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Changing Nature of Romantic
lationship (nitiaton and Romantic Relating
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long tem commitment ot marrage (Gordan Manning & Longin
2008}. An aspect of casual dating in adolescence that has evolved with this
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DATA ON HOW COUPLES MEET
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ster belo sexual moe changed once casual hookup expects,
some rom the 1992 Neon leah and Socal Lie Suey ronda
with a reprientaine sample of 3422 Anerkans {Laumann, Gannon
Michiel, & Micha, 1999, The nye reve that mom poole et
thir parte in one of fou ene schoo, wor, pie pay a bt
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sefinoductions; 1% or lo espondens et he partner pe.
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nent pac weet parters The fst natal stay tat denned
the atoving inlets ofthe Interact in romantic inaton and ase
sas condoted in 2005 bythe Pew Internet fe American Life Poet
onpot esearch ets that mons the social ello the lareet op
Americans. The Pew survey ved ene ities with thal
‘mpesstaie Sample of 3215 ade ranging ine fom 180 oer 63
{Made Lenhart, 2000, Of he single al inthe spe wh wee
ere ser and eure seeking roman partner 37% repre het
they had fone wo dating web oer alne ene to mee pote
artes. In aklton, 13% ofthe patepant knew of someone wh wa
‘amare oleic lationship with someone they hada elna
and 31% knew of someone who had experiered wth ence dating
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sionship most reported menting hl parte in rea-wond stung aehg
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USE OF THE INTERNET FOR ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP
INVTATION AND RELATING
‘Online dating an osu term ose to rele to meeting a partner online,
bor it ean be misleading for several ressons Fist, dating inthe eraitional
ene eaely occurs online latea, people met a partner online, typically
fave thei nial commansstion through compatermediated communice
tion (CMC, but then move the relationship olineeelatvey uicly. See-
‘nd the era doesnot captate the diverse ways that people ean inate a
‘eaonship online. With these even in mind, we begin this section by