We love to complain at the drop of a hat that e are h!rt by another persons ords or actions" more often" the former## This tendency to h!rt easily e$poses o!r v!lnerability to all# Th!s e %!st become a sittin& d!c' to those ho ish to sho !s in poor li&ht( We do not !nderstand that by lettin& o!rselves &et h!rt by others ords or actions" e merely f!lfill their evil desi&ns( All the !nreasonable people e interact ith &ain their poer only from o!r emotional response# )!r stren&th lies in doin& hat e believe is ri&ht and in t!ne ith the dictates of o!r on conscience( *et !s stop concernin& abo!t other peoples responses( We need not react in a manner that only &oes to f!el their poer## A child ho is teased the most ma'es the bi&&est protest( Children tease other children not beca!se they are bad" b!t beca!se the other children are poerless( +rom their apparent poerlessness" the teasin& children derive all their poer( The same ay" by &ettin& h!rt" e &ive the orld" a feelin& of stren&th( ,y respondin& emotionally" e &ive them victory## Tho!&h easily said than done" e have to learn to dismiss them( *i'e teasin&# *i'e shados# -o not &et st!c' ith people ho create obstacles in yo!r path ith their !nsolicited comments( .o matter ho clearly yo! can point to forces bloc'in& yo!" the most important obstacles to yo!r freedom are ithin / yo! have created them by feelin& h!rt# 0 tell myself: I bend with the wind; I glide with the current; I do not reit ! I re"#in "$el%& In #cce'ting 'eo'le #nd itu#tion( I %ind "$el%! *ove" Chithra(