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JoyceMeng<joyce.danli.meng@gmail.com> Wed,Jul3,2013at6:03AM
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HiHoney,
I'mlisteningtoourplaylistandwritingyouthisemail.Iusuallycan'texpressmyselfverywellintheheatofan
argument,soaftertakingsometimetocooloffandreflect,Iwantyoutoknowwhat'sdeepdowninmyheart.
Today'sargumentwasabsurdandunnecessary,andIadmitIwasthemaincauseofit.Tobehonest,Ihadto
thinkrealhardatthereasonofourconflict.
Whenyoumessagedmesayingyouweredoneshowering,Iwasinthemiddleofsearchingfornewjobposts,so
ItoldyouweshouldSkypelaterbecauseitisdistractsmeandreducesmyproductivity.Whenyousaidyou
couldn'twaitanylongerat11:30,Iwaseagertofinishandsendoutanapplication.Honestly,Ifeltalittle
annoyedtoputitoff,becauseIthinkthespeedthatIsendoutappsiswaytooslow.Beingaslowwriterfromthe
start,Iwasn'tsatisfiedwiththeefficiencybutcouldn'thelpbutfeltfrustratedandhelplessatthefactthatno
matterhowhardItrytospeedup,timejustseemedtobeflyinglikeanarrow.That'swhyourSkypeat11:30
addedtothatstress.
Ialsowasupsetbecauseyouwasn'tempatheticenoughtowardsmyPMS.IthinkthewayPMSisbeing
portrayedinpopularculturetrivializesitsimpactonwomen.Forexample,peoplejokethat"aguyisPMSing"etc,
whichmakesitseemlikeasynonymforbadtemperthat'sengrainedinyourpersonality.Butinfact,over75%of
womenareaffectedbyit,I'msureyouknowit'sahormonalimbalancetoo.Thismakesitreallydifficultformeto
controlmyemotions(likeyousuggestedIdobefore).IdidsomeresearchonPMSearlierhopingtofindsome
relievingremedies,andcameacrossanarticlethatintroducedamoresevereformofPMScalledPSDor
Premenstrualdysphoricdisorder.AlthoughIdon'tsufferfromitsphysicalsymptomslikefatigueandbinge
eating,Idofromalltheemotionaloneslikefeelingdeepsadness,despair,depression,anxiety,increased
sensitivitytocriticismsetc.
Iknowmymoodswingsaffectourrelationship,andthisisaveryconsequenceofwomenduringtheirPMS,that
theirsocialrelationshipsfallapart.Goodnewsis,therearewaystofixitbesidesmedication,likeexercisingand
avoidingcertainfoods/beveragesthatworsensthehormonalimbalance.Iwilltry,butIneedyoutobepatient,
supportiveandempathetictowardsmeduringthisperiodofthemonth.Insteadofbeingtriggeredbymyshort
temper,IhopeyoucankeepinmindthatIambeingaffectedbysomethingthatisinternalandnotthatall
uncommontowomen.Thankyouforalreadymakinganefforttobearwithandunderstandmethough.Yousayit
isdifficultforyou,andI'msureitis.ButjustthinkofmeasbeingcontrolledbythisgiantPMS"god",don'ttake
toheartwhatIsayordotoyou.
Alternatively,justthinkofyourselfasunluckythatIampossiblymoreaffectedbymymenstrualcyclethanthe
averagewoman.Ifyoueverdaretoleaveme,IwishyouwillfindsomeonewhoPMS100xmorethanIdo...good
luck:)
Justkidding,whatI'mtryingtosayis,Idon'twantyoutothinkthatPMSisapartofmycharacteralthoughit
happensonceamonthwhichisquitefrequent...Iamasweetandsillypersononmostdaysright?right???
RIGGGHHTTTTT?!
Thethingis,everytimewefight,Ialwaysregretlosingmytemperatyouornotbeingunderstanding/patient
enoughbecauseIdon'tlikethissideofmeeither.AndIdopityyouSOMETIMESforhavingtoputupwithmy
princessattitude...thankyouYunnie,youareprobablytheonlyguywhowouldstilllovemesomuchafterseeing
mydarkside..~~~muahaha,cometothedarkside...wehavecookies...!~~~sinceyoulovecookiesespecially
thosewarmandunbearablysweetones,youdon'tmindvisitingmydarksideeverynowandthenright?:PJUST
KIDDING!
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Mypointis,thankyouforstayingwithmethroughthickandthin,andmostimportantlyforacceptingmeforwho
Iamandlovingme.Iamsoluckytohavemetyouandbecomeyourotherhalf.IthankGodforputtingyouin
mylife,sometimeswhenIfeellikeeverythingishopeless,IthinkabouthowGodchosetheunluckyyoutolet
meabuse(hehe:)thankyouFather!)andIinstantlyfeelthelovefromHim!
Idoagreewithyouabouttheneedtogrowspirituallyineachother.Idon'tthinkwearehavingatrueChristian
relationship,andhencecomeacrosssomuchtroublesandproblems.Honestly,Idon'tknowwhataChristian
relationshiplooklike,IcannameafewcharacteristicsbutI'mnotcompletelysure.Ifyouhaveawaytostart
workingonthis,letmeknow.Ohno,thatdirtysongIlikejustcameup...notaverygoodtime..
AlthoughIsayanddohurtfulthingstoyoulikeignoringyouandbeingblunt,theotherpartofmeregretsit
instantly(badLuciferbadLucifer,goawayandDIE!!!!)SorryaboutallthepainImadeyougothrough,and
thanksforstillchoosingtolovemethesame:)Pleasedon'tleaveme,Iwillgiveyoucookies.
Anyways,Icouldn'tfocusonjobsearcheversincethatargument.MaybeIshouldgobacktoitandtryagain.
LoveyouYun.
KissKissxoxo
Joyce
YunLi<yl3vw@virginia.edu> Wed,Jul3,2013at9:44AM
To:JoyceMeng<joyce.danli.meng@gmail.com>
HeyBaby,
Thankyoufortheemail.Iloveyou:)
Anyways,myresponsewillprobablynotbeaslongasyours...butIwantedtoreplytoafewthings.
Firstly,anargumentistwoways.Bothpeoplearealwaysatfault.IamatfaulttoobecauseIwasabit
impatientandIknewyouwerePMSingyetIstillletitbotherme.IalwaysknowwhenmybabyisPMSing
becauseyourmoodbecomesquitevolatile.Ithinkyoudescribeditquitewell.Iknowyoucan'tcontrolit,soI
havetotrytoadjustandbepatientwithyouduringthesemoodswings.Atthesametime,ifyoucouldavoid
foodsthatarebadandexercise(ifithelps),thatwoulddefinitelybebeneficial.
I'mgoingtobehonest.Ididn'texpectPMStobethisbad,andwhenwefirststarteddatingyouwouldtellme
howyourPMSwasn'tsobad.Therefore,IwasneverreallypreparedforthemoremoodiersideofPMS.I
sometimesdon'tknowhowmuchisPMSandhowmuchisyoubeingupsetatmeorsomething.Aftergettingto
spendmoretimewithyou,IambeginningtoattributethesemoodswingsmoretoyourPMSthantoyou,but
sometimesyoustillcanbeabitmoodyevenwhenyouarenotPMSing.Buteventhoughyouhavethesemood
swings,yourPMSsucks,andsometimesitshardcommunicatingwithyou,beneathallofthis,youarea
beautiful,cuteandsweetgirl.Icanseethattoo.Iwon'tleaveyouever(justdon'tabusemetoomuch=.=and
feedmelotsofcookies).
AsfortheChristianrelationship,thisissomethingwecanspendtimetothink/talkabouttoo.Ithinkthereare
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thingswecanimproveuponsuchasspendingmoretimeinprayerandintheword.Iwouldbegreatifyoucould
taketheinitiativetoaskforprayer.Youdon'thavetoprayoutloudwithmebutyoucouldbelike"Yun,canyou
prayformeaboutthis."Atthesametime,insteadofaimingtoohighintryingtoreadscripturetogetherevery
day,wecanmaybeaimtodoittwotimesaweek,orevenreadingthroughmaybethesamechaptertogetheron
ourownanddiscussingitwhenweareconversing.ThisiskindofwhatIhadinmind.
Iknowthatyouaresuperstressed,andatthesametime,Iamsuperstressedtoo.Whenyouputtwostressed
peopletogether,disagreementsareboundtohappen.Godisteachingusthatloveispatientandloveis
forgiving.Whenwemakemistakes,let'strytobelovingandforgiving.Whenwearearguing,let'strytobe
patientandunderstanding.Ibelievewestillhavealongwaytogrow.Afterall,it'snoteven1year.Evenafter
beingmarriedforsuchalongtime,WrightandDoristillhavetheirissues,accordingtoWright.
Anywaysbaby,Ireallyloveyoubaby,andIreallymissyou...likereallyreallyxinfinity.
Ihopethejobapplicationprocesswillbecomelessstressful.Remembertotakeitastepatatimeandtobe
confident.
Love,
Yun

YunzhouLi
UniversityofVirginia
CollegeofArts&Sciences
Classof2013
Cell:(804)8557025
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