50 FIRST DATES

A step-by-step guide for executing a great first date,

that will leave them wanting more!

April Masini
Author of the Critically Acclaimed
'Ask April' Advice Column,
Internationally Recognized
www.AskApril.com
&
Best-Selling Books
Date Out Of Your League and Think & Date Like A Man

Masini Enterprises, Inc.

 50 FIRST DATES

A step-by-step guide for executing a great first date,

that will leave them wanting more!

Copyright © 2006 by Masini Enterprises, Inc.

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 TABLE OF CONTENTS
FORWARD: THE FIRST DATE 6
INTRODUCTION: THE CRASH COURSE 7
ABOUT THE AUTHOR 13

 THE ACTIVE DATE:

IDEAS TO SEND THE HEART POUNDING AND THE BLOOD RUSHING! 14
HIKING: TAKE A HIKE!........................................................................................................................................ 15
SURF LESSONS: IT’S NOT THE SIZE OF THE WAVES, IT’ S THE MOTION OF THE OCEAN!................................ 17
HORSEBACK RIDING: GO AHEAD AND MOUNT HER (OR HIM) ..................................................................... 19
BIKE RIDE: A BICYCLE DATE BUILT FOR TWO! ................................................................................................ 21
SNORKELING: SEE WHAT'S UNDERNEATH? ..................................................................................................... 23
SNOW DAY: IT’S LOVELY WEATHER FOR A SLEIGH RIDE TOGETHER. ............................................................ 25
DANCE CLASS: FOOTLOOSE – AND FANCY FREE. ............................................................................................. 27
CLEAN UP AND PICNIC: BECAUSE YOU'RE SMARTER (AND BETTER) THAN THE AVERAGE BEAR! ........... 29
SAILING LESSONS: A BREEZY FIRST DATE ..................................................................................................... 31
ROCK CLIMBING: BOREDOM HITS A WALL ON THIS EXCITING DATE ........................................................... 33
KAYAKING: RIDE THE RAPIDS TO ROMANCE.................................................................................................... 35
SNOWSHOEING AND CROSS COUNTRY SKIING: MAKING TRACKS IN A BEAUTIFUL SETTING. ........... 37
ROLLERBLADING: PLAY CATCH ME IF Y OU CAN ON THIS FAST PACED DATE!........................................... 39

 ARTSY-SMARTSY DATES: SHOW HER HOW SUAVE AND DEBONAIR YOU ARE! 41
THE OBSCURE ATTRACTION: DISCOVER YOUR TOWN’ S HIDDEN TREASURE! .......................................... 42
WINE TASTING: A SPIRITED WAY TO STRIKE UP ROMANCE ........................................................................... 44
BOOK SIGNING: LITERARY LOVE...................................................................................................................... 46
CONCERT: THEY’RE PLAYING YOUR SONG! ...................................................................................................... 48
CONCERT: THEY’RE PLAYING YOUR SONG! ...................................................................................................... 50
VOLUNTEER: BE THE BEST Y OU CAN BE......................................................................................................... 52
STAR GAZING: CREATE A HEAVENLY EXPERIENCE ........................................................................................ 54
FILM FESTIVAL: MAKE MOVIE MAGIC TOGETHER .......................................................................................... 56

 DATES THAT ARE PURE FUN: HAVE A BALL ON THESE DREAM DATES 58
BOWLING: STRIKE ONE FOR LOVE ..................................................................................................................... 59
ICE SKATING: FALL INTO EACH OTHER’S ARMS .............................................................................................. 61
PLAYGROUND PICNIC: RECESS TO ROMANCE ............................................................................................... 63
MINIATURE GOLF: STROKE ME, STROKE ME – IIF YOU CAN........................................................................ 64
COMEDY CLUB: LAUGHING IS THE BEST A PHRODISIAC .................................................................................. 66
ZOO: LET THE ANIMAL KINGDOM GIVE YOU SOME WILD IDEAS ...................................................................... 68
AMUSEMENT PARK: A THRILLING FIRST DATE ............................................................................................. 70
DOG SHOW PRANCING POOCHES AND THEIR O WNERS. DOIN' IT DOGGY STYLE! .......................................... 71
ESTATE SALES: A REAL LIVE TREASURE HUNT .............................................................................................. 72
SPORTING EVENT: LET THE GAMES BEGIN ..................................................................................................... 74
FORTUNE TELLER: LOOK INTO THE CRYSTAL BALL & SEE IF YOU’RE A LUCKY MATCH! ......................... 76
HORSERACES: YOU CAN BET ON A GREAT TIME ............................................................................................. 78

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 DATES FOR THE BUDGET MINDED:
SHORT ON CASH DOESN’T MEAN YOU HAVE TO BE SHORT ON STYLE OR FUN! 80
DESSERT DATE: SWEETS FOR YOUR SWEET MEANS Y OU WON'T GET DESERTED ........................................ 81
A DAY OF PHOTOGRAPHY: PICTURE PERFECT ............................................................................................. 83
SHOPPING SPREE: THE WORLD I S YOUR OYSTER... OR SO THEY’ LL THINK ................................................ 85
BEACH COMBING: SURF, SAND AND SENSUALITY.......................................................................................... 87
BERRY PICKING: WHERE THE FRUITS OF LOVE CAN BLOOM ......................................................................... 89
FESTIVALS AND FAIRS: CHILDLIKE FUN........................................................................................................ 91
FREE MUSEUM: ARE YOU AN EXHIBITIONIST? ................................................................................................ 93
BOARD GAMES: A NIGHT OF FRIENDLY COMPETITION ................................................................................... 95
ROAD TRIP: JUMP IN THE CAR FOR SOME SEXY EXPLORING ............................................................................ 97
FARMERS MARKET: SEE WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU GET FRESH! ............................................................. 99
CITY EXPLORATON: BE THE A RCHITECT OF A GREAT DATE! ..................................................................... 102
PLAYING POOL: SEXY FUN, CORNER POCKET ............................................................................................... 104
KARAOKE: A HARMONIOUS DATE ................................................................................................................... 106
CONCLUSION 108

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 FORWARD
THE FIRST DATE
Your heart is racing, you're breathing faster, and you may be breaking out into a
cold sweat. Congratulations. You've either just survived a terrifying car accident, or
you've got the First Date jitters. In fact, going on a First Date can be a lot like
driving a car. The first thing you've got to do when you get behind the wheel is to
take control. Putting yourself in control of the date means you decide whether it
turns into a total wreck with pride shattered all over the place, or a relaxing ride
with both of you enjoying the scenery and each other's company – even if you
decide never to see each other again. Although getting behind the wheel is
frightening when you don't have a lot of experience, the real question is “do you
want to be a ‘passenger’ on the date allowing things to just happen or would you
prefer steering the date in the direction you want to go?”

Now, I'm assuming you wouldn't take your car out on the road without reading a
driver's manual, so consider this book your dating manual. Read it, become
familiar with it, and then ... get out there and enjoy the ride! Just as you had to
log many hours behind the wheel before getting your driver's license, you'll
probably need a few first dates under your belt before feeling totally comfortable on
a first date. There are fifty dating suggestions in this handbook, so don't give up
until you've tried all of them at least once! And remember, a first date idea that
turns out to be a dud for one person may be the perfect way to connect with
someone else. That's the great thing about first dates! Every new person you go
out with offers a new opportunity to connect and have fun.

Although you can always cancel a date, I say, you have nothing to lose by just
trying it. Unless you find out that a person is a raving lunatic or your long lost
cousin, go for it! While finding out that your long lost cousin IS a raving lunatic is
probably not news to you, it should not be considered an excuse to cancel with the
hottie next door. That being said, my challenge to you is to get out there and go
on at least fifty first dates. You'll meet fifty new people, you'll have a blast doing it,
and you may even meet the person of your dreams.

So sit back, relax, and buckle up. You may discover first dates exciting enough
that you’ll find yourself not even worrying about whether or not there’ll even be a
second date.

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 INTRODUCTION
THE CRASH COURSE
This book is a step-by-step guide for executing a great first date. However, before
we dive into the actual dates, I’d like to first offer you a crash course on dating in
general. For those men who have read Date Out Of Your League and those
women who have read Think & Date Like A Man – think of this as a quick
refresher course, an oil and lube for your car. Those who master this course will
feel like a well-oiled engine that runs smoothly and confidently, while being
perceived as winners – not just in the dating arena, but in business and in life.

LESSON 1: The test-drive – make an impact, don't crash and burn.

Let's face it, you won't even test drive a car if you're not instantly impressed with
it. Similarly, your date may not bother taking you out for a test drive if you make a
bad first impression. First impressions-are immediate, long lasting, and usually
permanent. Regardless of how great you are or how sweet you can be once
someone gets to know you, the reality is that your dating success is based almost
entirely upon the other person's initial sense of who and what you are. The experts
say that you do not have a second chance to make a positive first impression, so
not only do you have to be on your best behavior, you also have to look the part!

LESSON 2: Adjust the mirror.

In other words, take a look in the mirror! Admit it, when you see someone, you
immediately size them up. You check them out – are they confident, attractive? If
they don't come off that way, you're not interested. Well, guess what? Others are
doing the same to you! So if you want the part, look the part! Statistics show that
our appearance speaks more about us and is more important than what we say
verbally. Moreover, though it may not get you all the way to your objective, your
appearance will get your foot in the door. Remember the old adage, "Dress for who
you want to be, not who you are." This is as true in business as it is in love.

LESSON 3: Make that baby shine!

It’s a fact that in our personal affairs, as in all our business dealings, we sell
ourselves first. Poor attitude, image, and behavior will adversely affect your dating
success, just as it will negatively affect your business success. Act the part!

LESSON 4: Don't forget the interior!

You've also got to BE the part. The initial impression you make on a prospective
date predicts whether s/he will take the time to get to know you. Dating, like
business, is all about sales. You must think of yourself as the product and the
person you want to date as your target consumer.

LESSON 5: Don't brake too soon.

Dating is about sales and sales is a numbers game. If you want to immediately
multiply your success in dating (or just about anything else), you need to
understand and accept the concept behind "the numbers game". It supports the
fundamental dynamics of dating. You will save a lot of time and heartache if you
are willing to grasp and follow its tenets. They are as follows:

 You are the product. You are the product's salesperson, its packager, and its
advertiser.

 The person you’re trying to attract is your target customer. S/he makes
his/her buying decision based upon presentation, packaging, and advertising.

 The world's best salespeople don't have a 100% sales rate, a 50% sales rate,
or even a 25% sales rate. The world's best salespeople are lucky to maintain
a 10% sales rate. Thus, the best of the best put their best product forward
and count themselves fortunate if one out of every ten prospective mates is
equally interested in them. In other words, don't give up after the first, fifth,
or fifteenth date.

LESSON 6: Pedal to the metal.

There's nothing more annoying on the road than a Nervous Nelly who can't commit
to a lane, is afraid to go through a light (when it's green!), and drives so slow as to
cause accidents. The number one rule on the dating road is that confidence =
success. In fact, confidence is the number one quality both men and women seek
in a date or a mate. Confidence is also the key attribute that all professional
salespeople must possess in order to be successful. People do not buy products or
services from someone who has no confidence in themselves or the products they
represent.

LESSON 7: Where are you going?

Driving aimlessly can be fun sometimes, but forgetting the map and driving around
in circles is another matter entirely. It's enough to ruin a good ride, and make you
not want to get back in the car for a while. A confident person is one with a plan
and a goal. What's yours? Let’s assume your objective is to get a great date for
New Year's Eve. Now ask yourself, what will it take to get that date? What steps
do you need to take? Create your to-do list, then accomplish each item one-by-one
until you reach your goal.

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LESSON 8: For sale.

Know your target market and give them what they want. In other words,
understand to whom you are trying to sell yourself and what they are interested in
buying.

LESSON 9: More horsepower.

As in business, the best way to succeed in dating is to analyze the competition and
do things better than they do. Just as you would study a competitor in business or
a rival sports team, study your dating competition if you want to win!

LESSON 10: Put it into gear.

Take action and follow through.

 Deal with your fear of rejection:

Investing your energy and self-worth in outcomes. Instead of thinking

of 'misses' as 'failures,' think of them as 'practice shots'. Dating is a
process.

Placing so much importance on what your prospective mate thinks of

you. After all, you don't know if you would even like them once you get
to know them, do you? Instead, focus on getting to know him/her. Do you
have common interests, goals, morals, and values? Is he/she caught up in
things that don't matter to you? Take control of what you can control – start
evaluating whether or not this person is a good match for you, stop worrying
about what they think.

 Set small goals and accomplish them, one by one.

 Get passionate about your life. Take a class, travel at home or abroad,
become a Big Brother/Big Sister, get involved with politics, learn to Salsa,
get out of a job you hate and into one you love. Enthusiasm is contagious!
If you are excited about your life, people will be excited about being with
you.

 Dress for success. Always put your best foot forward.

 Perfect your sales pitch. If you keep doing the same thing, you will keep
getting the same result. Take stock of what is and what is not working for
you, and revise your pitch accordingly.

DATING TIPS TO KEEP IN MIND

 DRESS FOR THE OCCASION: You would not wear the same outfit to a business
meeting that you would wear to a Sunday barbeque – would you? No, not

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 any more than you would wear the same outfit to a formal dinner as you
would to a picnic in the country, or a day at the beach. Indeed, you will find
wardrobe suggestions with each 50 first dates, along with additional tips and
advice under “What To Wear” in the Conclusion section of the book.
However, if you are unsure about how to dress or what clothes to buy – pick
up Date Out Of Your League (for men) or Think & Date Like A Man (for
women). These books offer complete wardrobe guides that will not only take
the guess work out of what to wear, but they’ll also put you on the Best
Dressed List, for every occasion.

 LOOK, LISTEN, WATCH YOUR MOUTH – AND YOUR BODY LANGUAGE: Right or
wrong, people judge our social standing, education, intelligence, and ability
to lead by not just what we say, but also how we say it. Remember to use
eye contact when you speak. If you’re looking over your date’s shoulder or
letting your eyes wander around the room, you’ll give the impression you’re
hoping someone better will come along.

 BE STILL AND CENTERED: If you have a habit of shaking your leg, twisting
your hair, fiddling with your clothing, or adjusting ‘the family jewels’ guys’ –
break it!

 BE A GOOD LISTENER: Listening is even more important than what you say or
how you say it. You can win over your prospective mate by making him/her
feel that s/he is the center of attention and that you’re eager to hear what
they think and feel. Supply verbal cues like, “And then what happened?” or
“Please – tell me more.” or “What did you do then?”

 STAY C URRENT: Being up-to-date on current events makes for good

conversation, however, a word of caution. While it’s great to have opinions,
don’t get into a heated debate. A confrontation about priests and the
Catholic Church, who to vote for in the next election, or women’s rights will
kill any rapport you’ve established. Save the fiery debates for later – after
you get to know them better.

 REMAIN ERECT: Your posture, that is! Nothing conveys self-confidence more
than good posture. Since the number one quality that both men and women
are attracted to is confidence – successful dating is all about confidence;
confidence in who you are, in what you do, in what you say, in how you treat
others, and in how you expect to be treated. So, stand tall and show 'em
what you've got.

If you’re not a naturally confident individual, then fake it until you make it.
Now if either one of you is faking it elsewhere (ahem) that's another issue
entirely. However when it comes to confidence, the only way to get it is to
ACT like you already have it. Here’s how:

 Stand straight and tall.  Dress well.  Be decisive and speak with
assurance.  Display proper etiquette and good manners.  Be
 knowledgeable, involved, and interested – you will be perceived as
interesting.

Following these steps will not only convey a positive message, but they will
simultaneously build your confidence. In essence, you’re saying, "I am confident. I
can be looked up to, admired, and trusted. I respect myself."

Now that you've completed the crash course, you're ready to get behind the wheel.
All 50 suggestions in this manual offer a roadmap for maximizing the opportunity to
get to know your date and have fun while doing it. I have addressed every aspect
of your date from planning, clothing, food and drink, to music and conversation
starters and represented these by icons for ease of reference. All you have to do is
consider your date’ interest and choose where you’re going to go on your first date.
Do they hate being outdoors? Love red wine? If you can take one of these
suggestions and personalize it to his/her tastes, you'll be that much ahead of the
competition.

Lastly, to assist you in selecting planning your special date(s), each idea has been
rated in terms of cost, potential sizzle, and dress code, accordingly.

While cost and potential sizzle are self-explanatory, I’ve included a brief description
of each of the five dress code categories as “what to wear” often creates stress and
confusion. Certain activities or settings call for particular clothing, so for maximum
impact, it’s important that both you and your partner select your attire accordingly.
Remember, attend to the details and you’ll create a first date experience that both

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you and your date will cherish. So what are you waiting for? Fasten your seat belt
and enjoy the ride.

CASUAL : For both men and women, casual refers to pretty much “anything goes” –
clothing that is comfortable and appropriate to the setting and the occasion. For an
afternoon picnic, a beach party or a backyard barbecue – shorts, a denim mini, or
jeans, with a tank or T-shirt. (It’s legal to wear a bathing suit underneath,
too.) NOTE: If you're invited to a “casual” afternoon wedding or a “casual” Sunday
brunch at an upscale restaurant— think more along the lines of Resort Attire.

DAYTIME RESORT: For men and women, it means pretty much the same thing –
jeans, khakis and nice shorts are the norm, paired with a quality T-shirt, polo-style
pullover, or button-down shirt. Ladies, a sundress and sandals is always a winner,
too.

EVENING RESORT: For men, Khakis or nice slacks, button-up shirts and button
down collars, and sport coat. You can leave the tie at home, but the jeans too—
unless you pair them with a sport coat, nice shoes and matching belt. For women,
skirts, pants, blouses and dresses—jeans will work, but only when paired with a
blazer, an upscale blouse or shirt and a pair of high heels, and a matching bag

COCKTAIL ATTIRE: Guys, cocktail attire means suit and tie, or coat and tie.
Ladies, wear a cocktail-length dress or a sexy evening pantsuit, combined with high
heels and evening accessories.

FORMAL OR BLACK TIE: For Men, while Semi-Formal isn’t formal, and does not
require a Tux, it does require a dark suit—choose from back, navy or dark gray. If
an event is Formal, you wear a tux, but the black tie is an option—you are allowed
to be little creative with the tie if the setting allows it. Black Tie events require men
to wear a tuxedo or do not attend.

Ladies, semi-formal means a high-end cocktail-length or long dress. Formal and

Black Tie mean basically the same thing for women—they require dressing for
elegance and class—and preferably in long gowns, although an elegant and
glamorous cocktail dress will usually work. All three occasions call for shoes,
handbags and jewelry to accent.

Have someone take a few photos of yourself and your date when you’re all
dressed up. Remember, a picture is worth a thousand words?

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 ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Nicknamed "the new millennium's Dear Abby," by the media, April Masini is
author of the best-selling books Date Out Of Your League (published by TurnKey
Press, ISBN 0-9746763-0-6) and Think & Date Like A Man, (published by
iUniverse, ISBN 0-595-37466-2), the dating and relationship online magazine,
www.AskApril.com and the critically acclaimed Ask April advice column.

Interviewed for over 2,300 national and international articles and opinion pieces,
radio and television shows, including those on CBS, FOX, ABC, NBC, CNN, MSN,
Lifetime TV, USA Today, Wall Street Journal, New York Times, New York Daily
News, Newsday, Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune, Forbes, Cosmopolitan,
Maxim, Men's Health, Wired, AOL, WebMD, ClubMom.com, and Yahoo! (just to
name a few) - April writes what Dear Abby will never print, and what your shrink
doesn't have the guts to tell you!

For more on April Masini visit www.AskApril.com.

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 
THE ACTIVE DATE

 
IDEAS TO SEND THE HEART POUNDING
AND THE BLOOD RUSHING!

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HIKING
TAKE A HIKE!
S
etting the Stage: Go ahead, take
a hike – there is nothing like
being surrounded by nature to let
everyone’s defenses fall away.
This date offers a great opportunity
for the both of you to take in some
fresh air, while taking in each other.
Metaphorically speaking, of course!
Hiking and any kind of nature walking
are great first dates because they are
laid back, take place during the day,
and are low pressure. There is
something about being outside that
lets you open up about what is on the
inside. If your date can still talk about
the shoe sale at Neiman Marcus or the
latest Ultimate Fighting Championship
while amidst pristine wilderness – you
can be sure there is not much more
there!
Where to go? Even the most urban of
environments have designated nature
trails. Whether it’s the Hudson River
Walk on the west side of Manhattan,
The Riverwalks in Denver or Austin, or
a stroll around Lake Hennepin in
Minneapolis. These well–peopled
trails are a
“Having sex is like playing
great choice bridge. If you don’t have a
if you are good partner, you’d better
have a good hand.”
on a blind – Woody Allen
date. If you
know your date better,
adventurous and strike out into the
mountains or countryside. Your local
mountaineering, outfitting, or outdoor
shop is a great place to get
recommendations for trails and to pick
up a guidebook on the area. You can
also visit your local forest service’s
website. Be sure to gauge the
tenuousness of the hike and match it
to your date. If she appears at her
front door in casual flats, a simple
walk in the neighborhood park is in
order; if he sports hiking boots, be
prepared to do some heavy breathing
(along the trail!) Have a back up trail
plan.
Make sure you’re armed with maps to
the trailhead in addition to trail maps,
and any parking permits you might
need. National Forest Land often
requires a small parking fee. Be
aware of hours that paths and parks
are open. If you’re in the wild, a small
first aid kit is a good idea.
Dress to Impress:
If you’ve got legs, put them in
shorts, the Nike style athletic
variety, or a pair of faded khaki
shorts. Pair it with a great T-shirt and
I don’t mean one of those T-shirts
with slogans such as “I only date
crack whores” that your friends think
are so hilarious! Leave those at
home.
Outdoor gear has gotten so sexy!
Cute short shorts and a hot lycra
be stretch top will set off your great tan.
Get a good bronzing lotion and have a
girlfriend do a spot check for
streaking.
Comfortable shoes and thick
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socks are a must. This is not the time
to break in a new pair of shoes ‘cause
having to stop for blisters makes you
a high maintenance drag.
Devil’s in the Details:
Nothing builds up an appetite
like hiking and fresh air. You
don’t want to load yourself down, so
impress your date by packing
compact, but tasty snacks like fresh
fruit, mixed nuts, or even a rustic
sandwich (no mayo!). Peanut butter,
apple, and honey are delicious, as are
turkey, cucumber and cream cheese.
What’s the most important part of a
good sandwich? Great Bread!
Hazelnut bread with peanut butter, or
olive focaccia for the turkey). The
bare minimum: power bars and lots
of water.
A great touch would be to have an
ice chest in the back seat of your
car with fresh squeezed fruit juice and
fresh berries for when you collapse
back in.
En route, try Vivaldi’s Four
Seasons, or something earthy like
Woody Guthrie or Wilco, but tune your
ears to the sounds of nature while
amidst its beauty. Want to earn extra
points? Gentlemen, learning to
identify birdcalls or nature sounds will
give you a hunky horse-whispering
Robert Redford-ish charm. Ladies,
keeping up with your rustic hunk on a
strenuous trail will be all you need to
impress him. Of course, showing off
your sexy legs won’t hurt either.
Birds, clouds, trees, flowers ... a
great day out.
Water, sunscreen, scent-free insect
repellant, power bars, a first aid kit, a
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second pair of socks, and a dry towel
(for each of you).
While you’re at the outfitting
store (most cities now have such
chains as REI and Patagonia), pick up
a book on birds, wildflowers, or local
exploring history. What kind of
wildflower is that? Who were the first
explorers in your area? What a
fascinating well-rounded person you
must be to know such things!
It’s illegal to pick wildflowers in
many areas, but where it is
allowed, a bouquet of fresh picked
blossoms will melt any woman’s heart
in three seconds. Beautiful stones or
pieces of wood found on the trail also
show your sensitive side.
Ladies, give him a photo of the
two of you on the trail. It's a
great keepsake for later and it’ll
remind him how good you looked in
that lycra stretch top.
There is nothing like a stolen kiss
under God’s great sky. If you
are in the boonies, one thing can
lead to another. Being in nature can
make many people feel like letting
nature take its course! Just make
sure you’re in a grassy spot, far off
the trail, and away from insects.
Make sure you’ve tucked some
condoms, wet naps, and a soft beach
towel in your backpack. If you're
really bold and find yourself in a
secluded spot with a stream, lake or
pond nearby, go skinny dipping!
SURF LESSONS
IT’S NOT THE SIZE OF THE WAVES, IT’S
THE MOTION OF THE OCEAN!
S
etting the Stage: With the
success of movies like Endless
Summer and Blue Crush, it’s no
wonder that surfing is one of the
fastest growing sports in the world.
The hard cores say you can teach
yourself from anywhere on the planet.
I don’t know about that, but you can
learn from virtually any coastal
location. If you
Glamour Magazine
and your date found that 63% of
are up for it women surveyed said
and have what their male partner
said “I Love You” first,
it takes – while 37% admit to
swimming having said it first.
skills, plus
upper body strength, some flexibility
and endurance, this is a great first
adventure for the two of you. If all
else fails… you have sun, surf, sand,
lots of skin and suntan oil... a recipe
for a sensual day if there ever was
one!
There are two basic schools of thought
on learning to surf. Find a great
teacher, or find someone else who
wants to learn, and teach each other
from the huge range of instructional
books and e–zines available. If she’s
game, the easiest would be for you to
teach each other. All you need are
bathing suits, a used board, and a
leash to keep the board from
escaping. If you’re teaching each
other, you can share a board.
Where to find lessons or rent a board?
Your local surf shop is best, if you’re
traveling to the water, or don’t know
where your local surf shop is, try
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looking up instructors online at
surfing–waves.com.
Dress to Impress:
Board Shorts, an oversized terry
sweatshirt, and some cool shades.
A great bikini, a bronzed body
(start with shaving and
exfoliation, then apply a waterproof
self tanner). If you have long hair,
stick it in cute braids. Swimsuit cover-
ups are as stylish and sexy as
swimsuits – and there is one that is
great for you; some look like loose
mini sundresses, others are short zip
front terry dresses – don’t forget a
pair of strappy sandals.
Devil’s in the Details:
Surfers have their own haunts
which usually feature huge
homemade breakfasts, great burgers,
fish tacos and seafood. Find out where
the locals go, and make it your stop.
Make sure you bring along water.
Fresh squeezed juices at a juice
bar would be a nice way to take a
break.
Beach Boys, Everclear, System of
a Down, Dick Dale.
The ocean on a beautiful day.
Water, sunscreen, towels, and a
change of clothes for later if you
like.
 Favorite surf tunes, favorite
summer music, Frankie and
Annette, beach movies.

Seashells and rocks found on the

shore, a tiny bottle of perfume
like Bobbi Brown’s Beach, a luxurious
bath towel.

Take multiple breaks to apply

extra sunscreen on each other....
Everywhere.

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HORSEBACK RIDING
GO AHEAD AND MOUNT HER (OR HIM)!
S
etting the Stage
The horse, that is, and then
Giddy up! This romantic first
date is just as appropriate for
beginners as experienced riders. If
you’ve never been on a horse before,
it’s no sweat. The correct stable will
give you just the leg up on everything
you need. Think about whether you
want to ride English or Western.
Western (the big leather saddle with a
horn) is often the easiest for
beginners, and a Western style trail
ride will be a relaxing and inspiring
way to get to know each other. Look
in the yellow pages under “Horseback
Riding,” or visit horserentals.com on
the web to find a stable nearest you.
You will be given a horse that matches
your size and ability, and shown the
basics: approaching the horse,
mounting, dismounting as well as
commands.
On a Western 8 out of 10 single
people think the first
style trail kiss is a good indication
ride, you will of how the rest of the
be led on a relationship will be.
picturesque
nature trail by an experienced
horseperson. Generally, you will be
part of a larger group, but for an extra
fee, a private guide can be arranged.
Renting a helmet should be
mandatory, but if it isn’t, ask anyway.
(Nothing puts a damper on a date
more than a concussion.) All the
cares of the go-go world will be left in
the dust as you and your date make
your own backwoods romance.
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Dress to Impress:
Most men don’t have jodhpurs
hanging in their closet. No
worries – put on straight leg jeans
that are roomy, not tight, and
definitely not pleated! A light,
breathable cotton shirt, sturdy boots
(never sneakers), and a hat to protect
you from the sun.
Sexy straight legged pants, a
long-sleeved but feminine shirt
with low-heeled boots. If you have
long hair, tie it up and wear a clean
natural made up face. Tinted
moisturizer with a high SPF is great
for the outdoor date, smudge proof
mascara, bronzer, and natural gloss
round out the look.
Devil’s in the Details:
Sometimes lunch comes with a
trail ride. If not, plan a picnic
for when the ride ends. Go to a
gourmet store for easy shopping.
Sandwiches are fine, but why not be a
little more adventurous? A Middle
Eastern or Mediterranean feast with
hummus, tabuli, pita bread and
stuffed grape leaves make a great
picnic that keeps for hours. Don’t
forget the plates and forks!
It always makes sense to pack
extra water. Also a bottle of
sparkling lemonade or a crisp white
wine like a sauvignon blanc would be
a great accompaniment for the picnic.
A wine or large bottle cooler is a great
investment.
 This is another date where the
sounds of nature will be all you
need.

The countryside is always

beautiful on a trail ride. Look
for wildflowers or small animals as you
make your way along the trail.

Water, sunscreen, a thick

blanket, a picnic lunch and are
all appropriate tableware including
napkins and wine opener if necessary.
Leave those beer cups at home and
class it up by bringing some cute,
plastic wine glasses.

Favorite western movies, books

about animals, Lewis and Clark.

If it turns out to be a dream

date, buy another ride and go
out again.

For safety’s sake, save all light

or heavy petting for your picnic.
Find a remote location and put it
to good use!

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BIKE RIDE
A BICYCLE DATE BUILT FOR TWO!
S
etting the Stage:
If you’re not a hard-core biker,
or if you don’t even own a bike,
you can still have an exhilarating
day on a bike ride date. Renting a
pair of bikes for a day and hitting the
road is a great way to get to know
someone, and it can lead to a great
new hobby. If you have a bike, you’re
probably all dialed in to your local
biking scene. If not, start by renting a
bike. Contact bicycle shops or
sporting goods stores in your area to
see if they rent bikes for a day. You
can also go to a nearby park or beach
as they often have bike rental kiosks.
Still stumped? An all-purpose rent
site such as www.bikes4rent.com will
point you in the right direction.
Your bicycle shop 40% of women
will suggest think a man’s
some of the best education is more
important than his
routes in your looks. – Connexions
area, but bear in Card survey
mind the length
of time you want to be cycling as well
as your level of skill. Mountain biking
might be too difficult for the average
beginner; a good trail bike would be a
better choice. City, state, and
national parks offer great biking trails.
If there is no park in your area, your
local biking club will have all sorts of
tips on the best and safest city bike
routes. Renting a helmet is a good
idea (and may be mandatory). Make
sure you know your hand signals and
are familiar with all the safety
equipment on your bike as well.
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Dress to Impress:
With your sexy legs, shorts are
the way to go with a plain T-shirt
and a hat to protect you from the sun.
Shorts are also the way to go and
If you’re cellulite free, short shorts
are even better with a little tank top.
If your legs are less than stellar, capri
pants with a sexy stretch tank would
work equally well. Stay away from
cargo pants, board shorts, or anything
that might get caught in the bike’s
spokes or chains.
Devil’s in the Details:
If there is a little café en route,
great. Just make sure it
doesn’t get too late before you start
heading back.
Bring along bottles of water. On
a morning ride, a stop at a local
coffee house for a latte and pastry
would be a nice way to add some get
up and go.
Listen to the sounds of the world
and your conversation with each
other. MP3 players and headphones
are anti social and dangerous to boot.
The world zooming by.
To bring – Water, sunscreen,
sunglasses, and bike locks.
Your very first bike as a kid,
amazing bike rides you’ve taken,
the Tour De France.

A bracelet from the Lance

Armstrong Foundation whose
profits all go to the organization. You
can buy them at www.Livestrong.org.

Take that bike off the beaten

path and go for a sensual stroll
in the woods.

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SNORKELING
SEE WHAT'S UNDERNEATH?
S
etting the Stage:
Yet another chance to see how
she looks in a bikini and have a
blast while you’re at it.
Snorkeling can be done anywhere
there is a few feet of water, so go
ahead and be shallow! It’s affordable
and raw beginners can have as much
fun as old pros. This is a lighthearted
day date and a great way to kick off a
new relationship.
To get advice on where to rent your
gear as well as the best spots explore,
contact a local dive shop, resort
sporting shop, or visit
www.adventuretravel.about.com. The
best spot for snorkeling is a protected
bay whether a lake, ocean, or a
mellow river. All you need is a mask,
snorkel, and fins. The important thing
here is that they fit well. The mask
should have a good seal without being
too tight, the snorkel should feel
comfortable, and the fins should be
snug without digging into the feet.
That’s it! You and your date are off to
your own private Blue Lagoon!
Dress to Impress:
Board shorts, sexy sandals or flip
flops, and a sleeveless bicep
bearing Nike style jersey T.
Your waxed and exfoliated skin,
bronzed with a waterproof
bronzer in a fab bikini. Don’t forget
the manicure, pedicure, and bikini
wax! A beautiful big scarf or sarong
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can be tied around the waist for a
sexy cover-up.
Devil’s in the Details:
Where there is water, there is
often the waterfront dive
restaurant, perfect for a day like this.
A place with outdoor tables and fresh
seafood is a sparkling fun spot for
lunch or an early dinner.
A nice cold beer or white wine is a
great accompaniment to fried or
steamed fish. Feel like trying
something new? Have the barkeep
whip you up a Blue Lagoon: Vodka,
blue Curicau, pineapple juice and 7-
Up.
You’ve got to love Jimmy Buffet on
a day like today. Too old school?
Spin surfer favorite Jack Johnson.
Everything is interesting under
water, but it’s great to know
what you’re looking for. Ask the dive
shop what fish and plant life you can
expect to see and how you can
identify it. Getting a guidebook is a
good investment.
In addition to your gear, bring
water, towels, a change of
clothes, and sunscreen.
The Great Barrier Reef, Atlantis,
if you were trapped on a
deserted island...
A beautiful seashell found in the
deep is a sweet gift.
 You would be amazed what is
possible under water. There is
nothing like being submerged in
cool water and feeling human skin...
it’s one of the sexiest feelings ever. If
one thing leads to another and you’re
in a remote location, anything can
happen.

TIPS FOR AMAZING KISSES

Fresh Breath – Numero uno of tips.
In addition to good brushing before
the date, bring along a mint...
especially if you’re having dinner.

Soft, Slightly Moist Lips – Run your

tongue over your lips once before
you kiss, and make sure you’re
pucker is neither too hard nor too
soft and gooey.

The Brush Off – Before you go in

earnest, especially if it is the first
kiss, brush your lips ever so softly
against each other a few times
before you introduce The Tongue.

Body Language – Draw her close to

you with a hand to the small of her
back and gently caress her lower
back while holding her close.

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SNOW DAY
IT’S LOVELY WEATHER FOR A SLEIGH
RIDE TOGETHER.
S
etting the Stage:
When was the last time you
spent the whole day just
enjoying the snow back like a
kid? If you’re in an area that gets the
white stuff, or if you’re within a short
drive from it, plan a day of silly fun
and games like you had when you
were young and carefree... it's a great
way to break the ice, so to speak, and
your date will love it.
We’re talking snowmen, snow angels,
snowball fights topped with a sleigh
ride and hot toddy. Any rural spot or
open field will do or even a city park.
You’ll have to bring hand-warmers and
hot toddy, and locate a carriage or
sleigh ride, so you can end the date
on a romantic note. In the
countryside, Inns are best bets on
finding a sleigh ride. If the innkeeper
doesn’t provide it, s/he will know who
does. You’ll have the time of your life
laughing and chasing one another, not
to mention keeping each other warm!
Dress to Impress:
Leave the snowmobile suit at
home. You can stay warm by
layering your clothes properly. Begins
with some undergarments made of
this great man-made fabric that is
skin tight and completely invisible
under your jeans. Any ski shop
should carry it. Followed by a T-shirt,
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turtleneck, and thick sweater under
your ski jacket to keep you warm.
Yes, you can stay cute and warm!
Wool tights under wool pants, a
tiny T under a sweater, then a warm
coat. Cute mittens and hat round out
this snow bunny look. Warning –
know your hair can get wet and
stringy on an outing like this, so cute
braids if your hair is long, French
braids if it’s medium length. Short
hair? Prevent hat head by packing
along a sample sized tube of hair gel
in your coat pocket.
Devil’s in the Details:
Bring along some fresh fruit or
power bars to snack on before
having a hearty dinner at a small inn if
you’ve gone to a rural area. Staying
in the city? Find a local restaurant
that serves comfort food – potpies,
pot roast, and chili at
www.citysearch.com.
You will need to bring a hot
beverage together with cups. For
a whole day out, bring two thermoses
– one containing hot apple cider and
the other hot chocolate or spiked
toddy for later for a nice touch.
(Warm apple cider: toss into cider or
apple juice two cinnamon sticks, three
cloves and heat until the spices flood
your kitchen before pouring into pre-
warmed thermos.) (For a basic toddy:
steep hot black or herbal tea with SURVEY
sliced lemons and oranges, cloves, Relationship Material:
and a shot of orange juice, then pour
What is the most important factor in
into a thermos followed by a few shots
making a person "relationship
of rum or bourbon.)
material"?
Holiday carols if it’s the season, 20% voted: Intellect
Bing Crosby tunes anytime. 11% voted: Physical appearance
24% voted: A great sense of humor
Even the most familiar scenes 42% voted: A strong sense of loyalty
look different covered with 3% voted: Financial/business sense
snow.
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Toddy, hand-warmers, extra
Poll
hats, gloves, and change of
sweaters – yours might get soaked in
the snowball fight! It's too early in
the relationship for getting cold feet,
so make sure you bring extra socks
too!

How did you spend winters as a

kid? Did you ever have a snow
day?

If you’re in the country, a jug of

cider and some local baked
goods to take home and have for
breakfast, or something locally
handcrafted: jam, preserves, a
quilted pillow. In the city? You can
get great cashmere scarves for a
song.

Come on baby, light her fire! If

possible, a blazing fire on the
hearth is a perfect romantic
ending to a snow-filled day. The
only thing more fun than throwing
snow at each other is warming up
afterwards together. Find a quiet spot
in front of the fireplace and warm up
your cold hands by putting them on
each other’s warm skin!

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DANCE CLASS
FOOTLOOSE – AND FANCY FREE.
S
etting the Stage:
Scent of a Woman, True Lies,
Along Came Polly... The list is
endless. Dance scenes in
Hollywood films have stopped the
whole movie in its tracks when the
stars see each other across a room
and set it afire with their dance
moves. Do you fellows ever wish you
could saunter confidently to a
beautiful
“You know ‘that look’
woman and women get when they
lead her want sex? Me neither.”
- Steve Martin
gracefully
on the
dance floor? I know you ladies dream
of being literally swept off your feet by
a fellow with all the right moves.
Well, you can both learn how to tear
up the dance floor and have a fun
date doing it.
First, think about what style of dance
makes your toes twinkle: a sexy Latin
dance like the salsa, tango, rumba or
samba, a classic ballroom dance like
the fox trot or waltz, or perhaps
country line dancing or swing? If it’s
Latin dance or country swing, your
local Latin club or country bar often
offer instructional nights. This is a fun
way to go, because after an hour of
instruction, you’re dancing at a real
club with the pros. Look them up in
the phone book and inquire about
lessons or instructional evenings.
Barring this and for more personalized
instruction, try a dance school like
Arthur Murray or Fred Astaire dance
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studios. They are listed in the yellow
pages under “Dance Instruction.” For
more resources, Ballroomdancers.com
and the “dance” section of Yahoo
directory are also chuck full of listings.
Pretty soon you’ll be dancing the night
away and if this date swings, you’ll
have launched your first “couple
hobby!” If you're on a budget, check
out your local community center for
extremely affordable classes.
Dress to Impress:
Look the part in classic black
trousers in a wool or silk blend, a
sexy loose fitting button-up shirt in
linen, silk, or soft woven cotton and
soft soled shoes with a leather upper.
If you’re going line dancing, a pair of
jeans, a T-shirt, some cowboy boots
and a cowboy hat should easily get
you in the mood.
This is where you break out that
fabulous little dress you bought
for some wedding and never get
to wear – make sure it has a flared or
slit skirt. Wear it with sexy earrings
that won’t get in the way. What’s the
most important thing? Shoes that set
off a long leg, but that you can still
dance in. A chunky heeled pump or a
lace up wedge would be best. For the
line dance, take your pick – jeans or a
denim skirt with a button up shirt tied
at the waist paired with cowboy hat
and boots.
Devil’s in the Details:
You will find dancing works up
a huge appetite. Latin dance
clubs often have terrific food,
otherwise, find a cute little romantic
restaurant nearby (it’s no fun to drive
a half hour to dinner after you’ve had
a great class. You’ll want to fall into a
corner booth right around the corner).
Do your research in advance by
locating the nearest best restaurants
at www.citysearch.com
At a Latin club, order a Cubre
Libra or a Mojito. At a country
bar, a longneck beer on your dance
break will quench your thirst. If
you’re taking ballroom dance, elegant
drinks at a hotel bar after your lesson
will round out your evening with class.
Order a Poinsettia or the classic
Bellini. Toast each other's lithe grace
on the dance floor!
Favorite dance movies.
Presenting a nosegay (small
bouquet) would be an ideally
romantic way to start off the evening.
You don’t need any help from us
here. All dancing is sexy,
however, the very sexiest thing
you can do is look directly into
your partner’s eyes. Even if you are
all left feet, looking right into each
other’s eyes will start the engines
purring – I promise! And need I even
say it? Don't miss any opportunity for
some meaningful touches on the
dance floor!

Cubre Libra:
rum, coke and lime.
Mojito:
crushed ice, sugar, mint and rum.
Poinsettia:
champagne, a splash of cranberry
and a splash of cherry juice
Bellini:
champagne and peach juice

The beat, baby. In the words of

our favorite Latin songstress, “the
music is gonna get you.”

The best couple on the floor...

the best way to learn is by
watching.

A confident attitude.

Forced to take dance lessons as

a kid? Silliest dance crazes?

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CLEAN UP AND PICNIC
BECAUSE YOU'RE SMARTER (AND BETTER)
THAN THE AVERAGE BEAR!
S
etting the Stage:
This picnic date is a darn near
perfect first date. It’s like the
traditional lunch date, but it’s
quiet, beautiful, and handmade.
However, I prefer to put a spin on the
traditional picnic by adding a whole
other dimension to the date, and this
is one of the best.
In this date, you’ll pick a favorite local
park and pitch in together to clean it
up, plant some flowers, prune a tree,
paint a gazebo, or whatever your time
and imagination allows. It’s a rare
date that won’t love the idea, because
it’s unusual, it’s great exercise, and
it’s doing something wonderful. You
get to show your date what a caring,
ecologically and community minded
individual you are, while still setting
plenty of time aside for romance at
the end of the date when you enjoy a
fantastic picnic lunch.
The easiest, of course, is to choose a
park and pitch in to clean it up, which
you won’t need permission for. Other
work like planting or pruning,
however, you will need approval from
the administrating authority, which is
generally the City Park and Recreation
Department or your city’s park
service. If you live in a small town,
the park is often managed by a local
club. Whether it’s the park service or
a club, they often have small stipends
set aside for the maintenance of the
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park, which means the extent of your
expense will be sweet equity.
Dress to Impress:
A pair of well fitting jeans, work
boots, and a slate, gray or navy
wool shirt. If it’s hot out, Khaki shorts
or board shorts with a classic white T.
A cotton sundress, a denim skirt
and a sexy T, or cute shorts and a
wife beater.
Devil’s in the Details:
Ah, the picnic. Here’s a chance
to show your taste and
creativity. You don’t need to do much
work; simply skip the fast food and
head straight to your local specialty
grocers where you can get poached
salmon and sautéed green beans. You
can even find the basics for a great
picnic at your standard chain grocery
store – a rotisserie chicken and some
kind of salad. A pasta, couscous, or
potato salad made with vinaigrette is
best – leave the mayo for another
time. Pick up some ready-to-eat baby
veggies and dip or some fresh fruit
salad and don’t forget a small cake or
some elegant cookies. Now you’re all
set!
A bottle of French sparkling
lemonade, gourmet flavored
brewed iced tea, or a bottle of wine.
If you’re having vino, opt for
something a little different such as a
Rose. It’s had a bad name in the US
as it is sometimes confused with its
cloying cousin, White Zinfandel, but
they are nothing alike. Roses are the
seminal picnic wine of the South of
France; it is sipped in elegant Cannes
cafes and rustic provincial kitchens.
Sancerre is a readily available and
reliable brand. Roses are best served
cold.
If you have a small portable CD
player, music is a nice touch on
this date. However, on a first date,
you want all your hard work to come
off as effortless, so don’t struggle with
multiple trips to the car or drag your
over-sized stereo system out. A great
small CD player and your favorite
mellow songstress... anyone from
Billie Holliday to Natalie Merchant.
A beautiful patch of nature
spruced up right before your
very eyes.
The basics for pruning, planting
or cleaning... heavy garbage
bags, two pairs of great long work
gloves, and soap and towels for
cleaning each other up. Also
remember your picnic, a wine opener,
plastic wine glasses, napkins,
silverware, water, and sunscreen.
Ever been to a national park?
What’s the most beautiful spot
you’ve ever seen? How
environmentally conscious are you?
Fresh flowers, a vintage photo of
the park from another era.
Doing good makes you feel good
about yourself and each other…
and that is a lightning rod for
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intimacy. Bring along some candles, a
pillow or two and take your picnic into
twilight.
DATING DON’TS!
1. Bad Hygiene – This is a biggie!
Make sure you are shampooed and
showered from head to toe! Use only
a small amount of high quality
aftershave or perfume if you like and
apply deodorant. Make sure your
clothes are clean and pressed.
2. Bragging – Your athletic prowess,
especially your high school and college
victories. Most people know the more
you actually did, the less you actually
talk about it. Ditto for skirmishes
you’ve been in, big career victories,
acts of heroism, and especially your
bank account! Believe it or not, it’s a
big turn-off when you talk about how
much money you have. Instead, talk
about your dreams, your goals, and
your accomplishments in a modest
way... if asked.
3. No-Show—Not showing up for your
date – ‘Nuff said.
4. Drinking Too Much — This will sink
your night fast. You have to keep
your eye on this one as it’s easy to
drink too much when you’re nervous.
Make sure you stick to your limit,
especially on the first date.
SAILING LESSONS
A BREEZY FIRST DATE.
S
etting the Stage:
Cruising along blue waters, the
wind filling your soul... no
wonder sailing is the stuff that
romantic books and movies are made
of. Learning to sail is a fun,
sophisticated, and interesting way to
get to know each other. Learn how to
be the captain and first mate of your
very own vessel on a beautiful
afternoon!
There are many options for learning to
sail even if you are no where near
water. Of course, it’s best if you can
get on a nearby lake or ocean to get
your sea legs. You can go to a sailing
school or hire an individual captain. If
money is no obstacle, charter your
own boat for the day. The options are
vast, and so is the price. Whether you
choose a little family-run funky school
or a nationally accredited one, each
offers their own experience. In
addition to cost, inquire about class
size and schedule. A few outfits even
offer complimentary introductory
lessons to see if you like it.
Some coastal communities have small
motorboats that you rent and sail
around in the harbor. If you know
how to steer a car, you shouldn’t have
any trouble driving a motorboat. You
don't actually get to go all the way out
in the ocean, but you still get the
feeling of being out on the water, just
the two of you, without breaking the
bank.
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To find sailing instructions near you,
contact your local sailing club or the
US Coast Guard Auxiliary. Great
information can also be found at
www.sailnet.com or by visiting the
American Sailing Association at
www.american–sailing.com. You’ll
soon have her saying, “Aye Aye,
Captain!”
Dress to Impress:
Khakis, a polo shirt, and a soft
rubber soled shoe – docksiders
(canvas boat shoes) or good tennis
shoes.
White or navy shorts or slacks, a
sweet boat neck T and a cardigan.
Devil’s in the Details:
Make reservations at a casual,
but elegant seafood restaurant
after the lesson. If the establishment
is on the water, be sure to ask for a
table with a view when you make a
reservation. The sailing school can no
doubt make recommendations as to
their favorite nearby seafood place.
Order a bracing Arnold Palmer or
toast your new hobby with a
traditional Cape Cod.
– Arnold Palmer:
half lemonade, half iced tea.
– Cape Cod:
vodka and cranberry juice with a
squeeze of lime over shaved ice.
 Island calypso music in the car will
set the mood.

Sailboats are fascinating. Pick

up as much information as you
can and you’ll soon be crewing on
friends’ boats. What a great way to
spend a Saturday.

Ask the school if you need to

bring anything, but chances are
all is provided. Remember sunscreen
and water.

Have you ever wanted to own

your own sailboat? Sail around
the world? If you could sail anywhere,
where would you go?

A fun souvenir from the boating

center.

Take home some extra rope and

offer to practice the new knots
you’ve learned... on each other!

SURVEY:
Do you believe in love at first sight?
Yes 77%
No 23%
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ROCK CLIMBING
BOREDOM HITS A WALL ON THIS EXCITING
DATE.

S
etting the Stage: it’s time to order a great date... on the
It seems like overnight, rock rocks!
climbing has gone from the
hobby of a few hard core trail Dress to Impress:
mix eaters to a popular form of Shorts and a sexy tank T-shirt. Make
exercise for everyone. In the last sure those socks are clean and
decade, “Rock Gyms” have sprung up don’t have holes!
everywhere, and many large gym
chains incorporate a “rock wall” as Shorts with a sport bra tank and since
part of their standard equipment he’ll be looking up at you,
offerings. definitely some sexy lace
underwear. Wear your hair back from
Here’s some basic terminology: “rock your face in a flattering ponytail and
climbing” is the technique of getting to leave the big jewelry at home.
the top of a rock face or crag,
“mountaineering” is the act of scaling Devil’s in the Details:
a whole peak, and “sport climbing” is
Lunch or dinner is in order after a day
what you do at the gym when you
at the gym. Japanese is
maneuver
“See, the problem is always a great choice after
yourself up a
that God gives men exercising. Whether Korean or
rock wall using a brain and a penis,
Mongolian barbeque, when the food us
built-in bolts. As and only enough
blood to run one at grilled at your table, it’s both healthy
a beginner, any a time.” and fun.
of these are – Robin Williams
doable, but sport
Go like the pros and bring
climbing is by far the easiest and most
PowerAde!
accessible. Regardless of the level of
wall or peak you are attempting, you’ll
Your instructor! Yes, you can get
need expert assistance if you’re a
hurt at a rock gym, so pay
beginner. Call your local outdoor or
attention.
sporting goods store for suggestions
and recommendations if you want to
Just how far you can go!
hike on a mountain. Look up the
yellow pages to find a good rock gym
if you’re sport climbing. Find out if
Bottled water, power bars, and
you need a membership or if they
a pack to keep your valuables.
offer day passes, and whether you
need equipment. Usually, your rope,
Climbing Everest, your favorite
harness and shoes are provided. Then
mountain spot, if you could have

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a spot near the beach or in the
mountains, which would you choose?

A pass for another day at the

rock wall, so your date can
practice all they learned.

It’s dangerous to get too flirty

on the wall, but you’ll have
plenty of adrenaline to get frisky
afterwards. Pick her up, toss her over
your shoulder, and carry her to the
car!

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KAYAKING
RIDE THE RAPIDS TO ROMANCE.
S
etting the Stage:
Although many gyms offer
kayaking lessons in the pool and
kayaking facilities – training
facilities with built-in rapids designed
to teach the sport – are popping up in
lots of places, the best and most fun
way to learn this sport is on a river.
There are several great kayaking
rivers in every American state, and
each river has outfitters that will take
you out on a beautiful adrenaline
pumped day. This is a date that will
thrill in every possible way.
If you are taking the river route, you
need to find an outfitter. Look to your
local sporting goods store for
recommendations or visit
www.americanwhitewater.org. You’ll
need to make a reservation for two,
which may require a deposit. When
you make the reservation ask what
you’ll need to bring and whether it is
necessary to rent a wet suit – a nice
thing to have if it’s less than scorching
out. The outfitter will provide you
with clear directions to the river site,
so make sure you bring them, and
make sure your car is clean, well
maintained, and gassed up. This date
will both thrill and relax you – a
perfect balance of excitement and
tranquility.
Dress to Impress:
Shorts or swimming trunks, and a
T-shirt. Anything made in a
waterproof fabric like polypropylene
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would be best. It’s flattering,
functional and waterproof.
Ditto! Waterproof layers over a
bikini. You can shed layers as you
need. Your hair needs to be out
of your face and remember the
waterproof makeup (light and fresh, of
course).
If you don’t have water shoes, rubber
soled shoes such as tennis
shoes or canvas boat shoes.
Make sure glasses or sunglasses are
secured with a cord.
Devil’s in the Details:
Find out whether the outfitter provides
lunch. If not then you’ll be
making lunch for two and
packing it in a waterproof container
such as zip lock bags. High energy
foods, fruit, power bars along with
something compact like a wrap would
be ideal. If you can’t pick up a wrap
at the deli, make your own. A lunch-
sized pack of cookies are a nice touch.
Wraps:
Start with flatbread or whole wheat
tortillas. Spread cream cheese on
top, and then layer with turkey and
lettuce. Roll up and wrap in foil or
plastic wrap.
Bring water and PowerAde in plastic
containers. No glass on the river!
 Have to love the good old sounds SURVEY:
of rock and roll summers en route
Have you ever dated more than one
to the river, whether it’s Al Green, the
person at the same time?
Alman Brothers, or Santana.
Yes 56%
Have the guide point out
No 31%
everything of interest along the
Prefer not to say 13%
way.
www.AskApril.com Online Magazine
In addition to lunch, bring
Poll
sunscreen in a waterproof bag
as well as a windbreaker, a rain
poncho just in case, and a change of
clothes for the car.

In the car, you can muse about

your best and worst childhood
vacations or summer camps.

A bottle of super high end,

scented SPF body lotion and lip
balm.

On such an exhilarating day,

your hormones will definitely be
revved up, so make sure you
have a blanket in your car in case you
move from the riverbank to the river
of love. Remember to have some
condoms tucked discreetly in your
glove box.

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SNOWSHOEING AND
CROSS COUNTRY
SKIING
MAKING TRACKS IN A BEAUTIFUL SETTING.
S
etting the Stage:
This might not sound as sexy as
a day on the alpine slopes, but it
is even better for a first date.
It’s serene, beautiful, and relaxing
while being fun and highly aerobic at
the same time. If you can picture the
two of you gliding through virgin snow
in your own winter wonderland, you
can picture a day to remember.
The wonderful thing about
snowshoeing and cross country skiing
is you essentially need no instruction.
Borrow or rent equipment, find an
open field, park, or golf course, and
you’re ready for an exhilarating winter
day for a couple of snow bunnies.
Why not go extreme and try
snowboarding!
“According to a new survey, women say
they feel more comfortable undressing in
front of men than they do undressing in
front of other women. They say that women
are too judgmental, where, of course, men
are just grateful.”
– Robert De Niro
First and foremost is the equipment.
The best place to begin is your local
sporting goods, ski, or snow shop.
They will not only have rentals, but
also great ideas of where to go. For
snowshoeing, you can wear your own
shoes (whether insulated boots, hiking
boots, or even tennis shoes with thick
socks), and you don’t even need
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poles. With cross country skis, you
will need to rent shoes and poles.
Snowboarders need only rent a board
and some boots.
For a great introduction to both sports
as well as resources for rentals, visit
www.snowlink.com.
Top this day off with drinks at a winter
lodge or dinner at a cozy inn, and
you’ve just made a dream date. Make
sure your car is snow worthy! If
you’re not driving a truck, make sure
your destination is car accessible and
you have chains or snow tires if
needed.
Dress to Impress:
Dress in layers. Your synthetic fiber
skivvies will keep you warm under
your comfy jeans, chinos, or wool
pants. Layer a turtleneck under a
thick wool shirt then your coat.
Lots of light layers will keep you
warm, while still looking like a snow
bunny. Winter wool tights, or
manmade fiber warming tights, under
wool stretch pants, a cute cable
sweater over a turtleneck, and a
parka.
Devil’s in the Details:
Pack tangerines, low crumble
cookies like fig bars, and trail
mix for the day. Scout out the
nearest ski lodge or cozy inn for a
warming dinner afterward.

Bring along water and a hot

beverage like a hot apple cider or
a hot Russian tea. Don’t forget the
cups!

Russian tea:
black tea with orange juice, orange
rinds, honey and cinnamon.

There is something about the

muffling sound of snow that is
absolutely magical. R and B in the car
will set a celebratory mood (Earth
Wind and Fire) or a seductive one
(Luther Vandross).

All the magic of your own winter

wonderland.

Hot beverage, cups, hand

warmers, extra gloves, extra
socks, tissues, lip balm, and of course,
sunscreen.

Your earliest memories of snow,

your favorite seasons of the
year.

A cute knit cap, a T-shirt, a

sweat shirt, a key chain, or even
a coffee mug from the locale works for
both him and her.

This date will take you into

beautiful and remote locations.
Count on your kisses to heat
you up!

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ROLLERBLADING
PLAY CATCH ME IF YOU CAN ON THIS
FAST PACED DATE!
S
etting the Stage:
This is a great way to show off
your body, get some exercise,
and have a blast while you’re at
it. It doesn’t matter if you’re both
total rookies, if one of you is a pro and
the other is all elbows. One of the
most charming things in a date is
someone who is “game”... that is,
willing to try something new and look
like an idiot in the process. Whether
you’re both in this camp or one is
teaching the other, just remember, it’s
all about having fun – and being safe,
of course.
Rollerblading was started by a
frustrated hockey player who wanted
to exercise in the summer... and it’s
now become a major form of personal
transportation. If you’re a rookie,
lessons are a great idea. You can get
them through your local skate shop or
sporting goods store, and rent
equipment while you’re at it. Your
local beach, lakeside or park may also
rent blades, but remember to get
helmets, wrist guards, knee and elbow
pads. If you’re the teacher, start on
grass or a soft surface. If either of
you is a beginner, watch the trail for
the speedsters. Stay to the right and
leave plenty of room for them to pass,
then let the good times roll!
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Dress to Impress:
Board shorts, a tank top, and
sunglasses.
Shorts or skirt with a tank top or
cute sleeveless shirt.
Devil’s in the Details:
So many of the great places to
blade – beaches, parks – are
surrounded by fun food choices.
Falafels, snow cones, tacos, even
ceviche! Plan a route from vendor to
vendor and don’t forget to include a
stop at the fresh fruit stand.
When you’re done with your
snacking tour, have a drink and
toast your bruises! Try a honeydew
cooler.
Honeydew Cooler:
Midori, vodka, and pineapple juice
over shaved ice.
It’s antisocial to wear headphones
or an mp3 player while on any
kind of date. If you’re the pro,
you can bring a portable stereo to the
park to serenade you. Try 80’s pop to
toast the era rollerblading was born,
or some super fun funk to toast its
urban roots.
The world whizzing by.
Knee guards and wrist guards if
not provided by rental shop,
sunscreen and water.
 Ever go roller-skating as a kid?
Ride a skateboard? Ever have a
bad fall?

A little something from the

vendors’ tent – a scented candle
would be perfect.

Any date where you’re falling

into each other’s arms has real
potential for romance. Don’t be
afraid to grab hold of each other! ‘

RELATIONSHIP RED FLAGS

 They talk about the ex
 They’re 30 and still live with their
parents
 They brag a lot or boast
 They won’t give you their number
and is difficult to reach
 They say “I love you” too soon
 They call too often... or not enough
 They drink too much
 They make last minute dates or
cancel dates at the last minute

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 
ARTSY SMARTSY DATES
 
SHOW HER HOW SUAVE AND DEBONAIR YOU ARE!

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THE OBSCURE
ATTRACTION
DISCOVER YOUR TOWN’S HIDDEN
TREASURE!
S
etting the Stage:
Every town has one – that claim
to fame that you haven’t been to
since your fourth grade field trip,
or haven’t been to at all. Places
Japanese tourists go, but locals forget
is there.
We’re talking about monuments, fish
hatcheries, brewery or factory tours,
the inside of a local dam, a historical
marker, a natural wonder. If you
want to
“Women might be able to
show your fake orgasms, but men can
fake whole relationships.”
date a cool – Sharon Stone
and quirky
side by taking him/her somewhere no
one else would. Come armed with
smarty pants facts that will make both
of you laugh and learn.
Begin at your local tourism bureau. If
you like, pretend to be an out-of-
towner and ask about the local
attractions. Be prepare to be amazed!
‘Who knew’ the local bakery or
bottling plant gave tours? Ralph
Waldo Emerson wrote a poem here?
The local creek is actually the site of a
famous battle? Nothing is more fun
than discovering treasure in your own
backyard.
Dress to Impress:
Casual with style. The difference
between fashion and style is that
fashion is about a designer’s vision,
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while style shows what is specifically
unique about you. Wear jean or flat
front khakis with a black or white T
and cowboy boots or loafers. A
vintage watch or belt buckle, and a
black leather motorcycle jacket or
hand tooled jacket from Mexico.
Anything goes! Wear a flirty
dress, or sexy white jeans with a
white T-shirt and denim jacket. Make
sure you have a nice high heel that
you can run around in and a cute
Audrey Hepburn style hat.
Devil’s in the Details:
The quirky tour of local food is
a mouth-watering way to spend
a day. Is your area known for crab
cakes, Philly steak sandwiches, and
fresh strawberries? Map a tour to
sample the local delicacies at three or
four locations and crown the winner.
See who makes the best tuna melt at
a couple of local diners; the best Mai-
tai at three local nightspots, or the
best shortcake in strawberry season.
You get the idea.
Order the local favorite, or the
bartender’s specialty.
Lots of time in the car means lots
of time for tunes, but keep it in the
background so you can hear each
other talk. Plan a rotation of music to
match the event, or showcase a
songstress like Dido that shows your
individuality.

Your old town through new

eyes. Pay attention to the
things you never noticed before!

Tour brochures, guide book,

small bills (you don’t want to
break a hundred at the diner.)

This day is all about kitschy

trivia and clever repartee. Do
your homework! Those nice travel
ladies will give you plenty to chomp
on, the waiters at the local fish house
might slip you their chowder recipe.
That fourth grade field trip was never
this fun.

A souvenir from local

battleground tour, a T-shirt from
your favorite restaurant, or any cute
thing with a logo will be remembered
with laughter later.

Have your own secret game

within your game. Every time
the tour guide says a word, you
have to kiss! Award each crab cake
one, two or three kisses.

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WINE TASTING
A SPIRITED WAY TO STRIKE UP ROMANCE.
S
etting the Stage:
You don’t have to live in Napa to
get a taste of the good life and
enjoy the sensual sophistication
of wine tasting. Grapes are now
grown throughout the country from
Montana to Florida. For next to
nothing, vineyards give tours and
tastings of their offerings in incredibly
romantic surroundings. A scenic drive
through the countryside visiting the
local vineyard is the perfect way to
wile away a Saturday or Sunday
afternoon and spend quality time
while you’re at it!
For a similar experience closer to
home, call your local fine wine retailer.
Most of them dedicate one night a
week to a tasting of a particular
varietal (grape) or wine region. Many
culinary schools, restaurants, and
extension programs also offer these
educational evenings. You’ll learn a
whole new language together – what
an intoxicating way to begin a new
hobby with a special new someone!
Begin by visiting localwineevents.com.
Make sure you’ve properly registered
for the class and that you’ve mapped
out the route in advance. Take care
that your vehicle is clean and is in
good working order and the gas tank
is full.
IMPORTANT: Call a cab or car
service if you drink too much. There’s
nothing sexy about a DUI – or a car
accident.
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Dress to Impress:
This date calls for upscale/casual
attire.
A pair of good jeans or khaki’s
(flat front, please!) paired with a
well made cotton oxford or the old
standby – the black turtleneck.
A cute skirt cut on the bias with a
sexy top, or your favorite slacks
with a low cut top. A good rule of
thumb: you can and should be sexy
on a first date, but display one goody
at a time! You wouldn’t put your
stunning chocolate torte on the same
platter with the beef roast, right? If
you’re showcasing your terrific
breasts, leave the teeny mini till next
time. If you’re introducing a mile of
leg, a simple top is best.
Devil’s in the Details:
Vino, of course. For an extra
romantic touch, try a
champagne tasting. Which ever you
choose, make sure you don’t start on
an empty stomach. A nice beginning:
splurge on some appetizers at an
upscale bar before the tasting begins.
Remember, the point here is to sip,
not to slosh! Few things are more
unattractive than a first date who
overindulges. Who cares if you can
throw around fancy wine lingo if
you’re slurring your words!
Three guesses.
 Music sets the mood for wine
tasting. Try a Pucini Opera –
Tosca, La Boheme, Madame
Butterfly, or Turandot. Go flapper
style with some classic roaring
twenties jazz such as Louis
Armstrong, Billie Holliday, or Tommy
Dorsey.
Watch your date’s lips as they
sensually indulge in the luxury
of wine.
Bring your winning personality
and a sense of moderation.
Taste is the topic, and you’ll be
swirling it in your hands. If
you’re a complete novice, you can pick
up some basics beforehand at
WineSpectator.com. Don’t be afraid
to ask questions – that’s what the
night is for, and don’t be afraid to
have an opinion! If you’re already a
wine expert, keep the bulk of your
genius to yourself during class time.
No one likes a know it all, and it’s
much sexier to impress your date later
in private.
What could be more thoughtful
than to send your date home
with a bottle of his/her favorite wine?
Consider it an investment. If you play
your cards right, by date three, you
could be sipping it together while
cozying on the sofa!
For Girls who are Naughty by
Nature, wine can linger a
lonnnnng time on his lips as
your tongue licks up the last drops.
Très sexy! For Boys who are bad to
the bone, look directly into her eyes
as you sip, occasionally resting your
hand on the small of her back. As
always, remember to bring condoms
along – discreetly hidden – just in
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case both parties want the night to
lead to a private tasting.
GET THE BEST WINE FOR YOUR
MONEY
Six Strategies To Employ
1. Focus for a moment on what you’re in
the mood for — red or white. This
alone cuts the list in half.
2. Skip the house wine. Unfortunately,
these wines are most often purchased
on the merit of their price, not their
quality. Unless you are familiar with
the house wine, don’t bother because
they generally carry the highest mark–
up.
3. Scan the list quickly to get a quick fix
on the average price of a bottle. If
you see that most wines are in the
$20’s, $30’s, $40’s, and so on, try to
stay within the median of the price
range where the mark–up is
“average.”
4. Go with a wine from the same region
as the restaurant’s food specialty. A
good Italian restaurant, for instance,
should have a solid selection of Italian
wines. Ditto for French and South
American.
5. Ask the server for a wine
recommendation. If you happen upon
an enthusiastic server, take a chance,
at least if ordering by the glass.
6. Buy by the bottle. If two or more
individuals at your table are going to
have a few glasses, it is more
economical to order by the bottle.
7. For further tips visit
www.wineanswers.com.
BOOK SIGNING
LITERARY LOVE.
S
etting the Stage:
Whether it’s Gore Vidal at the
college amphitheater or a local
poet at the corner bookstore,
literary guys and gals swoon over
book readings. Every bookstore
publishes a list of the writers who will
be in your town on a book tour and
plan an evening where the author
reads from his or her books, answers
questions, and signs copies. To score
big points, discreetly find out who
your date's favorite genre or author.
Then surprise them by casually
mentioning that the author is in town
and invite him/her to the signing.
Nothing is sexier than discovering a
person is really listening to what
you’re saying!
Dress to Impress:
Oh, those black jeans with a black
T-shirt and classic leather jacket.
The frayed chinos that look like
you’ve had them since prep school,
the worn leather belt that belonged to
your rich granddad. Bad boy, preppy
boy, they work equally well here.
Make sure you wear your glasses!
Men melt for the sexy librarian
look and now’s the time to roll it
out. A high collared white blouse with
ribbon tie and a short, short skirt. Or
a long form fitting skirt that goes to
the floor with a tiny sheer T-shirt.
Sexy, messy hair and your sweet
glasses. You get the picture. One
part of you says untouchable smart
girl, another part says come and get
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it. The combination will drive him
wild.
Devil’s in the Details:
Bookstores are always in retail
areas, so if it’s a night reading,
dinner at a nearby café would be a
nice start. However, the perfect
ending would coffee or dessert. Many
bookstores have their own coffee
shops, which would also be a great
place to meet and chat before the
reading begins.
A steaming hot latte or a glass of
velvety Merlot.
Classical of course; Bach’s Fugues,
Chopin’s etudes.
The writer read from his or her
work, how your date reacts to
the experience.
A good pen and your undivided
attention.
Find out something about the
writer before you go and make
sure you like their work. Pick up any
of his or her earlier books and even
give it a read if you have time. It’s
great to put someone’s work in
context of his or her life, so reading
the biography page on the back book
jacket is a quick way to get the
skinny.
The book, of course, assuming
your date likes it. The writer will
sign it and so can you. If the
reading doesn’t strike your date's
fancy, choose a book that means
something to you. A volume of Rilke
poems, Hemmingway’s short stories,
or the book that secretly made you
cry in English 101. Write something
sweet in it and your date will treasure
it always.

Back to the naughty librarian!

Climb that book ladder in the
short skirt, or casually brush up
behind her as she’s browsing
the shelves, lean over her shoulder
and see what she’s reading.

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CONCERT
THEY’RE PLAYING YOUR SONG!
S
etting the Stage:
And the band plays on! There
are so many choices in this
category that everyone can
compose a magical night of music that
is “note for note” uniquely them.
Downtown jazz joint? Symphony Hall?
Pop in the park? Each one of these will
express your individual style while
creating a wonderful evening.
First, sort out your taste and your
date’s, then your budget. Yo Yo Ma
tickets go for $200, but the local
community orchestra is $25. Each
gives you a chance to dress up and
step out on the town. Jazz joints are
dark and sexy, but jazz is not
everyone’s cup of tea, so know your
audience. It’s great if you have those
coveted Fifty Cent seats, but not if she
hates rap.
Your local paper’s arts page will give
you the scoop on who’s playing where
and when.
“I’m dating a
Sometimes hot homeless woman.
tickets are sold It was easier talking
her into staying
out in advance, over.”
so if the only – Garry Shandling
seats available
are the worst ones in the house, wait
for a night when you can get better
ones. Think ease and fun for a night
when you’re just getting to know
someone. On a first date, the average
woman would rather go first class all
the way to the local symphony than
walk across six parking lots and up ten
flights of stairs to the last nosebleed
seats for U2. Women, if you're
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hosting the date, pick something
upbeat that won't bore him to death.
Even if you have great luck scalping
tickets on the first base line on
opening day, don’t take any such
chances at the concert hall on date
night – and especially first date night.
Dress to Impress:
For a night of classical music, pull
out all the stops. Most cities save
black tie for opera, but your best suit,
a crisp shirt and a great tie will knock
her out. Women find men who are
not afraid to dress up to be confident
and attractive. You can get away with
a blue blazer and gray flannel pants,
or a black turtleneck with black pants
and a black wool blazer. Whatever
your preference, leave the jeans,
khakis and sneakers at home. For
jazz, pop, or rock, your good jeans
and a great patterned crisp cotton
oxford or a V-neck cashmere sweater
will do the trick.
A sexy wraparound dress in red or
black, or the classic little black
dress and shoes as high as you can
handle. Make sure your bag is small
and the appropriate color – nothing
ruins a sexy evening look like a over-
sized, over-packed shoulder purse.
Though bare legs and strappy sandals
are more current, this is one night
when you can pull out the seamed
stockings (with a closed toe shoe). I
promise he’ll approve!
Devil’s in the Details:
 Crudités (fresh cut vegetables),
parmesan sticks, or cheese and
fresh fruit if you’re packing a snack for
an outdoor show. If you’re going to
the concert hall, start with a drink and
hors d'oeuvres at an elegant hotel bar
or hip bar. The champagne appetizer
before coffee and dessert after is a
great, elegant way to go on a first
date that includes a concert. A long
dinner and a long concert can be a bit
much for the first time out. You want
to leave your date wanting more!
Champagne, champagne,
champagne! Share a bottle with
some appetizers before the concert,
sip it on the mezzanine during
movement breaks, or under the stars
for pop. Nothing says special occasion
like bubbly, even at a rock concert.
Champagne is festive and fun and
anything French will do. White Horse
and Jordan are two nice American
choices, and if you’re on a budget, the
light fresh taste of Italian Prosecco is
just perfectly acceptable and even
more whimsical.
where he was first introduced to the
music you’re about to hear.
Guys, buy her a copy of the
symphony you are about to hear,
keep it in the glove compartment, and
pull it out when you are about to kiss
her goodnight. Very classy! Ladies, a
CD of his favorite band.
When everyone is in their
assigned seats and facing
forward, a discreet brush of the
thigh is irresistible. Whispering
in his ear or accidentally nuzzling her
neck works wonders, too. Somehow
when everyone is dressed up, the
littlest gesture is sexier, and more
sensual, so keep it tasteful and melt
their knees.

It can be fun to listen to another

symphony by the same composer
or the new album from the band you
just heard, while driving in the car.

The concert, the stars.

If it’s an outdoor concert, a

thick picnic blanket, champagne
kept cold in a portable wine cooler, a
towel, and snacks. Don’t forget the
tickets!

As always, do your homework!

Know fun facts about the artist
or composer, where they were born,
what their influences are. Ask her
about her favorite music, or ask him

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COOKING LESSONS
A SAUCY START TO A NEW RELATIONSHIP.
S
etting the Stage:
This date is a recipe for fun:
learning something new together
is a blast, getting your hands
dirty is sensual, and showing your
date how game you are to get in the
kitchen is just plain sexy.
To put this date together, you are
looking for a place that offers a
specific lesson, rather than a series of
lessons, and the best place to start
would be a cooking supply store like
Sur la Table, Williams Sonoma, or The
Pampered Chef. Look up “Cooking
Supply Stores” or “Chef Supply” in the
yellow pages and enquire about
lessons. Alternatively, cooking
schools, adult education organizations
like “Open University” or extension
programs offered by local universities
often offer them as well. Find out the
cost of the lesson, and whether there
is an additional fee for materials i.e.
the cost of the food you’re making.
Make sure you have the correct time
and location and sort out the parking
situation in advance.
It goes without saying that an evening
of chocolate desserts is going to be far
more sensuous and romantic than
Hungarian Goulash night. Don’t be
afraid to have fun and make mistakes.
You’re learning something new and no
one expects you to be perfect. The
ability to laugh at yourself is an
irresistible trait, so let the playful child
in you shine through. Good food,
laughter, and fun combined make a
great recipe for romance!
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Dress to Impress:
Casual, fun, and washable! You
will spill at least once, so keep
that white linen shirt at home. Jeans,
a breathable cotton shirt, and
comfortable loafers will do nicely.
Sweet and sexy, nothing fussy!
Form fitting jeans, a cute top with
short sleeves, or sleeves that can
push up. If your hair is long, put it in
a sensual up do, and leave the jewelry
at home.
Devil’s in the Details:
Every cooking lesson ends with
a tasting, so you get to enjoy
your handiwork. If you’re like most
cooks, you’ll sample as you go, so
you’ll have a bellyful by the end of the
day. Still, it might be nice to night
cap this date and compare notes when
you’re done. If you created a dessert
masterpiece, you might want to go for
coffee afterwards; if you’ve created a
Greek feast, you might want to end
the night with a glass of Ouzo to toast
your culinary brilliance!
Drinks at the end of the night.
It’s always a thoughtful touch to
create a theme that carries
through the night. If you’re learning
to make manicotti, play an Italian
opera La Tosca in the car. Chinese?
Madame Butterfly will do the trick.
Food created before your very
eyes. drunk, or running for office.”
– Shirley MacLaine
Usually everything will be “Man being reasonable, must get
provided. drunk; The best of life is but
intoxication.”
Everyone has a cooking disaster – Lord Byron
story and now is the time to roll
“One more drink and I’ll be under the
that out. What are your favorite
host.”
foods? What did you eat growing up?
– Dorothy Parker
What was the worst food you ever
tasted? No confident woman will mind
hearing that your mama is a good
cook, but refrain from rattling on
about how no one can ever touch her
domestic perfection.

If you’re at the cooking supply

store, you’ll have a whole store
to choose from. Unless you’re George
Soros, it’s considered bad form to
spend a lot of money on a gift for
someone you don’t know well. Much
better would be a creative token that
reflects a memorable part of your
date, or an item that can be used to
recreate the dish you just learned to
make at home.

Food is sexy and cooking food is

even sexier. Offer a bite of your
creation to your date. When
you get one back, make sure
your tongue slowly rolls around your
lips. Enjoy the sensuality of the food.
An old husband’s tale is that you can
often tell how good a woman is in bed
by how she eats. So ladies, even if
you eat like a starving bird with your
friends, let him know you’re enjoying
it. Gentlemen, make sure you feed it
to her slowly, giving her the chance to
savor the food and your romantic
gesture.

GREAT TOASTS IN HISTORY

“It’s useless to hold a person to
anything he says while he’s in love,

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VOLUNTEER
BE THE BEST YOU CAN BE.
S
etting the Stage:
Here is a date where you get to
do something great, have fun,
and earn big points in your
date's heart while you do it. I Dress to Impress:
promise, they're gonna love you for
this one, and they’re going to brag to
all of their friends (and their mom)
about what a great person you are
too! Furthermore, you will be hard
pressed to find a better way to create
a vibe for intimacy than doing good
together.
It is much more meaningful to
volunteer for a cause that you believe
in, so your passion and sincerity can
carry the day. Identify a cause for
which you have a soft spot, and then
match it with a local charity. For
example, if you love the local PBS
station, volunteer to man the phones
for the pledge drive. Cleaning up the
beach, working at the soup kitchen,
delivering meals to the elderly... the
list is endless. You can even help
build a house with Habitat for
Humanity. Guys, here’s your chance
to show off your big muscles – and
your big heart! Gals, seize the
opportunity to show him that you are
a “doer” who makes a difference by
putting those delicate hands to good
use. Check your local papers and free
weekly publications for a list of charity
events and organizations that need
volunteers. Contact the organizers,
offer your time and services, work
with them to determine the best use
of your skills, and then set-up a
schedule. Make sure you have the
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name of the contact person you’ll be
working with as big events can be a
zoo.
Casual comfort rules the day. If
you’re working outside, show off
your legs in khaki shorts and a white T
or polo shirt. Have a dark colored
cotton sweater in the car to take the
look into evening. Working inside?
Jeans with a black turtleneck are
always a winner.
This is not a day to wear the
micro mini, so instead, opt out for
the irresistible girl next-door look.
Choose between a knee-length skirt
with a sweater and ballet slippers or
wedge sandals, or a cute cropped
Capri’s with a form fitting top and
espadrilles.
Devil’s in the Details:
You are going to be put to work
today, so it might be a good
idea to plan a casual lunch or dinner
for after your shift. Nothing fancy,
pasta at a local bistro or your favorite
Thai café. It doesn’t seem appropriate
to spend a day supporting chartable
endeavors and then spending a
fortune at the most expensive place in
town.
Keep it simple – cold soda,
flavored iced tea, or ice water –
all equally refreshing after a day of
hard work.
 This day is personal, because your
date gets to glimpse into your
soul, so play your favorite songs in the
car.
The joy on someone’s face when
you do good work, lend a hand,
show support and compassion.
Your sincerity for wanting to
help.
Let your date know why this
particular charity has meaning
for you. Working at a telethon,
because your grandmother has
cancer; or cleaning up the Bay,
because you love the beach.
Whatever the3 reason, be sincere, but
don’t be a downer. If you’re working
with a charity, naturally there is a
problem that needs to be resolved,
but keep your conversation centered
on solutions and hope rather than how
terrible the world is.
You already have. By showing
up and doing your part. The
good feelings you’re left with will be a
bigger gift than anything you can buy.
After a day of doing good, you
may well be feeling good. Days
like this give both of you a
chance to open up and be intimate –
and that’s truly the sexiest thing of all!
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FIRST DATE TOPICS TO AVOID
Your (strong) opinion with regards to
politics and religion.
Why you hate your
parents/siblings/boss/roommate.
Health problems.
Non-stop talk about your children.
Why life is so unfair!
Your ex and all topics related to him or
her.
Boring day-to-day minutia such as
parking spaces, what you had for
lunch, etc.
Name dropping.
Speak in high tech or job jargon.
Men, avoid going on about sports or
cars; women, avoid going on about
shopping, weddings, hair and nails.
Anything overtly sexual. However,
staring into your date's eyes, brushing
your hand across theirs accidentally,
and putting your hand on the small of
their back, are all ok!
STAR GAZING
CREATE A HEAVENLY EXPERIENCE.
S
etting the Stage:
Starry, starry night... There is
something about looking up at
the stars at night that makes a
woman’s heart stop and knees melt.
The fact is, something magical
happens under the night sky that
spells romance.
If there is an observatory or
planetarium nearby, you’re all set.
They sponsor great educational
evenings to view the planets and host
the public for astrological events like
an eclipse or a meteor shower.
Even if there is nothing nearby, you
can create an enchanted evening of
your own. Visit skyandtelescope.com
to find out what cosmological events
are occurring. At the very least, there
is always a
new moon “Most relationships are
not made in heaven. They
and a full come in kits and you have
moon every to put them together
month and yourselves.”
– Anonymous
often time,
these are truly spectacular. Most of
us don’t have a telescope; so find out
what conditions are needed for
optimum viewing of comets, shooting
stars, a bright planet with the naked
eye.
Download a map with information on
where to look at the night sky, the
best location from which to view it,
and the time. Make sure the area is
safe such as a busy public park or a
neighborhood garden. Now all you
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need is a comfy blanket, a bottle of
wine, and you are all set.
Dress to Impress:
Jeans or khakis with a cashmere
sweater.
Jeans with a sexy sweater that
show off YOUR celestial body.
Devil’s in the Detail:
A great bottle of vino, cheese,
fruit, and delicious chocolates
can be packed in a basket with cloth
napkins and glasses. A sultry red is
best. The most common picnic
mistake: forgetting the wine opener!
Don’t get caught with your glasses
empty. If it’s chilly, a thermos of hot
toddy is nice, Bailey’s and coffee, hot
tea with rum and honey, or a good old
fashioned hot chocolate.
Red wine is enjoyable late at
night, and you can even go for
something with a lot of body like a
hearty zinfandel. This California wine
is delicious, and if you can’t remember
which ones are good, eerily, many
vineyards beginning with “R” – Ridge,
Rabbit Run, Ravenswood – make the
zins you can count on.
If you’re watching a cosmic event
like a meteor shower, “The
Planets” by the great Holst symphony
would be a fitting soundtrack. If
you’re more experimental, Phillip
Glass or John Cage would set the right
cosmic feel. Let’s not forget the
theme to 2001 A Space Odyssey or
Enya's soft New Age music would also
set a great mood for stargazing.
Don’t underestimate the sounds of
nature at night – crickets and cicadas
are plenty romantic.

The celestial review, one of the

greatest shows in town.

A thick comfy blanket, pillows,

wine, a wine opener, snacks,
plates, a tea towel, wineglasses, a
telescope or binoculars, a guidebook
to the stars or a cosmological map
with a booklight to see it by. If you
think you’ll need it, bring insect
repellent as well. It’s not so romantic,
but neither is getting eaten alive.

This is a date where

conversation can begin with fun
astronomy facts gleaned from a book
or a website and can lead you all the
way to life on other planets, life after
death, and space travel. This might
be the only acceptable time to ask,
“What’s your sign?”

An astronomy book, a CD of “The

Planets,” or a celestial map
would be a sweet reminder of your
romantic night.

You’re on a blanket, under the

stars, hello? If you can’t find
your way to romance from here,
you are beyond help.

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FILM FESTIVAL
MAKE MOVIE MAGIC TOGETHER.
S
etting the Stage:
Get ready for your close up! The
fastest growing kind of festival in
the country is the film festival.
Whether it’s the Chevy Chase
retrospective in Maryland, The Wildlife
Film Festival in Montana, or Roger
Ebert’s Forgotten Film Festival in
Champagne Urbana, Illinois, there
isn’t a state in the union without its
share. There are film festivals from
Florida to Maine, San Diego to Seattle
and all points in between. Just pick
up a major local magazine and scan
the back or visit a county’s tourism
website.
Often, actors and directors are invited
to festivals, and this is one of the only
times folks outside of Hollywood can
interact with the people who make the
movies. If you’re a film buff, this date
is for you. Short on cash? Volunteer
for a couple of days in return for free
film passes.
When a film festival comes to town, it
often uses all the local film screens,
and runs for a week or more. You can
usually buy passes to see one movie
or all of the films in the series. Most
of the time, buying the best pass also
gets you entry to special events like
opening and closing ceremonies,
awards nights, and parties for the
filmmakers. What differentiates the
film festival from the regular movie
going experience, other than seeing
the kinds of movies you wouldn’t
otherwise see, is that there are
lectures and question and answer
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periods afterwards that enhances the
movie experience. This is a truly
unique date that doesn’t come along
every day. Once you’ve found a
festival, read the program guide to
select the tickets that seem the best
to you. Get your choices in early,
because the hot tickets sell quickly.
Ask about parking, which usually
overwhelms the venues for such
events. As always, make sure your
car is clean, gassed up, and in good
working order.
Dress to Impress:
Assuming you’re not attending any
festival gala’s, break out the
smarty-pants artsy guys wear – you
know, the jeans with black T-shirt and
good black boots, or the khakis with
the vintage shirt and suede barn
jacket or classic bomber.
Take a cue from Audrey Hepburn
in all her artsy Funny Face Glory –
black Capri’s with a tight black
cashmere sweater, or a form fitting
skirt with baby T and a cardigan.
Devil’s in the Details:
In addition to popcorn baby,
lots of popcorn, festivals often
have tents set-up by local
restaurants. If you’re making a day of
it, films and grazing followed by a light
supper or pastries and coffee is a
great all day date.
What will it be? Cappuccino or a
good Chardonnay.
 Who can resist the soundtracks to
movies like Lawrence of Arabia,
Star Wars, or on a lighter note, Shrek
or the Sound of Music? You can buy
compilations of movie tunes at
www.amazon.com and play name that
tune in the car. First to guess the
song gets one point, first to guess the
movie gets another. Guess the prize!

Movies – documentaries,
features, and don’t forget the
shorts, they are often the most
entertaining.

Tickets, passes, pen and paper

if you’re an autograph hound.

What is your favorite movie?

What is the first movie you ever
saw? The first movie you ever cried
at? Why don’t they have drive-ins any
more, damn it? Speaking of drive-ins,
have you ever been to one? A kiss for
you if you can remember which movie
was playing!

The soundtrack to her all-time

favorite movie or a small
souvenir from the festival.

Nothing like a movie date to

bring out the innocence in all of
us. The hand that brushes the
thigh, or the arm that lightly encircles
the shoulder, and if the movie is a
little racy, all-the-better!

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 
DATES THAT ARE PURE FUN
 
KICK UP YOUR HEELS, TAKE A LOAD OFF,
AND HAVE A BALL ON THESE DREAM DATES

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BOWLING
STRIKE ONE FOR LOVE.
S
etting the Stage:
Move over Frank and Ethel –
bowling isn’t just for the
Honeymooners anymore. With
most lanes offering midnight bowling,
rock & roll bowling, and other
promotional nights, you’ll find all kinds
of folks having a ball at the lanes.
Bowling is a great alternative to the
punch–the–clock dinner date. It’s
active, it’s silly, and it’s just plain fun.
Locate the nearest bowling alley in the
yellow pages, and enquire about their
“open bowling” times. Many alleys
reserve blocks of time for League
Nights, so don’t assume you’ll be able
to walk in and get on a lane.
Once you’re at the alley, you’ll need to
rent shoes, and get a scorecard or get
instructions for scoring electronically if
you’re a newcomer. Ask a staffer to
help you choose the correct ball and
teach you the basic roll. Safety first!
You can send yourself bottom over
teakettle and hurt your back if you roll
with too much gusto.
This is supposed to be fun, and it’s
kitschy by its very nature. Here’s a
note to all you super competitive
guys. Oh, come on, you know who
you are. You’re the ones that stomp
on old ladies to get to the cab, whose
pickup basketball games turn into
brawls. This may pass muster with
the guys, but on a date, a guy that
has to win at all costs is a big fat
turnoff. We’re not saying that you
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should suck, or let her win, but leave
the “in your face” attitude back at the
gym. What makes you a winner in
her eyes is the ability to have a great
time. Brownie points if you help her
perfect her style, even if it means she
gets closer to beating you.
Dress to Impress:
Our big objective here is to look
hot and not split our pants in the
process. Remember, she’s going to
be looking at your butt all night. Wear
the jeans or khakis that are well worn,
but still flattering. Yes, you can wear
the kitschy vintage shirt if you’re the
type that can pull that off. For the
rest of you men folk, a sexy tight T-
shirt will make her swoon.
Pull out those snug fit, stretchy
black jeans or sexy Capri pants.
Pair them with a camisole and a
wraparound blouse or ballet top. If
you’re barefoot in sandals make sure
you pack some cute socks in your
purse.
Devil’s in the Details:
Most bowling alleys have a bar
and some sort of food, which is
often marginal. When you’re done
with your game, visit that tiny family-
run pizza joint you know and order up
the special.
A plain cold beer at the bar or a
kitschy retro cocktail like a
Brandy Alexander or an Old
Fashioned.
Brandy Alexander:
brandy and crème d’ cocoa blended
with ice and cream.
Old Fashioned:
mulled fruit, sugar, whiskey and soda.
Rock and Roll bowling is a popular
night at alleys. The lights are low,
the strobe is throbbing, and your
favorite classic rock blares from the
speakers.
Watching the game is fun, but
watching other bowlers is even
better.
SURVEY
Would You Cheat?
32%: Yes, if I could get away with it.
10%: Yes, but I would feel very
guilty.
40%: No, I have too much love and
respect for my partner.
18%: No, even if I were in a bad
relationship, cheating is immoral.
www.askApril.com Online Magazine
Survey

Remember those clean socks!

When was the first time you

ever went bowling? What sport
are you most spastic at? What are
your favorite bowling scenes from the
movies?

Guys, if you win any prizes at

the alley, it goes without saying
they should be presented on one knee
to the damsel. Ladies, if the alley has
great T-shirts, they will make a cute
parting gift.

“Gee, I’m still not sure how to

do this! Maybe you should
press up behind me and take
me through that swing again!”

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ICE SKATING
FALL INTO EACH OTHER’S ARMS.
S
etting the Stage:
Okay, guys, just a little
background. In the pantheon of
chick flicks that you wouldn’t
rent in two billion years, there is a
little movie called Ice Castles. It has
Moira Kelly in it and some other
fellow, but that part doesn’t matter.
What does matter is that this movie is
almost every girl’s guilty pleasure.
The fact is, chicks consider ice skating
ridiculously romantic. I’m certain you
remember this from the last winter
Olympics when you wanted to watch
the Giant Slalom and your girlfriend
was stapled to Ice Dancing? So stuff
your macho-ness in your sock drawer
and get ready for romance. Gals,
count yourselves lucky if you find a
man who will go ice skating with you.
Make sure you warm him up with
some flirty fun and winning
compliments. Aw, come on, you want
to be the princess on the ice, not the
ice princess, right?
First, locate an ice rink. Most metro
centers have them often connected to
giant malls. In some parts of the
world, cities open outdoor rinks in the
winter, which takes the romance
quotient over the top. Inquire about
the hours the rink is open for public
skating, make sure they rent skates
(virtually all do), and get ready to fall
into each other’s arms. Yes, fall away.
Don't worry guys, she doesn’t think
that’s spastic. She thinks that’s cute,
in fact, she’s going to want to take
care of you when you’re flattened by
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the slick stuff. The same goes for you
gals. He doesn't think you're a klutz,
rather he wants to show off his
strength by catching you when you
fall. Chances are, you’re both terrible
skaters, which means you’ll have to
hold hands around the rink, and you
know what that means. All that
slipping and sliding might just result in
you falling again – for each other!
Dress to Impress:
If you’re outdoors, you’ll want to
be warm, but not bulky. Slip
some long johns under your jeans if
you know you’ll be doing a lot of
falling and wear a turtleneck under a
sexy fisherman sweater. If you’re
indoors, a turtleneck or cashmere
crew will look great.
Pair that flirty pleated wool skirt
and matching tights with a
cashmere turtleneck or with a sweet
little cardigan with peter pan collar.
You’ll be irresistible. Don’t forget the
super sweet cashmere gloves and
matching earmuffs.
Devil’s in the Details:
Ice skating means hot
chocolate, there’s no two ways
around that. Bring a thermos
full if you’re going to a skating rink. If
you’re at an outdoor park, you can
enjoy a few steaming cups afterward,
so feel free to spike it with peppermint
schnapps or Godiva liqueur. What
goes with hot chocolate? Cookies, of
course. Keep the Oreo’s in your
pantry and pick up a freshly made those back belt-loops as you fall on
batch at a bakery. top of each other.

Make the hot chocolate yourself SURVEY

with shaved bittersweet chocolate
Have you participated in online
and hot milk. Don't forget the
dating?
marshmallows!

If you’re outdoors, and it’s the 83%: Yes

season, break out the holiday 17%: No
tunes in the car en route. The rest of
the year, try big band or swing music www.AskApril.com Online Magazine
for lots of fun. Anything by Count Survey
Basie, Glen Miller or Louis Armstrong.

Everyone reveling in Jack Frost

fun and the snow coming down,
if you’re outside. Cute little kids if
you’re inside.

Hot chocolate, hand warmers,

and dry socks.

Trust me, 8 out of 10 women

can tell you all about their
favorite Olympic ice skater. The
highway robbery that was Oksana
over Michelle; the tragedy that was
Nancy. So gals, just do your thing;
and guys, just nod your head and look
interested. When you’ve had your fill,
compare and contrast ice skating to
hockey, and offer to take her to a
game.

Guys, buy her a box of gourmet

chocolates, or a sweet little
trinket from the mall. Gals, buy him a
jersey with his favorite hockey
player's name on it.

Outdoors? Take a trip to the

Warming Hut and cuddle up.
Those hands have to get warm
somewhere. Indoors? No
problem, sneak a kiss as you’re
holding each other up, grab on to

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PLAYGROUND PICNIC
RECESS TO ROMANCE.
S
etting the Stage:
I’ve already mentioned how
perfect a picnic is as a first date.
Hopefully, I’ve put some new
spins on that idea. Here is another,
and it’s just absolutely silly good fun.
You will make a picnic and take it to
the nearest, cleanest, most fun of
playgrounds. And then you will play
like five year olds!
Swings, merry go rounds, teeter
totters, rings... the more toys the
better. You and your date will spend
the day as fun and carefree as is
possible in this crazy world. Boys, do
you like a girl who is spontaneous,
innocent, game for anything and fun?
This date will let you know if you’ve
found her! Girls, do you want
someone who can be sweet and
serious, but silly and playful, too?
Here's your chance to find out if he
measures up.
Dress to Impress:
Jeans or cargo pants with a clean
T-shirt.
A cute sundress, a short shift, or
cargo pants with a cami–tank.
Devil’s in the Details:
You can spend all day cooking
or just seem like you have.
Your gourmet grocery store will
have everything you need; an
assortment of fresh salads, pita bread,
drinks and desserts. Planning a
twilight date? Pizza would be perfect.
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Many parks don’t allow alcohol
near children’s playgrounds, but
an assortment of vintage sodas from
your childhood would be perfect.
Yoo–hoos, vanilla cokes, cream soda...
you get the idea.
The screams of kids, including
your own, will be the best thing to
hear. If you’re industrious, bring a CD
player with fun tunes from your
childhood era, whether you grew up
with The Jackson Five or the Thriller
album.
Everything you remember is
here.
A thick blanket, bottle opener,
napkins, plates, cups, water,
sunscreen, wet naps.
This date is a perfect jumping off
point to discuss everything
about your childhood. What was your
favorite part of recess? Your favorite
games as a kid? Don't launch into a
tirade on how your parents mistreated
you, though. Remember to keep it
fun and light!
An adorable memento would be
a set of jacks or marbles.
Playgrounds are just lost on
little kids because they are
sheer romance. Push each
other on the swings or merry go
round, or better yet, crawl on
together. See if you can keep a kiss
going until it stops.
MINIATURE GOLF
STROKE ME, STROKE ME – IF YOU CAN.
S
etting the Stage:
Yes, fellas, we know – you’re the
king of the fairway with your
buddies on Sunday afternoon,
but this is different. This is gnomes
and windmills and your date who is a
whole lot cuter than said buddies. So
leave the golf stories back at the 19th
hole, ditto the swearing over the
missed putt and get ready for some
innocent fun. Ladies, perfect your
stroke. Your golf stroke, that is.
You can find putt–putt under
“miniature golf” in the yellow pages.
Make sure you have the right hours,
your car is clean, and you know where
you’re going. Once there, get a
scorecard and a putter. Needless to
say, make sure it’s a sunny day or a
clear evening. Dates like this are a
blast, because it’s great to get to
know someone while doing a mindless
activity. You can tell a lot about a
person by playing a game with them.
How competitive are they? How
seriously do they take themselves?
And most importantly, how much fun
are they?
Feeling lucky? A friendly wager
always makes things more interesting.
How about a kiss for every stroke the
loser falls behind?
Dress to Impress:
Preppy cute. Those nice flat front
chinos and your Brooks Brothers
belt with a polo shirt or a light linen
oxford.
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Ditto that. Little cotton tennis or
golf skirt will show off your
smooth, exfoliated and moisturized
legs nicely, teamed with a baby polo
and a cardigan.
Devil’s in the Details:
Food is generally not allowed
on the course, so drinks and
dinner before or after will
round out the day.
If you’re playing mini golf, then
the weather must be nice, so
order a summer classic like the Mai
Tai or the new classic.
Mai Tai:
a concoction of dark rum, pineapple
juice and grenadine, or dark and
stormy dark rum with ginger ale or
ginger beer is delicious.
In the car, retro tunes like Frank
or Dino work equally well with
summer classics like the Beach Boys.
How good is your game?
Nothing but your vibrant
personality and good manners
– ladies tee first!
Dates like this take you back to
childhood, so go there. Where
did you grow up? How did you spend
your summers? Just remember to
keep it light – save the childhood
horror stories and parental
resentments for the couch.
 Chocolates shaped like golf balls
and golf tees. A CD of summer
tunes. An offer of a free golf lesson
with the sexiest pro in town – you.

Help her with her putt. She’s

not keeping her arms in the
correct V position and will need
you to wrap your arms around to
show her. Make a great shot? Throw
your arms around him in glee! If
you’re wearing a short skirt and you’re
holding hands in the car, make sure
his hand rests on your bare thigh. It
will drive him wild.

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COMEDY CLUB
LAUGHING IS THE BEST APHRODISIAC.
S
etting the Stage:
According to Victor Borge, the
humorist, entertainer and world-
class pianist affectionately known
as “the Clown Prince of Denmark”,
laughter is the shortest distance
between two people.
There are comedy clubs in all urban
and most suburban areas. Many local
bars, colleges, and clubs offer comedy
nights as well. Your local paper will
list any major show, while your free
weekly papers will list just about
everyone standing in front of a mike.
Caveat Numero Uno – good comics
are a blast; bad comics are sheer
torture. Therefore, by far the best bet
is to go to a comedy club where you
know the comic, or they come highly
recommended. Caveat Segundo – a
lot of comedy can get very, very blue,
so know your audience. This may not
be the best choice for a totally blind
date. It’s a better bet if you know
each other a little bit and think you
share the same sense of humor.
For big acts, definitely call for
reservations and find out if there is a
drink minimum – most clubs have
them. Comedy clubs are notorious for
cramming every table possible into a
room and visibility is often terrible.
Once you arrive with your date,
discreetly slip the host or maitre d’ a
ten or twenty (depending on your
area) to get a good table. If you’ve
never tipped the maitre d’, there is
nothing to it. Discretion is important,
but that simply means low key. You
don’t have to wad up a bill and palm it
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in a cheesy handshake like they do in
the movies. Simply tell the host the
name of your reservation, and offer
the bill casually at that time. Most
maitre d’s are reputable, if they can’t
help you get a good table, they will
politely decline the tip.
Dress to Impress:
Smooth and sexy. Black jeans,
black sweater, and a black leather
jacket.
A short skirt with tall high-heeled
boots, a halter dress, or your
curve hugging slacks and a sexy flirty
blouse.
Devil’s in the Details:
Unless this is the rare club
where the food is good, stick to
appetizers and have dinner
before or after.
Clubs like this usually stock
terrible wine, so stick with beer,
soft drinks, or a refreshing cocktail
like the Salty Dog.
Salty Dog:
Vodka with grapefruit juice in a salt-
rimmed glass with a squeeze of lime.
In the car, leave the mellow
classical or folk at home, check the
heavy metal at the door. Let the Pop
pop with sing-along potential – classic
Prince is perfect.
Great comics, and quite
possibly, some hilariously
terrible ones.
 Your sense of humor, of course!

What do you think is funny? The

Three Stooges or Robin
Williams? George Lopez or George
Burns? What’s your favorite joke?
Who is your favorite Saturday Night
Live performer? Favorite comic
movie? If you come up with the same
punch-line of the same movie at the
same time, it must be love!

Sure your date will love this

comic? Get them the DVD. Your
favorite comedy DVD is also a great
choice. Who can resist classic Bill
Murray flicks or Chris Rock standup?

These tables are awfully close

together; you’ll probably be
squeezed tight like sardines.
Let your hand graze his thigh; your
hand caresses the small of her back.
Girls, make sure those sexy legs are
turned towards him.

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ZOO
LET THE ANIMAL KINGDOM GIVE YOU
SOME WILD IDEAS.

S
etting the Stage:
When was the last time you went
to the zoo? I thought so.
Thankfully, the super sad
elephant in the tiny barred cage is a
thing of the past. Today, zoos create
wonderful environments for animals,
including the human kind. Leisurely
strolls, cafés, and educational
activities are all part of the zoo
experience. Maybe you’ll learn a thing
or two about mating rituals!
Dress to Impress:
Comfy guy about town with your
chinos, leather jacket, and comfy
shoes (that aren’t sneakers).
A sweet sundress if it’s a hot day, or
jeans with a tight sweater if it’s cool.
Shoes you can walk in, but that
preferably have a heel. If you’re
wearing jeans, boots are perfect. If
you’re wearing a dress, a wedged
sandal that you’re comfortable walking
in.
Devil’s in the Details:
Many zoos have great café’s
with salads and homemade
sandwiches. If yours is limited to
thick cold nachos, grab some fun
Japanese or Thai afterward.
Listen to the call of animals in the
wild.
Yes, the monkey cages are still
the funniest, and the polar
bears still the cutest, but ask at the
entrance if there are any newborns for
viewing.
Sunscreen if it’s a sunny day.
Pets, of course. Yours, his or
hers. The first pet you had, the
silliest pet you’ve had. Do you dream
of going on safari?
A stuffed animal from the gift
shop will melt her heart. For
extra points, pay attention to which
animal is her favorite. If she likes the
monkeys, buy her a stuffed monkey!
She'll go ape over your
thoughtfulness! Ladies, if he's a good
date, how about some monkey
business? Kidding! How about a
Polaroid of you in front of his favorite
animal?
Sneak off the beaten path for a
first kiss under the trees with
the birds calling in the
background.

There will be plenty of places to

buy soda, iced tea, and probably
even beer and wine, but it’s always
great to have water along.

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AMAZING ANIMAL FACTS TO ROLL
OUT ON ZOO DAY – YOU ARE A
GENIUS!

 A beaver can hold its breath for 45

minutes.
 Cats, dogs, and pigs injure more
people each year then by great
white sharks.
 A young frog is called a polliwog
and a young kangaroo is a Joey.
 A 70lb octopus can squeeze
through a hole no bigger then a
silver dollar because it has no
backbone.
 A group of toads is called a knot
and a prickle is a group of
porcupines.
 The slowest animal in the world is
the three–toed sloth.
 Orcas, also known as killer whales,
are not whales but the largest
member of the dolphin family.
 Penguins can jump almost 6 feet
into the air.
 Bengal tigers are the most water
loving of the big cats. They will
even chase prey into the water.

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AMUSEMENT PARK
A THRILLING FIRST DATE.

S
etting the Stage:
Whether it’s a bumbling little
roller coaster at a county fair or
a death defying drop ride at a
huge corporate park, a day at the
amusement park will be a blast.
Amusement parks are huge
attractions, so no doubt you’ll know
where the nearest one is. Call to
check on hours, admission, parking,
as well as special attractions.
This is a great day date; very
romantic for a summer evening. You’ll
want to ride rides, eat deliciously
naughty food, and play games where
you will hopefully win your date
prizes! Make sure you have lots of
cash in your pocket. This date is
innocent fun, but if you want to try it
all, it will add up!
Dress to impress:
Easy and comfortable jeans or
khakis, a T or polo shirt, and a v-
neck sweater for evening.
A mini dress, flirty ruffled short skirt,
or jeans with a sexy halter and sweater
for a nippy evening. Shoes you can walk in!
Many parks feature concerts at
night. Call in advance for the
schedule.
All the fun of the carnival.
Sunscreen for daytime, lots of
cash, a sweater in case it gets
cold as night falls.
When was the first time you
rode on a roller coaster? The
scariest roller coaster you’ve
ever been on? Your favorite ride as a
kid?
Something fun from the gift
shop.
Most amusement parks no
longer offer the traditional
tunnel of love, but chances are
they’ll have a haunted house ride
where you can snuggle up tight and
protect each other from the spooks.
Don’t let go of your date's hand when
the ride is over.

Devil’s in the Details:

Hot dogs, funnel cakes, snow
cones… On this date, there’s
no room for healthy.

Fresh squeezed lemonade is a

staple of amusement parks.
Order it up.

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DOG SHOW
PRANCING POOCHES AND THEIR OWNERS.
DOIN' IT DOGGY STYLE!

S
etting the Stage: Make reservations at a cute
One of the favorite things for little bistro for dinner after the
gals to do (and let’s face it, guys show.
too) is to visit the local pet store.
This date is like spending an afternoon Since we hope you’re not
at a giant pet store with some of the imbibing in the hair of the pooch
craziest looking animals you’ve ever that bit you the night before, finish
seen. When was the last time you the evening with the very proper and
scoped out an Affen Pinscher? A British Pins Cup.
Paroah Hound?
All that barking and prancing!
These animals are amazing and
adorable. A day at a dog show is
great date if you’re animal lovers or
even likers. To find a show near you, If there is anything funnier than
visit www.infodog.com or the the over primped dogs, it’s their
American Kennel Club at owners.
www.akc.org. Once at the show,
check out the grooming area, which Binoculars.
makes the backstage of any runway
fashion show look tame by
comparison. Make sure you wear
comfy shoes as seating is often limited What was your first pet? Do you
and you don’t want to be doggin’ it. have a current pet? Your
Kick back, enjoy the day, and let favorite animal? The most unusual
man’s best friend make him/her your pet name?
newest one!
A DVD of the hilarious Dog
Dress to Impress: Show.
Chinos with a crew neck sweater,
This is an ideal venue to hold
preferably in Marino wool or
hands and wrap your arms
cashmere, and soft soled leather
around each other. Go ahead;
shoes for easy walking.
engage in mild PDA... after all, no one
knows you’re here!
A pencil tweed knee length skirt
with a cashmere long sleeve T or
turtleneck and sexy, but very walkable
pumps.
Devil’s in the Details:

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ESTATE SALES
A REAL LIVE TREASURE HUNT.
S
etting the Stage:
This date is like a great
exploration in the guise of a
shopping trip. You will spend the
day together searching some great
finds while peering into the lives of
other people. This date is a fabulous
way to find out whether your date has
taste, the manner in which s/he
handles new situations as well as new
people, and his/her approach to
shopping and finance.
Flea markets and rummage sales are
both good places to spend a Saturday,
but estate sales are where you’ll
discover the really impressive finds –
a veritable treasure hunt.
What is an estate sale and how is it
different from a yard sale? An estate
sale is where the family of a recently
deceased individual sells their
possessions usually in the deceased’s
own home. Sound a little eerie? Sure
it is, but that’s part of the intrigue.
You are really delving into a piece of
someone’s real life and history. It is
important to remember that usually
estate sales are run by professional
estate sale planners, so you won’t be
bargaining with the grieving Aunt
Millie. Moreover, proceeds from the
sale are usually of tremendous benefit
to the family.
Where to find estate sales? Generally,
estate sales are listed under their own
section in your paper’s classifieds.
Begin organizing this date by getting
Thursday and Friday’s paper to map
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out your adventure. You have to get
up mighty early to get the best finds,
but you can often get the best deals in
the last few hours of the sale late
Sunday afternoon. Go ahead, shop ‘til
you drop... in each other’s arms!
Dress to Impress:
Comfy casual – jeans with a good
T-shirt or long sleeve T and
loafers. In the Fall, wear a turtleneck
in black, white, gray or navy.
Sexy trousers with a cashmere T,
or a long loose skirt with a cute
little bustier style tank.
Devil’s in the Details:
If you’re raring to to get
started, pick up your date first
thing in the morning and surprise
them with good strong coffee, juice,
and pastries.
We’re talking 6 or 7 a.m., so
make that really strong coffee.
There is something about this date
that calls for jazz – Ella Fitzgerald,
Billie Holliday, Nat King Cole, Duke
Ellington.
At most sales, similar items will
be grouped together, so all the
vases will be on one table, all the
jewelry on another, etc.
A pickup truck or large SUV if
you have one, along with rope,
bungee cord, your checkbook or cash
of course, and a good map or guide of
the city.

The estates of these people will

provide you with hours of
conversation as you try to put their
lives together.

Buy your date a little memento

that they had their eyes on.

Offer to help her rearrange the

furniture to accommodate the
new end table and just happen
to have a bottle of killer merlot in your
truck.

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SPORTING EVENT
LET THE GAMES BEGIN.

S
etting the Stage:
Okay men, listen up. In a recent
survey, over 2/3 of the women
thought a baseball game was a
great place to take a date. However,
only 1/2 of the men agreed.
Conclusion: Don’t save those third
baseline seats for your buddies as
most women these days are huge
sports fans.
Don’t think you have to score big
tickets to a pro game. A semi pro
game, a college game, even a high
school or little league game can be a
great date. Whatever game you
choose, be to have tickets, and if
you’ve scalped them, make certain
they’re authentic. If you don’t have
tickets or know someone who does, go
through a reputable ticket broker to
avoid getting burned.
Now if your gal pal loves the sport,
great. If she’s a newcomer to it,
cheerfully explain the rules without
being condescending. The more she
understands, the more she’ll enjoy it,
but many women are embarrassed to
ask. That being said, gals don't be
afraid to ask questions. He'll be
psyched that you're interested. As a
final note, guys, if you catch the ball,
give it to your date. Remember to
hold her hand, get her drinks, and pay
attention to her. Who knows, soon
you’ll both be ready to play ball!
Dress to Impress:
Shorts and a clean T are okay for
summer in the bleachers, but for a
night of pro game, take a cue from
Jack Nicholson and wear black jeans,
a black sweater; or good jeans, a
white T-shirt and a black cashmere
jacket.
Sporty white or black pants with a
sexy low cut T or cami top.
Devil’s in the Details:
Food at pro games has really
been up scaled. If you scored
box seats or court/rink side seats, you
will probably have a waiter at your
disposal to take your order. Most big
venues have everything from chic
restaurants to fashionable sushi. If
you’re at a college or semi pro game,
plan a nosh for later; perhaps tacos
and margaritas at a great
neighborhood cantina.
Beer, beer, beer.
The play by play.
You can tell a lot about a person
by the way they get into the
game.
Cash preferably in
denominations smaller than
20’s, sunscreen if outdoors.

Who is your favorite team,

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favorite player? What sports did you
play in high school?

Guys, a jersey from the gift shop

for her to sleep in is a great
takeaway. Gals, present him with a
new catcher's mitt while coyly telling
him you think he's a great catch!

Guys, suggest she try the jersey

on for you and gals, play “catch
me if you can”.

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FORTUNE TELLER
LOOK INTO THE CRYSTAL BALL & SEE IF
YOU’RE A LUCKY MATCH!
S
etting the Stage:
Are you lucky in love? Is your
date written in the stars? You’re
about to find out! This will come
as a surprise if you are a non-believer,
but there are a wide variety of
fortunetellers; palm readers, card
readers, intuitives as well as psychics.
They range from those considered so
reputable that they often assist police
departments with hard-to-solve cases
to total con artists. How do you tell
them apart? The latter usually set up
shop in the touristy areas of town and
advertise with big cheesy signs.
Referrals are usually the only way to
find a trustworthy psychic. A good
alternative is to seek out an
astrologer. Astrologers usually have
years of study behind them, so they
are a great bet if all else fails.
Even if you go to the fortuneteller on
the corner as a lark, this date is sheer
frivolous fun. First dates are about
light enjoyment, so ask romantic
questions, fun questions, and leave
the heavy duty “why did my
grandfather hate me” emotional scab
picking for a quiet and more personal
time.
When organizing this date, add a
touch of mystery by playing it up with
dinner at a dark, candlelit and slightly
eccentric spot. Perhaps a restaurant
with belly dancers, or eastern
European accordion bands, or any
kind of Gypsy or old world charm.
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This is a date that might have you
getting lucky!
Dress to impress:
Black pants with a black turtleneck
under your all-purpose black
leather jacket. If you’re swarthy
enough to pull it off, substitute the
turtleneck with a red or burgundy silk
button down.
Peasant chic, of course! An off-
the-shoulder peasant blouse with
your favorite skirt or trousers.
Devil’s in the Details:
Spanish could hit the old world
spot just right. A great place
to take a date is a tappas bar where
small plates of Spanish delicacies are
served with wine or sherry by the
glass. They often have wonderful and
sometimes live music, which would hit
just the right note style wise.
Share a delicious pitcher of
Sangria, or order sherry by the
glass. Sherry is a wonderful fortified
wine that ranges in flavor from dry to
very, very sweet. It is served in tiny
glasses and would ebb a great
accompaniment to your tappas feast.
Wonderful South American or
Spanish music, The Gypsy Kings
never disappoint.
All the fortune telling
accoutrement.
 Your curiosity and an open
mind.

Do you believe in this stuff?

What is the most twilight–zone
experience of your life? Have you
ever seen a ghost?

A candle, rare oils, a book on

Tarot reading, or a small crystal,
which is said to promote healing and
good fortune.

Ask the fortune teller what your

date’s most erotic spot is and
promise to give it attention
later!

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HORSERACES
YOU CAN BET ON A GREAT TIME!
S
etting the Stage:
Let’s get this romance started on
the right track! Yes, some
racetracks are on the wrong side
of the track, but others, like
Gulfstream, Santa Anita, and Churchill
Downs are downright luxurious. Visit
www.equineinfo.com to locate the
horse track nearest you and enquire
about its season. Ponies don’t run all
year round, and the schedule is
different at every track.
You can have fun at the track without
betting, but it’s always fun to place
little wagers. The simplest bets are
called “win,” “place” and “show.”
Here’s how they work: simply find a
horse you like and bet it to Win (to
come in first place), Place (to come in
first or second), or Show (to come in
first, second or third). Horse racing
bets can get very complex, and if
you’re a novice, it’s a good idea to
study up in advance as the folks
taking the bets are notoriously
impatient and bad teachers. Some
tracks offer betting tutorials if you go
an hour or two early. If you’re both
rookies, this might be a fun option.
Otherwise, visit www.triplecrown.com
for a head start.
Many tracks have two tiers of food
and beverage service – regular and
fine dining. Fine dining is perhaps the
preferred way to go for a first date.
The restaurant is usually glassed in a
few levels up and always requires
reservations. However, if you don’t
get a table, the regular grandstand
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seats, which allow you to stand right
near the finish line, are even more
fun. All of this information is available
at your local track’s website. And if
you make a little money, take her to a
store and spend it in style. You’ll be a
winner for sure.
Dress to Impress:
If you’re fine dining, there are
often dress codes. A perfect
summer look includes khaki’s with a
white linen shirt and sandals.
If dining upscale, a halter dress
and hat. If in the bleachers, black
jeans with a sexy T-shirt.
Devil’s in the Details:
Make reservations at the high
end restaurant, otherwise, get
down and dirty like the regulars with
brats and beer.
If available, be sure to order the
traditional horseracing cocktail,
the Mint Julep.
Mint Julep:
bourbon, sugar syrup, and mint
served over crushed ice with a sprig of
mint.
The bugles blowing at the start of
every race.
Beautiful ponies at their finest.
Sunscreen, a good pen,
binoculars, and water.
 Your best and worst games of
chance stories, from cakewalks
to church bingo to the lotto. Are you
lucky by nature?

If you score big, offer to buy

your date something fun!

Anytime there is wagering,

there ought to be side wagering.
You two can bet kisses, and
more, on each race.

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 
DATES FOR THE BUDGET MINDED
 
JUST BECAUSE YOU’RE SHORT ON CASH DOESN’T MEAN YOU
HAVE TO BE SHORT ON STYLE OR FUN!

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DESSERT DATE
SWEETS FOR YOUR SWEET MEANS YOU
WON'T GET DESERTED.
S
etting the Stage:
When most of us plan a first
date, we go straight for the old
standby – dinner and a movie.
However, with so many of us getting
hooked up online, we need date
options that are shorter in duration
(just in case their photos were a little
misleading).
This date is all about ditching dinner
and getting right to the good stuff –
sweet dessert. It’s one giant step up
from a coffee date, but not as
committed as spending hours – and
lots of money – eating dinner
together. Best of all, you can still go
to a fabulous restaurant without the
“fabulous” bill! For a list of the best
restaurants in your area, visit
www.citysearch.com.
Dress to impress:
Although it’s not a full evening
out, this date is still anything but
casual. She'd love to see you in
black pinstripe trousers with crisp
button-down shirt, fantastic black
leather shoes and matching belt with
gleaming silver buckle. Very urban
and very masculine.
Indulging in desserts is sinfully
sensual. Make sure your outfit
matches the mood. Try wearing that
little black dress that never does you
wrong with black open–toe heels to
show off your flirtingly sweet pedicure.
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Devil’s in the Details:
This date is all about tantalizing
your taste buds, so call ahead
and ask the chef to create a small
sample plate of bites of desserts
offered on the menu for the two of
you to share together.
Coffee or a wine to complement
the dessert. When in doubt, ask
the server for suggestions!
Some sexy tunes in the car. At
the restaurant, your date as you
learn enough about him/her to inspire
you to offer a second date.
Before you indulge, feast your
eyes on all the creatively
prepared desserts! People-watching
can also be fun in a place like this.
Your sweet tooth and some
good conversation.
Since you’re out at a great
restaurant, it seems only natural
to talk about great food. Think of a
few of your favorite exotic dishes as
well as your own specialty, which you
could offer to cook on your next date
if all goes well!
Keep it simple – a small bouquet
of three beautiful flowers.
Don’t underestimate how
sensual food particularly sweets
topped with whipped cream and
a cherry can be, especially when your
date feeds it to you by hand.

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A DAY OF
PHOTOGRAPHY
PICTURE PERFECT.
S
etting the Stage:
Here’s a fun and create date that
puts you out and about in your
corner of the world. Find an
unusually, artsy, ethnically,
beautifully, or culturally interesting
area of town neighborhood that you
can explore. It will be twice the fun if
it’s a neighborhood neither of you
know well. Meet your date at a
predetermined landmark in your locale
of choice and come equipped with
several cameras. Here’s where you go
a little Richard Avedon: while you and
your date stroll about the streets, you
can both snap away on your cameras
like famous photographers for the
day. There are absolutely no rules!
Take photographs of anything that
strikes your fancy. Even each other!
Snap a shot of the flowers you’d love
to give her; take a photo of the sports
car you can picture him driving.
When you’ve each filled two rolls, drop
them off at a one hour processing
place while the two of you enjoy a
lovely lunch at a nearby restaurant.
Skip the dessert, though as you’ll save
that for a cute little bakery or gelato
place AFTER you pick up the
processed film. You’ll enjoy coffee
and dessert as you go through each
others’ pictures, seeing the world
through each others’ eyes, and
explaining your choices to each other.
This is a date where you’ll have a fun,
relaxing, adventuresome afternoon
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and find out if you actually see eye to
eye! If the date goes well, this can be
a regular weekend adventure. What
an artistic way to explore your town
and your date.
Dress to Impress:
This date calls for easy, breezy,
casual comfort, so wear your
jeans with your white linen shirt.
A fun, flirty skirt and top, or jeans
and low cut peasant blouse.
Devil’s in the Details:
Try to match the cuisine to the
locale you’re exploring.
Whatever your choice, planning is
important on this date. Once you’ve
picked the area of town you’re going
to explore, you’ll want to locate a
restaurant within walking distance
from the photo developing place. A
city guidebook or yellow pages is a
good start or look up the restaurant,
coffee shop, and processing place at
www.citysearch.com. Map the route
at www.mapquest.com , then double
check with phone calls to all the stops
on your tour.
Bring along water for the
adventure, have a glass of
chardonnay with lunch, and a delicious
mocha with dessert.
All the sounds of the neighborhood
you’re exploring.
 The world through a camera
lens. Look beyond the obvious,
it’s a matter of perspective. Beauty is
everywhere – down alleys, near your
feet, in the sky.

Water, maps, cameras,

sunscreen, and don't forget the
film!

Do you photograph well? Any

terrible class picture
stories? Who is your favorite
photographer?

A picture frame for your date's

favorite shot.

Sneak in a picture of your sexy

cleavage or puckered lips to
send your date a little
message...

ONE OF THE GREATEST PICK-UP

LINE IN HISTORY
“And I will make thee beds of roses,
and a thousand fragrant posies.”
-Marie-Antoinette, Queen

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SHOPPING SPREE
THE WORLD IS YOUR OYSTER... OR SO
THEY’LL THINK.
S
etting the Stage:
Just because you’re on a budget
doesn’t mean you don’t have
expensive taste. Make sure your
date knows you enjoy the finer things
in life (even though you can’t always
afford them) by spending the day
perusing your city’s finest boutiques.
Tiffany. Channel. Prada. Escada.
Giorgio Armani. Ralph Lauren. La
Perla. These are a few of my favorite
things. The best of the best can
usually be found all on the same
street in most big cities. The trick to
making this date successful is to make
sure you both look like – and act like –
you could buy from these stores – if
you wanted to. You’ll be treated like
royalty. Not bad for a date that costs
practically nothing! Visit
www.tiffany.com for a location near
you.
Dress to Impress:
Looking the part is an important
factor for this date. The
gentlemen who actually shop at
these stores wear dark Levi’s with a
patterned button-down shirt, leather
slip–on loafers and chunky silver
diving watch.
This date is too casual for a dress,
but too dressy for jeans, unless
it’s paired with heels and a quality
blazer. A form-flattering skirt is a
good choice – one that falls right
above, or right below, the knee (a
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universally appealing length for all
shapes), paired with pumps in a
neutral color to elongate the leg and a
body–hugging blouse.
Devil’s in the Details:
If you really play your part
right and by that I mean
dressing up in your finest gear,
walking the walk and talking the big
talk about what you “might” buy,
you’ll likely be given five–star
treatment, which includes free
champagne, freshly baked cookies,
strawberries, and chocolates.
Score the free champagne by
convincing everyone you're hot
stuff, and your date will be totally
intoxicated by you.
Live pianist, or other musicians,
and (if you listen closely) often
designer and ‘high society’ gossip.
Tips on the latest fashion styles
and trends; trunk shows –
potentially live during mid-week or
taped and running on Plasma screens,
lots of fabulous people watching.
A digital or Polaroid camera.
This date is all about “getting
into character,” so pretend that
you have absolutely no money
worries at all, and spend the day
talking about what you might buy.
Even though it’s only play acting,
you’ll actually get to find out if your
taste jives with your dates.

Chances are you’ll walk away

with tons of free make-up and
cologne samples, but a digital photo of
him or her dressed to the nines in
some designer outfit would make a
great keepsake.

Ladies, model La Perla lingerie

and your date might not be able
to stop himself from actually
buying it for you – you’ll look
just that hot!

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BEACH COMBING
SURF, SAND AND SENSUALITY.
S
etting the Stage:
Here we are on our final picnic
date and this one is a classic - a
day at the beach. This has a
different flavor if you’re hitting the
beach first thing in the morning,
spending the day, or having a picnic at
twilight. No beach in your area? A
sandbar at a local river or lake will do
the trick.
If it’s a day date, you’ll have to pack
for a long fun outing, so include a
Frisbee, boogie boards, even shovels
and pails for sand castle building. The
two of you will splash in the sun and
surf, then you’ll break for a wonderful
lunch followed by a sultry beach nap,
and a lovely ride home in twilight.
For an evening date at the beach, a
campfire would really ignite romance,
so enquire at the State Park Service
about permits. The night beach date
is less about sand play, more about
quiet dining and romance. If a
campfire is not permitted, then bring
along a few candles to place in the
sand, which will also serve to define
the space making it more intimate.
Dress to Impress:
For a day at the beach, swimming
trunks and a T-shirt. For an
evening date, trunks and T under
khakis or jeans with a cotton sweater.
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For a day date, your bikini under
a super cute sundress or cover-
up, and for the evening, your bikini
under a wraparound skirt or pants and
a cardigan.
Devil’s in the Details:
For a day spread, bring along a
great baguette loaded with the
best ham and cheese you can find
paired with a bag of gourmet chips.
Proscuitto and brie is a delicious
combination. Serve with a fruit salad
from a deli or a basket of cleaned
strawberries and end with a little
dessert from a bakery, or a box of
good cookies. For a evening feast, a
Tuscan feast will certainly wow your
date, and you can do it yourself.
Skewer a pound of cleaned shrimp
and drizzle with olive oil. Cook them
on your grill or in your broiler until
pink and translucent. When ready,
wrap them in tin foil. Make the
accompaniments: bruchetta and
antipasto. For the bruchetta, take a
good baguette or Italian bread, cut in
half, and rub with an open clove of
garlic. Chop two ripe tomatoes,
drizzle on more olive oil, and add a
chopped clove of garlic, and a small
handful of chopped basil. Spoon the
mixture on the bread, wrap tightly
with plastic. Finally, make an
antipasto platter with a jar of
marinated artichoke hearts, good
sliced olives, and sliced provolone
cheese. Arrange on a plate and wrap
with plastic. Voila, a Tuscan feast!
 Thirst quenching homemade SURVEY
lemonade for the day. For the
How old were you when you lost your
Tuscan feast, a bottle of Chianti.
virginity?
25% voted: I'm still a virgin
Squeeze the juice of several lemons,
20% voted: Over 21
add water, and sugar to taste (to
dissolve the sugar, it’s best to boil it in 21% voted: Under 15
water first and let cool). Make sure to 34% voted: 16 to 20
put in plenty of lemon pieces. www.AskApril.com Online Magazine
Survey
You’ll want to bring along a boom
box. For the daytime date, reggae
or Caribbean music would set the
perfect tone. For the evening, Frank
Sinatra or Willie Nelson.

The wonderful world of big

water. Look for shells and
rocks, write your names in the sand,
burry each other in it.

The picnic in a basket with

small bags of cooling ice, if
possible, or a cooler with real ice. A
big blanket, towels, sunscreen, plates,
glasses, silverware, a wine opener,
wet towels in a zip lock bag, napkins,
and garbage bags. Remember to
bring the toys, too!

Your favorite beaches in the

world, the perfect beach day.

A photo of you on the beach for

day, a beautiful candle for night.

Bury each other in the sand,

then kiss each other verrryyy
softly. Night date? This one
could lead to big time romance. Bring
a pillow and discreetly pack the
condoms just in case the magic hits
you.

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BERRY PICKING
WHERE THE FRUITS OF LOVE CAN
BLOOM.

S
etting the Stage: need a good sweater to take you into
This is a date off the beaten path evening.
in the romance of the country For both of you: Hats, shades.
where the two of you can get
back to nature. Chances are this date Devil’s in the Details:
will include a road trip to a rural Don’t eat more than you pick!
destination, so it’s only appropriate if Save room for your cozy
you know your date a little bit. country dinner at a romantic
inn.
Every month brings a new fruit or
vegetable to be picked in just about Bring along water. If you’re
every state. Strawberries and picking fruit, there may be a
blueberries in the summer, apples and facility nearby where you can bottle
cranberries in the fall, pumpkins in the your own juice or cider.
late fall, Christmas trees in the winter.
While you can hunt in the wild for your Mellow fun and upbeat tunes in
tasty treasure, an easier and more the car like Van Morrison or Keb
productive day is to go to a Mo.
commercial picking site. You can find
the best farms near you at Beautiful fruit – only pick it ripe.
www.pickyourown.org. Often, such
places also provide attractions like
petting zoos, restaurants, and Water, sunscreen, moist
hayrides. Call for hours, parking, and towelettes, unscented insect
general information such as whether repellant, power bars.
they provide containers, most do. Ask
for suggestions on the best country Favorite fruit, favorite berry,
inn to visit for supper at the end of the best berry pie, best fruit dessert.
day. If you’ve had a great date, you
can make plans to get together to Homemade jam from the gift
cook your bounty of berries. shop.

Dress to Impress: Feed each other berries in a

If you’re picking berries, your super sexy way. Start
clothes will get dirty and the innocently enough by hunting
stains will be hard to get out. Still, for the perfect berry. Once
you can look hot in a pair of old jeans, you’ve found it, you’ll have to split it...
a black T-shirt, and a pima cotton
sweater to carry you into evening.

A denim miniskirt or jeans with a

cute football jersey T-shirt, sweet
boots and good socks. You too will

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SURVEY
How Often Do You Date?
12% voted: Once a week
12% voted: Once a month
35% voted: Once a year
6% voted: Twice a month
35% voted: Three times a week
www.AskApril.com Online Magazine
Survey

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FESTIVALS AND FAIRS
CHILDLIKE FUN.
S
etting the Stage:
If you are reading this book, you
are in driving distance of a
festival or fair happening this
month. Some of the very best are the
quirky local bashes, and the US alone
is a hotbed of these colorful local
celebrations. From Moose Days and
the International Accordion
Celebration in Washington State to the
Underwater Music Festival (ever heard
Jimmy Buffet underwater?) and the
Hemmingway festival in the Florida
Keys and anything in between such as
the Pumpkin fest in Keene NH, The
Mama Guava Fest in Tampa, the Santa
Cruz Fungus Fair and Oxnard
Strawberry days.
Sure those big Renaissance Fairs get
all the press, but they can be pricey
and over-hyped. It’s so much more
fun to go local, get a slice of your
world and your culture. This date has
all the innocent charm of the forties or
fifties when Johnny took Betty Lou to
the 4–H barn dance or Church Fair.
Avoid the heat of the day and take
your date in the late afternoon
between 3 or 4 o’clock. You’ll have
enough time to get in some good
sunlight, but also to take the date into
nighttime, so you can enjoy the
special fireworks and concerts that are
often a part of such events.
Festivals near you should be wildly
publicized, but if you want to know
what’s coming up ahead, try these
excellent sites: www.festivals.com,
www.artsandcrafts.about.com (for
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fairs featuring artists and artisans)
and www.festivalnet.com. Here is a
chance to show you’re “game,” that is
up for anything. The locals are
splitting wood in a contest? Enter and
have your date cheer you on. Make
sure you get some of the pie that the
church ladies are invariably selling.
Have a magical night taking a step
back in time.
Dress to Impress:
Go a little James Dean today with
your slightly faded jeans, black T-
shirt and boots. After all, you’re going
to try to win your gal a prize.
Either a cute mini dress or
sundress, or perfectly tight jeans
and a sweetly see thru top. Girl next
door makeup and sexy shoes you can
walk in.
Devil’s in the Details:
This date is all about food, so
absolutely indulge in the
specialty. This isn’t the date to
roll out a list of your food allergies, or
to explain all the tenants of your strict
cleansing diet. This date is guilt free.
If you’re walking in the heat, be
sure you have lots of water.
Other than that, imbibe in the local
treat – ginger lemonade or
huckleberry wine or pheasant feather
lager.
Find the concert schedule in
advance so you’re at the right
place at the right time.
 Everything possible.
Sunscreen, small bills, and a
sweater for later.
What were the local fairs and
festivals in your neighborhood?
What were your favorite things to eat
there?
If you don’t win a prize, buy your
date some fudge, homemade
jewelry, or a pie to take home.
There is nothing like a kiss on
the Ferris wheel. Make sure to
kiss your date every time it gets
to the top.
EXTRA!
Some more great historical toasts
to quote as you raise your glasses
“One drink is just right; two is too
many; three are too few.”
- Old Spanish saying
“My grandmother is over eighty and
still doesn’t need glasses. Drinks right
out of the bottle.”
- Henny Youngman
“After the White House, what is there
to do but drink?”
- Franklin Pierce
“The whole world is about three drinks
behind.”
- Humphrey Bogart

“If you drink, don’t drive. Don’t even

putt.”
- Dean Martin

“T’was a woman who drove me to

drink, and I never had the courtesy to
thank her for it.”
– W.C. Fields

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FREE MUSEUM
ARE YOU AN EXHIBITIONIST?
S
etting the Stage:
The great thing about going to a
museum for your first date is
that it’s so telling. You can find
out what your date does and doesn’t
like and how comfortable you are just
spending a few hours strolling around
together. Museums can be costly.
Luckily I have a solution that will allow
you to get in for free without having to
sneak your date in the back door!
A little–known secret is that almost
every museum in every city has one
day a month when the entrance fee is
waived. In fact, all of the museums
usually pick the same day, so you
could actually go from modern art to a
Japanese tea garden without spending
a dime or yen as the case may be.
Check out www.museum.com for the
best museums near you.
Dress to Impress:
Do like the artists and go for
black. Black pants with a black T-
shirt if it’s warm, or black
turtleneck and khakis if it’s chilly.
Skip the sneakers and opt for leather
shoes – black, of course.
On this date, more important than
what to wear is what not to wear.
Don’t carry a bag that will become
uncomfortable, avoid lots of layers,
and avoid wearing hard–soled shoes
so you’re not click–clacking your way
through the museums.
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Devil’s in the Details:
Since you can’t stroll the halls
with a picnic basket in hand,
you’ll want to stop by the
museum café for a treat. You don’t
have to break the bank, simply plan
the museum visit after lunch and the
two of you can share a small appetizer
and two glasses of white wine.
Some white wine with your
appetizers.
Information from the guide about
the exhibit that interests you and
your date.
Any exhibit that catches your
eye!
An open mind. A little outside
knowledge wouldn't hurt either.
If you don’t know that much
about art, bone up ahead of time
by reading about some of the artists
and genres you’ll be seeing. Don’t
worry if you’re still a little clueless,
sometimes just finding out that you
both love the same piece is an instant
way to connect.
Not all gifts have to be given at
the beginning of the date. Buy
your date a little memento of the day
from the gift shop.
Let the painting of naked people
spark a conversation about your
favorite body parts, then be
sure to compliment your date on
theirs!

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BOARD GAMES
A NIGHT OF FRIENDLY COMPETITION.
S
etting the Stage:
This date is a great way to roll
out your wit, your charm and do
something a little more original
than just meeting for drinks or coffee.
To pull this one off, you have to find
the local tavern, dive bar, or coffee
shop that either encourages you to
play board games, or has the space,
the vibe and the noise level
appropriate for playing them.
What’s your favorite game? Scrabble?
Monopoly? Battleship? Trivial
Pursuit? If your local pub doesn’t
stock them, bring your own, order up
a couple of frosty beers or a glass of
wine, and set up your table for fun.
Spread out the game, put some
candles around the table, and
challenge your date to a little wager.
A round of drinks if you’re not so sure,
a kiss if you know you are. You can
even bring silly prizes like a stuffed
animal, and play best two out of three
for the prize. If the date goes well,
the prize can be a trophy that you
play for again next week.
Be the master of ceremonies for your
own cozy, laid back night of
entertainment (I like this date for a
Sunday night, by the way) for as little
as the cost of a couple rounds of
drinks. Want to expand your budget?
Go when your local pub is putting out
the free happy hour food.
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Dress to Impress:
How cute are you in jeans, a wife
beater T, and your faded print (or
suede) button-down shirt worn
open and over.
Show your own individual Carrie
Bradshaw style here by wearing
your old cheerleading sweater with a
denim mini skirt, or a vintage
housedress slightly unbuttoned with a
lacy camisole underneath, or sexy
jeans and a tight baseball T.
Devil’s in the Details:
All you need are bar snacks
and nuts or the happy hour
feast.
This date says beer, but if the
lady's not a beer drinker, and the
wine selection is poor, order her
up a Cantaloupe Martini.
Cantaloupe Martini:
vodka, melon liquor, O.J., and fresh
lime served up in a martini glass.
The jukebox of course. This can
be another “prize” in your game.
Bring a roll of quarters and the winner
of each game gets to pick the music
for the next.
The smiles on your date’s face
when they win.
The game, the prize.
Favorite game, first game you
ever got as a kid, the most
heated game you’ve ever been in,
games that are family traditions.

The prize.

Well, you can always play for

more than the prize. To sit next
to each other in the booth, for a
kiss on the neck, the inside of the
elbow, and the wrist... very sexy!

TEN BOARD GAMES

EVERYONE SHOULD OWN
Scrabble
Monopoly
Uno
Cranium
Boggle
Battleship
Chess
Trivial Pursuit
Risk
Clue

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ROAD TRIP
JUMP IN THE CAR FOR SOME SEXY
EXPLORING.
S
etting the Stage:
This date may not be advisable if
you and your date have never
met before since it involves
spending the day together, but it
would be perfect if you’ve known each
other and you’re trying to transition
out of platonic–ville and onto the
highway of love.
All you’ll need is be willingness to
have an adventure, a full tank, and
the open road before you. Simply pick
a place you’ve never been (if you want
to be even more spontaneous, have
your date close their eyes and point to
a spot on the map), and then hit the
road. Plan your route on
www.mapquest.com.
Dress to Impress:
Since this date is all about being
on the road, use Steve McQueen
and James Dean as models. Perfectly
faded Levi’s, a tight–fitting T-shirt,
leather jacket, and leather shoes. Of
course, you can’t forget the
sunglasses – aviator style is a classic.
Come up with a look that will stay
cute throughout the day. Your
favorite jeans and a wife–beater tank
top with a tight cardigan for later
should be the foundation. Accessorize
with open–toe sandals and a ponytail
that will hold up against the breeze.
The wind whipping through your hair
may sound romantic, but your date
won’t be feeling that once he sees the
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mop it creates on your head. Keep it
up; keep it cute.
Devil’s in the Details:
If the trip is more than an hour
away, pack a few snacks ahead
of time to nibble along the way. Once
you get there, it’s all about
discovering the local fare. Stop into
the diner where the locals hang out,
and order the special.
Juice, soda and water.
Your favorite tunes.
The sights along the way and at
the selected locale.
A map, a cell phone, and a
spare tire (just in case). A
picnic lunch would be great too!
Talk about travel. Ask your date
where they’ve been, what they
loved best about that place, and
where they hope to visit in the future.
Who knows, the two of you just might
end up going there together!
Surprise your date by buying
them a small gift from the town
itself, or stop by a photo booth and
document the day with some fun pics.
If you’re the passenger in the
car, give your date a warm kiss
on the neck while they’re driving
back home. It’s simple, but so
surprisingly hot.

LADIES CHOICE:
MOST ROMANTIC MOVIES
1. Lady and the Tramp (1955).
2. Titanic (1997). (Romantic leads:
Leonardo DiCaprio & Kate Winslet).
3. Gone with the Wind (1939).
(Romantic leads: Clark Gable &
Vivien Leigh).
4. Casablanca (1942). (Romantic
leads: Humphrey Bogart & Ingrid
Bergman).
5. Pretty Woman (1990). (Romantic
leads: Richard Gere & Julia
Roberts).
6. When Harry Met Sally (1989).
(Romantic leads: Billy Crystal &
Meg Ryan). ‘My favorite part of the
movie is at the New Year’s Eve
celebration, when Billy Crystal runs
all the way to see Meg Ryan – what
he says is fabulous: “When you
finally figure out you love
someone, you don’t want to spend
another minute without that
person!” (Or something like that!)’
7. Ghost (1990). (Romantic leads:
Patrick Swayze & Demi Moore).
8. The Philadelphia Story (1940).
(Romantic leads: Cary Grant &
Katherine Hepburn).
9. Romeo and Juliet. (Romantic leads:
Leonard Whiting & Olivia Hussey
(1968); Leonardo DiCaprio & Clare
Danes (1996)).
10.Sleepless in Seattle (1993).
(Romantic leads: Tom Hanks &
Meg Ryan).

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FARMERS MARKET
SEE WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU GET
FRESH!
S
etting the Stage:
Many people like a low hassle
“pre–date” before they commit
to the four-course, five-hour
meal date with someone they don’t
know. The standard pre-date “coffee”
is both a little stale and can almost be
awkward as it says to your date that
they are “on probation”, being judged
to see if they are worthy of more time.
Want a fresher low-key date? This is
it.
A trip to the farmer’s market is a
perfect easy–going first date to have
on a weekend morning or afternoon.
A stress free time to get to know each
other, go for a walk, do some
shopping, support local farmers and
vendors, and maybe get a bite to eat.
If you don’t know where the farmer’s
market is located in your area, check
the food section of your local paper or
try the www.farmersmarket.net or
www.open–airmarket.net.
Haven’t been to a farmer’s market in a
while? In addition to the gorgeous
produce and romantic flowers, many
have turned into bona fide attractions
with everything from food vendors,
latte providers, live music, crafts
displayers, to petting zoos. Get the
skinny on your market. If there are
no food vendors at the actual market,
chances are there are coffee shops
nearby where you can grab a light
bite. You will fill your bags with fresh
fruit and flowers, but hopefully this
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date will leave you both hungry for
more.
Dress to Impress:
Daytime chic. Your khaki shorts
with your white linen button-
down, or your khaki pants with white
T-shirt.
A sundress, or low riding denim or
cotton skirt with a colorful net top,
and strappy sandals that you can walk
in.
Devil’s in the Details:
Almost all farmer’s markets
have food vendors, but at the
very least you can buy fresh fruit,
bread and/or cheese, and munch as
you go.
Have a couple lattes or mochas
after the date with pastries or
bread and jam you bought at the
market. Very French.
The sounds of the market, maybe
even live music.
Everything at the market, the
delight in your date’s eyes at
finding something special.
A big mesh shopping bag, small
bills, wet naps.
Where do you shop? Do you
keep food at home, or do you go
out? Have you ever spent much
time at a farm? Do you do any
gardening?
A bouquet of fresh flowers,
something from the craft stand.
Feed each other strawberries!
EXTRA TIPS & ADVICE TO
REMEMBER
Manners do matter: the rules to
basic table etiquette
Proper etiquette – those manners
expected and deemed required by
society – is not only very much alive,
but also of the utmost importance for
becoming a success in the dating,
social, and business arenas. In fact,
there are few more visibly powerful
telltale indicators of one’s class,
education, and training as the
knowledge and use of proper etiquette
or lack thereof.
From an informal blind hook-up
brunch, a romantic anniversary meal,
a casual business lunch to the all-
important client dinner, eating
presents a veritable plethora of
opportunities to commit faux pas that
at best can cause embarrassment and
at worst rejection.
While it’s impossible to turn back time
to undo the cheek-reddening incident
of nibbling on your boss’ bread, or of
hearing (via a friend of a friend) that
the reason “she” didn’t want to see
you again was because you “ate like
you were raised by a pack of wild
animals”, there is only one way to
insure these never happen again –
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learn the rules of table etiquette and
follow them to a T!
Rule #1: Liquids on the right, solids
on the left. Your bread plate is the
one to your left, and your water and
coffee cup are on the right.
Rule #2: From the outside in.
Silver is always placed in order of use,
beginning with the implement farthest
from the plate. If salad is served as a
first course, grab the fork that is
farthest from your plate – that is the
salad fork.
Rule #3: Lay side-by-side.
When you are finished with each
course your knife (with blade turned
inward) and fork should be placed
beside each other on the plate
diagonally.
Rule #4: Keep it in your lap.
You napkin that is! As soon as you
are seated, unfold your napkin and
place it on your lap. When the meal is
finished, or if you leave the table
during the meal, put the napkin on the
left side of your place-setting.
Rule #5: Stay erect.
I’m referring to your posture! Sit up
straight and if you can’t resist the
temptation to fidget, you may rest
your hands and wrists on the table,
but not your entire forearm and
definitely not your elbows.
Rule #6: She gets a rise out of you.
A gentleman always rises when a lady
joins or leaves the table.
Rule #7: Steady as she goes.
A gentleman always follows a lady to a
table, pulls out her chair and steadies
it as she sits.
Rule #8: Keep couples together.
Salt and pepper are considered
married and always get passed
together, even if someone asks only
for the salt.
Rule #9: Breaking bread.
Yes, it really is called that for a
reason! Bread and rolls are broken off
into bite-size pieces and butter is
spread on each bite as you eat it. It is
improper to use your knife to cut your
bread as well as to butter the entire
piece of bread at once!
Rule #10: Begin together.
At tables of eight or less people, begin
eating only after everyone is served or
after permission is granted from those
not yet served.
Practice Makes Perfect
Whether professionally or
romantically, proper etiquette
matters. It can make the difference
between lunch with your boss where
you are offered a promotion or one
where you are simply offered a
chicken sandwich. It can make the
difference between having a first-date
dinner and having a first-date dinner
that ends with “dessert”. It can also
make the difference between feeling
awkward and unsure of yourself in
social situations and you being an
individual with style, class and
charisma that owns the room.

Now that you’ve got a good start on

what to do, let’s talk a bit about what
not to do.

Never (and I mean n-e-v-e-r):

Put a piece of silver on the table
once you have used it;
Point your knife at anyone;
Push your plate away or rearrange
your dishes when you are finished
eating;
Use toothpicks at the table and/or
pick at your teeth with your
fingernail;
Lean back and announce, “I’m
through,” or “I’m stuffed”;
Put liquid into your mouth if it is
already filled with food;
Wipe off the tableware in a
restaurant;
Leave your spoon in your cup;
Wave a food-filled spoon or fork
about during conversation;
Cut up your entire meal before you
start to eat.

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CITY EXPLORATON
BE THE ARCHITECT OF A GREAT DATE!
S
etting the Stage:
Although some cities are hotbeds
of great architecture – Chicago,
Los Angeles, New York, Santa
Fe, South Beach – every city and town
has structures with stories to tell.
This is a wonderful educational date
where you will see beautiful things,
get some exercise, and learn
something new. The desire to learn
about things, often called simply
“curiosity,” ranks very high as a
desirable trait for prospective dates.
Show that you are in that category by
putting together the building blocks of
this fascinating day!
The foundation of this date is your
research. First, you must throw out
any preconceived ideas about what is
interesting architecture. You will find
it all over your town or city, in houses
and housing developments, churches,
libraries, schools, museums, public
buildings, railroad stations (one of the
best), university buildings,
skyscrapers and bridges. If you have
a college of architecture or an
architecture society in your town, they
should be your first contact. Many
publish guides or pamphlets to help
you on your way.
If not, your local tourism office should
have all the information you need, and
will help you map a great walking
tour. Simply enquire about the most
architecturally and historically
significant buildings in your area, and
all the information they have on them.
Once you have the tour mapped out,
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do additional research at
www.takus.com, or else “google” the
style of architecture predominant in
your area. Place your research in a
little binder together with your walking
tour map. With all that assembled,
you’ll be ready to be the Fascinating
Tour Guide. Take your date from
building to building, stop once for
coffee, and later for a glass of wine.
Feel free to enter the structures if
they are open and ask questions. This
is a wonderful date for under $20.
Dress to impress:
Casual city chic with comfortable
shoes. Your khakis and a good
oxford or sweater.
The most important thing here is
shoes. You want them to be
comfortable, but still attractive, so it’s
not the time to roll out a new pair! A
trusty low heeled pump, or good
wedged sandal works well.
Devil’s in the Details:
Make sure you identify a cute
coffee shop on your tour, as
well as a place to have a nice
glass of wine. The tourism office
should be able to recommend a few
places, otherwise, check out
www.citysearch.com. Call ahead to
ensure they’ll be open.
Let your date order the fancy
mocha, you can stick with coffee
if money is an object. Don’t be afraid
to order the house wine. Many are
delicious.
 The sounds of the City.

Obviously, the architecture, but

who can resist admiring the
curve of his neck as he looks at the
rooftops or her eyes as they open with
intrigue?

Your map, sunscreen, a cell

phone.

What kind of house did you grow

up in? What is your dream
house? What is your favorite
building?

Guys, pick a flower and present

it to her en route.

This date will provide lots of

unusual places to steal a kiss...
under a bridge, in a church
knave, under a beautiful arch. Be
inspired!

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PLAYING POOL
SEXY FUN, CORNER POCKET.
S
etting the Stage:
There is something about the
Tom Cruise, Paul Newman of it
all – the low lights, the smoky
rooms – that special allure which pool
halls have that says naughty fun. You
and your date, a big stick moving
slowly through her fingers, tasty
cocktails, swinging low hung lights...
are you feeling the heat?
Playing pool is an easy way to spend
an evening getting to know someone,
because it allows for some great
conversation as you take turns hitting
some balls mixed in with some light
spirited competition, and all for less
than twenty dollars.
Find a local pool hall in the yellow
pages or by visiting citysearch.com.
Pool halls are joints designed for pool
playing only, they have up to 50
tables or more, so it’s always easy to
get one. You can either play by the
hour or a flat fee (the latter is
cheapest) and usually they serve
alcohol. Call ahead to see what nights
are available for public playing, if in
fact they serve alcohol, and for an
added savings, if there are any half
price or bargain nights. Alternatively,
you can look up a great bar in your
area that has a pool table on
citysearch. If there is only one table
in your bar of choice, you’ll want to go
on a slow night or be prepared to have
to defend the table to all comers.
A little rusty on you pool game?
Brush up on the rules and get a few
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tips at soyouwanna.com. If the date
goes well, you might be “clearing the
table” later!
Dress to Impress:
Blue or black jeans with a black T-
shirt.
Sexy pants with a bit of stretch
and a low cut ruffled shirt. Black
on black makes the best silhouette.
Alternatively, a cute mini with a T-
shirt and chunky belt, or a wife beater
T and your favorite jeans. Are you the
kind of girl that can pull off a sexy
fedora over one eye? Bring it on.
Devil’s in the Details:
On this bargain date, look no
further than lots of popcorn or
peanuts usually provided on the
house.
Longneck bottles are the
tradition, but if she doesn’t like
beer order her a sultry Dark and
Stormy.
Dark and Stormy:
dark rum and ginger.
You’ll most likely be listening to
the jukebox, but blues also sets
the right mood. Stevie Ray Vaughn,
the old blues tunes of the Rolling
Stones, Robbie Cray, vintage Rikki Lee
Jones, anything by Sun Records.
Watch the view as he lines up a
shot….mm hmm.
 Cues and chalk will be provided.
Just your hustlin’ attitude will
be needed.

Favorite pool scenes and pool

movies, favorite tavern games.

A card for a free night at the pool

hall, or better yet, make your
date a sexy blues CD.

Playing pool is an excuse to flirt

in the guise of a game. Think
about it. Everything about it is
sexual. Make long lingering eye
contact, lick your lips and play with
that pool cue. Help each other with
your stroke. There is no end to signal
sending in this environment.

THE TOP FIVE THINGS THAT

WOMEN FIND SEXY
1. CONFIDENCE!
2. Style & manners
3. A good sense of humor
4. Lovemaking prowess
5. Power & money

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KARAOKE
A HARMONIOUS DATE.
S
etting the Stage:
Yup, it’s the stuff that movies are
made of. This is a great budget
date; you get free entertainment
for the price of a few drinks. But
you’re going to have to get up there.
Yes you are. Why go to a karaoke
place if you’re going to watch from the
back? So don’t try this date unless a)
you’ve got a great voice, or b) you’ve
got great confidence and style. You
have to be born with A, but you can
just assume B, and B is what your
date finds far more sexy and
compelling!
First, find a karaoke bar in your area.
Many regular bars have designated
karaoke nights, and you can find them
in your city’s free weekly or at
www.citysearch.com. There are also
places that are all about karaoke, only
for karaoke, a monument to karaoke.
Many are located in Asian
neighborhoods. In fact, many Asian
bars now have the new rage from
Japan - movie karaoke, where you act
out your favorite scenes from classic
movies.
Remember, if you ask someone out,
you’re the host. That means you have
to sing, they don't. Sure its great if
they get up there and belt out a song
like Chrissie Hynde, but if they're not
up to it, don’t push 'em. It’s all about
you, crooner.
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Dress to Impress:
Here’s a night where you want to
look hot and comfortable. Black
pants are slimming, so start with a
pair and throw on a hip black or gray
patterned button-up shirt, or a vintage
sweater in a cool color.
Flirty short skirt, Nancy Sinatra
go-go boots and a tight long
sleeved blouse.
Devil’s in the Details:
On this date, bar snacks. If
you’re in an Asian restaurant,
order a delicious inexpensive
appetizer, like spring rolls.
On a budget? Ask the bartender
if there are any specials,
otherwise stick to beer. The two of
you can split an oversize beer like
Kirin, otherwise, let the lady order
sake or a plum martini.
The sounds of karaoke.
Just how brave you can be!
You, your sexy voice,
confidence and style.
It's all about music. All-time
favorite band/singer? Favorite
genre of music? Favorite song? Any
guilty pleasures (songs you secretly
like, but would never admit to liking)?
 At Asian restaurants order The
Bellman, a rum juice cocktail
served in a fat Buddha glass that you
get to take home. Then the gift is
free.

Want a guarantee to sweep your

date off their feet? Rehearse a
super sultry song and sing it
right to them. What song? Well,
anything by Marvin Gaye, especially
“Got to give it up.”

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 CONCLUSION
Now that you know where you're going and what you’re doing when you get there,
you're ready to take the wheel and hit the road. However, let’s first review the
basics one last time:

1. FIRST IMPRESSIONS: The Perceptions People Form (of us) Based Upon Our
Personal Style.

Personal style is the single most significant indicator of who someone is, who they
want to be, and who they want us to perceive them to be.

Statistics show that how we appear says more about us – and is more important –
than what we say verbally, especially when it come to first impressions.

No matter how terrific you are, no matter how much your friends, your parents and
your dog all love you, no matter how absolutely amazing you can be once someone
gets to know you, the reality is your success with people that you want to impress,
including potential girlfriends or boyfriends, wives or husbands, and employers – is
based almost entirely on someone else’s perception of you within the first 3 to 17
seconds of your first encounter. Even if the perception is wrong, it is a fact that
people sum up their interest in you almost instantaneously – and they believe their
first opinions. An impression is a simple, primal response that is formed
instinctively and takes a shockingly short amount of time to get. More importantly,
once locked in, it is very difficult to change, in fact most experts agree – it is
impossible to do so.

2. PERSONAL STYLE: It’s More Than Just Your Clothes.

Your personal style is your overall package. It includes everything you’re your
hygiene, haircut, etiquettes, way of speaking and dressing, to the manner in which
you walk and carry yourself.

As anyone who has read my advice column on www.AskApril.com or my books,

Date Out Of Your League (for men) and Think & Date Like A Man (for women),
knows, I believe dating (and life) is all about sales. People form their perception of
you based upon your personal style, in other words, your advertising and
marketing. You are advertising and marketing YOU. You are saying here I am –
this is me – buy me. Not that guy or gal over there, me.

Visual clues are big in business, just as they are big in psychological aspects of
dating – it’s not so much about the naturally good-looking guy or gal vs the not-as-
naturally good-looking guy or gal. It’s all in the packaging and the presentation –
the advertising and the marketing.

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3. WHAT TO WEAR

Your clothes and the image they project are vitally important on a first date. What
is the message that you want your clothes to relay about you and who you are?
What you wear will speak volumes, so choose your outfit carefully. If you’re
uncertain as to what you should buy or wear, pick up Date Out Of Your League (for
him) and Think & Date Like A Man (for her) – each contains a complete wardrobe
list.

4. THE ATTRACTION FACTOR

Men like to admire. They are drawn to curves, contours, and shapes. Ladies that
convey the message that they are sexy and seductive without going over board will
usually be asked out again. Women should wear clothes that are flirty and fun
without looking like they're getting ready to go to work on the street corner. Unlike
women, a man will marry a girl who works at MacDonald's if she's beautiful, hot,
and sexy enough.

Women, on the other hand, assess. They are attracted to confidence, class, style,
and intelligence. The politically incorrect truth is that women want to marry up, not
down and so they place high value on status and the tell tale signs ie. money,
power and success. To land those beautiful women, men should be well-dressed
and well put together in order to project an image of success and confidence.

5. THE DO’S & DON’TS OF DRESSING FOR A DATE

Men, women are not attracted to cheap, style-less, disheveled, sloppy and classless
men. As far as women are concerned, A Well-Dressed Man = A Confident,
Successful Man. A man who knows how to dress with style and class will set
himself apart from 80% of the male population. If you want to win in the world of
dating, gentlemen, then dress for success.

Ladies, there is a myth going around that men date bad girls and marry good girls,
but don’t be fooled. If a man does not find you sexually attractive, he’s not going
to date you, much less marry you. On the other hand, DO NOT give him the
impression that he's going to have a hard time keeping you “off the pole". And yes,
that is exactly what I mean. There is a fine line between sexy & classy, and cheap
& trashy –don’t cross it unless your goal is to be perceived simply as a party girl.

6. WARDROBE TIPS: For Some Basic Date Settings.

WARDROBE RULES:
No matter what
you’re wearing, whether
it’s dressy or casual, here
are a few basics that we
should all adhere to:
Battle of the Bulge:
No matter how great an
outfit looks on the rack, if
Dinner
Ladies – Set yourself apart from the rest - wear a dress!
So many women wear pants, which can be a hot look, but
show your guy how feminine you are by donning the
ultimate femme outfit, a little black dress. {There's a
reason the little black dress has become a classic – it’s
classy, and sexy. Try it on for size, and you'll see what I

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it doesn’t fit you well, mean. To perfect your look, pair it with a pearl necklace, a
then pass. If you’ve
fabulous stiletto, and some sexy lingerie -- just in case,
gained some weight, do
yourself a favor and buy and you’re good to go. Remember: your guy could
a larger size. You'll look probably care less about that Prada bag you just dropped
more attractive if you big bucks for, but every man I've ever met loves a woman
wear clothes that are size in high heels.
appropriate and fit well.
Trust me. If your clothes
don't fit well, buy new Guys – Now’s the time to go out on a limb and dress up a
ones or get to a tailor, bit. Put on a nice pair of trousers, and jacket -- paired
pronto. with either a great button down or even a high-end T-shirt
underneath. Don't forget to match your shoes with your
Down and Dirty:
Never wear dirty clothes belt -- and take off the sneakers. Please. It’s only for one
– period. night.

A Wrinkle in Time: Movie

Wrinkled clothes look
sloppy. Iron your clothes
Ladies – Tight jeans or a flirty feminine shirt, with a big
or get them soft sweater and that same pair of stilettos (you know,
professionally pressed from the dinner date. Wink!) Perfection!
before you go on a date.
Guys – Go for a pair of jeans or khaki's, paired with a nice
Sew what?:
Maintain your wardrobe T-shirt and a sweater or a jacket and a pair of loafers or
and keep clothing in good moccasins.
repair (no missing
buttons, no holes, frayed Drinks After Work
seems, unraveling hems,
etc.). If you don't know
This is the one date where your work clothes are perfectly
how to sew, get rid of the acceptable.
torn clothing and buy
something else. It's a Ladies, lose or open your jacket, change to a higher heel,
worthwhile investment.
let your hair down, and add some lipstick.

Guys, loosen up your tie, but other than that ... you’re
good to go.

Weekend Brunch
Brunch is a great opportunity to play with what appeals to
you because it’s one of those rare times when practically
anything goes.

Ladies, you can wear anything from your Sunday best (a

summer dress and high–heeled sandals) to a cute but
super casual Juicy Couture outfit.

Guys, the same applies to you, you can wear suit pants
and a sweater or jeans and a button down. It’s your free
day pass, so relax, enjoy, and make the most of it.

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7. GETTING THERE

On a first date, if you don’t know her well, many women will want to meet you at
your destination. Now guys, don’t take it personally. It’s just a rule for many
women. If you’re picking up your date, make sure your car is clean and in good
working order both inside and outside. The inside should be vacuumed and should
smell clean. Keep condoms hidden in the glove compartment (just in case) and
make sure your gas tank is topped off. A first date is not the time to pull into the
gas station.

8. BODY LANGUAGE

Before you utter a word, your body is saying a lot on your behalf. Depressed or
anxious, amorous or excited, it’s all out there for others to see whether you know it
or not. This is why I think it’s so important to actually understand and be able to
control what it is your body is saying to your date, (and what your date’s body is
telling you) through a mere gesture, or tilt of the head.

To this end, let’s take a look at a few basic body parts and whether you’re
projecting on the outside what you feel on the inside.

A. Show Your Interest

Face Forward – Your head should be facing the person to whom you are
speaking, and it ought to be tilted and/or nodding to let them know you are
interested. Don’t get carried away, though. A slight nod will suffice!

Eye Contact - Direct and continual eye contact is key, but there is a delicate
difference between direct eye contact and staring your date down. Know the
difference and do the former.

Body - As with the face, your entire upper body should be pointing toward the
person with whom you’re speaking. Leaning in just a bit with your torso is an
effective way to let them know you are interested, engaged, and flirtatious.

Legs - Our legs, and even feet, tell part of our story. If standing, legs should be
helping you lean ever-so-slightly forward, feet in an open position. While
sitting, it’s best to keep both feet flat on the floor beneath you, or crossed at the
ankles. Even though it’s a common way to sit, an ankle resting on the knee can
seem as though you’re fidgety or eager to leave, so unless you’re ready to run,
keep ’em planted.

B. Gauge Their Interest

Caressing - When your date touches himself or herself, or an object (such as a
glass), it can mean they want to touch you or that s/he wants you to touch
them. Tread carefully - there’s always the possibility that it’s just an itch!

The Touch - Attention! Attention! No matter where, when, or how – even if it

seems accidental – if your date touches you, you’re being sent an undeniable

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Still not sure whether your date is digging you? Check out whether they’re
leaning in toward you or pulling away. Are their eyes directed straight into
yours or roaming the room? If it’s the former, you know you’ve got them and if
it’s the latter, it might be time to roam the room yourself.

FIRST DATE CONVERSATION DO'S AND DON'TS

First dates can either be ignitable or real duds. What’s tricky is that sometimes the
ignitable dates fizzle out and fade away fast, while the duds just take longer to get
going and slowly boil. Here are some tips on first date conversations that will help
you get to where you want to go by learning about your date and having fun doing
it.

1. Do ask what you want to know. Why bother with superficial

DO:

questions that riff on that old standby, "What’s your major?”

If you know what you want in a relationship, then don’t waste
time on a first date or a first date type of conversation.

The best way to be a dating success is to identify what you

want and date people who have those qualities. In other
words, if you are interested in a casual, non-committed
relationship, don’t date someone who is looking to get married
and to start a family. Understand your goal and stay focused.
Don't waste your time or someone else’s. If s/he doesn't fall
into that category, go out with someone else.

2. Do tell the truth, but don’t give your entire unedited

autobiography during dinner. The idea is to go back and forth
in a conversation. Be aware of who’s doing most of the
talking. If it’s you, stop talking and ask some questions.

There's a difference between playing coy and lying. You

should always tell the truth – just not the entire truth all at
once! Regurgitating your life story in one sitting is boring.
The key to success with both men and women is to keep them
wanting more.

3. Do be aware of what s/he tells you and what they don't tell
you – pay close attention to any subjects they might avoid.

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 1. Don’t talk about your ex – any ex –and don’t ask your date

DON’T about theirs.

2. Don’t interrogate, and don’t pry. If you ask a question that
makes your date feel uncomfortable, make a mental note of
the question and move on to another topic. If the question is
a very important one to you, for instance, “Do you see
yourself having children one day?”, revisit it on a third, fourth
or fifth date.
3. Don’t ask your date to a Labor Day party when you’re on your
first or second date in July. Please don’t ask them to
Thanksgiving dinner with the family on your first or second
date around Halloween. Too much too soon, is just that – too
much too soon.

When It’s All Said and Done

Remember, the first time you meet someone, you have an opportunity that will
never come again – the chance to make a fantastic first impression! How you look
and what you say and do, along with how you say and do it, will either make or
break your first date.

If you dress well, speak with assurance, and carry yourself with confidence, you’ll
convey positive things about yourself. In essence, you’re saying, "I can be looked
up to, admired, and trusted: I respect myself."

50 First Dates has given you the tips and tools to execute a great first date. Now
get out there and Hit Them With Your Best Shot!

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