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To find yourself, lost and without purpose, wondering how you ended up where you are, is a scary thought. If you are not careful, not mindfully
aware of where you are going, you could end up somewhere far from where you want to be. These are 10 helpful questions that we each ought to
ask ourselves on a frequent basis. The power of self-reflection can serve to keep you in check, to keep you focused on self-improvement and
ensure that you are as fulfilled as possible.
1. Am I using my time wisely?
Time flies over us, but leaves its shadow behind. - Nathaniel Hawthorne
We all know time is precious. Our goal ought to be to use it in a way that isnt counter-productive. For example, taking time to unwind and do
nothing productive in particular could be beneficial for the mind and body. Finding yourself stuck in a job that offers a stable pay but fails to
challenge you, make use of your skills, or provide some sense of value could be considered a substantial waste of time. Most of it is perception.
The best way to evaluate this is to imagine yourself five or 10 years from now, looking back to where you are now, this could help you see what
aspects in your life may be a waste of your time.
2. Am I taking anything for granted?
Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your last misfortunes, of which all men have some. - Charles
Dickens
There are countless blessings around each of us. Even at our lowest lows we may have the support of family or friends, a roof over our head or
skills that we ought to take pride in. Were naturally forward-looking, which may blind us to our present circumstances. We ought to take a
moment every now and again to look at what we have around us and be grateful.
3. Am I employing a healthy perspective?
Perspective is as simple as answering this question: If I had five months to live would I experience this problem differently? - Shannon Alder
Whether or not were happy, doing whats right, or if we are successful is all about perspective. We may have the world at our fingertips yet find
ourselves utterly empty. We can grow to hate our jobs simply because of one co-worker whom we cannot agree with, or be devastated over a
dissolving relationship that had been detrimental to our well-being in the first place. Sometimes were so zoomed in on various issues that, when
we step back or hear an outside perspective, we can view the issue in a completely different light. Try to adopt new perspectives when possible; a
glass-half-full approach can mean a world of difference in regards to certain matters.
4. Am I living true to myself?
A lot of the conflict you have in your life exists simply because youre not living in alignment; youre not be being true to yourself. Steve
Maraboli
This may take years to fully discover, with many mistakes along the way, but it doesnt mean we shouldnt try. Its vital to figure out whether or
not were deceiving ourselves, leading a life that is far from what we want it to be. We have complete control over what we do, but without
consciously evaluating our actions and circumstances every now and again, we can let things spiral awaylike the the corrupt politician or
steroid-dependent athlete. Figure out what youre doing and why youre doing it. If youre doing something that will cause you regret down the
road, work yourself away from it.
5. Am I waking up in the morning ready to take on the day?
Know that dreaming is a waste of sleeping time and energy if you dont wake up to achieve them. - Israelmore Ayivor
Or are you waking up with a sense of hopelessness? The first thought of the day is a massive indicator of your general level of happiness. We all
have days that we dont look forward to, but if you find yourself not wanting to get out of bed day after day, and if you know why that is, its time
to take action.
6. Am I thinking negative thoughts before I fall asleep?
Insomniacs know that there is something about the night. A darkness, an energy, a mystery that shrouds things. It hides things at the same time
as it illuminates them. It is this thing that allows us to examine our thoughts in a way that we cant during the day. It is this thing that brings truth
and clarity. - Courtney Cole
When we finally lay down to sleep is when we unplug from everything and finally achieve a measure of clarity, clarity that prompts reflection.
Your last thoughts before falling asleep reveal a lot about whats going on in your life. If theyre consistently negative, try to identify a pattern of
what may be causing them and then seek to address the stressors.
7. Am I putting enough effort into my relationships?
Indifference and neglect often do much more damage than outright dislike. - J.K. Rowling
Over time, we can begin to take our relationships for granted. Flames die out, naturally, and novelty wears off. In consequence, this requires
constant effort to allow the relationships to grow. Moving away from family, for instance, requires lots of effort to stay connected and stay close.
If you dont want to find yourself losing various individuals in your life, make sure that youre dedicated towards maintaining your relationships.
8. Am I taking care of myself physically?
To keep the body in good health is a dutyotherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear. - Buddha
We have everything working against us as we get oldermore work hours to put in, a family to take care off, decreased energy levels and a slowed
metabolism, just to name a few. Our physical well-being can, in turn, be put on the back burner if were not aware. Keep an idea of where you
want to be physically in the next few years and dont let that image slip away from you.
9. Am I letting matters that are out of my control stress me out?
The reason many people in our society are miserable, sick, and highly stressed is because of an unhealthy attachment to things they have no
control over. - Steve Maraboli
The biggest waste of effort we can make is to stress out about things that are outside of our realm of control. A completely unnecessary but
inevitably common phenomenon that can ruin our days, our health, and our mental well-being. Make sure to continuously identify your stress
factors and work towards eliminating any worries about things that you cant control.
10. Am I achieving the goals that Ive set for myself?
Those who do not move, do not notice their chains. - Rosa Luxemburg
This question is necessary to consider on a frequent basis. We all have a general vision of where we want to be in five or 10 years, but its a very
obscure glimpse based around general accomplishments. PsychologyToday.com reports: In life, people have many goals (e.g. exercise more, be
a better spouse, save more money). However, goals often go unrealized because people lack self-awarenessThus, to improve our chances of
reaching our goals, we must remain aware of our current behavior. Its helpful to examine the visions of our future selves in close detail and
break down everything that must be done in order to achieve them. Dont solely focus on the where and whataccount for the how.
Through frequent self-reflection, we can make sure that were on the right path. Lack of self-reflection can cause us to seem lost or without a
purpose. Time flies by and without consciously evaluating our circumstances, we can let so many aspects of our lives slip away: our health, our
relationships, our goals. Its necessary for us to unplug for a few minutes every now and again, when possible, and address a variety of the
questions, including those listed above.
Whether its Buddhists engaging in meditation, alcoholics at AA meetings, or philosophers of the Enlightenment studying the texts of Immanuel
Kant, being aware of ourselves is an essential step in self-improvement. Allen R. McConnell, www.psychologytoday.com
Your love language and that of your partner can be as different as Chinese and English!
So it is absolutely essential that you learn your partners love language.
We must be willing to learn our spouses love language if we are to be effective communicators of love - Dr Gary Chapman
Here are the 5 different love languages:
Words of affirmation
Quality time
Receiving gifts
Acts of service
Physical touch
If your love language is physical touch, a kiss will speak louder than 1000 words but,
If your love language is words of affirmation, one kind or affirming word will speak louder than 1000 kisses
You might be showing love to your partner in every way that you know how and still, they might be telling you that you dont love them enough.
Well, its no secret anymore! You need to learn their love language.
3. Understand love as an action
As you can probably tell from the above point, love is an action.
Love is understanding how your partner feels loved, and then doing it.
People often think that love is a feeling, and that once the feeling disappears there is little hope for their relationship.
Well its absolutely not true!
Love is a verb. Love the feeling is a fruit of love, the verb Stephen Covey
This quote shows us that feeling in love is just as much of a choice as Loving as an action.
When you choose to love your partner (even if they didnt do anything to deserve it), you are showing them real love. Love, that is unconditional
and that does not rely on them loving you first.
If you view love as a feeling, you will both be waiting and waiting and you still wont feel it.
So understand love as an action and a choice, and then do it! You will have an incredibly happy and fulfilling relationship because of it.
4. Dont cross the line
This is one of the most important things to remember for a happy and successful relationship.
There are certain things that we never want to say or do to our partner. These are things that you would consider crossing the line.
These are all damaging things for a relationship, but if you ask any child Do your parents do any of these things most of them would
probably say yes to a number of them.
My theory is that once you cross the line, it becomes easier and easier to do it again and again.
You might not like to do those things but in the heat of an argument if you have already said I hate you once before, it becomes a LOT easier
to say it again.
If you want a happy and successful relationship, try really hard to not cross the line.
Your relationship will be so much better off for it and you will stand a better chance at actually liking each other years down the track.
5. Apologize often
We all make mistakes. We all say and do damaging things to our relationship.
We are simply human.
Successful relationships rely on us admitting when we are wrong and then moving past it.
Apologizing makes the process of moving on 1000% times faster and easier.
When we dont apologize when we know we should, we are being proud.
Love is not prideful.
In general, pride is at the bottom of all great mistakes - John Ruskin
To have a successful relationship, apologize often so that you dont make the mistake of being proud.
Well, thats it for the 5 foundations every relationship needs to have. If you use these foundations, the chances of having an incredibly happy,
long-lasting and successful relationship will increase astronomically. Good luck!
Hence being in a relationship means to live, to love, to smile, to exist with joy!!
There is certainly a way to sort out every difference, you just need the will and the faith strong enough, to make the relationship fruitful. You need
to remember, that you enter into a relationship to be happy , and you must be!!
15 Signs Youre Going to Have a Great Partner Even If You Dont Feel You Are
My guess is that you were probably expecting a different answer, right? Like something that is wrong with you? Maybe youre not pretty enough
or masculine enough, not funny enough, not smart enough, not [insert your own negative criticism here].
Well, thats not actually the truth; the truth is that you just havent found them yet.
I know we havent met before, but Im guessing youre pretty awesome, that there is nothing wrong with you and that you are possibly your own
worst critic. Dont believe me? Check out this video: What do strangers think of you?
So do yourself a huge favor, cut the negative thoughts, get happy and start loving yourself and your single freedom. The right one will come
along in their own time. In the meantime, here is my list of eight things you can be doing while you wait for Mr or Ms Right. The best part is that
its all about you, so get creative and add your own in Id love to hear what youve included.
1. Stop waiting for them and start living in the now
Its a good idea to know what you are looking for in a partner. If you dont, how will you know when youve found him or her? But, if you are
spending every waking moment day dreaming about them, then there is a big chance that you are wasting your valuable time right now. Instead of
thinking about them, why not think about you? What goals do you want to achieve in the next 12 months? What places do you want to see?
Which people you want to visit? Dream them up and then make a plan to achieve them. Because guess what? Youre single and you can do
whatever you want!
2. Learn to love yourself
There is only ever going to be one of you. You are unique and special. Be proud of who you are and all the things you have achieved. You dont
need someone else to make you feel loved and you dont need someone else to make you feel whole. You already have everything you need right
now to live a happy, healthy and full life. So dont be hard on yourself, learn to love yourself exactly the way you are.
3. Learn to love your single freedom
Dr Phil said it best: It is better to be happy alone than sick with someone else. The most important relationship you have is the one you have
with yourself. I cant agree more. Being single has so many benefits; its your chance to be selfish and do all the things you want to do. So get
out there and enjoy it! Not sure where to start? Try these: 10 Things You Must Do When Youre Single.
4. Listen to the story youre telling yourself
I recently wrote a blog post about listening to the stories that we tell ourselves. Anything you say thats really negative is not helping you. If you
call yourself a freak magnet, or tell yourself all the good men/women are taken, or that you are never going to find someone, then your
chances of this happening are very high. We attract what we put out there to the world. So change that story and attract something new.
5. Make time for your friends and family
When the time comes and you do find someone amazing, chances are you will have less time for many of your favorite people. So make time for
your friends and family now by planning holidays to see them or trips together. Hang out and do things with the people who are closest to you.
6. Get out and try something new
Have you been wanting to try something different lately? Is there something youve always wanted to do but havent had a chance to do it yet?
Well, go out and do it! No doubt it will make you feel incredible. Dont stop at one thing either. Make up your bucket list and start crossing things
off now.
7. Set yourself a big goal and spend some time each day making it happen
It could be a career change, it could be overseas travel, it could be starting your dream business. Dont hold yourself back. Write down that big
goal and then work on it each and every day. Who knows what you can achieve. How exciting!
8. Trust the process
Have you ever listened to your friends who are married or in a relationship? Often they have a story about all the losers they met prior to finding
their loved one. Thats because we all need to go through the process, to learn our own lessons and meet a few oddballs before the universe brings
us the one were meant to be with. You are exactly where you need to be right now, so trust the process.
Someday, someone will walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked with anyone else. Unknown
Stop looking for the negatives and start loving all the positives that come with your single freedom. Chances are when you get a little bit
distracted and start achieving some big goals, the right one might just come along.
1. Have Agreements
Dr. Stan Tatkin, author of Wired for Love, has written on the importance of having explicit agreements. Everything that is assumed does not
really exist, he says. Agreements should be clear, and cover how to handle others advances, what information is shared (attraction to others),
and how quickly you tell each other about romantic or flirty experiences. There should be a conversation on what constitutes cheating, because
initially partners may not be on the same page. For example, one partner may think its fine to go out dancing with their friends, flirt with folks,
and maybe even have some innocent kisses on the dance floor, while their partner may consider that behavior out of bounds. Partners can have
very different ideas on what constitutes an emotional affair, and if it qualifies as cheating.
2. Be a Rock Star
The best defense against cheating is a great relationship. When our needs are met physically and emotionally, we dont have as much interest
to look elsewhere. Examine how well you meet your partners wants and needs, and how well they meet yours. Make sure to step it up in areas
that are weak, and to communicate honestly about what you need to feel fulfilled and fully happy.
3. Tend Your Garden
Do things together that challenge you to grow together. We all change as we age. Its not enough to put our partnerships on cruise control and
expect them to last. How are you going to keep up with your partners changing thoughts, preferences, ideas and desires? How do they keep up
with yours? Read books together, attend seminars, or find a good online relationship education program to keep your partnership on the cutting
edge of moving forward so you are continually discovering one another.
4. Understand your Partner
Sounds simple. But its not. Your partner has all kinds of secret thoughts and feelings they probably dont tell you, or possibly anyone. You need
to be safe enough to your partner that you get the full skinny. How? Encourage honesty with alot of compassion and no judgment. Find out
the few things about your partner that no one else knows. Use that information to be on the inside every day in terms of their experiences in the
relationship, at work, and with themselves. Know things their mom or friends dont even know. This knowledge makes you valuable in a way
few others can replicate.
5. Dont Be Jealous, Be Better
If you suspect your partners attention may be drifting elsewhere, it may push them further away to become angry and critical with them.
Jealousy is natural, but try to focus on wooing your partner even more with your talents and capabilities. Give them more of a reason to
love and value you. Being upset with them may frighten them temporarily into being more careful, but its not an effective long-term strategy,
and often doesnt work in the short term either. You cant keep a partner around reliably or happily using threats and fear. Only the positive
reasons for being together hold up as glue that will protect you from others getting in on the action.
6. Do Occasional Counseling
Its the 21st Century. The old-time stigma of seeing a couples counselor is long-gone. Find a good, capable therapist, and see them for positive
and pro-active relationship support. Go in before you have major issues. After is often too late for counseling to be fully effective. We all have
blind spots in the way are with others. Some of those come from our family history, such as the things our parents tended to do in relationship, or
more importantly, what they did not do with one another. Our map of healthy, secure relationship is usually only as good as what we have
seen and experienced first-hand. Counseling, even a few sessions here and there, can help us develop a more comprehensive map of how to
tend to our partnerships and share life together more enjoyably.
7. Justify Your Existence
You have to be the go-to person. Anything you dont provide in terms of emotional, intellectual and physical needs, your partner will look
to others for. And they should. In other words, we all seek to meet our needs, and if our partner isnt there in certain ways, we find others. Those
others sometimes form the basis for an affair, or an emotional bond that replaces our partner, or takes energy away from the partnership that it
really needs to grow and adapt. Think of being a partner as applying for a job every day. Why should your partner keep you around and not
fire you? What do you do that someone else cannot easily do instead? You have to be so good that others cant really compete. This is, more than
anything, the secret to preventing separations and break-ups, and it works much better than fear and guilt.
8. Why Not Cheat?
We are not wired for monogamy. Biologically, there are many imperatives to cheating, beginning with the added immune system and cell
protections that come from mixing the gene pool. So why stay true? Well, there have to be excellent reasons for staying committed. What could
those be? After all, the physical lust center of the brain really thrives on novelty, strangers and the exotic. Left to its own devices, that part of the
brain may act on desires with others besides our partner. Think of the benefits of commitment: A partner who knows you better than anyone else;
someone you have shared history and life memories with; someone you can rely on; someone who, when our beauty fades, our youthfulness is
gone, and our health and sex drive diminish, still wants to be our companion and share life together; someone to grow old with. You and
your partner need to remind yourselves of the reasons for commitment so the animal part of your brain doesnt run unchecked.
9. Limit Opportunity
Affairs and cheating are primarily an issue with the strength and satisfaction of our current relationship, so its always best to look there
first before blaming others or circumstance. But in second place as a contributing culprit is opportunity. Affairs and cheating are often a
function of opportunity. Traveling with a co-worker, being at a party late without your partner, spending lots of time alone, drinking too much,
or having independent social circles and activities can create opportunities. So what to do? Pay extra attention to these types of situations. Try to
do things together, so others dont have as much access. Stay in touch during the day, and text if one of you is out late at night. Check in while
traveling, and send loving care packages with your traveling partner so they feel connected to you. If others begin to text or call your partner too
much, its fair to ask that some of that energy be directed back into the primary relationship.
10. Push the Envelope
Talk frequently and openly about sex, fantasies and desires. Try new hobbies together to keep things fun, humorous and exciting. Laugh
together, wrestle. Try an unusual class. Choose TV shows to watch together youve never seen. Ask other couple friends for ideas on trips and
local experiences they have liked. Try new things in the bedroom. Do things that are a little embarrassing, but still within your comfort zone.
New, exciting activities, especially in the area of emotional and physical intimacy, keep your interest kindled and help you bond.
The best protection against cheating and affairs is ensuring your relationship is too awesome to mess with. Being attractive to your partner
every day works better than fear, guilt or threats in maintaining the security of your commitment. Keeping things fresh in your friendship and
love life additionally stimulate the brain in ways that maintain attention within the primary partnership. And if you suspect your partner may be
looking elsewhere for an erotic shot in the arm or a deeper emotional friendship than what you typically provide, take steps to up your game
rather than threaten to leave or become too critical. Sometimes, moments of interest in other people and experiences can tip you off to where you
need to turn on the jets as a partner or couple. Improving your relationship needs to be a constant. Keep the focus on making yourselves
stronger, not worrying so much about others and the world out there.
The 2014 Sleep in America poll by the National Sleep Foundation estimates that 89% of adults and 75% of
children have at least one electronic device in their bedrooms.
Their 2011 poll found that in the hour before bed, up to 95% of adults regularly use tech and electronic
devices.
Younger people are more likely to use smartphones, laptops and play video games, while older adults are
more likely to watch TV.
Pew Research polls also found that two-thirds of adults take their smartphones to bed (that jumps up to
90% for 18 to 29 year-olds!).
Read on to learn why you should banish electronics from your bedroom and for tips on sleeping better after your digital detox.
Five Ways Electronics Affect Your Sleep and Health
Electronics work on your physical body and on your mind, which can affect your sleep schedules and contribute to sleep deprivation. Here are
five of the most important ways electronic devices like smartphones, computers and TV alter your slumber.
2. Unplug
After passing out from exhaustion and injuring her head to the tune of five stitches, Arianna Huffington has been an evangelist for unplugging.
Every night before bed, she puts her phone in another room so shes not distracted by it before bed. And science proves that she might be onto
something.
According to Dr Charles Czeisler, a professor of sleep medicine at Harvard University, the bright lights produced by our cell phone screens
disrupt our bodies natural sleep rhythm and actually trick our bodies into thinking its daytime. Those bright lights send a message to our brains
that prevents certain chemicals from being released, causing us to have a much harder time going to sleep. So, if you want a good nights rest,
stash your phone in another room.
3. Take a walk
The busy CEO of Buffer likes to unwind with a brisk walk right before bed. He uses his walks to turn off his thoughts about work, and slowly
work his self into a state of tiredness.
For a busy person always on the go, Joels late night walk routine could be perfect way to unwind after a stressful day. And aside from the
obvious health benefits of daily walk, there a couple of surprising bonuses that come along as well.
One study revealed that walking can increase creativity. When youre walking, your mind isnt working as vigorously, which opens up the free
flow of ideas. So if youve got a tough problem you havent been able to solve, maybe a nice, night time stroll is all you need to find the perfect,
creative solution.
4. Meditate
The media maven has long supported the idea of regular meditation. No doubt, Ms. Winfrey has a schedule that keeps her mighty busy, and what
better way to unwind at the end of a stressful day, than with a focused meditation session.
Theres often times a stigma surrounding meditation, and there has always been a debate as to whether mediation is actually helpful. But when a
2014 study took a look at over 19,000 cases involving mediation, the results were clear. Meditation was found to help reduce stress, anxiety,
depression, and pain. So regardless of ones view of mediation, you cant argue with the results.
5. Get creative
In 2006, Vera Wang stated to Fortune that her nightly routine includes, a fair amount of designing at least conceptually if not literally.
Sometimes, the quiet of the night can be the perfect remedy for a creative block.
Whats even more surprising is that theres a study that actually shows night time can be the perfect time for creativity, even if youre tired from a
long day. A study from Albion College revealed that, tasks requiring creative insight was consistently better during their nonoptimal times of
day..
So if youre a morning person (raises hand), then your most creative ideas will come right before bed. Researchers believe this is true because
your mind is less restrained at night. Your ability to make logical connections worsens, but it works in your favor because youre able to make
connections you wouldnt have been able to otherwise.
6. Plan the next day
The American Express CEO likes to manage his time, and he does so by ending his nights in a very simple way. He plans out three things he
wants to accomplish for the following day. That way, he can wake up in the morning, and get to work on his most important tasks, right away.
This study from the early 90s supports Chenaults strange addiction with planning. Researchers followed a group of students from their high
school years, until four years later at the end of their college careers. The researchers tested these students on their time management skills in high
school, and when they caught up with those students four years later, they made a shocking discovery.
The students with better time management skills, had higher college GPAs then their peers who had higher SAT scores. Basically, time
management played a bigger role in their academic success than actual scholastic aptitude.
5 Ways Not Getting Enough Sleep Hurts Your Health and Appearance
Are you a night owl or an early bird? It does not really matter which one you are, provided that you get enough sleep. The recommended dose is
about 7.5 hours a sleep but some people can thrive on less. It is also important that you have a regular sleep schedule which will benefit your
health.
Scientists and researchers have done quite a lot of work on why staying up late is bad for your health, so if you are starting to stay up late on a
regular basis, it might be a good idea to consider the following risks.
1. You may damage your immune system
Researchers at the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center have been studying the effects of irregular sleeping patterns on our immune
system. They carried out experiments which show that an overproduction of T cells caused by irregularities in the wake sleep cycle can put the
immune system out of sync. That causes inflammation which is a perfectly normal reaction. But when this condition becomes chronic, this can
lead to all sorts of diseases which range from diabetes, cancer, heart disease, and rheumatoid arthritis to many others. The basic message from Dr.
Barry Sears book, called The Anti-Inflammation Zone: Reversing the Silent Epidemic Thats Destroying Our Health, is that total wellness is the
absence of inflammation.
2. You may damage your brain cells for good
How many times as a student did you stay up really late to prepare for a test? You probably loaded up with caffeine and various types of
stimulants to keep you awake. Scientists now have found that by depriving mice of sleep, the part of the brain responsible for staying alert and
thinking was irrevocably damaged. Sleeping extra long hours later did not repair the damage either.
In another experiment at MIT, the researchers found that sleep can actually help you to consolidate learning. By depriving your brain of this
essential rest, you are actually reducing your brains ability to learn.
3. You may gain weight
If you are worried about your weight, staying up late is not really a good idea. First of all, you are awake for that much longer. Hunger rears its
ugly head so you have to eat something.
But a much more important factor is your metabolism. It slows down when you do not get enough sleep. One survey found that people who were
getting by with just 6 hours a sleep a day were 30% more likely to become overweight than those who were getting the normal amount of 7 or 8
hours.
4. You may have more wrinkles
Staying up late and cutting back on sleep will not do your skin any good. The reason is a pretty simple one. One of the main hormones we
produce when stressed out is cortisol. This has been called the death hormone because it is linked to the decline of every cell in our body. In
addition, the more we age, the more cortisol we produce. The skin is in the frontline as the collagen (which makes up about 90% of your skin)
and keeps it firm, gets trounced by cortisol. The result is a lot more wrinkles, rather dull skin and more dark circles under the eyes.
One solution is to get more shut eye because when we sleep, we produce the HGH (human growth hormone) which actually helps to counter the
disastrous effects of the cortisol.
5. You are adding to your stress
The Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences of the United States of America has provided some fascinating research on how lack of
sleep may alter your gene function. They have calculated that staying up late and getting less sleep has a deleterious effect on as many as 700
genes in the human body. This has a negative effect on your metabolism but more importantly on your reaction to stress. This ties in very well
with other research which shows that reducing sleep may also alter hormonal levels which limit our coping mechanisms with difficult emotional
experiences. All this builds up stress and anxiety.
As we have seen, staying up late is just not worth it. The best thing to guarantee a good nights sleep is to avoid upsetting the wake sleep cycle by
using an iPhone in bed. If you are worried about waking up to the sound of an awful alarm clock, forget it. All you have to do is buy a dawn
simulator clock which will gently wake you with a simulated natural sunrise very quietly. Sleep well!