personal problems: 

"I feel depressed and bad about myself, some situations scare

me,I'm anxious and tense, it seems that I have ceased to develop
myself, my sense ofdecline."

• a test: we need help to get through difficult events (death, illness, job loss,

separation).

· The difficulties in interpersonal relationships: "I often feel that people do not like

me, I'malways in conflict and I do not know how to solve them. I feel isolated, ill-
suited in myrelationships with others. 

"Why is it that i"m so shy and timid even when i don't

want to be shy? why is it that i turn red so much ?
i have always been a shy person, but i don't like been shy. i have tried to talk louder, to dont
be shy but my attitude isn't all. i turn red for the smallest reasons so when i try not to be shy i
still turn red and people ask so then i would get more shy because they noticed i turn red. the
things that make me be timid are pointless, like for example reading out loud in front of
people, asking for the time to an stranger, being asked for something by someone in the bus
stop, attention, even when we're on a group with people that i know and i say something
funny i laugh and i turn red, when they tell me i look pretty, meeting new people, when i say
something that i'm not really sure about, or when i'm questioned about a fact that i've given...

why is it that i'm like this?

what can i do to make this go away?
how can i be less shy?
how to be outgoing ?

Am I Anti-Social? No, I'm Not Anti-Social; I'm

Just Not A People's Person
I'm the type of person you'll find on a friday night, writing stories or reading books.
Perhaps even chatting online. No, it's not that i don't have a party to go to, i simply don't
want to go.
I love my friends and family and spend time with them. My mother complains i never go
out and mix with society. So what if i don't want to go to an alcohol-fuelled party? Would
you prefer that i stay in and enjoy myself or go out, get drunk or get high and do
something i'll regret later?

Who cares if i think The Sims and Need For Speed are the best games to play on a friday
night? Or that i would rather settle down and watch a movie by myself, with friends or
family? I care. And you know what else? I couldn't be bothered what you think. You can
believe i'm anti-social. You can believe i'm a loner. But frankly my dear, I don't give a
damn.
Introverts like me have a place in society. We're the ones who research things, predict
outcomes in experiments and do the "behind the scenes" work. You extroverts are the
ones that tell the world your achievements and brag about them. Introverts are quiet,
calm and relaxed. We don't like parties or social gatherings. We prefer to stay at home
and read or write or play computer games.
I am not going to conform to society's wish and be "loud and proud." Instead, i am going
to be myself because there is no one out there in the world quite like me and never will
be! So i am not anti social, i just don't like people.

I'm not very social, and I have a hard time fitting in?
I don't fit in a lot with anyone, but no one EVER makes fun of me. I'm kind of not fitting in by
choice. I sometimes (not all the time) have a hard time talking with people. At lunch I'm
usually just hanging out with one person who's pretty introverted like me. 
Whenever I see popular people talking and socializing I wonder how they do it. I've tried to be
really social and it was kinda weird, I felt like I was acting gay. Anyway, whenever I walk into a
circle of people I can't think of anything to say, then I feel really awkward and I walk away.
I always just want to be alone or only with one person, people always tell me I look depressed
and sad and I never smile. I try not to be like that but I just am. I laugh, not as much as most
people though. Nothing ever excites me, I just feel bland all the time.
What's my deal? What's wrong with me?

Can't Make Decisions

I never seem to want to make a decision.  Every time I make a decision I treat it like I will die if
I make the wrong one.  Can someone offer suggestions as to how to be more at ease with
tough decision making? 

I have the same problem, though the obsession not only pertains to my owndeath, but also to
friends and family.  For instance, I could be shopping for a new pair of sneakers, find a pair
that I really like, and then suddenly be smacked with the irrational thought that if I purchase
the sneakers, my life will suddenly slide into quick and downward spiral, eventually leading to
my inevitable death.  Likewise, the same can be attributed to thoughts towards friends
and family. 
 so nervous around her I can barely speak!"

After one year of trying to go out with this girl, she has finally said yes. The problem is I get so
nervous that I can hardly speak to her or even look her in the eyes!

I have dated before and I’m usually the talkative, outgoing type. However, when I’m with her I
just shut down and can't even talk.

I have never felt this way about someone before and now I’m afraid that I might lose her
because of my nervousness. Please I desperately need some advice!

Cheating on his wife

Hi,I'm a 27 year old male and have been with my girlfriend for a year. After
my 1st real love 4/5 years ago I had been single for about 3 1/2 years - i
can't simply go out with anyone for the sake of it. Then I met my current
girlfriend and it's amazing, we're great together, I love her very much and
we've been through so much together the last year. However, I've been
drinking a hell of a lot when I go out and went out with work 2 days ago, got
extremely drunk, didn't know what i was doing or how I would get home. A
girl came up to me to see if I was okay etc and she said that I could sleep on
her couch until the next day then somehow I wake up the next day having
had sex with her and am repulsed by what I've done.

I have 2 options:
a) I tell my girlfriend (whom I seriously love, sounds hard to believe), break
her heart and mine, and we break up all because of one HUGE mistake.
b) I don't tell her, in the end I blank it out (no one knows about this at all.
However, I will always know that I've scarred our relationship even though
she won't find out, what if we stay together for years and end up getting
married - would I be able to go through with it always keeping such a big
thing from her.
Can you please help, I have no excuse but I GENUINELY LOVE her - and
you REALLY KNOW if you love someone.