Reading body language

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Doesn't matter whether she is
interested in you, you'll make her
interested eventually anyway:) But
look for these signs to show you
whether you're already making
progress:) t's also fun to look for
these signs as a by!stander, either in
everyday situations or for e"ample in
a bar ! when the guy earnestly
believes he is being sooo smooth but
the woman he is talking to isn't
displaying any of the signs presented
below, you #an't help but have a
#hu#kle about it:)
$er lips:
Big smiles with upper and
lower teeth showing with a
rela"ed fa#e%
Biting of the lips or showing of
the tongue, li#king her lips or
tou#hing of her front teeth%
&he wets her lips, some women
use only a single!lip li#k,
wetting the upper or lower lip,
while others run the tongue
around the entire lip area%
&he puts her fingernail
between her teeth%
&he protrudes her lips and
thrust her breasts forward%
$er eyes:
&he ga'es in your eyes with
deep interest and her pupils
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&idelong glan#e,s)
-ooks at you a few times
$olds your ga'e briefly
Down#ast eyes, then away
.osture #hanges to alert
.reens, ad/usts hair, attire
*urns body toward you
*ilts head
)arrows eyes slightly
&miles
(at#hes your posture
+yes sparkle
-i#ks her lips
*hrusts breasts
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n &ummary% 1re2uen#y of eye
#onta#t, the more the better% 3mount
of time she, or he, holds your ga'e,
the longer the better% $ow she breaks
off eye #onta#t, down before away is
great4 &hine of the eyes, the brighter
the better% Dire#tion of body, toward
you, good, away, bad% 0verall
posture, ere#t and alert are good% *ilt
of head, verti#al is bad, in#reased tilt
is great% 5here the drink is held, high
in front as a barrier, that's bad% $and
a#tivity, #len#hed, s2uee'ing or
pin#hing is bad, open, #aressing or
stroking is great%
(ost of us are slightly afraid as well
as somewhat e"#ited in settings
where so#ial intera#tion is e"pe#ted
and re2uired% &o, most people do not
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3lert, energeti#
.upils dilated
7radually opens posture
-owers drink
*ou#hes self gently
8aresses ob/e#ts
8rosses and un#rosses legs
1lashes of palm
8rossed legs steady
Dangles shoe on toe
$ands never tou#h fa#e
*ou#hes you any reason
1eet firmly on floor
-oosens anything
-eans forward
&teady hands, feet
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*ense, restless
)ormal or small pupils
.osture remains #losed
6eeps drink high
7rips or pin#hes self
&2uee'es, taps ob/e#ts
-egs remain #rossed
Ba#k of hand gestures
&wings #rossed legs
6eeps shoe on
*ou#hes fa#e
)ever tou#hes you
1eet on edges or toes
*ightens anything
-eans away
*apping, drumming
sit or stand in an open posture% But,
during #ourtship, the more open the
other person's posture is, the more
open that person is to you and your
advan#es% 3nd, the more open you
are, the more likely the other person
is to open up to you% 1irst
8onversation &ignals% (en, pay
attention to all the ways she
#ommuni#ates during the first few
minutes as you talk with her%
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are dilated%
&he raises both eyebrows
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with a smile and some eye
#onta#t%
&he winks at you while talking
to you or winks at you from a
distan#e%
5hile talking to you, she blinks
more than usual, fluttering her
eyelashes%
+yebrows raised and then
lowered, then a smile indi#ates
interest in you%
$er hair:
&he pushes her fingers through
her hair% *his #an be one hand
movement or more of a
stroking motion%
&he twirls her hair around her
fingers while she is looking at
you%
&he is throwing her hair ba#k
off her shoulders%
$er #lothing:
f she is wearing #lothes that
show her nipples underneath
and you noti#e they are getting
perky and ere#t%
*he hem goes up to e"pose a
little more leg%
&he is fi"ing, patting or
smoothing her outfit to make
herself look better%
5hile she is seated:
&he moves in time to the
musi#, with her eyes on you%
&he starts sitting straight up
and her mus#les appear to be
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&he is sitting with her legs
open%
&he sits with her legs #rossed
in a manner to reveal her thigh%
$er legs are rubbing against
ea#h other%
$er legs are rubbing against
the leg of the table%
$er #rossed leg is pointed
towards you or if that same leg
is ro#king ba#k and forth
towards you%
$er hands:
&he e"poses the palms of her
hand fa#ing you%
5hile talking to you, she rests
an elbow in the palm of one
hand, while holding out her
other hand, palm up%
&he rubs her wrists up and
down%
&he sits with one hand
tou#hing one of her breasts%
&he rubs her #hin or tou#hes
her #heek% *his indi#ates that
she's thinking about you and
her relating in some way:)
&he is fondling keys, sliding
hands up and down a glass,
playing with toys or other
things on the table%
&he plays with her /ewellery,
espe#ially with stroking and
pulling motions%
&he tou#hes your arm,
shoulder, thigh, or hand while
talking to you ,in #ase you
already haven't started kino
yourself, dumbass:)%
&he is pretending to look at her
wat#h as you pass her%
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$er voi#e
&he raises or lowers the
volume of her voi#e to mat#h
yours%
&he speeds up or slows down
her speaking to mat#h yours%
&he laughs in unison with you%
n a #rowd she speaks only to
you and fo#uses all of her
undivided attention on you%
(i#ellaneous:
&he mirrors your body language
and body positions%
$er skin tone be#omes red
while being around you%
&he blows smoke straight out
from between her lips and
toward you%
&he leans over and speaks into
her friend's ear, /ust like in
/unior high s#hool%
&he is standing with her head
#o#ked slightly at an angle, one
foot behind the other, hips
slightly thrust forward%
3t a party ! every on#e in a
while she seems to appear out
of nowhere in your vi#inity and
if you move to another spot,
soon she appears out of
nowhere again, you #at#h her
glan#ing in your general
dire#tion ,a#tually, glan#ing at
:0; dummy4:), she bumps into
you< a##identally, tou#hes
you< a##identally et#:)
5hen talking to a girl, these are
some of the more important signs
to wat#h for:
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Does she rea#t well to kino=
Does she tou#h you=
Does she laugh=
)ow don't have to e"plain what the
answer >yes> to these 2uestions
means, do :)
1rom >&weep women off their feet%%%>:
>3ll these signs usually tell you that
the girl is #aptivated by your #harms%
But before you get there, #han#es are
that her body language #hanges as
the dis#ussion progresses% (ake sure
that you wat#h her #losely and as
soon as you get a sign that should be
an indi#ation that you are on the right
tra#k, keep going in that dire#tion% f
the opposite happens, /ust #hange
the sub/e#t and see what happens%>
*he really gorgeous and beautiful
girls however very seldom get around
to displaying the signs of interest
des#ribed above% *hey simply don't
have to, as they are used to getting
some attention already long before
that% 5ith su#h girls you have to be
on a lookout for the initial and thus
mu#h more subtle signs of interest%
0ne e"ample of this would be a
gorgeous girl simply looking at your
fa#e% 0bviously people tend to look at
what or whom they like to look at%
But whereas an average girl first /ust
looks at your fa#e and then
progresses into the more overt signs
of interest des#ribed above, looking
at your fa#e from time to time might
be the only sign of interest you'll ever
get from the most beautiful of girls%
&o if you think you're not getting any
signs of interest from beautiful girls !
you are, but you /ust #an't see them
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well enough yet%
Don &teele: >$ere are signs of
interest sent from a#ross the room%
(ost are appli#able to both se"es%
*he se2uen#e of the list
appro"imates the #ourtship
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n so#ial settings, most of us start
out in a #losed, defensive posture
be#ause we're a bit apprehensive% 3
#losed posture feels safe% 5hen the
person you are talking with shifts to
a more open posture, it signifies trust
and #omfort% *hat person is, literally,
opening up to you and what you have
to offer%
t takes #ourage to open up to the
other person% f you go first, she, or
he, will usually follow your move from
#losed to slightly more open% 0pen up
in, slow, gradual shifts of posture%
3 variation of mirroring is dis#ussed in the arti#les dealing with eli#iting
values and using tran#e!words ! that is verbal mirroring% But a better!known
variation of mirroring is physi#al mirroring% 3#tually, you've most probably
been doing it all your life without knowing it but on#e you know how to
harness the power of mirroring #ons#iously ! its like young &kywalker
re#ognising and harnessing the power of the 1or#e:)%
)oti#e how people that seem to be engaged in ann interesting #onversation !
they are e"#ited about what they themselves are saying, they are about to
say and what the other is saying, in other words, they have rapport ! seem to
take the same poses, whether sitting or standing up% 5hen sitting, either side
by side or on opposites sides of the table ! one leans forward and then the
other leans forward as well, one leans ba#kward and then the other leans
ba#kward as well, they #ross their hands in the same manner, tilt their heads
similarly, seem to be having similar side!a#tivities ,one playing with his
key#hain, the other with her pen), et# et#% 3re they dire#ting their a#tions
#ons#iously= )o, all their energies and #on#entration is on the dis#ussion,
everything else happens sub#ons#iously% But a#tually, they don't even have
to be having a dis#ussion, they may /ust both be thinking their own
thoughts< and still you #an see mirroring going on ! they make the same
movements almost the same time without seemingly without having any
per#eivable intera#tion with the other person%
5hat is all this knowledge good for= 5ell, mirroring #an be used as a tool for
building rapport% Being similar or having someone similar in your vi#inity
#reates a feeling of ease, #omfort, being understood, prote#ted ,should there
appear a threat of any sort, there's two of you now:) et#% &o you #an use the
power of mirroring to #reate these feelings in the one you are mirroring,
she'll sub#ons#iously link all those feelings to you ,after all, you are the one
mirroring her:) and rapport is going to develop between you without you
having lifted a finger ,unless she lifted a finger and you had to mirror her:)%
$ow, whom and from where should mirror= 5hom ! that's easy, the girl you
want of #ourse:) $ow ! assuming the same posture, doing the same
movements with your hands, in all respe#ts using your body in a similar
fashion to hers% (ore aspe#ts of mirroring are:
following ! doing the movements after she did them% )ote that although
your mind s#reams >*his is stupid4 'm going to get #aught4 &he (;&*
see me doing the same movements4 *his is ridi#ulous4>, don't' listen to
it, fight it, it is the voi#e of the Dark &ide4:) 5hy= Be#ause they )+9+R
)0*8+ it4 nstead, they feel more #omfortable and rela"ed in
#onne#tion with you, and eventually ,that's why you even bothered,
right=:) ! more drawn to you%
pa#ing ! doing the movements the same time with her% :es% &ounds
impossible= 5ell it isn't% $ave you ever noti#ed how you sometimes
happened to do the same things at e"a#tly the same time with another
person% (aybe yawn and then have a laugh about it:)= Be#ause you
thought it was a##idental= 5ell it wasn't, you had rea#hed the se#ond
stage of mirroring:) ,:awning is not a good e"ample though, the last
thing you want is the girl yawning with you:)% But there's nothing
magi#al all supernatural about doing the movements at the same time,
be#ause essentially the se#ond phase is a stage of transition between
the first and the third% n mirroring there's always a leader and a
follower% &o far she has been leading you ,be#ause you've been
following her) but now you are #oming to the stage when :0; will be
leading her4 3nd the inevitable stage between following and leading is
pa#ing ! you are doing movements simultaneously%
leading ! if you've done your mirroring right, have followed and pa#ed,
then you are ready for a revelation% :ou #an lead4 *ry it% 8ough% &he
#oughs% &#rat#h your elbow% 5ell maybe she'll s#rat#h her shoulder
instead of her elbow, big deal:) n addition to being a tool of building
rapport, you #an lead her into doing some pretty fun stuff% Do a
movement with your hands mimi#king the parting of legs ,this should
be asso#iated with something you are talking about, if it looks strange,
she'll noti#e it and you don't want her #ons#ious attention on your
movements, keep her mind busy with what you're talking about)% 5at#h
her legs part:) $ave fun:)
3nother more advan#ed aspe#t, although #ontroversial as to the
effe#tiveness of it, is mirroring her blinking her eyes and breathing% Being
able to mirror her breathing and blinking her eyes is supposed to #reate an
even deeper rapport, but first of all ! trying to see when she breathes might
seem like you staring at her breasts ,and you would )+9+R do that, would
you=:)? and se#ondly ! all the #on#entration re2uired to dete#t and mat#h
your breathing and blinking with hers will take away mu#h!needed attention
from what she is saying, how is she responding to your patterns, values, kino
et#, so eventually this #ould do more harm than good%
3s to from where to mirror ! the most #ommon situation is when you're
talking to her% But you #an also try mirroring from a distan#e, say in a
#lassroom, meeting, night!#lub or #afeteria, /ust make sure she has a #han#e
to sub#ons#iously dete#t you mirroring her, in other words, she must be able
to see you ,so you #an forget about mirroring her while wat#hing her take a
shower through a peep!hole:)%
3 te#hni2ue of #reating instant rapport by >faking> body!language% *om, 3&1:
> /ust finished another book about body language, and they mention several
times that when someone is interested in a dis#ussion, they tilt their head
slightly% thought that now that knew when someone was interested, maybe
#ould do the same to >simulate> my deep interest in what they say% 3nd%%% it
works4 5hen someone's like >and you know, my dog /ust got a new #ollar and
it fits wondefully with the living room furniture? the shade of green is /ust the
same as the kid's bedroom #arpet and that's great be#ause%%%> ! usually you
would be using a few words they said ,dog, #ollar, et#) and using the same
ad/e#tives ,wonderful, great, et#) and ask something making them #ontinue%
But when you tilt your head slightly and do the same thing, it's obvious the
impa#t is mu#h stronger%>
(a"im ,http:@@ma"immag%#om):
A love it when a guy sort of mirrors my physi#al behavior, like when Bm
sitting a#ross from him and lean in to say something, like him to lean in% f
Bm talking really fast, and he #an keep up with me, it makes me feel like
weBre in the same pla#e% f Bm being a little freneti# and heBs slow and
rela"ed and laid!ba#k, feel really far away%
C8arlie, DE, &alt -ake 8ityF
6inestheti#s ,aka kino) ! have kino with your female
friends@a#2uaintan#es
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.sy#hologi#al studies show that #asual tou#hing during a friendly
#onversation #auses people to remember the #onversation more fondly after
the fa#t%
*he #ombination of kino with so#ial proof is dynamite% *ou#h one girl and
the other girls seeing this think its normal or even >good> to be tou#hy!feely
with you:)% )ow you #an 2uite naturally move on to tou#hing those other
girls and so forth:)%
3&1: >t's 2uite simple ! hug them, tou#h their hand sporadi#ally and in 3
)0) *$R+3*+))7 53:, that is, not like the desperate pervert we all are:)
&o the idea is, you hide #ompletely the interest you might have 3)D at the
same time you a#t really tou#hy@huggish% *he problem is ! you have to start
this early in the >friend> relationship, it has to seem natural, or otherwise
she'll wonder >what the fu#k is he doing lately=>:) 0n#e you've developed
that kind of flirtatious friendship, it's easy to spawn other su#h 'friendships'
with other women: they will see you being #lose to another woman, and
think the key here is that, it probably does not trigger as mu#h /ealousy as it
makes them ,the >new> ones) feel #omfortable !! they see another woman
being tou#hed by you in a non!threatening way, and, blam, so#ial!proof, it
be#omes a 'proof' to them that it's normal for you to tou#h them in turn%%% >
3&1: >0k, use this all the time now% *0;8$ $+R444 t doesn't matter if you
/ust met her% $old her hand, rub her arm, her elbow her ba#k, her shoulders,
her hair, her fa#e% *0;8$ $+R 444>
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you do this you will be able to better gauge if you have the appropriate
rapport to invite a kiss% f her body seems to respond to the non!se"ual
tou#hing then get gradually more se"ual% 1or women some areas of the body
outside of the primary erogenous 'ones are intimate: .alms, inside the
elbow, ear lobes, #heeks, the hips were the waist meets the hips, between
the fingers%%%%
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Do the things that lovers do ! brush off >something> that's stu#k in her
hair, gently stroke her #heek pretending to wipe off an eyelash et#% *hese
are the types of things lovers do and by doing them, you will make her feel
,doesn't even matter if only sub#ons#iously) like you were her lover% .lus
you'll get >inno#ent> yet pleasurable kino:)
6ino as soon as you meet a girl% (eeting someone for the first time is an
e"#ellent #han#e for starting kino ! shaking hands when e"#hanging names
is a tradition of many #ultures and #ultures% But make sure you hold on to
her hand longer than e"pe#ted, long enough for you to en/oy it and her to
noti#e, if not you en/oying it but at least you not letting go as 2ui#kly as
people usually do%
5hen meeting girls you already know, shaking hands might seem strange,
so giving some sort of a hug is the way to go% :ou don't need to fall all over
her to give her a hug ,whi#h depending on the situation might even make
you look like a fool or a pervert or make her embarrassed instead of having
her en/oy it too:), a hug #an also be putting your arm around her waist or
shoulders when standing to her left or right and pulling her #loser for a
moment, or taking her hand for a moment ,but not shaking it), or her elbow,
or arm et#% Daniel, 3&1: >6)0 on the arm@hand as soon as you say hi to
show her you are a se"ual being%>
&et the mood of the date from the start% 5hen going on a date@get!
together, establish the mood immediately% :ou #an of #ourse #hange the
mood from >polite and #alm> to >warm and friendly> to >aroused and
sweaty> during the #ourse of the meeting, but why go the hard way, if you
#an /ump right into >warm and friendly> or beyond in the first pla#e% t is
best to have a#ting enthusiasti# upon meeting the girl to have agreed upon
previously ,most probably when you set up a meeting on the phone, see
Refining the #lose in 8losing for more information)% But even without that,
you #an be all smiles when you meet her, give her a big hug right away, try
to take and hold her hand all the way to whereever it is that you'll be going
and wat#h her #hange from slightly nervous to happy, smiling, starry!eyed
and glowing all over:) 3nd remember ! enthusiasm is #ontageous:)
1oot!flirting% :ou've all seen it done in the movies:) *he foot looses the
shoe and the woman is stroking the man with her bare foot or vi#e versa%
8orny you say:)= 3 #li#he maybe:)= *ry it and then see what you think:) am,
3&1: >Jin response to >you #an't kino sitting a#ross the table>K 3#tually, you
L#anL kino when you are sitting a#ross from the target% Must use your feet4
0f #ourse this re2uires a small table, but this also helps to set up an
intimate atmoshpere ,remember #andles et#%)% *ou#h her feet >o##asionally>
with your own under the table, say something like >tee hee, you are foot!
flirtin' with me=> in a /oking way% -ook her deepely in the eyes while doing
this, and #ontinue using your feet% Do it the right way and at the right time
with a #hi#k in the right mood, and voila4 :ou #an a#tually pro#eed to
rubbing ea#h other's #rot#hes with your toes under the table, then say >my
bed is that way> and B3)74 :ou're )4>
>8an't hear you:)>% -ord7aeden, 3&1: >*ry this: f she says something, lean
forward as if you aren't hearing her very well, and tou#h her ,arm or ba#k)%
*hen lean ba#k again and answer% 3re there any easy #lues as to when is
the right time to go kino= *he #lue is when it's possible ,ie, she's within in
range)>%
6ino is the differen#e between getting and not getting the girl% t is the
saving gra#e of even the otherwise doomed >ni#e guy> approa#h% 3nd in
some instan#es, being the >ni#e guy> together with using kino #an even be
2uite effe#tive% $ere's why: the su##ess of kino depends on whether the girl
per#eives you and your tou#h as a threat to her or not% :ou #an be a rough
and tough guy , try to avoid the word >/erk> as it is not really 2uite
reprsesentative of what the opposite of >ni#e guy> a#tually is) and still have
the girl feel you are not a threat to her spefi#i#ally, thus initiating kino will
be easy% 3 ni#e guy usually /ust has an easier time having girls feel he is not
a threat to them% ;sually though, that is also his undoing, as he is
#onse2uently per#eived as weak, neutral and non!se"ual, all of whi#h are
ma/or turn!offs for girls% But here is where the saving gra#e of kino steps in%
:ou are safe, so tou#hing and hugging with you is%%% well, also safe% $owever,
before she knows it ! tou#hing and hugging with you moves from feeling
pretty good to 2uite e"#iting to really ele#trifying until all that good, safe
and friendly physi#al #onta#t with you is going to make her wonder: >f it
feels so good /ust to tou#h with him, why on earth not do more= wonder
what that would be like=>% 5hi#h is not to say that being the >ni#e guy> is
the way to go% *his was simply meant to illustrate the strength of
kinestheti#s ! it even works for the >ni#e guy>:) &o remember ! kino really is
the differen#e between getting and not getting the girl%
*he prote#tive gesture% (a"im ,http:@@ma"immag%#om): An a #rowded bar,
if people are walking by and pushing you, thereBs a way a guy #an put his
arm around youCnot a#tually tou#hing you, but behind your ba#k so heBs
sort of keeping you from getting shoved% 3 man doesnBt need to pi#k a fight
with some guy who a##identally steps on my toes, but itBs ni#e if heBs
prote#tive% C6ris, HN, -os 3ngelesF
5here to meet girls
<<< >>>
,*aken from >&weep women off their feet%%%>:)
&hopping (alls% *ry to remember the last time you went to a mall% 8an you
possibly look in a dire#tion and not spot a beautiful girl that you would like
to sedu#e= 'd venture a guess and say no%
*he malls are always full of girls% 7irls who work at various stores and
shops within the mall, but also a lot of girls who go shopping or /ust hang
out% 7irls love shopping% *hough it is harder to sedu#e a girl if she is
surrounded by her friends, it is not always the #ase%
5alk up and down the halls and look inside stores for beautiful #lerks or
shoppers% f it is a women's #lothing store or something feminine, even
better% :ou #an easily walk up to a girl ,#lerk or shopper) and ask her:
>+"#use me% 5ould you be so kind to hold this up in front of you for a
moment= t's my sister's birthday ne"t week and you are about the same
si'e as her and from what #an tell you have the same e"#ellent fashion
sense%>
Better yet, after the initial approa#h you #an even ask her if she sees
anything else that she really likes in the store that your sister might like too
be#ause of the similar tastes in fashion% .robe for keywords why she likes
#ertain things over the others et#%
0n#e you have suffi#ient information of not only what she likes but also why
she likes it you #an start your #harm% +"pand the #onversation to likes and
dislikes in other areas of her life to get her view on things and so on% f she's
a shopper you might want to a#t very 2ui#kly to finding ways for you to
#ontinue your #onversation somewhere else, but if she works there she
won't mind spending the time with you espe#ially if it's not very busy%
-ibraries% f there is one pla#e that girls almost always outnumber guys, it
has to be the library% 5hether it's a publi# library or a #ollege@university
library, you will always find young girls trying to do resear#h for a pro/e#t or
homework%
*hese girls are usually very intelligent and dedi#ated to their work, but the
plain truth is the fa#t that everybody #an use a break on#e in a while% f you
provide a bit of a pleasant distra#tion they'll be more than happy to talk to
you% :ou #ould be asking them for some help to lo#ate a spe#ifi# se#tion or
spe#ialty book% +ven if they #an't help you out they will at least have to tell
you that they don't know where you #an find your book% But guess what=
*hat is a #onversation taking pla#e right there% 3sk them about their own
work, interests, et#% &how interest, and let them talk about it for a while%
*hese girls like to show off their knowledge so they'll tell you more than you
need to know about the sub/e#t% But if you develop good rapport at this
stage you #an easily #ontinue this fas#inating #onversation elsewhere% 7et
my drift= :ou #an start asking why they're interested in this parti#ular
sub/e#t, what's the most fas#inating thing about it, what are the #hallenges
and so on% 0n#e you move to answering this type of 2uestions then you will
be able to get an insight as to what type of girl she is, what she holds dear
and so on%
7ourmet 8offee &hops% Before work, at lun#h and after work these pla#es
are pa#ked with girls% &ometimes the more pa#ked the pla#e, the better
be#ause you may have to share a table with >someone>% f it's not very busy
you #an still ask to sit ne"t to a beautiful girl% Must tell her that you don't like
to sit alone and if she'd mind you sitting with her till you're done with your
drink%
f you're sitting together might as well talk about something% 3nd remember
this is a gourmet #offee shop% *hese girls don't #ome here for the #offee,
they #ome here for the spe#ialty #offee, and they #ome for the frills and
sometimes even the prestige asso#iated with a parti#ular spe#ialty #offee
shop%
&o what do you talk about=
$er favorite drink and why she likes it over regular #offee, how does it make
her feel and so on% *ry and talk in detail about the different sensations and
aromas% 5omen love des#riptive talk in detail espe#ially if it involves
something that #an even be #ompared to a se"ual sensation%
*he whipped #ream, the #herry on top, how the blend of the #offee with the
different li2ueurs reminds you of a hot and steamy -atin love dan#e
stimulating your taste buds beyond #omparison et#% guess while you are at
the library you #an pi#k up some books on gourmet foods and spe#ialty
drinks to learn the language fine #riti#s use to des#ribe them% Believe me,
talking like that #an make a girl melt even though you're only talking about
a spe#ialty #offee, be#ause you end up planting all these wonderful images
in her mind by using metaphors%
5orkpla#e or &#hool@8ollege% *his is a more rela"ed atmosphere for
sedu#ing women be#ause you are not under time #onstraints% f you #an't
get her hotter than hot for you today, you #an talk to her again tomorrow%
:ou'll have mu#h better opportunities to get to know her% n addition, if you
work or study #losely together for an e"tended period of time #han#es are
that you will be#ome attra#ted to ea#h other anyway%
.ersonals% J3 word of warning about personals ! they will never get you the
e"perien#e of a#tually approa#hing and getting the attention of the woman
you want be#ause a meeting arranged through personals simply skips this
important phase% &o although meeting women this way might feel easier
initially, ultimately you will never learn the skills that really make the
differen#eK
s this too low for you= s it beneath you= $ell no% 5hether it's newspaper
personals, telephone personals, video personals or nternet personals and
#hat rooms, they offer you e"#ellent opportunities to meet a lot of women to
pra#ti#e your skills%
5ith the e"#eption of video personals the drawba#k is the fa#t that you
don't really know what the person looks like% But that's not a problem% t
shouldn't be your goal to meet someone to sedu#e right away% *his is
nothing but an avenue for you to get pra#ti#e and e"perien#e talking to
women% But if things #li#k for you why not go for it anyway= f she turns out
to be butt ugly /ust tell her that as shallow as this seems, without the
physi#al attra#tion things aren't going to go anywhere between you two and
move on%
)ow when pla#ing these personals you #an attra#t a whole lot of women
with some #at#hy headline and be bothered with a lot of replies that get you
nowhere wasting your time% 0r you #an be very spe#ifi# and dis#riminating
about who you are what you look like and what you're looking for% 1eel free
to in#lude any #hara#teristi#s they may find unappealing% *his will eliminate
a lot of women who might otherwise reply but the ones who do reply are
more likely to end up somewhere be#ause they already know what to
e"pe#t from you and are willing to a##ept it%
Better yet, read a lot of the women's personals and try to model yours after
them%
3s an added dirty tri#k, you #an pla#e a personal as a woman seeking a man
to get a lot of good ideas from other men who reply to it% (ost of them will
be really bad but on#e in a while there will be one that will #at#h your eye
and #uriosity% 5hen you reply to a woman's personal ad try out these other
ideas to see if they work% f they work, you learned something new% f they
don't work, move on%
3n e"ample of a personals ad% 3&1:
>sn't attra#tion in#redible= magine rela"ing into strong arms holding you,
feeling safe and appre#iated and intimate, knowing you're e"a#tly where
you belong%%% 'm edu#ated, su##essful, emotionally mature, and know what
want% (y work keeps me busy, but make time for travel, dining out, musi#
,very diverse tastes), and anything new and interesting% 'm tall, in great
shape, with green eyes and dark wavy hair ,pi#ture available)% -ooking to
meet a woman who's smart, honest, and loves to laugh% )ow tell me all
about you%%%>
3 few more ;&!spe#ifi# pla#es and times to meet women% &peed &edu#tion
newsletter, Ross Meffries:
Restaurants with atta#hed bars: *hese pla#es are often great *uesday to
*hursday nights, around O ! P:DE .(% +spe#ially ups#ale pla#es, they #ater
to a professional #rowd% &ome 9+R: ni#e looking women looking to unwind
after work% 3lso often these pla#es serve as a meeting ground for women
having ba#heleorette parties%
8offee houses: like &tarbu#ks, 8offee Bean, *ea -eaf et#% 7reat from P !
GE:DE 3( every day of the week% 3fter Q 3( you are more likely to get
women who work in retail, outside sales like pharma#euti#al reps, self!
employed, students et#%
&upermarkets: ( ! 1 noon to around G:DE .( as women on their lun#h hours
pop into buy things% (onday to *hursday O ! P:DE .(, &aturdays GE 3( to
noon, same for &undays%
&hopping malls: *his is a no brainer% f they have a good food #ourt and are
near offi#es, then noon til G:DE .(, ( ! 1% $it the food #ourts and forget most
of the rest of the stores% 0ther good times: *ues ! *hurs O:DE ! P .( and &at
afternoons%
&elf!improvement seminars: &u#h seminars are -03D+D to the gunwales
with good!looking, &;77+&*B-+ women who are totally open to the type of
themes dis#ussed in any good &peed &edu#tion pattern% &ame with most of
the self!help gurus% 8hrist, ya don't even have to sign up% Must find out where
they are being held, hang out in the lobby of the hotel and swoop in on the
$B's during the #offee, pea and dinner breaks%
7yms: *he women are in awesome shape and usually 2uite adventurous%
:oga 8lasses: ;nbelievable amounts of hard!bodied, wildy well!shaped
women% *ake a beginners #lass if you've never done it before and you'll met
lots of women, who are also 9+R: suggestible and open to >new ways> of
thinking%
Mohnny &ha#k ,http:@@showgirls%#om%au):
&porting #lubs and asso#iations: >*hese areas are very good for meeting
single women% :ou find out easily whi#h women are single and you #an talk
with them easily be#ause you have a similar interest% 5hat #ould be easier=
*here is immediate #onversation to talk about and its enough to get to know
ea#h other enough to work out: >3m attra#ted to this person or not=>
)ow the footy #lub J3ustralian football=K is maybe not the best pla#e for
hunting women but a netball #lub that has mi"ed #ompetitions definitely is%
7ymnasiums are good to% 5omen at gyms will talk to any guy that talks to
them% +verything is on your side in these pla#es be#ause the woman knows
you are in the same #lub and therefore will not automati#ally be rude to you%
3lso it gives them a harmless e"#use to talk with you without people
thinking any slea'iness is going on% *hey may be waiting for you to say
something%>
&ee also:
)ight!#lubs vs other pla#es to meet girls
Demonstrate value and personality
<<< >>>
:ou have nothing, absolutely nothing to e"pe#t from a girl to whom you do
not demonstrate value and personality% Be it being (r &mooth or making her
horny with 7( or leading her imagination with patterning or simply being
you in a great mood, #onfident and witty whi#h she finds attra#tive ! you
have to demonstrate her something about you that she dis#overs to be of
value for her% 3nd she will dis#over it being of value for her for the simple
reason of liking the way that value makes her feel%
&o many guys think, that their mere presen#e and #ompany is of some
spe#ifi# value to the girl ! well it is not% f you sport a great fa#e and@or big
mus#les, then your presen#e #an sometimes be a turn!on for a girl ! she
likes the way the pro"imity of your fa#e and mus#les make her feel and thus
your presen#e #an be of separate value for her% But even the few times that
happens, it will wear off fast if it turns out that that is all you have to offer%
3ny time the girl is bored, disinterested, turns you down, walks away,
re/e#ts you or ignores you ! you have simply not demonstrated enough value
to her% Demonstrating the right kind of value and personality, the kind that
she is espe#ially looking for in a partner is not an issue at this point, you'll
get to that when +li#iting values% Right now you simply need to get her
attention by taking an edu#ated guess at what she might be interested in !
see 7ood traits to have and develop% Demonstrating any kind of value and
personality from that list of traits will do perfe#tly fine for starters, and is
infinitely better than the >$ere am, this is the way look ,and 'm sorry 'm
not better!looking), now please like me> attitude used by most guys ,who
are also >trying> to be funny and #onfident et#, but eventually their
318'ness will inevitably shine through:)% 5hi#h will leave them s#rat#hing
their heads while the girl walks away and thinking >oh, better lu#k ne"t
time, 'm sure someone somewhere will like me%%% hope>%
n fa#t, you are like a travelling salesman, giving girls only a foretaste of the
goods and offering them an opportunity to get the real stuff%%% >if they
behave well enough>:) &ee the differen#e with 318 thinking= 5hi#h seems
to #onsider that the girls are the >goods> whi#h you might eventually get if
you date, pay for dinners@movies and take their disrespe#t long enough= )o,
:0; are the goods, but you're not selling to everyone ! you offer only to a
sele#t group of potential #ustomers% But you don't need to push it, the stuff
is for real and you know it, and if one #ustomer doesn't want it, its her loss,
another one will grab you gladly:)
Must don't forget ! nobody will want your goods if they don't even know
anything about it% &o sample it ! by demonstrating value and personality%
*alking to her R e#hoing her
<<< >>>
7irls want to be understood% n order for her to feel understood, you need to
listen to what she says, rephrase it and feed it ba#k to her ,it helps if you
agree with whatever statement she made:)% -isten to what she says,
remember it and you #an make her feel #onne#ted to you and understood by
you even weeks after your #onversation by /ust simply repeating what she
told to you during your #onversation:) &o make sure a lot of your
#ommuni#ation to her is a subtle e#ho of what she feeds you% )ow this
strategy is already 2uite effe#tive on its own but #ombine it with using
tran#e!words and she's gonna levitate right in front of your eyes:)
3&1: >:ou need to do more than /ust agree with her%%%going uh uh won't #ut
it% $owever you also #an't /ust repeat what she said verbatim% :ou have to
take something she's said and paraphrase it and present it as an original
thought or opinion%>
Demonstrate value and personality
<<< >>>
:ou have nothing, absolutely nothing to e"pe#t from a girl to whom you do
not demonstrate value and personality% Be it being (r &mooth or making her
horny with 7( or leading her imagination with patterning or simply being
you in a great mood, #onfident and witty whi#h she finds attra#tive ! you
have to demonstrate her something about you that she dis#overs to be of
value for her% 3nd she will dis#over it being of value for her for the simple
reason of liking the way that value makes her feel%
&o many guys think, that their mere presen#e and #ompany is of some
spe#ifi# value to the girl ! well it is not% f you sport a great fa#e and@or big
mus#les, then your presen#e #an sometimes be a turn!on for a girl ! she
likes the way the pro"imity of your fa#e and mus#les make her feel and thus
your presen#e #an be of separate value for her% But even the few times that
happens, it will wear off fast if it turns out that that is all you have to offer%
3ny time the girl is bored, disinterested, turns you down, walks away,
re/e#ts you or ignores you ! you have simply not demonstrated enough value
to her% Demonstrating the right kind of value and personality, the kind that
she is espe#ially looking for in a partner is not an issue at this point, you'll
get to that when +li#iting values% Right now you simply need to get her
attention by taking an edu#ated guess at what she might be interested in !
see 7ood traits to have and develop% Demonstrating any kind of value and
personality from that list of traits will do perfe#tly fine for starters, and is
infinitely better than the >$ere am, this is the way look ,and 'm sorry 'm
not better!looking), now please like me> attitude used by most guys ,who
are also >trying> to be funny and #onfident et#, but eventually their
318'ness will inevitably shine through:)% 5hi#h will leave them s#rat#hing
their heads while the girl walks away and thinking >oh, better lu#k ne"t
time, 'm sure someone somewhere will like me%%% hope>%
n fa#t, you are like a travelling salesman, giving girls only a foretaste of the
goods and offering them an opportunity to get the real stuff%%% >if they
behave well enough>:) &ee the differen#e with 318 thinking= 5hi#h seems
to #onsider that the girls are the >goods> whi#h you might eventually get if
you date, pay for dinners@movies and take their disrespe#t long enough= )o,
:0; are the goods, but you're not selling to everyone ! you offer only to a
sele#t group of potential #ustomers% But you don't need to push it, the stuff
is for real and you know it, and if one #ustomer doesn't want it, its her loss,
another one will grab you gladly:)
Must don't forget ! nobody will want your goods if they don't even know
anything about it% &o sample it ! by demonstrating value and personality%
.a#e and lead
<<< >>>
3n e"ample of verbal pa#ing and demonstrating understanding to in#rease
rapport ,see >(irroring> for an e"planation and e"amples of physi#al
pa#ing)% &peed &edu#tion newsletter, Ross Meffries:
>9+RB3--: .38+ *$+ 0)70)7 &*;3*0) ! #annot emphasi'e enough
the power of this 9+R: important rule% Basi#ally, what it means is to
verbally des#ribe and therefore 386)05-+D7+ the situation and reality
that she finds herself in with you%
3n e"ample:
-et's say you're a lu#ky s%o%b%, and, like me, you live right by a /og or bike
path% 5omen are #onstantly skating, blading, running or biking right by you%
3nd let's say further, that, you, like me, are a la'y son of a bit#h and have no
intention of moving your own fat ass via bike, blades, running et#% 5hat do
you have to do in order to meet and talk to these women= 5ell, Bu#kwheat,
what ya first and foremost gotta do is%%% :a 7otta 7et '+m *o &top4
5ith that in mind, have a#tually ;&+D the following approa#h and
38*;3--: gotten it to work4 merely wait for a ni#e looking young lady to
#ome /ogging, blading or biking toward my stationary position along the
path% then /ump out, hold out a hand and in my most authoratative tone
yell: &*0.4 ,*his is a#tually pretty funny to wat#h% have never had them
)0* stop4)
then say something like, >f you're that easily stopped%%% you need a
boyfriend who will (0*93*+ you4 (y name is Ross>%
n the e"ample above, where 've /ust /umped in her path and yelled >&*0.>,
what do you think this girl is thinking= t's a safe bet it is something along
the lines of >this guy is fu#kin' nuts>4 &o better ;&+ that instead of
ignoring it%
say something along these lines, >-ook, know this is a totally nutty way
to meet someone ,pa#ing her ongoing belief)%%% but knew if didn't do
&0(+*$)7 to stop you, we'd never get a #han#e to talk ,also #ompletely
true%%% a truism with whi#h she #annot argue) and maybe see how mu#h 5+
80;-D R+3--: -6+ +38$ 0*$+R ,embedded suggestion)>%
*he prin#iple here is 9+R: important% 3nd that is%%% B: D+(0)&*R3*)7
;)D+R&*3)D)7, :0; )8R+3&+ R3..0R*4
)ow, let me make something #riti#ally #lear: did )0* say demonstrate that
:0; are >understanding, sensitive> et#% said demonstrate
>understanding>%%% of her ongoing reality and situation% )ot in the sense of
apologi'ing or e"#using but simply that you are alert and 353R+ of who she
is and what she is e"perien#ing%
1rom here, what will do is say, >-ook%%% don't have a lot of time here ,a bit
of a >takeaway> whi#h always makes you more appealing)% 3nd it's obvious
that you are on the move too% But if you'll sit with me for S minutes, 'll
analy'e your handwriting% :ou'll get to learn se#rets about yourself your
best friends don't know and 'll get to find out if :0; are the kind of person
want to know better ,here 'm stru#turing an opportunity and offering her a
#hallenge)%>
&ee also:
(irroring
Buying her a drink
<<< >>>
'll make it short: don't buy her a drink% Don't offer to buy her a drink neither
agree to her demands ,>'m thirsty%%>, >5ill you buy me a drink=> et#)% $ere's
why ! if you do, you suppli#ate% 3nd women have nothing but s#orn and
disrespe#t for suppli#ating men% -et me give a few e"amples to illustrate
this%
$er ,thinking >-et's see if #an hook this su#ker:)>): >5ill you buy me a
drink=>
:ou ,thinking >0h boy am in lu#k, this woman must like me, she's asking
me to buy her a drink:)>): >&ure4>
$er ,thinking >$a4 3nother suppli#ating male to buy me a drink /ust be#ause
asked him% 5hat a wimp% Do they really all think 'm gonna go in bed with
them for a bottle of beer= Mee'< 'll take my drink and #ontinue sear#hing
for a R+3- (3)%>): >*hanks4 :ou're so sweet4 Bye now4:)>
:ou ,#onfused): >$ey< wait4 ;m<=>
&o even if she stays for say five or ten minutes and has a ni#e little #hit!#hat
with you ! you started with a #rash and burn, you've already been #rossed
out in her book of prospe#tive partners be#ause you &;..-83*+D4
0ffering to buy her a drink is even worse% :ou are voluntarily be#oming a
suppli#ator% *he women will either refuse the drink ,they want nothing to do
with a wimp like you), a##ept the drink and then ignore you ,they still want
nothing to do with a wimp like you, but they wanted the drink) or ! the more
sensitive women will a##ept the drink and even stay with you but all the
while feeling un#omfortable about it ,> a##epted the drink, so guess
should stay for a while, it would be rude to leave% But he must be thinking
now, that if a##epted the drink and am staying with him, then there's some
more in this for him% But there isn't4 $e's a suppli#ator4 don't want him4 'll
have got to try to make my e"it the moment the situation presents itself4>)%
3nd if she feels un#omfortable about being with you, do you think you stand
a #han#e with her= 0f #ourse, you #an turn the situation around for you if
you're R+3--: 700D ! but why make life harder for yourself=
&o what to a#tually do if she gives you a >5ill you buy me a drink=>% f she
seems to be a#tually interested in you ! you have been having a
#onversation for a while and she uses the >buy me a drink> to test you ,>&o
does this guy like me enough to buy me a drink=>) or she is approa#hing you
with the intention getting to know to you and /ust happens to use the most
popular 318!line ,>8an buy you a drink=>) reversed ,>5ill you buy me a
drink=>) to initiate a #onversation ! then e"plain to her, that it is not your
prin#iple to buy drinks to women, but she #ould buy :0; a drink:) 3n
e"ample:
$er: >5ill you buy me drink=>
:ou: >)o% But you #an buy me a drink:)>
$er ,thinking >3rgh< 7mph< $e didn't suppli#ate4 8ould this be< a real
man4= 5hat's this, 'm getting wet4=>): >3m< um< :es4>
f however she seems to be #ruising, fishing for drinks and doesn't seem to
#are the least bit about you, telling her >)o> would mean she'd /ust move on
without listening to you any further and getting her drink from some #hump
eventually anyway% &o you need to stop her #old in her tra#ks:) $ere's an
e"ample from 3&1:
$er: >5ill you buy me a drink=>
:ou: >7ive me a 1ren#h kiss%>
)0*+ that the tongue play must be an e"pli#it part of the bargain up front%
)one of this pe#k on the lips B;--&$*, be#ause you are still suppli#ating if
you settle for that% $ere's the beautiful part: f she says no, now &$+ is the
person who said >no> in the situation, instead of you4 :ou don't have to be
the >/erk> for turning her down% f she says yes, tongue!a#tion and kino right
away% *hen get her a drink as a reward:) )ote that she will probably demure
before #aving in, this is your #han#e to show personality and be playful% 7o
7( and (r% &mooth on her right away4
>:ou aren't uptight are you= Don't you go out to have fun= 5e're having
fun4:)>
>:ou like #ool guys don't you= :)>
>t's not hot se" or anything%%%/ust a little kiss4:)>
.a#ing the ongoing reality
<<< >>>
3 good tool to use for instant rapport, espe#ially when approa#hing ,as you
need to over#ome her possible #autiousness about you and do it fast) is
pa#ing the ongoing reality% 5hat this means, is des#ribing both the very
re#ent ,for e"ample her having been idle and you having approa#hed her),
ongoing ,you talking to her and her being pleasantly surprised) and near
future events ,her feeling good about getting to know a handsome stranger
like you) in a pleasant, humorous and believeable manner% $ere's a modified
e"ample originated by 8lifford in 8lifford's &edu#tin newsletter% t starts out
with some basi# approa#hing elements ,pardoning, #omplimenting her,
offering your name), whi#h are sometimes frowned upon by more
e"perien#ed .;3!s ,see >8omplimenting her>, >)eghits> and >&hould offer
my name=> for more information on why), but the ensuing pa#ing of ongoing
reality #reates an overall pleasant atmosphere of honesty, simpli#ity and
sin#erity, whi#h is often almost impossible to resist:) *he modified e"ample
pa#ing by 8lifford, 8lifford's &edu#tion newsletter:
>+"#use me, don't mean to interrupt you Jdrinking #offee @ reading the
newspaper @ waiting for the #ommuter @ your train of thoughtK, but /ust
wanted to tell you that find you very attra#tive and wanted to meet you% (y
name is Ri#k, what's yours=> J$ere #omes the pa#ingK >:ou know, you never
know when something wonderful is about to happen, like you #ould find
yourself Jin the #afe @ in the waiting!hall @ sitting on the ben#h @ whereeverK
/ust thinking about Jeating another donut @ what time the #ommuter arrives @
whatever she's doing or e"pe#ting to happenK, and the ne"t thing you know
an attra#tive stranger is talking to you, and as you listen to him you may
noti#e that even though Jyou've never seen him before @ you've seen him
before at this bus!stop @ you've met him before here in this libraryK, somehow
today, be#ause he is talking to you, you may see him in a new and different
way% 8an you imagine that=>
)ow what you did here, is you told her something that she invariably had to
agree with ! yes, she was where you said she was, doing what you told her
she was doing, thinking in the lines of what you hinted she was, yes, yes
and yes% 3nd all of these things were 2uite simple for you to say ! all you had
to do was to des#ribe the s#enery:) But in her mind it doesn't matter ! she
finds herself agreeing to what you're saying, over and over again% 3nd its
not some unimportant who!#ares and so!what stuff like >the sun is shining%%%
and the buildings are tall%%% and people are walking by> either, its a#tually
something 2uite important as it is about what LsheL was doing and what
LsheL was thinking about% &o while she is listening to you and she finds
herself agreeing with you on some fairly important matters, the agreean#e
she has in her mind #reates a feeling of enthusiasm and being #lose to you,
and in effe#t ! instant rapport%
$aving had to agree with so many things, the few things that she probably
wouldn't agree with on their own, seem also mu#h more a##eptable as a
#onse2uen#e% &o maybe she wasn't pleasantly surprised when you
approa#hed her, or maybe she wouldn't des#ribe you as parti#ularly
handsome ! but now that you've showered her with so many truisms to begin
with, the ones that wouldn't ring so true by themselves seem mu#h more
true amongst all the other truisms% *hus for e"ample you telling her she was
pleasantly surprised when she thought she wasn't, will have her re!evaluate
the nature of her surprise as a #onse2uen#e of all the other truisms that
surround it% Don't overload her mind with things that she probably wouldn't
agree with though ! keep a fine balan#e, push things in your pa#ing /ust a bit
above the a#tual and towards the more positive, for if you go overboard, she
will stop agreeing with you%%% and bye!bye instant rapport%
8lifford #ontinues: >)ow listen for her response ! one thing that may happen
here and whi#h has happened to me many times is that she may be one of
those women who starts talking a lot and you won't be able to get mu#h of
what you are thinking of saying out% *his is a great sign% ;sually /ust smile
knowingly and let them talk their little hearts out% 3s soon as the topi# of
se" #omes up, you know you've got her% Must lay ba#k, be friendly, don't say
too mu#h, and she will talk herself right into your bed% :ou may need to
invite her for a #offee or a drink at the right time , have found a lot of the
talkers will e"tend an invitation to you themselves and you /ust have to
wat#h for it)%>
+ven during the remote possibility, that she doesn't display immediate
interest, you still have plenty of options to evoke it ! eli#iting values,
#onversing on general patterning themes or even outright patterning,
displaying the general attra#tive traits of humour and #onfiden#e plus
anything you #ame to know she wants in a man via eli#iting values et# et#%
$owever, even if you need a follow!up te#hni2ue to #ontinue with, thanks to
your initial pa#ing of the ongoing reality you're well on your way to getting
her to like you% 3nd from there on to%%% well, whatever your
&hould ask for her name=
<<< >>>
1orget it% t might seem like an inno#ent and easy way of >getting to know
ea#h other> ! >(y name's <, what's yours=>% But as everyone and their mom
is doing that, it is /ust plain lame% f she's not interested in you, she'll forget
your name in an instant% 3nd if she is, believe me, she's gonna ask for it:)
3nd this way it even be#omes a little test of >am!!getting!anywhere!with!
this!girl=>:) f during the #onversation she suddenly dis#overs to her
ama'ement that >goosh, don't even know this guy's name=4> and asks for
it< you're well on your way:)
3sking for her name is propagated by some on the preten#e, that this way
you'll get to be >formally introdu#ed>% 3nd what is that supposed to mean=
)ow that she knows your name, she'll be burning hot for you= $ardly%
Rather, you get to be formally #ategorised as a #hump, or maybe a >friend> if
you're lu#ky ,believe me, you're not if that is what happens:)
0ne more argument against asking for names ! you ask for her name and
then, oh goosh, you forget it4 &he e"pe#ts you to know it but you don't% 3nd
>5hat's you're name again=> is not even a neg ! where's the #ompliment in
that= :ou #ould of #ourse go >5ell, know you had a very beautiful name<
but what was it e"a#tly=> ! use this one to neg her if you asked for her name
and forgot it% But better /ust forget trying to /uggle with names and let her
ask yours first% 3nd see, if she remembers:)
n #on#lusion ! names are fine as long as she initiates the e"#hange% ;ntil
then ! remain a man of mystery:)
*he 2uestions game
<<< >>>
bet you always have a lot of >interesting> 2uestions you'd like to ask a lady
when you first meet her% -ike: >5hat was your first kiss like=>, >5hen did
you have se" for the first time=>, >$ow did you have your first orgasm=>,
>5hat makes you horny=>, >$ave you ever been #aught masturbating=> et#,
you get the idea ,see >+li#iting values ! the 2uestions> for a list of some
slightly more normal 2uestions to ask)% But you #an't /ust go ahead and ask
them ! you'll #ome off as a #omplete insensitive /erk if you do% 3nd unless
you are profi#ient in the art of dire#ting the flow of the #onversation in the
dire#tion of your preferen#e ,see >+li#iting values ! introdu#ing the
2uestions>), these issues won't usually #ome up in an ordinary #onversation%
*hus you have no way of asking them without sounding weird%%% almost:)
Be#ause however is a little but ingenious way of asking them nevertheless !
/ust start playing the Tuestions game with her:)
0riginated by (ystery, provided by 8raig, 8lifford's &edu#tion newsletter:
:ou: >-et's play the 2uestion game%>
$er: >5hat's the 2uestion game=>
:ou: >5ell, it's like *ruth or Dare but without the Dare, be#ause don't know
how weird you are yet4 *he 2uestions have to be good ones, no >where do
you work> bullshit, ok= :ou go first4>
$er: > #an't think of anything4>
:ou: >0k, how many boyfriends have you had=>
1rom there the 2uestions will get deeper and more se"ual as the game goes
along% *hen after you have been playing for a few minutes, when it's your
turn you #an say
:ou: > have a good 2uestion for you%%% 5ould you like to kiss me=>
$er: > don't know>
:ou: >-et's find out4>
UkissU
:ou: > thought so4>
Don't go overboard with the se"ual 2uestions though% 3sking even one of the
above 2uestions might do /ust fine, espe#ially if she responds positively,
whi#h is your #ue that she would also be ready for the final 2uestion:)
&ee also:
+li#iting values ! introdu#ing the 2uestions
+li#iting values ! the 2uestions
+li#iting values ! the 2uestions
<<< >>>
$ere's a sample list of 2uestions to use to eli#it her values and tran#e
words% ):8, 3&1:
5hat she wants=
5hat she likes=
5hat she thinks she needs=
5hat she thinks she deserves=
5hat she had in the past that she wants to repeat=
5hat she had in the past that she wants to avoid=
5hat s#ares her=
5hat makes her happy=
5hat makes her feel se"y=
3sk the right 2uestions, don't try to push her towards some spe#ifi# state
,like e"#itement for e"ample), it might mean nothing to her% 3&1: >Realise
that >do you value e"#itement in your life=> is a useless 2uestion #ompared
to >what do you value=>
$ere are some additional 2uestions you #an ask, that might be a little less
value!eli#iting oriented, but helpful nevertheless% *hey'll help you to get to
know to her and should also put her in an altered state by making her dig up
answers for these from deep within her #ons#iousness and sub#ons#ious%
>5hat are the #hallenges in her line of work @ what are the easy parts @
what she likes @ what she doesn't like about her /ob=>
>5hat is the most unusual thing you've done when playing >truth or
dare>=> $opefully she #omes up with some se"ual stuff:)
>$ow do your friends des#ribe you=> ;se this both for value!eli#iting
and as prep info for palm!reading, after whi#h you #an say >-et me
see, whether you a#tually are like that as well> and transition to palm!
reading% &ee >.alm!reading> and >.alm!reading e"plained> for more
details%
>5hat do you think am like=> :ou'll get useful feedba#k on how
you're doing and how she per#eives you:)
>:our first #hildhood memory=> f its positive, an#hor it, and even if its
/ust neutral, never mind that, in her mind she sees herself as opening
up to you when telling you about su#h stuff:)
>:our most pleasant @ sweetest memory from s#hool=> $opefully has
something to do with a guy, an#hor it:) f not, be more spe#ifi#%
>:our first day at s#hool=> &ame as with >first #hildhood memory>, but
don't use it before the >sweetest memory from s#hool> ! it would make
it too easy for her to answer >well, my first day at s#hool was it> and
avoid any possible romanti# memories:)
>n what period of your life where you most popular=> $ave her
remember the >good times>:)
>Do you remember the first time you fell seriously, #ompletely and
helplessly in love:) $ow did it happen=>
>*he happiest moment of your life=>
>5hat role would you like to play in some movie=>
>3#hieving what goals in your life have brought you the most /oy=>
>$ow well do you know yourself=>
f the answer to some 2uestion is not to your liking ,>what s#ares you=>
>mi#e>), elaborate on what you meant with your 2uestions% 3nd if there's
anything you don't understand in her answer #ompletely, spe#ify and ask
additional 2uestions% Don't *$)6 you understand, be &;R+ you understand
be#ause that is the only way of:
G) making her feel #ompletely understood by you
H) and #ompletely understanding her ! whi#h is what you need in order to
know how to make her feel the way she wants to feel with that spe#ial man
of hers:)
Don't forget though, that you have to be able to introdu#e these 2uestions
as a natural #omponent and #ontinuation of your #onversation with the girl%
&imply asking them out of the blue will make it sound like you're
interrogating her or that you've prepared and rehearsed them beforehand
,insin#erity4) and on#e that happens, you're through%
):8, 3&1: >:ou #an tell when a #hi#k is affe#ted by kino 0R talking@thinking
about something% *he sub/e#ts that she doesn't rea#t to and the kino that
she doesn't rea#t to%%% don't bother with them% 5hen you lat#h onto
something that really phases her in the dire#tion you want her to go, take
her deeper into it by asking her more intri#ate 2uestions about it that she
$3& *0 meta!state into the situation to a##ess% &he will have to -9+ in that
moment again for a period of time% 5hile she is in there you #an make it
worse for her by introdu#ing worse s#enarios than the a#tual out#ome, or
better by suggesting better out#omes or results from it%
&o don't bother with the se#tions where they don't feel anything, but when
you see them be#ome affe#ted, get into it as far as they'll let you% f you
have done your #onne#tion and rapport, they will be 7-3D to tell you that
stuff and glad that you are listening to them%>
D8L7;:, 3&1:
(e: Do you like living here in Jwhatever!the!pla#e!is!#alledK=
$er: :a, guess%
(e: UU.layfullyUU 5hat do you like to do for fun= Do you have a lot of guys
#hasing you=
$er: )o, not really%%% 'm kind of pi#ky%
(e: Really= mean, don't mean to sound strange or anything%%% but what
2ualities do you look for in a guy=
UUU*his is where you shut up and listenUUU
&ee also:
+li#iting values e"plained

$ow to have her leave the group
By )ight&hadow% (indlist:
> see a hottie talking to all of her friends and want to meet her%
J*he following des#ription is useless in this #onte"t, but it was Uso mu#h
funU, /ust had to Uleave it inU?)K%
&he is wearing a beautiful knee high skirt@dress, her lips are ever so #aringly
outlined with /ust the right amount of lip sti#k to a##entuate her slightly
pouty lips% 3n angels fa#e with a bed devils grin% )i#e round firm breast,
tight and shapely ass, legs that s#ream to be spread like butter with your
hot knife of pleasure%
)ow, bet half the guys on the list are going >5$3* 50;-D :0; D0=>, >&he
is with friends, you don't know her and she is that hot4=4=>%
would /ust walk up to her and talk to her% *hese are the kind of women that
want attention% #asually, but politely walk up to her, usually from behind ,
like to wisper in her ear), lightly tou#h her arm and say >may talk to you for
a minute=>
*his is &0 devious444 t is the ultimate BR+36 &*3*+, yet it is so
nonintrusive that she 53)*& to #ome talk to you% $er imagination will ra#e
and she will have no idea what you want to say to her% +ven if she doesn't
#ome over there , give them about H minutes, make sure you either have a
friend with you or friends near you so you #an walk off easily) she will see
you later and /ust $39+ to say something to you%
*his ta#ti# works )8R+DB-: at bars, parties, #lubs, parks, marriages,
seminars, #hur#h, gyms ,you #an go workout and not look like you are
waiting), work, +9+R:5$+R+444>
f she says >But #an't leave my friends>
)ot spe#ifi#ally relevant to the strategy des#ribed above, but still relevant
to the general situation% f you're already alone with her in a publi# setting
that she arrived at with her friends and now when you're ready to move to
another venue ,>5here are we going=> ! >8lub (ypla#e, you're gonna love
it>:) she #omes up with the >But what about my friends=> line, then here's a
suggestion by Mohnny &ha#k ,http:@@showgirls%#om%au):
>n a situation like that, you will have to keep the momentum going and
#annot afford to break it be#ause on#e you do you might find it very hard to
get things rolling again% n response to the >5hat will happen to my friends>
say somehting in the lines of >Don't worry about them% 5e haven't seen
them for ages, so looks like they're not e"a#tly worrying about you either%
Besides, at this time of the night its every man for himself anyway:) 8ome
on, let's go:)> )ow grab her hand again, lead her outside and /ump into a
ta"i:)>
.atterning e"plained
<<< >>>
Dis#laimer: .art of the #ontents@ideas appearing in this se#tion of the .layer
7uide have been referen#ed or partially repurposed from Ross Meffries'
&peed &edu#tionV 5eb &ite ,free newsletters), #ourseware produ#ts,
or seminar re#ordings% f you find the materials in this se#tion useful, you
may want to #onsider looking into Ross' produ#ts, available for pur#hase
from the 0ffi#ial &peed &edu#tionV 5eb &ite%
.atterns form the #ore of Ross Meffries' &peed &edu#tion te#hni2ue%
.atterns are s#ripts of des#ribing various wonderful states of mind and
feelings to a girl, seemingly having nothing to do with you and her ,for
e"ample by des#ribing the wonderful feelings and states that musi#,
dan#ing, eating strawberries and #ho#olate et# #an #reate), but
sub#ons#iously getting her aroused< by what you're saying and in effe#t by
you:) :ou #an either link all those wonderful feelings you make her feel by
what you're saying by self!pointing at appropriate times ,whi#h is what Ross
Meffries re#ommends), but the simple fa#t that you're there while she gets
all those feelings and that you are the originator of them should do the /ob
as well:)%
(aking her feel all those wonderful states not only means des#ribing them
to her, it also means giving her #ommands embedded in what you're saying
to e"perien#e those states% Des#riptions by themselves might not always
work, she might not be paying too mu#h attention and wander off in her
thoughts, but on#e you've given her #ommands ! >1eel it building%%% fo#us in
on those feelings%%% surrender #ompletely%%%> ! she might first even be
aroused by su#h #ommands by themselves, but she will definetly be mu#h
more attentive towards the des#riptions you are about to offer%
.atterns also #ontain sub#ons#ious messages known as binder #ommands%
1or e"ample, an e"#erpt from a pattern: >< that's the way to do it% )ow,
with me, its different, be#ause<> in#orporates a binder #ommand of >D0 *4
)054 5*$ (+4>, whi#h will bind all feelings and desires her arousal has
#reated to :0;%
0n#e you have her attention, one of the most powerful methods of making
her >feel> is using se"ual metaphors% *hey sound inno#ent in the #onte"t of
what you're saying, but she is bound to pi#k up on them and on#e you have
her imagining all those phrases out of #onte"t< don't be surprised if she
says has to go to the bathroom for a moment and you noti#e her seat is all
wet:) 3 few e"amples of su#h phrases are: >8reate an opening for it%%% feel
that thought penetrate you%%%% you #ome over and over again to the same
#on#lusion%%%>% )ow that you know what to look for, you'll find more phrases
in the e"ample patterns presented in this guide%
0ne rather dubious aspe#t of patterns is the so!#alled weasel phrases% 1or
e"ample the phrases ><these values are below me> pronoun#ed >B-05
(+4>, ><a feeling of happiness> pronoun#ed >hap!.+)&4>, ><in you're mind>
pronoun#ed >:0;'R+ ()+4>, ><thoughts flowing in a new dire#tion>
pronoun#ed >);D+ +R+8*0)4>, >%%%the sky is so beautiful> pronoun#ed
>*$& 7;: & &0 B+3;*1;-4> ! these double!meaning pronun#iations are
supposed to give her sub#ons#ious messages, but the effe#tiveness of su#h
attributes of patterning are slightly 2uestionable though%
*he main value of patterns remains in their ability to make a girl re#all or
imagine absolutely wonderful feelings and states of mind, while
sub#ons#iously linking them all to you%
*he other important aspe#ts of patterning are:
3n#horing
*ran#e words
Tuoting and sta#ing realities
*ime distortion
*hought binding
.resuppositions and other >mind!tri#ks>
Delivering patterns ! general rules
<<< >>>
Dis#laimer: .art of the #ontents@ideas appearing in this se#tion of the .layer
7uide have been referen#ed or partially repurposed from Ross Meffries'
&peed &edu#tionV 5eb &ite ,free newsletters), #ourseware produ#ts,
or seminar re#ordings% f you find the materials in this se#tion useful, you
may want to #onsider looking into Ross' produ#ts, available for pur#hase
from the 0ffi#ial &peed &edu#tionV 5eb &ite%
Being vague% t is important to be as vague as possible in your patterns% 1or
one thing, vagueness for a woman doesn't sound in#oherent or obs#ure like
it does to the rational and matter!of!fa#t mind of a man% 1or a girl, vague
e2uals romanti#, thrilling, mysterious and intriguing% 1or another thing,
being vague in your patterns lets her more easily link the feelings you
des#ribe with her own e"perien#es or dreams% *he more vague, the better4
Doesn't patterning sound unnatural= ,Ross Meffries:) >5hen you learn how
to do &peed &edu#tion a##ording to that, it #eases to be about mind!fu#king
and ramming memorised patterns into a ,hopefully:) #o!operative sub/e#t,
and be#omes a mutual e"ploration of how you think and how she thinks
about #ertain topi#s, that naturally would lend themselves to pattern type
talk even if you didn't know a thing about &peed &edu#tion4 ;sing the
pattern language, therefore, in this #onte"t is utterly natural, in#redibly
powerful, and allows you to a#tually learn something about the woman on a
very deep level while you are #reating in#redible #onne#tions, se"ual
feelings, et#% et#%>
0n#e more, the patterns here are only e"amples% Ross Meffries: >*he
patterns are e"amples, )0* rules% (any students think that unless they
present the patterns to women, word for word, that they won't work or get
results% *$& & M;&* GEEW 13-&+4 *he patterns are only e"amples%%% very
700D e"amples%%% of the kinds of #ommuni#ation that turn women on% But
they aren't meant to be rigidly or e"#lusively followed% -earn from them
$05 they work, and you'll be able to eventually #reate your own patterns%>
*he &tages of -earning .atterns as stated by Ross Meffries:
> would say students go through three stages of &peed &edu#tion (astery%
&tage 0ne: memorising and using memorised patterns, word for word%
&tage *wo: learning to use themes that in#orporate pie#es of the
pattern language%
&tage *hree: learning to use themes that have deep personal meaning
for the student as well as being intriguing to women and allowing the
student to use pie#es of the pattern language%>
8an talk freely or will she interrupt me= Ross Meffries: >*here are two
#lasses of women who respond to patterns? those who want to be
overwhelmed, and those who want it to be their own e"perien#e% *he
women in the first #ategory will /ust sit and let you run patterns without
interrupting? the se#ond #ategory will interrupt by talking% *hat's ok%%%let
them talk%%% be#ause they will give you their personal tran#e words whi#h
you use ba#k with them when you #ontinue with the patterns4 7irls in the
se#ond #ategory are a#tually more entertaining and fun4>
*he time delay% Ross Meffries: >&ome women, for whatever reason, have a
>time delay> effe#t? the patterns might not appear to work, but an hour or D
days or even D months later, out of the blue they want to bang you% *his
>time delay> #an be an "!fa#tor that #an make responses seem a bit more
unpredi#table%>
,*aken from >&weep women off their feet%%%>:) >f she's still not responsive
maybe she's never e"perien#ed su#h feelings in the past and is having a
hard time keeping up% &low down and talk as though you are trying to
understand as well from the e"perien#e of your friend% t will be easier for
her to imagine all the feelings you are des#ribing if there is no pressure for
her to readily understand them% 7ive her the time she needs to absorb
everything% 3nd sometimes it takes a while before she'll absorb everything%
Believe me, that does happen%
1or e"ample, there was this girl thought was unresponsive, yet a few days
after we had a deep #onversation about love and feelings she #ame up to me
and a#ted as though she was truly in love, pi#king up that same
#onversation after almost forgot what we were talking about in the first
pla#e%>
8ombine feelings with body sensations% Ross Meffries: >3s far as possible,
layer in body sensations along with your #onne#tion patterns4 5hen you
#ombine body sensations along with emotional #onne#tions, either at the
same time or rapidly in se2uen#e, the effe#t is pra#ti#ally irresistible and
the power isn't additive%%%it's e"ponential4>
1ear== )o% 1;)44 Ross Meffries: >f you want to be hilariously su##essful
with &peed &edu#tion, then you must realise that the patterns aren't about
begging% *hey aren't even really about tri#king or misleading% )o, sir, the
patterns are about being able to #reate su#h in#redible states of pleasure
and fun and highs for her that no one else #an, su#h that she really 53)*&
to give you her se"ual goodies% *hey're about #reating states for her that no
one else #an% 9iewed like this, that in#redible babe you want to bang isn't
someone you need to fear% &he's someone who's about to re#eive an
in#redible gift from you, a gift she might #ontinue to re#eive 1 she's smart
enough and hot enough and se"y enough to give you what it takes to keep
:0; #oming ba#k for more% :ou see, it sure makes a damn big differen#e
when you #an look at a honey!pie and honestly think to yourself, >$ow good
#an this woman stand to feel= -et's go have fun and find out4>
&peaking of fun, another big part of being in the right frame of mind to make
&& work is refusing to take it seriously% By that, mean you take the attitude
that you are e"perimenting, having fun, and if what you try doesn't work,
you've simply polished your skills and learned something new%>
1or more spe#ifi#s about patterns ,using visual, auditory or kinestheti#
language for girls with visual, auditory or kinestheti# imaginations
a##ordingly? running at least three different patterns in a row for ma"imum
effe#tiveness et#%) turn to www%sedu#tion%#om and see the newsletters%
3dapted from Ross Meffries' publi# seminar tans#ript%
*he right attitude% Ross Meffries: >:ou see, #hallenge is where the fun is% f
it's not easy, life is not meant to be easy, but life was meant to be fun% f
you're not going to have fun in the pro#ess, then what's the point% 3nd also
this is a very se"y attitude% 3 guy who is not put off but is also not hungry,
and is having fun in the pro#ess of #ourtship, a woman is attra#ted to that%
3 man who'll playfully #ourt her without being pushy, a man who is
persistent, but at the same time is not pushy or needy but is playful about it%
J*he attitude is:K >+ventually you're going to #ome around and see what a
great deal it is and in the mean time 'll play and have fun with you>% *hat's
very se"y% :ou know, 'm telling you something, you #an look like a freaking
pig and many of my students do and still it doesn't make any differen#e
be#ause it's a very rare attitude% t's a very rare approa#h% :ou be#ome one
man in a million%>
&ee and observe her response% Ross Meffries: >0k, we'll talk about the
skills% -et's talk about the skills you need to make this work% *he first skill
you need is the ability to observe and to see what response you are getting%
&hall repeat that= *he ability to observe and see what response that you're
getting% n order to do that, you have to be doing what= -ouder, #an't hear
you% *o do that you #an't be in your head worrying is this working, oh, oh,
does she like me, what if blow it, you have to turn all that #rap off% 1lip that
swit#h to off, pull the plug on that% :ou have to be totally fo#used on what
response you're getting% &tep out of your own way and turn all that #rap off
and /ust fo#us in on the response you're getting%>
Be fle"ible yet persistent% Ross Meffries: >0k% &kill )o% H% *he fle"ibility to
#hange to something else if you aren't getting the response you want% f you
try >have you ever>, let's take that one% >$ave you ever felt the sense of
in#redible #onne#tion<=>, yet then you get >no>% nstead of giving up you
#an go >5ell have you ever felt really attra#ted to someone<=>% 6eep going
until you get that response% Do you understand% 6eep going until you get the
response be#ause eventually you will% 0r step ba#k and shift to something
else% Does this make sense= know, stop a minute, #lose your eyes%
+veryone has some, when say #lose your eyes, want the lids down%
3nyone who's lids do not #lose will find their se"ual future shrinking away,
rapidly, rapidly% &ome of us don't have long to wait% want you to think of
some situation where you have alot of fle"ibility where something gets
thrown in your path, you shift around and you keep going% don't #are what
#onte"t it is% 3nd as you think of that thing want you to raise your hand in
the air, raise your hand in the air, do it and make a fist, raise your arm all the
way up in the air, make a fist and as you bring that hand down want you to
in#rease that feeling of utter fle"ibility and fero#iousness that you go for
what you want and keep going% 3nd do it again% *hink of that thing again,
raise your hand in the air and as you do that, think to yourself, yes, don't say
it but think to yourself% 3nd remember that feeling of being fle"ible and you
go to the ne"t thing% 0k, one more time% 3nd this time in your mind's eye,
want you to see some woman that you would really like to sedu#e and see
her not responding the way you'd like to% 3s you put your hand down, noti#e
how you #an in#rease that feeling, hey, 'm going to try something else and
keep going% )othing is going to stop me% Do you get that= 3lright% 0pen your
eyes and look at me%>
Be patient and learn from trial and error% Ross Meffries: >3bility )o D is
the ability to be patient and learn from trial and error% know you all admire
me and you're not worthy and all that other shit but guess what% make
mistakes with this% But don't want to think of making mistakes, am
learning% o##asionally do things, guess what, they don't work the way 've
planned% 7uess what= get e"#ited% 6ent and (ark here had lun#h with me
and the first thing asked them was what have you done that doesn't work=
*ell me about what you've done where it didn't work% Did not say that=
Be#ause that's where get e"#ited% *hat tells me 'm about to step into a
new level of power% f something isn't working, #ongratulate yourself
be#ause you're about to find out what does work% :ou're about to learn
something new% 5ithout that mind set, you will be at best medio#re with
this material% 5ith this mind set no matter what blo#ks you may start out
with, you will leave them behind 2ui#kly and go wherever you want to with
the material% But if nothing else, if all you do is really begin to live the
attitude that there are no failures, there's only learnings, you will be ahead
QQW of the people in so#iety%>
Be able to move from one pattern to the ne"t% Ross Meffries: >3bility )o%
I% 3bility to move from one pattern to the ne"t% will go over some
transitional phrases that will allow you to move from any pattern to any
other pattern% +ven if, it makes it logi#ally seem, it's nothing more fun to me
than making it seem like my ideas are logi#ally #onne#ted when there's no
logi#al #onne#tion at all% 'm /ust #onne#ting them so #an ram patterns in%
0k% 3nd there's #ertain phrases >now here's another thing>% 0r >here's
something else that is interesting>% t doesn't have to be any logi#al
#onne#tion to be any ideas at all%>
Delivering patterns ! tonality
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Dis#laimer: .art of the #ontents@ideas appearing in this se#tion of the .layer
7uide have been referen#ed or partially repurposed from Ross Meffries'
&peed &edu#tionV 5eb &ite ,free newsletters), #ourseware produ#ts,
or seminar re#ordings% f you find the materials in this se#tion useful, you
may want to #onsider looking into Ross' produ#ts, available for pur#hase
from the 0ffi#ial &peed &edu#tionV 5eb &ite%
*he way you deliver the patterns determines the differen#e between making
her feel wonderful deep inside or you sounding like a phoney or a patheti#
#lown re#iting some weird!sounding monologue or s#ript%
.resenting her with the te"t a##omplishes you nothing, the words itself will
not make her feel anything% :ou have to be the te"t you deliver, you have to
feel it with her, be with her every step of the way< until the final eruption:)
,:es, women have been reported to have orgasms simply by listening to
patterns being delivered the right way:)% &o memorising the patterns
presented in this guide does nothing for you, unless you really live out and
not simply re#ite every word to her%
*he patterns that you #an find on www%sedu#tion%#om or in this guide are
mere e"amples of what pattern!talk is like, they are not spells that make
magi# things happen /ust be#ause they are mumbled out loud% :ou #an
#ertainly start by memorising some patterns, but you will start having real
su##ess only when you'll be able to make up a pattern on the fly about
anything, that is e"#iting and #lose to heart for that one spe#ifi# girl you are
talking to% t helps if you have a soft, low, mesmerising and a slightly
hypnoti# voi#e, and if you don't< try to modulate your voi#e to be#ome as
su#h while delivering your patterns:)
,3&1:) >;sing a low, sedu#tive voi#e may seem unnatural at first, but you
must pra#ti#e% *ry tape re#ording your own voi#e so you get an idea of how
you sound in general% *hen tape yourself re#iting a s#ripted pattern% :ou'll
hear how stilted and unnatural it sounds% )ow tape yourself while
improvising that same pattern, but this time work on making how you say
the words sound soothing and, well, sedu#tive% Don't worry about s#rewing
up the word order, /ust #on#entrate on $05 :0; &3: *% 3lso ! pause mid!
senten#e to #reate a sense of anti#ipation and mystery%>
3dapted from Ross Meffries' publi# seminar tans#ript no G:
Ross: &ome of you, your tonality, up until tonight su#ked% t /ust su#ks% :ou
need to pra#ti#e% :ou've got to make a #ommitment to pra#ti#e these skills%
$ow many people here walk= $ow many people here talk= $ow many people
here #an stand up= $ow many people here are toilet trained= 6eep your
hand down, Bru#e% Must teasing, ok% Do you think those are all things that
you a#2uired immediately= Did you pop out of the womb being able to do it=
:ou had to pra#ti#e% :ou must pra#ti#e these skills on a #onsistent basis%
don't know why have to #ontinue to hammer on this point before you get it
and in#orporate it% &o let's work on #ontrolling tonality, let's put your notes
down% dont want to see anyone writing or holding notes, anyone with a pen
in their hand will find their gentile is shrinking% 3nd some of you have no
time to waste% $ow many of you know what the vowels are= 5hat are the
vowels=
3udien#e: 3,+,,0,;
Ross: 5rong, here are the vowels% 3333, ++++, , 0000, ;;;;% *hose
are the vowels% &o we're going to do an e"er#ise% .ut one hand on your
#hest so you #an feel the residen#e of your voi#e, take a deep breath, put
your head ba#k and say with me% 3333, ++++, , 0000, ;;;;% 5el#ome
to the five hour orgasm% 0k% 5hen you speak to a woman, you should be
speaking su#h that your voi#e resinates% 5hen you pra#ti#e these patterns
out loud, and you must pra#ti#e every pattern 0;* -0;D% )ot in your head%
0ut loud, be#ause you're speaking these out loud% &o, we must learn to
#ontrol our tonality% 0k, let's try another e"er#ise% -et's pi#k a neutral word
like watermelon% 0k% -et's all /ust say watermelon%
3udien#e: 5atermelon
Ross: *ry it one more time
3udien#e: 5atermelon
Ross: 0k, now% want you to remember a time when you were angry, really
pissed off and say watermelon as if you were e"pressing that angry feeling%
Ready=
3udien#e: 5atermelon
Ross: 3gain
3udien#e: 5atermelon
Ross: 3lright, #an you remember a time when you were #urious= want you
to say watermelon with a tonality of #uriousity% Ready=
3udien#e: 5atermelon
Ross: 5atermelon, and now sedu#tive and se"y% &ay watermelon% -et's start
with this row, ok guys% -et's hear you do your watermelon sedu#tive and
se"y, are you ready=
3udien#e: 5atermelon
3udien#e: -aughs
Ross: Do you see what mean= -ook, ok, let's hear you say the words,
sedu#e me, let's hear you say sedu#e me%
3udien#e: &edu#e me
Ross: -ouder, put your hand on your #hest, get the resident, no these guys
only, put your head ba#k, take a deep breath and go, sedu#e me, make it
resinate% &ay it out loud%
3udien#e: &edu#e me
Ross: Better, a little louder% *his is not observant% Do it% &edu#e me, better,
ok, now do watermelon%
3udien#e: 5atermelon
Ross: &u#k it in like this and go watermelon%
3udien#e: 5atermelon
Ross: $e's got it% )i#ky, #ome on in and have a seat% 0k, do you guys want
to try it= -et's hear it% -et's hear the se"iest watermelon in the world% 3re
we ready=
3udien#e and Ross: 5atermelon
Ross: *hat's good% $e's got it, go ahead, one more time%
3udien#e: 5atermelon
Ross: 9ery good% 0k, all together, ready% G, H, D,
3udien#e and Ross: 5atermelon
Ross: f you guys need e"tra help on doing this you have my permission to
#all two QEE numbers% 'm serious% *ake them and listen to how these
women speak% 0k, if ne#essary, #all a gay QEE number%
3udien#e: -aughs
Ross: 'm serious, 'm serious and listen to how they speak% $ere's a good
way to make sure you say it right, get the feeling for yourself right here% 3nd
then as you're speaking to the woman, the feeling that you want her to feel
will guide your tonality% Do you get that= &o imagine the feeling that you
want to feel right here and then allow that feeling to guide your voi#e% &o as
the warmth of that voi#e /ust wraps itself around you like a pair of legs
around your ne#k, you'll know, really know, on the inside, /ust e"a#tly what's
happening, you know% :ou must learn to #ontrol your tonality% #an't
emphasi'e this enough% t is the single biggest stumbling blo#k% &ome other
ways to learn to #ontrol your tonality% 7et a di#tionary% .i#k out words at
random and e"periment saying those words with the right tonality% .i#k out
loaded words like troop, love, sedu#tion, #onne#tion% 5rite these words
down% *roop, love, sedu#tion, #onne#tion, desire, lust, absolutely fas#inated%
0k% 3nd work on saying these in the right tonality% /ust #annot emphasi'e
this enough% *rying to learn this without getting master of your tonalities is
like trying to drive your #ar without gasoline% t's /ust not going to work%
&ee also:
3rti#le in .layboy
8ommon signs of interest
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8ommon signs of interest from the girl, appli#able mostly in bar!room and
#lub situations% &tephanie 3le"ander, (a"im ,http:@@ma"immag%#om):
&he #ompliments you on virtually anything% 5omen are used to
re#eiving #ompliments, not giving them% &o if she points out a positive
#hara#teristi#, youBve impressed her%
&heBs disagreeing but laughing% 1lirtatious sar#asm, as in A:eah, right,
like believe that4F means sheBs into you% f she werenBt, sheBd simply
A;h!huhF you into oblivion%
&he keeps asking you to repeat yourself% &heBs not allowing the
blasting musi# to #ome between the two of you% 3 suggestion of a
2uieter #orner to talk in will be well re#eived%
&he laughs at your lame /unior high s#hoolXlevel /okes% &heBs obviously
lust drunk% 0r maybe /ust drunk%
&he tou#hes you anywhere% *ou#h her ba#k in the e2uivalent pla#e,
and let her up the ante, /ust in #ase her tou#h was an a##idental slip
of the hand%
&he stays put% f you run to drain the monster and sheBs still where
you left her when you return, youBre doing something right% -ikewise if
she #omes ba#k to you after she powders her nose%
&he doesnBt flin#h% f you rea#h a#ross her to grab a drink or an
ashtray and she doesnBt pull ba#k, sheBs feeling physi#ally #omfortable
with you% DonBt blow it, pal%
&he says, A$ey, where ya goinB=F as you leave the bar% &heBs angling
for an invite% +ven if she ultimately says no ,she may not feel safe
going off with you or may not want to dit#h her friends) itBs a sign
sheBs game for a future hookup%
(a"in, 8lifford's &edu#tion newsletter: > have built for myself a pro"imity
alert system% 5hen you walk into a room@store@bar et#, while a woman might
be relu#tant or too shy to make eye #onta#t, sometimes, on a #ons#ious or
un#ons#ious level, she will reveal her interest through pro"imity% 7uys do
this all the time% $ave you ever walked into a bar and then made pra#ti#ally
a bee line for the hottest #hi#k, if only to be near her and #he#k her out
more= 3nd maybe you >#hanged your mind> and instead of approa#hing her,
you ordered a drink at the bar right ne"t to her= 've been in stores shopping
where it seemed that a woman had seen, put herself near me several
times over the #ourse of GE!HE minutes% 8oin#iden#e= (aybe, but don't
really believe that, and it's far more useful for me to believe that a woman
finds me interesting or attra#tive and is putting herself near me on purpose
hoping that may start something%>
1or more signs of interest, see:
Reading body!language
Reading the signs of a >#ommitted> woman
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1or starters ! a story whi#h at first glan#e only seems to illustrate the
mistake of /udging a girl by her words and not her a#tions% But after a more
#areful inspe#tion, even those seemingly >re/e#ting> words of her are
a#tually a #omplementary sign to her a#tions ,the sign being ! > want
you4>:)%
(r $appy, 3&1:
>0k boys and girls, learn from (r% $appy's mistake so that you don't fall for
it yourself%
met this #hi#k online and got her to agree to meet me to play some pool%
&he was UreallyU hot% also did a really good /ob of #onveying personality%%%
got in some good negs, some humor, some teasing, it was very playful, and
also some light kino% , know did this right be#ause she still messages me,
et# so maybe 'll get a #han#e to #orre#t the 1;86 ;. that made%%%read
on%)
&ee the whole time she is talking about how she is a 8hristian, and she
works for 8ampus (inistries, and she has a 13)8+, and how they're not
/ust D3*)7, but they are 80;R*)7 and how spe#ial it is, blah blah% &he
also says how busy she is be#ause of s#hool, and that if 'm going to see
her, it'll be on her terms ,ha4) so at that point thought, s#rew this, have
better things to do with my time% &he invited me to a me#hani#al engineer
,her ma/or) party that friday and turned her down%
&he messages me a few days later and talks about how she got drunk and
stoned at the party and how she went home with some other student and
got her brains fu#ked out% &he hopes she isn't pregnant, she doesn't intend
to tell her fian#e, et# blah%
*hat #ould have been me in there4 will never spare a #hi#k again:)>
Based on the story above, here are #ommentaries by 0dious on what
were@are the signs of a married or borefriended iow >#ommitted> woman
being interested in you% 0dious, 3&1:
>06, having been with married women before, there are D key signs that
she's hot to trot and ready to step out%
G% &he will >open up to you> and tell you what & )0* happening with her
man%
*his goes for married women, women with boyfriends%%% all of them% &he will
tell you flat out what it is she is missing and what she wants% 5hen she
starts telling you how he's not #utting it, she's letting you know that door is
open% )ow this woman did this, but it sounds like she was being subtle
about it% &he said they were #ourting, not dating%%% what the hell is that=
think that meant >we have a #ommitment but he's not fu#king me%>
H% f she's interested, she'll #reate opportunities for the two of you to be
alone together%
had a woman who didn't even reali'e was interested in me, #ome over to
my house to study and work on a paper%%% be#ause her #omputer was on the
frit'% *he thought that she was hot for me did not even #ross my mind until
she started asking me my opinions on the meaning and value of marriage
iow >what would you think of a woman who #heated on her husband%%% with
you%%% right now4>
D% &he knows when he'll be around or not, so she'll want to #all the shots as
to when you see ea#h other%
&he obviously did that one% $owever, don't #ount yourself out /ust yet,
be#ause she is still giving you a subset of the first sign ,whi#h was ! telling
you what is LnotL happening with her man)% &he may tell you about other
se"ual e"ploits ! if she #heated on him before, or if she #heated on an old
boyfriend et#% &o this woman is hitting all the signs% &he's opened up to you,
she's making time, she wants to #all the shots as to when you get together,
and now she's telling you she #heated% *he ne"t time you see her, or talk to
her ! a#t like you think her #heating is no big deal, that you respe#t it when
women #an go for what they want% have also found an atta#k on the se"ist
nature of the whole idea of monogamy to be very effe#tive:
>*he whole idea of monogamy dates ba#k to a time when women were
treated as property% (en ran the world and made all the rules% &o men #ould
have mistresses and #on#ubines, but if a woman #heated she was stoned to
death% t is #ompletely se"ist and hypo#riti#al% think you should listen to
your heart and your desires, and see where that leads you% *o me, that is
the only way to go% 1ulfill your desires, and seek pleasure% 5ith me, that's
what's important% .leasure is a gift, indulge it and you be#ome a more
fulfilled and #omplete person%> et#%>
):8 e"plains why >#ommitted> women are a#tually 2uite easy both to
approa#h and even get >very friendly> with:) ):8, 3&1:
>5omen that are >taken> are different from women that are single in that
they are either -+&& .86: or (0R+ $0R):% &ingle women are either
looking for more than /ust di#k ,(0R+ .86:) or they have less of a se"!
drive so they don't R+T;R+ a man in their lives unless he's /ust what they
want%
3 #hi#k that is >taken> gives herself to her boyfriend so he #an fu#k her%
)ow the pressure is on the guy to perform% ;nless the guy is still $0* for
the #hi#k, the se" is routine or most importantly%%% 0R73&(-+&& for the
woman% 5hen she meets you, she feels that D+&R+ to be with a man% &he
feels :0;R D+&R+ to please her and take your pleasure from her% t is that
R0(3)*8 kind of intera#tion that she doesn't get from her >boyfriend>
#oming home, turning on the *9, wat#hing sports, feeling her up for a
se#ond ,la#k of foreplay is a (3M0R turnoff) and fu#king her until $+ #ums
and falling asleep% 3s long as she feels like she #an get away with it and
still have her hum!drum relationship inta#t, she will fu#k you% :ou would be
surprised how many women are >taken> but nowhere near &3*&1+D4 %%%
$Bs are )+9+R without a man% *hey keep the one they have until they hook
up something new% *hen they skip off, so if you are waiting for an $B to
be#ome &)7-+, you #an forget it4
8apitalise
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*o #apitalise when doing a pi#k!up would be to U and Y#lose with a girl% *o
#apitalise with a girl that you've already Y or U#losed would be to do a
follow!up of #alling her and then either by patterning or using any other
sedu#tion te#hni2ue helping her to realise what you both have really wanted
all along:) 3nd then doing it of #ourse:)
3part from your usual pi#k!ups though, you might have gotten a girl
interested in you in the midst of your everyday #hores ! maybe a #o!worker,
a neighbour, a fellow student, a girl at the #ashier% *o #apitalise would mean
)0* *0 -+* *$3* 5)D05 01 0..0R*;)*: 8-0&+4 &he is already
pre#onditioned to liking you, so why let su#h a perfe#t opportunity slip=
assume of #ourse, that you find her 2uite amiable as well:)
3s for how to dete#t su#h an opportunity ! you should know the signs of
interest ,see Reading body language for more details)% &he initiates #onta#t,
#alls, emails or starts a #onversation with you, smiles, asks 2uestions et#,
or rea#ts to your initiations more happily than before or more happily than
your average indifferent girl would, giggles with her girlfriends when you
pass her by, draws hearts in her #ollege!blo#k while sitting beside you ,now
you're not #hasing high!s#hool girls are you=:)% &ee >Reading body language>
for more signs%
But she won't stay interested forever% 3ny day ,or night:) a new prospe#t
might #at#h her attention and even without the threat of #ompetition, her
interest for you #ould wear off any moment, no matter what the reason%
+ven if not really having sedu#ed her purposefully, if you dete#t her interest
,and most probably she is doing her best to let you know:) and she is also
2uite to your liking, do end her suffering and e"tend a helping hand:)
(ake sure that is not a suppli#ating 318!ish hand though ! that is one of the
main reasons of the > was interested in him@her only until he@she developed
an interest for me, then it be#ame boring> phenomenon% &tay on top of
matters% 3 girl that has developed an interest in you independently in the
#ourse of a few months is no different from a girl that you /ust met and
helped realise that you are the man of her dreams ten minutes from meeting
her ! they both need guidan#e or else they might get lost%
But you need to begin right away ! don't wait for some non!e"istent >right
time> to approa#h her or ask her out ,hopefully you're past any su#h thinking
though:) or for her to make the first move ,she 50)'*, and if you don't make
the first move she will eventually dismiss you as an ignorant #hump or think
you're not interested and in either #ase ! she'll move on)% Believe me, if you
already noti#ed the signs of interest, &$+ & interested4 3nd don't even try
to dismiss them as random friendliness or your imagination, if you noti#ed
them, they're for real:) )ow on#e you know she is interested ! #apitalise on
it4
.ut a pri#e on yourself
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Ross Meffries: >3nd one of the most true and powerful realities of human
nature is: 1 &0(+*$)7 80(+& 3* 9+R: -**-+ 80&*, .+0.-+ *+)D *0
*$)6 * & 01 -**-+ 93-;+4 5e believe that things that are diffi#ult to
possess are inherently of better 2uality and that things that are easy to
posses are of little value or 2uality% n other words, absent knowing what
something #an do for them, people will make a /udgement based on what
they have to give up to get it% *hey #onfuse pri#e with value% #ertainly
hope that you are smart enough to see the differen#e% .ersonally, /udge
the worth of something based on what it will do for me% But pra#ti#ally
speaking, here are some ways to do it in your behaviour in the field:
G% 3t the appropriate pla#e and time, &$05 :0;R 3)7+R44 7uys who
never get mad, who never show that they will stand up for themselves
and make a woman feel a bit of unpleasantness are, in effe#t, giving
themselves away for free44 -et the females in your life know that if
they break your rules, #ross you, or show any la#k of respe#t that
*$+: 3R+ 70)7 *0 .3: 3 .R8+4
H% Be willing to withdraw your time and attention and be unavailable4
*here are a#tually two rules working here: one is that people value
more what they have to work for, but also the rule is: if it's rare or
be#oming (0R+ s#ar#e it's viewed as being more valuable%
5ell, in any #ase, as 've said, it's a reality, so use it in the following ways:
3% 3% )ow and again, #an#el dates%
B% B% Don't always return her phone #alls promptly
8% 8% 0n o##asion, and espe#ially in the beginning, 7+* 011 *$+ .$0)+
1R&*44 Don't have unlimited time or willingness to talk44
*hat should get her viewing you as s#ar#e and therefore a lot more valuable
and therefore something%%% &he's 5illing *o .ay 3 $ell 0f 3 -ot (ore *o 7et44
)ow the final, and perhaps the most important rule #an give you is: -et
5omen ,and people in general) 6now 5hat :our Rules 3re 3nd 5hat :ou
+"pe#t 0f *hem444 )ow, didn't say whine or demand% /ust said let them
know with the attitude of: $ey, these are the rules% f you #are to obey them,
great% :ou'll re#eive 7R+3* value in return% f not, please get out of the way
be#ause plenty of people are lined up who 5-- pay, and gladly so%
1inally on this topi#, you should take steps to totally eliminate from your life
anyone in any #apa#ity who will not pay your pri#e, after you have #learly
informed them what that pri#e may be, and most espe#ially if they have
e"pli#itly agreed to pay it% 3s have long said, #onfiden#e works two ways:
both in going for what you do want and moving away from what you don't% f
you don't eliminate those who won't pay the pri#e, then you will be
under#utting your #onfiden#e when you want to move towards what you
want, be#ause your behaviour is not GEEW #ongruent with your belief that
you are a person of value who is deserving of the best%>
8raig, 8lifford's &edu#tion newsletter: >(ake her put some work into
hanging out with you in order for her to value you% (ake her #ome and pi#k
you up, make her spend some money on you, make her #all and do you
favors, et#% 5hen she does things for you it will /ustify her own feelings for
you and allow them to grow%>
&ee also:
3ttra#t girls by being busy
3ttra#t girls by being busy
<<< >>>
-et the girls know that you are a busy and important person%
Don Diebel:
5hen a girl asks you what you did yesterday, never say, >0h, /ust sat
around and was bored%> Better to say, > was up early to run errands
and take #are of business, then played tennis, met a friend for lun#h,
and worked in the afternoon%> -ie if you have to% 3nd don't worry,
you'll get used to it:)
f a girl #alls and asks what you are doing, reply with, > /ust walked in
the door> or >'m /ust on my way out to take #are of business%>
Don't hang on the the phone for hours talking to girls indi#ating you
don't have anything else to do% 7et the business of the #all over, be
pleasant, then e"#use yourself%
By not #alling a girl every night or #onta#ting her every day, you show
that you are busy and have other things that are important in your life
besides her% *his lets her know that she is going to have to #ompete
for your time%
f you run into someone, be pleasant and friendly% &how that person
that you have an interest in her, but then e"#use yourself be#ause of
having things to do% n this way, you show her that she is going to have
to work for your time% :ou are not >easy%>
By letting people know that you are a person doing things and a#tive, you
suggest a lot to a girl% 8ertainly, you must be someone who knows where
you are going, hen#e, leadership% :ou play on her sense of wanting what she
#an't have be#ause she will have to #ompete for your time with all of your
other a#tivities% :ou will appear to be different from all the other guys who
are hanging on her begging for her time% &he will suspe#t that there are
other girls in your life or you wouldn't be so busy% 3nd finally, she is going to
have to use her #harms to sedu#e you away from all these other a#tivities !
and girls /ust love a #hallenge:)
8raig, 8lifford's &edu#tion newsletter: >(ake her miss you% But in order for
s#ar#ity to be effe#tive you have to be sure of one thing% *he time she does
spend with you must be absolutely ama'ing, and without a doubt the best
time she #ould have with anyone% :ou need to be able to #reate an
awesome, (+(0R3B-+ e"perien#e with anyone, anywhere, espe#ially
when it really #ounts%
3lso, she #an )+9+R be the first priority in your life% 3lways put her se#ond
to something, whether it be your family, #areer, friends, whatever, but leave
a small pie#e of hope in her mind that she #ould be#ome YG%>
&how a willingness to walk away
<<< >>>
Ross Meffries: >:ou see, after years of e"perien#e and study, 've #ome to
the #on#lusion that a woman #an only e"perien#e real passion for if on
some level she believes she #ould do something to lose you4 ;nderstand
that when you show this willingness to walk away, in any area of your life, it
#onveys the message that you are the pri'e to be pursued, that you are the
person of value, and they had better take advantage of the opportunity% *his
is an attitude that will move you forward in any area that's #hallenging you%
By way of #ontrast, if you show a non!stop, forever and ever devotion to her,
and put up with her #rap and ambivalen#e, then where is that tension of
knowing she #ould lose you= 3nswer: nowhere4 3nd that's why you get
nowhere when you put up with this kind of stuff4 f you've seen an initially
hot relationship grow i#e!#old, this is one big reason444>
;se her friends
<<< >>>
Ross Meffries: >1lowers work wonders on young #hi#ks, espe#ially if you
give them to her in front of her friends% 3lways let her friends know ,by
being, not saying) you are a great guy% )ever ever underestimate a girl's
desire to make her friends /ealous of her man% n addition to that, always let
her think her friends want you% >.er#eived value> is why only some baseball
#ards are worth more that the store you bought them in, when they are all
printed on worthless #ardboard% 3nd if you want to put a #herry on top%%% you
#an make slight #omments that make her think that /ust maybe there is the
smallest #han#e you'll go for one of her friends if she doesn't do right by
you% 0r you #an go the other way and do things like say, >:ou friend &arah
has a huge ass%%% you're so mu#h better looking than her> et#% 3 girl's friends
are a fantasti# tool%>
Mudge her by her a#tions, not her words
<<< >>>
t happens ever too often% :ou're with a girl and she &3:& she's gonna have
to go home% 0n#e you rea#h her house, she doesn't seem to have the
slightest of intention of leaving you% n silent agreement you move on to
>take a loot at> your house:) 0r she &3:& she doesn't sleep with a guy on
the first night, or she &3:& it is too soon et# et#% )ow these were all
positive e"amples of what she &3:& is ne#essarily not what she wants or
eventually D0+&:) But nothing to #omplain about, right=:)
5rong% Be#ause the opposite is 2uite #ommon as well ! although she
promises this and that, makes e"#uses, is sorry ,>0h, 'll #all you>, >0h,
was soo busy, /ust didn't have any time4>, > lost your number, what was
it=>, >5e'll do it ne"t *uesday, promise4> et#) but )+9+R delivers ! whi#h
#an leave an 318 hanging on and hoping 'til retirement and then some%
n the words of Ross Meffries: >53*8$ 5$3* :0;R .R0&.+8*& D0 3)D
)0* 5$3* *$+: &3:44 +spe#ially with women who are e"#ellent e"#use
makers and bamboo'lers% *he 0)-: real key to a prospe#t being 2ualified is
*$+ 38*0) &$+ *36+&4 3-53:& -006 1R&* 3)D 10R+(0&* 3* $05 3
50(3) & *R+3*)7 :0; 3)D 1 :0; 3R+ B+)7 *R+3*+D 5*$
.R0R*: 3)D R+&.+8*% 0)-: *$+) -006 3* *$+ 8$3R38*+R&*8&
3)D T;3-*+& :0; -6+ ) *$3* 50(3)4
0ne of the primary differen#es between >/erks> and >ni#e guys> is what they
fo#us on% *he /erk is first and foremost fo#used on how he is being treated
and ea#h move he makes is put through the test: >will this in#rease or
de#rease the priority she gives me=>% f the answer is de#rease%%% *$+ M+R6
D0+&)'* D0 *444 )i#e guys ,#hroni# masturbators) by way of #ontrast,
fo#us on the #hara#teristi#s they like in the girl% *hey ignore or overlook
rude behaviour from her% *hey a#t to show their appre#iation and interest in
her rather than to get respe#t whi#h is why, like Rodney Dangerfield%%% *$+:
D0)'* 7+* 3):444>
&he #an#els a date
<<< >>>
Ross Meffries:
&#enario G
$er: #an't make it% 've got a rare tropi#al disease that's #ausing me to
shrink by the hour%
:ou: ,dead silen#e for as long as it takes for her to talk again% Must say
)0*$)7444)
$er: $ello= 3re you there= 5hat's wrong=
:ou: 5hat's wrong is #an't believe the bullshit 'm hearing%
$er: 5hat=====
:ou: -ook%%%you made a #ommitment to spend time with me and now you're
blowing me off% :ou're disrespe#ting me and disrespe#ting my time and 'm
)0* going to put up with it% (y rule is, if someone makes a #ommitment to
me, e"pe#t them to keep it% f they #an't keep it, need to know at least a
day in advan#e so #an make other plans% 7ot it= f you #an live with that
rule, great%%%if not, sayanora4
*hen, $3)7 ;.44
)ow, this may sound e"treme, but man does it work well444 n fa#t, she'll
probably #all ba#k with five minutes and apologise and ask you out444 'm not
kidding here? 've seen the hardest, /aded bit#hes go to giggly little girls,
eager to please me when 've done this% t throws some kind of swit#h in
their heads% guess with some people, you don't really get their attention
until%%% :ou 7ive *hem 3 &wift 6i#k n *he 3ss44
&#enario H
:ou go to pi#k her up at her pla#e and she either keeps you waiting outside
for more than ten minutes, or lets you in and then pro#eeds to talk on the
phone for at least that long while totally ignoring you% 5ait for her to finish,
and as soon as she does say something like this:
:0;: 8an ask you a 2uestion=
$+R: &ure%
:0;: 3re you being intentionally rude to test me, or are you /ust an
a##idental asshole=
$+R: ,mouth dropping open in sho#k, unable to say anything4)
:0;: Don't ever keep me waiting like this again, ok= 'll always treat you
respe#tfully, but e"pe#t the same% Do you understand me=
$+R: ;h< uh< yes%
:0;: 7ood% -et's see you make it up to me%
3nd at this point grab her and kiss her passionately% f you #an, try to turn
this into a fu#k then and there% 5hy give her an evening on the town and
reward her rotten behaviour=
f she doesn't return your phone!#alls@e!mails
<<< >>>
*hings are looking grim if she doesn't seem to be returning a phone!#all or
an e!mail% But not all is lost yet as it all depends how you pro#eed from here%
0ne #ertain way to mess things up is #alling @ e!mailing her some more with
the message being that although you are /ust slightly #onfused as to why
she hasn't answered you yet, its ok anyway, lets try again, >here's my
number one more time> et#% Bad% *his is sure!fire method of losing her%
3nother way to rea#t is not to rea#t at all ! you sent your message, she
re#eived it, now its her turn to a#t, and if she doesn't, well, too bad% *his
method lets you keep your integrity and pride, but you #ould also be losing
out on women who either #an't seem to be able to make up their minds ,but
beware, they will definetly de#ide against you on#e they re#eive a
suppli#ating follow!up message from you4) and@or are the kind of girls, that
know to start >behaving> only after having re#eived a few >slaps> from you%
&o if hopes were high ,you hit it off well, she gave you her number et#, any
signals of possible interest you might have re#eived from her will do) but
now she seems to have disappeared ! show that you 5-- )0* *0-+R3*+
su#h a behaviour, and only be#ause you saw some potential for the two of
you are you 5--)7 to give her 0)+ -3&* 8$3)8+% But if she dares to fL#k
up again ! its bye!bye! and blam4!door!slam!time:)
3 sample e!mail@voi#e message by ZZEL.roB, 3&1: >$i Jgirls nameK% *his is
Jmy nameK% wanted to let you know how disappointed was that you didn't
#all me ba#k% But, sin#e saw so mu#h potential for us thought would
give you one last #han#e% &o why don't you give me a #all%>
*his approa#h also works if she does return your e!mails and phone!#alls,
but never seems to have time to a#tually get together with you% &o if she
always seems to have some prior engagements or pro/e#ts or business or
other B& to take #are of and never time for you, here's an e"ample of a
simple and dire#t message by (ania# $igh ,http:@@www%pi#kupguide%#om),
3&1:
>$i """
&o are you going to make time to meet me, or are you always busy= am
free &unday afternoon btw%>
&ee also:
f she disrespe#ts you
f she disrespe#ts you
<<< >>>
(r&e"Iu):8, 3&1: >3t the first sign of disrespe#t to you 0R passing up an
opportunity to spend time with you, you dump her% 5hen she #alls you
wanting to go out or something, you tell her that her behaviour was
una##eptable and that the only way you are going to let her hang out with
you again is if she ,make up whatever shit you want her to do be#ause she
broke the rules, fu#k, su#k, whatever)% f all you want from her is a kiss, get
that% f all you want is for her to dress se"ily, make her do that% f she
doesn't agree to your terms tell her don't #all you again until you are ready
to meet my demands and $3)7 ;.% *he point of returning fo" is that she is
#rawling ba#k to you so you have the .05+R in the relationship%>
from: http:@@www%fastsedu#tion%#om@#gi!bin@sear#h%#gi=
a#tionRretrieve[grpRG[mnRSHGGQQNNH
Ross Meffries suggests issuing a warning at first, whi#h is pretty mu#h the
same thing ! you have to show that you're serious about it: >Don't be afraid
to #all her on bullshit she might pull% 7irls will always test your limits%%% so
the first time they do, #all them on it% *ell her that you won't put up with that
shit and not to do it again% )+9+R forget you were born without her% 3nd
that there are a hundreds more like her and a thousands more that are even
better than her%>
from: sour#e for original post unknown
Disrespe#ting you #an also be a form of testing you if the #hi#k likes you at
first but wants to determine your worthiness or la#k of worthiness ! she will
be testing you in order to find out whether you are a suppli#ating taking!all!
her!shit pussyboy or a man with self!#ontrol and the ability to take #harge%
(r $appy, 3&1: >n order to pass su#h a test ,an e"ample of whi#h is
#an#elling a date), you must:
D% &how that you don't lose your temper over it%
I% &how that you don't whine like a baby over it%
S% &how that it doesn't really phase you%
O% &how that you D0 find it disrespe#tful and that you don't tolerate that%
,I) is the most important point, but you (;&* do it in su#h a way that ,G,H,D)
are true%>
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a#tionRretrieve[grpRG[mnRQDPEIGPIPIQDDN
&ee also:
f she doesn't return your phone!#alls@e!mails
f she says: >-et's /ust be friends>, aka -MB1's you
<<< >>>
deally, you should never get to a point where a girl is for#ed to >-MB1> you !
that is when she doesn't want you but you don't seem to be able to take a
hint% 1irst of all, you should be able to make most any girl want you anyway,
and se#ondly, should she really be disinterested, you should have moved on
long before she has a #han#e to >-MB1> you% f however you still happen to
wind up in a mess like that, this is what Don Diebel suggests ,he should
know, he is the >dating guy>:)%
Don Diebel: >f a girl ever blo#ks advan#ing the relationship by saying, >)o,
let's /ust be friends,> say, >)o, have lots of friends% &ee you later%> By
#ontinuing this type of relationship, you portray yourself as someone who
has nothing better to do than hang around with a girl who is not that
interested in you% *he relationship will never get to where you want to go !
to bed for some roman#e, passion, and se"% 3nd even if by some mira#le the
relationship did advan#e to the bedroom, she would be doling out se" !
di#tating the where, when and how mu#h% f she wants to #ut you off at any
time, she #an and you have to a##ept it be#ause that is the implied
agreement from the start% &he is in #omplete #ontrol, hen#e, she will never
be satisfied with you%
f, on the other hand, you walk away from this relationship, you have
established that you are the type used to leading a relationship, you have
plenty of other girls willing to take you on your terms, and she is losing out%
5e have seen #ases where a man will #ompletely turn around the
relationship as soon as a girl sees that he is willing to >walk> rather than
a##ept something that is not on his terms%
5hen do you give up on a girl= 5hen do you de#ide that a relationship is not
advan#ing= 5hen you are the only one making an effort to keep it
advan#ing% f she is not putting energy in to you, take the hint and move on
to the ne"t prospe#t% Don't stay where you're not appre#iated% f this
situation does o##ur, try to figure out why% $ow did she per#eive you= 5hat
turned her off= -earn from your mistakes%>
5hat to do, if you #an see that you're approa#hing -MB1!land with a girl%
7lenn Durden, 3&1: >8ompletely and totally #ut off all #onta#t with her for a
few months% 5hen you #ome ba#k, you #an almost start from s#rat#h% (ore
of a stranger, less of a >#lose friend>%>
1un and games
<<< >>>
*he kissing bet% 3n old tri#k, you #an also use it with or without the 7(
te#hni2ue% 3&1: >*ell the girl that you will bet her a dollar ,or a drink is ni#e)
that you #an kiss her without using your lips or your tongue% 7irls usually
think ,know) that your up to something, so sometimes it takes a little
#onvin#ing to get them to take the bet% *hey will take it about G@D of the
time% f the girl is a good friend and she doesn't take the bet, say >0k%
1ine%%%Must #he#k out this tri#k learned%%%you #an use it to make money off
people,> then play it off like your doing her a favour by showing her this
,*rust me you are)% *hen if she a##epts the bet or you offer to show her >the
tri#k> do this: &ay: >Ready%%%5at#h this4> *hen move in like you are going to
kiss her on the lips% 0k this is fu#king important% 5hen you rea#h the point
of no return you absolutely (;&* lay the smoothest and mean the
smoothest sma#k on her she has ever e"perien#ed% *hen say >7od Damn
you're a good kisser4%%% guess owe you a bu#k4> f your kiss is smooth
enough this will most definitely lead to more kissing and maybe even a #hild
if your a real asshole% ,f you need a good line here say > don't think that
kiss was worth more than SE #ents, you owe me another>)%>
0sama ! the king% 3 Mapanese version of truth or dare% +veryone shows
their hand with the amount of e"tended fingers forming a number from one
to five% *he numbers are added up and the resulting numbers are #ounted
#lo#k!wise from the last >king> ,or from the one the added up the numbers if
the game has /ust begun)% *he one who ends up with the final number will
be the ne"t >king> and #an >truth or dare> any other two players to do
anything:)
3!hole \ truth or dare%
3&1: >Remember how easy it was to kiss girls playing truth or dare in high
s#hool= 5ell, guess what%%% it still works with #ollege age women%%% +"#ept
now you're fu#king4 (y wingman and use this everytime we bring girls
ba#k to my house% 5e always end up banging our #hi#ks of #hoi#e, but the
best part is you get to do freaky shit with both of them4 )ot to mention that
the lesbian a#tion ,unavoidable when playing with me4) is a great way to
psy#he yourself up for some serious se"%
5e make a plan about what and who we are gonna do before we start and
prep ea#h other with good dares and truths% D0 )0* play this without whip
#ream%%% this is the most important a##essory you will need% :ou will be
ama'ed when you see how turned on a girl #an get /ust by liking whipped
#ream off her stoma#h% &tart off with little stuff like kisses and then move
up to li#king whipped #ream off nipples, dryfu#king, lapdan#es, and the
#loser%%% Dare your wing to go in a room with one of the #hi#ks for S minutes
and see what happens% 3t this time grab the other girl and wear out your
#arpet% 3t this point the girls will be so turned on from the li#king and
kissing that you #an basi#ally do whatever you want with them% 5hen you're
alone in the room you #an be like, > dare you to let me #ome in your mouth>
et#%
&ounds great so far right= But your worried about how to get the game
started% :ou #ant /ust say, >0k, time for truth or dare>% *o the girls it sounds
more like, >0k, time for us to use you for our se"ual entertainment%> :ou
have to sneak them into it% (y re#ipe goes like this: start off with the
greatest drinking game of all time, 3sshole, to get them ni#e and li2uored
up% *hen move on to the game 'm about to des#ribe%
*hrow out any #ards below an P% *ake the rest and spread them in a #ir#le
around the biggest #up you #an find% )ow you take turns drawing #ards%
P R Band )ames% 7o around the table saying band names% +a#h name has to
start with the last letter of the previous name% 1or instan#e, say 9anilla
#e, the ne"t person says +ri# 8lapton, ne"t person says )ine n#h )ails% f
you #ant think of one in ten se#onds then you drink and the ne"t person
draws a #ard%
Q R *ruth% :ou #an ask whoever you want%
GE R .erson to the left drinks for S se#%
Ma#k R Dare% 5hoever you want%
Tueen R +veryone drinks for S #ount%
6ing R 1ill up the huge #up with G@D of the way full with whatever you are
drinking% *he person who draws the last king has to pound whatever nasty
mi"ture ends up in the #up% 3fter a few rounds you will start running out of
band names sin#e you #an't say the same one twi#e% 5ait till one of the
girls #ant remember a band name then say, >-ets /ust play truth or dare>%
*hey will happily agree if your dares and truths were e"#iting and getting
them horny%
(y wing and played this thursday night with D girls and I guys% 3t the
beginning of the night the girls a#tually asked me if they #ould stay over so
they didn't have to drive home drunk4 3fter mu#h a serious truth or dare
session with tons of se"ual a#ts, dared my wing to go in a room for S min
with one of the #hi#ks and see what happens% *hey never #ame out% t was
getting late and had to work the ne"t morning% tossed the other two girls
some blankets and said, >:ou two #an sleep in my bed if you want, but dont
be thinking we're gonna hook up and shit #ause really gotta get some
sleep%> GE minutes later one of the girls #ruises into my room, /umps in bed
with me and starts kissing me% &he was about an P but it was D:DE so told
her had to sleep and to leave her number and we would #ontinue this the
ne"t night% n the meantime my brother has gotten the Drd #hi#k into his
room and my other friend is spanking hank in my bathroom%
've never played this game before without all the girls willing to bang at the
end, whether they have boyfriends or not% got the idea a year ago when
was asking a girl if she had ever had a lesbian e"perien#e% &he told me that
the only time she ever did was in a #ra'y game of truth or dare when she
got dared to eat some girl out for S min% )either of these girls were bi before
it happened% *his /ust goes to show that the possibilities are endless444>
.lay a game of 8rash and Burn
<<< >>>
by Ra'or 8at
3 little idio#y is great for #onfiden#e% *he game: 8rash and Burn% *he ob/e#t
of this game is to #rash and burn% $it women with the worst lines, the most
outrageous innuendoes, lame pi#kups, and so forth% 7o down in flames
repeatedly% $ave fun doing this% (ake this your goal% 0kay, now you've been
shot down in the most horrendous of ways% 1un, wasn't it= 3nd you are still
alive4 3nd a whole lot more desensitised% :es, this does work% had si"
women laughing for an hour this way at a party% t's based on the Muggling
s#hool of management% n brief: they tea#h you to /uggle in order to be a
better manager% *he first thing that they have you do is drop the balls% :ou
spend five or ten minutes pra#tising this% *he lesson is that you #an't be
afraid of dropping the balls% &#rewing up isn't' failure, it's /ust s#rewing up%
+ye #onta#t e"periment
<<< >>>
by David &hade
asked one woman friend of mine >why did you go out with him=> and she
replied: >be#ause when looked at him he kept eye #onta#t with me%>
5hen re#all the very su##essful people have had the pleasure of working
for in the #orporate world, remember that they all maintained eye #onta#t
while speaking to me% 5hen you wat#h somebody su##essful being
interviewed on *9, like &#ott (#)ealy of &un, you noti#e that they never
look away from their interviewer's eyes and they rarely blink%
:ou are approa#hing a #hi#k in the hall as you walk towards ea#h other%
5hen should you look at her= ,$er eyes, silly% f you look at anything else,
it's over%) have tried all #ombinations% f wait until the last instant, either
find she is not looking, or, if she is looking, she 2ui#kly looks away% f look
at her and she looks at me and look away, then she never looks again%
*hen tried something bold and de#ide will look at her eyes the entire
time% *o my ama'ement, she ga'es like a deer into headlights% )ever breaks
eye #onta#t% &o de#ide to try this little e"periment%
Re#ently spent a week attending meetings in one of our buildings filled
with edu#ated su##essful professional women in their HE's and DE's% (ost
are definitely doable% &ome are gorgeous% &ome are married, some are not%
spent my time between meetings trying this: would pi#k a different floor
and would walk down ea#h hall, walking /ust slightly to the right of #enter%
5hen saw a woman walking towards me, maintained looking at her eyes%
0nly the heavy ones did not keep looking% But for all the others, in#luding
the gorgeous ones, they maintained eye #onta#t the entire time% never
blinked% *hey never blinked% *hey broke eye #onta#t only when we were /ust
about ne"t to ea#h other% broke eye #onta#t only after she did% 5hat really
ama'ed me was that by the time we passed, almost every #hi#k had broken
a smile% &ome even said >$i%> did not smile or say $i until they first did%
*hese halls were not long% +a#h woman was no farther than DE feet away
when first saw her% But what if it had been a very long hall= $ow far down
the hall should start looking at her eyes= #ertainly don't want to s#are
her% look straight ahead, and then when she is about DE feet away, start
looking into her eyes%
then went to the mall a few times to try the e"periment there% (ost did not
look at all% 0f those who did look, most only looked for a se#ond% 0nly about
a third lo#ked on% 0f those, about half broke a smile or said $i% 3 #ouple of
them where so moved that they almost tripped%
Do you have to be walking= tried the e"periment while sitting% 3lmost none
maintained eye #onta#t% Do they have to be walking= 5hile was walking
would look at any #hi#ks who were sitting% *he results were the same as if
we were both walking%
f was approa#hing two #hi#ks, and looked from one to the other, lost
them both% &o, if am in su#h a situation, lo#k onto one and don't #hange
my mind%
f smiled or said $i, while she was still looking at me, but before she
smiled or said $i, it would usually result in my loosing her% 0n rare instan#es
did it make her smile and say $i with enthusiasm% &o, never smile or say $i
until she first does so, and smile if she smiles and say $i if she says $i%
f she did not lo#k eye #onta#t with me, would go ahead and say $i when
she got #lose to me% n many instan#es she would then enthusiasti#ally turn
to me and smile and say $i%
would also look at #hi#ks who were with a man if he was not looking in my
general dire#tion% was surprised at the number of times that she would
lo#k on and a#tually smile%
noti#ed that the better dressed, or the se"ier dressed, the better did%
noti#ed that the women who looked where better dressed then those who
did not%
+ye #onta#t in a bar is an entire s#ien#e in itself% 5hen done #orre#tly, it
#an be fu#king lethal%
Real players never stare% *hey lo#k eye #onta#t% *here is a differen#e
between staring and lo#king eye #onta#t% *hey are two totally different
things%
5hen you look at a woman, here is what you do% -o#k eye #onta#t with her%
Don't blink% Don't look at her friend% .i#k one eye and don't let go% :ou only
get one #han#e at this% Don't give up% Don't smile% Don't say anything% :ou
are telling her that you are interested in her and you are not intimidated by
her% *hen leave it up to her% :ou will be ama'ed at the staring #apability that
women posses%
&he is thinking >5ho is this guy to be so bold as to #ontinue looking at me
while look at him= )ow this is interesting% $e is different%> &he knows that
if she lets go now, she will loose you% &he will go one of two ways% f she
wants to loose you, she will break eye #onta#t and look away% f she does
not want to loose you, but is instead intrigued by what you are doing, she
knows that she has to eventually end the stare down and she will have to
make the move% &he will have to either smile or say $i%
f she smiles, you smile% f she says $i, you say $i% Don't say $ello% *hen you
reward her and make your move%
0f #ourse, you don't always have to wait for eye #onta#t to make your move%
David &hade, 3&1: >5hen you are talking to a woman, always maintain eye
#onta#t% *his demonstrates #onfiden#e and intent% Don't theori'e about it,
/ust do it% .i#k one eye and sti#k with it% Don't go from eye to eye, that is
nervous% *hat #an only be done with great skill as she will asso#iate eye
#hanges to #ontent%
*he only time you do not look a woman in the eyes is when you are
>motioning away> as you mention something >bad>, su#h as her borefriend%
3nything >bad> is asso#iated with >looking away%>
*hat is after you have already started talking to her% But what about before
that= 3gain ! always remain in eye #onta#t% -et her be the first to break eye
#onta#t% *hen make your approa#h% t does not matter what the setting is% t
is universal%>