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By DANIEL E. SLOTNIK
MAY 30, 2012 5:06 AMMay 30, 2012 5:06 am
The solution to not having useless 30-year-olds living at home is to make them do their own washing, pay their own way
TV property expert Sarah Beeny
She says that some adolescents may want to stay longer with their families because they need more support during these formative
years and that it is important for parents to realise that all young people do not develop at the same pace.
But is there any danger we could be breeding a nation of young people reluctant to leave adolescence behind?
TV sitcoms are littered with such comic stereotypes of juvenile adults, such as Smithy from Gavin and Stacey or Private Pike in Dad's
Army.
Then there are those characters who want to break away from their overbearing or protective parents or guardians and reach
adulthood, but struggle to cut the family ties.
Frank Furedi, professor of sociology at the University of Kent, says we have infantilised young people and this has led to a growing
number of young men and women in their late 20s still living at home.
"Often it's claimed it's for economic reasons, but actually it's not really for that," says Furedi. "There is a loss of the aspiration for
independence and striking out on your own. When I went to university it would have been a social death to have been seen with your
parents, whereas now it's the norm.
Neil gets a surprise visit from his parents in The Young Ones
"So you have this kind of cultural shift which basically means that adolescence extends into your late twenties and that can hamper you
in all kinds of ways, and I think what psychology does is it inadvertently reinforces that kind of passivity and powerlessness and
immaturity and normalises that."
Furedi says that this infantilised culture has intensified a sense of "passive dependence" which can lead to difficulties in conducting
mature adult relationships. There's evidence of this culture even in our viewing preferences.
"There's an increasing number of adults who are watching children's movies in the cinema," says Furedi. "If you look at children's TV
channels in America, 25% of the viewers are adults rather than children."
He does not agree that the modern world is far more difficult for young people to navigate.
"I think that what it is, is not that the world has become crueller, it's just that we hold our children back from a very early age. When
they're 11, 12, 13 we don't let them out on their own. When they're 14, 15, we hover all over them and insulate them from real-life
experience. We treat university students the way we used to treat school pupils, so I think it's that type of cumulative effect of
infantilisation which is responsible for this."
But should parents really be encouraging adolescents to make their own way in the world more? The TV series Girls - with central
character Hannah Horvath struggling with adulthood - has captured the zeitgeist. Hannah's parents have cut her off financially and she
has to live away and navigate her 20s making her own mistakes.
Should adolescents have to make it on their own like the cast of Girls?
One of the traditional rites of passage for adulthood was always leaving home, but TV property expert Sarah Beeny says that
adolescents do not have to move out of the parental house in order to learn how to be independent and there are huge advantages to
multi-generational living.
"The solution to not having useless 25 [and] 30-year-olds living at home is not sending them out of the home, it's making them do their
own washing, pay their own way, pay towards the rent, pay towards the bills, to take responsibility for cleaning up their bedroom and
not waiting on them hand and foot," says Beeny.
She says that parents should play a part in teaching adolescents key skills and that young people in return can keep their parents
current.
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Teach these children [safe driving skills] before they've been corrupted by Grand Theft Auto 5 and Top Gear
Motoring expert Quentin Willson
"I know it sounds like a utopian dream but it's probably where we should be aiming. To me that's the holy grail not everybody living in
their own individual pods by themselves thinking, brilliant I'm paying a mortgage."
The idea of parental responsibility to adolescents should also extend to another external symbol of maturity says motoring expert
Quentin Willson - the car. He says it has become a "talisman" for young people to feel more mature.
Willson says statistics show that at the age of 18 the vast majority of accidents caused by young drivers are down to bad judgement
and decision making, and that behind the wheel "adult maturity isn't fully formed until you get past 25 for most cases of people".
But rather than raise the minimum age for driving, Willson believes parents and teachers should impart safe driving skills before the
effects of adolescence really kick in.
"If you teach these children when their mindsets are pure and before they've been corrupted by things like Grand Theft Auto 5 and Top
Gear and all these corrosive social pressures, then you get the road safety message in much earlier," says Willson.
"The government should look at this very carefully and put driving on the GCSE syllabus. So you teach kids to
drive in terms of theory at school and all the right messages at 13, 14, 15, because when you get to 17 the
testosterone is raging, all those corrosive influences are embedded."
With such racing hormonal activity and adolescence taking much longer than we previously thought, how will
we know when we actually do reach adulthood?
For Antrobus it is when independence "feels like something that you both want and can acquire".
But for the eternal adolescents among us, perhaps Beeny's definition is apt.
"For me adulthood is realising that there are no grown-ups and everyone else is winging it," says Beeny.