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ging On, Hooking Up Changing Nature of Romantic lationship (nitiaton and Romantic Relating AN SPREGHER Tees cing ot vent Ov para ly teow mae Wh fol he following responses would you mos likly expect? “Tam sure we wee destined to meet. We grew upin he same com: ‘munity, and although we dda go tothe ame schools, ou famles tended the same church, and we occasionally interacted there 1 think my fail always hoped we woud end up together” Oh, jst luck of the deaw-—we happened 10 be assigned 10 che same ln section in our biology clas. We began studying together tal then eventaly started dating” ‘Well, kind of weitd, We were ata paty hanging out. 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Out pla hee sp that Sing prec! partner not a ea irc ph comon ol ert soups ora ll times In this chapter we lacus on the changing naar of Toman relator inten ces kiman ohio, re sek nding arnt ate Loy 19921 Someof he change oc bcm cone esol norms. or example it has bec norma to dey stage beyond the ety 20, A8 a oul, romance inion and dng ae scence and young adulthood have teime ae found ot leg nets for companionship, sexual nia, nd fan ater thant ep eed a long tem commitment ot marrage (Gordan Manning & Longin 2008}. An aspect of casual dating in adolescence that has evolved with this ‘ormativetemstion i“ roup dating” of “hanging out In whch se sex rou of adolescents mer at spec ation lee, mal, self fun and socialising (redo, Cae, 8c Huston, 2008; Gea Se Mtoe 2001 In ation, increasing dive ves scaring nor sheds jing and courtship for middle-aged an ocr aul have rece In mene sing a arn seeking in mf lae Sas 3010, Techengs ‘of particle relevance wehin the dotin of roman lant tion nce the svat of chology «vr locaton fr tog teal pcter andthe rlormslation of seal norms within she ea Sonal phases of eltonship developmen. ATs iy f psa cnt ad te tere, king eople a grat dstanec, ha changed how peopl te reationy {lian 0) People dense alg nding it estes. Facebook, yt, 2008, Sprecher, 2019), Further tore, oka whch are aoa fen plane, seal ncn hat Mectounld fa dating orm omer, hve become mre cmon hd ncepableamong alee stents and adolescent (Pac, Wena 6 Fhe 200 Aton slap record y ponent elintoey that eet with he inter 0 devel elation, oe potenalecome ofthc honky expec tbe devon of ha {elm Bole, 2008 Incanto nd sexual hokepy at wo new ays of meting ote somatic atin devia ra thet py acy nn nese eg dcared fren th cher. The Seaham sey sie wh atonal was of mesg pre Peo sil nt pres ough th sl arrorse ends inode anew eprint esheets iS'gs ange burs and scoop o mec ters and sos se Saciounion hate now way of forming roman eltionsie ‘Kissa comparson wit heme aon way af meting pase "tisoagh cnet and cing up seve wy tht eons are ints thse come aa do eng n sulineratons ‘Fin neexpctton or deste era felons to develop eres da TEMS Eikine apa of eminent latonhip mars no Ay ecu retin can be formed om the exprecs but lo ‘Sekae hey epee er mys people can et thee ea si, ‘egies een nthe anne ot devlopment of elton — av cay poi new ys fama bonding THE TRADITIONAL SORIPT FOR ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP INITIATION ———— Ot AMM isnt cen nl: Cea ld hugo ede a Ener aetna peiiti nen ca I ken mens oe aa tna ae dee. Today ned, dar th AM a cin dees ms te ee MMi cs ey we aa i dale oan, 095; Rt a ee Sie chars sont - 2) and women engage in more subordinate oles fg Baton 2011 Lane & Vere 2000 he ton sete a the cto corey poe cota ea neg de (Monge More Sew & Tren 20) Dunn ieee ‘talon gender teats nex athe ini ose arog te womens he opm ore ae Se Ga the coe pone chuth hese da el nie Gah Sond 186s dhe ego nto st ete partner ein ato cach kr hough pene sifoes (Derlega, Winstead, & Greene, 2008), fetes lecemaleatne DATA ON HOW COUPLES MEET Perhaps hs data vlan how people me patter inhe pee ster belo sexual moe changed once casual hookup expects, some rom the 1992 Neon leah and Socal Lie Suey ronda with a reprientaine sample of 3422 Anerkans {Laumann, Gannon Michiel, & Micha, 1999, The nye reve that mom poole et thir parte in one of fou ene schoo, wor, pie pay a bt Apprnimately 9% ofthe elatonships began chrogh an intact by 4 fend, anuber 3% chrough an nda by ane mere sey ber ea famiy meme cowotker neh) andthe fal 339% togh sefinoductions; 1% or lo espondens et he partner pe. ‘onal wana in rine maps end newspapers Since the euly 1990 however, the Interact has Become a promi nent pac weet parters The fst natal stay tat denned the atoving inlets ofthe Interact in romantic inaton and ase sas condoted in 2005 bythe Pew Internet fe American Life Poet onpot esearch ets that mons the social ello the lareet op Americans. The Pew survey ved ene ities with thal ‘mpesstaie Sample of 3215 ade ranging ine fom 180 oer 63 {Made Lenhart, 2000, Of he single al inthe spe wh wee ere ser and eure seeking roman partner 37% repre het they had fone wo dating web oer alne ene to mee pote artes. In aklton, 13% ofthe patepant knew of someone wh wa ‘amare oleic lationship with someone they hada elna and 31% knew of someone who had experiered wth ence dating However, of those inthe sample who were mad or na commited es, sionship most reported menting hl parte in rea-wond stung aehg work or sho! BB) through amily or fens (4%) or ara meh ban 2% rept meeting i nr oh rycen the ty low peenage of expends who et hiplife sae ws Inked inion ha a orgy cr ee ee Whe mernen Edece ges hs eda foried ore ne, Mb prags oginng onic ht tren mcrovgg genta A 1008s mh sno repens 4000 pre {Roatan 202 fe ta of hep wo fd met thar mein the? ers 2007200 ore sonsaion fe strc aprosinacy 22% ofthe eer opi met thee Ser UMC ol heauctal pode nett etc win 0-year feted prior the suey. Dv cllesed a et conn, bod the {ite Stes abo show ta mesa nee of oman ti the inter egy tons a 2085 Hoga, 8 Doon, 201 San Sua, 309) more dea wo document fw many pope es pare ho seal belay Qian sho holy oxpekaces hemo been dln teen epee ais eed enol Sti conde wi come tals of cle ade Bowee, Sunt tare propre sey, peal ye oe the a eer ube hs he expen Clock, Solu Metanu ye 2000, On sal ene 10-12%) artnet mmbeafbotap here ee eal edna ding ‘clini Bon Lovin 3005 ol 3 00 Trane stom edt emo low te nee a sec esd an nv ize oman iy sda ore ae tthe rome en, Fllwing ts, we dco boas orm rons wns nouns ting USE OF THE INTERNET FOR ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP INVTATION AND RELATING ‘Online dating an osu term ose to rele to meeting a partner online, bor it ean be misleading for several ressons Fist, dating inthe eraitional ene eaely occurs online latea, people met a partner online, typically fave thei nial commansstion through compatermediated communice tion (CMC, but then move the relationship olineeelatvey uicly. See- ‘nd the era doesnot captate the diverse ways that people ean inate a ‘eaonship online. With these even in mind, we begin this section by

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