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    A compelling look into one man's history of employing prostitutes as a replacement for romantic love, this graphic novel is sure to create controversy. Brown has produced acclaimed but brutally honest autobiographical works before, but here he adds a new didactic element. In June 1996 Brown's then girlfriend broke up with him. After three years of celibacy and his growing conviction that romantic love is destructively possessive, Brown works up the courage to see a legal prostitute and finds the "burden" of anxiety over whether to pursue a relationship with any particular woman forever removed. The next 200 pages are an explicit—but far from erotic—dossier of the various women he did business with, until he meets one that he ends up with in a monogamous—but still financial—relationship. Although Brown intends the work to be a compassionate look at a profession that helps people, he unfortunately goes out of his way to anonymize the sex workers—never showing their faces and telling the story in tiny, cramped panels, giving the whole thing a voyeuristic feel. A lengthy appendix arguing that a system where paying for sex is preferable to romance-based methods is unlikely to persuade many readers.

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    of 302

    a comic-strjp

    memotr
    about
    being
    a jolin

    a comic-stci.p meft'loic
    about being a john

    CHESTER BROWN

    DRA'WN k QYA&TER.LY
    montreal

    Also by Chester Brown:


    ED THE HAPPY CLOWN

    (1989)

    THE PlAYBOY (1992)

    (1994)
    (1998)

    I NEVER LIKED YOU


    THE LITTLE MAN

    LOUIS RIEL (2003)

    Entire contents copyright 2011 by Chester Brown.


    All rights reserved. No part of this book (except small portions for review purposes)
    may be reproduced in any form without written permission from Chester Brown or
    Drawn & Quarterly.
    Drawn & Quarterly
    Post Office Box 48056
    Montreal. Quebec
    Canada H2V 4S8
    www.drawnandquarterly.com
    First hardcover edition: May 20n.
    Printed in Singapore.
    10987654321
    Library and Archives Canada Cataloguing in Publication
    Brown, Chester, 1960Paying For It I Chester Brown.
    ISBN 978-I-'77046-048-5
    I. Tide.
    PN6733.B76P39 2011
    Drawn & Quarterly acknowledges the financial contribution of the Government of
    Canada through the Canada Book Fund and the Canada Council for the Arts for our
    publishing activities and for support of this edition.
    Distributed in the USA by:
    Farrar, Straus and Giroux
    18 West 18th Street
    New York, NY 10011
    Orders: 888.330.8477
    Distributed in Canada by:
    Raincoast Books
    2440 Viking Way
    Richmond, BC V6V 1N2
    Orders: 8oo.663-5714

    For Joe Matt.


    He's a good friend
    and a character
    in -the following pages~
    but it's also appropriate
    to dedkate this book to him
    because
    his au-tobiographical
    comic-strips
    were and are
    an inspiration
    for me.

    Chester Brow.., is ..,ot of t..,is pta .... et. He iS prob01bfy


    r~s"'lt of one of thoH~ 01lien obd~>~ctio..,s where they
    Stick (A t"'eec;(Je il"' 01 ht.emDin WOWIDI...,'S G\bc:iome..., QI"!Ql
    iW"V~pre~ne>.te her. He is o. very advar1ceo ht.emo....,. YoCA
    Ce>.n tell by /ookin~ o.t tf.,e photo of hiWJ. PAYING FOR IT
    is e>. very e...,li9htenin9 book., o.s well as bein.!J enter
    t01iY1i..,~: he is a very skillft.ol o.rtist ;.., th~t wo.y. t..,
    sure to MDIYIY people he's o. dry,. en-~otionless perso..., .
    Notice how, throt.Agno&At the book_, his f01cial e)Cpres Sio.., is odwo.ys the S'~WJe. His WYOCA'th is Q slit. He r'lever
    s~ow~ his teet11, never 9ri..,s, ..,ever 9rimo.ces. TS,e
    opposite of my portro.yo.ls of ..,yself. Chester Brow..,s
    nelAtro.lity ;"" the world is_, in MY estiM~tio..,.> ctCAite
    o.(;(.-nirOible. As JeSlAS so.'icl., "Be QS passers by.,
    His o.rg&Aments for tl-te c01se in f~vor of t.enregt.cJOt.teoC. prostitt.ction seem er1tirely co9ent to
    W..,ose
    busiYleH is i t ;f 01. wome>.t"l WOI.r'ltS to cho.r9e tor sex ?
    His prese..,t01tior1 of "" the uSIAOII argtA,.,.,ents "'9ai.., s t
    prostittAtion 01ncA his reb~>~ttal to the..-n iS very effec.tive .
    He s""ows the>.t the anti-prostitLAtio.., Qrgc..u\o'1ents Dire all
    bo.Hol OYl eit-1-ter the olot retrogrc;~~cAe religious WJorodity
    or knee -jerk libero.l> hG\If-bG\keol G\SS~>~~ptions o.bo"'t pros
    tit~Atiot'\, All the SMDirt 1-tool<ers I've know.., roH their
    eyes in c:iesp01ir "'t t~e liber-011 c:io-9oo<l(er.s' "tte,....,pts to

    the

    ,.,e.

    INTRODUCTION
    y

    ~,....~

    ~~ """

    ......

    ""V

    -- v

    "

    " refo..-..,.... " tne ....... Not tno.t I've ever 1-lo..o( sex witn o.
    pro s t ittAte m ys elf. I'v e o.lwo.ys been t oo tiMid to tr y
    it, 01..,~ Qllso~ 0"\'\Y sextAality is too quirky o.noC odd. It
    .-,eed s o. s pe ciod t y pe of woma.., to o.ccept the w01.y I
    o.m> or like the wo.y I o....,.,, lrt tho.t re9o.r~ > Che s ter
    Brown's sex v.01/ &es ires 5ee. t"YY q_'-1ite " norm01f>" " MOR "
    ( ,.,.,;QlcHe of the roo..cJ. ). It's 9reo.t the. wo.y l-Ie shows>
    t-1-trotA9h the yeo.rs~ ho~..V he beco..rY~e o. re01f c o..,..,oi$St'1Ar
    ;.., the wodcJ. of professio,.,o.l sex workers. All the ir1>telli9e..,t ,.,e.., I've knovv"' wl-to p01tt"o..,;zeo( prosti ttAtes
    beco.~e. c o,.,,oisse~Ars ;.., thi s wo..y. So me were mo.rriec:i,,
    some wet'"e. bo.chelors. DicJ..., 't mo.ke o.ny o(;ffere.,..ce.
    The icle01. of me..-. poo.ying for sex is repello.l"'t to
    the oo.ver01~e WOmOin> 0. thre01t to noi'Yie> foo.W?ily 0\.., Q(>
    yes> the ideo.! of roMo..ntic love. The oo.vero.9e w o ...,o..,
    rYitASf" bel ieve o.lf the .,e9o.ti ve .stor i e s 01nd ;o(eo.s 0\bo~At
    p rostittAtio ..,, BtAt oo.s Chester- po i .,t.s o~At> SLArely there is
    o.s m'-t c h sorcAic( beho.vior o.wto"'9 mo.rriec:;( cotAples o.s
    ta.,et'"e is ;.., tJ-te worl o( o f prostitt-4tiot1. A"'d th e n too_. so
    mo.l"'y of the pro b I e..,.,s tho. t p/o.9u e pros ti'ttA t es o.re the
    res..,.lt of socie ty's sc orn for the.., > to tne e x tent t'"ro.t...
    0\S the book shows> m",.,Y of theM ho..ve to keep tl.,e; r
    "wor k " o. secret_. eve.-, fro,., their fr i e"'o(s , I h01d o.
    f e m ~I e f r i e., c:i who ,. o.., e ., i 9 h t o. t d i n .., e r, c o., f e ss e d
    H101t s he h01c::( c:io.,e "' e sco rt work for yeo.n,
    LAI"'bek,.,ow..,st to her frie.,o(s_. o..nc::( I obs er vec:;( tho.t
    everyone tho..,.3ht of her o. bit c;l;fferently <~~fter thC'It,
    Worne.., tho LA9ht less of her> I t1oti cecl,. o.s if she'Clf
    co.,fessed to h"vi1"19 bee.., ;..,volved in s o...,..,e sort of
    c. rirni.,OII oo.ctivity. Men~ sowte of th e ""'> then co n s io(ereot
    hero. loose wom01n,. fo.ir ~01..,e for coo. Sc.Ao.l sex .... o.l
    coW'Ie-o., s. It ttArr,e.d o"t> ;.., f01.ct, th01t she wo.s o.
    h i~ l-tfy S('X'-4011 WOMOII'\ wJ.,o dic:J ho.ve Wl0\1'1Y COIS'-10.1
    01ff01irs with me,. Bc..tt yoc..t c01n ..,ever tell o. book by
    i t s cov er > o"' tJ.,e S'-'rfa c e s l-, e w01s "' s hy> ..,.,oc::(est...
    Se.lf-e ffo. ci "'S woMOin. You never wo..,.Jd 've suspected
    t&.,o..t s he'(;( eve r been "' profe ssio ..,o./ sex work(>Y.
    Eve.-,t-~AOIHy,. she rnovec:;( o'-tt of th e o.re01 . Al,.,ost oo.l( her
    fe...-..01.le o.cq_c..tOiinfOirJces i rtcre01si n9/y s h..,...,..,ec::( 1-,e,.- o.s 01
    "slc...ct " ""'o( "' home-wrecker> thotA!Jh s J.,e see ....,eot t'-te
    n ices t Olno( s weete s t persot1> C.Or'ISC iE'r'ltioi.A S-1 no.rc:A.workio1!:J .
    It wo. s s o.~ > "'' tc.Ao.lly. lo.ter_. we leo.r..,ed tho.t s he
    beco..n-te 01 s urro301te c.hild-be01rer for Some we01lt&.,y
    c.o~Apte . DtA...,..,o who.t be co. me of her o.fter tho.t.
    Well> enou9J.,. PAYING FoR IT is o. 9reCllt corY~ic. boo k ,.
    rYtOiybe Chester 8ro"'m's best wor-k to c:l01te.

    R. ( rtAn'"lb
    Febri.Ao..ry

    vi

    201/

    I live. in TorOY1tO, So I w~s ori9i..,G\IIy 9oin9 to begin


    foreword by expl~;.,;..,9 (QnG\oo.'s prostifc...ttio.., lo.ws,
    btAt o. recent cotArt n.ding ho.s left the fo.te of those
    lo.ws I.AI'Icert~in . They I'YIO.Y or ..,o.y t1ot be cho.nging .
    This is wi-IG\t ti-le le9G\I sitLAo.tion wo.s like d1AI"in9 the
    ye~rs cove yeo( by this me..,..,oil": "01Atccd(" prostit~Ation
    wo.s le9AI - - tho.t is.~ .sex-workers were o.llowed to 90
    to (). john'.s home or note I room. "11Co.ll" pro.stit IAtio..,
    wo.s i/leg~l ~- sex-workers were not o.llowed to work
    OIAt of o. specific. loco.tion. They co~Afol..,'t work i"'
    brot'-lels, or OIAt of their ho...,.,es, or rent ~po.rti'Yients
    to work in, Whe., the police rO\ide~ ""' inco.ll lo co.t io.,,
    Q.nyone foLAf"\c;{ in there cotAid be o.rresteo( -- prostit~Ates
    o.not t10I'Iprostit1Ates . In orO.er to d isc.o tArG\se s treet wc-lkers, there WC\S o.lso C\ l01w forbiotdin9 prostit'CAtion~
    relo.teGI( solicitG\tion in ptAblic..
    In 'this book I rec.orc{ every tii"Y''e I pG\icA for .sex lAp to
    the en& of 2003 c-nc( every prostitAte I've ho.& sex with
    si11ce tJ.,en.
    Q""ite o. few of tJ.,e sex - worker.s I spe..,t time witn
    opened lAp to me G\nd tolol me aboCAt tJ-teir fG\milie s,. their
    c.hi/&hooc(s, their boyfrienots, o.no( other c-speds of their
    lives. I wish I ho.c( the freecioi'Yl to ;..,c/tA de tho.t n1aterial
    iYl tne followi..,9 pQ9es - - it woulol have bro1.A9ht- ti-le
    wome"' t-o life QS f-<11 hLAmcvl bei..,9S ancl I'Yiac:le this a
    better book. I'm o.SSCAI'l'1iY13 that o.ll of tl-1em wat1t to keep
    t~is

    Vii

    FOREWORD
    sec..ret tl-te sex-for--money po.rt oF the;r- lives, so I
    refro.il'1eol from pLAttins in per.sor1o.l de~o.ils tl-lo.t cot.Aio(
    P-ote.r1tio.lly reveo.l their identities if o. po.rtictJ~l~r frieno(,
    fo.mily W~ember, lover, or G\cqt...co.into.nce were to reo.o(
    this memoir. When I snow HteWI giving deto.ils o.boi.At
    tJ.,eir lives, the cieto.ifs o.re eit-her trivio.l or o.bout
    mo.tters relo.teo( To their work -- the lo.tter being wh~t
    you preSLAmo.bly woulo(n't tell fo...,..;/y G\nol fr-ieno(s who
    diolr1't kl'tow yotA were o. prostitLAte , TI-le opi niol"' s I h~ve
    the sex-workers pv.ttir19 forti, o.re pretty cowu,.,o..,. Ar1y
    of the more id i o syncro.t ic views they express eo( to me,
    I've. orr~ittecL. lt'.s o. sho.Yne -- I felt genLAine ().ffec.tion
    for mG~~ny of these wome..., o.nd reo.lly wish tho.t tl-1is
    no.Yro.tive 9o.ve o. better sense of their persor1o.li"ties.
    The no.mes the prostitt..cte s we.,t by were all fo.ke .. of
    C.o\Arse..,. bLAt I've c::ho.n9ec:i those ,.,o..,.,es becatJ~se even tney
    cotAict be potentiaiCy reve01lir19. For exo.mple_. o. womc,,...,
    mi9ht choose G\S her work-no.me the Vlo.me of "' fo.mo~.es
    o.ctress she resembles, or tl-te no.me of o. fo.volArite
    fie tiono.l ch01ro.c te ..-.
    Alfowin9 for some cie.9ree of co.rtoon ex"9sero.tion>
    l've cAro.wn Their bodies o.cctAro.tely, or as acciArCAtely o.s
    my meYY?ory 0\llows . I 1-ro.ve odtereo( ~spects of their
    boc;(ies if they coulo( potentio.lly reveo.l G\n ident i ty-for instCAVICe, I didr1't olr01w o.ny of the to.ttoos or
    unust.to.l piercin9s tho.t some of them ho.d . I've ofiten
    cnan9ed their ho.ir - Styfes, pc::.YticLAfG\rly if the hG\ir WG\S
    C\rt'"011'19ed in o. distinctive wo.y. While yotA'd r"'ever k...,ow
    it fro.-n my dr01win9s, some of these workin9-9irls olio(
    howe. blond 1-Jo.ir. ( whether or not they were n<llttAra.l
    blondes is C\ different mat"ter-.) I so.w womer1 of
    VClriOI.A.S ethnic bo.c::k9rotAnc::h, b .... t I'Wl c::hoosin9 to not
    ir1clico.'te who wo.s white_. or blo.ck, or hetd. another
    skin co/otAr.
    While I've n?colAnteo( the inc.ideV~ts o.11d. conversatioi"'S
    th01t rnG~ke lAp this 9rC\phic r1ovel in "' mo.n..,er- tn<llt's.
    re~sonab/y fo.ithf .... l to my memoYies, yotA snotA iol keep in
    ...,.,;VI~ 'tho.t me...,ory is r'IO't precise. I wot.Ald often rerY~ell>7!;,er +1-te 9iSt of "' (0"1VerSCA'tion I n~o( with 0. frieno(
    b"'t not where or whe,... it ho.ppeV~ed. or wh01t we weYe
    do;.,~ G\t the time. I kept "' recoro( of whe.., I saw -the
    prostittAtes.~ so I co.n VoVIch for the o.cct.~trac.y of -tJ:..tose
    olo.tes .
    1'..,_, 9oin~ 'to SOlve n"'OSt of W'1Y tho.V~k-yotAS for Hte
    o.fterworc:l, b .... t CAp-front here I do wo.11t to th01r1k The
    CanC\ola (otAI'tcil F"or The Arts for 9eneroLASiy o.ssisti'n9
    me fi...,OIVJc.iodly while I wrote C\nd drew this work.
    c.~ster

    B,-oW"7

    t>ecel'\'1ber 2.010

    viii

    I love you as much os


    ond. I'm sure I'm
    always 90in9 to love
    you> bt.t1". I 1-hink
    l'wt falli1'19 in love
    wi-th someo"'e

    ever;

    e lse .

    CHAPTER 1

    I don'~ ~now. I hQven'-t


    said onythin9 'to h ;,.,...
    yet. I don't ~P"'ow i f h e's
    9oin9 'to feel the
    same Wc;\y or
    not'.

    No. 1... at this poin-t I


    jtAs t Wc;\nT t'o dQ'te hin'l.
    I don''t even know if
    he' ll be in-terest-ed
    in wte.

    And even ;f I do
    end lAp J.,~vin9 (;\ sextAa I
    rel(;\tionsh ip witJ., hin'l,
    I do.-,.t ~now if that wi II
    mec;\n 'th~'t I'll wan't to
    stop hG\vin9 sex
    with YOtA.

    MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

    CHAPTER 1

    I love li vin9 with

    you too. I'm so 9 l01d


    I CQ n be honest with
    you 01bouf" 'tnis

    sort of
    stuff.

    You're not

    Qngry or

    jealous

    or

    anything

    I'm feeling l;ke my


    norm01 I, conf"en"t,
    all- is-well- wi'ththe - world

    self.

    No one feels '3ood when his


    girlfriend 'tells him tha't
    she's fallen in love with some
    other '31.AY

    I didn' t say I
    01bout it, but

    feel goocf
    I dont fee l
    b01cl 01bout i t.

    Maybe th01t"
    me01nS y o u
    don't

    really

    love her.

    MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

    We're perfectly suited


    'to eo.cn other. She's 'the bes-t
    9irlfriend I've ever nod.

    Just the foci" thot Sne WOIS


    oble to tolk to me obotA't this
    shows how much trtAst o.nol
    openess there is between us.

    Plu s.. I find h er enorrYtOtAsly

    sextAo.l ly ottroctive -- o.lt-hOCA'3h


    I'll a~drnit -thor we ... rorely
    h cwe sex onymore .

    Bt.~t

    tho.t's not becouse MY


    des i re h o.s dimin ished.

    CHAPTER 1

    Sne h01sn''t stG\rl"ed


    hG\ving sex wit-h this
    9lAY ye't, right" ?

    When they start

    I 01lrnost wenl" out" of my


    mind wit-h je01lousy when
    Kris StG\rt"ecA ha~vin'3 se)(
    wii"h someone else ofter
    w ,e broke up.

    And lot.Aise ho.d sex with 01

    hG\ving

    sex~

    THAT'S

    when yOI.Ar je01lousy


    will kick in.

    few other gc.Ays while we were


    going ou't -- I definit-ely
    fel-r jealous t-hen.

    rc~inin9 really horol G~~ncA I


    don't" WQnt" -to send Justin
    home in i t - -

    It's

    MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

    - - G\nol ... well ... do you.

    mind if he spends -the


    night- here ?

    Are yot..t st..tre ? This won'tyou. or anv-th i ""'3 ?


    You.'re going t-o be able
    to deal with i"t ?
    ~pse"t

    man~ nice to mee-t yot.A.


    lhGtnks for bein-:3 cool abou.t

    Hey

    me s"tGtyif'l9 the ni9h"t.

    CHAPTER 1

    It acttAodly
    wasn't terrible
    a1" all.

    8~At you

    must

    nave been
    emo1"iol"'ally
    devas'toted.

    No. I'll admit I'm 0\ little


    StArprised, because in similar
    situations in the pas-t I HAVE

    bee.,.. jealous. But not -this


    time.

    MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

    If o.ny-thin9, I fel-t 90od. I've


    never t-hou9nt of jeo.lousy os
    o. positive emot-ion--

    -- so when I wo.s lyin9 tnere


    listenin9 -to those sou.,ds. omd
    I reo.lized I wo.sn't jeG\IOt.AS --

    --well, i1' felt like I'd conctuered


    some-thin9 ne9o.tive within
    myself.

    Bud it's not no.-turG\1 to no-t

    feel jealous when something


    like 1"ho.1" nG\ppens.

    Jeo.lou sy is no-t no.tt.Aro.l -- its


    lea,-ned beho.viot.Ar.

    And you're 9oin9 to


    c.ontinue t"o live tnere ?

    ... so Sook-Yin osked me if it's


    oko.y if Justin moves in o.nd
    I soid
    yeo.h.

    CHAPTER 1

    The three of yo!A


    li ving in one
    ~pcutmen"t ?

    It's o. big plo.ce -- i t


    ho.s two bedrooms.
    An~ rYly sn~re
    of the rent will
    <30 down.

    Who.t punishment ?
    I'm no-t in o.ny
    wo..y s ufferin9,
    o..nd 1"11 be
    so.ving money.

    FreAdio.n nonsense.
    If I'm no1"
    CONSCIOUSlY
    sufferin9,
    then l'I'YI no-t
    suffering.

    When -this whole Jt.es"tin "thin9


    sto.rt"ed, didn'-t Soak-Yin brin9
    up the possibili-ty -tho."t YOIA
    t-wo might conTinue to ho..ve
    ~

    se.xuG\1 reiG\"tionship?

    tO

    MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

    No, and I 'm pre tty sure that,


    sexually, things are completely
    over b e tween u.s.

    living <All together in the SG\me


    opartrne nt is a c tuolly greG\t".
    I get- "to hear oil of 1"neir
    "'rgurnents.

    l'...n becoming more ond more


    convinced -thot I never want
    to have a gir lfriend
    ever again.

    CHAPTER 1

    Just bec~use you con he~r


    Sook-Yin ~nd. Justin fi9hting ?
    But EVERY couple fi9nts.

    Before Justin entered tne


    picture, Sook-Yin and I argued
    like every other romarrtic
    couple. Now we get alon9
    great-.

    lheres no lo,..ger anyt"hin9 to


    seriously arque about. f c~n
    just enjoy nG\nging out with
    her os o friend.

    For instonce, now I C<:;\n t<:;\t k


    to her o.bout finding other
    worn e..,
    Gt"ttrG\ctive .

    A yeor o.go she would h<:;\ve


    flipped out in o jealous r~9e
    if I'd soid some other womon
    was beautiful--

    -- bu"t now -th~t' were


    not involved, thot's not"
    threo.'tening anymore . We
    con t01lk obout wh~tever:

    Now it's Jus tin who hG\s to


    wotcl-1 l-lis tongue. 8ein<:3 the
    friend iS w~y better than
    being the boyfriend.

    12

    MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

    look a"t you G\nd. YYle -- we


    ge-t along WG\Y better G\S
    friends th01n we did G\S a

    romantic
    couple.

    -- bv.t thQt
    yeG\r you
    were "'Y
    girlfri end.

    I hope. yov
    dont I'Yiind me
    SOiying SO --

    I don't think This ho.s


    anyThing to do with
    l'Y'IG\turity or lack of it.

    WOIS

    hell.

    It's SOI'rlet-ning "'bout the


    dynOirY~ic of rom01nt-ic. love .
    look o.t- how you fough-twith your last
    boyfr ienc:A.

    Neither of you had


    the excuse of being
    eighteen.

    It 1-u"ppens even wit-h

    -- bvt being in "' rom01ntic


    rel01tionship brings up oall
    her insecuri-ties.
    l't does tu;~~t for
    EVERYONE-- me
    too.

    nice people. 5oo#<-Yin

    01 wonderful,
    consicfen;~~te,

    generous
    person --

    CHAPTER 1

    The people I've behQvecl


    -the worst- to were my
    girlfriends. E&\ch of you.
    sow me &lt my
    me&\nest Qnd
    pett-est.

    THAT'S tr-ue. But Qren't you


    lonely? It's been almost 01
    yeQr since you C\nd
    Sook-Yin
    broke
    up.

    lonely ? No-t o.t all. I live


    with Sook-Yin C\ncl Justin,
    ond I'I"Yl C\IWC\YS h&\n9in9
    OUT with
    you C\ncl
    Se-th Qncl
    Joe.

    Our- cultt.Are pushes this


    idea tho-t romC\n-tic love is
    somehow more si9nificon"t
    th01n other

    I used to occept- -tha"t as


    -tr-ue, but not- anymore.
    Frie.,d'ship l ove and fC\mily
    love con be 01s
    fulf;I,Jinc:J as
    romC\nTiC
    love.

    In the lon9 run they're


    probC\bly uSuC\IIy MORE
    ftAif;lling.

    fon.-.s of
    love.

    I've been thinkin9


    about why I even
    ever wo.n-ted to
    ho.ve 9irlfriends.

    MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

    One: beco.~Ase it's


    sociGllly expect ed -- guys
    don't h01Ve ~irlfriends 01re
    considered t"o be losers.

    Aside fron-t love, -there were


    three reG\SOnS why I wo.nted
    -to hcwe gir-lfriends.

    Two : I liked the ego-boost of


    h01vin9 G\ WOn-tOin wo.nt to
    hG\ve tho.t sort- of exclus ive
    reiGttionship with n-te.

    Bu-t you don't- hG\ve


    to hcwe 01 9irlfriend
    -to h cwe

    sex.

    You could nQve o ne-night


    s-to.nds wit-h st r01nqers or
    something like -th01t.

    I don't ho.ve the soci01l skills


    necessary to pick up women
    for CG\Suo.l sex.

    I've on ly ever hG\d sex


    with women I've been
    romo.n"tico.lly involved
    wit-h .

    So does ThQt meo-n you're


    going -to be celibo.te for the
    re s t of your life?

    15

    CHAPTER 1

    I've goT TWO COWipe"ting


    desires - - ti-le desire -to nQ.ve
    selC, vers us Ti-le desire to
    NOT tlG\ve a girlfriend.

    B"'t I'm noT -thQ.T despera-te

    Mo.ybe at some point my


    l-lorniness will drive me to
    despercrte measures a,.,d I'll
    be fo r ced l"o get anotner
    9irlfriend.

    ye-t. For t"ne momenT I'm


    enjoyin9 being single Too
    mucn 1"0 9iVe in TO what
    my penis wanTs.

    16

    MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

    He's movin'3 ou-t? If you wo.n"t

    You think I've been living


    wi-th Sook-Yin o.nd Just in
    co.tAse I've been waiting
    for rny chance ?

    Whether you've been waitin'3


    for it Or no't, why not seize
    'the opportunity now th01t" i t's
    here ? 5ook-Yin's goodlookin9 ~nd. you love her.

    I'm

    BtAt the boyfrie..,d gets l01id.


    Which iS more impor-tant:
    sex or ovoidin9 occ~sionc=-1
    fights?

    H01vin9 01 girlfriend doesn'-t


    mean you. ho.ve c;,uaron"teed
    access to sex ort any a..,d
    0111 times.

    ner bo.ck} here'S your d1o.nce.

    enjoying being her friend.


    Someone else can ho.ve t-he
    boyfriend role.

    t7

    CHAPTER 1

    Usw:.lly -there's G\
    G\T t~e beginning
    re/01-tionship G\n~
    drops off G\fter

    loT of sex
    of -the
    -then it
    tho;t.

    The longer <A couple has been


    Toogether, -the tess sex
    they're nG\Ving.

    Even ort the end of otAr


    reiG\tionship, Tri s ~ 01nd I
    were still n01vin9 sex
    all -the time .

    Tt-een yov. 9uys were the


    except-ion. ThG\t's n ot now i"t
    works for most- couples. As k
    any mG\rriec:i '3V.Y

    Even if yov.'re rig~'t, mosT


    mG\rried people are s-till
    howin'3 sex SOME of "the
    time -- yov.re no't hG\ving
    sex at G\11.

    OkG\y, yov:ve '301" o. point. BuT


    Sook-Yin wov.ldn't wG\nT to
    9e1" romo.ntic01lly re-invol ved
    'Wi"tn me G\nywG\y.

    18

    MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

    Where d id I plAT my program ?


    I can' t find it.

    Ho.nd me the pro9ram,


    J o e ? I wo.n"t "to see
    who else iS o.ttending
    "the conven-tion .

    Why are Plo.yboy


    Playma-tes
    at-tending o.
    comic- book
    convenTion?

    s.-.es no"t o. Plo.ymo.te.


    She's posed for P/o.yboy bur
    they've. ne ver put her in the
    centre-fold . I don't know why
    not -- she's c:30rgeous.

    Is there a picture

    of her in +here ?
    Let me see.

    19

    CHAPTER 1

    What's going on? line-up of

    Oh! There's Alley


    booth -- ~nc:f

    B~99et"t's

    guys... she's ntAgging


    9tAy... c~rner~ ...

    there sne is.

    01:

    lheres o si9n thot expl~ins


    what's soin9 on .... For fif-ty
    d.oll~rs she hu9s you, a
    poloroic( iS t~ken, ~nc(

    she si9ns it.

    Why d.o I w~nt to h~ve my


    picttAre taken with ner ?
    I've 90t lots of photos o-F
    ner ~lreG\dy.

    Bu-t let be rnortifiec(

    if Qnyone

    s~w

    doing it.

    me

    20

    MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

    I'd. be p01y in9 f;ft"y dotl01rs


    to hove ner put her o.rm
    01round me. Am I tno"t
    d.esperellte for ell womelln's
    'touch?

    No, it's not the phot-o th01t


    wG\nt - whG\t I reG\IIy WCllnt
    to get next" to her.

    For ellnother fifty -or -so


    I could prob01bly p01y
    01 prostittAte .

    I wonder now
    much prost it-utes
    cho.r9e?

    l'rfl not" 0'3ellinst the


    icleG\ of po.ying for sex.
    Anti- prostitution ellr'3~Arflent s
    hG\ve never m01de
    sense to me.

    The mG\in reellson why hte


    never been with G\ hooker is
    because I w ells worried th01t
    it would ruin my chellnces
    with G\ future g irlfri e nd .

    21

    CHAPTER 1

    I'd hove to tell ~he people lm

    I'm no~ o secretive pe rson -- if


    I ever whored I wouldn't be
    oble to keep it to n1yse.lf.

    close to, and thot wotAid


    inc/lAde ony future. 9idfrie.nds
    I mi-:tnt no.ve.

    ~~

    Two yeors 01f-ter bre01king


    lAP with Sook-Yin, why om
    I s till not" po.yin9
    for sex?

    Okoy, tnot wos 01 re01son


    -the p01s t , blA"t now I'm
    plonnin9 on no-t h01ving
    onother gi rlfriend .

    Becouse l 'rr~ worried o.bou"t


    now it'll look to people -- I 'm
    worried thot I'll look
    like o. loser.

    Thot's not 01 900d reoson .


    I shouJdn'-t care whot other
    people tni nk.

    22

    MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

    How wo~lcl it even work ?


    Most g~ys who pick up
    streetwQikers hQve ~ c~r.
    Since I don'-t h~ve ~ c~r, how
    would I 90 ~bout i+ ?

    Anci then +here's the risk


    th~t lel solicit Q femQie cop
    dis9uised QS a streetwol ker
    and shed Qrrest me.

    No, it's Qll too much - - I'll just


    have to do without sex.

    Z3

    Do you. m i nd if
    t-hG\ -t DG\n
    SG\VG\9e book I
    bou.9ht you. ?

    zs

    ,.eG\o

    CHAPTER 2

    A 21 yeo.r- olol '3UY who's o


    virgin QSI<S ~ow to go obout
    nirin9 0 prostit~.ete --

    - - o.nd Don odvises hirYI to


    phone on esc ort and "o.sk
    wnG\t her
    hou.rly
    ro.te
    iS ".

    " Moke on oppointment to meet


    i n G\ safe~ mutw~lly G\gree o.ble
    locG\tion".

    ''She'll know who.t yoiA want,


    al"'d she'll know what to do.
    Be respectful> let ~er lead,
    u s e condoms,.
    ond tip the
    h~dy. "

    He mokes it sound
    so SirYiple Qnol
    str o.iqhtforword.
    Moybe I SHOULD
    poy for sex.

    BtAt escort ods don't hatve


    P.hotogropns. How would I
    know ;f o
    porticCAiar
    escort
    i5 goodlooking
    or
    I"'Ot?

    .........J~~l-1--.,

    Okoy, I'm
    determined - tonig~t I'm
    going to go
    out ond
    look for
    nooker.

    P;ckil"''3 up a s treetwG\Iker
    would moke more
    se..,se - - let be
    .uo--.-'0
    G\ble to see
    if I find her
    ottn~ctive.

    26

    CARLA

    how mtAch money I


    sho<.Aid hrin'3 ?
    I'll brin9

    doll~rs.

    200

    Who.'t

    if I 9e-t
    robbed?

    I' ll leo.ve my wo.tlet here o.+


    nome so f don'-t lose o.ny of

    It's nine -- it's


    surely +here

    cords. I'll just plAt -the

    o.re

    money
    in my

    some

    9irls
    workin9

    pocket.

    now.

    200 dollo...-s probo.bly isn't


    enOIA'3h for time wi-th o.

    Maybe I didn't brin'3 enough


    money. Who.t if I'm supposed
    "to po.y for o. hote I room too ?

    prostitute AND
    for o hotel
    rOOP'Yl.

    21

    CHAPTER 2

    ... G\nd. I don't see o.ny


    streetwo.lkers.

    Well, I've o.lso


    0..-t jQrViS
    Street -I'll Try
    tnere.

    leT me think .... When I wo.s


    90in9 out wi-th louis e there
    were olw01ys nookers
    no.n9in9 G\roun~ o~tsi~e
    ner opo.rtrnei"'T
    buildin9 by
    Co.dton
    Street.

    No one's cuo1.m~ tho.t


    opo.rtrnenT buildin9. W!'l01t's
    9oin9 on ? This iS werd.

    Workin9- 9irls olso ho.ng out


    fortner eQST on Corlton in
    CG\bbo9etown. Tho-t's Seth's
    nei9hborhoo~.

    28

    CARLA

    ltei be emb01rro.ssin9 if he
    wo.lkec:A by while I wo.s
    nego"tio.tin'3 something, butl'm n.tnnin9 out of
    op-tions.

    Mo.ybe police pressure ho.s


    driven them into other
    nei9hborhoods. Mo.ybe
    there wo.s o. r ecent police
    cro.ckdown. Or mG\ybe I'm
    just" too e01dy.

    Nope , no streetwodkers
    i..-t

    C01bbo.9et"own.

    lets to.ke o. closer look


    o.t the escort o.ds.

    29

    CHAPTER 2

    I hcwe n 'T tol~ S ook-Yin


    I'm -thinking of doing
    this, s o I wouldn't w~nt
    ~ coall- gid coming

    I'll h~ve
    to co.ll
    o.ds tno.1"
    so.y " in ".

    th~t

    -to OlAr

    house .

    ShotAic( I CGIII

    Who.t if the
    cops ptAt

    fG~ke

    Glds
    the
    papers to
    flu.s n
    ou-t the
    j o hns?
    in

    Mo.ybe the y
    keep 1"rG~ck
    of who's
    po.yin9 for

    sex. nr

    CGIII fro""

    po.yphone.
    Q

    lO

    CARLA

    5CAW YOIAr'" CAd,

    And

    and f'rn

    wher-e is

    wonder-in9 l1ow much


    YOIA chorge.

    yoiAr --

    where

    ore yoLA
    locO\ted?

    I'm very ClttrC\cti ve -- 5- 6 -pounds -- 35 - C, 24-, 36.

    BlAt

    thG\t

    sho~Aidn't

    ThG\-t

    wa~s

    tne tr ...tn, b~A.t


    bod

    why ma~ke her feel


    C~~bOIAt bein9 28?

    q_~Aestion

    l~st. It
    SO lAnded

    like I
    decided

    no-t to
    see ner

    beCOIIASe

    of her
    G\qe..

    31

    CHAPTER 2

    Hi St.e2y. I
    SG\W your
    acJ, and I'I'Yl
    wonderin9 if
    you could
    give ....,e o
    description

    of
    yourself.

    I'm beo.utiful
    blonc:A - - very
    sensuous --5-3-36- D, 25, 37.

    I hope
    you don't
    mind if I
    G\Sk how
    much you
    wei9h
    and how
    old you

    Not o.t o. ll -- I'm


    '2 3 o.nd wei'3h
    130 pOI.Ands.

    130 sounds
    like a bit
    ynucrh for

    Soi'Yleone
    who's
    5 - 3.

    are.

    Yeoh,
    +hot's the

    better
    way

    to do
    it.

    By endin'3 with the


    looks like I'm cheo.p
    tho.n like
    I didn't
    find her
    description
    of herself
    appeo.ling.

    32

    CARLA

    Ce~rl"'s

    workin9 later today.., but


    we have several other beautiful

    Would you l;ke


    to he<Ar <About
    them?

    Cou ld you o. l so
    descr ib e Carl o

    f o r m e?

    Sur e ... hold o n a second ... I'm


    S1Apposed. to heAve a wri tten
    clescr;ption
    of. . .. Where
    iS i t?
    Vlh . . .

    1'1\ay be I can trY. to 9 ive you

    o. description from memory.


    Let-s see ...

    un ...

    actuG\ Hy

    haven 't

    r eG\IIy
    met
    Co. ria
    yet.

    She just s-tarted working here,


    but I clicl see her brief I y
    yes'te rd ay.
    She's very
    beautiful,
    in her
    early
    twenties,
    I t hink ...

    CHAPTER 2

    And where are you.


    locat"ed. and. how
    n'HACh do you

    c.harge?

    We're in ~ luxury condo ne~r


    j __ and W_. There ~re
    sever~ I

    bedrooms,
    ~nd each
    one has
    its own
    bathroom.

    And
    it'S 120

    for ~
    halfhour

    and

    A luxury condo ....


    MaY.be at a brothel

    like this there's


    some kind of
    "quality control".

    200

    for

    ~n

    hour.

    Whoever runs this place


    probably tries to hire
    ~+'tractive

    women.

    Oko.y> Co.rlo. ce~n see you at


    three o'clock. Would you
    l;ke to be with her
    for ~n hour?

    Are you sure ? You'll hcwe to


    to see her-- the other
    91rls e~re cwe~i le~ble
    ri9ht now.

    we~it

    CARLA

    Only your first

    ne~me

    is

    needed, S-teve. He~ve you


    been here before?

    Okay, 90 to J _ and w_ a-r


    three. There's a pe~y-phone
    there.

    us
    from

    Ce~IJ

    that

    pe~y

    phone.

    Why does it
    p~y -pJ,one?

    an eye on

    it 50 tho.'t
    they can
    size up
    the johns

    beforeh~nd

    n~ve

    'to be THIS
    Do they ke e p

    Hi, this is S-teve - - I

    h o.ve an opP.oin-tmen't

    to see Carlo? I'm oi'


    the corner of
    J _ a nd

    w_ .

    Ce~rlo.?

    I'm $Orry. There must be

    some mix- up. She won'T be

    availe~ble

    tAntil '+' 30.


    WotAicl you

    l;ke to see

    someone
    else

    instea~?

    We have
    severe~ I

    other

    girls
    working

    here.

    No, I wcu'l-t 1'o see


    Carla. I'll wait
    till lf:30.

    CHAPTER 2

    Go to 3_

    s __ .

    Th e

    e ntry
    code iS
    583-6.

    No, my bike's in the other


    direction, 01nd by H''le tin'le

    w01lk b01ck to it" Qnd 9et it


    lAnlocked I
    COlAid be
    ..,OIIfWOIY to

    s_.

    36

    CARLA

    / ---

    C2J

    /
    Wh01t if 01 bunch of 9t.AYS
    are in the o.p01rtmen"t
    o.nd "they mug
    me?

    Do.n So.vo.qe so.id "to "til). I


    wonder how muc.n ? Ten
    percen-t wot.'ld be 12 dollars~
    20 percentwould
    be
    l't.

    But I probably shou ldn'1" ge"t


    ~~u.

    my nopes

    up. lnis n"li9h"t


    be o. reG\IIy

    dis01ppoin"tin9

    experience.

    '51

    CHAPTER 2

    Hi Steve. We're on the

    third floor. When you


    9et -there~ there's o

    locked door- with a


    ntAmber- po.c(.

    I'm sorry-third floor:,


    press S -6-J-2,
    apo.r'tment
    3-0-6.

    5-6 1 2> then 90 to

    oportmen't

    306.

    CARLA

    There's
    1-he
    door
    with
    1-ne.

    niA"'berpQd.

    CHAPTER 2

    4-0

    CARLA

    Uh, G\ref"''i' yov.


    forgetting
    sornet,.,ing?

    I wonder ;f she's new to


    workin'3 as 01 prostiTute or
    if she's just new to this
    particc..lar. . . I gues s this
    is G\ brothel .

    Damn -- I should nave hG\d


    t,.,e money alreG\dv counted
    al'\d set aside s o I wot.tldn't
    be. fu..,...bling
    G\round
    in l'l'lY

    wallet
    like
    this .

    41

    CHAPTER 2

    Okay,. jus-t
    make yourself
    cow.fort-able .
    I'll be

    b~ck

    soon.

    CARLA

    " M~ke yourself


    comf'or"t~ble. "

    Does thot
    meon I'm
    supposed
    -to -toke

    my

    clothes
    off?

    M()ybe.
    I shoufd
    ~t /e()s -t

    tG\ke
    off my
    shoes.

    B~At whQt if somethin9


    nopP.ens Qnd I hQVe to
    run? No:. ru

    keep my
    shoes on

    for the
    moment.

    Does this

    count QS
    port of my
    nQif- hour?

    ""1--~!!!11

    CHAPTER 2

    WritinSJ o.nd
    dro.wing for o
    living is greG\1".

    Wow -- tho.t's so r1eo.t. I


    co.r-toons. Do you meo.n,
    c~rtoons on T-V ?

    YotA write your stuff too?


    You must
    ~o.ve .o. g~od
    I've been -told
    mo.gnG\-t.on.
    th~t.

    So> would you


    off with o

    mo.sso.ge?

    Oko.y. Well> lets


    COWiforto.ble
    t-hen.

    So> whG\t" kind of comic s do


    you dro.w ? 5ttAff like
    Su~ermo.n o.nd
    Bo.tmon?

    CARLA

    Should I
    toke m y
    glo.sses
    off? It's

    going to
    be weird
    le Gwing

    tnem

    but
    I wo.nt
    "to see

    on>

    wnot's

    hoppenin'3 .

    Who't would
    like ? Me

    o n the

    bo tto....,?

    CHAPTER Z

    Let me puT
    o little
    Astro9lide
    on you.

    u~ - oh

    104 forgo-tten how

    -- it feels TOO
    90od! I'm obout
    to come!

    omozin9ly f300d
    i t feels to
    hG\ve sex !

    I've only
    been i n her
    obout ten
    seconds !
    Tl1iS NEVER
    noppens -B~t

    1 At.WAYS

    hut

    lon9er
    when I
    weG\r G\

    condom!

    - - o c.er t oin omoun"t o f


    couro9e to do this work -you never know w hoT kind
    of 9UY will

    show
    up --

    46

    CARLA

    --blAt on the w~y here tod~y


    it suddenly occurred to .,.,e
    thGlt you guys are in the
    same sc~ry position
    we Glre.

    YolA don't know wh~t


    kind of situ~tion you
    might be w~lking
    into.
    ~~SS~~~

    t~kes

    Like, what if there's ~ <3UY


    hidin9 in the ap~rtment
    who'll 'I'Y'Iuq you~ or -- I don't
    know -- tS,.,ere are all sorts
    of unple~sant
    poss ibilities.

    guts to walk
    into a pl~ce like
    this.

    Why c:Ai~ sne say th~t ?


    Could she tell now

    nervous I
    was whel"'
    I showed
    tAP.? Can
    sne tell
    it's my
    first
    tiYne

    p~ying ?_~r!~~(

    I want" to.
    thou-:Jh' I
    didn't l~st
    very lon9
    I was
    totolly
    1-laP.PY
    with the
    whole
    experience.

    A tip? 40
    dolfars ?
    It's no-t
    necessar y -You don'-t
    have to
    give I'Yle
    anything
    extra.

    47

    CHAPTER 2

    You.'r-e 01n 01n9e I "th01nks so


    l'l'ltACh. I
    just rnoveci
    01nd th01t
    eats up
    money.. so
    this will
    really

    come

    in
    n~ncly.

    Ar-e
    you
    goin9

    to
    come
    see
    me

    again?

    CARLA

    CHAPTER 2

    I meo.n> I'm

    sure most" of
    -them Cllre nice
    people--

    Tn<llt's fine.
    -- o.nd
    you don't
    I thi..-.k you're
    worryi..-.c:J for
    know ...
    nothin9, but I
    you know..
    underSt<llnd . I
    who -th ey
    wo..-.t bring o.ny
    associo.te
    prost"itutes nere .
    with.

    I'm SCA.r-e, but you won't

    know whcxt they're like


    wnen you first cont<llcT
    them--

    H1<llnk you. Now


    -tell me more
    det"o.ils.

    30

    CARLA

    I've gone wi-thouT


    sex for longer
    thon you l-1owe>
    I'M the one who
    should've been
    next-.

    Ws noT like I but-ted


    line oheCild of

    you.

    I didn'T butt in front of you.


    I lefT t he line you're in -- the
    free -sex line -- ond I
    wolked over to the
    poyinq -for-sex
    line.

    You could wCillk over to the


    pCilying-for-sex line Too. It
    "'oves Q loT fo.ster.

    51

    CHAPTER 2

    wos plenty hoppy with the


    blow-job she c;tave me.

    The n why even bother 9ettin9


    oral ? A blow-job with o
    condo.n
    is no

    fun .

    It felt ... odd, but not clinical.


    And she wosn't cold. She
    WG\S very
    friendly
    and
    nice.

    sz

    CA RLA

    d isturbin'3 ,

    it's
    good
    gossip .

    b~At

    QISO

    53

    CHAPTER 2

    He was upset" but" not" for any


    reason connected ~o o moral
    principal -- he's bother-ed
    becaAse yoA're 9et-tin9 laid
    anCi he's
    not.

    Ri~ht. Do YOU have an


    opmion on the morality
    of pr-ostitution ?

    be /e9ol, bAt

    that's not
    the some
    thin9 OS
    saying it's
    ri9ht.

    I'm no-t sure that I co.n


    address it as on issue of
    s imple ri9ht ond wron9. To
    be honest it just seems
    sod to me.

    One wot.Aid hcwe to know


    how she views sex to know
    whe-ther- or not" it's
    sod for
    her.

    CARLA

    For some women it


    be terrible to hG\ve
    sex for money --

    Oko.y. some illustro.to,.s ho.'te


    ;llustr<~~tion, but the,.e ARE
    illus"tro.-tors who like the
    work . Yes, some
    prosti-tu-tes
    hG\te being
    prostitu-tes --

    -- bu"t for o-thers Ws prob01bly


    no worse thc.m
    it iS for you
    I h01te h01vin9
    "to dr01w an
    to dn~w
    illustra-tion.
    illustr01"tions
    to mo.ke
    money.

    -- but I'm sure thG\t


    them like it -- or 01t
    it" G\S no worse
    thG\n G\ny other
    job.

    I wonder now things will


    90 with me G\nd CG\rlCo\?

    I'm 90in9 "to cont-inue TO

    see he..- for G\S long <~~s she


    wo,.ks 01s 01
    prostitute.

    I wonder how long she's


    to work ? How dose G\
    r elationship will develop
    between
    us ?
    ,}.,~~~,_~~~

    CHAPTER 2

    Th01t doesn't
    seem like
    sornet..,il"19
    you'cl d.o.

    This cloesn't
    m01ke you w01nt
    to stop bein9 my
    friencl, CJoes
    it?

    I ~on''t. I clon't know


    wl-101t her situation is.
    S..,e works in 01n
    01p01rtmen't
    with
    sever01l
    other
    women.

    No, of course not-- it's just


    we ire{. How clo you know
    she doesn't j.,ove
    a pimp?

    M01ybe it's like 01 co-op


    where they r-un i"t
    collectively, or m01ybe 01
    guy runs it.
    I don't
    know.

    But you don't" w01n't' to


    support 01 sys+em -th01t
    enriches Q
    - - - - -""'
    pimp.

    Well, I hope she goT' to


    keep mos-t of -the money
    I 901ve her; 01ncl I hope
    no one's be i n'3
    violenT'
    with
    her.

    S6

    CARLA

    You know, "ta~kin'3


    G\dv01nTG\9e of
    someone in

    on unf01ir
    wo.y.

    No, not neceSSG\rily.

    It's wron9 for


    someone who's
    38 to no.ve sex
    with someone
    who's
    21

    lr

    would depencA on -the


    circumsto.nces.

    S7

    CHAPTER 2

    WhG\t

    time?

    I don't wG\nt to
    ej"'cu.lo.te so
    qu.ic.kly G\9Qin.
    Th is t-ime t'll

    jerk- off

    o.t home

    before 90in9
    to the
    brothel.

    S6

    CARLA

    39

    CHAPTER 2

    didn'T evel'\ wo.it


    ""ill!~....,...~\"1"-':tl"o..J-t'_

    If I wen+
    eve..-y two
    weeks. -tho.t
    WOIAid be

    two week s
    betw e e..,
    visits.
    I don't
    know if
    if I con
    o.fford
    +no.t on G\
    regular

    26 times

    o y eor. ?.6
    multi plied
    by 160

    dollars

    e q~..tG\IS

    bG\SiS.

    --

    multipli e d by 11 e qt.tols
    2,1 ZO d o llars o year.
    t not 's more

    -- 't. l60 dollars 01 yeG\r -that's qCAite o. bit. Eve..-y

    three weeks
    WOCAid b e

    mo.no9eo.ble .

    seventeen
    times o
    yea~r.

    11 bet I anntAodly spe nt

    didn't

    hove s ex

    onywhe..-e
    ne01,.
    seven1"een

    o.boiAt tno.t rn1Ac"1 ;..,


    relo.tion
    to bei""'3

    times
    i.., the
    lo.s-t yeo.~

    Sook-Yil"''S

    boyfriend .

    that- she

    WG\S my
    9irffriend.

    60

    CARLA

    61

    CHAPTER 2

    62

    CARLA

    IT'5 STARTING TO

    HURT,
    Y'KNOW .'

    I - I'm

    you --

    s ony.

    Do

    shoul~

    we use

    more lubricant?

    63

    CHAPTER 2

    6 4-

    CARLA

    No, not today.


    feel right

    look, Glt leas-t


    "tGlke 1-lolf --

    twenty

    tGlkin9 it
    tocioy.

    dolla..-s.
    I did
    e njOY

    .-.nyself
    for
    mos -t
    of -the
    se ssion.

    6S

    CHAPTER 2

    Wh01.t hoppened there?


    Why did she 01.sk why I
    w01.s s"toppin'3 ? Wasn't it
    obviou.s? I was p01.usin9
    so tha~
    I didn't

    Surely I'm r1ot the first


    mar1 she's encoul"'tered
    who does thot.

    COII'Yle

    too
    quickly.

    Well, I do.,t hove to rnoke


    +he decision right now.
    I have three weeks to
    fi9ur-e ou+
    who"t I
    waf'lt to
    do.

    66

    CARLA

    The second. time I s~w her,


    we went throu9h G\ lot of
    positions G\"'d the sex l~sted

    Obviously I WG\S tryin9 to do


    the SG\rne tod.G\y. I guess,
    for her, G\ hG\If- hour
    session
    doesn't
    t'YleG\n
    twenty
    minu.tes
    of
    fu.ckin9.

    m~ybe

    twenty
    minutes .

    In the future I'll try


    limit myself to ten
    minutes of
    sex in ~
    -thirty
    minute
    G\ppointment.

    67

    I'm co.H ; ng
    o.bot.AT Tir'IO..
    How .-rH.ccn

    does sne
    cnc~~rge?

    69

    CHAPTER 3

    Neu..-

    CC\nc;(

    R_.

    No, "todo.y'S no't


    gooc:A for me.
    How ~bou-r
    Mond~y?

    Wh"T
    T i me

    She looks like


    She'S in her
    thirties,

    she's no't

    thin> she'S
    rtot

    busty~
    CAn~

    she's no't
    p,.etty.

    70

    ANGELINA

    You're no't

    cop..
    are

    yo~?

    I 'll be rig nT
    bG\ck. MG\ke
    yourself
    corf\forn"ble .

    71

    CHAPTER~

    ~ i~ I co.re ;f I l-HArt'
    her feeli~gs ? She lie~-
    sne's 1"\0t in G\ny
    w~y like the
    descript'iOI"l

    Wny

    in

    ner

    ad.

    I CG\n't hQve sex with her -she's 11ot a.r a.ll sexCAally
    G\ttrGlc t'ive to me. 1

    ' sJ-tould ~G\Ve

    WGllked O..WGly.

    I Still

    snotA ld~'-r
    n01ve

    can.

    co~e

    7Z

    Bu-t I
    o.lreo.dy
    g~ve

    her the
    YYloney.

    ANGELINA

    Don't" be
    OlfrOlid. We'r e
    just wom e ..... .
    Come out
    nere .

    WnQt?
    Who

    are o.ll
    tne people
    out there?
    They weren't'
    There before .

    Fou r of tne"' are


    una"ttr-Olctive, bur
    t w o of -tnern CO\re
    re allv. good
    looking.

    73

    CHAPTER~

    I'm

    getti..,g the

    imP.ression
    thcu !one cA.; df"''T
    w~nt ro be c.nosen.

    U._,, if yOI.A'd
    r~"tner no't, I
    c.Qn pic.k one

    of t ne otner
    girls.

    ANGELINA

    'lov. looked ..e~lly tAns.ure


    ou:t 'there. If you. don'~

    want 'to do thiS l'ol

    v.nde rst'a n d .

    - - blA1' ;f you.'re
    uncomfortable obot.At

    Don''t 9e't me wrong -- I


    think you're gorgeot.As~ otnd.
    1 f"eodly WCAf'\'t to. v.l-t . you

    "thiS, I

    CQn

    pick one

    k11ow,., be
    il"'tima.te

    of "the
    other

    wi-tn

    you--

    9irls.

    the

    Gtd WGtS Gt

    descrip1'ior'l

    of I-ter;

    r'lO't

    T;r1a.

    75

    CHAPTER 3

    It~ cliffictAI't ftAckir'lg

    It looks like
    t-he b,.-c:a is

    her- she's rec:ally

    dory.

    S'TQying

    on.

    l'm 90ir'lg to WGlr'lt" to see


    you Qgc:ain -- wl-tc:at" nc:ame
    snoCA ld 1 01.sk fo,.- ?

    Yeah~

    I mec:an,
    you don'T

    no.ve to g;ve
    me you.r
    reQI

    nc:ame -just.. you.


    kr'IOW>

    your
    working
    nc:ame.

    76

    I wG\nt l"o see


    09G\in_. bul"
    l'wt G\ISO

    CLArious
    to

    see

    18

    yea,.- old

    the petite
    described
    rtt "this
    G\d..

    11

    CHAPTER 4-

    S~e's ,..ecally cu;te,


    bu't sli1e's so t;,.,y.
    Sl-te COULD be

    te, bC.A t s"-e c.oc.tfc:J.


    also be younger.
    It's ho.rO( 'to
    -tell.

    On7 ThG\T'S
    ~few

    frie,.,cts.

    ViSi'ting.

    Do,.,t

    worry

    Un7 you're 18.


    rign't ? I meca,.,~

    a~oou't the.-n~

    tt-ley'll be

    a~bte

    no't
    UNDER 1e,
    are you ?

    yo~.A're

    TO C\rnUSe

    t..-.e.-nse lves for


    01 little wnile.

    16

    ANNE

    Her body'!>
    kinciQ tfte

    oppos it"e of

    Ange I i nQ'S_.

    but" ~s
    jus't as

    QmQl:ing.

    WG\S 1"ellil'l9 ""'Y S"tep W!Other G\bou1" yOu.r


    whoril'l9 and sne WG\S

    <iiS9U.Sf"eci. She
    SQiGf,

    "He'S

    obviously
    no
    self-

    ~o"t

    respect." --"

    1 don' t" know,. I Hlink I' ve


    go"t a pret"'ty h;g.., opinion
    of myself. f f"hi..,k I've
    901"

    G\

    lot of

    re.spect
    for
    rv~yse I-f.

    79

    81

    CHAPTER 5

    li" ' S G\

    ....,onster

    in o.
    mini- skir't!

    62

    BACK TO ANGELINA

    Do you.

    remember
    YY~e?

    S'teve.

    ~ tube of lubric:Qn"t
    on -tho.'t Cho.ir --

    Th ere's

    CHAPTER. S

    How long
    ho.ve yot.A
    lived in
    Toronro ?

    How

    c;t;~ 1

    not notice
    tnQt ? 1
    g~..<ess 1
    followed
    her reo.d.
    in not
    speQking

    mu.cn.

    comic.- books ?
    Tho.'t'S

    awesome.

    Tne nex1' time you. come


    'to see me, you. shou ld

    st.... ff's quire d;Herenr


    from A,..ch;e, bu.'t I'll
    bring yOtA
    s omet-hing.

    bri..-.g n-le one. I lASed


    'to l;ke Archie comics.

    6$

    CHAPTER 6

    Before I
    show it" t"o
    you I
    sl-loulc:A

    expfoin --

    He led "two rebellions


    Qgoinst" t-he Conod;on
    government" it'l -the
    nineTeent-h

    'lo~Ar reol no.n1e


    iS C:hest"er ? Wnots

    This non1e?
    too-;s Rye -e l

    cent"urY-. Yov.

    probably

    stv.d;ed h;s
    STory in

    history
    closs
    in
    s<.hool .

    66

    &ACK TOANNE

    Oh yeoh.

    funny
    version
    of t-he
    story?
    Q.

    I've bee .... thi..,king obov.t


    Tho-r com ........enl' your
    step-I'Yiom
    rYlode
    obou't
    me .

    Yeoh, he's s-till


    And why iS he

    Becou.se
    1-le gotrejected.
    Be co use
    he needs

    sorneo..,e
    TO be

    in

    Jove

    wiT~-\

    him.

    61

    CHAPTER 6

    WithotAT

    they're insectAre -- t-rhey

    " I love
    you> " l-Ie
    fo.lls
    O.P.O.rt.
    Tl-'IG\'t'S
    why

    o.ffirr"r"~ing

    voice
    so.ying

    r"'eed "to nG\ve

    so ..... eone

    tho.t they're
    IOVG\ble.

    people
    "to b e

    .--eeGt

    11"1 r o mG\ntic.

    re IG\tions .,..ips - -

    The guy who

    The 9t.A.lf who's po..ying for


    sex iSn'T using seXIAG\1

    respect
    is the
    gv.y who
    Gtoesn't"

    reiGlt"ionships to

    snore vp

    o.

    need "to
    be in o.

    fr~gile

    ego.

    r"OMG\r"'t"iC
    love

    relo.tionship.

    Well, 1 guess it's possible


    -tl-lere MIGHT be peopte
    in rOn1GII.r"'t"iC

    reiG\tions h ipS
    for o"tner
    reo.sons.

    The fo.c.t' t"'o."t you're


    r"'"\o..king o. b ig deG\1
    G\bOtAT rr"'Y

    s-rep-mom's
    co.....,ment
    mo.kes

    .....,e

    "t-hink

    m01.ybe

    sne

    wo.s

    righ"f.

    86

    :SACK TO ANNE

    Tner-e's

    O.Yiorl-ter
    girl wno
    works

    here--

    if you
    WO.YIT

    to

    see ner

    so metime,
    it's oko.y
    wi-th

    me.

    89

    Her- fac.e is reas onably


    attractive, but "those
    boobs look t-oo fake
    for n'lY lrkin9.

    91

    CHAPTER 7

    Snes
    obviously
    really
    caref... l - -

    "this ;s
    ver-y

    tnorough

    iYISpectiOr't.

    HARDER .'
    fASTER .'
    OH

    GOD.'

    LIKE

    THAT!
    fASTER.'

    9Z

    Fine.
    She
    WQS
    n;ce..
    but"

    -those

    fake
    were

    breasts
    ~i5t"t..crbing .

    Yot..cr brec:As~s feel


    -the way breasts
    snot.Aid. Yov:re never
    going
    to get

    breOt s~ -

    i rw'lpl~n1'S

    are

    yov.?

    CHAPTER 8

    I do"''t know. They're


    as firon as
    -they once
    wer-e -- I

    can 'tell a

    difference.

    You

    shouldn't-your
    brec;\sts
    are
    perfect.

    whCllt"

    we do --

    comic-books
    like.

    "thiS.

    BACK TOANNE

    All you needed -ro so.y


    wo.s one worQ~ yes. No
    elo.bora~1'ion wGls neces.so.ry.
    Yov. didn't ho.ve -to show
    her yo tAr comic.

    She ASkEP me -to give her


    one of ""'Y comic.S. So I
    go.ve ...,er -the -first
    ;ssv.e of

    Re'.

    95

    CHAPTER 8

    No. It's .-.o"t nc:;uo( "to


    imQgine -thQI"t sne

    migh-t no't

    nQve

    "tnQT much

    interes-t

    i.-. nis'tory

    QnO

    -therefore
    wov.loll"''t

    ho.ve
    found a

    inl'eresting.

    I G4iGtn'f" WQnt "to ptAT ner on


    -the spot ;f sne d;ddr l;ke
    it. She WQS
    probQbly
    being
    di,:?lomotic
    in no't
    so.y<ng
    Qny-t&,;ng .

    I'd. rtQVe -to know. I'd


    nQVe O.Skeo( ner.

    lodking -- 9ettin9 To know

    -the girls o bit-- it'" jtAst


    odds "to -the w"iole
    experience-mo.kes i-t
    seenn Jess
    cold. Qnd.
    impersono.J.

    ideo: ;f you
    WQn't o

    sextAo.l

    experience
    tnQ't'S noT

    cold ClncA
    impersono.t --

    96

    97

    CHAPTER 9

    Heres Ot'le for


    Q girl nQmed.
    Sus01n. ine
    p~one
    nurY~be~

    indicOites
    tl-'lo't
    workssheJ~~~~
    in 'the
    s01me
    b~otnel

    <AS

    C01rlo..

    How did yo~..A expec.t


    me -ro look ?

    don't look
    wo.y I WQS
    expect-ing
    yOt..A "1"0

    took.

    Wno:t tit-s ! She's go-r -the

    body of

    o.

    Plo.ytYT~o'te.

    c.f<ASSic PIQyboy

    And s he's
    got Qn
    oko.y fcu:e
    -too. No't
    greOit..
    bu-t

    oko.y.

    She's licking <AI'ld sucki1119


    my bo.IIS -- I wish
    sne would.,t- d.o
    -tho"t. l't seef'l"ls

    unso.f'e . But- i t

    would feel
    <Awkward

    to tell
    her 'to
    stop .

    96

    SUSAN

    lhey F~EL reo.l, bVt"t they


    look too gooc< to be -true.

    No, they fel-t od~ -- yours


    feer ... breo.st-l;ke.

    99

    CHAPTER 9

    I'm looking ~'t o. web-site


    wl-eere johns wril"e rev;ews
    of prostit-ute s.

    Yeo.h, l;ke, which girls CAre


    pretty, which ones o.re c.Agly,
    wno.'t they'll do sexually_.
    o.tl t-no.t sort" of stuff.

    Ex01c:tly -- it 's like movie

    There Olre o. whole bunch


    of these prostitu'te-review
    web- si-res. I so.w o.n Qd for
    Ol"'e in
    Now..

    reviews or book revie ws.

    01nof
    -tn011"
    one

    led
    me to
    o-tl-lers.

    On, -this is 0111

    QI"'OnymOIAS --

    +.... e guys
    use foke
    nomes.

    I wov.l c:l
    ko.ve
    tno .... ghr
    tho.t most"
    johns
    wot..d dr1't
    want 'to

    be pt..tblic
    aboi.At this
    Stt..tff.

    Anyw01y, I'm trying


    to figt.Are Ov.l" 0111 'the
    ~brevo~tions.
    ~pp~ren'tly
    me~ns

    Friend-

    - - bc.At I co.n't fi<3c.Are

    wno.'t o. 8 8 8 J
    I me~n.. it's
    obviously
    some SOI"''t

    GFE

    iS - -

    Girl-

    of blow-job
    but I

    Ex per ie"lc.e -F- S rne~ns


    Fu.II-

    co.,'t

    figure

    Servic.e,
    whic h

    OV.'t

    those
    first
    two Bs.

    meo."ls

    sex--

    tOO

    SUSAN

    TnQr "'"'kes

    condom less

    Tneres o.

    review of
    CAn Ant'le

    on here--

    1 wonder
    if it's
    o.bOI.A't
    "the

    Anne
    l'r'Y'I

    seeing.

    "Moved on to F-S d099Y

    'toned. til'1y boc:X.

    Sne st(;\rted

    Smo.ll boobs.

    juicey o.nc:;(

    Doesn't
    kiSS. C-BJ.

    t'Y'IOOining.

    Flipped

    Howe

    her over

    ho.ol
    better."

    How co.n tnis


    be dtS.'t tArbtng
    for someone

    who

    getti~'~9 reQIIy

    o.ru;(
    S'tc;\r'Ted --

    Anc:A~ ,oT To defenc:A porn, bLOT


    -there iS somethit"19 a bit cA; fferenT
    GlbOI.At thiS .
    The wornen i n
    po r n know
    t haT whaT
    They're c:;(oing
    iS for pt.~blic

    I'""' c:A;S'tlArbecA
    -thGit I waTch
    SO I'YH.ACh

    porn .

    WQ'TGh>eS

    porn

    (;\I mos-t
    2~

    hours

    COnS IA....., pTiO,.

    0.

    G(Qy?

    Well, ;t's no-r

    Prost i tt.~tes, on
    the oTher hanoi,
    expect a mec;~si.Are
    of... privGI c y and
    diScret io n
    fro...., their
    johns -don' t

    like tnese

    reviews
    01re
    printin9
    -the
    9irls'
    reQI
    nQmes.

    they?

    tOt

    don'T know. It
    jt.~st

    seem s ...

    seecAy or
    Somethin9.

    f,-;e,...ot
    of mine
    WellS
    doin9
    i1;. 01nCI
    s..,e
    convinced
    ""e ~o
    "try if".

    I worked
    G\"t -the
    ploc.e she
    worked
    for .-nQybe

    She
    WellS,

    li ke,

    " Jt.ASf" -t,-y


    it- ell few

    Cl hOIIf-yeG\r

    cAClyS -- if

    before t
    s"toa r~ed
    working
    nere wi1"h

    yot.A don'-t

    like i'f>
    yotA c~n
    '\LA if". "

    At'YtellncAQ.

    103

    CHAPTER tO

    l hey 're I; ke I'Y'IOvie rev;ews..


    only tl-tey're abotAt... girls

    J;ke

    yot..~.

    l\lo~

    I've
    never
    hec:Arci
    Glbot.AT
    this. Are

    -there
    t"'eviews

    of n-1e ?

    I wrote one of the...., . t

    I read this one site co.tted


    -the Toronto Escor-r Review
    Bo01rd 01nd~ yeo.h,. there

    only SOlid good 't h ings

    01bot.At yot..t~ of course .


    A ll of yot.Ar reviews
    are posi'tive.

    o.re severo.! t'eviews of


    yotA on

    there .

    104

    &ACK TOANNE

    stAre if I WOlrt"feci
    1"o r-eG\ol reviews
    <llbou"f me> so I
    G\Skeol o

    Diol you check


    revrew
    web-site
    -tnQt 1
    "fold you
    obou"'t?

    frie..,~

    of mi..,e.
    wno's
    Q.SO

    ;.., tnis

    btAsir~ess

    "to reod

    the""'
    for Yl'le.

    No... noT

    01-1 ye01h~ 1 thir1k


    yotA n'te..,tio..,ec:.f

    ArYlG\rtoiG\ -- 't..'HS

    friend
    ot the

    her before.

    iS

    plc:~~ce I
    use~ t'o

    She.
    looked

    G\t -the.
    reviews

    work .
    She's -the
    o.,e who

    for rYle,
    G\nd she

    con'llincecl

    bosicolly
    w hG\T
    1"he. 9tAYS

    me

    rotd. ....,e

    -to

    work
    there .

    wrore..

    She so.id, '' On my god,. I'm


    reOI.d.ing S'ft.Aff o.bot.At you
    I never knew ou1ol never
    w01n"te~ -ro kt"'ow."

    I guess SOWle of -the


    9tAYS cor~ be pretty
    e)(plic.it in their
    olescnptions.
    TnCA't's
    \A.IYtQ"t it"

    SOtAnole.ol
    l;ke. from
    wn"'-r my
    frien~
    so;ot. So I
    dioln''t 90
    on t,.,e.

    Sit-e.

    105

    CHAPTER 10

    Ye01n, ;f -the 9-tys are


    writ; n9 good "things o.bou.T
    you.> wh;c:.h they 011re in
    your case> then
    a's free
    Ci\averTiSing
    fof' you.

    No> I Think iT
    would rrtOike rrte
    uncomfor~~ble.

    But I
    9tASS

    i"t'S

    9000
    ~0

    be

    t~IJ.ced

    o.bout

    on

    there.

    Wov.ld you
    prefer ;t;f we go't
    ~o9eTher

    0.1'

    d;fferent"time of

    do.y?

    I don't' like drunk client's -they're 'the wors't. Those


    o.n~ 9t.tys wan bi9 pen;ses.

    Wnen

    1 wis"'
    all n-~y

    yo~

    work

    clients
    were

    '"' 'the
    evel'lin9S>
    very

    like
    you.

    often
    ti-le

    9UYS

    atre
    drunk.

    106

    &ACK TOANNE

    c~e't> cio.-t't"
    eve~ do tnat

    a~goin o~

    I will
    your
    f~c.e in .

    sma~s.,..

    I'm 9IO\d TO see .so...... eone . 1

    was beginning TO tlrtink


    the world hao forgot'ten

    """e.

    Who.'t you. SQid e 01rl ier


    Qbov.t FebruQ.ries odwa~ys
    being slow -- i't implies
    tho..'t you.'v e been doing
    this work for more

    I wish
    I WOIS.

    FebrtAo.rie s
    are

    always

    slow.

    1"nQn one

    Fe brt.AQry.

    10'1

    CHAPTER 10

    Well, I COin see why you


    cloim to be 18 - - yot..t
    certatinly
    look like

    I 9uess it's rt.otde to press


    01 l01dy on 01 q_uestion
    rel01ted to her 01ge, but..
    well... yo<.A're StApposed.
    -to be

    'IOtA

    18.

    COI..(Id

    be.

    I wos considering it. I'"""


    g latd I ~idn't. of COI.Arse, bu't
    1 w01s worr ied -rhat't yotA
    migh't be
    tAnoleroge .

    In f01ct, when I fir$"t SOIW


    yotA.. I w01s worried. ~ha~t
    yo<.A ..,...ig"'t be YOCAnger. I
    w01sn''t SCAre ;f t shoCAid
    s-ta~y or ,---.,.-,rl
    no't.

    Ye01h, they ..,...01ke


    Olppointme..,ts,. but'
    when I open the
    door Olrtd
    tl-ley
    OIC.tCAC).IIy
    see Wle...
    they
    m01ke
    excAses --

    --like, "Oh, I've got -r-o go to


    tJo\e bonk-matcn;ne TO get"
    money.,"
    01nd.
    then
    they

    I've 011 WQ.yS ().SSU rned.


    that they d;d...,'t find """e
    orttretctive ... but mCi\ybe 'the
    re011
    reason
    they
    lef-t
    wo.s
    'COl CASe
    "they
    thought
    I wo.s
    unoleroge.

    CCi\n'-t be bec01use you're


    unatt"trOict;ve. And you
    certCi\irdy m011'cn
    'the desc.roption
    in your
    Qd.

    dOrt'"t'
    COn'\e

    ba-.ck.

    106

    :BACK TOANNE

    11-lelt" I"YYokes ......,e feet


    bett"er. I know , ......, not"

    ,_....,..._.every guy's
    -type> but"

    you still
    feel~

    bit b~d.
    when it

    see n-1 s
    tike.

    youre

    being

    rejected.

    109

    (O~I~ yOU 9iVe n'le 0

    descrip-tio n of

    your~e lf

    I'm 22, 110


    po~Anc:ls,

    IVe got an
    o.thletic
    body~ I
    look l;ke

    a model,
    Q
    very
    sensuc:d
    person .

    , ,.,

    111

    CHAPTER 11

    Chestel'", J'm sol'"ry-- so..,.,e-th i ng

    CC\,....,..,e I.Ap. I'll be t,_,ere soon .


    Give me ten more

    OkGly> bu't

    I've been
    "'Glnging

    out- il'l the


    doYlu"t

    shoP. -roo

    1011'19
    now.

    I don''t wa n"t
    "tO buy c:tnot-her
    donut> so I'm

    going to be
    outside on 'the
    r'IOr'th -e c:tst
    corner.

    lnG\t- guy keeps looking o't


    me. Is he G\ cop ? 1$ this
    some kincA of
    sting?

    t12

    WENDY

    How I"Y''tACh
    longe r iS
    she 9onnCA
    be? r
    should

    jUST

    leove
    now.

    A bit" on -tlrle el-l ~Abby Side.-bod -teet-h-- t1o"t ""91y, blAT


    not" re01lly
    gooc(looki""9
    ei-ther.
    Do I
    wonT
    t"o
    wolk
    QWGI'y

    I'J'VI so
    sorry
    for
    be i n<3o

    Well ~

    she
    seei'Yis

    l~te .

    frie..,dly,

    I wos

    Qnd it's not

    h01vin9

    like she's
    hic(eOI.AS.

    problems
    wi-th "''1 IGI'neUord.

    I'm

    SO

    sorry.

    un.., would you


    7"'_ _.,. mind giving ""'e
    +he money now ? I need
    ;t- "to p~y the desk-clerk

    tt3

    CHAPTER 11

    And
    could
    you
    WG\it

    over

    by
    door?
    H'l~i"

    YeCln, I'"' gonn~


    for -the roo .........
    then I'll come
    ge-t you .
    I don'-t
    VJG\nt +he
    desk- clerk
    to see
    you.

    So I'"' s upposed
    -to w~i"t ou-t

    p~y

    nere by

    .__ _~"tl-'lrougn t-h~t


    Side- door:

    ""h~-t

    entre-nee

    wh;le

    you
    St()y
    nere.

    Af-ter I'v e pGllid for +he


    room, I' ll le-t you in

    Oh, you know

    tn<:At

    door?

    J'"" going
    -to go in
    -the front

    ? It's

    okay. Why don't you jus-t


    Col'Y'Ie in

    wii'h

    l'l'1e ?

    tH:

    WENDY

    \ . _.

    "

    He
    thot,\gh"t
    you
    were my
    boyfriet"''d.

    Oh, you know


    ? I forgot-

    wh~t-

    to bring

    condoms.

    115

    CHAPTER 11

    Thi s is t~rnin9 in -to a


    bit of 01 n01ssre . I -think
    I'm just
    90in9 to 90
    horne.

    Are

    you

    sure

    I con't' dO
    anything for

    yotA?

    I was il'l
    sue h a
    ru sJ,>
    Olo'ld

    'tOciC\y

    has

    been

    such

    o
    cra-zy
    day

    for
    me.

    116

    WENDY

    117

    GlfWGlyS

    so

    quie"t

    w,_.,en
    you

    COI'Yie.

    It-'s

    nG\rd
    -to

    t-e II

    when

    yoi.A're

    f;n;sl-,ecA.

    119

    CHAPTER 12

    Hey, i-t
    looks l;ke.
    some one's

    on

    1-,er

    period.

    Relax, I'm
    noT bothered
    by Q little
    blood.

    'lolA t.Ase one of those


    men$Tri.AQI spon9es.. right

    l&-,e very firs1' G(Qy I did.


    -this work I 901" nny period
    ri9ht" before. my f;rsr
    customer arrived. .

    1 promise
    l'l'VI not
    90in9 -to

    write.
    about"
    -this on
    Terb.

    120

    &ACK TOANNE

    It WG\S -the first" time


    t.ASed one, al"'d I was
    worried -that" s o""'e
    blood

    freaki..,q ou-r and


    -r~ is ! " Bt.A"t
    ol"'e of the other girts
    gave me a s po..,ge.
    I w~s
    s~;c(, "

    I CGln'f' do

    would
    COWle

    -throt.Ag~

    Q.nyway,
    but it
    workeo(
    fine.

    I was tot~lly panicking- "On ""Y god, nr never get"


    this sponge out!" But of

    Bc..-t then ~t the enoC of


    the day I couldn' -t get it"
    ou-t -- it" was stuck

    course 1 did get


    Even"tw"lly.

    in

    -there .

    Wha-t do
    you do

    be-tween
    cl ients ?
    Do you
    ge-t
    bored

    Are there ever times when


    something really dramatic
    is about to happen il"l tne
    soap you're
    watc'-'iing --

    121

    iT O<A~

    CHAPTER 12

    Isn't -th0\1"

    O\nnoyin9?

    A bit. No-r
    rectlly.

    Amc;\noG\'S
    wo<t-chin9 "too~
    and she fills me

    on wh(;\tever
    I YYliSS.

    T..,e

    lo ~t

    few 'times
    I've seen
    Anne I' ve

    felt err~pty
    ofterwQrds.

    122

    &ACK TOANNE

    Are the people who believe


    in roma nT ic tove righT ?
    Do yo(,( n eeol
    SOn"te SOrT of

    comrnitrnen1"
    for a sexua l
    relationship
    to stay
    satisfying?

    lZ3

    -.

    CHAPTER tz

    There i t iS G\'3G\in -- -thG\"t'


    emp-ty feeling. MQ.ybe

    1 jus-t neevt
    -to see
    soW~eone

    else.

    If J'I'YI

    in 01

    - - G\nd G\S fo.r o.s W~y sexlife goes, l'wt enjoyil"'l'3 it'.
    Wheres 1-he criSiS ? This
    iSn't' G\ crisis, it's the
    wisdowt of G\ge.

    criSiS, s houlo(n't

    I feel like I'W~ in 01 cr;s; s ?


    I'm persOnG\IIy nCAppy~
    !:ml'mr.........._
    work-wise I'""

    proo(u.ctive --

    iiii-...~

    124

    BACK TOANNE

    After- all these year-s I now


    r-ecognize w"'a"t makes me
    ho.ppy G\na hG\ve ch~nged
    my life accordin9ly.

    Romantic. love

    iS

    bulls'-tit;

    anol l'n-t no"t going -to

    was~e

    any mor-e t;wte chaSil'lg

    T"'is is

    obvio~.Asly

    del;cate subjec-t

    for- SOMEbody.

    t25

    if.

    Yeah ... uh ...


    nice 'to

    Di~ne. It's

    meet-...

    l't doesn't-

    yo<.c.

    sound like
    you n~ve
    -th~"t noi'Yie
    me.-noriz.ed

    yet-. J 9uess

    yov..
    ho.ven'i"
    been

    working

    here
    long.

    121

    I hoven-t? I
    me01n .. . uh ...

    who"t?

    CHAPTER 13

    I CQn't" -- I don'-t--

    Is she on
    drugs? She
    seen1s kind

    ---~~I CG\n't find .-ny


    pGln"t ies. f had

    tnern before

    of O~T
    of i"t.

    1"1-le

    las-t
    guy

    ~AJhO

    WG\S

    here--

    It wouldl'l''t su,-prise me .

    1 heG\r t-l-lo1' t-ne re G\re lots


    of pQnty-fet-isa.,;s-ts

    out "there.

    IZ8

    DIANE

    129

    DG\nielle's no't ;..,


    toc:l<>y. Sl-le'fl be
    ' " on MondG\y~

    we hcwe
    several other
    girls working
    tod.o.y.

    blAt

    Th01nl<s, bv.t"
    Da.-.;e lie's t~e
    one I w01nt"
    -to see. I'll
    CG\11 bG\ck on
    MondG\y.

    13t

    CHAPTER 14

    How long
    h"'ve yot.A
    been doing
    'this
    work?

    I mo.de more money

    Three yea.rs. Bu't I t!a.ven' t"


    been here -tho.t whole
    -time . I st"a.rre~ off
    cloi ng ou.t"ca.IIS.

    d.oin9 out-calls
    "thon I do

    working here,
    bLAt I prefer
    being here.

    Why?

    Anot ;.., be-t w e e"' cl ient"s


    we ca.n wa.t'ch T-V or
    u.se the computer. Ws
    much nicer wo.y
    of workin9 .

    It 's less iSolo.ting workilflg

    ;.., o plo.ce like this wi"tJ.l


    other girl s .

    132

    DANIELLE

    Take
    ;t
    easy,

    Sook-

    'f;~-

    l'n-t

    not"

    use~

    "to

    thiS
    vnu.c h

    fewuJ~Ie.

    contact".

    Are you 90nno

    V101ve lunch

    wi-th
    u.s,. Sook-Y;n ?

    How's Sook-Yin
    get-t-ing o./on9
    with her new
    boyfriend?

    Are yotA

    k;~~;n9

    I'm

    enjoying
    ""Y

    sex- life
    w01y too
    rnvch
    t"o be
    jeolovs.

    133

    Are you. stilt

    get-t;ng <Along

    witl, Sook-'lin ?

    CHAPTER 14

    TH15 15

    THE ~EST
    BLOW - JOP>

    OF M'V

    Uf!

    Uti~ girl
    was Kindo.
    Silent' o.nd
    SCAlfen

    before
    we got'
    undressed,
    but' now
    she's going
    wtlcl!

    135

    CHAPTER tS

    136

    JOLENE

    S&.,es

    delibera~tely

    pfOICing

    her hoir
    over
    her

    foe e.

    Who't o contros't --

    so energe-tic

    while sucking
    "'"Y

    cock.

    bu't
    now
    it 's

    li ke

    she's

    de a~ d .

    ln ste01d I'll jus't


    moke 01n effor-t
    to come 015

    q,tAickly

    G\S I

    COin.

    I gc,cess she wos


    1-tor~ to get "'"e
    come duri ng
    The blow-job

    so tho t I
    would..,'"t
    fuck her.

    l"r--'--r:::i.L

    137

    YeCAh~

    I' ve been
    bc.csy Wi-th ThiS

    Qno( 'tho1" -- work


    and wha"f- not'.

    MQybe -the reCAson

    I'd been feelin9

    ernp'ty CAf'ter

    seei"'9 ner
    WG\S ThG\'t
    I'd been
    seeing
    her too
    often.

    139

    CHAPTER 16

    Sc.ratc"'
    Tho"t

    theory.
    1'..-n

    feelin9
    e l'l'\ Pr-y
    019GHn.

    ti-0

    Unfriendly
    no't very >
    P,ret-'ty _. no
    blow-job --

    11-l

    th;s is Ch ester -- I ho.v e


    "'"' appoin'trYtent f o r
    twe lve?

    I',.., in my car
    r ig ht now,
    o n ..ny w ay.

    I'll be the r-e


    i n t- wet1ty
    m ; n LAtes --

    c a ., yo tA
    wa i t ?

    --

    r-- . '

    CHAPTER 18

    ./ D-.
    ...
    /

    /
    /

    Hi Che-~-ter, ,.,.....
    sorry for keepi""9 you
    wt:liting -- +..,ere were
    SOWle unexpected
    tn"ffic problems.

    No+

    +nQt-

    fQr--

    in

    I live

    w_.

    I wan+ To WliJ"'iwtize +he

    chGtnce t..,Gtt one of ""Y

    clients will be someone


    I know.

    GWENDOLYN

    wo.s very
    friendl y
    before
    the sex
    started>
    but
    now her
    fo.ce is
    like on
    i"'po.ssive
    mosk.

    ~ - 01

    Anci s he'S

    t"'Ot >V~O.king

    o.

    sound. -- she's not oc-ting


    like she's enjoying -th is.

    pros1'i'tu"te who's not

    going "to put on o show


    pretending
    f'o enjoy Qn
    experience

    -thaf'

    she's not

    enjoyi ng.

    I-t's

    honest.

    A legit

    massoge parlour

    oro.
    rub-and-1"ug ?

    14-5

    CHAPTER 18

    It's tess work to jus"t


    ho.ve. sex wi-th the guys
    ins-teo.cA of ""O.SSG\'3in9
    them.
    And
    you
    n'lo.ke.
    more
    money
    t-oo.

    I noticed you cho.n9ed your


    o.d. "to reo.cA,
    "9entlernen
    All of my
    over "thir'ty
    friends o.re in
    only'~ Why? their twenties.
    I wo.n"t to
    rno.ke sure
    tho.t none of
    thew. codf

    me.

    No, but I ho.d o. close


    COl II. A guy phoned
    ond I re.co9ni'2.e~ hiS
    ho.d
    voice -- he wo.s o.n
    01
    ex-boyfriend of
    client
    l'l"'ine.
    who
    turned
    out
    to be
    someone
    you
    knew?
    Ho.ve

    I diS9uised n1y

    you
    ever

    voice and told him

    I chQr9e 600 for


    o. ho.lf-hour.

    14-6

    GWENDOLYN

    lhis iS ""Y fift-h


    -time wi't,., her,
    Qnd her feo\ce
    is still
    like 01
    WIOISk

    durin9

    sex.

    ~7

    Not G\S
    beG\'-t"tiful

    Yov. brov.9h1"
    o book--

    G\S

    whG\ t

    Gwendolyn

    bu-t s-till

    Oh. Does
    JohnSon
    think -the

    G\re you
    r-eG\ding?

    Civil WG\r
    stort ed
    over
    slavery
    or

    G\"t"tractive,
    and wh~T

    o boo4y - -

    t01rrif s?

    she is
    S"tG\cked!

    J49

    CHAPTER 19

    Not this

    c;\901in.

    I should
    tell her -to
    s top. Bu-t.
    like with
    tho."t '3irl
    StASOin, I~

    feel
    awkw01rcA
    aboi.At

    it.

    150

    ALEXIS

    And

    cii~

    you use

    1"h~ r'lG\rYI~
    S~ASQn

    wJ-.en
    you.

    ~Norked

    -there?

    J5f

    Here are 1'he


    rt.Aies: no
    kiSSing on
    rnou t 1-1--

    -- no di99ing for
    no dinin9
    at t'he Y --

    --

    aY~d

    we

    lASe

    a condo"'

    for everyrni..,g inclt.Adit"19

    gold~

    the blow-job.
    I s t'nQr fine ?

    153

    CHAPTER 20

    not 9e"t1"ing an erection.

    Is ;t me ? You don't
    find me o'ttroctive.

    This c:tirl jus't isn't


    turning

    me

    on.

    No, it's me. I come too easily,


    so before I have sex I
    masturbate so i'hat I'll be
    C\ble to IC\St
    longer,
    bur
    doing

    If I nQdn'"t
    jerked
    off rigJ,t
    before
    COmin'3
    over
    here>

    i'hC\t

    I'd

    hQ.ve
    9otten

    can r'Ylake
    it more

    diffic.,.lt
    to ge'ii' on
    erec-tion.

    an

    erec.rion
    easily.

    l5t

    ThC\t n"''okes
    me feel a bi-t
    bet1er.

    lS5

    CHAPTER 21

    You give
    me or01l>

    t-he.., we
    howe

    sex.

    Why DID

    I 9ive her
    01 -tip ?

    lS6

    She's CV\te i~n


    on ove..-o.ge
    wo.y blAT
    not I'Y'IY
    type. A"'~
    -thiS iS

    ...,.._ _,,

    o. very

    Yl"''edioc..-e
    blow-job.

    Tnol"''ks for

    trying, blAt
    it looks
    like
    J'Wl not

    I feel
    like I've

    going

    let you
    down-J,i ke I
    didn'-t
    do I'YlY
    job
    properly.

    to be

    o.ble -to
    get o.n

    e..-ection.

    151

    CHAPTER 22

    l't reolly wo.sn'-r your fo.v.lt.


    I rno.de The rnis'to.ke of
    jerking off.m~----~

    before

    COI'ning

    over.
    'lov.
    see, I

    corne
    TOO

    eo.s;ly,

    so
    before--

    158

    Well~

    things Qre

    -- Qnd

    9etting serious
    wi+n S~eve--

    weve been "tGiking

    o.bot.tT hi""
    Bv.T.. you

    know..
    it's o.

    Srrto.ll

    house,

    Ql'\d,
    well ...

    I feel

    -rerr ible
    asking

    this--

    lS9

    I"YYOVir'lg

    in ,ere.

    CHAPTER

    It'S

    ok~y.

    Z~

    tAnderst~nd.

    I'll

    st~rt"

    lookit"tg

    for
    O.f"'other
    pl~ce

    TO

    live.

    I think I CQn 01fford.


    to buy Q plotce.
    There's ~ sm~ll
    ,-ow- house for
    SGlle rignt n eQr
    5ook-Y;ns.

    -I'd hove

    to geT a.
    mort901'3e.
    TI-le.
    dOWt"t-

    p~y""et"tT

    will

    wipe
    OUT

    ""'>'

    5otVi "''35~
    bv.1' I

    co. tied

    Cl-lriS --

    -- btA1' I sholA lei be

    ~ble to
    m01ke it. And if I get re01lly

    - - e~,c:A he Ci\Ssured ""e -th01t


    he'll be e~ble to pc::Ay me

    regulc::Arl y for

    ~while.

    desperQte> Sook-Yin Sc::Ays


    she'd lend me money.

    I'll

    be living hOind -to-mo~Ath


    for CA bit --

    160

    THE MOVE

    The

    Je(;\s~

    she could.

    do ? It's not"
    like s he's
    done
    Qnyt"hing
    wrong
    here.

    It's complerely understc;\nd.oble


    thot' sne would. Wc;\nf TO
    live in her own house
    wi-th her new
    boyfriend. 01nd.
    WITHOUT on

    ex- boyfrienol
    r~~~~~~ hc;\nging
    ~-It:!
    orounol
    oil the.

    -----

    "time.

    I coiled. you

    yesteroiCAy
    obou-tQrronging (;\
    n"'OrtgCAge --

    161

    CHAPTER

    l'n'l 90in9 1"o

    Sook- Yin ...

    t6Z

    2~

    THE MOVE

    163

    CHAPTER

    I'm depressed becQu.se


    no-t going to be living
    Sook-Yin

    o.n y more.

    2~

    As much o.s I like


    Sook- Yin, -tnis
    is

    HER

    house-hc;wing
    ""Y own

    .......c..Ju."""-.,p...~_,..........._J.N..._...

    W"'y

    would
    -thinking
    Qbout'
    living by
    l'nyself
    mQke

    plo.ce

    w i ll
    give

    l'ne<'~

    no.ppy?

    me

    feeling
    of
    sect.4ri-ty.

    And living on

    And I'll be Qb#e

    can 1-lQve
    peo.ceful.

    prostirutes
    come -to

    one's own

    1'0 YJQVe OUtCQfl


    G\

    me--

    MediTQ'tive

    won' T
    ho.ve
    1'0 90

    q_w"l it'y.

    OU't TO

    i nCQifS
    o.nymore .

    16~

    THE MOVE

    Ho.ving my own
    pl~ce iS gon n~

    pret1"y good.

    Mo.ybe I con work W'y way

    I've been depressed beco.use

    I've been focusin'3 on the

    out of t-his depression by


    blockin9 out tnou9hts of
    the po.st and
    focusin'3

    po.st and how


    n~ppy

    be

    wo.s
    Jivin'3
    witn
    5ook:-Yin.

    instead

    on now
    greo.t

    ho.vinc:3

    own
    place

    W'Y

    will

    be.

    It's smal l

    but

    cosy.

    165

    CHAPTER 2:5

    166

    think I

    COin

    Qfford

    to st01r't see i n9
    prostitutes
    01901in.

    I 9uess I'll

    I wonder

    see
    else.

    l-\01ve -to

    if

    1
    ,.--.,... "",___

    someone

    Gwendolyn
    woulcA

    do
    outc01ll
    sessions?

    167

    CHAPTER 24

    There are.
    They're o.ll
    good.

    I'll 90 over to

    Terb and
    see ;f -the,.-e
    are any

    Everyone.

    of her.

    she's

    -thinks

    reviews

    greo.t.

    If / '"" 90in9 to '-leAve

    o.

    prostitute come here~ I'd


    bette,.. clean up this

    place.

    166

    JENNA

    169

    CHAPTER 24

    She's o.ctuo.lly

    Accordin9 to the
    reviews on Terb>
    she 9ives her
    clie ....ts bo.re
    back blow

    kisSi~"~9

    tne .,.,outh!
    This is the
    first tin'le o
    O~"~

    P.rosti"tute
    no.s

    jobs.

    ~iSSed
    YY~e.

    sure enou'3h, it
    l oo~s

    l;ke

    she's about

    to

    put

    ~"~"~Y

    condo.,., less
    cock in
    her

    YnOtAth .

    ThQt WG\S

    incrediblethe best
    sex J've

    eve r pG\id
    for.

    o.heQd. The "towels tho.t


    are pi led up o.re
    all cleG\n-u se

    wn ic.l-\ever
    one you
    wont.

    170

    JENNA

    I feel e1ll
    9iddy

    01nd

    excited.

    171

    I -thoughT I wos going -to see


    Jenno ogoin, bu-t this gir-l
    ki-tty hos
    been
    get-'ting
    reolly

    good
    r-eviews,
    -.l:i:?;:=;;;~
    onc:l she's
    o lot- less
    expensive
    -than

    Jenn01.

    173

    CHAPTER 2S

    17~

    Come on,

    I'm worth it.


    I promise

    you won't be
    disappointed.

    l7S

    CHAPTER 26

    --and

    Twen"ty
    ,.,.;nutes

    I've Or"'ly

    have
    passed

    P.CAicl

    fo,.

    G\

    hCAif- hour.
    D<"n

    G\nd
    weve
    spen"t
    t-he

    SG\va~ge

    whole

    wrot-e
    -thCAt- one

    TG\Ikil'l9 --

    ''leT her

    should

    t-iw.e

    leCAd "--

    --bu1' in t,.,is
    SitUG\"tion I

    don'~

    think

    CAnything
    sexv.a~. l will
    hG\P.pen

    unless

    I "tG\ke

    'the

    lea~d .

    176

    LARISSA

    co... Jd you have her

    call me when she


    gets out ?

    Your
    driver
    ca llecf.
    He.

    wants

    you to
    CQif

    hi m .

    177

    CHAPTER 26

    -3reG\'t. It's o.

    con"e"' i en't.

    Who.t were
    YOIA doin9
    before?

    Wnen I s o.w o.
    I'd 90 To ner
    o.pCU'"Tn"'enT.

    Some-times~

    And often it's more Tho.n

    live in one.
    apG\rTmenT

    one woman working ouT

    of the

    and work

    of 0.
    differenT

    OIAt

    one.

    l7{)

    SOin'le

    o.po.r'tmenT.

    LARISSA

    Whe-tner johns are violent


    or nor~ it would dis-turb me
    to have
    the we
    WG\Ikin3
    in the
    same

    And it's rare for johns -to


    be violenT. There's probably
    more violence in
    ~p~rt"men-ts

    cont"O!ining
    rom~nt"ic

    couples
    thG\n i n

    hG\IIWG\y ~~~
    G\S me.

    G\P.G\r"T' W~ent"S

    1'h01t
    prostituTes
    work
    OUT of".

    If I

    They're creeps. Wno


    knows wnar -tj,ey're
    cap01ble of ?

    h~d

    a d~ughter I'd be

    worried abouT wh01T would


    h~ppen

    if she

    in
    -the s~me
    elevator
    G\S one
    of those.
    9uys.
    w~s

    I know YOU'RE
    oko.y, buT you' re
    no-t -the -typical
    guy who po.ys
    for
    s e x.

    I 'M one of -those


    yov. really
    -tl-tink
    d1ildren

    o.ren'-t
    so.fe with
    me in.
    elevo.-tors ?

    You can'-t d e ny +no-t

    ber I'WI close


    the typic.OII
    john ;s l;ke.
    I'll be-t o.
    lo-t of johns
    ore rnildI'll

    there are johns who


    do Terrible +hings
    -to prostitu-tes-beo.-t t-hen'l,
    even

    m~nnered

    kill

    +hem.

    in-trovert"s--

    179

    CHAPTER. 26

    Tninking tl-lot" kind of guy


    represent-s ti-le t"ypicol john
    is l ;ke thinking
    t-hot
    ~~-----.
    quys who
    beot or
    murder

    t-heir
    wives are
    f'ypicol

    husb~nds.

    And you do tho.t despit-e t-he


    foct thot one of your best
    frienots iS o. john. You of
    o/1 people
    ~'''""'""
    should

    ha~ve

    more

    open
    ""'ind
    obout
    this .

    I guess I ho.d the

    friends . I had ~~,.,r-.


    some friends
    who were
    doncinq in
    strip-clubs~

    so I
    started
    do.ncing.

    And then some


    knew were
    doinq t"his
    work, and
    f"hey were
    mo.kinq
    LOTS of
    money.
    so I
    si"o.rted
    doing
    if".

    I f;ke this better.

    I hat-ed ho.vinq to

    nustle in dubs.

    160

    LARISSA

    You know> +he girls


    qo from guy "to guy
    osking if -they
    by
    Wor"~t donees. If
    hustle ? you. were refllfly
    G1'3gressive you could
    "'lQke o lot of
    money.

    But I wosn''t
    I'"" o.ctt.tolly
    kind of shY.,
    so I ho-ted

    And of-ten I'd feel

    -- a..-.d tho"t reolly he'd


    ro+her hove o

    J.1oving

    -to keep
    going up
    to guys
    ond
    pester
    them.

    if Q guy
    soid I could
    give him 01
    dance. he'd
    be so.ying
    yes just
    beco.u.se
    l-Ie fe l-t
    sorry for

    donee from
    blonde with

    .----.,...n

    big boobs.
    Thi S work is
    d;fferer"~t - mv od so.ys
    who"t I
    look
    like--

    me--

    -- SO I kt"'OW

    01

    And -the
    one-on-one

    -tho't

    who like petite


    girlS wi'th
    smoll boobs
    ore phoning

    in"terc~ction

    j ust see""s
    more
    relaxed
    ancl nice

    t'Yle. If'

    doesn'-t
    bring up
    +he same
    ki..-.d of
    insecUJrity.

    in

    o.

    Si'tuo'tion

    like this
    "thQn

    if' did in

    the clubs.

    When I

    WQS

    o kid, I

    didn't know what"

    sex wos> let o.lone


    prostitution .

    161

    CHAPTER 26

    I com't" remember w.,o:t I


    -thou:Jh"t of pros-ti-tunon

    when I

    w~s ~

    If you

    could h~ve
    looked ;..-.~o
    the future
    am. seen
    -th~t you
    would.

    teen.

    becoW~e Q

    whoremon9er;
    wouldn't you
    nQVe been
    horrified ?

    Well. don't
    you owe
    1t "to ~he
    person

    i~ "to my youn9er
    self t-o drop W~Y caree r as
    o. cart'oonis~ o.nd qo "to
    university "to st'udy
    paleo..-.tology ?

    I wo.nted "to be
    a poleon"'tologist

    when I was

    Do I owe

    kid.

    you were

    't"hen t'o
    live t-ne
    life he
    would
    "-o.ve

    wo...-.ted
    you to
    lead ?'

    As

    on

    odul~

    I hove ZERO

    Sure, I ferven-tly
    believed in
    romantic love
    wJ..en f wos

    interest in paleontology. l'..n

    not going
    t'o become a
    pofeo,.,t'olog ist
    now -to
    fulf;ll a
    childhood

    01

    wt-tirn --

    tho.t'

    would be
    idio~ic.

    162

    kid--

    LARISSA

    -- blAt I'd hClld no a.c.tuCAI


    experiences with sex or
    rornCllnce. I believed in

    -- and because everyo"'e


    CAround. me believed. ;.., it.
    Now thCAt
    I'm older
    and I've
    acttAClllly
    been
    -through
    the

    roPY~antic.

    love

    bec<Ause
    ""'Y

    culture

    WellS

    telling
    me to
    believe
    in i t - -

    roma..,tic

    love mill
    sever"' I
    times- -

    Roma.ntic love couses


    t"?10re misery thCAn

    -- I'm in o. better

    assess it- th01.., I


    I wa.s 01

    hCAppiness.

    teenCAger.
    Now I
    CClln see
    thQt -the
    romCAntic.
    love

    ideol s

    CAc.tu<AIIy
    evil.

    Think of a.ll the single


    people who long for love
    a.nd oare misera.bfe becCAuse
    -they c01n'-t find it.

    Mo.ny of the,., go their


    whole lives in tnCll"t
    miserable s ta.te .

    - - and. tl-ten they're miserClble.


    They think they're mis erable
    becCluse they're with the
    wron9
    person
    instead of
    reolizing
    that the
    romontic
    love ideo/
    itself is
    impossible.

    Righ"t, <:And then they're


    happy for "' little
    h;le -- a. few mon-ths
    or years-- until
    reality hits--

    10~

    CHAPTER. 26

    It's natural for us To


    experience lovin9 f ee lin9s
    for many people and "to
    experience sexual desire
    for many

    It's impossible for one person

    to meet" all of our emol'ional


    ond sexua l needs.

    people .

    And I ho.ven'-t even


    ment-ioned yet t-he
    that" ensues . - - - ----\
    when
    couples
    break up.
    Rorno.n"tiC
    love
    COH.ASeS
    more
    misery

    Covples who remain


    nappy to9ether -for
    tne lon<3 t"er"' 01re
    very rare.

    tj.,G\n

    h01ppi,.,ess.

    Time
    to make a,.,
    appoin-tmenT
    To see
    lariSSQ.

    Tha-t's Q
    diSCllppoinTment".
    I wonder
    where sne's
    disappeared
    to. I hope.
    she's
    ok01y.

    164

    The pho'to of ~hi~ 9irl


    Arlene looks qrea~'t, bu't'
    there 01re no
    reviews of ..uJ..J.~~'".:,
    her on
    Terb.

    165

    CHAPTER 27

    Are +he
    pho"to'3ra phs
    on your
    web-si"te
    reol ?

    If t-he

    9irl wno

    snows

    doesn'-t

    up

    look l ike
    t-he 9irl
    in -the

    photo9raph>
    I'll send
    -r-ra::~-r

    her
    bock.

    l+'s noT +h e 9irf in The

    pho"to, b ut s h e's still


    cu-re . She looks youn9.

    166

    ARLENE

    We II> s"'e's

    Yot.A

    l;ke
    the
    9irf

    not" -the

    same Sirl

    OS

    -ta.,e

    one in

    You
    wOint

    ta.,e

    phot"o~

    but I like

    to

    her-- sne

    send
    her

    COin

    back ?

    st"oy.

    If I'm not hurting her; whYdoes she keep soying "ow"?


    6y her faciQI expression it
    lOOKS like
    she's in
    poin.

    167

    CHAPTER 27

    ThQt she seems

    "to

    be

    in pQin

    iS kind of 01 "turn-on for me,


    bu-t I G\lso f ee l bG\d for her.
    l'rY1

    9onnG\

    cut

    -thi s
    short
    01nd
    come
    quickly.

    186

    A,-e you
    90if'19

    to be
    keep;.-,g
    Y.OUr

    bro

    Or'l .-~

    169

    CHAPTER 26

    Those o.re
    beo.urifuf.
    E.veryrhing
    o.bOI.At'

    you is

    l:)eo.u.Tift.AI.

    She's rn01kin9 eye- con"t01c"t

    with n1e
    durin9 "the

    sex - - 1'10
    ot-herprostitut-e

    tho.t I've
    bee,
    with

    ho.s

    done

    tho."t.

    190

    EDITH

    Did
    you
    J.(eep

    your
    bro
    on
    with

    Witl-l two of -them


    I mono.geol t-o
    keep it on.

    tJ,em ?

    ShoCA I d prosti-tution be
    legalized or should it be
    decriminolizeol?

    le9Gllizo.tion
    would meon
    regulotion,
    right ?

    Ri9ht, and decrimino.lizotion


    would meo.n
    prostitution
    would
    not be
    regulo.ted.

    Yeah, I think

    ;t should. be

    regulated.

    Well,

    prostitt.tte s
    mo.ke
    money-- it's

    o.

    business,--.=~

    so it
    should be
    re9CAiated.

    191

    CHAPTER 28

    Not cllll wows


    money are
    regulat-ed.
    We make
    money as
    car-toonists,
    but"
    carTooning
    isn' t
    regulated.

    You have "to hcwe o


    REASON 1"0 regulaTe
    so...,e:tl-t i ng .

    Okoy, uh, i t should be


    regulo."ted To prevent
    violence
    againsT
    prostituTes ...

    How would le9olizotion


    prevenT violence
    o.ny better t-han
    decriminalization ?

    Re9ulo.tion
    woulci mean
    licencing - not all
    prosti"tute s
    would
    won't to
    geT
    licences.

    ,.esul1',
    mClny of
    them woulc:A
    worf< in
    -the blacf<
    morke1'.

    As a

    Re9uloteol pros t itutes


    hire priVQ'te security
    01nd go to
    the cops.
    Wom@:n in
    the blac k
    mot'ke't
    wouldn' t
    be Qb le
    to do
    either.

    Unoler le9o.liz.ation,

    r e 9ulo.1'ed
    gi rls
    would be
    safer, but
    the block
    market
    ones
    would be
    vulnerable
    to
    violence .

    192

    EDITH

    WhG\T G\bOUT
    heG\Ith?
    prosTitution
    spreG\ds

    Und.er d.ecri r"Y'linG\1 i zG\1"ion,


    ALL pros-titu-tes could hire
    securi-ty
    01nd ger
    help from
    -the police.

    S-T-Ds.

    AU.

    prosti"tu"tes
    would be
    SOifer.

    .S-T-Ds G\re G\ISO


    spreG\d Through
    unpG\id CG\StAG\1
    sex -- should -the
    governmen-t
    reguiG\te
    onenogh'ts't01nols?

    UnpG\id. extrG\-YY'IOiritGII
    sex is illegod
    in n'lG\ny
    G\re01c; of the
    world, so
    of" course
    re9uiG\tin9
    i-t is

    possible.

    Th01-t sor-t
    of regu/01-tion
    would be
    difficul-t -to
    enforce, bu-t
    th01"t'S ALSO
    true of
    re9ul01-ting
    prosti'tution.

    And
    -there's
    more unpG\id
    cosuG\1 sex
    going on
    thG\n pG\id
    sex--

    -- so if you' re reodly
    concerned G\bou-t the
    spreod of 5-T-l>s, then
    it'S unpG\id

    But you're not


    obout S-T-Ds,
    you're jus-t
    usin9 i'hem
    OIS G\n
    excuse to
    juSTify
    regul01ting
    pros-tituTion.

    CG\SUCllf

    sex H,Oit
    should
    be your
    primG\ry
    regulotory
    focus .. not
    poid sex.

    193

    CHAPTER 28

    -- then you should be


    oble to see tho:t it's o.lso
    o civil right" in po.id
    situo."tions.

    If yotA con

    bosic
    civil right"
    for two
    consen-ting
    odults "to
    be able to
    hQve sex in
    o.n unpo.id
    situo."tion -Q

    Self-expression is Q bQs;;c
    civil right. You o.nd
    I write
    Qno dro.w

    But getting pQid - - mokin9


    money -ThQt's the
    diffe~ence.

    comic-books,

    Pros1"i1"u"tion
    is a business

    o.nd our
    publisher

    o.nd.
    businesses
    CQn be

    po.ys us
    money.

    Does 'the fo.c:t tho.'t we


    get pc:Aicl for our comics
    -toke o.woy our righ't 'to

    Should -the
    governmen"t
    l-!a~ve the

    reguloted.

    self-expression?

    right 'to

    censor our
    work

    beco.use
    we moke
    I'YIOney

    from
    it?

    S..,ould we ho.ve to ge't


    licences to wrfte o.nd

    And I'YIO.king money should


    not negoTe o whore's
    rig..,t To choose To ho.ve
    sex Wi'th o.ny consen'tin9
    o.dult she
    wonts 'to

    dro.w?
    Moking

    money
    should not

    nego"te the
    co...-toonist's

    o.nd for
    who."tever
    reo son

    C.iVi I

    ~he

    ..-;ghts.

    won'ts to.

    194-

    EDITH

    She s..,ou.ld
    licence
    -to be
    G\ble -to
    hG\ve sex
    G\nd t"o
    be G\ble
    to mG\ke
    money.

    There should. be no IQwS


    or re<3uiG\tions thG\t
    vioiG\te our
    fundo.mentG\1
    rignts.

    ljlAST
    wQnt to
    rnG\ke
    sure H,o.t
    prost itutes
    are qetting
    medico. I
    CG\re .

    HeQitn CG\re is free i n


    Co.nG\dG\ -- they CG\n get G\ny
    ..-nedicG\1 CG\re they w01nt.

    Yeo.h,

    but -they
    don't all
    go to

    doctors

    on G\
    reguiG\r
    bas i S.

    You. wo.nt
    medicG\I
    treG\-tmen-t
    -to be

    FORCED

    on
    prost itutes ?

    t9S

    CHAPTER 28

    C~II'YI down. co.lrn down -he's o. good person. He:s


    just" talkin'3
    off i"he top
    of hiS heaCI.
    This isn' t

    somethin9
    he'S qiven
    o. lot o-f

    "thought
    to.

    Medical treo.'tment should


    always be voh.cnto.ry -- it
    should never be forced

    Each individual shou lcl


    be able to choose for
    1-limself or l-1erself
    the level
    of heo.hh
    risk they
    want to
    l-ake in o.
    porticulo.r
    situa-tion --

    on anyone.

    -- whether it's a
    sexu01 l situation
    whether ii"'s ...

    Yes> btxt we're -tolking


    o.bout -the right" of -the

    individual

    to make
    choices,

    including

    potentially

    unheoltl-ly
    ones.

    196

    EDITH

    Who.t o.bou"t you ? Do

    ho.ve o. 9irlfriend ?

    Bu"t love .. it... it binds


    people to9ether. Romo.n"tic.

    don'"t think
    rom01n1'ic.
    love

    love, or

    t-he love
    tho.'t
    P.o.ren'ts
    ho.ve for
    their
    children,
    or love

    iS Q

    900d

    t-hing.

    be-tween

    friends--

    -- love unites people


    in sympo.t"Yiy o.nd
    unders-to.ndif'\<.3
    o.nd .-no.kes
    t-he world o.
    better plo.ce

    "to live in.

    Who.t's the

    o.lternotive?

    197

    CHAPTER 28

    I think it's +he exclus ionary


    nature of romal"'1"ic. love
    thOit mOikes
    ;t different
    from
    other
    kinds
    of
    love .

    love iS about snarin9,


    caril"'9, and 9ivin9.
    ROMANTIC

    love ;s about
    ownin9,
    hoardin9 ,
    ond
    jealou.sy.

    When a mother hQS


    severol d'lildren, she
    loves all
    of them.
    When you
    ~-'love

    many
    friend s ,
    you
    can
    love
    all of
    them.

    I' m not sayin9


    But... btAt
    slowery
    they're the same
    was
    thin9 - forced on
    people-romantic.
    love iS
    volunto.rily
    entered
    into.

    I think it encoura9es a

    certain type of "thinkin9 :


    the desire
    to owrn
    ar1other
    P.erson.
    It's the
    impulse

    that
    s lo.very
    9rew

    out

    of.

    - - bt.A't they develop


    of the some
    rnen"tol root.
    I know I've
    feH i1' witn
    9irlfriends -" She's
    M&NE."

    I don' t" nowe


    ownership
    wi'tn my
    friends-1 know
    they have
    other
    frier1d. s.

    196

    EDITH

    I'm no-t o. pros-ti-tu."te - - I'm


    escor1", You -t~ink I'Wt
    G\ prosti-tute ?

    AncA I don'-t ho.ve


    of ownership
    with you.
    I know thG\1"
    prosti1"utes
    hG\ve
    other
    clients-+nG\-t
    yov:re
    not

    '' mine '~.

    know, uh,
    the usuo.l
    defini-tion-thot ~ s -- I
    meo.n - - ;.f
    one is poid
    for hovin'3
    sex> one

    didn'T meat.n
    TO- - -to
    offend
    you- - I-- I
    don't see
    prostitution
    G\S o
    nego-tive
    -thine;,.

    is us~.eolly

    considered>
    CAh ...

    You' re p01ying
    TIME with
    yol.4, NOT TO
    hove sex
    with you.

    If I ho.ve sex

    durin9 -the
    P.Oid for; if's
    becC\use I
    c hoose t"o,
    no-t becouse
    you' re
    poyin9 Yl'le
    1"0.

    guys you've seen

    o.s o.n escor-t,

    were t"i-1ere
    o.ny who
    you didn'-t
    ho.ve sex
    wi-th?

    199

    CHAPTER 28

    -the so.me perso.., I


    wo.s te .... yeo.rs
    o.go.. 01..,d ,.,..,
    VERY different
    from "the

    So,. yeo.h... there


    o.re rom01"'"tic.
    couples wh.o o.re
    o.bsolutely
    right for eo.ch
    ot"her o.t t-his
    mome"'"t ;..,
    time- -

    person I
    wo.s twenty
    yeo.rs ogo.

    more

    -- b~-t't those "two people 01re


    <:JOin<:J to cho..-,ge., ond it's
    tremendot.Asly
    unlikely th01t
    +h.eyre going
    'to d1o.nge
    in exoc.tly
    "the s01rne

    likely th01t
    they'll c h01nge
    ;..,to people
    who ore
    V~nsuited t"o
    eo.ch
    other--

    WOlyS.

    -- no m01tter how
    compatible they
    were o.t the

    Yes,. bt.At yOI.A con TRY to


    contint.Ae to undersf"o.nd
    your portner. And lf
    you love him
    or h.er --

    be9i11n i nc:5

    of t-heir
    relationship .

    200

    EDITH

    If I rY~et the r igl-rt guy I'd be


    hoppy to do t.,e work. It
    tokes work to get onything
    worthwhile in life..

    -- you'd be
    v.~illing TO

    rl"'Oike that
    effort.

    It's interestinc;3.
    Romantic love
    poetry only
    be91c:;~~n -to
    become
    ROPt.clar
    in the
    twelfth
    century.

    Love
    In The
    Wes-tern
    World by
    Denis de
    Rouc;3e monT.

    At oround the s ome time,


    olso '" southern Frt;lnc.e, the
    Cotnor religion wos bein'3
    suppressed by the Co:tholic
    (hurd

    201

    CHAPTER 28

    He tninks some CoftruJ~rs


    went ~nde rground" -- t-he\t
    the tro~be\~Ours were
    secretly CG\the\rs.

    Whe~"'~

    Of co~.Arse, r'Ylost people


    didn't understQnd -the
    Syi'Tibolic level --

    tne troubadours
    of love for a
    partie ular woman, it-

    sa~"'~'3

    Syi'Tibolized

    t he love
    +he\t
    one was
    supposed
    to he\ve
    for the
    divine .

    - - Ql"''d, as this new form of


    poetry became popular, it"
    9raduodly chQn9ed the WQy
    men omd women reiQt"eO.
    t-o eQch ot-ner:

    What -- love
    didt'l't" exist before
    -the twelf-th
    cent"u ry ?

    wasn't Q reason "to 9et


    married. People 9ot
    married for prQgma-tic

    -- family connections, childreorin-:3, money, land,


    house)iold manaqer'Ylent --that' sort of thine:!

    It

    reQSOns--

    202

    EDITH

    Then liter~ture spre01d


    the pernicious ide01
    01round Europe ~nd

    Ro.-n~ntic. love w~sn''t


    widely seen as ~ reatson -ro
    9et m~rried until ~fter the
    1'welf1"h centtAry.

    eventu~lly ~round

    the world.

    But I can thil"'k of liter~r y


    exo.mples of romo.l"'tic love
    before the twelfth
    ceYtttAry.

    Like I s~id,
    romO\l'ltic love

    existed before
    "the 'twelfth
    centtAry, but

    it w~sn'1'
    ideatlized. --

    --but w01s diSOtStrous in the


    long rtAn. Th~t WQS "the
    wa~y rom01ntic love Wc::;\S
    seen prior 'to i'he
    tweH+h
    cen'tt.try - -

    - - ~net -the s-tory of P~ris


    o.nd Helen is o perfect
    exo..-nple. Their love
    bro1.A9ht +hem fleetil'l9
    happiness - -

    -- it w~s seen a~s foolish,


    not some'thin'3 to build 01
    permQnent refQ'tionship on.

    203

    CHAPTER 28

    If there is

    one, I don't
    r-emer'Y'Iber
    it.

    IT was
    seen as
    foolisl-1

    Like most"

    cot.Aples
    at +hot"
    time, they
    probably
    WOt.Aid

    to
    m 01,. r y
    -for

    love - -

    I-tave
    mar-ri ect
    for

    pragmatic

    reasons.

    I'm s ure i f I knew Ol.,cienT


    litera'tlAre bet-ter I'd be able
    to come lAP wi-th example s
    w~ere romanc:.e led 'to
    marriage.

    -- blAT on c.e yot.A were


    married it was seen as a

    900d -thing TO develop 01


    stron'3 emotiOt"'al bond
    with yot.Ar

    spouse, as
    Odyssev.s
    Olnd

    Pel"lelope

    diet.

    We tenet -to think +hat


    romOII"ltic love 1-t01s ancient"
    root s, blAt" it's only gained
    widespread 01cceptance ;,.,

    I'm noT SCAyinq romantic love


    never hapP.et"'ed. Here and

    there a few colAples fell in


    love and go1" l'Yiarried,
    blAt -they
    were tl-te
    exceptions.

    the lost few


    htAndrect
    years.

    This time

    she's no-t
    n'"!Oikin9
    e ye-

    contoct-.

    Z04-

    EDITH

    Doe s n~ tha~

    throw ~..<p ~
    barrier between you G\nc:i
    yoCAr frie.r-tds ?
    I th ink
    i f I told
    the f'l'l,
    -there'd be
    an even

    Do yo.Ar- friends know -that


    yov work ~s Otn escorT ?

    bigger
    bOtrrier

    be-tween

    us.

    My friend s
    cue very
    shel-tered.
    Tl1ey would
    be very

    And quite

    frOtnkly,
    if one of
    my friends
    -told. rne.

    s"'e. was

    j ud9..-nental
    about this.

    workin9
    as G\n

    escort', I'd
    -think

    less of
    her.

    money I

    9e-t, it's
    okay.
    O.-,ty
    01bOlAT

    -two

    pe rc.en-t

    of -the
    cl ient5
    ore bOtc:i
    the rest
    are

    nce .

    Hi> IC:4 like to make


    an appoi.-,tment

    to see EdiTh.

    zos

    She's older -tha~n


    hopinq for --

    proba~\::>ly ea~rly

    thir'ties -b.._.'t she's

    a~ttra~c'tive

    eno~.A9h.

    Z.0 7

    CHAPTER Z9

    Sne seems

    nice, bu-t her


    Qccen-t is
    prett-y thick -co.-n.-nunic.Qtion
    between us
    iS kindo.
    difficult.

    Z06

    This o..,es older "too..


    but" s he's prettier
    "thon

    -the

    lost
    one,

    Qnd

    s he's

    901"

    swee-tsmile.

    I'm Ches-ter.

    -tQke

    YOtAr

    Do
    you WQn't
    COQT.

    some-thirt,9

    -to drink .
    I've. go"t

    juice or

    sof-t

    drinks.

    Z09

    CHAPTER :;o

    She

    hQSn'"t

    picked
    up her

    r'Yloney
    ye't.

    ZtO

    DENISE

    Tho:t wQS reolly


    enjoYoble. Ano
    she seems
    SrrlG\rT.

    And . ..

    Qrlc:L.

    9env.ine.

    Ill HI lUI IIIII


    IIIII Ill IIIII

    '"' "' 1111

    zu

    II Ill 1Ill I lilt

    CHAPTER

    ~0

    of -the other prostittAtes


    t've met hove h01d good
    persortQiities.
    blAT

    something
    OlbOIAT

    this one

    goes

    beyond
    tha~t.

    l'o like. to

    see Denise

    ogo;.,, bt.At
    I con'1'
    righT
    now.

    Now I hQve no tif'Yle 'to l-tove


    sex because tne Riel book's
    been pt.Abl is hed 01nd lm bt.ASY

    promotin9
    iT.

    Zl2

    At l01s-t~ tne
    the book
    iS winding
    down. I
    think I
    l-H~ve time.
    to ge't
    'to9e'ther
    with ~
    prostituTe.

    I h01ven't nG\d sex Since I SOIW

    Denise b01ck ;.,


    I

    Februa~ry.

    WOIS

    th ink inq of
    seeinq her
    01901i n :. bu't
    rn01ybe I' ll

    check t o
    see who
    else is
    OIVG\il01bJe.

    Zl3

    CHAPTER

    ~l

    This girl
    breOIS"tS
    01nd 01
    sliYn
    fi9ure.

    le't'S
    see
    wh011"

    her

    reviews

    ore

    like.

    I loved it. I was

    Thank yotA. I worked


    01t o rn01ssoge porlot..tr
    for o few years.

    of money, I
    likeol -tne
    9irls I
    workeol
    witn, I
    liked I'YIY
    re9tAiar

    clien"t5 --

    Zlt

    NANCY

    - - anci I WG\S comfort"G\ble with


    the work. I mosturbG\tecl the
    9lAYS -- I dicln't h01ve sex with
    them. , . - - - r l h.""'"'_ _ _ __..

    The cops
    raided the
    piG~ce

    01nd

    arrested

    me. I
    vowed
    that I 'd

    never be

    arrested
    Gl<3oin. I

    qt..cit the
    mossoge

    porlour - -

    Escorting's
    OKOIY~ but"

    yes, I'd

    rother be
    be b01ck
    at tne
    I'YlOISSOIJe

    But you'd
    rather be
    workin13
    at t-he
    rYIG\SSa9e
    pGir lot.t,. ?

    P"'"lot.tr.

    ZtS

    PQrT of me.
    Denise

    OlgQin,
    but -this
    girl

    Millie
    J-'IQS

    positive

    reviews~

    Qnd her
    photos
    look

    good ...

    JACKPOT! She's even more


    beQuTifuf thOln Gwendolyn.'
    She's rQdi Oin1'!

    217

    CHAPTER 32

    Wo\Aid. you

    mind no't

    "tnr\ASting
    into ....... e so

    for? Yov.r
    penis is too
    big for
    me.

    Ye.oh.. it'll be
    autobiogrophicof. It's

    90inc.3 to be obou"t
    my t>xpe.rie"ces

    poying

    Reotly! Tno't snoufd


    be irrterest"ing.
    J"D reo.d o book
    like. tho.'t.

    218

    ~or

    sex.

    Shou ld

    1 see Millie
    or Denise
    nex-t ?

    On -the

    o-ther ..,Qnd~
    Denise is

    bett-er in
    bed. And
    she IS
    pretty.

    219

    CHAPTER~;

    But she's not


    cas stunni n'3

    Anal
    Millie's ver-y
    bubbly and

    o.s Millie.
    And Millie.

    friendly.

    doesn't
    c.hcarge o.s
    vnuc:n
    money as
    Denise
    does.

    But I thi.-,k

    I prefer
    Denise 's
    vnor-e gentle
    persono.lity.

    Hi De.... ise, it's

    Ches ter 8ro\llm -- I


    don't kf"low if you
    ren'lel'l'lber
    me. I SQw
    you Q
    few times
    tost?
    year.

    Of co~.Arse
    J remei'Tlber
    you, Chester.
    Actually,
    I've been
    seeing you
    i n the

    Yoi.A're 9ettir19
    quite a bit of
    attention fol"
    you,.. new book.
    congro.t~.Alation s.

    Tha nk vou.
    Are you
    still

    working?
    Would we
    be o.ble to
    see eac.h

    other

    meclio. .

    1"odo.y?

    220

    BACK TO MONOGAMY

    Yes, I'm still


    working -- I'd

    Jove to get
    together.
    Who.t

    time
    is good
    for
    you?

    Probobly. But I won't s now


    your foce. ond I won't-

    Okay. blAt put m e in i~


    os little as possible.

    write about- any of your


    pe.rso,nal
    s-tuf'f.

    This is what- rorna~ntic love


    is: if you like someone 01
    whole lo-t AND you're'
    sexually
    i nvolve~
    Wit~

    -them>
    t~ots

    rornon"'tic
    1ove .

    221

    CHAPTER

    Fo.ce

    i~ =

    ~3

    youre

    i.-. love -- romo.n"tic


    love -- with
    De.-.ise .

    for me ~ romGIIntic

    She soid tho."t if you like


    someone

    o.

    Iove is o.bout

    lo1" AND yotA're

    sexuo.Hy o.ttro.cted
    them ~ 'then

    ~o

    possion.

    +ho.ts

    ~omo.ntic

    love .

    How 01re
    yotA cAefi>" in9
    rom01nt'ic
    love?

    A strong
    e ,.,ot'ion
    H101t... V\h .
    leo.ds people
    to wo.nt'
    life -mon9
    mon090II"Y'')'.

    8lAt t-h01t doesn't meo.n th01t'

    Most people prob01bly do


    wont' 'their romo.ntic.
    love - po.rtner to be sexw~lly
    mort09CUrlOI..AS o.nd botAnd by
    o. lifetiW~e COI"Y''miti"Y''ent'.

    those conditions DEFINE


    romOIJ'lt'ic love for mOS1"

    people. Let's
    im019ine 01

    colAple who

    ore sexuolly
    i nvolved --

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    JG\ne -- Gh1d
    for eo.ch
    o-the~. They're writing
    poems for
    eG\cn other,.
    giving
    pe:t-n01mes
    to eo.ch
    other---

    -- lflolding n01nds
    time -- 0111
    thG\t stuff.
    And.. most"

    Now, JG\ck and Jo.ne hQVe


    NOT '"o.de. ~ life - long
    commifment
    to eo.ch
    ot-her--

    -- G\nd they DO openly


    honestly
    h01ve sex
    with other
    gtA~S 01nd.
    g irls -they're
    no-t
    keeping
    thG\t G\
    secret.

    Even s.o, most people in our


    socie-ty would so.y thG\t
    Jo.c k and. Jo.ne G\re G\
    romol"lltic-love- couple.

    It's the inte..-.sity of -the


    emotion G\nd how -they
    express
    it to
    eG\ch o ther
    th<llt
    defines
    the.-n G\S G\
    romo.n"tiC
    couple--

    -- J~ck ~nd

    they~e cr~zy

    im port~nt>

    -they're
    pfASSiOnOI"te -intensely in
    love.

    -- no-t whet-.,er -they hG\ve.


    sex wit-h other people or
    whether
    +hey
    promise
    to be
    together
    forever.

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    CHAPTER 33

    Mono901.-ny 01nd commitment


    G\re closely o.ssocioted
    with rom01ntic
    love, buT
    they don'T
    HAVE to 90
    to9e-ther ~ ~

    So if I'"" not G\gG\inst


    rorYJOin"tic love~
    wh01t' do I
    oppose ?

    - G\nd. I don't neceSSG\rily


    see romG\nTic love OIS o.
    problem if it's experienced
    ou-tside of
    o. committed
    mono9o.mous
    frG\mework.

    Possessive

    81At YOI.A're

    rnonoga~rYJy?

    'loiA've been monogo.mous


    wit-h Denise for... how

    monoge~~mov.S .

    You' ve been monogomoi.As


    with ... wno.-t'S herr-_ __. ......,
    nG\rne OI'3G\in ?
    Penise.

    m01ny ye01rS

    h01s it been?

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    BACK TO MONOGAMY

    - - ond I clon'r own her. If


    s he oid s"t~rt ~oving sex
    with o-ther guys a9o.in, it
    wouldn'T
    bother

    And.. sP,.,e's been mono9"'mous


    wi-th me. for severol yeQrs
    now. But there's no
    comw.itme.nt. She doesn'-t
    own me--

    me.

    OkQy, I love her.


    I.An like people
    tr01ppecl in
    possessive monogo.rny,
    I'm in 01
    position -to
    B~.A-t

    respond
    TO my

    sexAo.Hy-

    relo.ted

    emo-tions.

    l 'rvl h~vin9 sex wi-th

    You love.
    ner -- does s6-le

    Denise

    becOitASe I WANT to.> 1'101"


    beco.Ase I rY~o.de o.

    love

    Yn01rrio9e vow to her or


    beco.CAse
    s he'd. get

    you?

    jeo.lous
    ;f I 5QW
    someone
    else..

    She doesn't feet


    PASSION for me -- we're

    She UKES me.> bc.A-t I'm


    pre+ty sure she wouldn'T
    use +he word love to
    ciescr ibe ~ow she

    friends .

    feels o.bou"t

    zzs

    CHAPTER

    5~

    Just" havi""9 sex


    with w .... ores. it
    seems... empty
    TO yOIA?

    I'd enjoy -t._.e sex> bu"t


    o.fterw(jlrd I'd feel. ..
    unSG\tisfied. So I beg~n

    I wouldt"''t"
    h~ve

    rerne,....bered
    the nome.

    TO think 1-n~T rno.')!be


    p~y;n9

    TOr
    sex does

    become

    o hollow
    experience.

    I figured, if I repeo.-t with


    any prost-it"~Ate os m~Ach os
    I did with Anne, I'll feel
    empty agQin.

    If you keep
    seeing t-he
    S(jlrne womon
    over 01nd
    over.

    - - and I never feel empty


    a-fter being with her. If
    01ny-thing 1 feel t-he
    opposite -- I feel full.

    But- Denise proved th01"t


    w01sn'-t 1'ri.Ae. I've been

    see in9 her for WAY


    Ionge r thon I
    Anne--

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    BACK TO MONOGAMY

    Anne f~.tlf;lled me sexually


    not in otner woys,
    even though she w01s
    pleasan-t 01nd I i ke01ble.

    lJh ...

    b~.tt

    something
    like thot. It's
    SOW'Iethil"'9

    beyond mere
    sexuol
    so.tisf<llc"tion.
    Denise is <lin
    CUTl(liZ j

    1"1'3

    person.

    So paying for sex isn'-t o.n

    empty experience if youre


    paying -the right person
    for 5ex.

    ZZ7

    /.-t o. recent" cornters"'tion witl-1 " frienol, I mentionec:t


    tnc:\t "De.,..ise" is no lon9er CA prostitAte. He objecteo(>
    "WhO\t" olo yot..t me"n? Of coCArse she's o. prostittAte -yoCA're P"Yin9 ner for sex." I poi.-ttec:A oAt th"t she's
    rYIOr1090\n-tOCAS with 1"11e Q.no( thO\t prostitCAt~S nO\Ve ~eX
    with n-1"'ltiple men. My frienol co"'nterec;l.> " Th"t 's not
    the c4ic.tionCAry c;{efil"'ition. '' I otidn't know wh"t the
    clic.tiono.ry otefinitior1 woAiol be, ~o I reo.c.heoC over to
    my copy of tl1e GAGE CANADIAN DICTIONARY. Accoro(in3 to
    +1-to.t source > 01. prostitAte is "o. girt or wom0\t1 w~1 o
    01.ccepts ,..,o..,ey to en9o.9e it'1 sex"'"' o.cts wit-h me..,." I
    empi1C\Size~ the wor~ "men" o.s I reo.ol +he po..SSG\9E.> to
    my frienoL He concecJ.ed.. the point.
    lO\ter... I pic.ked. LAp my WEBSTER'S --it d..efinecl. "
    pros'titt.tte O.S SOWieone who nOI.S "prol"niSC.CAOt.tS" sex for
    money. Not 01.1/ aictior1CAries 0.9ree -- ta.,e COLLINS CANADIAN DICTIONARY CAno( the CONCISE OXFORD ENGLISH DICTIONARY
    both cno..ro..c teri ze G\ prostitt..tte o.s someot"'e who hats sex
    for po..yment, bt..tt neitner spec.ifies o.nythin9 o.bo""'t
    tne "'"'mber of sexuG\1 po..rtners.
    Js "Denise" still 01. pt'"ostit"'te '?A"" I still 01. jol-1..,?
    Two people G\f"E.' it-1 01. mo..,ogCAWIOtAS sexc.Ac:d refO\tiOr1Ship
    tl-u:l\t ' s /o.. ~ted.. for yeo..r.s . They co.re for eo.ch other
    ( even if t&.,ey wo~Afon't S"Y they're ; .., love"). One of
    t-he two G\Hists the ot-1-,er fi..,o.nciodly . .WI-tO\.t clo yoA
    co..ll StAch o. relct"tionship?

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    AFTERWORD
    Ulti)"'ft~tely, I don't CCAre whCAt you c~ll CAS, The
    si3nificG\n't thing to me is th~t oCAr reiCAtionship
    snoc..tld not be 0\<;30\in st the IO\w. We sl.,otAid be cd lowe&
    to nQ.ve sex> G\nc.( I shotAid be 0\llowE'ol to give he,.money.
    "Denise" isn't tl-te only perso., ciepic.t(>c;( in this book
    whom I love : My brother 6orc:Aon Brown lives in QtAebec
    City cv1& livecA there throu9hoCAt 'the yeCArs covered in
    these po.ges, whic.h rnO\y expiO\in why he's 0111ly i., two
    scenes. ( The fint po.nel he 's ;.,., is 57=2.) 1111 2000, the
    9'-"Y with the hG\t1 Seth, move& to 6tAelph ( "' Sn-1G\II
    city o.bol-'t G\11'1 hot.Ar-G\nd.-G\-hodf Ci\WO\Y fror"n Toro111to ). He
    comes i111to tl-,e big c.ity 0111 occ01sion, so we still see
    eG\c.n ot&.,er pretty freqCAently. Joe MO\tt movecA to los
    An9eles ;.,., 2003:> 01111c:A Kris N01k0\W1'-"YOI movecl to V0\111CotAver in 200I.t:> so I cion't see them rY~tAc.&.,, blAt I still tCAik
    to tne......, o., tne pho..,e quite often. ( Kris's first pG\n('l is
    a:s.) I'W1 9lo.d th01.t Sook-Yin lee still lives in Toronto
    G\~~'~~ thCAt we get" to spend o.. lot of tirv'le to9e-the,.-.
    When I fin i sheol olrO\wi ng PAVINu FOR IT, I let ti-le
    0\.bove-me..,tionec:.( six people reCAd it. I wO\S worried
    tnG\t sorY~e of them mi9ht WG\'1t me to c.h01.n9e
    thin9s - - their CActions, their diG\Io9t.te.> the WG\y I drew
    tnem -- bt.At no..,e of the six CASkeci me to oo.lter CA
    lit1e or word.. TnCi\t cAoes..,'t me01.111 t11ey were CAll
    COrY~pletely nG\ppy wi'th their portr~yo..ls. I c;iic;A 1"ell then-t
    thOit r Wot.tld 9ive theW'I Spatce i111 the book to h0o.ve
    their- SCi\y, Only Seth took me '-4p on tho..t offer. His
    notes abo'-4t ti-le scenes he's in G\re in AppenO.ix 23.
    I Catllec:i JCASti., Peroff to let him kr10W t'-tOo.t ne'> ;.,
    the book o..111d to CASk hii'YI if he WC"Anted to see 1-1is
    sce..,es. ( He "PPE'Gus in pG\nels 7:5 a.,c:( 1:6.) He w~s fine
    with being G\ c:htllrO\cter in the story btAt SG\i& 1-te
    WCAnteo( f"o experiei"'C the 9r"Cl\phic-novef in itS finc-sheo(
    pri..,te-ot forvn .
    Not o.ll of my fr-iends o.re chG\ro.c. te rs in this wteWlo i r.
    1he following friel'ldS helped wte ;.., so.-..,e WOIY in creo.tin9
    it: Mo.rk Askwitl-1 7 Peter 8irkemoe, A.,toneiiG\ Brion,
    Rob i.., Go.t'lev, Jeet Hee r, JG\S01'1 Kieffer, D01ve l G\.PP:> A~ G\ m
    litovitz > Co.thG\ri111e liCA, Nick Mo.o.,.-,cAG\9> MG\rc NgCAi,
    Mo.gdOt WojtyrOo., Etno.n Rilly, Zo.c.h Worto.,, Do.ve SiYYI
    lim S/0\t"er, Sit.t To., .Jol-1.., Tt'Oin, JG\f'YleS TtArner, Colin
    Upton,. 01n("). TCAnio. VCAn Spyk . None of ti-lese people
    <A<3t'ee with CAll of the opiniOt'IS ( express i111 here 0.1'1&
    sovne c:Aiso.<3ree with most of wh01.t I SO\y. ihese frit>l'lcAS
    helpe& by beir19 willit19 to c4isct.tss o,nd deb01te t-he
    topics of" love G\ll"lc4 prostitCAti~n with me. They c.dso
    nelped in VO\YiOCAS other WOI.YS -- pointing OCAt if"'lporfOint books to reG\0., proofreG\olil'19, mo.ki1119 desr9vt
    su99e stio..,.s, d i H CA ss in9 0\pproCA<. ht>s to cirOo."'-' in9 > a..,cA
    ;.., mowty other w01.ys. I tho.nk thef'Yl o.ll.
    Ano( thOo.nks to everyone 01t Dro..wvt A111d. GuG\rterty,
    J>Oo.,-tict.Aio.r/y Chris 0/ivero.s> Pe99Y BCArl"lS> C"And 1o..,..,
    Devlin.

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    APPENDIX 1
    THE NORMALIZATION
    OF PROSTITUTION
    Prostitt-ttion is jCAst ~ for,., of ci.ortir'\9.
    Tl-lere is r~o regtAio.tory o r le9od fr01mework for
    t.tr~po.io( d01ting . Nothing ho.ppens ci.CArin.9 p01iot c:l01tes
    t-h01t doesn't n 01 ppen in <Ar'lpaid &ates. Frol"Yl 01 le9o.l
    perspec. t ive tney s ~o tA iot be see., ~s icie..,ticOII. No
    regt.tlo.t ory or le901l fr01rnework is ne cess01ry for p01io(
    clOitir'lg.
    WhO\t I ~ope we're moving towo.ro( is o. time when
    givin9 01not receiving money iS pO\rt of -t"'e 110rW~o.l give o.r~d - to.ke of sex t.Acd o.ct ivity. It won't be wh01 t eve ryo 11e
    cioe.s., but it wi II becoi'Y'Ie so com mo.., th01t no one w~ II
    think it oc:lot, disgusting_. o r LAI1t.ASu.o.l ;f 0 11e C40LAit ( m a le
    or fe..,.,o. l e) pays C\11other OldtAlt ( mo.le o r femc.le) for
    sex. It wil l be see n o.s normt:AI.
    I believe Hlo.t., if prostitc.Ation is clecrimino.lizecf.~ it.s
    rtormodizo.tiot"l will h01ppe.., re/o.ti ve ly 'tc.Ai ck ly -- with i n 01
    few ger~er01tions.
    Wl-te11 I wa s born, in 19607 l-tomo.sext.AOIIit y w01s wi~ely
    seen o.s "sick" G\not aiS9LASt ing. It wo.s ille9011 to en301je ;..,
    howtosexc.Aod activity ;.., 'this <oCAntry ( a.nci probobfy 0111 of

    231

    APPENDICES
    the other "western" cotAI"ltrieS ). In 1961~ Pierr-e TrCLAdeo.v.
    hoi'Yio.sex~Aodity ;.., Ca.na.c:AO\. Otlo,er
    COI.Antries beg"'.., to ao the SO.rYI thi1'19. *" The re.svdt>
    fo rty -5ome thing yeo.rs l ~ter, is tl-10\t nomose xv.o. l;ty ho.s
    bec.ome norr'l'lo.liz.eoC for most people in " the we~t ''. It 's no
    lon9e.r widely SE>en o.s Sic k or cliS9LASting .
    ~ec.rirY'lino.liz.ed.

    APPENDIX 2
    SEXUAL RIGHTS
    Yo~..A've

    co....,po.re~

    hoMOS~.XLAo.lity

    to prost i ttAtion.
    Go.y s hc:we o.
    right to ho.ve
    go.y sex
    beco.use they're
    borYI 90\y.

    You. weren 't


    born o. jon..,.
    Prosti tLAte s
    aren't born
    prostittAte s.

    Prostit(..(tes o.ncl
    john s clo.., ' t
    ho.ve the
    sextAo.l ri9hts
    th01t 9o.ys

    no.ve.

    Hvf'otheticc:dly ~ le t 's 5"Y tl,o.t in o. few ye("(rs 9eneticists


    will be <Able to poi..,t to o. spec.ific. 9e..,e whic.n co.t...c~es
    people to sexu.o.l l y desire rYJemben of tl-,eir ow.., 9ender:
    o. "9"'Y 9e11e".
    Both sicAes in the n o.tCAre-verstAS-11tAr t (..(re
    debo.te o.clf'Ylit tho.t both environw"~..,f" o,..,o( in-born c. ho.rCH.t er-istic.s infltAence beho.vioCAr ~ so eve., if there i s a
    g<Ay gene IA.Ihicl-, is re s ponsible for ..-nost howrosex(.(a(
    beho.vioc,..cr, tl-1ere will probo.bly be CAt leo. st G\ few hoWJosextAo. l s who clon' t ho.ve the gene_. who bec~me go..y
    throCA9n the influence of Hteir enviro..,wtent. Let 's .so.y
    it f~A("VI$ OV\t fl-,o.t 99 % of the hOI'\o"lO$XCA~( popCA/GI.t"ion
    V.o.ve the 9ene 0\VIc.A. I Ofo don't. If 90\Y r-i9l-1t s 01.re pred i co.tecl o.., being born go.y~ who..t c:Ao we clo if we
    discover thoo.t 0\ few 90\YS were not born 9C\Y ? Do we
    soo.y thC\t they clon ' t howe the ri_91--tt to h01ve ga.y sex ?
    Do we force t hem to howe hete...-osextAo.l sex ?
    Jf G\. l e~bi~n ( who IA.I().S born fesbi01n) is good f,..-;e..,c;(s
    with 01 go.y rl'l0\1'1 ( ~Nho wo.s bor.., go.y) Olno( they
    dec;cJ.e. to hO\ve sex to9ether jt...cst to see who.t wtoo. l e - etndf~W~o. l e (oit CAS is like_, o..re they doin9 Sowtethinc:.i ..,.,or-c;..lly
    wrons? Is the lesbicn1 only o.llowed to ho.ve sex with
    WOW1en ? Is the 91..\Y only 0\lloweol t o no.ve sex with
    Wl"1 ? No .. tl-, c.t lesbic.n ~no( her go.y mo.le po.l ho..ve
    every rigl-lt to l-1a~ve sex to9ether-. Their- in-born sex(,(01l
    orientatio.-,s don't cAetel'",..,ii"'Te who they'~'"e 01llowee{ to

    '*

    232

    APPENDICES
    howe se)( with -- those o..-iento.tioi'IS c;.(ol'l't lii'Ylit their
    sexLAO\I ri9hts,
    Go..y ri.snts ~.--e..,'t predic<ll.teo( Ol'l bein9 born 901y or"""'"i"'.9 the ri9ht gene. Cio.y ri~hts C\re predicated on
    cl-1oice etrtd COnSt?Ylt, If yoiA're 0\ t'VlQYl C\n~ yov. (().,.., fiYJcA
    Oll'loth.e r mo~t"l who conse...,ts to howe sex wit~ yotA~ it's.
    ft..tO\t COI"''HI"'t th<At SiVeS yoi.A the ri.9nt to howe 5e:x
    wit'-1 him .
    Ge.,etics C\re irrelev<i'nt w'-1er1 it co mes to sexv.a(
    r-i~l-1ts. J~ASt ~s 90\)' rishts 01..-e bo.seo{ on c.V7oice c.tl"'ot
    COI'!SeV~t_, so C\re prostittAtiovt ri_sV'Its, @
    sex~Aal ri.9hts
    cu-e bc:tsed o,., c.hoice c:tno( co11se...,t.

    APPENDIX 3
    MORE ON THE
    NORMALIZATION OF PROSTITUTION
    It mo.y be o(;fficLAI't for people who ho.ven't 9iven tne
    m<i'tter ~'11Acn thov.9ht to pictc..ue who.t """ to"kin.9
    o.botAt.
    let 's so.y t""<At prostittAtion is cAec.rirY~it1o.lized. ; ...... te ......
    yeo.rs. Now let 's jurYip o.l1eo.c:J. to the yeo.r 20SO. A yo""'""9
    w om o. n w o r k s i ..., o. n ~ t s hop -- I e t 's c G\ II "" e r I'll c.,.. y. A
    yotAI'19 rr\CU\
    0\lso works there o{ecio(es to c:tsk l'll"'ry
    OtAt on G\ o(o.te. ihey 've k,.,ow.., eo.c."" other- seve..-0'11
    vno ...... t-hs G\...,cJ s,..,e likes him_, so she so.ys yes, c:tcld;ll'19
    +1-lo.t> if he wc.tnts to ho.ve sex with her> it ' ll cost G\n
    OlmotAnt of I'Yloney tho.t she spec.ifies. He ~oesn ' t fi11o\
    this snocki""'9 --it's "' comrnon reqt.Aest in ~ sitiAo.t-io,.,
    like this. Tney 90 OIAt to dinner "',o( then no.ve sex
    ~t either his G\PG\rtmel"'''t or ners. He po.ys her tne
    spec.ifiec).. price. The next d.o.y> MC\ry tells her- friends
    <"AbotAt the cA"te . They G\ll h~ve sex for money too, so
    .., o.., e of the I"YY "' r- e s no c. k eo< . M"' ..- y t e 11 s h e .-- mot 11 e r.
    She's l"'ot .shocked eitV.er - -s he still 9ets pG\icA for se)C'
    ""enetf. Most people ; ...... this fiAtiAre society hG\ve pC4ic.Ase)( ~t leo.st occo.sio...,o.lly. There G\re still 0\ few people
    who believe in possessive t'Vl01'109G\......,y 0\nd.. 2.!!.!Y l-1cwe
    sex if tl-ley fo.tl in love wi"th someo..,e> blAt """ost people
    in 2080 see thC\"t C4S weirc:J._, olcA-fG\shio ...... eot beho.viour.
    A mio(c:Ate -o.9ed 9LAY who c:.lso works "t the hc.t"t sa.,op
    o.pproo.<nes Mo.r-y ~ncA S1A99ests " cAo.te. Sne'.s not interesteo( il'1 old.er me...,> so she politely declines. There's
    1'10 expectc.ttion t'-lc:.t she h01s to ho.ve sex wit"' 0\nyone
    wl-1o hatS t'Vlo..,ey. If Mo.ry o.cq_IAire.s el"'oLA_s"" frie.,cAswho-pOiy-for-sex> ..-n~ybe she'll be C\ble to q_t.Ait the hG\t
    shop job~ bLAt ~Anti I +he~"~> the I"YY01'1ey she mO\kes from
    sex 11icely StApplevnents her incoi'Y1e. No o ...... e wotAid see
    M01ry OIS 01 sltAt for hC4vit19 I'YltAitiple .sex-po.rtYJers -- it '.s
    see., C\S normod to ho.ve mt.Aitiple sexp"rt...,ers.
    WhO\t 0\botAt love? MCi\ry m.~Y ~evelop Iovin~ feeli1"'19S

    "'"'""o

    233

    APPENDICES
    for o,....e ~ SOW~~ or Ci\ll of l-Ie r fr;e...,ch- who-pc:Ay- for"- s e)(.
    ( Beir19 pCi\i& for sex doesn't prec:luc;(e the possibiliTy thCi\t
    o,.,e coiAio( love the perso., po.yi~"~9) Or s"'e mi9l-lt- ho.ve
    o. sext.Ao.l frie...,o( she loves who cioesn't P"'Y her for- sex.
    Mo.ybe she po.ys hiovt. ( It's co,..,.,,.,o..., for- wome"" to po.y
    me.., for sex i..., this society.) Or mCi\ybe no money
    c.h0.1"19E'S nGIII"!OS 0\t Qll in thCi\t po.rtictAio.r r-eiGIIti01'1S ,hlp.
    BecCAlAS it's 11or..,..,o.l 01noC l"''othi...,9 is secretive
    o.bout it,., Mo.ry co.n J..to.ve podd-sex wit.., people she
    knows -- tl.-ter-e is,.,'t the so.wte .-,eeci to se01rch for
    stro.n~ers who might btAy or self sex. This to.kes o.
    good. de011 of the risk out of ti-le G\c.tivity. Perho.ps
    in this pr-eciicteot worlc:J. of 2080 there will still be
    streetwo.lkers o.ncA brothel~workers who howe po.ic;(-.se)(
    with str01nger.s> bL.tt rY10St people will WOI..,.,. to l-'1etve
    some prior con...,ec"t-io"" witl-1 the indivicl~o.ls +l-tey get
    ;..,to b e cl with> just 0\S most people liked th01t betck in
    20 II.
    W!.,e"" yot-"""'9 people 01re toiDC tJ..,01t bo.ck in 2011 l-tCAvin.9
    sex for mo..,ey wo.s seen o.s o. Sh01_,ef"'l tl-1i""C3> it will
    see., bi'lo.rre to the...,.,, "It wo.s ille90\l ? Why? lt's
    SO ... l'lOr"...,..,OII , "

    How likely is it th 0\t this w iII be the wo.y thi ""'9S ore
    in 2080 ? Not likely o.t o.ll beco.IASe 9overnments CAren't
    o.boiAt to decr;,...,;...,OIIiz.e prostitiAtio...,,

    APPENDIX~

    YOU OWN YOUR, BODY


    Your boc.ty iS yotAr property. J~A~t CAS you own property
    like books o.nd. cfothes 7 yo"' own yOIAr" bocJy. You shotAfot
    no.ve the riglo,t to G(o whO\tever- yoL.t wc::....,t" with your
    bociy ( Cl\1'1~ ~~"'~Y other property you own ) etS lo.-19 0\S yotA
    res~ect the property right.s of others. (By whicl--t I me01n:
    yoCA d.o.,'t h~rm or stec.tl ~nyone el s e 's property> or use
    frc;tucl or thre01ts of force to CA~ctuire it,., c;t,.,o( yoc.A don 't
    use pnysicod for-ce to mo.ke Someone cio something
    they do.,'t wo.nt to d.o.)
    If yo"' re.spec.t the property rigJ..lts of others cmc( treCo\t
    them with courtesy, yo~A're livi~9 G\ moro.l life.
    ' I wCi\nt to hcwe sex
    with you becettASe
    yotA'f( give me
    mo11ey.

    I w01nt to

    h~ve

    with you

    beco.~se

    l love

    sex

    yolA.

    To me,., st01tement A is OIS mor01l etS stCAtement 8.

    APPENDICES

    APPENDIX 5
    JOHNS DON'T BUY WOMEN
    When I bu.y .somethin9 -- SG\y>
    nome Ci\no<
    9et to keep it for- o.s long o.s I
    wo.nt. I OWV1 it. When I ho.o( GH1
    oppointment" with Ci\ prostitute,
    I c(id. not bLAy her. I pC\icl to howe
    sex with I-ter. Afterwo.r-ol, we'c(
    port compo..-1y. I didn't 9et to
    keep her-- I didn't own her.

    JonYIS b(;(y womel"'\.


    No m o"'"' shoulcl nove
    the ri9ht"
    to b~Ay o

    o. book -- I to. k e it

    APPENDIX 6
    POWER
    Pt"ostitc.Atio"' is

    JtAs't as m"'le prostitt.Ates

    Wf""OY1'3

    it gives "' mG\n


    se.xLAod power over 0\

    bec.C~.t.A'>e

    wol't"'Oin .

    TV.e

    jonn gets
    to d.i c: tCo\ te
    wh01t
    h01ppe,s .

    c:io > fe mode pro .s tit ute s hG\ve

    their rules -- whG\t they


    will o.ncA won't cAo with
    cl i et1tS. Some wi I( hG\ve
    voginCi\l sex bi.At won't- 9ive
    orG\1. Others only fello.te.
    Some let johns perforii'Yl
    , .... ...,nilin9lAS on the.,..,, others

    clot1't. Some kiss, some won't.


    A..,o. it's t1ot jtAst
    Ci\bO&At r"tAfeS - - prostit(;(tes cJ.o nCi\ve SeXIAC\1 power in
    their inter-Ci\ctions witl-t their- clients. Sex~AG\I ~esirG\bil
    ity is power. Wne.., o. rnon thinks Ci\ worn011'1 is o.ttrG\ctive, ne wa..,-ts to pleo.se her. Also, sex-workers '"'..,
    oncA Gto speo.k tAP if" they do,..,'t- like whot's ho.ppe..,ing .
    "Millie's" req_c..cest i.., pGlnel zrs:~.t- is o..., exCi\.-nple. I
    remernber o. sin-tiiG\r incic(ent- wit., "A.-,ne":
    Etceten~.

    Chester_, my le9s G\re 9ettir19


    tireci. CotA.Id we ch~11~e

    positions ?
    ~~~-

    ----

    Of

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    A few months 0190 "Denise" told me thO\t I WO\S bein9 0\
    bit too 0\99ressive sexuO\\Iy> so I toneO. d.own wh01t I
    wo.s &oin9.
    Are there jerky jol-lt'lS wno WOLdo( clisrec;sOir"o( 00. pro-.titCAte's ..,.,;&-coitod req_CAest or St..1<3<3esrion? I'I'YI s(Are t-heYe
    0\re. B CA't there a.,-e odso 9lAYS who igno,..e SirY~i/~r
    req_Ae.sts 0\.-td SCA99estions in unpOtid sexLA0\1 sitCAo.tions>
    so ;f we crirY~inOtliz.e pede;( sex bec.o.w>e soi'Yle 9""YS o.re
    booris~ ;.., beo(, we sYioLAid c.rirVlinodize 1Anpa.id sex for
    ti-le scv'Yle rea.son.
    Here's o. sex - wo,..ker on tl-,e SV\bjec.t:
    My clients a.re invGH''"io.bly polite.[...] I control wl1c;4t
    I wisl, to do o..-,o( set my limits~ whic'-1 o.re C\lwc.tys

    respec.teo(. [ ... l]n four- yea.r.s C\t va.rious 019enc.ies>


    I CO\n reme...,.,loer only onc.e l-101.ving to s/a.p o. m01.n
    who WtH too insistent. ( He wcH immeo(i~tly pv.'>~('cA
    ov.t the. O.oor [.)~)(]
    Prostitutes a,,-en't passive pAppets> a.nol most joh.-, s
    0\l"en't c:Aic.to.tors.

    APPENDIX 7
    MONEY!s INFLUENCE
    infi~Ae11ce

    0\ womO\n to hoo.ve 5ex


    wher1
    .she otherwise WOtAidn't wa.nt to.

    If tho.t mea.ns tho.t the infl""ence of money is b01c:(,


    it odso wteo.n.s th01.t r""o~~ntic love i s bad. Mc..ny
    people in love relo.tion.ships howe sex they don't wo.nt
    to hO\ve.

    the.-,

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    I don/t W~nt to
    h ewe sex with
    this 9Lty_, bt.At
    I neeot the

    I don't want to

    I no /on9er fee I

    hcwe sex ri9nt

    ~esire

    for ,.,.,Y
    hLASbC\nd_, bLAt
    for- tne sake of
    ot.Ar m G\rri019e
    I'll 1-1o.ve sex
    with 1-Jim.

    now, btAt he 's VY\Y


    boyfrieVJo(_, o."'cA
    I love hii"YY, so

    I will.

    Tl-Jcue is no W'IOrod c;A;fferel"lce between the above three

    c.irc.ut'Y'Isto.nces.

    APPENDIX 8
    SELF-RESPECT
    sl-1o~ld be i IIE'9011
    it dest,-oys tne
    se lf - respect

    M~.,y g~ys

    the

    sextA~I

    prior to
    revoltAtiol'l

    exper-ie.-,ceot sh~....,e.,
    c;.(epr$Sion> .9'-'ilt,. c:u1d
    prostitt-\te s.
    dis~ust o.bo~.At bei....,.9 9oo.y.
    That doesn't 1">"14?~.., t&.,c..t
    homosextA~/ity is w,-ong,
    it meo.t1S tl-tc..t) c..t a
    certc..i"" point ;.., 'ti n1e,
    nowro.sexlAo.lity WC4.S
    revile~ .. o.ncl tY~<ll.ny 9o.ys ;....,terncdizec;{ the 90.y-ne9o.tive
    values of tne C1..4ltt.Are tney lived i.,, Today, mal"ly prostitvdes .i ntern01/ize the wnoril'19 iS- bo.o( C\ftitl.t(de of the
    cultu,-e. we live ;.,.,. TJ..to.t doesn't meC\n th01t sex-work is
    bo.c;{ , it me01...., s we howe to ~o for iT who. t we c;{i o( for
    }1omos~><tAality: dec.rivninalize it.
    Not o.ll prostittAtes internc..lize t-he Ylesative ctAitlAral
    v01l"'es re9o.r-ding paiot sex-- ma11y c/0\iWI to like the
    work, a,cl even that it iWlproveo( their self-esteevn.
    Pnyflis LtAW1C\VJ Met~AI wrote:

    of

    wv. el"l

    I first ,,~,...9ec:( fo\"' it} I nC\d I'Y'ILAC.Yl WI Ore


    se lf respec.t o.no( self worth H101.., I ever hac;{
    be f o,.. e . I f e I t a p pre c i ~ t e d. [*]
    According to Jo.VIe of New York:

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    Before I starteci esc.or-ti...,.9, I h~d C\ few hoyfr-ieno(s [ .... ] They weren't shy C\boLAt floo.t OIA~
    tellit19 me that I c(idn''t look 9ood because I was
    too tel(( O.V'H:l too thil"l. [ ... fv7]ost of [my cfieYifS] helpeo(
    wt~ leo.r..-t two very important thi..-t9S: that I oo.m
    beC\utifi.A I jiASt tt.,e way I o.m_. c;~nc:A -tno.t I'YlY p/eo.SI.-\re iS iW~port~.,t too. WV1en I st01rteo( workin9, I
    met o.ll tl1ese [ c.lie...,ts] who tl,otAght I WetS
    9orgeo1As, model-like_, even. They loveo( my Sma ll
    breo.sts O.Ylcl impossibly Jon9 less. They tola me I
    wa.s bec.ttAtifiAI over etnd over 0\90\i..-t LAI"ltil I
    tAn~e..-stoocA it.[*"~]

    AY1o.Nicole of Berkeley_. (o.li forniCA > ""/dresses a


    p01rt ic tA letY john :
    TnroLA.9h I'Y\Y sessio..,s with yotA_, 1 hG\ve C\CC(IAireo(
    il"'voo.ltAC\ble self-esteem in r-e9C\ro(s to my body, sex
    appeo.l_, C\no< service. I hoo.ve '3rown as a sexvtal
    bein9 not OV11y it-1 My profession, bLAt in my re0\1
    life o.s well. [**]
    VeroY'IiCc.t Monet conten~ s

    tho.t:

    Sex work 1-tG\S bee.., ernpowerin9 and liber0\tin9


    for WI. My self-estee,.,., l-1as improved. clr-asticC\IIy ;,., tne last six ye01rs since I enterec:i Hte
    se)( indiAstry. [ ...] I ~n-t .,of" cAe9rO\o(e~ by sex. I
    ~m not C'\ reSOlArt:e or property H1~t CG\1'1 bt
    clevodLAeci. t"hrou9h use. I arYt no't hlArt by .SIAC:h
    terms 0\S "sfCAt" or "whore." I prouclfy o.ssert
    Htc~t I G\rYI both. [<t<J

    APPENDIX 9
    CHOICE
    Whe"' they confro .... t feVY~etle ~ex- workers wl--ro ciO\im to
    howe freely chosen their- profession) (AnTi - pr-os.t-itutior1is.ts
    ( wl.,o 0\re of t en fe~o~inists ) are pLAt ;.., ti-le posit-ion of
    looki..-rg like they're tryin9 to restr-ict the fy-eeclom of co.
    9ro"'p of woVVlen. Severed of t11ese C\Yiti - prostlturioYli~ts howe
    dec.ioCecA thO\t the w~y ov.t of this q_IAo.noCO\ry is to o.ssert
    tho.t c(..,oic.e is t1ot possible when it comes to sex - work .
    Sheil"' Jeffr-eys, C\ feWii..-tis-t, o.r-gues this;..., ner book
    THE IDEA OF PROSTITUTION :

    T!-,e worol c.l-toice is vtot etppropriate for- C4 wom~n w/.,ose


    ., c.VIoi c e " is between Jow-p01i & se rvice work whi c h aoes

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    not fit ;..., with c.hild-co.Y"e, 0.11d the cho..,ce of "' bette.-in come with more flexible l.,olH"S HtroCAgh the vio/c.. tio..,
    of her body. [Jeffreys.. pp. 155, 156.]
    Tnis l-1ypotl-1etic~l womo.., m'-'y .,ot feel HtC\t pt'oStitution
    is o. viol01tio..,. Sowte wome..., would, otner.s wotAio(.,'t ~ Mor-e
    to the poi.,t, i f it 's r'lot possible for c::u-1 o.ttr01c.tive si r1.9/e
    mom to c. l.,oo se between low - p~y work o.nol prostittAtio..,_.
    Hte., why o.re there o.ttractive Single mother.s wi1o work
    a.t wti1'1iW'ItA"""' - wo.9e jobs? Some wo.....,en CG\...,'t s to.....,~cJ., tl-te
    thoc..cgJ..-at of hG\vi..-t_9 po.i& -s~x with ~tro...,ge,..s , so they
    choose +he clrudge,.y of working for low po.y. Meo..,(...Vhile_.
    there Qre. o ther moms who c. h oose sex-work ove r /ow
    wo._9es o..,o( o.re hG\ppy to be o.ble to iW~prove the m~teri01l
    cirCCAWlStG\11C()S thc..t their c hilolren live i n . Jf two peo ple
    fcc.ce the so.me pro bleW\ o.nll( mo.ke two d i ffer-e., t olec..i sio,s

    0\bOIAt how to solve tJ.tG\f probleW~, thel"' c.hoic.es are being


    mO\ole , That does 11't I'YlO.n the c ho ic.es 01r-e eo. s y ,. blAt o.
    c;l;ffic~Ait c h oice is stilt o. cho i ce,

    Wne., 9i rl s howe bee.., H?>< tAO./Iy o.buseol ;.., c.V! i ld hood~

    OtS prostit~Ated

    wowten ofte11 ho.ve, it is no.rd to see


    them ~s hc:wi..,g C\ reo.ll y free c.hoic.e. (Jeffr eys, p. /53.]

    thiVlk were steppin9 iV~to do.n9erous ter-r it o ry vvhe.,


    we st(;(r-t so.yin.9 th~t c erto.in CAO.ults Qre not o.llow eol to
    W~o.ke choices beca.Ase they ho.d bG\ol childhoods. If
    wo...,.,en-who -were- QbtAsec:Ain - c.hi lot hood o.ren't co.-npete.,t
    to mo.ke the c.hoic.e to e..,9019e i n paid-sex, then o.r-e t&-,ey
    competent to rno.ke other sexulll choices ? Re9 <:4Yo/f en of
    who.t h01ppe..,ed to the.., ;., c. nilc:lhood_. (:\c::fults shoulo(
    l-tawe the ri9hi to make sex ual choices_. inc.lc..u:lin9
    cho ice~ tho.t SV!eilo. ~effyey s wov.ld olisCApprove of.
    Whe...., prostitLttecA won1en themselves tASe the. lo.n9uo.9e of " choice '', they e. G\., be see.., to be e.,ga~i"'9
    in what o( e vi" n c. y so c. i o Io 9 is t .s c c.d I '' n e At r G\ I is i....., 3
    te c. h....,iqLte s ". Sociologists use thi.s ter-m To describe
    title w"'y ; ...., ~Nhic.h s o c.i" lf y despiseol G\noC mG\r9inaliSE'd

    9roups cr-eo.te r-o.t io no.li s"tio n.s whic.h e...,"ble the..,..,


    to StArVive their- mal"'~ in o.l coY~dirion, St.Ac.""' techniqLteS WlCIY be ei'Ylployec:l beca.tAse the oV~Iy o.lteYV~o.
    tiv e m(:\y be the pO\infi.A I one of self- conteYY~pT,
    Jeffrey s, p. 1371

    let's co V~trCAs t tho.t oprnrol"' with the folf owi n9 i teW~S


    writtel"' by two wowten who o.re o r were sex-wor kers .
    I c.CAn s~y f o r the first time ;, I'YIY life tho.t I love
    my job. It 's the leCAst ex ploited I h~ve ever been

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    APPENDICES
    ~

    .A

    'VYV VA .A

    vv

    ../\/'

    v ~y 'V

    'V

    '\rv

    ...,......,A

    Av

    .AA.,.A..,/\

    at work, for Ctdeqt..H"te mo11ey this -time. [ ... ] I'm


    e" e .-, Cl b Ie to e n j o y t he w or k i t s e If., not j us 't its
    fn~it.s) an& have c~me to Ctppreci~te C\11 body
    types c.o.s lo..,9 C\S t"'ey're clean C\n& kino( [. j
    It ho.s C\ll coWie d.own to choice for me. I cnose to
    see some clie.,t~ C\nd I chose not to see others. I
    chose whO\t sexCAO\I o.ctivities I was williY19 to
    engo.ge in for po.y C\Yld I c"'ose what w~s not" ''on
    t~e menu., I ~sserted ""'Y bOIAndo.ries C\1'1o( I
    honored. the CAniq_CAe sexv.ality of iV~d.ivi<iCAods. [~ tt]

    Jeffreys SCAyS tho.t" prostitv.tes like these Otre r01tionali-z.i119 01nd th01t tney o.ctiAOtlly feel self-co..,tempt. u..,/ess
    Jeffreys is o.lle9ing th~t she h~s psycl.-tic powers) s ne
    can't know if 01 pC\rtictAicu prostitc.Ate feels self-contempt.
    Wnen yoLA howe to resort to claiming to know what yoiAricleolo9iCal oppo1o1en'ts ~re secretly feelin_g , yoi.A've riAn
    OtAt of goocl argiAments.
    To see how d.esper01te Jeffreys co.11 get, re01d. the
    following:
    Oppress ion CO\ I'lnot eff ec. t i vely be 90.CA9eo( o.ccord. i "'9
    to the ote9ree of "c on s ent ~ si11ce eve.-, il"' slo.very
    tnere was SoVY~e conseVIt if consent is d.efil"'e~ as
    ir1o.bility to see, or feel enti tl ed to,., o.ny
    ~lteYVIettive. [Jeffreys,., p. 135 . ]
    Jeffr eys is SCArely the ovtly person on the plo.net who
    G(efines cot-tse..,t 'this wo.y.
    A penon is botA..,o( in heco.vy iron chOtins. /, thett
    moW~ent then~ is no o.l'tern~tive to bei1o19 bot..tnol by
    <:ho.iVIS_, bt.1t thc:.t ~oes 1o1ot mean that the persoV'I is
    COV1SentinCJ to beiVI_g boCAnoL Not h~ving an alternOItive t ,o o. sitCAation ~oes not mea.., thett yotA 01re
    ci-looSiVlg to be in thG\t sitCAC\tion. YotA face c.hoi<:es
    wl-te.., yoc.A hcwe o.lterVlo.tive s ( like the o..,e betwee"' a
    low-wa9e job ~not prostitLA'tion ). Slcwes didn't choose
    to be s laves.
    Feminists netve o.ccepte~ that choice iS poHible
    w~en it come s to o. ot;fferent, ol;ffict..tlt St..tbject ~
    a.bortion. The fei'Y\inist position ( 01nol I G\gree with
    it) is tho.t woMe.., own t"'eiY bodies 01no( the,..efore
    ec..c.h wom~.., ho.s the ri.9ht to cnoose to get 0.1'1 o.bortiol'l
    i f s "' e 9 e t s p r e 9 .., ~ .., t . T h i s ; 5 c c. II e cl b e ; n 9 .. p r o- dt o i c. e. ''.
    Fe.,ini~ts shoiA/o( be co..,sistent on the SCAbjec.t of
    choice. If 0\ woman has the ri9ht to c.hoose to h owe c.n
    abortion , she shotA/o( etlso netve the rigltlt to <:1-loo~e to
    h~ve sex for money. It's her body> it's her ri.9nt.

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    APPENDIX tO
    VIOLENCE
    Jeffreys o.n& some ot,..,er feWiinists co..,te""al that +'-te
    r-elationsl,ip betwee"" G\. pro$tit&-cte CA.no( "' jo'-'"' is
    ~IWQyS Cc violenT o~-te. Jeffreys quotes Evelina. uiobbe :

    P r o s t i t (;( t i on i s s e x ~ o I o. b (;( s e b e ca u s e pro s -t ; t u t e s a.,.. e


    s~bjec.te& to 0.r1y l"lCAI"''\ber of sex~o.l C\c.ts tho.t ;.., o...,y
    otket"" context, ~c. teet ogG\it'lSt ony other womGtn_.
    woi.Aiol be /Qbellec( c.tsso.ultive oY., at ti-le veYy le(;(st>
    v.nw~..,ted GH1c:i coerced . [=f<]
    It's my irYlpressiot1> re~oling o.ccot..c..,ts by joi-1"1S o.nd
    prostitt..ctes> thO\t pO\iol-sex is uSlAO\IIy pretty mt..ccn the
    so.me as unpO\id- sex. Certc.inly I V~evev- did etnythiV~g
    sexiAa.l wit&1 o. pro.stitt.ete thett I ho.oln't olone wit'-1 my
    9 i r I fri eno(s. The thi n9s I like sexuaHy G\re ( o.s fa..- QS I
    CG\1'1 9ettl-ler) pretty nort'l'lal O."''ol not c:.t o.ll ki..,ky. ( Not
    t~01t I tl1i"' k tho.t ki1o1ky se:>c bet wee..., co"'sent-i...,9 o.of..,.lts
    is wron9.) My girlfrie..,ds c;(;o(,., ' t experience sex wit-h
    n1e o.s ~busive or OISSa.tAitive., so it's not trLAe th01t t,..,e
    sex I no.c:A wit,., prostitutes WOI.Aiol) "in o.ny otner
    context> [with] ~ny other wom01n> [ ... ] be lo.belleo(
    ~SSolAitive ". Did prostitlAtes like ho.vin9 seX' with me
    the wo.y Yny girlfrienols did? No., probo.bly not.~~ Bt-ot
    ti1C\t 's not Jeffreys; G\nol Giobbe's point. Even ;f th01t
    WCi\S their- point> it WOlAio( be G\ leG\p fo so.y thC\t~
    becOiuse someoll'le iSn't enjoyirt9 01 .SE')C(;(Q I ef1C.OlAV1ter>
    they're therefo...-e experier1ci"'S it c:u o.ss(;(ultive or
    coeYcive,
    Jeffreys sees sex~01l h01rc;{SSI'Yient o.s "' form of sex&AO\I
    violence.*"'* SI-te 9ives exo.mples of sex ~.ttcd hCArass..,e""t:

    [ ...)leering., menQcin9 7 steering 01nof sexLAo.l


    gest~.ttt"'es [ ..] whistles> LASe of innvtertdo o.no(
    gossip > sexi.AOII joking., propositioning[... ]
    lAnWa.nteot proX'ivnity [ . .. Jeffr-eys, p, 26't. J
    lookit19 o.t tho.t list., it becomes cleGtr how Jeffreys
    co.n -think th01t prostitlAtion is 01. forM of viofe.,..c.e . SV1e
    o(oesn't lASe tf,e woro( ''violence" tne w01y other people
    do. If yotA know th01t by .st01ndivt9 close to someone
    yo~.A're mo.king tl-ten1 uncomforto.ble, then it's inconsiderO\te Olnc( rLAde to COYltinue to StO\nd ;.., their- proximity. Still> th01.t doe.5n't make " lAit1WGH"'teol proximity''
    violent. SexlAG\I jokes CO\n be i nsel"\sitive ., btAt jokes
    C\re111't "' forVYl of violence.

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    lr n-1o..y be thc;.t Ylot o..ll jol-lns


    ~..-e violent> b~..tt prostit~..t"tiol"l
    sl-'!o~..tld still be kept i lle9AI
    beCAIAS
    prostitutes do
    frect~..tent I y
    e..,c.o.Anter
    viol e.-,ce.

    p,-ostitLAtes
    violence* btAt_,
    yes> mGh"'Y do. ThAt
    ~oesn ' t metH"' thO\t
    prostittAtion shoi.Aiol be
    ; ltesc.l . When ~ t01.xi
    driver is .st~bbeo( or
    shot> no ot1e cH=ivoc~te.s
    thAt cJrivil'19 C\ CO\b
    sl--totAid be c r im i 11alized.
    EC\c.h pers o,., sl-1oCA /c.(
    h~ve H1e ri9ht to c;(etermil"le for- him-or- Y'Ier.self' the
    C\t'YlOLAY1t of risk ne-or-ske is willing to t~ke for C\
    po.rticc...dAr job.
    Also_, keepi1119 prost i ttAtion ille9~l m~kes tl.,e problerYI
    worse ., ..,ot better.
    Tho.t john beAt
    ~no( s tole
    my WlOI1ey.
    I Wetnt to
    cedi the

    police --

    Not

    ~II

    e..,c.o~..tl"lter

    - - btAt th~t WOLA/o(


    0\tte...,tion to
    t"'e fetc:t tV!ett
    I' m rt.Annin9 ~..,
    ilfe9et l ;..,cc;.ll
    operAtio...,
    ot..tt of this
    01 par"tmef"''t.

    c;(I""CtW

    t-heir

    Dec.rirni'1aliz.i119 prostit~Ation will make it more likely thCAt


    ~ sex- worker wotAid report this sort of c.r i me . Of
    co~Ar.se c(ecriminodiz.ation wor1t completely irraclicG\t
    violence ~901inst prostit~Ates., blAt it will sive the....., an
    option to ae01l with thG\t violence.

    APPENDIX 11
    SEXVAL OBJECTIFICATION
    Pt'"ostit~..ttio..,

    sho~..tlci

    be ilfe9o.l be cAvtse

    i t e..,<ot.uo.9e s rne,., to objec.tify


    WOVI"len .

    Sl-teilo. Jeffl'"eys c{efines sexLAo.l objectific~tiol"l o.s o.


    fot'"l"'"\ of e t"V1 o t i onod indiffe,..e...,ce . *Is it WY OI"\9 for people
    who o...-e emo t ion~ lly indifferent to eo.cC., other to hC\ve
    se')( ? S&,otAic:i we n-to.ke CAnpo. io(. one-night-stands illegcd ?
    I o.c:tLAo.lly do..,'t think prostitlo\tion cloe s e11c:oc..trA9e
    ernotiono.l in~iffe,.-en<e. Any tim e Ct. john s to.r-ts to for9et
    thO\t he's cieetl i "'9 wi-th f"eo.l people, o.n incio(ent ho.ppens
    like the one I show in po.nels 60 =8 to 66 =z which brin9s

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    APPENDICES
    the 91AY bo.ck to tlie re~li~G\t fo.., tho.t l,e's i.., beet with
    so~eo..,e whose feeli..,~S he h"s to t"ke ;..,to o.ccoLAnt.
    Tl-ler-e ...,.,~Y be so~e it"'se..,sitive jol-t11s wl,o ft\il to recosniz.e

    th~t

    cespo..,sibi/ity_. btAt I don't thi..,k it's P"Y;..,g for


    the....,., to be inse..,sitive.
    I feh G\ vo.riety of emotion"! n~spo.-,ses to the sexworkers I SOIW. I WG\S never covnpletel y ei'Yiotionc:dly
    i"l~iffere..,t to 0\ny of thei'YI. I WO\S less concerned G\boiAt
    wh"t they felt whe.., they dic<,t seei'Yl to CG\r-e wh"t 1
    felt. "Yvette"' ( CJ-t01pter 17) wot.Aio< be ".,.. exao.mple, blAt I
    s t i II ~ i ~ n' t
    t he r to fee I b" c;( I y "'bolA t o lA r en colA n t e r.
    Mo<;.t of the prostittAtes I w01s with I felt o. t leao. s t some
    o.ffection for. Severed of thewt I reao.lly lik ed. A few of
    theW~ f 9E>ntAi..,ely respe cted.. With "Denise'~ emotion01l
    in~ifference is t}-Je opposite of whao.t I feel. If po.yin9
    for sex co.t.Ases ao. I'Y'IO\n to feel il"'cre01si.,9ly eMotio.-,<AIIy
    inct i ffere..,t to the women he 's hcwin9 sex with> the..,
    by ti-Je ti.-ne I st~rteol seei..,9 '' De,ise"> I sho.Aid..,'t hcwe
    bee.-, ao.ble to howe ao.ny emotioY~od respoY~se to her.
    I think it 1'Y1i9ht be possible th~t pao.ying for sex cotAiot
    le01d. " I'Y'IG\..., 'to 9re01te.- ei'Yiotio..,"l se..,sitivity> ao.t leo.st
    for some J"oJ.,..,s -- tho se w&.,o o.re ope.., to the po~sibifity
    tlo-!ao.t tl,ey mi9ht hawe thi..,gs they coCAid be leQrnil"19 from
    enCOIAt'1ters with sex-workerS,

    sex thCAt

    c~uses

    w"..,

    APPENDIX 12
    HUMAN TRAFFICKING
    AND SEX-SLAVES
    There see""'s to be so.....,e conf<Asio"' t\bo"'t tJ.,e ter....., "'"'""..,...~"
    Whe.., I originCAIIy heG\rcA it severt\ l years a9o~
    i t refer-red. to tn:A.nsporti..,9 ""'i9rt\..,tS across bor~ers ille9ally.
    LG\tely I've het\r-ol and seen the expceHiot'l l.<~(>o( inter-c.ha..,ge
    o.bly with ''pimpin9" as if the y mean the sa,e thi..,g. There
    o.re tit'rleS wlo,en certain t..-01ffic.kers ~o tlo,i..,gs t'-101t ~..-e
    Sii'Yii lt\r to WheAt pi ...... ps olo.. btAt I see no rE.>G\SOI"l to biCAr the
    o(iHinctions~ so I 'W~ going to ho/o( to the origii"!CAI ..,.,eao...,ing
    of h ... m"'.., tr<>.ffic.ki..,9 for this ~ppenolix.
    Most people who o.re tr01fficked ~ to be trOt.fficked.
    They 're frorv~ poor cov.ntries G\nct want to c.o,......e to richer
    co~.Antries eitner for tne ecol"lo..,.,ic. opporttA..,ities o r bec~t.(se
    tney WC4..,t to trCAvel. Some of them h01ve b01ot e)(periences
    while bei"'9 tr~fficke~ --others don't 01..,c:A o.re h01ppy
    th~t tJ,ere's o. w~y to 9et to where they "'-'G\nt to go.*
    11"1 tJ.,e mo.jority of cc~ses, J.itAmOin tr~fficking hao.s nothin3 to d.o with prostitl.o\tion. ( Accoroling to one Sot.Arce>
    "j lAs t 4 perc e.., t [ of t r 01 f f i c k i n 9 ] in v o Iv e s t h e s e X'
    ;..,~~Astry ". ~ ~) 1,., ti1e CO\Ses where prostit~.Ation is
    i.,volvecl_. WlOo.ny of the woWien choose to be tr01fficked
    knowiVIg they'll be worki..,9 o.s prostitLAtes il"' the COIAI'1try
    tl--ley'll be t<Ake~"~ to. So..,..,e O.o l'tot m01ke thCAt choic.e a.-,o(
    "trQfficki..,~('.

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    APPENDICES
    o.re for-cecl to work ~s pt'ostitt.Ates Ol9G\i"'1St their will. For
    the SG\ke of c.lc;trity 1'...,., 90in.9 to use. the tenYI "sex- SIG\ve"
    to r'efer to trG\ffickec{ fe...,.,odes who o.re forcecA to I-1G\ve
    p01i&-s~x.

    To j1Ad9e by C(ccents, foi.Ar- of the pr-os.tit"'tes I s"'w


    were n o t born i n C c.. n c..~ o, : "A n 3 e I i n ~ ., ( C h c.. p t e r 3 )
    "Amc..ndOl" ( Cho.pter 1 ), "Arlene'' ( (hOlpter 21 ), o~o(
    '' L01v.r01'' ( Ch~pter 29 ). ( I consid.e,- whether- G\ny of t-hese
    women were sex-st01ves ;..., the r"totes sectio...,,) The IG\st
    of the foi.Ar WG\S ''l~I.Af"Gl." -- I so.w her on December 12th
    2002. J wc..sn't <;\WG\re of the existence of se)(-SI01ver'"y in
    C~n01cA.01 v.nti I I heo.ro( 01.n interview ~botAt" the .SlAbject
    on C-S-C R01.c:Aio on Dec.e..,.,ber 16th 2003,* 1 ~ so i t ..,ever
    even o cc t.U reo( to me to won de r if ':An 9 e I i n o.",
    "A...,.,G\nc;(01", "Arle.,e"> GVlo "LouArO\" were sex-slo.ves. If t
    ever cJ.o find myself with 01 foreign - born prostitt.Ate
    019o.in , """' sure I' ll o.sk I'Yiyself if she's bee..., forcec;.( to cto
    the work, If I hc:we stro..,9 re-o.sons to SlASpect thO\t she
    h01s been, l'lf 01.sk if there' s o.nythin9 I c01n c:Ao to help
    her 01.nci will of-fer to co.H the police on her behO\If. As
    o. joh.., who's ..,ot mo.rrie~ o.nc;.L is open o.nd "otAt''
    0\botAt" p01yin9 for sex I prob~bly no.ve more options
    o.boV\t how I COI.Aic:i nelp in SCAC:h si ttAO.fions . MOII"\y johi"\S>
    worrieol o.boAt their wives fincti..-.g otAt> woAid.-,'t wo. .... t
    to phot-~e the cops.

    P"Y for sex <;\re


    cre"'tir19 a
    demCAnd. for
    sex- 510\ves.

    to stop tl-1~t
    vtem01nd. we h<Ave.
    to c ri mi I"''CI I i l. e
    p01ying for sex.
    It sl-1o&Aid be
    i lle~o.l to be
    01 john.

    let's SGli.Y 01 cert01in shoe coW!pOiny IA.S5 sl01ve IQbour to


    """'nv.f01ct1Are its shoes -- sl-lotAio( we crimi"''o.li-ze the weo.r;...,9 of snoes in order to stem the dern01nd for SIOivemc.c*e shoes? No, we~rin9 shoes <;\no( c re01ting "' clemanc(
    for shoes is not in itself wron9_, and. ma.,Afc.cttAring
    snoes is not wrong when free a.o(~Alt.s conse"'t- to d.o i-t.
    This hypothetico.l shoe c:ovnp01ny wov.(o( probCAbly contr<Act
    oi.At the work -- tl-,ose contro.ctor-s o.YJo( G\1"\yone 01t the
    comp01..,y who wa.s a.wo.re of the slo.very shotAIO. be the
    people helc{ legc.dly re~ponsible for the problem_, not
    p1Arc:ho.sers of the shoes_, wJ.to woc-4lcln't know OlhotAt the
    siCAves .
    I o.o.,' t wc.tnt to hCAve sex with sex-slo.ves. When I hi,-e
    a. prostit~Ate I hope thc.tt sf.1e's "'fr-ee perso.., who h01s
    c:l-loH"' the work. If I foi.A.-,o( OIAt tnCAt (;\ prostit~Ate I hG\o(
    hired. WG\S 01 sex -s \~ve} I wo"'lot be willing to try to help
    her. Most joh.,s don't w01..,t to hir-e .sex-siCAves, There is
    ~o Si.9111ificG\nt conStAr>'1er cleW101not for sex-sl~ves. PtAnisl-1il"l.9
    johns for soMet-hing we c;.(on' t wo.nt 0\r"lc,{ c{o..,'t know-

    APPENDICES
    in9fy p~rticipo.te in is mispto. c.in9 the blo.wH~ -- especio.Hy
    when.. in Co...,o.c<o., t""e n-,G\_jority of pros titAtes o.re not
    sex-.slcwes .. .so tn01t joht"lS co..., be reo. soY1o. b/y cert0lil1
    t~o.t most of the tii"'Yle we're with sex - workers w"'ro

    howe c nos en rhe profession.


    A f~.oHt he.-- point: if we cri m inali ze the ptArc.V.otse of
    sexlAal servic.~s... Hten police reso~Ar'"c.es will 90 into trac.k;..,9 c(owV~ O.l"lol identifying jol-'!ns . Those reso~Ar-c.es wov./d
    be better tAf"ili~ec( ;..-, trCo\c.k i.-"19 c<owV~ .se)( - s/o.vers o....,o(
    free.iV'l.9 .se)(-s lo.ves.

    IF

    we licence fei"V\o.le p..-ostit ~Ates~


    we'll be o.ble to mo.ke Sl..\re tho.t
    only wome.,-who-ho.veth e - le go. I- right- -to -

    We'll be 01ble to
    icte.,tify who
    tl-1 e

    work-in - (Oin0\()(01.
    work CAS
    prostitvctes .

    People wl1o rno.ke this o.rg~AVY~e...,t 01re ignorin9 01 big

    covY~p li cOi ting f01ctor:

    +S.,e bl<llck W~o.rket. If prostit~Ate s are


    li c.e..,ce d, n-1ost (01n01clio.V~born prostittAtes will c.noose to
    work ;..., the l:J/o.c.k YY~o.rket wltl-to~At lic.enc.e s. (Prostitutes
    YlOIVe. STf"01'19 reo.SoYIS for protec.tit19 their priv01cy, potr""tiCIAIo.rl y f,-o m ri-te 9over.,,.,..e.,t, whic.h h01<; NEVER wot'"ked ;.,
    tkeir- be s t it1t ft>sts .) TV.e black market wo~Afc( be c.on1e
    n~A9e -- too large to be COt"ltrolleO.. SeX- slowes WOIAic.( be
    forcec,( to work ;,., t""e blo.ck m01rket, rtot in legOll
    brothels. Nevertheless, the t"Yl~jority of pro s tit~Ates i..,
    t!-te bl~ck mo.rker wol-\lcA be free ca~...,Oic.liOI...,S w""o
    c. ""o ose -the work. lc.le...,tifying whic.'-1 proHif"t.Ates ;..,
    -the bl01.ck I"'YlOirket 01.re cirize..,s ou1~ which 01re
    iII e .901.1- irn rn i 9 ro.nrs- wl-to - might - be -sex- SI Qve s wo lAIc;.( be
    ~ never -e nc<ing 01n& very expensive to.sk for the
    0\t.Athorities. lic.e..,c i "'9 wot.Aic:i m01.ke it no e01.sier to
    i~entify SelC'-S io.ves +~an i t is now.
    Top of t h c:-t_, OIS I've 01.1'91-'e~ elsewl-,et'"e in this book ..
    tl-te ;c(eo. of lice..,c.iV'lg conse..,svc01l sex between c-.dv.lts is OI.YI
    offe..,sive restriction on o~.tr SelC'I.A<lll civi l ri9nts. Two

    o..-,

    (O n Sen ting QcliAffS ,Si-tOCAiol YIOt neeo( to OI.Cq_Uire 01. 90VY"t1


    ment-i H!Aeol. dOU4WleV'lt" to hOI.ve Se)(. Freei..--g .sex - sloo.ves
    .sl-totAic.l be 01 priority for OI.Ar IC\w e,forc.e.,._,e..,t offic.er.s,

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    APPENDICES
    in OltteWtpting to o(o so tney shoc..tlc( nOive to oper~te
    withi.., p01r<:Hn eten thO\t re spect the civil r ig l-lt s o f the
    Citizenry ( jc..tst ~S t-ne polic.e nO\Ve to opero.te WithiYl
    tnose p~rO\vneters wl-ten ti-ley c(e~l with other- c.riW~eS ) .

    biA't

    APPENDIX 13
    PIMPING
    Why o.re yotA

    Co.nad.ial"' woi'Yle..,
    who CH "E.> forc.ed by
    pimps to h o.ve
    pG\ic( -sex o. re o.lso
    sex - siG\vE.>s ..

    o...,ry ~efinir"'9
    fore i9n- born
    wome n o.s
    sex-slo.ves?

    It's wid e ly reco~niz eo th~ t wheYl 01 pi """P w01nts to


    lc..tre 01 wo..,..,~, ir1to prostitc..ttiol'l> he does..-1t' lASe
    forc.e - he romou1ce!> I-ter. If he's SIAe<essf"'l" s he sees
    him OIS her boyfr-iencA . This iSI'l"t s/01very, it 's 01
    volc..tnt~ry rel~tionship . I don' t ht:we 01 problem with
    voiCAnt'~t"y rel~tio..,snips between o.d .... tts .. If o. pi~p
    be01ts o. prostit"'te, I hope s he woi.AI~ choose to Jeo.ve
    tne 91AY o.nd 9et the police to o.rrest ~-lim for- ~sso.~Ait"
    bt-tt I ~lso thil'lk sl-le 1-lo.s the right to sto.y with J..,;..,..,
    ;f she wo.nts to.
    Co.n01dio.n woWten o.re ro.rely kidno.ppe~ e>.r'loi forceol.
    into prostitCAtion the wo.y some femade i lle9CAI i rnr'Yli~rOints o.re . This is in lo.r9e po.rt beCCiliASe it's eo.sie,..
    for Co..no.dio.n women to esc01pe .. A Co.no.oi01n WOI'YIO.I'\
    w'-'o w01s kiolno.ppeol 01nol. force~ into prostit~Ation
    with;.,., C~no.d" probo-.bly wo~.Aidn't hesi't01te to CCilll the
    Co-.no-.olio-.11 polic.e if she 9ot her ho-.nols o.., 01 pi-lone -~very sy,..,potnetic john with Q cellphone wo~Alol be on
    esc01pe opportt-tnit-y.. ( I don't howe o. cell-pnone, bt-tt
    the seK- worker.s who COir'Yle to my Glportment wot-tlcl
    freq~,ently ~sk if they col.A id lASe Wty phone> Qnci I
    G\lw01ys let them .) On the other h01,.,d > o.n ill egG\ I
    immi9r~nt n-1i9ht worry th01t the pol ice in (o. ..,O\GlO\ 01.re.
    o.s c.or..-"'pt 0\S the ones bO\c.k ; ,., her '-'tome c.ot-tntry. She
    coiAicA. howe. concer,.,s ~bo1-1t bei"19 ol.eporteoL She nni91-tt
    not eve.-, knov.~ tn01t the emer.9enc:y ni.Amber- is 9 -H . A
    C~no.O.ia.., worv~~"' COIAI~ probtA.bly tA.ISo c01ll f~rnily or
    frie11&s for help. An i lle9o.l i~migr-01,.,ts f01..,..,ily 01,.,cA
    friencls ~re proba~bly on 0.111other- continent. As for Co.11a
    ~ian women be ins kid."'"PP'-'ot in 01 f o..-eis n c:oi.A..,try i t
    colAIO. 11apper"' ;.., o. colAntry l ike SoWI~Iio. wher e every
    " we~tern "' penon woiAid be o.t r-isk, beAt i t ra~rely if ever
    ho.ppe..,s ;., COI.Antri es with o..-~y kit"'o\ of to""r-ist ;..,o(l.o4stry.
    The Ol~Athorities there o(o..,'t wo. r1t tlo,ose to""r-ist doll~rs
    9oi..,9 Qwo.y . BtA.ol tl1 i119S OCCC4Sio ..... ally ho.ppen to (CAnO\&io.n

    Z4-6

    APPENDICES
    totA.rists ;.., forei9n plo.ces~ bc..\t if Co.no.ciio..., wo.....,en wer-e
    r-e9c..\IOtrfy Olrt<i syste.....,<l<tico.lly bei"'9 ki<ino.ppeol ;.., 01. p(;\rtiCCAio.r- C.Oc..\rttry_,. it woc..\lc( be 1'10ti c.e<:l( C\nci Ot" 9ovel'n....,ent
    CAnol. medio. woCAIG( st01rt wo.rni..,g people to o.voiol. H1(;\t
    c:Hea. of tl1e wor/c(.
    Jol-1ns co.., be reo.sorto.bly certo.i.., t'-1<At if o. prostit~Ate
    ho.~ o. Co.n01olio..., o.cce..,t.,. she is not <A sex-s/o.ve.
    How m0111y of the sex- workers I so.w ho.o( piW1pS ? Five
    of tl-te"" told me enoi.J(91-t 01.bo1At their l ives in enougl-t
    deto.i( th01t I wo.s co11Vi11ceol. tl-tey c{;c(..,' t ho.ve pi,.,.,ps. As
    for the rest_, I don't know. If's worth notin<J tho.t m01ny
    prostit~Ates work witl-1o'-At piW1pS, o.nd tho.t inco.ll ~..,cA
    otA.tcodl worken 01.re le ss likely t'-101n str-eetw01.lkers to
    1-l<Ave pi,..,.,ps.

    APPENDIX 1~
    EXPlOITATION
    1'1ot o.ll prostitCAtes
    e>.~e sl01ves.. but
    tl-ley 01re o.ll
    exploite~ .

    People cue exploited wl-len


    they 're not f~irly compe..,Sc-Atec( for tn e work tne y
    do. Yes... some prostit~AteS
    01.re exptoite~ when I'Ylos,t
    or <?.II of their money is
    to.ke.., by pi....,ps, bt..ct ..,ct
    o.H prostit~Ates 01.re
    exploite~.

    "Denise" beg"'.., working OI.S 01. pr-ostitt.tte whe~"~ she


    wo.s o.n o.d~Ait. She c.hose to cJ.o so .... 1'10 pimp or tro..fficker foYced. ner. She ChOlrgec( over $ 200 CAn l1o1Ar. Tke
    mo..,ey she eo.,-..,eo( wo.s hen Cl\lone -- si-te dicA,t J,.,~ve to
    split it with o.nyo11e . After ~ few y~o.rs~ whe.., she
    d.ecic.lecJ. she wo.nted to qlAit prostittAtiol'l> 11oboc.Ay
    forced ~er to co..,tir1LAE' to work -- the detisiot"' Wc;\S
    hers o. l oYIE' to mo.ke. I do.,' t S' now o.nyone (01Aio(
    look o.t tnose fo..c.ts o...,d conc. l""c;(e thC\t her co..,ditioYl
    WC\S siwtilo.r- to slcwery oy tn01t sl1e w01s e:xploiteo(. Sl-1e
    w'-'S o....,o( is o. fr-ee perso.,, mo.kin9 c.hoic.es t1011" rY~otkE'
    se11se to 1-ler.

    APPENDIX 15
    THE COMMERCIALIZATION
    OF THE SACRED

    Z,~7

    APPENDICES

    Sex. i:s so.cred..


    It s noiA ldn't be
    com mere io.li zed.

    If commenio.lizo.tioY'l of the SC<creo(


    i s w r o VI g , t h ~ ..-. yo LA 'd bet t

    e r t e II

    c. hLAHhes to stop po.ssing the collctiot1 pl~te o.ncA bookstores to s top


    selliVI9 tl-te Bible . Speo.kin9 of bookstores.. I love reo.cAin.9 -- I see tl-te
    trai"'SifYiiSSion of know/ed.ge ~no(
    wisclow, in print ~s o. sa.creo( ().ctivity. )'...., 9lo.d. thCAt we've COI'Yimer-c.ili'l.e~ the prod~A.c.tion Olno( cliS'tl'"ib~.AtioV\
    of books Oll'l& m~e them eo.sy to etcq_~.~ire. It's beco.I.A.se I
    cl o see: sex a.s so.c.reo( etnd potentio.lly spirit'-IOll tho.t I
    be I i eve i VI co wtme rc iod i l. in 9 it O.l"'d. VYIO\ ki ""'9 this potent i 01 lly
    holy expe,-ieV~c.e more eo.si(y G\V01ilo.ble to o.ll. CommerciCAii'ZOitiovr is not sowtethi.-tg diSgi.A.stitotg tha.t contG\V"'ina.tes. It's
    jCASt o. wy of m01kiY19 9oocls o.nol services 0\Sily 0\Vo.ilo.ble,. whether those goods o..,o( se,-vices o.re reli9ioCAs_,
    sexv.o.l> or botl, a.t ti-le SO\me tiVV~e.

    APPENDIX t6
    NEVADA
    The profeHion is !egad o.ne'i regCAID~teo( i lf'l Nevo.d.01 . Sexworkers o.re licenced Q...,o( howe to work ;., brothels.
    My hostil:ty to licenciY~9 c:.u"d re9t..~lo:ti..,9 prostitCAtio..,
    <3rew 5trolf'l9er while I reQ.c/.. Ale )Co. AI bert's BROTHEL~
    MUSTANG RANCH AND ITS WOMEN. S&.,e did her reseoe.rc.lo1
    in Nev01d0\ bo.c.k in 'the 1990.s~ blAt I dot..~bt tJ.,o.t tJ..,e
    ki.,cJ of control the stO\te's prostitt.ttes howe 'to ptAt' t..~p
    with iis mt..cch oliffe.re..,t .-tow.
    The mobility of the sex- workers Q.t the MlAsta.ng
    Ro.nc~ WC\S limi ted. --for the t\mOtAI'It of time t'-tey were
    011 sci-1eolt..de ( which cot..~lc;;( be d.Oly5 or weeks) they h01d
    to s leep 0\t the brothel. They were not o.llowecA. to 90
    home o.t the e..,o( of a. shift. (Albert~ p. Lts.) They ofte..,
    wo~Aidn't see their children for weeks o.t o. tin-1e. (Albert,

    P 't5.)
    Brothel l'Vlt\1'1CA.9ement o.nd lo.w e..,fo,-c.emet1t [ ... ] try
    to limit prostit~Ates ' conto.ct with loco.( comi'1'1CAnities. M1A.sto.Y'l9 RCi\.nch,. for exo...,..,ple, req_<.cired. 01
    n.-tr1ner> or escort~ to o.ccomp"'r'lY prostitlAte5 on
    errc.tnch to town o.t the wome..,s ow., eX'pense -$ 5-.$ 10 per erra.YI~ or stop. Albert, pp. 't6~ Ltr. ]

    EG\cn bedroo,...,. wo.s equipped witJ.t (). nid.delf'l intercom


    systei'YI tho.t cashiers tAseot to eQ.vesdrop on wcmens
    vt e:9 oti~tioV1S [. Albert> p. Lt1. ]

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    APPENDICES

    [M]~11~9erv~ent condt.A.c:t~c(
    seQrc.J..,es [. AI bert, p. 't1.]

    \M1 C\ YlYI OIAn<:

    e ol

    1'00""'1

    Whe., o.. womo..Y'I refused C\ cu-.tomer willi..,, to p~y


    tl-te ho""se miYiimtAP"Yl_, YY1CAY1o..3eme..,t expec.teG{ o..
    reo...soY'IOlble ex CIAH ( e.g._, tl-1~t he refc.Aseo( to wec:v 01.
    co..,c(om ). WJ,ile [ o. prostitCAte] woCAic.l. 11egoti0lte \.,er
    ow.., ae~ls ~.,~ cotAio( ro...ise 1-1er prices to c(eter
    1Anappe01.liY19 elAstomers, mcv10l9e,...,ent wot..tiG{ ,..o.i s e
    its eye brows if sne ~;c:( this too ofteYI.
    [Albert~ p. 't9.]
    Openly re~clir'lg "' book while w~iting for clie...,ts to show
    lAP w"'s not C41fowed. (Albert_, p. 150.) lelephoVIe t..tse was
    restricteo(. ( Albert_, p.1B.)*
    Whet-1 I re~cA. Albert'.s book I wo...s o..lreo...c(y seei..,9
    " Den i s e ~ a.., d I en e G( tA p know i .., 9 q tA i t e o. b ; t ~ b o tAt
    her life. I cotAic.l.n't help blAt co...,trast "De..,ise's" freedom witl1 the restrictEd. lives of the Nevo.c.I.O\
    sex-workers.
    I dor1't wo..nt to reveo..l wl-tether or 11ot "Denise" ho.s kiols,
    b~-tt !.f she does, she wotA.Id howe been o..ble to live with theWI
    dtA.rin9 the yeo..rs si1e worked "'s C\ prostit~Ate. At the enol of
    +11e do.y she got to s leep in her ow.., bee( ( or wl1o..tever ot~er
    beoL sne chose to sleep in). She hC\of the mobility of "' resCA iccr
    (C\nccc;(io..n citizen -- she Q.ic(n't nect ~ "riAnner'' to o.c(ornp""'Y
    ner- wl-len she went shoppit'19> or we"nt to ~ movie, or whcctever-. Her nesotio..tions witt., her clients we,-e. their b~o~sivtess
    o..lo11e -- no o11e wccs listeY~ivt9 in o.., then-,. No one co..,~r.Ac.tecf.
    ~-tnC\nVJotAYICe~ seo.rc.hes of her home. She co~ lot ( ccnof o(;of)
    r-ef~Ase to see clieVJtS ;f she wo.nte~ to. She dic:lt1't need to
    explccin or justify her reo.sons "to I''YHH101.9ernent --there LVo.s
    no mo.no..gWInt. Betweel"l c.li ent!. she coCA/o( reo.o( o.. book . No
    o11e restric.tecl her C\ccess to the telepho11e.
    (o..,o(itio..,s o..t other Nevc.cofcc brothels could be even worse
    H101.t1 the o1-1es o.t the MtA.Stctng:

    For' exGt,..,ple,. the owr1e" of cc. brothel in sov.ther..,


    Nevo..c!o. o..lle9edly c.o11fiscated woW'Ien's peno..,ccl SlApplies
    ( co..,Joi'YI s.. I~AbriCQYit!>~ ny Ions) o..nd required the,.,., to
    replArc.ho..se everythin9 c::tirec.tly fro,...., the brothel C\t
    infl01tec( prices> like shccre croppet"s or Wli..,eo bLAying
    f,-o...., the compo.ny store. A.,d. "his '' working 9irls hOle;{ to
    blAy their meods 0. lo.. co.rte f,..o...,., the brothel kitchen>
    where slccbs of toW~o..to cost $ 2> cc box of froz:e.., vegeto.bles $ 5, a not o. J.1o.,.., bv.1'".9r- $ 1 [ ...]. "The own e..- took
    <Act v~.., t01_se of the f o.ct we were con f; n eo( to Y1 is
    brothel>" o..,e prostit"'te c<iv~;~lgeol to me. "Nothin9 wccs
    free. E ve,.yth ;..,~ wccs overpriced. ['' A Ibert> p. 6Z .]
    Those who tou"t -tne o.dvanta9es of the Nevo..da lice..,ci.,9

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    APPENDICES
    system n~vet-~'t t'"eQIIy tnov.9h't Clhou.t the difference
    between livln9 In ""' oppressive si'ttAC\tior"l C\nc:A living in
    f.--eedorn.
    Pros'titv.tes shotAid be ~!lowe~ to set lAP brothels> bv.r
    the Nev01dC\ syster'Yl i .S evil. A11y govel'ni"Ylent s c.heWie "to
    lic.en.ce 5ex wov.ld be evil.

    APPENDIX t7
    DRUGS
    It

    rn01.y be t(!Jle
    th01t some pros titv.tes choose
    the p,-ofessio..,,
    b v. t wh o.t 01bov.t
    pr"osti'tu.tes who
    o.re 01.ddi c.ted.
    to c.trtAgS ?

    Ad.d.i c. t ioYI is "


    dise"se. - - these
    WOW~en don 't
    c. hoos e to be.
    Cldcl i c:ted, C\nc;(
    prostitlAtion is
    prob~bly the
    only wo.y they

    They'r'"e vtot

    cnooSil"'<;:s to be
    sex-worke.--s,.
    tl-!ey're fo.--cecl
    by cirCt..trYlStG\nce
    to hcwe sex
    for MOI'ley.

    1-l"ve of rCAi sing


    110l.A<3h W10I"' y
    to blAy drv.ss .

    Is adcl.ic.tio.., o. diSeC\s e ? Psycholo9 i ~t Dr Jeffrey Sc..hOtle..Qrg!Jle S HtC\t it 's l'tOt in ~-l i s book ADDICTION IS A CHOICE.
    Po.tl1olo9y [ ...J rectt.cires "'"' ic;(e..,ti f i01ble odter01tion in
    bodily ti'>St..\e> o. ch01t19 in -the cells of tne body> for
    cliseo.se ciCA.ssifico.tion. No sv.cl-1 i&entifio.ble p~tho
    losv ko.s been folA...,ol. iVI t).,e bodies of J,e0o.vy c;(,.-inkers o...,& drlA9 1.\Sers. Thic, ~lo..,e jw;tif i es the view
    thQt addidion is ...,ot 01. physic" I cAiseo.se. [ ... ] \he
    pv.t01tive d.iseo.se Cellfed o.dd.ictio.., is di019noseoC.
    solely by SyW~ptoi'YIS in the forn-1 of c ondt.(ct, 11ever by
    si9ns, thCA.t i s , by physic<:\( evid.e..,ce in the po.tient's
    body. [ SchCA.Ier:, p.l6. ]

    I deny Htelt there is ~"'Y St.(Ch tl1in9 QS "o.cloict iot-t ", i,.,
    the sel'lse of o. clelibero.te C\nol. con s ciot..tS coArse of
    o.ction whic.h the person /iter011!y CQnt"'oT stop oloi""9
    A ctorclin9 to my view of the world> the heroil'1

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    ad.aic.t ca.., stop ;..,jec.ti...,g himself witL-1 heroin> tl-we


    alcol-wol o.cAdict ca.., stop 1-!imself fro..., swallowi.,9
    w~iskey .. an~ so forth. People are responsible for
    ti-leir &eliberate at"lo( cot"lsciotAS behcwior,
    [ Sci-lCAietS p. XV. J

    Scno"er points ot.At "th~t m01ny p~ople cue able to quit


    5tApposeaUy addictive drtA9S .. beAt ratl-ler thcH'I see t-his
    as evide...,c.e. th01t people can choose to do or not cAo
    these Q.rtAgs... propone..,ts of ( wh~t Schafer calls) "the
    'involv.nto.ry acAd.ic.tio"'' i<:Aeolo~y" cia;...., th01t those who
    continue to do 'the c;.(rtAgs are the o...,es wl.,o hGwe t~e
    oiSeQ.Se of CH~dic tion.
    Notice H101t o.ctord.iY'lg to this way of thinking .. ;,.,~illi
    atA.ods d.e,.,onstrate t~eir iYlc:>.bility to mOike a c.hoic.e
    Sii"Y'\ply by m01.king the ''wrong" choice .. the one we
    wi~L-t tt-rey h~d....,'t ma<ie. [ Sch01ler; p. xv.]
    It's prob~bly bac( fo.-- yoAr body ;f yoCA c.hoose to smoke
    or injec.t heroin> but it's your body 01r1d yo~-1 snout~
    ho.ve tJ.,e rigJ.,t to do wn~t yoCA w01..,t witn it ( irtdlAdi..,9
    tAnhecdthy thilf"I9S) so /on'3 01.S yoCA respect the property
    rigi-'lts of otl-ler.s.
    C.YC4.Ck

    APPENDIX 18
    MARRIAGE
    weQ.ke..,s tne ;...,stitution
    of MG\rri019e.

    prob~bly

    O.oes . I d.o,.,'t 11owe o. problerY'I witl1 tho.t


    0\.., evil ir1Stit~Atiol"''. I hope tho.t
    fewer people will see posseHive ,...,o..,o<J"'""Y as a.., i~eo.l.
    Yov. sno~Aid. be in " s eX lAG\ I rel01.tionsl-lip witn o. pG\rti <.IAIO.r
    person.~ rtot be cG\uSe yoCA MG\de 01 vow G\t so..,.,e point iO"'
    the past> b~.At be<~~Ase right-tf"low-in-tne-prese..,t yot.A ~
    to be ;.., 01 sextA01I relo.tion s hi p wltl1 thO\t persor1
    Yes, it

    Sir1<.e I thirtk "'10.rf"i019 iS

    .ZSl

    APPENDICES

    Eve.., if W~CHri01ge 01t1ot


    fidelity ciisG\ppeoo.r
    fro,.,., h~A,.,.,Oin soc.iety, people
    wo~AI~ still woo.,.,t to noo.ve
    (.~ilcArert, an~ most poHe,.,ts
    wo~Aiol love their cl-tilctre,>
    jCA St G\S t'VlOSt p01rE.'I"ltS do
    now. If mo.rrio.ge colloo.pses>
    new socioo.l Oll'lol le901l str~Ac.
    t~AY"e s will arise. Perhc-Aps,
    it1steoo.d of 01 mcHrio.ge
    co,.,troo.c.t, prospective pl).rents
    WOI.Aio( Si<JI"l 01 cnilol-ro.ising (OI'ltt"OICt tl-t01t WO~Aici spell
    OI.At wl-lo.t .sort of StApport 01t1c.C c~re ecul-1 woc.AI~ provide
    for the kicA.

    What o bout el-l i /cAre.,

    We neec( marrioo.ge
    bec<Avcse we ..,eed c.
    so(.iod stnHttAre in
    which
    chilcAren
    can be
    r01i se&.

    sex~Aoo.l

    APPENDIX 19
    TAXATION
    I nOive 011'1 extreme tCJt.ke OYI
    TrtAdeOivc 'S foo.rY~OIAS stoo.temel"\t
    tn"'t "TJ.,e stoo.te has 110 plo.<e ;.,
    ro.xe s.
    the becArooms of the l'lCAtior-t "
    ( 01s lo..-.9 <u the people ;.., i-1--.ose
    be&rooms 01.re co.., se,.,til'19
    CA.o~Aits ). It 's not j~Ast ti-le
    Jvcstic.e Dep01rtW~ent" 01nol l01w enforceYnent t~O\t
    s houlo(l"'''t be in tJ.,ere> NO brO\nCh of 9overnt'Ylel'\t s hould
    be ;.., those beolrooi'Y'Is -- tho.t i rtcltA~es ti-le TO\)( Dep01rtWlel'1t. l11cot'Vle eoo.rnecA frorY~ SeXIAO\I 01 c.tivities should not
    be tO\xec.(. Sex is too il'ttirY~o.te> too s01crecA. -- people
    s'-lo~AicA t1ot h01.ve to e:xpose their beol-lives to the
    pryirtg eyes of t01x- collecti..,9 bureo.vcc.rO\ts.

    Prosti'tiAtes

    sho u l<ll
    po.y

    ProstitJ.A.tio., is o.
    b<Asit<1eSS -- blAsine~ ses

    are to.xeol.

    Reli9io1.AS orgGirtiz~t;o.,s 9et t01.x breCikS c(espite the fo.ct th01t


    tl1ey 9e.,e,.o.te i>'lcome. We see tl1eir btASirtess iderttities o.s
    secoi'IGtG\ry to their" prim01ry so.c.red iderttities. Prost'itvction
    shoulo( be see., OIS primC~rily scureo( Ol"ld only secondar ily
    GIS 01 business. lndeeol> peri1C~f'S we shotA/d..,'t see it OIS o.
    b&ASil1eSS G\t 0111. Perno.ps we sJ.,oulo( see the ...,.,o.,ey ~iven to
    prostittAtes GIS ~ifts> not pC\yments.

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    APPENDIX 20
    STREETWALKING
    I think tho.t wl--te.., people are on privo.te property they
    SnotAid- be fr~e. from 90Ver.,t'YI(>nt it1terfer-ence Cine(
    t"'e~CAio.tio"' o.s loVJ9 as they're t"'espec.tin9 +he. property
    ri_shts of others. BlAt o.., P.1Ablic property ( str~ets> sideWCA.Iks> ptAblic pt:~rks> etc. ) I o(o think th01t o. 9reo.ter~e9t"'E.e of regtAio.tion is justifieO.. For eXQ.f'nple> I see
    nothin9 wrol"''9 with COWlpellins people to obey tr-o.ffic.Si3t101ls. More relevo.nt to the topic o.t h01t1d is wl-tere yotA
    COli'\ en~o.9e in btAsi..,ess. Obviow;ly I aon't tki01k it 's wron9 for
    o. btAsi..,ess-person to sell tl-ti..,gs on privo.te property ( typico.lly o. storefront either ow..,eot or renteot by the b!Asinessperson ). 8tAt selling thivt.9S on p1Ablic property is clif:fer-ent.
    If we let G\Ylyone set CAp S01les-st01r1d5 or to.bles on P"'"blic
    property7 "there WOCAld. be Ot/1 sorts of probl1'115. For one
    thin9> the si~ewo.Jto woCAio( qCAiddy fill 1Ap witJ..t btAsiness people lookiVI9 to o.void the cos-t of ownin9 or re..,ti..,g
    storefro...,ts, o.ncA o.ll of their- to.bles ClncA sto.nols wotAic(
    9et ;.., the wo.y of pecAestrio.t1s. For G\nother-> withotAt the
    c.le01..-fy ol.efi..-,ea owt1ership of property t~"'t the pr-ivo.te
    pr-o,erty syst~W'I provides> there WotAiol be ttArf- wa.r-s.
    Hey! I C~lw~ys
    set t.cp my tCAble
    on this cort1er!

    Sorry, po.l .' Tnis


    is pCAbl;c property -- yot.t don't
    ow..-, this spot7
    o.nal I 9ot here
    fi,. s t toal~y.'

    Tho.t so.id> I alo think tho.t people vvno hcwe o. "I'Ylo bile. '
    bw;iness t-ho.t c01.., be coYJaltActeo( on two legs> witlrl no
    sto.Y~ch or to.bles) shoiAio( be o.llowec( to sell goods or
    servic.es on the street. Tne Toronto writer Cro.d.. KiloO.ney
    solO. his books on the street for rYtOIVIY yeC~rS witho~.<~t
    inco..,veniencil'lg Q.nyo..,e. ':/< To me> these 01re t-1-te relevo.V"'t q:CAestio..-,s re9o.ra(in9 streetwo.lkers ~
    CD "ShoiA id we let- pros titl..(tes wodk or sto.no( ot1 sic(ewo.lks ?" W.ell> of cotAY"Se -- everyone who's not" il'l jo.il
    or IAno(er holA s e ~..-rest shol..(/o( be 01llowecl to t.HE?
    sio(e wo.l k s .

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    APPENDICES
    @ "ShotA id ta.,ey be "!lowed to tQI. Ik to peop le?" Well>
    of cot.o'"Se -- it's a Sin-tp le mo.ttey of free speed.,,
    s houlo(...,t howe
    the right
    to verbaHy
    1-,G\rQI.SS
    people .

    Being asked if I wa.,t o.


    blow -job foy twenty bLAcks is
    not hG\t'c.tSSVVlel"ff-1 it's just a
    q_LAestio n . If ~ prostitt,tf e
    wor1'-t to.ke no for G\n G\11SwerC4nc:A follow s me dow.., t n e
    street.. r'epeo.t ed ly offe ring
    I-ter- servic(S 1

    tl-r"'t's 11c.tr-&\s~-

    prolole,.,.,.
    Ht<~t 's

    str-eet solicito.Tio.,

    the pr-ice of I ivi119

    in ~ free soc.-rety. Yo "' hc:we


    to be tolerant of othermor-e
    people o.s lo..-,s as tJ.,eyre
    visi ble.
    not h "rYYI ir19 o.r1yo...,e a no(
    c~~re 9oiY1S o.boCAt their
    btASiness in " reo.sol'tetb ly
    c.ivil G\VlcA polite way. 1.-,
    tne po.st/ the sight of tw o
    rnen h o ldin.9 h"no(s or- kissir1g in pAblic woulc:i h"ve bee..,
    V\psettir19 to mc.tny people . Now th"t 9"Y r"ight~ ~re
    wic;{ely "ccepted> homophobes ho.ve to toler01te seeit19
    9"'Y beho.viotAr in pAblic. . HoW'Iof'hobes o(o.-7t like it~ b tAt
    that's the pYice o f livin9 ;.., o. f,-ee society,
    wil l mo.ke
    prost ;tu tion

    APPENDIX 21
    MALE PROSTITUTION
    AYiti - pr-oHitutioni!>ts are foc.useol o., why women
    snotAic:ln' t be prostitAtes, They i9no..-e the existence of
    m~le prostitAtes
    l~r"9ely bec"~Ase o.r1ti-prostitt.Atio11 argi.A
    rne .... ts WOIAiol sou ....,c:L Yiolict,t(OtAS' ;f Olpplieol to mel1. As G\
    CI.AittAr"e we see me..., "s bei"'S ;.., co ntYo l of their sexu01 /it y>
    so we 01.cc.ept th"t me"' coo.n choose sex-work. We'r e not
    worrie~ thoo.t o. moo.11 is pAttin9 hiYY1self i.-, o. pote11ti01.lly
    beco.~Ase we accept th e>.t me.., do thoo.t,
    A...,ti pro-.t i tc.ctior"'i s t s hG\ve ~ poo.tern~l i stic o.ttittAde

    risky sitiAO\tio..,

    towoo.ra< wome.-,.

    APPENDIX 22
    LICENCING ANJ> WORKING AT HOME
    I've c;..lreo.cly ,.,ac:ie poi.,ts si rn i laY to the following o 111 es -Glpolo 9 i z e for sound i "'.9 re petitiO lAS> b .... t I WG\nt to e...,.,phOISioze why it's wYong to co11Str01il"' "pr"ostitAte's c'-toice~.

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    APPENDICES
    If w~ rY~"'ke it mau-'lo(o.tory for prostih.cte s to J.tawe
    lic: er1ces to work.> 1-1ot Ct./1 of t&.t.en"' will bother- to O.C<:ti.Aire
    tl-1ose lice..,ces. If sometnil19 bo.d no.ppei1S TO c::\1'1 CA1'1licel'lc.ec:l Se>c-wor-ker ( like_, if G\ joi-tn be"'tS l-\ii'YI-Or-1-Jer) ne-orSI-1e wiff be less likely to co.ll the police becet~..tse he - or~
    She won 't WQnt to o.c:lm i t to work i rrs witl-to~..tt 01. li.ce11ce .
    Sex-worker-s shotAio( c::\ISo howe the ri9ht to work ov.t of
    tl-teir 1-lomes foy tl-te SG\me r-eo.son . It's prob01bly so.fer forprostitc.Ates to work coiiE'c.tively it1 brothels~ b"-!T if we
    Wt"'ke tho.t tl-te only le901l optiot1, the"e ~~ be se>c-~.Vorkers
    who choose to work OI.At of their homes,. 01.-tot if they 9et
    beCAt v.p> 'they'll be less likely to ' "'" the cops beco.~..t s e they
    wo.-t't wo.nt to report tno.t they 're worki.-19 rlle90\lly o.t

    home .
    I wo..,t every prostitt.Ate wl-ro is tl-te victim of 01 crime
    to be o.b/e to co.ll the police witl-rotAt fec::\ri119 the>.t

    there mi9nt be Y1e901tive co1'1Se'f.tAel1ce s for .-.ot hc:wi""9 tl,e


    rig I-tt po.per-work or for wor kil'19 in the " wro..,9" plc::\ce _

    APPENDIX Z3
    SETH'S NOTES
    As I rnentio..,eGI. i n tne o.fter-wor~ ,. Seth l101s writte..,
    notes re9o.rc;.(in9 soVYle of the He,es 1-te's i11.
    1 mCAy nowe believec:( C.het wo.s repres sin9 the expected emotiot1S b01ck then ,. b~.<~t l'YIY
    opinio"" n01s 01ltered. over the yeo.r s. I ofteYl
    jokingly refer to Chet o.s "the robot". In posin9
    01 q v. est ion to ~ i YY1 I m i 9 h t q_tA i p,. '' Pe r-1-1 a p s I
    shotAio4. o.sk 0\ person who 1-to.s G\CttAo.l htA..,..,O\n
    ei'Yiotiol'ls i11steo.cl. " The tr~Ath is, Chester seems
    to ho.ve o. v ery liVYlited ewtotiono.l r"G4nge corY~p
    c:AreGA to most" people . There does seer'Yl to be
    Sot'Y'Iethins wro..,g with hir'l'l . He' s defiYlitely 01n
    oc;{c.(bo.ll. Th01t saic.(, he is o.lso the kindest,
    gentle st O.l'lc:l VYlO~t c:;(eeply thotAghtftAI ocAdbo. ,tl
    know. Ped1c::\PS he is I'YiiSSin~ SOYYlethiV19 in nis
    ei"YYotioYlo.l mo.ket.Ap, perho.ps not. Who co.n so.y
    who.t is n"'tCAr-011 c::\t1d wl-tO\t is leo.rnecl bel-t<Avio~..tr-?
    l'lf s01y tnis -- he reQIIy doesn 't o.ppeo.r to be
    S~..tfferin9. Yo~.<~ ccu1't o.rsc.Ae with tno.t.

    PANELS I0:3, 't

    81:5- 88 ; 6

    Chet's pretty no.rc.( on the ideo. of romc..ntic rel01tionsnips . I 019ree with him th01t for the
    VYlOSt po.r-t they 01re c;(;ffi c tAit to m01int01in. Look
    o.rou11c:A tne CtAit~..<~re o.11c;( yo(..( wilf see th01t people
    ho.ve 01 hc::\rot time finO. i 119 I"Yleo.ni,..,9ftAI 0111ol positive
    Jo..,g terrY~ romCAI'ltic rel01tio1'1SI-tips . Th"'t so.ic.( , I 'm

    Z55

    APPENDICES

    not so cynicod QS he. Chet_, I StAspe c t, t-hinks it is


    esse.,..tiQIIy ii'V'Ipossible . WI-Jile tne o~ols G\re cel"'fCAi.,ly
    o.g at ins t vvt o s t co I.A. pIes> the r e cue pIe t'\ t y of ex a..., pIe s
    of lo.,9 ICA.stin9 sood pQirings. If yotA G\Sk t'VIe~ it is
    more o. prob/erv1 of ""tAWIQI"'' no.tt.-\re thQ"1 rowu"ntic.
    love. People jtASt co.., 't get o.lon9 with eo.cl-, other
    ;., ge.,er"l. Why sl-totAiol romQnce or mcu-rio.f3e be
    o.ny c.{ifferent ? For thG\t mo.tter> most people
    CCl.n ' t rno.int01in lo..,g lo.sti119 friendships either.
    C""et Qnc( I ~o.ve ho.shed this o<At W"tore tho..., o.
    fe ,w tirYies . He mo.into.ins it is tJ.,e sextAo.l elerv1e..,t
    thatt mostly co.LAses the tro<Able . I olisG\gree .

    ....--'-----.
    IZ't ~ s

    I don't reco./1 the specific excl-1o.n9e, bLA.t I


    probo.bly dirJ vvto.ke this remo.d'( - - I Saty <A lot of
    u..,fotAno(ec( o.nol meo.YI thi..,3S Still, I dotAbt Chet
    wo.s o.c.tv.o.lly ho.vin9 o. miol~life crisis . Robots
    c.<on't k(we micA-life crises.

    l'rYI not in this scene, blAt I co..., ' t resist


    notil"''9 tho.t the ioleo. of Cl-lester Brown o..,o( Joe
    Mo.tt O.isct..ess ir1..9 t,_,e. nOit<Are of rorYio..,tic love i s
    not !Anlike two blinot Wlen pG\il"'ting Ot StAnset.
    First off~~ where is thi~ converso.tio..,
    t"' K;.., 9 pI o. c e, Che t ? I..,_, 9 tA e s sin 9 t h e Io b by o f o.
    hote I.
    Seconolly, I suspec.t Chet is lettivtg Wle off
    li9htly her-e. The q_lAo.lity of my o.rgVlment wCAS
    probo.bly even f~ebler t&.-wo..-. who.t 1-le 's r-eporteo( in
    these po.ges. I wo<Aio(.,'t hawe h<Ao( well 3roundeo(
    op ~ ..,ions o.., tkese mo.ttef's ba.c.k +hen. Anol I ~ot.Abt
    W~Y opinions to~o.y would be l'Y\tACVI better
    j..,f'or....,ec(. Tho.t so.icl., I "'o thi...,k Chet CoWleS off
    "' little better here tho..., he probo.bly wot.-\la in
    reo.l life . He's ctefi.-.itely the "voice of reG\Son" o...,
    these P"l3es, a.nc( I ha.ve my o(ot.Abh tJ..,att most
    people woul~ come o.w~y with +ho.t opinion if
    they'c:A. ever ho.c( " 9ooo( sol i c.l o.rgLA.ment wi'tJ-1
    Chester in the rea.l worlo(. He's certo.i.,ly set ;.., nis
    wo.ys -- he's thou9ht his positiol"l ov.t well> a.-.~ he's
    cornW~itte~ to it. No cJ.otAbt o..botAt t,_,o.t. BlAt often
    nis opiniol'l is 0. little too ~ogmo.tic for my tatstes - "'little too tieoC. to the libertcu- i G\t1 po.rty-/ine atboc..tt
    the SG\nc.tity of property ri9hts . lt .s G\ bit of o.
    broken rE~con,( listenit1'3 to tl-tese G\Y9lA.I'Vle.,ts over
    o...-. o( over Ot~O.if't. I 9otto. so.y, it tires me otA t . I
    reo.lly cotAict.,'t 9i v e o.. sl-lit o.boVlt most of these
    isstAes . ( ' rYl btASY I'Vlopil"''g o.bout the po.st,. folks - - I
    olo .,t n "'ve tiW~e to reo.o( every new book o.., the
    ethics of prostif~.Atiot'l. (Vlt some s lo.ck if I co...,e off

    l<)l:3- 197 : 2

    Z56

    APPENDICES

    looki"'9 illi11for""'ed here! A"'d yes > b(). ckect into~


    r~etor ic ~l co rner I likely c;(i~ v.tter- tho.t SttApic;(
    ,_...._._ line CAboVtt SW'Ioki1'1.9.

    _____

    W'-'o

    kvtow~

    ? Mo.ybe he's right.

    nQS bee.., G\ f(>O.rl"lil"'g C~Arve for me.


    Wle to c.o.,sider rn01ny I.M'ICOI"'ve"'tio~o.\

    KY1owing (net
    He 's torc.E.>o(

    positions I woulc;( not hc:we given ml.Ac:J, thot-glf'1t


    to otherwise. Disp""ti119 issv.es with hii'Yl ho.s
    n e I p e d t'Y1 e to t hi"' k ...,., ore c: r it; ( o.ll y. It 's bee.,
    gooo( for me. It's to.v.sJ,t VY\E.> to ct(;(estio., Yf'lY ow11
    OlHIA..,.,ptions . I SIASpect thG\t if I J.o.o.ol oo. better
    memory I wov.lot be e,.y,\c>arrasseol by the many
    kn~e- jerk_. reG\ctionary cowp1o1en ts I 1-to.ve uno(o"' btecA. Iy mG\cie to hi..,., over ti-te yeo.rs re9etrc{ing love
    o.nol prostit~Atio..,. The tr-uth is., if I hAo( 0\ problem with Chet 's ;..,volve.,.,e..,t witJ, prost i ttAtes ;,
    the pG\st I hoo.ve certai..,(y gotte.-, over it. Pr-ostitut-ion mo.y .,o't work for every mo...,_. btAt it
    works for J,;.....,,
    The fu..,...,y tl--lit19 Abowt Chester i~ tha~t OtAt of
    all the .....,en I k ..... ow 1-te's q_uite possibly the o11e
    I t-hi..,k wo~Aic:A mG\ke the I'Y10 St co..,siofer~te boyfrie..,o( or hv.sbGu-,o( for (;{ wol'r1C41"1 . ., ~nc::A yet he
    is the ot'le who pic..k~o( +he who..-in~. It 's 01 ft-..,..,y
    world.

    ZS7

    pLAblishers wo.nte~ this book to be co.llec;(


    like the title - - tl-1ere's an irvtplied
    G!olAble - meGH1i..,g . It S1A3CJSts tho.t not only o...v~ I po.yins
    for se>t b~.tt l '..v~ o.lso po.ying for being o. joht't it'l so..,..,e
    ..,on- .....,oneto.ry wo.y. Mo...,y wolAicl thi~k th01t there's o.n
    e.,...,otioi"'Clll cost -- 'tho.t johns o.re so.d o...,~ lo..,ely. There 's
    o. pote..,tiG\1 heClllth cost if Of"'e co...,tro.cts o. sexCAo.lly
    tro....,s"""ittec;( diseo.se . There's o. lego.l cost if one is
    o. r r e st e d . I f on e i s "o lA t e at '', t h e ..., o .., e co 1.4 Id Io s e o .., e ~
    job ""~ odso SlAffer the sociO\I cost of los;...,g OYle 's
    fr-ie..,c.ts o.nc;( fo.mily. I ho.ven' t bee.., "po.ying for it " in
    O.t1Y of those WG\y.S. I'm very fG\r froW'I bei...,9 so.d or
    lonely, I ho.ven ' t Cc;tCAght G\n S-T-P, I no.ven 't bee11
    arrested, I ho.veYl 't lost my co.reer, QYld mv friends o.nd
    fG\W'Iily hG\ven ''t rejected me ( o.ftJ,otA9h I s hotAI~ ou;;l.mit
    tho.t I still ho.ven' t tolat m y step-mom).
    So fOir> I've bee..., p01yin9 ;.., o.,ry -tl.,e Ol"'e se .... se . ( s;,,e
    this is o. r'Yle"'toir, "so fG\r " is 0111 -tho.-t's relevo.nt,)
    BCA.t let wte be cleo.r tha~t """Y pCAblisher.s did not
    force the title on W~e. I chose to 9ive in to who.t- they
    WG\t1ted . If" I ho.d i...,sisted , they woCAIQ( howe odlowec:A
    me to plAt who.tever worot s I Watntt>d on the cover. I
    Jove o.nc:A re s pec t Chris o.nd Peggy atnd reo.lize thOtt
    this is "' at;f"f'ictAft book to rno.rket.

    I covER J My

    PAYING FOR IT. I cion' t

    259

    NOTES

    Je~lo(...(sy is nG\tCArod, bc,.(t t11oo.t doesn't meo.n


    th01t I"'IOt feelin9 jeG\IoiAS iS not n01t1Arod. It's probo.bly
    better to fr01wte the rv101tter ;..., r-el01tio"' to rYJe>.t&Arity.
    It's ii'Yll't'lG\tiAre to be jeC~~Ioc,.(s,.. it 's mOit&Are to not- feel
    jeo.lov.s.
    AlthotA~h I c01n't re01lly clefencl tl--te positiol"1 thCAt
    jeo.lot..esy iS leo.r..,ec::A.-1 I do thil"1k oLAr c&AitLAre el"1co&Ar0.9eS the reG\ctio..,. An ex01.mple of G\ cLAitLAre tho.t
    oiS(OIAr"0.9eS i t is the Moso C&AittAre of Hii'Y'ICAIOI.YOII"'l
    CYiinCA. [..., Coli HLAO.'S book G\botAt the .Moso (A SOCIiY
    WITHOLAT FATHERS OR HUSBANDS)., he reports G\
    converso.tiot'l 1-,e ho.d witJ., two yol..\n9 men~
    PANEl. 9 : 5

    ['' W)e c::A.o.., ' t know how to be jeo.lotAS. ''


    " He s r i 9 h t ! '' 1-, is f r i e n ol in t e r j e c t e c:C A ..., ~ to
    ex:ple>.in himsE.>If he ou::i~eo( ~ ''Girls belong to everyone. Whoever wo.nts CG\n visit them. Thel'e is
    l-1othit19 to be. jeG\IoLAS e>.boLAt." [ Hc,.(G\> p. 213 . ]
    Fror'Yl YG\n9 Er-c.he NonntA' S memoir G\botAt
    C\S 01 Moso girl (LEAVING MOTHER LAKE):

    ~rowil"l9

    lAp

    AIHtoLA~h we feel SlAc.'-1 pG\SSiorts 1 we rYILASt ~'epre~s


    jeo.loLAsy CA.-..cA. envy [ .... ] In fYioso eyes-1 ..,o one is
    n1ore ri~ic.IAIOLAS th01l"l G\ jeG\IoLAs lover [ . .. , N)obody
    i111 Moso (OlAntry todCAy co.n rec01ll [ ... ] 01 trtAiy
    u9ly fi9l1t between [ ... ]jilted lovers. [Yo.ng , p. 69.]
    H~vin9 broc..(gV!f" '-'P the StAbjec.t7 I shoc.Aicl explc:\ill"' tl-'le>.r
    Moso 5exu01l ptutners c:Aon''t t.ASLAe>.lly live to,9etnef'. At
    ..,;9ht t,..e men go visit tl,eir- girlfrie,ds ( ""ho live
    w'itJ, 'their I'YIOtner.S ). 1"1 tne mOrl"lirtg, tJ..re I'Yien
    rettArn horne. ( The men o.lso live with their
    mothers.) Ac,orc:Air19 to Christine M01thietA ( who
    c.o-wrote LEAVING MOTHER LAKE):

    [T]hey howe diSCOII'decl mo.rri~~e. [ ...] Tl-le Moso


    CAc(vocc..te [their J mo.terno.l WC\y of life G\S t&.,e
    be~t possible 7 o.nd the most likely to foster
    h"' ppiness 01n 0. hC\ rmony. Vis i tir19 rel01tioll"' ship S-1
    they s01y, keep rele>.tiot1s betweeY'I ..,.,en 01r1c:f
    women ptAre o.ncl joyfAI-1 o.ncl people who live ;..,
    l~rge m01terno.l 11oLAses c(o not fi9ht like
    mo.rriect people c(o. We CC\n trlAst th01t they o.re
    spe01kil"l9 fro..., e.xperie..,ce, beCGllAse mor1y Moso
    noo.ve tried I'YI01rri01<,3e.1 lAnder preSSlAre frorYl the
    Comvn&A..,iSt Ot.lAthorities, 011110. most goo.ve I.Ap.
    ( Y01.n9.> p. zao. 1
    For those of yoLA ~~Vho o.re interested in leo.rni1119
    oo.botAt this C~AitCAre> the more ree>.ci01ble of the two

    260

    NOTES

    above-me.-,tlonecl books is LEAVING MOTHER LAt-<.


    it'.s more th~l"' reao(able -- I fou...,o( it re~lly

    ActtA~IIy>

    ii"'VOIV~t-19.

    jta:s- 23 = 3

    we wer-e G\ttel"'o'.ir'lg -the bi,g SeA.., Oieqo


    COI'Ylic - book (011Ventiol"'. I ~on't oepic.t then'\> bt.At also
    sharin9 tne hotel room witl-t u.s were fellow cartool1ists Joe Sacco> Ac;(riO\n Tomine> ~nc( Chris Oliveros .
    ( Cl,-is is also one of the publishers of this book.) I
    c(on't thi..,k there were more thG\..., two beds in the
    rOOVYI. ( I don't r-e.....,err~ber ~A.~ho slept with whowt.)

    I '20: 3 I I

    B~99ett

    tl-link Ms
    WO\S charging $50 for
    tnose Si9nec:l poiO\roids> bv.t I'm not 100 percer1t

    cert~i~.

    12s=2-26='t

    I s~"~<le?

    p.6o.

    Escort pr"int ~ds ;.., Toro11to in 1999 di&..,'t he>.ve


    pi-lotos. SoWle OYl-line 0\o(S pr"obably d.i&? b~.tt I wasn't
    o.ware of tneir e>c i ste..,ce yet. Wl1e11 I clio( o(isc.over them
    ~ short while later"~ they werel'l't co..,vel'lient, It cou.l&
    take five VY~inv.tes or more for o11e photo to ~ppeo..r> 0\Y~d
    the c.on1pv.ter wo~Aiaf ofte..-. crash as it str~Agg/ed. to plAt
    the iVYJase tosether. It w~s G\ few year$ befot"e br-owsin9 online escort o.ds becamQ eG\sy.

    l 26 : 6 I

    } 30 : 6

    I've never heo..rcA of the police c.J.oi..,9 anyti-1il'l<3


    like this. My p~r~..,oic:t is o.-, d is pfoty l,t-re.

    Iolder j"th01...,
    )'.., c.er't~inly cotpCAble of fi.,di..-..9
    28 c:tttr01ctive . ( Witl-lou.t
    31 : 6

    worYter'l who o.r-e


    ner e><Olct
    ~9e> "De11 i se" is severCAI year-.s beyo..,a( 28.) My thinki.-,9
    here WG\S 'thG\1'.> si..,ce I cou.lo(.,'t see photos of the
    prostitCAtes 7 ...,>' odds of findin9 someone ~ttrCActive
    were 9 reater if I SO\W y0lAr19er won1en. Ther-e are
    wo""'e"' who are fif-ty who CAre beo.v..tif~.tl.> bv.t they' re a
    SWlod I pene,tG\ge of t-he ~.>Uh ole fe WlG\Ies- who- ~re-fif.ry
    popv.lc.'tio., -- there ~r-e "'lore 90o~- looki..,9 wo..,e.., ;..., the
    fe W~od es - "'->ho- are- twe..,ty popvtfa tiol'l.
    ~ivin9

    l 3 't' 8 I I o.polo9ize 'to O.r'lyo.-,e nOIY'Ylea( St-eve Mc.Do~.tgoo.l.


    35
    5 I No, they weren't WC\tc.i-1iV19 me. Johr1s will
    I0\ppc:He.,t(y
    son-1etimes m01ke Olppointrne..,ts 01ncA ll"'ever
    ; 4-.>

    snow

    u.p, Prostitt.Ates who work. il"''c~lf WOII"'t to 9ive


    their" loc~tio.., to G\S few people o.s possible --they
    only w~nt to give the o.olc:lress to 9v.ys tNho ~re
    reG\IIy _30il'1<3 to show u.p . If 0\ jol-tn WQS co.llin9 from

    261

    NOTES
    ~ p~y-pnone tl-lCAt wo.s close to the incodl) i t
    inc.reo.seo( the odc;{s tno.t he wotAic( o.cttACAIIy o.rrive
    Since o.t le~st he wo.s in tne nei9nborhooc.l. (This
    prO\ctic.e wo.s commo.., o.t t-he tii'Yle. I wove/c.( g~Aess
    t-hC\T johns o.re now expecteo( to lASe their
    ce 1/- phones. )

    breaking Do.n s~vo.9e's rtAle here~ "let- her


    leo.&''. E.vel"t thow3h I &i~n't WOI.nt ~ mo.ss~13e > I
    s~oiAIC'A h01ve let "Co.rlo." <3ive me one. Th01t WOIS probo.bly '-ter w01y of eoo.sing ii'1TO physico.! intim01<:y with
    o.s little o.wkwo.ro(ness o.s possible.

    I 'f'f:lt I I'm

    I 't't: 5 I Yes, tho.t's wh01t I re01lly s01io(,


    I 7 : 6 - 8 J Tippin9: I ert&e& "'P tAStAo./ly ~ivin9
    't

    o. $30 tip

    when l WG\S n01ppy with " prostit"'te's service. ("Denise"


    tells me tho.t I"YlOiny jonns a>cln't tip her, bi.At those who
    ciic.t typiccdly 901ve $ 10 or $ 20 . It ~o.y seeW'I like o.n insiCj
    l"'ific01nt G\mo"'nt, blAt she G\pprecio.te~ eve.., the $ 10

    tips.)
    .BecG\\..\Se indepe.-,c;tent sex-workers 9et to keep 0111 of the
    money,. wni/e escorts-who-work- for-0111-0.9ency ho.ve to 9ive
    "o.nywhere from 35 -to 50 per cent'' of the fee to the
    G\9ency ( Me lo.ren, p. 52 ), Sol'Yle johnS no.ve mo.~e the
    o.r9'-'I'Yient tno.t o.9e..,cy-escorts s~oi.A/c;( be tipped.) blAt 1"\otind~pendents . This reo.so..,in3 i9nores the fo.t.t t~o.t inolepe..,c;Ae..,ts no.ve expe..,ses thOit O.<je..,(y- escorts c.(o..,t foloiVe.
    Also, Cl.S self-ernployecA bi.ASiness - people, inc:iepe,dents ~o.ve
    tirYie-consl.o(rnin9 &tAties to deo.l wit~. ( A..,o( time .!2
    money.) Depenolin9 on vo.rioiAS fo.ctors> incAepenoCe..,ts
    mo.y or mo.y not rno.ke more money.. btAt tippin9 sho1.AioCt1't
    be ~botAt tr"yin9 to eqt.co.lize thi,gs betwee.., olifferent
    sorts of sex-workers -- it's o. 9estl.o(re tho.t lets CA...,
    ;..,divioC~o.l prostitt..tte know tlo,o.t yot.c enjoyea tne tiWle
    yot.c spe..,t- to9ether.
    I fi9t..tr-eo( tho."t YY\ost reo.ders wot.cloC ~AnoCer
    StG\ncA., ~t leo.st ;,_, o. 9ener01l wo.y, wha~t I YY~eo.nt by
    ''the b~;~rden" here_, bLAt Sook-Yin ho.s toto( rY~e tho.tshe's pt.cz.z.led by these po.t1els, o.nc.( since there's no
    reo.son to be coy or rl'lysterioc...s) I'll explo.in.
    Every time I so.w o.n o.ttrCA.ctive womo.n,. I wo.nteGI. to
    wo.lk lAp to 1-ler o.nc;A try to initio.te some sort of interCA.ction. I V.SlAo.lly l~cked tne confiolence to do so.

    jltB<B- 'f- 9 ' 2

    Z6Z

    NOTES

    No I

    shov.l~n't.

    she woc.Afcln't
    w~nt me
    botherin9
    her.

    Tho$e f'rectt.tent inner ba.'ttles le~ to "' lot of tension. I ro.rely


    o.cted~ I.Vhic.h a.~ded to the bt.o~rden beca.~.tse lo con~erY1.,
    rvlV.Self for fo.ilin~ to do o.nythin9 G\nc.( for missing
    pote.,tiG\1 oppor-t~A.,ities. F~.trther addin9 to the b~.trcAen
    WO\S the fo.ct H1o.t sometimes o.+trc:H.tive women
    (often complete stn:"nger.s) wotAict flirt with I"Yle or
    try eve., Ynore direct me~ns to 9et my ~ttentioY'I.
    TJ.,en~ w~s the yoLAng woman w'-lo yelled o.t me on
    t .., e s t r e e t > " Yo I.A r e c. I.A t e ! '' G\ n ~ t h e ,., n ; ~ b e h ; n ~ h e r
    friend, G\nd the o...,e who ~sked .-ne in G\ record.
    store wl-lat WIY fO\vorite bCAnol WG\S_, G\..,ot tne o..,e ;..,
    the SlAbway wl.-to wa..,te~ to k11ow ~bo~.tt the book I
    WG\5 reo.di119 -- I coiAI~ 9ive mO\ny .-nore exG\mpfes.
    Tl-tOtt sort of tning h<:Appe11ed to me q_t-tite often wheY~ I
    wo.s yotAnger. BecG\I.ASe I W().S socio.lly G\wkw<:Arc.t I
    1..\~IA~IIy Sc.id the wrong thiY19 ( or 110thiY19 G\t ().lr ) G\nd
    n o t h i ..., g o f s ; C3 .., ; f i c"' .., c e w o "' f o( h o. p p e .., . I 'cl. co .., de W) ,.,
    Mysel-f for blowi..,9 ().!( those opportv...,ities> ~,o( I
    obsesseo( G\bov.t the~.
    l wo.sn't even o.wo.re th~t 0\ll of tho.t felt like G\
    bv.ro<en tAntil I WG\Ikeo( ov.t of thG\t brothel G\nd so.w
    o.n attr-~ctive womo.n o..., the stree+ o...,o( reo.li-zeol I
    felt no inner- tension G\bo~.tt whet-her or not I shoc.-.lo(
    tG\Ik to her. Of cou.rse I shot-tfci,.,'t --she wo.s Q stro.n9er.
    WJ.,y wo~.tlc.t I worry -tho.t I WO\$ r-nis~il'l9 O.l'l opportv.nity
    to pote..,tio.lly hG\ve sex? S~.tdcienly, sex wit~-! beo.v.tihd
    wo,.,e.., WG\S eQSy to 9et. Sc..tddenly7 it dioln't ma.tter -tl-l01t,.
    ye01n 'b efore, o. bea~AtiftAI yov...,:1 worno.n 1-JG\d yelled o.t
    rn e, " Yo v. r e c ""t e ! " Ol n ot I 'c.( j u.s t k e p t w o. I k i .., ~ w i t h o "' t
    todkin9 to her. StAodenlv tl--tose sorts of memories
    we,.. e..,. t me rn or i e s of miss e c;( o p port"' nit; e s -- they were
    thi..,9S thCi\t co~.tld ho.ve 9one wron9. Who.t if leA ta.lkeot
    to tnOlt "YotA're cv.te ! " 9irl G\..,o( we'o( end.eQ( tAp in o.
    mi~erc-tble rY1~rrio.9e, o.no( (c:J. sto.yec;.( I.Anha.ppily f~i thfv.l
    to he17. o.nd I'd ..,ever visited the brothel tho.t 10( jtA<..t
    wo.lked OI.At of? In thG\t mornent I WG\SVI't conote~~'~'~"lin.9
    0\ny p~st G\Ctio..,s or fo.if~.t,..es to G\Ct> c.not I wo.sn't
    worrying ~boc..tt whether or not to tG\Ik to Ql'ly of the
    be~v.tiftAI wome.., wo.lki..,9 by me on tne si~ewO\Ik.
    lnsteG\d I wc.s lookin;, for~No.rot to G\ f~.ttv.re of seYtAG\1
    SO\tisf01.c.tion.

    Z63

    NOTES
    And, c:\S I wrote: Tne bCA.rden hc:\S never retc..u'nec:4.

    Iprint
    St:zJ TJ.tere
    eHort

    G\re two weekly newsp01per.s in Toro11to that


    NOW C\nd EYE. AlthotAgh I mention
    oYlly NOW in the comic-strip, I o.lso regt-tlo.r/y perLAsec(
    the o.ds ;,... EYE.
    ~()(s ..

    I sz~z J Joe

    WOCA.I()( like me to note t~o.t.. while he is


    cheC(p> tl-lo.t's not why ne isl"''t C\ john. He WOCAI(i(n't
    po.y for sex eve"' if he wo.s ric.h, becC\t-tse .. despite his
    repCAtOition, he's very romo.n'ti<. Whic.h is trCAe -- Wty
    portr01yC\I of Joe d-oesn't properly convey his ror:t'!Oint"i.
    5 ic;(e.

    55 : 6 - 8 I My
    Iw01y
    looks

    bed.roorn l ooks differe"'t here tho.n the


    Ch01pter 1. ThC\t 's beco.CA.se it ~
    ~ifferent. 1., the f01ll of 1998, Sook-Yin o.nc( I t'Yioveo{
    froWl O.t'l o.po.rtment to 0. SWlC\11 YlO\ASe Htc),t she bOIA.9ht.
    it-

    [ 65 :7

    i"'

    Jt-tst to W'lake it c.lear - -si-te wo.s


    tip .. not the fee foy ti-le 1-,o.lf-hotAr.

    I 6~ 1 - 16 : 8, B I : 1 - 8't: 3

    ref~.ASi1'19

    the

    =
    J W o. s "An 9 e I in o... C\ sex - .s I 01 v e ? S he
    worked in o.n incG\11 brothel --this is -the preferreot
    workivts venCAe for sex-SIC\vers becC\CASe it 9ives therv1
    the most co,.,tro f over the sex-slo.ves. ( Perri..,,.. pp. LtS ..
    't 6. ) "A..., 9 e I;,.., o.'s " he sit 01 t ion c:\ boCA t 9 e tt; n 9 (A p w n e n I
    cl-lose her ( 13 =1- 1't~6) is StA9c;sestive --she wo.s C\ctin~
    the wC\y o...,e wo~.A icl expect "' sex - s/C\ve to o.ct : reiA<to....,tly. On the other ~o....,o(.~ it's possible she wo.s..,'t reltActrA...,t beAt jCAst cor1ftAseo( since sl-1e ciicA..,'t speo.k Er19lisl-1.
    A..,()( ..,.., ""'Y prostitlAtes who choose the work C4ho ~l,oose
    to work i., brothels since tl-tey're seen o.s beil'19 s(;l,fer
    tha.., worki119 o"' the streets., or Ol.(t of o..,e's home .. or
    G<o j n 9 0 tAt c. 01 rr s.
    TJ.,ere o.re two other fo.ctors to co..,sio(er: ''Tit'lo."
    ~ ,., ci t h e " t'YI o.., s t e r i 1"1 ~ l"t"l ; ,., i - s k; r t '' f r o I'Yl C h C( p t e ..- 5.)
    who I'm going to co.ll "A...,selino. II ", lmc:\9ine yoc.A're C\
    sex- sl~ver who's rt...tnl'ling ~ brothel C4ncA you hc:\ve
    some 1.u1o.ttt'"active wome..., workin9 for yotA "'.,..,~
    SOWle beC\tA.tifvtl wornen. (As I me,.,tion in pane/ 13~6,
    there were two good-lookin9 lo.oie s in t-V.e plo.ce -the
    first tin1e I visite~. The seconcA time, I SC(W yet o.
    thirc;.{ beo.CAt y there.) Sex-slo.vers prestAmo.bly co.re
    c;\loOtA't m01kivt9 mo..,ey, l"'ot c:\bo~.At the feeli.,gs of the
    sex-slaves. If yo CA. wo.n teo( to maxi mi z. e yo LA r prof its..
    wl-to wot.Alc.( yot.A ~-<Se to 9reet jor,.,ns o.t the o(oor :
    uno.ttractive sex-SIC\ves or- beo.utiftAI ones? If yoiA lASe
    tl-te CA.no.ttro.ctive OY\es .. there's o. goocl chO\nce the
    9uys wi II leo.ve wi thOIAt eve t'l wa I k i n9 in_. so obvi oCAsly yoi.A'c( lAse tl,e C(ttYC(ctive wome,., to flAre ti-le: Wlen

    Z64

    NOTES
    insi~e. Yet tl-u:\t w~s..,t w..,~t noq>pe..,ed.. The first time
    I w~s there> piOiin-et..,c(-c("'mpy "Ti1101." Ol.t'1Swerec( the
    door_. 01.nc-J tne secon~ time it WG\S ':An9elin01. li ''> who
    WG\S fiCAt - ot..tt" u9ly. lt5 n01rd to be SlAr"e betsed o..-, only
    two experieYices .. btA't it looks like the piCAce. w01.s bein9
    rtA.n by someo"'le with 01.., e9c::d i t01ri01n bent - -they were
    letti"'l9 t'-1e IA.r1G\ttractive women h01.ve C\n ectt.u~l snot
    c:t.t" 9etti"'l9 c.f;e..,ts. Act'-'t"AIIy_. for-.9e't the who - 9ot-to 01.nswer-t,...,e-ofoor-- issue -- I c01n ' t im01.9i"'le th01t sexSIG\ver.s wot..t/~ hcwe bothered to kid.n01p "An9eli"'a Ir ':
    Sl1e WG\Sn't someone who might hcwe been G\ttrCActive
    G\t one point -- sV!e had c/e01rly 011 w01ys bee.., very
    otiffictA.It-to- look- G\t. No"'le of +his P.roves tnat ti-le place
    was not r"IAn by sex - sl01vers> bAt it seems tA.t"'l i kely thCAt
    it w01s , s i11ce whoever - r01n - the - brothel doe sn ' t s ee..,., to
    n01ve tnOLA~ht of t'YlOney G\ S their O"'lfy cons i cler01tion .

    ls~t ; r .

    2
    It mCAy seem odc4 H101t I n01dY1 ' t to'lotice~
    "A "'l9 e I i.., 01's '' i "'l 01 b i I i t y to s p e 01. k E "'l gl is h ct tA. r i ,., 9 o u r f i r s t
    session. As yotA see on p019es 14 to 16> l"nost of WlY
    01. ttempt s to ted k to her were met with the t c.vo- wo ret
    r-eply, "It 's okCAy." I took th01.t CAS "'"' in~ic01tion H101t
    she d.i~"'l't w01nt to t01lk. I try to be se11sitive. to tne
    CtAeS tn01t e~cn sexworker 9ives. I'll rv~o-ke Olt'l effort
    to st01rt 01 conveY"SG\tion .. blAt if 01 \AJOW'IGu., doesn 't seerv~
    to WG\nt to chat ;> I'll sJ,.,IAt lAp.
    Wnile "Anselin01'' seemeol t..u-'lCoW~fortOible c;(lArin9
    o\Ar first Hssion .. she WG\S very sweet 01not lov i n9 tne
    sec.ond time ol.espite J.,e,- obviotA.s l&.~c.k of se)CAOII
    excitement. I wish l 'o\ been oa.ble to see her more.

    /a 6 : 6

    / 1 "'sec4 ..,.,Y Ye01l n01me witJ., pr-ostitiAtes f,-oi'Y\ this


    point on .
    My 9r"o.phic. novel lOI.AIS RIEL w01.s seriodi"Z.eol in te..,
    24 -p019e ''comic book" parv~phlet s befoYe it WO\S rele01sect
    CA.S o. book ;.,., 2003 . This w~s tne first of the
    pCAI"YYpi-llets -- it w01s P"'blisheol ;.., Jt.t11e 1999.

    I 86 =1 I The ri9""t prontAnci01tio..., is


    I C)l:l- 92 :7 I "AWlCo\nOG\ spoke witn

    LOO-ee ree - e.L.

    G\ forei9n CA((E.'r1t. WCiiS


    sex- sl01ve? Wi-leYl I pno..,ed her to oa.sk if we coulol
    9et togetney-, she cJ.iGL...,'t o.tAtomo.tic.~tly s01.y yes . When I
    s~;ot l 'o( OllreCAcly seeto'l "Anne ", ':Amanol~" m01ole I'Yle wCAit
    while she cons~Aited. with her work-m01te . Only CA.fter
    "Anne " l-10\cl SOI. icl I WOIS oko.y c:J.id tne Ol.ppointMe...,t 9et
    booked.. The ii"YYpression I set is tn01t sex-sl01ves 01re not
    G\lloweol to be th~t picky Ol.b o tA.t their cliel"'tS G\nc;(
    WOtAfcA.., ' t set to book their own o.ppointments. A..-ro(
    cAovt' t see wny se)C-SICAvers wotAicl set I-ter tAP ;.., t&.,e
    Sort of ivtCG\11 sittA.Oition sne WOIS in with "Anne "> who
    01

    sne

    C>.

    Z.65

    NOTES
    wo.s not tro.ffic.keol.. ("Anne" SOI.id. she WOI.S born 11ere
    01.nc;( cert01.inly .seen"'eol. 01....,o( sot.otnol.eol. c.orY~pletely (G\no.c:AiOI.n.) I wovcfd think 'th01.t sex-slo.ver.s wov./o( wo.n't to
    iso/o.te sex-slo.ves 01.w01.y froWI (OI.Vlao.ol.ic...n prostitL4tes>
    wl-lo ...,.,i9ht> throiAgh rE'91AI~r intero.ction> develop
    sympG\thy for- ti-le forei9n girls o....,o(, o.s o. restAit> might
    wo.t"lt to help the.-n.

    \too'!- IOIB j 1 ...


    ~.. e we b -s1te

    .11"'1 ctv.est1o..,
    .
    1S terb.<:OI.. It's G\
    vo.lv.o.lble so~Arce of informo.tion for joJ.11'1S wl-to live in
    Torovtto or visit it,
    These review-sites 01.re covttrover-sio.l for prostittAtes.
    S PR EA D MAGA Z IN> wl-tic.h is written by sex - workers,
    ro.n pro 01.nd con pieces on tl-te St.otbject in tV.eir SU\W~..,..,er
    2009 isst.(e. (Vol. 5,.. isst.(e 1.) Kelly of WG1.sl-tin9toYl, DC
    wrote :
    bt.otsinessperson knows there's no better o.olvertisement tl-!0\n woro( of t'Y'JOt.(th> ano( [. .. ] ti.,ese sites
    Co\re wovtol.erfiA/ ov.tlets for ex01.ctly tV.o.t type of
    free ao.d.vertisi""<3 [ ... ] I cAon't even p01.y for o.o(vertisi ,n9 Cl~'~YW~Ore> since I 9et new clients every tirv1e
    so...,.,eone wrires o. new review. [ P. 20.]

    AVly

    Nettao.lie of So.n Fr01ncisco hao.ot 01. very cl.ifferen't opi"1i01"1 :

    Seeing the il"ltimc-Ate d.et01ils of my encoiA!"''ter with


    o. client mo.kes me feel otiS9tASting, no wtOitter
    now posi'tively ~e r~tes the el<perience.

    She. institAtec.(

    l"lo-review policy.

    Withol.o\t o.llowing reviews> I fino( I ~1'1"'1 better 0\ble


    to offer 01. 1-\niqlAe> speciao.l l<perie!"''ce to e01ch
    cl i ent I con"'e in co.,t<:lct witl-t. I olon't l101.ve specific
    tnin9s to live v.p to> o.nol. O.I"Y'' o.ble to re/ao.x> enjoy
    rnyself> o.not v.ltimo.tely offer o. better tit'Yle to
    both p"'rties. While it 's tr~Ae th01.t I o(o...,' t 9et o.s
    1-ligl-t 01. volv.me ao.s I ~id [ whe ..... I o./lowed reviews
    I mCAch prefer spendin9 my tin'\e with ti.,e few
    m en who w i If to. k e o. c h o.., c e . [ P. 2 1. ]

    Botn vvot'Yle..., 1-to.d more to sao.y on the St.otbjec.t -- l'rYI jt-tst


    printi""9 these el<cerpts to 9ive o. sense of the G(ebo.te.
    By 1rhe wo.y> SPREAD is worth chec.kin9 ov.t wl.,ether"
    yotA're sellin9 sex or bt.(yil"\9 it. I'm odwao.ys h01ppy to ~ee
    o. new issv.e . The web-site is spn?Oio(t'Ylo.go.'l.ine.or~.
    / The expression is ao.ct~Ao.lly '' bo.re - b01.ck blow-job''>
    so Joe wo.s close. He's now emb"'no.ssed. i-1-tao.t he d;ol.,'t
    9tAess correctly, bv.t I don't thil"lk he shotAicA be. He got

    1 100 ' 8

    266

    NOTES
    "the ri9nt meG\1'1in9> ;f not the ex~ct wor-d.in9> anc:;( J'a(
    been ptAzzlin9 over the il"litiods for ~t least fifteen
    mintAtes witV! no S'-'<<ess> ""'hile Joe w~s 01ble to come
    lAp witJ, VIis SLA9qestion in'lmecli<Ately.

    I 101 : 8 - loB I I This

    wCAs how I

    bro~c.necJ

    tne topic. of her


    why I thotAsV!t- s he
    w~s o l cJ.er. $1--je h~c;( tolol me vcH iotAS d.eto.ils ~botAf" her
    life> G\nc:A sorvle of those d.et~ils seemeo< iVY~prob~ble
    1..u1less s,.,e w~s older than eighteen.
    CAge > b~.At tnere we.-e other" reCASOt"\S

    s~me

    121 : 1 - IZ9: 7
    Tnis scene t-akes place in the
    t h ~ t " Carl~ ., ( C h a pte r Z ) w or k e & in , "J o Ie n e "

    brothel

    ( C h o. p -

    ter 15) ano( "Myr-c. " ( Ch<Apter Z2. ) also workeol there.

    lzs:s,

    tl9=1
    " Diane " did not ~-lave ~ 1-lairy mole. She h~d.
    a pr-oblei'Yl tl-101t I'I'Vl 90in9 to be deli ber01tely va9LAe
    abo~.At ( jtASt a.s I wo.s vOI<;lLAe o.bolAt the loco.tion of the
    non-e>c:istent rYJole ). let's just so.y thO\t this problem
    w01s hinder-in<J my C\bility to fincl her sextA01IIy attr"'c. tive7 o.nc.( slfle cotAio( eo.sily have ole01lt witl-1 the problen1
    so t"'e"'t" i t wotAicl.,'t h01.ve bee"' as notice<Able ~s i t wCAs .

    l 13 S ' 2 I

    Th01t
    met " Denise".

    w~s

    the best blow-job of my I ife

    ~Anti I

    odwCAyS CG\rry "' book with me7 ~nO. this wc.s


    I wo.s r-e~clin9 C\t the time . I do reme...,..,ber
    t n CAt S ""san/A Ie x i s " o. s k e c;( o. q_ LA est ion t h ~ t in cJ i c "'t e c.l Q
    kr'lowlec;.(ge of Ameri c G\n history beyoncA whG\t yo~Ar
    ~vero.9e person woLAid k.-,ow, b~.;tt I c;.(on't remember
    wh01t the q_tAe stion w01s .

    lthe book
    JI
    1'f 9 : 'f-

    Why ci icin' t l reco9nize her ? She hG\d ~


    different l-101ir-style . More si~nifiro.ntly, si-te wo.s ~9
    cliff erently. The first time I so.w her> G\lthotA<_3h she wCA s
    polite, she wo.s o.lso &et01cheo< o.no( o(istQnt. The second
    time she WG\S wtlACn more frie..,dly.
    This c.hG\pter- is set in the SC\me brothel tho.t
    ''Do.nielle" ( Cho.pter ll.t) workeG{ in.

    \lso : 6 - l5l: 2

    \lss : ~to

    / 1 ~ reG\d 01. book wV!ic.~ clo.imed tl-t01t " h01lf G\ncA


    is 01 cort1mon e)(pression ;.., tne worlt:A of prostit~A
    tiol'"\. This w~ s my first o.nd lo.st o.tte....,pt to lASe the
    expression.

    h~lf"

    ) 15 9 ' 3 - 160 : 1
    Sook- Yin wotAicl like rYJe to m01ke it cleG\r
    tl-t~t it WCAS Steve who wG\S conc:er..,ecf OlboCAt my pt'eSeV~ce
    j.., the hotA Se , O.ncl he OISkeo( ne r to SIA99est tl-tG\t I f i r1cA

    261

    NOTES
    o.notV.er plo. c. e to live . Steve's o. 9ooG( 91AY ou1o( I tAt1derStOit1~ why ~e wo.s unc.ornforto.ble wit 1-t the icl.eo. of
    howit-19 Gin e)(-boyfrie...,G( of Soo k - Yi.,'s livi"'9 witlo, the two
    of the YY'I,

    167 : 3 ~ lt " 6weno4oly...," o....,o( I o4icA 9et bo.ck in to&Ac.lo, o. few


    year!. lo.ter t""ro~Agh terb.co. . (There's o. privO\te vness~~e
    syste....., on the site.) Sl-1e hoped l'o be willit19 to sto.rt
    seei.,g her o.9o.in. I wo&Aid nO\.ve bee11 eo.::ter to cJ.o so~
    blAt by th~t tir-ne I wo.s seei"'9 "De...,ise" o.11ot felt
    coW~r-nittecA to her, So_. with soW~e ,.-esret,., I tolo "uiAI11clolyn " tno.t I cot..tldn't see her.
    (Yes, I ~Asec.( the wore( "c.oW~WiittecA" there . I do feel
    (OI'VlrnittecA. to "DeVJise ". 8tAt feelin9 co.-.,.,.."""ittecl is
    o(;fferent fro""' ho.ving 01 forW~odl y sto-.tec.( CO rY~Y\'litW~eY'It
    or proM ise. Tho.t feel i n9 n1iglo,t c.h0\t19e with t i me ,., or it
    might not -- I oot"''t kl"'ow. I reco9Y'Iize tho.t emotions
    o.re.,'t ne cessa r-ily pet'"mo..,ent. TV.e relo.tionship I have
    with " De.., ise" will conti.,I.Ae for o.s lot19 o.s we both wo..,1"
    it to co...,tint..te. )

    ltro . 1 None of the inco.ll - 9'irls kissee;( me on the Ynot.Ath,


    most of ti-re OIAtco.ll-girls ~icL I ~on 't know why there
    wo.s o. c;(ifference .

    1 110 : 3 I Si Ynilo.rly,.. I ne ve r 9ot the ir-npression tho.t o...,y of


    the >nco.ll-sirls I so.w wot.Aid ho.ve been wil/it"19 to 9ive
    01 condoYY~Iess blow-job, while o.t leo.st three of the
    O&Atc.o.ll - 9irls wot..tl& ho.ve c;(one so if I ho.cin't stoppe~
    HteW~ . (The other two were " KiHy " o.n~ "Lo.riss01.".)

    me

    coW~p/o.ineG( tho.t it w01.S11't cleo.r why I


    never SC-\w "Jenn01." C\qOiil"'. The explo.nO\.tion is in this
    pC\nel -- she WQS too expensive. At $ 300 ~.., holAr,., she
    WG\S 'ti-le most c.ostly p,..ost i tt..\te I so.w, I wo.s reo.lly
    ho.ppy with he..- service~ beAt I couldn't' CAfforal it 01'1 o.
    regtAio.r be\Sis. It's o.lso worth t"'otins -tho.t I wc:;..s jlAst C\S
    ho.ppy oli.Ari"'S ...,.,Y lo.ter encot.Anters witl-1 ''lo.rissc:;.. '',
    "l:c;tith ,,> Qn d " De.., i se", even thow3n they o.ll c ho.rgeol
    leH . My best sext..to.l experie11c.es with prostit~Ates were
    with those foi.Ar yot..tn9 woYY'Ien . ( Tl-1e sex conti.,""'e s to
    be 9 r e Q t w it h '' D e n ; s e ''. )

    1 113 : '2 I K..-is

    \tT~ 't

    J'W~ ..,ot weo.rin9 9lo.He.s in t-l-1i.s po..,el. I bo~Asht


    conto.c.t-le.,ses C\ short while before seeing " kitty " ~110
    be9o.., weQrin9 tl"''eVY~ when I wG\S with prostitt.Ates. I did
    write ~nol clrc:;..w 01 few p01.Y'Iels to show thi s,., b1.1t I editecA
    them otAt-.

    266

    NOTES

    Wo.s "Arlene" o. sex-slo.ve? She didl"l 't


    seei'V'l like one -- she w oo. s very cneerftAI o.no( o.ttentive.
    Also) sex - .slo.ves CAre less likely to be Set'lt on o u.tcc.lls . ,.,
    hiS book INVISIBLE. CHAINS> Benjo.rnin Perr-in expiC4ins
    wny :

    ( Outca II e]scort services mo.y provide the woi'Yien


    with o. measu.re of temporary freec.Lo.,.,~ increo.s in9
    the r-isk tho.r they rY~o.y flee [. Per"r-in_, pp. 45> 't6. ]
    Wl1i/e Perrir'l doe s 9ive o.t1 exOIWtple of o.n oLAtcOIII ;..,
    whid., ti-'le prostittAte wo.s o. sex- s/o.ve, she wo.s OltCompO.I"lied to tl-te john's note! roowt "by" coAple of bCArly
    m e , . " ( P. 1; 't. ) No b tA r I y m e n o. c c o ..,., p 01 n i e ol "A r I e "' e ".
    \ l9J:3 - I91 : 2 lin nis notes ( Appe.,cAi)(' 23 ), Seth 01\ks
    when~ this conver.so.ti o.., took pl~c e . The cA.i~ lo9ue ito1

    this sc eYle is o.ctu~lly bo.sed o.., rYIY rYle.,ories of two


    con v erso.tiol"''s we no.d tho.t I'v e mo.shec( to9ether o.s oY'Ie.
    I co.11''t rei'Ylember when the f irs t convers o.tion ho.ppeY~eO.>
    bu.t I remewtber where= lhe Keg Resto.lAro..,t o..,
    Chc..crc.h S<treet. Seti-'l's wife To.nia. wo..s with lAS_, o.l"'lo( she
    also took po.rt in the discussion . The seco...,c( co,ve..-so.tion took plo.ce o.., Mo.rch 30th 2007. Ch..-is Wo.r-e
    wo.s visitiYI9 o.nc:{ 9CA"e. G\ to.lk o.t the Uto1ivers:ty Of
    Torot'l'to . The school pu.t up (C.,ris i.., G\ &.1o~H 01'1 (.O.wtp!AS.
    Seth o.nd. I were ho.vtgin9 OC.At wirh Chris it"' the livivt9room o f tlo,i s 1-tou.s e. He left to c.Lo .so"""et,_,i...,9 -- per""G:\PS
    ~Anpo.c.k. -- o,...,o( Se.th G\nd. I sot ;..,to the se <oncl converSG:\tio..,. Tlo,e setti..,9 ;.., these po.nels is bo.seo( o"" """Y
    ( prob~bly il'le>. CCtAro.te ) MWlory of who.t tho.T l i vin9 rooi'YI lookec.( like. ChriS rejoineo( u.s o.t Sotrne poi..,t
    b.At c.licl..,' t po.rticipo.te i11 tV!e excho.r1ge u..,til we>
    s w i tc.l-led topics .

    269

    NOTES

    This is now I ~ I'~ responcl.ed. to Seth's


    st<"te,.,ent in po...,el 193 ~ 3. The rest of the word-b01lloon$
    I wrote for my~elf in th is scene reflect ti-,e """'Y I
    re.....,e..,..,ber the ~cttAod co.-.ver-sCA.tioi'\S 90in9 . Still, whO\t
    Seth write s ;, Appenc(i x 23 is v01lid.; "C het <omes off
    o. little better here tha.., he prob~bly wotAI~ ;.., real
    I ife . '' J.., s lA r e I expressed. I'Yl y point s ""o,.. e
    k w ~,. cA Iy
    in the re~l ctiHI..(SSio.-.s. Anc:A those c:Aiscc...cssio"'s woiAI~
    hCA.ve bee.., more like o(eb"'tes -- Seth wo&Aid. ho.ve been
    more forcef~l in opposing wh01t I wOlS .so.yi.,g.

    "'w

    196 ~8

    - 191

    2 J While Seth said this,., he w01sn't actCAodly


    SW1okin9 when he said i t. ( 81At he probably lit lAP
    !

    within twe..,ty minCAtes. )

    jt98 : 2 -a
    A hcrther point OlboCAt the exciiASio.-.G\ry nO.fCAre
    of poHes sive mono901rny : it Cc:i\tA ses rese111t~ent . If yotA're
    in " po !>Sessive mono901~y relG\tionship an~ you fin~
    yotArse If sexu01lly o.tt """"'tee:( to soW~eone- other- HlG\1"1- yoCArrom"'"'ti<.-pOirt.-.er o.t 01 p01rty (or work,., or whereveY ) 7
    CAl'tcA yo~ fin~ yourself wishil'\9 you cotAic( cHt on this
    0\tti'"CA.C tion, blAt yotA c01n' t beCOIIA$ yoi.A're in o. I'Y101'10901rn0tA5 rel01tionsnip> you're likely to feel reSE!I'ltW~ent . Th01t
    resentme.-.t b~il~s LAP o.n~ resU\Its in t'-1e sort of melo~ramo..tic fights th~t ~re coW~mon in possessive I"Y''ono9<Amy. T&-tose sorts of i.-.tense, 1-teCA.vily eW1ot"ion01l fi3nts
    o..r-e r01re between frien~s.. G\n~ o11e of the recHoi"'S is
    bec01tAse there 's less reset'lt""'le.-.t betwee.., frie,.,~s. Th~ts
    bec~use yoCA COl..-. no.ve O.S W'IG\ny fyjenc.ls 0\S yoc...c Want-it 's 11ot ~n e xci ~Asive reiG\tio., s J.,ip. If the soc.ic:AI <ode sac-ci
    yo~ coCAicA hGwe Ol'lly ot1e frieno( > resentme11ts between
    frie.-,d.s woCAio( it1cre"se. ( Tl1is is o. generc:A( te..,~e..,c:y . I'W~
    S'-'r-e tl-tet"e 01re en1otiono.lly mo.t.AYe people wJ.,o k.,ow how
    to clef~A se tJ.,eiY resentW'Ie..,t s or who never feel the
    eWlotion to be9i.-. with . A.,c:A. people who ho.ve difficCAI~y
    9etti1'19 IG\icl. mi9ht feel less rese.-.t""'e""t ;.., rnono901"""'o1AS
    reiOitio.,ships H101n people who don't l,c:Ave tJ.,"'t cAifficCAity.)

    19 9 :
    l"Ec.(ith"
    I It m01y see ...,., l ike f w~s bei..,9 cruel
    to 01chnit tho.t s&-te
    h01ving sex
    1

    WC\S

    her c.(jel1fS O.ncf... th01t fJ.,erefore _,


    0\1/y wo.s G\ prostiti.Ate . The tJ.,in9
    she Wl~cl.e > I cliO...,'t know whG\t
    OICttAOII'Iy ~icA think th~t I'YlOiybe
    with o.ll ner c lient.s.

    by forcing
    with 0111 of
    by implication> Sne C:.H. fiA is, siven the O\Y91ArYient
    her ~O'lSWer WOIAid be. I
    she wasn't h01.vin g sex

    TJ.,e (c..th~r 1-teres y> C\ p~c i f ist brc..nol of C~r.-s


    ti<"..,ity en1bro.cin9 toler01.-.ce Olt't~ poverty> ro se to
    proi"Y''i.,e.-,ce in t11e .-nidolle of tr.,e twelfth
    centtAry [. O'Sl-1e01, p. 7.

    I 201 : 8 I

    Z70

    NOTES

    For +l-Ie C~H1G\r'"S~ the worlc:J wo.s not the h01ndi work of o. good gocL It w~s w'-toHy the cre~tio.., of
    o. fon:e of dG\rkness~ iW'Im0111ent in o.ll tl-1ir19S , M01tter
    wcH corrv.pt, there fore lrr el evo.n~ to so. Ivo.'tion,
    little if 0\ny ~tte!'ltion h"cA to be paic.< to tt.,e eiC~.bo
    rco.te systems set v.p to bv.lly people i11to obeyins
    the ..,.,""' with the si-lo.rpest swore(, the f"tte~t
    wG\IIet, or tl.,e big9est stic.k of il'lc.en s e. Worldly
    o.tAt,.,ority WG\S "'frG\v.o( 7 Olno( worldly 0\v.thority
    bOlseol on some O.ivine SOinc.tion, StAc.n 015 tl,e.
    Cl-lv.rc.h do.imeo(, wo.s olAtri9VIt hypoc.risy.
    The goc.l o(eseYving of Co.th01r worship w01s ~
    god. of l ight, who rtAiec.t t'-'le it"tvisible, the ethereo. l,
    the spiritCAal domG\in ; th is 90d> v.lflco,.,cerned with
    the tvto.terio.l, Simply Gficl,., ' t co.f'e iF yoCA 9ot ;,.,to
    bed before getting Wl~t"'riec;i(_, ho.ot "' Jew or
    M~Asliwt for " fr"ienot , tre"teol r ..H?VI and wo..,.,en cH
    el:lv.011s, or d ie). o.nyth i ,.,9 else co..,tr01ry to ti-le +eG~cl1i,.,gs of ti-le wteo(ievod (ht.o~rc.'-". It w01s '-'P to tl-1e ;,.,o(ivid~Ao.l ( I'YlO.t"\ or wo.-n~n) to dec.ic.le whether he or
    she was wilfi,.,9 to renoCAnce the n-1o.terio.l for o.
    life of self-deni~l. If not, o..,e v.~olAfo( keep retv.rnit19 to this world -- t'-tO\t is, be rei'1COIP101teol - '"'"til reo.dy t-o eFV~bro.c~ a life StAffic.iently spotle-.s
    to o.llow 01ccession, G\t c:Ae~t'-', to t"'e so. me. bliss.f'-'1
    sto.te ol"'e 1-1~0. experienceo( G\S ccn G\ngel prior to
    h~vi ..... 3 been te""pteot ov.t of he01.ve.., o.t the beginni,.,g of t iMe. To be so.ve~, then , tvtE.'~II"'t becoW~in9
    ~ so.int. To be d~n-1ned wo.s to live> ~9o.i..., a..,o(
    O.CjOii,.,> Ol'l this corrlApt Eo.rth. Hell w01s 1-lere .. notit"\ sovne horrific: o.fterliFe dre~rneo( v.p by Ro.-v~e
    to s c 01 r e p eo pIe o tAt of their w its.
    f O'S l;-tea ~ pp. 10, II . J
    ,,., 1208~ the Co.tnolic ch~Arc.h dec:.lo.rec;( o. c. rv.s01ote
    "9o.in s t the C01thcus. The heresy wo.s finodly c.r-tAsheot ,..,
    12 Cf4.

    I zozWo.s
    : 2 .. 3 I R01A9e..,.,ont, Book n.>
    ti-lere
    con,.,ectio.., between

    Cho.pters 6-10.

    the trov.b01c:Aov. r s
    o..,o( tJ.,e C01t-ho.rs ? r..,., not we/1-verseo( e,.,ov.gh in +l-te
    sv.bjects to .SOIY witJ., co..,fic.lence whet11er RotA9e-.onT
    wo.s rig&.,t or wrong o,., t1-1is mo.tter,
    G\

    I '2..0 2 : 5 I Wnile

    cot.Artly love WG\ S import~111t in Hte o(evelopme,.,t of t"'e concept of rorvto.ll"'t ic love , prob01bly j~Ast
    o.s ;,.,.,porto.nt wo..s the infl~.tenc.e of whG\t C. Stephen
    J~e9er co..l ls " ennobli,.,9 love" in hi~ book of the .so.me
    ti+le. He defi..,es it o.s "o. spirittAo.li~ed love thO\t
    respond s to the ' virtlAe,' the ' mG\jest y,' the ch01rism01> ti-le
    so.intlineSS, of tJ,e belo veJ., to SO I"YTE' ir1ner force of Qv-th-

    Z71

    NOTES

    ority or- o.....,i~bility or- SOtnc.tity. " ( JCA.e~er, p. Lt.) 'Thi s wo.s
    o. forn'l of love tho.t ,..,.H~"" express~cA fo..- other men . p,.-ior to
    tl1e IZ-t~ <.e""tiAry,.. if wo.'> coMW'!only helievec.( ti-Jo.t ''+he love
    of rYlen for WOrYlen COI.Aic.( t'\ot ent"'oble> Sirtce SXtACldity
    wo.s its no.ti.Arod f"'lfiiiW'Ient . love G\1"1o( friends~ip of men
    for wo..,..,e"" t'-l<At clc:.cimed 'virt<Ae' G\no( i n11ocen'e inevitG\
    bly ro~Ased SLASpicio.,, " ( J01e9er> p. 1,) Jo.e9er points OIAt
    th<At e)(pressions of intel"'lse frienolshiplove betwee.., I'Yien
    were very common froM 0\t'lCient times LAp 111ntil the ~evel
    opmen't of cotArtly love. AlthoLA9h these friendsJ,ips were
    vtot seXIA0\1> the e)(p.--ession of this fo,..""' of love WG\S so
    eff<Asive th01t it reseYYlblec wh01t we c01ll rorYIC4ntic. love,
    J01e'3er- co..,tevtc:As tho.t> in I-ter letters to Abelo.rd, Helo i se
    ( CG\. AD 1090 1163) wo.s the first to 01pply "ennob,/i..,9
    Io v e '' to 01 sex lA 0\ I reI <At ion s 1-1 i p between 01 m 01"" 01 n cA 01
    WOI'YIGU'1 ,

    The defe..,se of pG\SSion01te love is 01 creo.tio.-, of


    Heloise.[. . ) She co..,strtAc.teo< o. virtt.Ao(..(S sexLA:o.l
    pO\Hion of tl-te ele...,.,e.-,ts of e.-,nobli..,9 love: self
    lessness> p1Arity of ;..,tention> love of merit> ptArity
    of love> rY~lAtLAG\Iity> coYY~plete self OibG~~ndon.,.,ent.
    She is the Qrchitect of c,. hi.91-ler l01w of p~Are love
    .SO\nctio.-,ing sexLAOtlity [. JC"Aeger-> p. 169.)
    ( Heloise WOlS defen~ing the premO\ritC41 sex thC4t she
    C\ n (;.( A be I 0. r ~ 11 C\ Q( e Ylj 0 y e ~
    s h e h ~ o( ., 0 t w C\ n t ~ d t 0
    m01rry A be l01ro( be c o.IA se she w01s QfrO\ io( thc;..t ...,.,c;..r.--i C\9e
    wo~AicJ c.testr-oy their love . She w01s right. ) The
    lette..-~ of AbeiC4Y"d. cocA Heloise becc.ti'Yie f01rno1AS> 01no(
    wl-ze11 co..,binec::4 wit~ the poptAio.rity of co<Artly /ovepoe.t,..y> infi<Aenceot n-1en 0\t'lo wo...,.,en to reiG~~te to e01c.~
    other in 01 ~iffer-ent w01y. ( This> in t"'rn~ infiiAe..,ceo(
    now men t'"el01ted to eo.c.h other. Accorolin!J to JG~~e9er,
    expressions of "ennoblins love " between me"" O.iecJ.. off
    0\S n1ode-GIInd - fem01le /ovelitero.t<Are. becC\me. fC4shio..,~ble.)
    This doesn't meo.n thC4t re9t..d01r people .st01r-teo(
    I'YIC\rryi11g for love imrY~ea;G\tely. The ideo. perc..oiO\te-d. in
    E tAropeGIIn liten:"t<Are for t~e next few centuries, and.
    people beco.me srOicll.o\01/ly MOre receptive to it. Per~o..,
    G~IIy, I thir1k whel\t reel\lly be901r1 the poptAIC\rity of MC\Hy
    ing for love WO\S +he rise of the rom01ntic. novel in
    tl-1e IBth c.ent~Ary ( be9innin9 with the S<Access o.c.ross
    E<Arope of SOirYIIAe/ Ric.hc;~ro(son 's PAMELA> pCAb/isheol in
    I

    1740 ).
    By tl'1e enol. of the 1100s pers o nC\I c.~oice of pC4rt..,ers

    l-lco.c::4 re pl01cecJ. G11rr01n9ec:i n-"~Oirrio.se DIS 01 5ocic;d io(e"''~


    0\nc:i indivioi.IAG~~Is were encoi.ArG\sed to 1'1"10\rr-y for
    love . [Coontz., pp. 145- l't6 . ]

    Z7Z

    NOTES

    lhe new norms of the love - batsed.> inti...,ao.te mCA.rr"i G\.~e cli~ not fodl into platce o.ll o.t onc.e b<At were
    o.c:J.opted o.t different rO\teS in vo.riO<AS re9i01'1S G\.f'lol.
    so<.i0\1 <jroCAps. /n t"9/~nd> tl,e celebro.tior1 of the
    love mo.tc.h reatc.hed 01. fever pitch o.s eatrly ats tl,e
    1160s- o.nol. 1110s> while tl-1e French were still
    cot'Yl...,_,e.,tin9 on the l'lovelty of "mG\.rrio.9e by fCA.scin~tio.., .. ;,.. the mid - IBOOs . Mo.Y'Iy workin9-c:l~ss
    fao.wtilies did. not o.O.opt the lflW norms of mo.rito.l
    IY'ItimOtcy CAvttil the tweY'Itieth centtAry.
    [Coontz> p. 141. ]
    M~rr-yin9 for love sto.rteol. to 9o.in wio(espreao.ol. o.cceptOIY'IC. ;.., the 18th centLAry. I O.on't think it wats o. coincic).el'lce tho.t o.t the Satme tiYl'le OtAr mocJ.ern concept of
    ''the prostittAte" wo.s forl'VliY'Ig, From LOtAro. Mo.rlo.
    A9ustln 's SEX AT THE MARGINS :

    [T]here w~s no wore;). or concept whic.l-1 signifieo(


    exc.ltAsively the sode of sextAo.l s ervices IAntil t-,t.,e
    [ lo.te rgth centv.ry ]. '' Whorins" refer-reo( to se><tAo.l
    relo.tio.--.s o<At of I'Ylo.rriO\ge o.Y'Io( co,...noted ivn.,.,orodity or promiH tA ity with OIA t tV!e i .--.vo/ve me.-. t of
    moY'Iey> anc) the word whore wo.s <Aseo( 'to bro.>1ol
    0\ny wom01n who stepped. o<Atsiole <.~Arrent
    botAnolO\ries of r-especto.bility . [ Al31AStll"l> p. 101 . ]
    Money WQS vrot ac defivring c.ho.ro.cteri5tic of proHit<Atio.., ;.., tl-te pre-moc-Jern en;;~.. ReOt~i""9 AgCAStln's book
    1 be'30IY1 to woY'Icler- if it 's o. Modern iol.e~ to sepcHOtte
    ''trO\cle " ~spec.ts of o. sexv."'l reiO\tionsnip from "l"loYTt r "'c{ e " o. spec. t s CAn 0. if> i Yl o. t t em p tin 9 to d. o so> we
    0\ren't ctr~win'3 o.r-bitr-CAry boCAI'1C;(o.ries. It looks obviO<AS to tA.S ;.., the 21st ce'1t1Ary t"'"t prostittAtion is o.
    forWl of comWter-ciod tr01.de O.l"lcJ. th~t r'OWlCAvttic. love.
    W1o.rrio.C3e ho.ve nothivt9 to do with trQ.cle. Bc..tt
    prior to the 18th cent<Ary, o,.,e n:;\rely mo.rriecl for love-- it
    wo.s WliAC.h more COMWIOf'l to mo.rry for money.

    "'...,o(.

    ll't E~Arope, froi"Yl the eC"Arly Middle A9es throtA9h


    the eishteenth cent~Ary , the dowry at wife
    brou~ht with I-ter C"At rn01rri01.9e wats often the
    big<jest infusion of c~sh > goods> or l"'nol 0\ rno.Y'I
    wo~Aiol. ever o.<q<Aire. Finc:Aing ~ h<Asb"'nol wo.s
    IASv.OIIIy the most in"'portG\nt investmet'lt "'
    wOWl0\1"1 co~Aid mOtke ;., her eco.-,oMic ftAture.
    [ Coontz> p. 6. ]
    0~ co~ouse> mQf"ly people still mo.rry for I"Yloney - - it's jiA~t
    tO\boo to ope..,ly o.cA.....,it it now. Even whe,... it 's vtot the
    prirnOtry reo.son for r'Yl~rri01'3e ... wrost people e .... tering into

    Z73

    NOTES
    mQtriWJony &o co,-si&er" ti-le fin~t"'ciad SitCAG\tio.., of the
    persova they're mG\rryi.-,g.
    It's Q(So worth pointing OCAt ti-lett., o.siofe fro..,., ro.pe
    ( whic"' iS DlboCAt to.kin9 withoCAf givit13 CAI"''yfj.,jng )_...Sex
    iS o.lwo.ys C4boCAt trG\cA.e : "I WG\nt to 9ive yoA physic01\
    pleo.sL<re becG\CASe I wG\.,t physic01l pleG\St.cr~ in retCA.,.....,.,".,
    or, ''I'll h"'ve sex witl-1 yoCA beccu.cse I wQnt "ffectio.-,'".,
    or., "YoCA ccvt fCAc.k n-,e for 200 dol/o.rs." It's G\11 tr~de.

    1 203 : 1 I

    At1tiquity h01s left no recoro( of G\n experience


    o.ki.., to the love of TrisfQn Qno( lseCAit. It is well
    know., tJ...tc.~t the Greeks G\r1d Romans looked on
    love o.s " si(..kness [ ... ] whe.,ever it we.-,t, no
    mQ\tter how little, beyo...,~ ti-le sel'lSCAG\I pleasc.Are
    w&.,ic.n WOIS considered to be its nG\tCAro.l expression.
    PI&At~rc.&-, cG\IIS love "G\ frerny ". "SoW~e 1-\G\ve believe~
    it wo.s G\ rno.cAne !IS .... ThCAS those wL-to G\re in love
    I"'"'CASt be for9ive.., G\S tnoCAgh ilL" [ RoCA<3e""'ol'lt_. p.60.]

    203 :8- 20't : l


    C01rtoo11ist Eric. SJ.t01..,ower h"'s bee.., retellin~ the story of ti-le Troj~n W~r cu "' series of 9r~phic1'1ovets. Acc.oro(i.,g to the first volCArn'l!, AGf.. OF BRONZE: A

    THOUSAND .SHIPS, Odysse1AS l-\01d. wanted to rnG\rry Helen


    blAt insteG\d WG\$ 9iven her cotASin ... Penelope, CAS o. sort
    of col"'solatio~ prize. J trAH tho.t ShG\nower is bG\Sin~
    tkC4t ovr some G\1"\cie,.,t versio,., of the tG\Ie, or 01t le01$t
    isn't- contf'adic.ti"''g the ori9it1al SOCAr<es. (The book isn't
    po.git101teoL If t&.,e first po.9e H101t stetrts the story is
    po.9e o"'e> t&.,e.., the relevo...,t p"'ss"'9es re9G\ro(in9 0c;(ysSfCAS cu-1cA Penelope G\re 011 po.9es 126 o.1>1a 135.)
    l11cidently, I've bee.., e..,joyit1g the AGE OF BRONZE.
    ser-ies. I hope ShCA.nower mG\nG\ges to finish it.
    We fi"'c( isoiClltec;L recorcJ.s of pG~SsionD~te love experienc.ecA by spol.-\ses o.mong tne o.nc.ie..,t Hebrews,
    (,reeks> G\r'lci Ron-1Q1'1S . SCAt si..,ce o.rra..,geo( mG~~rriG~~<JeS,
    rO\.ther H1"'n love l'l1G\rri019es .. were t11e ,.,or..,., ;..,
    premode?rY1 tii'Yles, brioles G\n~ 9roOl'nS cAicA .-,ot enter
    I'Y'lG\rriG\9 with tl-te expec..t01tion of "fovin9" eo.c.h
    other G\S we LH''lc;(erstOI..,o( t11e term. [Yo.lorYY, p. xvi.]

    \-zoct:l

    jzott:'t l1 believect for G\ wl1ile thett there eve ..,o pre-12tl1cent""ry literG~~ry works H1Qt conto.i11 cho.ro.c.ters wl-'!o
    first fC41l in love G\n~ the,., 9et rno.rriec.t. This is o.l,.,.,ost
    trtAe, hCAt not qt.cite. Re01ding THE SEVEN BASIC PLOTS by
    Christopher Booke.,.., I co.rne o.cross o. reference to the
    G\ncie..,t Greek novel DAPHNIS AND CHLOE by Long\.\s
    (co.. the 21"1d or 3rol cel"''t~Ary A-D). Booker's c:Aesc.ription
    it'tolicc:.tes tlo,Qt it's 01bo1At "' co~Aple who I'YlQrry beCG~.'-'Se

    274

    NOTES

    ti-tey've fo.llen in love. I went OIAt o.not pic.keo( LAp 0111


    tro...,slo.rion - - 8oof.<er is ri9nt. Accoro(i,.,9 to 'the
    intr-ocl1Ac.tiol1 ;., my c.opy of t>APHNIS AND CHLOE .. tV.ere o.re
    ot&-ler s i rnilo.r- Greek o.no( lO\tin works fr-ol"'\'1 tl-tis periocJ..
    [ lol"'g~s.. p. x.] It seerY~s th01t they oicJ.1t peYSCAo.cA.e people
    i11 0.11y si91'tific01nt l'tiAWiber-s to ptAt m01rrio.ge-for-love
    into prCAc.tice .

    En9lis~

    ''l"~"CA '' 01 s ex-slowe? D1Aring oiArpost-co i to.l co ..wersO\tion, "Lo.IAro." told. rYTe o.bot.At 01 trip
    sne~ jLAst to.ken bo.c.k to her l-lomelo.ncA o..,c-J how she'cJ.
    visiteci I-ter fo.,.,.,ily while there. Tho.t indico..tes to 1"11E' o.
    greo.ter clesree of mobility o.no'. fr-eedoi"YY tho...,., o..,e
    woll\lc.l e)Cpec.t o. s ex-slo.ve to ho.ve .

    I 201 : z- 208 ' I WCI\s


    1

    209 3
    '

    2 I 0 : 6 - 2 II : '2.

    J',..., 01ot o. teetoto.tler, blAt it's ro.r-e thO\t I drink


    ""'Y k i no( of odcohol .. so I 11ever ho.ve G\t"'y <At hoW~e .

    I ,.De1'11Se
    . " _,
    ,
    c.<oec,n t

    b
    ,_ . L

    re..,.,em er t.-"s n01ppe'"'"".9


    After she reo.o( tl-le book? si-te a.skecJ. .. ''Reo.lly? I for9ot to
    pic.k LAP the mol'1ey th01t first tiW~e ?" Yes,. she d.icJ. .
    Misto.kes like tho.t co..., h01ppe11. A few yeo...-s lo.ter- I
    forgot to plAt the money OIAt.. which lea< to rt-u.A.ttAod
    embar-r-OISS..,.,ent. Sl-1e wo.s eWibetrrCAsseo< to 1-towe to o.sk
    for it.. et11d I wo..s eP'I"''bo.r-retssto( bec..GI\~ S e I dicAn't WG\1'1t
    he,.- to think tl-to.t ICA. been tryin9 to 9et a.wo.y with not
    pe~~yi"'~ I 11ow ho.ve "' check - list of thit"'gS to r-eP'I"''e..,ber
    to a<o before "Denise'' CAr-rives -- a.t the top of ti1e list it
    SO.y S, "money Ot.At".

    I ztz.. : z.. 3

    J It P'I'701Y seem h01rc;t to believe tho.t I wc.o work ins so hG\r~ th01t I coiAio(n'r spetre o.n hoLAr or two ~
    mo..,tJ., to see 01 prostit~Ate. All I COin S<"AY is .. tho.t wa.s
    Hre 11eo.o-spa.ce I w01s ;., , Ye s ~ I coLAio( howe pG\ic:l for se)C
    G\ fe~A~ More timeS in 2003 011""10 Still nGI\Ve rYIO.c(e the
    pLAblico.tion c.tea.dline for LOUIS RIEL Gl\110. coMplete~ e~~IC of
    P'I"''Y promotione~~l c.ttAties.. blAt I wo.s in StACh o. po.nickeo(
    st01te tha.t- I felt- like I dio(n 't h01ve o., extrO\ ,..,;..,lAte.
    I'm ;.., o. s;..,.,;lo..r po..nickeot StO\te. o..s I finish this book.
    Tl-te oV~Iy reo.son why I '" "' hCAvil'19 sex (i(t.Aring this
    dea.~line- c rc.Anc.h is beca.~ s e ""'Y rela.tio11ship witl-t
    "Denise" is too f;,...,..,ly esto.blished ;"' my life .
    1 first met Sook- Yi., .. she br-Oiic:{ed. 1-ler ~0\ir
    like this most of the tiwte. Over- tl-,e yeo.rs sl-1e 9ro.dlAetlly
    stoppe~ d.oil'1~ so. By 2008 sne wot.Alo( not ho.ve wort"'' he r
    1-1 o. i r i.., t-1-1 is sty Ie .

    I Z 21 :a I Wnen
    I

    223 ~ 1

    I t'"eW'Ie""'1bE'I" the point uorGl m~~e in this


    c.onversG\tion , b"'t ..,ot ex01ctly how 1-,e ~xpre ss ec.( it. He
    Z'Z2 =S -

    Z75

    NOTES
    ciid. not LASe "'"" im"''='in01ry cov.ple n01n-~eol J01ck 01nol J01ne to

    d01rify wh01t he WCAS .S01yin9.


    ( 6y the w01y_, my brother is Ylot himself ;.., 0111 open
    J01ck-omoi - Jcv1e sltt.tO\tion. He's i , 01 committe~,
    rnono9c.molAS ,-e/01tlon s hip.)

    5' ~

    3 't
    \ 22
    I' ve fG\ile& to convey how 01mv.sect Seth WC"AS
    w '-1 e.., I "'c4 mitt eo( t h C\ t I I o v e. "0 en is e ". Set..,
    d. I were
    01c.tv.G\1fy sitti119 ;, 01 rest01v.r"'n't on Gv.ee.., Street G\t the
    tiYY~e

    0\,

    - - Terron i.

    I 2 'l 6 ~ 2 - 22 1='31

    TI-Ji~ po.rt of the conversOt.t-iol'l neve..-h01ppe...,ed. When I c;trew tl.,ese P"'..,els I h01cA only told
    "Deni se" 01bov.t feelin9 th01t e""ptil"'ess.

    221 3
    I2010
    '
    I The d01.te CAt the bottoW\finis
    of this p01r1el - -June 1th
    -- is w'-'e.., I t""'ov.ght I
    hec:i cA r01wit1g the
    WO\S

    book. A feCAJ ol01ys l01ter I re<Ad. the wl.,ole work throv.gh


    0111oC I w01~n't '-'01ppy wita-. t'-le resAit. I n01d rY~ore to cl.o - ec;(iting ov.t POII"lels Q.nd. O.rC\wing ..,e"" o.-,es. By SeptePY~ber
    9 t,_, I J., C\ ot 01 v e n i o n o f t h e s to r y t 1.,"' t I w"' s a.,"' p pie ,with .

    I AFTERWORD * I

    Fellow cao.r+oonist D01ve Sin"! stopped


    resO\rcAi1'19 n"'e o.s 01, friend in 2008 beCOIIAS I ref&AseoC
    to sig.., an ;.-,ternet petitio.-, tJ.Jat ~e set up thO\t
    reo.c:A.s.~ "Dc:we Sit'Yl is 11ot o. miso9yr"tist." I cAon't o9ree
    witl-t his opinion tl-tao.t womeY'I 01.r-e intelfec.ttAG\Ity
    i..,ferior to mer1_, b""t my o.ffec.tio"' G\no< r-espect for
    hi.,., remo.in U(nd'lo.t'lged.

    I APPENt>IX

    I "
    Tl-1e wo.y I' ve phrG\sed this misl-'lt seem
    to ir'l'lply t~01t otl-ter- coiAntrie s folfoweol. CG\n~oi.G\ 'S leo.ci
    in ol.ec.rimin~lizing l-tor't'l05eX""~'ity. COI.rlCAc::ACA """'S o.c.tiAcdly
    follo"Vin9 E..,giOI.nct's le01.c::A. ( Gv.&9eon~ p. 191. )

    ~ } I i1cwe no stro.-,9 opinion on the connectio.-,


    between 9enes "'"'c::A sex"'"'' prefere...,ce. It woi.A.Icil"l' t
    sv. r p r is e ""'e if there is " "9 C\ y 9 e, e "_, 01n ci i t w o lA Io("' ' t
    sv.rpri se me if there isn't one.

    I A.

    I A. 6

    1<'
    If yo""'re wonoCerin9 wf.-\y I dic;(n't encow1ter
    C"Any prostitv.tes wl1o o""'Y 901ve o,-C4(> it 's beca.v.se they
    n"!O.de it cleo.r in their <llci S wha.t f-he t10.ttAre of their
    service wo.s. I k"'e"" I wo.ntec:A. more thO\..., a blow-job>
    so I oioln't COlli the orCAI-OI'lly s e>c-worke rs.

    I A 6

    ~*

    I Amy ,

    "A 'Profe ss i on01l lover ' Spea.ks ", NATIO-

    NAL POST> JlAiy 15 tl, 2006.

    Z76

    NOTES

    I s J., o "" I c;( ~ d ..,..., i t t n 01 t I r e c::u ,.01.., 9 e o( t h e o r cJ. e r o f the


    q_Aote -- tJ.,e "[1]., folAt" yeetr"S" section atppeatrS before
    the ''My clients" section ;.., Amy's esso.y.
    A. 8

    *
    **

    Del01coste~

    p.. l'lO ..

    A. 8
    J<'\ne <'\no( At'1<'\Nicole~ "De01r John "~ SPREA D,
    Wi..,ter 200S, p. IS .

    ~*

    I A. 8

    J Mo11et, p. 221.

    \ A. 9 .,..
    N~rne withneld~ " Letters ", EYE WE.KLY
    ( Toronto)> M<'\rc.h I st 2007~ p. 5.

    'A.
    9
    (

    I A. '

    "'* I_ M onet,..
    ...
    p. 2.20.
    * I Jeffreys_. pp. 260, 261.
    is quotir19 f,...on1 p019e

    Jeffrey~
    159 of "' 1991 pAblicQtion> RAPE. AI\ID SEXUAL ASSAUlT m : A RESEARCH HAND8001<, eclitecA. by Ann Wolpert BAr9ess.

    I A. ** I " Denise" tells


    10

    me tho.t she enjoys hcwin.9 sex

    with me. M<'\r1y of yoA re"'~ing this will thil"''k th~t

    she's bei..,9 less thQI.., hot1est with me. Peoo..,QIIIy, I


    believe her, btAt I reo.li~e th~t she prob01bly enjoys se.x
    w it&-, me I e H t "'\(j\ n s h e h o. s e ..,joy e ~ i t wit h the
    norr - p<'\yin9 se)(IAOd po.rtners she's nOI.o( "',o( "thOit, if I
    wo.s...,'t po.yir19 her~ she woAidn't co..,tinlAe to 90 to becA
    with me.
    IL A

    *'* FeW~inst work o.., tl-te effects v.po, w oW'Ien


    of .se.x"'o.l violen,e, St.Ac.h o.s ro.pe, ;..,cest.. seXA<'\ I
    "'Qretssment Qlnc( m~rittill ro.pe , CO.I"l be lAseft.Aily
    "PPiie~ to tne effects of prostitv.tion.
    [Jeffreys, p. 268. ]

    10

    ~ MG\,.,V prostit~Ates ho.ve developed Hreel"'i1"19


    sys'tems tho.t suc<essft.AIIy filter' out viole.., t cv.stome r.s.
    For i11st<'\nce.. one ;..,depe..,o.e..,'t To,.on'to CG\II9irl rectt.Aires
    tho.t "New clie..,ts must provide either o. r'o.l no.,..,.,e c-tnci
    work p~o..,e l"tCAmber or two refere..,ces frorM otl-ter
    respec.tecl C<'\ 11 9ids. '' ( Mclo.ren.. p. 56.)

    IA.

    10

    I A. 11

    *
    Here 's the c.ontext in which S heil01 Jeffr-eys
    o.sso<.io.tec:A S e)(u~l objectific<'\tion with ernotiOI1G\I i1'1c:Aiffe,...e..,<e. This is 1-,er efi..,itio.-, of prostitutio,., :
    277

    NOTES

    MG\Ie seXtAG\1 be~01viour d-t01r01c teri"te~ by tl1ree


    efe,..,.,e..,t.s v01rio1ASiy coVYlbi..,e~: b01rter_. pro,..,.,is c. ~ity>
    erY~otion~l i,.,o(;ffere..,ce. Any 1"1'1011"1 is 01 prostitiAtiol"t
    01buse,.. who 7 for the pl.4rposes of his sexc.AOII so.tisfO\c tion 7 h~bit1A01IIy or i ntermitte..,tly rec:;(uc.es
    o...,other ~um&.n beit'1S to &. sexc.Aod object by the
    use of rY~Ot'1ey or other merce...,o.ry co..,side..-~tions .
    [Jeffreys .. p.lt.]
    " Pros t i t ~ t i o t'1 01 bus e r " is o. t e r .,., she ._. s e s in t e rc 11 01 n <J e "' b I y
    with "jol1n",
    Jeffreys is Austro.li01n -- Qoes the worol " b~rter '' h&.ve
    G\ ~ifferent YY1>0111in9 in AtAstY01/i01 ? Here in (o.nOIQ(OI it
    refers to tr01ole witho~t Mone y.

    I A.

    12

    The best book I've re01c< 01bo1At tl"01ff ick in.9


    01t1c;;( sex-work is Lo11..cr~ Mo.rio. A9u stln's SeX AT THE.
    MARC,INS . She Yec.o9nizes th01t mo st tro.ffickecA people
    c:;(o..,t see themselves 01s helpleH victirv1S. RE>so.rolin,9
    the ir o(ebt - bo..,c.lo.<3e .. s he quotes o. Coll.4W"'bio....,
    tY01ffickeo< il'lto SpAin:
    I never co,.,siderecA it to be ~ debt . For ,..,e i t wo..s
    like o. fo.votAr th01t they c;;(icA for me.
    [ A<3tAStin., p. 3lt.]

    I A. 12

    <-JtA,.,c;(rew Rosetto.., review of .SEX TRAFFICKING..,


    ecCiteO. by SiclcAh01rth l-<01ro. ., SPREAD> Fotll Z009_. p. 59.
    The sto.tistic comes from K01r01> wi-Jo sees
    prostittAtiol'l ets 01 form of exploit01tion.

    I A . 12 *'*' The

    s how WOIS SOtANDS LikE CANADA_, hosted by


    S \1el019h Ro9er s. The interview s~ bjects were 8enjo.min
    Perrin 01no< De tee ti ve uoi"'G(OI'\ Me c~ I loc. n.

    l A.

    16

    1'1"1'1 StAre ti1At ;,., I'YIOSt w01ys tl-'le licenc.ec.{ prosof Nev01~01 C\re si mil()lrly COI'\trollec4. ..,ow_. blAt ;..,
    01 time w"'e.., o.l rY1oSt every o .-,e l-10\s C4 cell-pho..,e I woncCer
    if telepho11e use ; .., t"'e Nev01~01 brothels is restric.te"
    the wo.y it w01s ;..., the 1990 ~ .
    tit~Ates

    A.

    ~
    Then c01 me the breD~ktl-erot..cgn H101t mat.rked
    [ PieYre] Tr"'cA.e01u's pc...tblic emer9e,.,c.e o.s the [ ... 1
    c&.-.C4risw.at.tic. fi<JtAre th01t 01 trC4tAWI~ti-z.eO. C01n01do.
    w~s see ki.-,g. E01rly in Dece..,ber [ 1967] -- o..,ly c:Lo.ys
    01fter [ (01n01c<i01"1 Prime Ministel"'] lester Pea~r son
    h01o( format.lly GU11'\0~nc.eo( nis retireYY~ent 0\t IOist --

    19

    Z78

    NOTES

    Tr~AGte"'v. broLA9nt before the Hov.se of (oW~t'VlOI"'S o.


    c;4ivorce reform bill o,nc;( sever"'! CArne..,c;A.-nenf"S to
    the Crimll"'"'l (ooe liber-odizi..,9 l"'ws on abortion
    o.n~ homosexCAcdity. This over..,Ot.v.l of soci~l le9iSlo.tion ho.O. bee,., lA..,~er wo.y ;.., the J~Astice
    De po.r't>'Y1eYit for ye"'rs. !)tAt' TrtAdeav. mcu:ie the
    c.n01.119es his own by telli,.,g the tefevisio.-.
    c: 01. wt e n:ll. s o v. t s; c;( e the H o v. s e ~ '' l J.t e. s to. t e h 01. s .., o pI 01. c. e
    ;.., the bedroovns of the n01.tion . " Thc:lt this icAeo.
    w01.s borrowed. direc.tly froWI 01.., ecAitoriod writte..,
    by M01.rtin O' Mo\lley th01t week for THE GLOBE AND
    MAIL we ..... t t.H1vtotic.eol. Deliver-eol by o.. Wli.,ister of
    the Cr-own weo.ri..,g o. le01ther coat an~ sportin9
    o. (CAE!SDir h01.ircv.t, it h01o( o.n elec.trifyi"'9 effec.t
    o., the ptAblic iW101.9ivt01tio.., , It expressed. o. wio(ely
    felt need to brin9 (0\t"lrAdOI. v.p to 0.01te ;.., o. vv01y
    th01.t every boc(y co&.AI& CAnc;(erS.tDII"'o(, Here wo.s 01
    WlOII"' wJ,o WQS willing to oeclcue himself il'1 oppositiOI'\ to the est01.blishec:A order_, o. wtOI.I'l vvho WG\S
    SO\yir'l9 tho.t C"'nOI.GtQ did vtot hc.we to be o. Vic.torian
    boo.ckwo-.ter~ o. WIIASetA..,.., of o~.Atmooteol i&eo.s.
    ( Clo.r-kso.,_, pp. 101, 108.]
    Tr~AdeOI.tA w01.s the.., the rni.,ister of jtAStic.e. This is
    wl-10\t ..,e 0\<. ttADIIIy SOI.io to the 01bove -W~e,.,tio,.,e<:i television co-...,..,ero.s o~ Dece...,ber 21st 1961.:

    To-.ke t&.,i~ thi..,9 on ~oWiosextAodity. I thi11k the


    view we t01.ke here is th01t there's ..,o platc.e for- the
    st.o.te ;., the becAroo~s of the t'lOitiot'l. I thi11k ithOtt'
    vvho.ts do..,e ;,., privo.te betwee.., o.ol~Aits does.., ''t
    c:o..,ce,..., the Cril'l'1il'1011 Code. Whe.., it be(omes pLAblic
    t h i s ; s 01. c::{ ; f f e r e..., t .,., o. t t e r., or w h e .., it r e I 01 te s to
    ...,;.,ors this is .o. olifferent l'l'10ttter.
    [ G~Adgeon., p. 199.]
    He becO\vne ti-le pri.,.,e ...,;..,;ster in 1968.

    recom~e..,G( Cro.ot ~i/od"'ey's e>.l..4tobiogrc..phic0\l novels EXCREMENT (Charnel HotAse_, 1988) "'"'Gt
    PUTRID SCtAM ( CJ,o.rnel Ho~Ase_, 1991 ). u..,fort~Anately
    they're both OtAt of prif'lt_, bc.-tt peri-1ap.s yoi.A COtY\ finoC

    I A ' * ) I hi9hly
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    280

    Praise for PAYING FOR IT


    "Paying For It is a very enlightening book, as well as being entertaining: [Chester Brown] is a very skillful
    artist in that way." R. CRUMB,fiom his introduction to Paying For It
    ''I've loved Chester Brown's work since the early days of Yummy Fur. He started out as a remarkable
    cartoonist telling strange stories that slowly became, over time, increasingly personal.

    Paying For It is as personal as you can get. It's a clear-eyed, not-even-slightly-erotic, compulsively
    readable, sometimes painfully honest account of his time, reasons and experiences paying for sex.
    I learned things about Chester from reading this, and I learned things about sex-workers, and about the
    world, and, oddly, I think I learned things about myself.
    The argument about when or whether comics had grown up ended when people started making
    comics for grown-ups. This is one of them. Paying For It is the kind of book that will engage your mind
    and force you to think about things in ways you may never have done before. Chester would probably like
    that. And if you find yourself arguing with the page, or with the author's notes, I think Chester would
    probably like that too." NEIL GAIMAN
    "Chester Brown is perhaps the most transparent, honest and relevant voice remaining in contemporary
    comics, and this is, to my mind, his most powerful and affecting work to date. Paying For It explores life in
    the world's oldest customer-base, and does so with heart, intelligence, and a complete lack of sentiment
    or self-justification. Rewarding repeated readings, this book will love you long time." ALAN M 0 0 RE
    "In Paying For It, Chester Brown not only makes a compelling case for the decriminalization of sex
    work but he also seems like an excellent client. Sex workers and sex worker rights advocates couldn't
    ask for a better ally. A must read in the canon of sensible and sensitive voices making a case against
    prurient ideology-based rhetoric about consensual sexual behaviour." SAS HA, natio1wlly syndimted

    sex columnist, playwright, and sex worker rights activist


    "The self-aware john, a quirky and surprisingly realistic guy, is everywhere, but he's also
    been silent and overshadowed by his belligerent, deluded brothers. Paying For It is a fascinating modern (and enjoyable) response to that anonymous Victorian sex classic My Secret Life.
    The characters encountered here evoke Armistead Maupin's Tales of the City. Chester Brown's
    emotional honesty is riveting. This is what sex ed looks like when we refuse to stop learning."
    TRACY QUAN, author of Diary of a Manhattan Call Girl and Diary of a Jetsetting Call Girl
    978-1-77046-o48-s
    $24.95 US & CDN
    COMICS & GRAPHIC NOVELS I Nonfiction
    BIOGRAPHY & AUTOBIOGRAPHY / Personal Memoirs

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