15 Relationship Truths for Tough Times

These 15 relationship truths may be a bit difficult to accept at times, but in the end, they will help
you weed out the wrong relationships, make room for the right ones, and nurture the people who
are most important to you.
1. Some relationships will be blessings, others will serve as lessons. Either way, never
regret knowing someone. Everyone you encounter teaches you something important.
Some people will test you, some will use you, and some will teach you but most
importantly some will bring out the best in you.
2. When times get tough, some people will leave you. !hen you are up in life, your
friends get to know who you are. !hen you are down in life, you get to know who your
true friends are. There will be lots of people around when times are easy, but take note of
who remains in your life when times get tough, especially the people who sacrifice the
resources they have in their life to help you improve yours when you need it most. These
people are your real friends.
3. Life is full of fake people. Sometimes the person you"d take a bullet for ends up being
the one behind the gun. #t"s so easy to believe someone when they TE$$ you e%actly
what you want to hear. &ut when a person S'(!S you who they really are, believe
them the first time. Some people are only nice for their own convenience the type of
people who only call when they need something or come around when it"s beneficial to
them. )ot everyone has your best interests at heart. &ut sometimes you have to be
tricked and mislead by the wrong lovers and friends once or twice in your life in order to
find and appreciate your soul mate and real friends when they arrive.
4. People an easily be insinere with their wor!s. !hen someone truly loves you, they
don"t have to say a word. *ou will be able to tell simply by the way they treat you over
the long+term. ,emember, actions speak much louder than words. - person can say
sorry a thousand times, and say .# love you/ as much as they want. &ut if they"re not
going to prove that the things they say are true, then they"re not worth listening to.
&ecause if they can"t show it, their words are not sincere.
5. The less you assoiate with some people, the more your life will improve. 0on"t
settle to 1ust be someone"s downtime, spare time, part time, or sometime. #f they can"t be
there for you all of the time, especially when you need them most, then they"re not worth
your time.
6. "arsh wor!s an hurt a person more than physial pain. Taste your own words
before you spit them out. !ords hurt and scar more than you think, so T'#)2 before
you speak. -nd remember, what you say about others also says a whole lot about *(3.
7. # mistake is an ai!ent. $heating an! lying are not mistakes. They are intentional
choices. Stop hiding behind the words .mistake/ and .sorry/ and stop putting up with
those who do.
8. %&essive 'ealousy !oesn(t tell someone how muh you love them. #t tells them how
much you dislike yourself. -nd no amount of love, or promises, or proof from them will
ever be enough to make you feel better. 4or those broken pieces you carry, are pieces
you must mend for yourself. 'appiness is an inside 1ob.
9. When people get nasty with you, it(s usually best to walk away. !hen someone
treats you like dirt, don"t pay attention and don"t take it personally. They"re saying
nothing about you and a lot about themselves. -nd no matter what they do or say, never
drop down to their level and sling dirt back. 5ust know you"re better than that and walk
away.
10.People will treat you the way you let them treat you. *ou can"t control them, but you
can control what you tolerate. &eautiful things happen when you distance yourself from
negative people. 0oing so does not mean you hate them, it simply means you respect
yourself.
11.)ne of the most !iffiult tasks in life is removing someone from your heart. &ut
remember, no relationship is a waste of time. The wrong ones teach you the lessons that
prepare you for the right ones.
12.Resentment hurts you, not them. !hisper a small prayer of gratitude for the people
who have stuck by your side, and send a prayer of good will for those who didn"t. 4or
should these people hear your prayers, those who have been there will know how much
you appreciate them, and those who left will know that you appreciate your own
happiness enough to not let resentment destroy your capacity to live with a
compassionate heart.
13.Silene an! a half smile an hi!e a lot of pain from the worl!. 6ay close attention to
those you care about. Sometimes when a friend says, .#"m okay,/ they need you to look
them in the eyes, hug them tight, and reply, .# know you"re not./
14.True love omes when manipulation stops. True love comes when you care more
about who the other person really is than about who you think they should become, when
you dare to reveal yourself honestly, and when you dare to be open and vulnerable. #t
takes two to create a sincere environment where this is possible. #f you haven"t found
true love yet, don"t settle. There is someone out there who will share true love with you,
even if it"s not the person you were initially hoping for.
15.%ven the best relationships !on(t last forever. )obody gets through life without
losing someone they love, someone they need, or something they thought was meant to
be. 6eople don"t live forever. -ppreciate what you have, who loves you and who cares
for you. *ou"ll never know how much they mean to you until the day they are no longer
beside you. -nd remember, 1ust because something doesn"t last forever, doesn"t mean it
wasn"t worth your while.