In my opinion, in the quote "We're all born to adore ourselves, but not all

of us grow up", Jeffrey Kluger speaks about one's bent to not grow out of the
self-admiration, that sometimes it is created in us by our own parents,
relatives and friends. Having good self-esteem, trusting in ourselves and in
our looks is healthy, but when all this becomes narcissism, a demon is set
loose, it devours the personality mutilating us. Behind narcissism always
hides the fear of apearance and faults making us look more to we think we
have and forgeting what we don't.
In the first place, i do not consider we are born into self-love, that is
something we gain in time, in consideration with the way we are treated in
our childhood and teenage years. A child that hears all the time how good he
is and has all his whishes fulfilled may start accting
like a modern Narcis, loving himself more than anything, believing that all is
rightfully his. But what happens when you hit the real world and you find
yourself shallow and see there are people better than you? I believe in this
situation hatred and untolerance is born, instend of seeing someone's
distinctions you start trashing that person out of fear.
In the second place, we must not overlook the fear earlier mentioned. I
think that every superiority complex is a hidden inferiority complex which
accounts for the fear of losing narcissistic people have, and for the arogant
atitude. Arogance and bragging are used as defence while untolerance and
heatred as weapon. Nrcissistic people love something else other the
themselves... they love making others feel bad, feel inferior.
In conclusion, whether narcissism in born from compliments and the
feeling of beeing the bettermost, usualy created in childhood, whether is a
way to mask insecurity and an inferiority complex, it is dangerous deficiency
that leads to heating atitude, to arogance , making it hard to grow as person.