22th March 2016

Vanessa Daiane
Overparenting
When parents are too much involved in the lives of their children, so that they
cannot stop controlling the kids all the time, they can be considered as overparents. It
easily comes to our minds an example of this type of parents. They are present in our
schools, in the neighborhood and also in our families. Personally, I can describe some
of these cases by my daily routine at school. Working in pre- nursery gives us much
experience in dealing with overparenting.
When kids come to school they are only 2 years old. It is comprehensible that
reliance on the teachers will be build day by day, but at first we can notice who are
the overparents. I can list some of their characteristics. Firstly, saying goodbye to the
kids is a nightmare. Parents have low expectations about the adaptation of their kids.
Some of them think the kids are not able to be happy and socialize with other kids
without crying all the day. Another characteristic is that they try to prevent all types of
accidents: they put bandages where there arent any injuries, they help their kids
without being asked. The worst one is the last: They go crazy if another child hits their
kid. They go to school, they talk to the coordinator, to the principal and whoever its
necessary, just to show they want protection to their kids.
A good relationship between children and their parents consists on the belief
that sometimes its necessary kids go through some situations just because its part of
the life and the process of growing. Overparenting avoid many valuable experiences
children need and want to live.