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Oaklander, Violet, Windows to Our Children, Gestalt Journal Press; Highland New York, 1988, p.
299.
2
Lichtenberg, Philip, Classical Gestalt Theory, Lobb; New York, 1992, p. 24.
Lampert, Ruth, A Childs Eye View: Gestalt Therapy with Children, Adolescents & Their Families,
Gestalt Journal Press, Gouldsboro ME, 2003, p. 109.
4
Oaklander, op cit. n. 1, p. 319.
5
Ibid, p. 319.
6
Ibid, p. 265.
7
Mortola, Peter, Sharing Disequilibrium: A Link Between Gestalt Theory and Child Development
Theory, 5(1) Gestalt Review (2001) pp. 45-56, p. 45.
Piaget, Jean, Biology and Knowledge: An Essay on the Relations Between Organic Regulations and
Cognitive Processes, University of Chicago Press; Chicago Illinois, 1971, p. 373.
9
Mortola, op cit. n.7, p. 45.
10
Ibid, p. 55.
11
Ibid.
12
Oaklander, op cit. n. 1, p.196.
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children .For example working with clay has unique properties as a therapeutic tool as
it allows the children to express their emotions in a directly tangible and tactile way.
By pounding, pinching and rolling the clay the children are able to release pent-up
energy and emotional blockages.
Oaklander respects this resistance and insists that it must be taken very seriously, that
it is integral to the process itself; she acknowledges it so as to:
move delicately past, over it, around it.children may giggle, make disgusting
noises and make sure that others know how crackpot it is and think that it is not
good or clever I expect them to accept and go on with my business and once the
children are sure that the group and I are taking this activity seriously, they
generally get right into it13
In fact, every time we meet resistance, this is too hard, this is too much, this is too
dangerous, this impasse, as Fritz Perls calls it, it is a sign that the child is on the
very edge of giving up an old pattern and on the path to a new way of being in the
world.
In the first session the child sizes up the therapist and it is important that the child
hears every word that is said about her and is given an opportunity to speak about
what she hears her parents say about her. Even if she says little and just watches and
observes, the child will realise that the therapist is fair, and will be spared the pain of
fantasizing about what might have been said. This is the beginning of building a
working relationship with the child where openness, fairness and inclusion allows
trust to develop and the real work to begin.
That the client should be a witness to what is said about her, is a principle shared by
each of the therapists I have reviewed. Mark McConville writes about the particular
task of working with adolescents Trust and confidentiality, important with all clients
are crucial with adolescents and recommends that all stakeholders be present during
the first session but after this the information should not go both ways; the teen
hears everything said by the parent but has final approval over the information that the
13
Ibid.
Toman, Sarah, Bauer, Ann, McConville, Mark and Robertson, Bruce, Adolescents: Development
and Practice from a Gestalt Perspective in Woldt and Toman (eds.), Gestalt Therapy: History, Theory,
and Practice, Sage Publications; California, London, 2005, p. 192.
15
Lichtenberg, op cit. n.2, p. 24.
16
Toman et al, op cit. n. 14, p. 185.
Ibid, p.184-185
Kepner, James, Healing Tasks, Jossey Boss; San Francisco, 1995, p. 59.
19
Toman et al, op cit. n. 14, p. 185.
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20
McConville, Mark, Adolescence: Psychotherapy and the emergent self, The Analytic Press;
Cleveland, 1995, p. 156.
24
See Toman et al, op cit. n. 14, p.184.
intellect, is the underlying basis for the childs sense of self. As each need surfaces
and is met without hindrance, not only is there homeostasis and balance, but new
levels of growth and development.25 (This statement also encompasses the goals for
a developmentally appropriate approach to childrens therapy, as articulated and
pioneered by Violet Oaklander). However, the one thing that adolescents/children
have in common when they undertake therapy is some impairment to the contact
function. Children do the best they can to get through their lives and in the process
pick up beliefs about themselves and their world which, while they allowed them to
survive at the time, now hinder them from experiencing a full and creative existence.
A range of behaviours from being overly good to aggressive and hostile; from being
withdrawn to incessant chatterers; are all attempts to cope in a world where their
needs are not being met. Also they have introjected faulty information about
themselves and grown up with flawed beliefs about themselves, such as I am
clumsy, I am bad, Im not pretty, Im not clever and Im too fat, Im too
much.
How the therapist works to build a child/adolescents sense of self, strengthen contact
functions and renew his/her with body, senses and mind is very important to the
efficacy of the intervention. Children do not come into therapy knowing what they
want to do, work through, or discover; nor do they usually come willingly, this is
particularly the case with adolescents. It is the therapists role to devise the means by
which they can explore their inner world. As the following quote from Oaklander so
eloquently expresses recovering a persons birthright acts as a rebalancing process
that opens the way to fullness and creativity. Restoring the clients acceptance of their
own uniqueness or differentness as she puts it, is really the essence of therapy.
Whenever I work with a child, adolescent or adult I know that we will have to go
back and remember; regain, renew and strengthen, something that she once had as
a baby, but now seems lost. As her senses awaken, as she begins to know her body
again she can recognise, accept and verbalize her wants and needs and thoughts
and ideas. As she learns who she is and accepts who she is in her differentness
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Oaklander, Violet, Group Play Therapy from a Gestalt Perspective: How to Do it, How it Works,
Whom it is Best For, Sweeney D S, Homeyer (ed.s), Jossey Boss; San Francisco, 1999, p. 165.
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from you, then she will contact you and you will know it. She can do this whether
she is 3 or 83.26
Joseph Zinker believes that there are two main elements for engaging the creative
process: firstly, a kind of loving curiosity or asking oneself whats it like to be a
person like him/her? and secondly, a radical identification with that part of the
clients personality that is waiting for permission to experiment with novel or
startling ways of experiencing him/herself.27 In this model the therapist invites the
client to come on an adventure, an adventure that starts initially with an acceptance of
the persons child. Zinker describes what he terms the beauty of gestalt therapy as
that which allows me to be phenomenologically true to what is there and at the same
time allows me to translate my own creative hunches into experimental acts.28 I find
Zinkers encapsulation here intriguing and I recognise in it great potential for working
with clients of all ages. He, fascinatingly, posits that the creative leap is of such
transformative potential as to go beyond therapy and affect every aspect of ones life:
this kind of leaping of jumping over possible objections or resistances is the
defining characteristic of the creative process in all areas of living and working,
not just gestalt therapy.29
As the preceding paragraphs indicate I feel that Oaklander and Zinker work, in may
ways, in a similar, respectful, creative and sensitive manner; both of them using a
whole palette of methods to access and restore the inner worlds of their clients,
reawakening them to a myriad range of possibilities and choices. There are some
elements of Oaklanders techniques that I find to be particularly insightful. Somewhat
surprisingly Oaklander emphasises the value of using projection in her method of
working with children. Projection, she maintains is in fact the basis for all artistic
and scientific creativity.30 Whilst recognising that projection is a defence
mechanism she encourages it as it enables the child to put what is inside outside and
for the therapist it reveals the childs anxieties, fears, fantasies, avoidances,
frustrations, attitudes, patterns, manipulations, impulses, resistances, resentments,
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guilts, wishes, wants, needs and feelings.31 Often, she emphasises, it will be the only
way that the child will reveal his or her inner world and hence is an essential
window into the childs world. However, as she warns, one must be careful about
using projection in this way as it is extremely powerful and, although she does not say
so, it clearly requires great skill and delicacy.
The creative, expressive and projective techniques Oaklander uses are all significant
ways for helping children to express the parts of themselves that they are keeping
hidden and locked away. Not only do these techniques help to strengthen lost parts of
themselves but they, importantly, are invaluable when dealing with and confronting
negative introjects.32 She reminds us that negative beliefs that children develop about
themselves can never be changed by an outside agent, but they can be addressed in the
therapeutic relationship by helping the child to develop a stronger sense a self,
namely: who they are (and not who they are not), what they want, what they like and
dislike, what they think about and what their ideas are.33 Particularly useful devices
that Oaklander has developed for dealing with negative introjects are the scribble
and the squiggle, both of which enable the child to read in the random pattern what
it is that they really need to express. When a child expresses extreme anger in the
course of a session the activity of drawing can provide a powerful release and might
also provide a means for expressing these feelings verbally. Oaklander gives one
particular example of a seemingly sullen and withdrawn thirteen year old girl who
drew an anger picture of light bright colours surrounded by thick black borders. The
girls description of her picture was: anger surrounds me and squeezes the good
feelings and they cant get out34 The picture provided a crucial starting point for
helping the girl to talk about her anger and to find ways to discuss the things that were
making her angry. The expression of these pent up angry feelings allowed her good
feelings to emerge.
Working with puppets is a technique Oaklander uses when working with children who
are reluctant to speak for themselves, to say directly what they feel. Puppets, she
explains, provide distance and make the child feel safe enough to reveal aspects of his
31
Ibid.
Ibid, p. 278.
33
Ibid, pp. 277-279.
34
Ibid, pp. 43-44.
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or her inner life. Puppets are useful tools for overcoming resistance. Oaklander gives
one particularly memorable example of a ten year old child, Janice, who repeatedly
refused to consider adoption and would not even talk to her social worker, with whom
she otherwise had a good relationship, about it. Oaklander asked Janice to choose a
puppet who could be her voice, and she chose a funny floppy girl doll. Janice was
able to tell the doll that she was afraid not only of being adopted but that adoption
would result in her being separated from her brother and sister. Oaklander also asked
Janice to draw her fear and she drew a big solid black box. Oaklander asked the
puppet to describe Janices drawing. The puppet doll said that she would prefer to stay
in foster homes than to be locked away.35
I have found reading Violet Oaklanders work inspirational. Can you imagine what it
is like to have someone so interested in your work that he spends years participating
in it, analysing it and writing about it?36 asks Oaklander in the foreword to Peter
Mortolas book, Windowframes. My danger was in becoming completely confluent
with Violet Oaklander, all the more so because this is how I functioned in my family
of origin, the good child; but not good enough to find my way back when I was
returned by my grandmother at two and a half years of age! Very fortunately for me
occasionally I would stoutly refuse to cooperate and because my parents found this
phenomenon entirely out of character, I was left to my own devices until I
recovered. So I expect that I have always enjoyed my resistance! Consequently, I
have tried very hard not to fall completely under the spell of Oaklander, however her
belief that it is essential to have an understanding of child development is something I
have taken entirely to heart.
Another prerequisite for working with children and adolescents, I hold to be important
is a genuine respect for children and a belief that their feelings, thoughts, ideas, hopes
and dreams are theirs, and theirs alone and that they are entitled to them. Fortunately,
I find the company of children and adolescents, energising and I have spent a
considerable amount of time with them as a mother, grandmother, teacher and
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childs process and brings something that was hidden into the open where it can be
worked on and even completed. For me, Violet Oaklanders work demonstrates the
very quintessence of the therapist as artist, and is in itself an art form. Joseph Zinker
has remarked that such mastery of practice looks like magic, but is in fact developed
through long practice and refinement of the therapists art. It is the result of many
years of struggling and learning whereby the creative therapist is a disciplined
craftsman whose gift is to keep reaching out towards the most profound personal
potential.38
Now that this project has come to its conclusion I am, more than ever, aware that my
work is only just beginning:
I start with the surface acceptance of this persons experience of her child. It is
a given. I dont try to persuade her that it isnt so; rather, as the work develops and
she feels a sense of readiness, we can move into more difficult aspects of her self
parts which were originally difficult to bring into awareness and to share with
others.39
38
Zinker, Joseph, Creative Processes in Gestalt Therapy: The Artist as Therapist, XIV (2) The
Gestalt Journal (Fall 1991), p. 80.
39
Ibid, p. 74.
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