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Sex Education For Children With Intellectual Disabilities Tips For Parents
Sex Education For Children With Intellectual Disabilities Tips For Parents
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Allpeople,includingthosewithdisabilities,havetherighttoexploreandexpresstheirsexualityin
appropriateways.Everyoneneedsongoingandageappropriatesexualityeducationtodevelop
positiveattitudesabouttheirsexuality.
Comprehensivesexualityeducationcanhelppeoplewithintellectualdisabilitiesstaysafeand
reducetheriskofsexuallytransmissibleinfections(STIs)andunplannedpregnancy.Manyparents
don'tprovidesexualityeducationbecausetheymistakenlythinktheirchild'won'tneedit'.Other
parentshavetried,butstruggletopresenttheinformationinawaytheirchildcanunderstand.
Aspects of sex education
Sexualityeducationshouldincludeinformationabout:
Developingsocialskills,includingconceptssuchaspublicandprivate
Howtodevelopandmaintaindifferenttypesofrelationships
Copingwithrelationshipissuesorrejection
Sexandrelationships,includingmarriageandparenting
Protectivebehaviours
Thephysicalandemotionalchangesofpuberty
Thebiologyofsex,includingreproduction
Appropriateandinappropriateexpressionsofsexuality
STIs
Safersex
Contraception
Masturbation
Same-sexattraction.
Makesureyouhavealltheinformationyouneed.Ifyoureunclearaboutanydetails,check
first.
Sourcearangeofbooks,DVDsandotherresourcesonsexualityanddisability.Check
onlineorvisitFamilyPlanningVictoriasResourceCentre.
Askyourchild'steachersorcarersaboutthesexualityeducationtheirschoolisproviding.
Theymightbeabletogiveyouadviceorsuggestusefulresources.
Talktoyourdisabilityassociation,FamilyPlanningVictoriaandotherparentsinrelevant
supportgroupsforsuggestionsandtipsonhowtobestdelivertheinformationtoyour
child.
Workthroughanyfeelingsofuneaseandembarrassmentyoumighthave,possiblywith
thehelpofacounsellor.Itsimportanttokeepmessagespositiveandnon-judgemental.
Decidebeforehandwhichwordsyou'regoingtouse.Thiscanbedifficult,sincenamesfor
bodyparts(suchasvaginaandpenis)tendtobeeithermedicalorslang.Avoidvague
euphemismssuchas'frontbottom',asthiscanconfuseyourchildorgivethemthe
impressionthattalkingaboutgenitalsisshamefulorembarrassing.
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Youshouldlookoutfortimeswhenyourchildshowsinterestorcuriosityinsex.Forexample,they
mightseeactorskissinginamovieontelevisionandstartaskingquestions.Suggestionsonways
totalkaboutsexincludethefollowing:
Aswithanychild,sexualityeducationshouldbedeliveredovertime.Givethesimplerfacts
firstandthencontinuetoaddtoyourchild'sknowledgeastheygrowolder.
Trytodeliverinformationassimplyasyoucan.
Trytokeepdiscussionslightandfun.
Anatomicallycorrectdollscanhelpteachyourchildaboutdifferencesbetweenthegenders.
Childrenwithintellectualdisabilitiesoftenhavetroublethinkinginabstractways.Itmight
behelpfultosourcearangeofresources,suchasbookswithclearandsimplepictures,
DVDs,dollsandthree-dimensionalmodelsofbodyparts.
Readageanddevelopmentallyappropriatestoriesaboutsexandsexualissuestogether.
ContactyourlocaldisabilityassociationorFamilyPlanningVictoriaforresources.
Roleplaymightbeusefulwhendiscussingrelationshipskillsorassertiveness.Forexample,
helpyourchildtopractisesaying'no'tounwantedadvancesindifferentsettings.
Roleplaymightalsohelpyourchildtounderstandthedifferencebetweenprivateand
publicsettingsiftheyrehavingtrouble.
Usedemonstrationswheneverpossible.Forexample,youcouldusedollstoshowwhere
babiescomefromortakeyourdaughterwithyoutothetoilettodemonstratepad
changinganddisposal.
Masturbationshouldbediscussedasahealthyandnaturalwaytoexploreandexpress
sexualityonyourownandinaprivateplace.
Usepraiseandpositivereinforcementwhenyourchildshowsunderstandingofaparticular
topicordisplaysthedesiredbehaviour.
Ifyoudon'tknowtheanswertoyourchild'squestion,sayso.Suggestthatyoufindoutthe
informationtogether,possiblyonline.
Itsokaytobeuncomfortableorembarrassed,butbehonestaboutitwithyourchild.
Thereisnosingle'right'waytotalktoyourchildaboutsex.Itwillbeaprocessthat
includesupsanddowns.Don'tbediscouragedorupsetifoneparticularmethoddoesn't
work.Putitbehindyouandtrysomethingelse.
Rememberthatwhatworksforotherparentsmightnotworkforyouandviceversa.Keep
experimenting.
Ifyourchildishavingtroublegraspingaconcept,trybreakingitdownintosmallersteps.
Seekadvicefromyourlocaldisabilityassociation,FamilyPlanningVictoriaorrelevant
supportgroups.
Trytousesimple,concretewordsandconcepts.
Usearangeofmethodsforeachtopictoincreasethelikelihoodofretention.
Following up
Suggestionsincludethefollowing:
Realisethatyourchildneedsconstantremindingandreinforcement.Youmightneedto
coverthesametopicseveraltimesbeforetheyfullyunderstand.
Askyourchildquestionstomakesuretheyhaveunderstoodtheinformation.
Usingdollsorpuppetsintheteachingprocessmighthelpyourchildtoshowtheir
understandingofsexualitywithoutfeelingpressured.
Keepyourchild'scarersinformedandmakesurethatsexualityeducationprovidedby
othersourcesispresentedalongsimilarlinestoyours.
FamilyPlanningVictoriaTel.(03)92570100or1800013952www.fpv.org.auFPVs
ResourceCentrehasawiderangeofusefulbooksandeducationalresourcesforparents
andcarersofpeoplewithdisabilities
YoorallaCommunityLearningandLivingCentreTel.(03)99165800
ScopeVictoriaTel.(03)98433000
DisabilityIntakeandResponseServiceTel.1800783783orTTY1800008149
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Things to remember
Sexualityeducationneedstobetailoredtoyourchild'slevelofunderstanding.
Resourcessuchasbooks,stories,DVDs,anatomicallycorrectdollsandthree-dimensional
modelscanhelpyourchildgraspabstractideas.
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