LEARN TO BE ASSERTIVE

Chapter 6
Defnition:

A person who is assertive can be escribe as so!eone who:

E"presses their views c#ear#$ an artic%#ate#$ witho%t bein&
a&&ressive'
Stans %p (or their own an other peop#e)s ri&hts in a
reasonab#e an c#ear wa$'

A##ows other peop#e a reasonab#e opport%nit$ to e"press their
opinions witho%t a##owin& the! to o!inate a conversation'

*avin& the co%ra&e to e"press one)s own (ee#in&s+ even
abo%t i,c%#t iss%es+ in a wa$ which is respect(%# an honest-
Three basic st$#es o(
responses

Passive Style
is a t$pe o( behavio%r which is characteristic o( so!eone see.in& above
a## to avoi con/ict- I( this is a (or! o( behavio%r which $o% show then it
is #i.e#$ that whatever $o%r own (ee#in&s $o% !a$ a##ow others to !a.e
choices an ta.e avanta&e o( $o%-

Aggressive Style
A&&ressive behavio%r is the opposite o( passive behavio%r- So!eone
who acts a&&ressive#$ wi## e"press their own nees an wants (ree#$ b%t
o(ten witho%t tho%&ht (or the (ee#in&s o( others an so!eti!es in a #o%
or inti!iatin& !anner-

Assertive Style
As can be seen (ro! the above efnition o( 0Assertive0+ Assertive
behavio%r invo#ves actin& in a wa$ which is neither 1assive nor
A&&ressive b%t a happ$ !ei%! between the two- I( $o% can act
assertive#$ $o% wi## e"press $o%r own nees+ wants an (ee#in&s+ b%t in a
!anner which is constr%ctive an which a##ows others the opport%nit$ to
e"press their own-
*ow to beco!e assertive2

Rea#i3e where chan&es are neee

an be#ieve in $o%r ri&hts-

4i&%re o%t appropriate wa$s os

assertin& $o%rse#( in each specifc
sit%ation that concerns $o%-

Describe 5to the other person invo#ve6

Describe $o%r (ee#in&s+ %sin& 7I8

Describe the chan&es $o%9 #i.e to !a.e