down (or maybe not so
over a problem or ignore an issue. “…Speak the
deep down) we want to experience life with others;
truth in love.” Eph. 4:15
we want to do life with genuine friends; we crave
• Humility – Self-importance, smugness, and
relationships, fellowship, community.
stubborn pride destroy fellowship faster than
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BIBLESTUDY January 6, 2008 anything else. “Clothe yourselves with humility fellowship, Life Together. In it he suggests that the
toward one another.” I Peter 5:5b sooner we give up the illusion that a church must be
• Courtesy – Courtesy is respecting our perfect in order to love it, the sooner we quit
differences, being considerate of each other’s pretending and start admitting we’re all imperfect
feelings, and being patient with people who irritate and need grace. This is the beginning of real
us. “God’s people should be bighearted and community. “Be patient with each other, making
courteous.” Titus 3:2 (The Message) allowance for each other’s faults because of your
• Frequency – You must have frequent, regular love.” Eph. 4:2
contact with a specific group of people to build • Choose to encourage rather than criticize. It is
genuine fellowship. “Let us not give up the habit of always easier to stand on the sidelines and take shots
meeting together…” Heb. 10:25 at those who are serving than it is to get involved and
make a contribution. “Why, then, criticize your
brother’s actions, why try to make him look small?
We shall all be judged one day, not by each other’s
Real Fellowship is a standards or even our own, but by the standard of
Partnership Christ.” Romans 14:10 (Ph)
• Refuse to listen to gossip. Have the courage to
As was described earlier, the word “fellowship”
say, “Please stop. I don’t need to know this. Have you
is derived from an Old English business term which
talked directly to that person?” “Troublemakers
meant “partner”. Think about partners in a
listen to troublemakers.” Proverbs 17:4; “These are
business. Name some attitudes and actions they have
to take in order for the business to be successful? the ones who split churches, thinking only of
themselves.” Jude 1:19 (The Message)
(They must each perform their jobs; “talk up” the
• Practice God’s method for conflict resolution.
business; have the same goals; be positive; be
During conflict, it is tempting to complain to a third
realistic; support each other; help each other;
party rather than courageously speak the truth in
compromise with each other when necessary; etc….
love to the person you are upset with. This makes
You might want to write these on the board.)
the matter worse. Instead, you should go directly to
After you have written these on the board, point
the person involved. See Matthew 18:15-17.
to them one at a time and ask, “What would happen
• Support your pastor and leaders. (I know…this
if each partner did not perform his job? What would
sounds a little self-serving, but it is biblical!) “Be
happen if one partner constantly spoke negatively
about the business? What if the partners held responsive to your pastoral leaders. Listen to their
counsel. They are alert to the condition of your lives
different goals for the business?”
and work under the strict supervision of God.
“Which of these are also true regarding
Contribute to the joy of their leadership, not its
church?”
drudgery. Why would you want to make things
Then ask, “What happens when church
harder for them?” Hebrews 13:17 (The Message)
“partners” (members) do not each perform their
Again, how are you doing in each of these
job? What happens when church “partners” speak
areas? Where are you doing well? Which areas need
negatively about the church? What happens when
some work?
church “partners” have different goals for the
ministry?”
If we want our “business” (leading others to
know, love, and follow Jesus) to be successful, then we Closing
must “partner together”, or it will not happen. We
must have a common goal, and must be willing to Let’s close by beginning to put some plans in
subordinate some of our own likes and dislikes for place. We’ve talked this morning about three
the sake of the fellowship. We must be willing to do characteristics of fellowship. It is practical, it is
our part, to serve in the area of our giftedness. We personal, and it is about partnering together. Let’s
must be willing to support and encourage each other. make a goal for our class for 2008 in each of those
Again, Rick Warren gives us several practical areas.
ideas for partnering together. Again, grade yourself • What is our goal for becoming more practical
in each of these areas. in our fellowship? What will we do first? When will
• Focus on what we have in common, not our we do it?
differences. Paul wrote, “Let us concentrate on the • What is our goal for developing a more
things which make for harmony, and the growth of personal fellowship among our class members is
one another’s character.” Romans 14:19 2008? What will we do first? When will we do it?
• Be realistic in your expectations. Dietrich • What is our goal for partnering together with
Bonhoeffer, the German pastor who was martyred the rest of the church body in 2008 so that our
for resisting Nazis, wrote a classic book on “business” (ministry) will be successful?