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STRONG FAMILIES
O ye who believe! save yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is Men and Stones over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe who flinch not (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allah but do (precisely) what they are commanded. Tahreem, 66:6
Your riches and your children may be but a trial: but in the Presence of Allah is the highest Reward Taghabun, 64:15.
And Allah has made for you in your homes an abode. Nahal16: It has been reported by Ibn Abi Aldunia and others (Sahih al-Jaami) that, When Allah loves the people of a household, he introduces kindness among them.
Choosing a wife
A woman is married for four reasons; her wealth, her family, her beauty and her faith. So, marry the one who is religious and you will prosper. Saheeh al-Bukharee vol.9 no. 132. Marry women who are loving and prolific in giving birth, as I shall outnumber the other Prophet's (nation) through you. Ahmad 5/245. Al-Albaane said it is authentic in Irwaa al-Ghaleel 6/195
Choosing a husband
If somebody comes to you and you are pleased with his character and religion then marry him. If you do not, there will be discord on earth and widespread corruption. Ibn Majah 1967.
3-Positive communication
Sharing feelings Giving compliments Avoiding blame Being able to compromise Agreeing to disagree
4-Time together
Quality time in great quantity Good things take time Enjoying each others company Simple good times Sharing fun times
5-Spiritual wellbeing
Hope Faith Compassion Shared ethical values Oneness with humankind
7-Strong families have rhythm and pattern & are flexible to change
They have routines, rituals, and traditions that give direction, meaning, and structure to the daily flow of life. There are rules or principles that they live by. Healthiest families are also open to change From both the past and the present grow new traditions and new rhythm The harmony and rhythm may change in creative ways, but the beauty of the music continues
4-Make a plan for effectively dealing with conflict before you have conflict.
Don't wait until the heat is on and tempers are high to decide how to best resolve a disagreement. Plan ahead. When needed, put your plan into action.
DUA
us wives and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous Al Furqan, 25:74