Baumer has seen the atrocities of war. He cant fathom how people back home are seeing the war. They all see war as a glorified and noble way to defend the country. Their patriotism seems to irk Baumer because the people back home cant seem to understand what the war really means-a fight for survival. Baumer is careful around his family. He is trying to give them comfort-especially his motherbecause he doesnt want them to worry too much about him.