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Don͛t give a ͞before-and-after͟ comparison compliment

Is your compliment a ͞before-and-after͟? If so you only give the ͞after͟ part.

 

Don͛t focus only on what someone did wrong

Compliment sincerely before you give criticism.

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Don͛t keep compliments about others to yourself

Spread positive gossip by passing on the compliment to that person.

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Don͛t miss an opportunity to praise someone publicly

Seize the opportunity to praise someone publicly when worthy of it.

  

Don͛t be stingy with words of appreciation

Be generous with your words of appreciation. It will pay you back.

 

Don͛t become defensive and retaliate against criticism

When you receive criticism, especially uncalled-for, say ͞Thank you for giving me your
opinion. I will definitely give it some thought.͟

   

Don͛t avoid communicating with a close person that is having problems.

͞This must be a difficult time for you. Is there anything I can do to help?͟

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Don͛t complain w/o offering a solution

When you tell someone a problem, offer a solution at the same time.

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Don͛t criticize in public

Criticism should be done in private, especially if you want to be heard.

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Don͛t offer to do something you don͛t want to do.

Always expect a person to say yes to any offer you make.

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Don͛t make negative after-the-fact comments about a choice when it can͛t be changed.

When someone has made a choice that is unalterable and regretted, offer positive help or
say nothing at all.

  

Don͛t expect someone to read your mind.

Be sure to say what you mean, especially when someone asks you about something that
affects you. If you don͛t you will be disappointed.

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Don͛t automatically disagree with someone͛s opinion before you take time to consider it

Ask, ͞What are your reasons for saying that?͟ Listen to the answer before you respond.

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Don͛t create unbalanced conversations.

Check yourself. If you talk too much, ask the other person a question and listen.

  

Don͛t neglect working out the specific details of a deal.

 Create accountability. Work out the specifics and clarify your expectations.

 

Don͛t put off following up on something important to someone else.

When someone expresses something is important to them, follow up on it later.

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Don͛t order someone to do something

If you want cooperation, offer choices and ask questions.

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Don͛t assume someone is ready to give you their full attention.

Before sharing something important, ask, ͞Is this a good time for you?͟

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Don͛t expect someone to offer you something you want.

When you want something ask for it. Only you know what you want and need.

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Don͛t expect someone to do a favor for you when your relationship is inconsistent.

Connect. Show an interest in people when you don͛t need anything from them.

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Don͛t say you know something when you 100% don͛t.

Admit you don͛t know or that you are wrong when necessary.

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Don͛t only say ͞I͛m sorry͟

Apologize by saying, ͞I͛m sorry for ͚ ͚.͟ ͞In the future I will ͚ ͚.͟

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Don͛t repeatedly tell 1 person about a problem with another person.

Confront the people that make you angry, especially if you have told someone else 3 times
or more about your anger.

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Don͛t support someone in an argument by being critical

Stay neutral. Make supportive comments when listening, but don͛t be critical

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Don͛t argue about something when facts can resolve it

Are you arguing about facts or opinions? If it͛s facts, then go get them.

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Don͛t give unsolicited advice

Only give advice when you are asked for it or you get permission.

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Don͛t jump into a conversation unprepared, especially if you want something

Before you persuade someone you need specific reasons why they should.

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Don͛t assume you don͛t need to reply to an e-mail

Make it a habit to acknowledge that you have read e-mail messages.

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Don͛t assume a person doesn͛t need a final answer.

If you tell someone you will try, let them know if you did it or not.

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Don͛t agree to do a favor if you don͛t want to.

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have a policy about this. I don͛t ͚ ͚.͟

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Don͛t make offers that you won͛t follow through with.

Only make offers when you are certain you can/will follow through.

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Don͛t cave under pressure and give a answer before you are prepared to.

When you aren͛t sure of your answer, the best response is always, ͞Let me think about it. I͛ll
get back to you by .͟

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Don͛t invite others to join in plans you have with someone else.

Get approval from a person you have plans with before you invite others along.