Alumna says it's important to find your Notre Dame family. "Tell me who your friends are and I'll tell you who you are," she says. "You are not alone, we are all here rooting for you," says Fatima Montez.
Alumna says it's important to find your Notre Dame family. "Tell me who your friends are and I'll tell you who you are," she says. "You are not alone, we are all here rooting for you," says Fatima Montez.
Alumna says it's important to find your Notre Dame family. "Tell me who your friends are and I'll tell you who you are," she says. "You are not alone, we are all here rooting for you," says Fatima Montez.
Alumna says it's important to find your Notre Dame family. "Tell me who your friends are and I'll tell you who you are," she says. "You are not alone, we are all here rooting for you," says Fatima Montez.
other people from Howard who werent dancing during
DomerFest, through clubs by attending meetings and doing
weekly service, or by friends I had made introducing me to their friends, and they turned out to be pretty cool. I studied abroad in Santiago last semester, and I learned a saying that goes Dime con quien andas, y te dire quien eres basically, tell me who your friends are and Ill tell you who you are. Maybe youve already started finding your Notre Dame family, maybe you think its just a myth, but I cant stress enough how important it is to reach out to people. Maybe it wont come right away, Steven was in my familia during my LFR and we have been close ever since. But some of my other close friends are people that I met here but didnt talk to for another two, or three semesters. These may be the people that your high school friends get jealous of, that make fun of you when you forget a homework assignment, but wont leave you alone until you finish your essay; these are the people who will grow up with you. And when you come away from Notre Dame, Saint Marys, or Holy Cross, the degree will probably be useful, but it will be the experiences that you take away from here that really show you who you are. So, I guess to end, all I have to say is, talk to each other, be there for each other, and never be afraid to reach out to someone. You are not alone, we are all here rooting for you.
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Life Gets Weird
By Ftima Montez When Eugene Gonzalez first stepped on to Notre Dames campus, he felt at home. He loved his room in Steds, and his roommate was a pretty nice guy. He liked it a lot here, even though it was completely different from his home town. There werent too many Latinos, and he wasnt used to that; but during his time here, he met most of the community on campus by being involved in different clubs. He didnt have as much money as the other students here, but he got a job, so it was all good. Even with that, he couldnt afford to go home for the small breaks, so he usually just hung out with friends, or visited their families, and when summer came around him and his crew would pack all their stuff into someones car and drive back home. The years flew by, and by the time of Eugenes graduation, his family had saved up enough money to drive up and see him cross the stage. Everyone loved the campus. His father said, If he could imagine heaven, it would be Notre Dame. They prayed at the grotto, packed up his room, and drove back home all together. What he gained here was so much more than his degree. He walked away with his Notre Dame family, the best friends that he had ever had and one of the strongest alumni networks in the nation. He lived happily ever after. Page 1
Eugene Gonzalez is my uncle, and he
graduated in 1982. He was the one who encouraged me to apply for this school, even though it was nowhere on my radar. But, once I got accepted, I knew this was the place I was supposed to be. Maybe it was something about the Notre Dame legend that drew me here, or maybe it was the financial aid. Who knows? But I came here expecting a similar experience to my Uncle: great friends, bad winters, and the best years of my life. But you see, it turns out that my uncles Notre Dame story left out a lot of what happened during his time here. He came by himself for Frosh-O with nothing more than his backpack and two suitcases. He felt like he was the only student here without his family and he felt so alone. He was used to sharing a room, so his roommate wasnt a big deal, but he missed his six siblings that he left behind. The lack of diversity hit him hard. Where were the cumbias? Where was the menudo? Where were the people who knew what it was like to have two parents struggling with English and low education? He needed to work several jobs just to get by, and his junior year he started researching in a lab just to make sure that grad schools wanted him. With jobs, a lab, and all his classes - he was under a lot of stress, and his grades started to slip. He missed his family and his city when he couldnt go back home, especially during the never-ending snow storms. Also during his junior year, due to the stress from a family matter, his grades dropped so low he was put on academic suspension. Having to come back home for a year was the most difficult obstacle in his academic career. Did you see that the Gonzalez boy came back? was some of the biggest chisme on the block. But his family supported him, as did his friends at Notre Dame, and he did
make it back, and he worked his ass off to
be able to graduate from ND. I didnt hear these about all of these difficulties until the middle of my sophomore year when he came back to visit campus for the first time in 30 years. I wondered why he hadnt told me about all the struggles that he faced while he was here, and I think that he didnt want to leave me with any negative impressions of his beloved school. But I think that he should have told me because then I would have been a little more prepared for what I found in South Bend, Indiana. And that is why I am sharing his story with yall, because even though it has been 30 years, a lot of yall may face the same problems he did back in his undergrad days. And if Im going to give you any advice on how to face these problems, it would be to find a community, and to stick together with them. No pressure, but a great way to start would be by looking around right here in this room. Every upperclassmen had to apply to be here, we all spent hours putting this retreat together so that we could provide yall with a place to find friends, family, and support. I promise yall that whatever happens during your time here, there is someone here who can help you get through it. Lets play a game: Upperclassmen- raise your hand if you have failed a test. (A lot I assume). Okay, now raise your hand if you broke your foot before your first 8 am final freshman year when you slipped on black ice and had to drag your foot all around campus because you didnt want to miss your test (Just me?) Okay, raise your hand if you have ever been homesick. (A few?) Okay, raise your hand if you went back home after sophomore year and found out that you had a secret six month old half-brother that
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your family didnt tell you about because
they didnt want to stress you out at school. (If anyone else raises their hand I will go and high five you). As you can see, my time here has not been easy. Ive had my highs, Ive had my lows, and Ive had my rock bottoms. But every time I feel like my life is in shambles, every time I feel like the world is on my shoulders, every time I sit in the LaFun basement with a blanket covering my head and making stress noises, there is always someone I feel I can turn to, to pull me right back up again. I have stories upon stories about how my friends here have been there for me, but Im an easy crier, and an ugly crier, so to save yall from having to see that I will just say that, life
gets weird, and its so much easier to get
through it when you have someone by your side. So now look at everyone around you, look at your familia, and the people you havent gotten to talk to yet. Im assuming that yall came here for similar reasons: maybe religion, maybe new friends, maybe for someone who can say your name right. But yall are all here, and I hope that from this point on, yall will stick together. Know that this community will be here for you, no matter what, to serve not only as a home for yall, but as a bridge to get to know others as well. A lot of my friends, I met on LFR, but others I met through my dorm when I found the 3