THE LIFE DRAMA ~ The 3 Levels of Mind ~ The 3 Worlds

Part II : The World Beneath ~ The Subconscious

The intermediate between the form and the bottom. The subconscious world. The secret world that we know but we dont want others to know about it. That is why we guard it so vehemently with our false personalities, false identity and false self image. Here lies the psychological and physical manifestations that makes us vulnerable and weak. The world beneath encloses all the mistakes of our parents and their bad examples; the atmosphere, the religious dogmas, skepticism and vices of the society, our impulses etc. The world of Complexes, Phobias(fears), Traumas (hurts), Rejections and Manias. All inter-linked together creating a tangled web inside our psyche. Lets try to untangle them a bit:

TRAUMAS
Traumas(hurts) are the result of bad childhood. It is very difficult to educate children. To know how to guide them. There are many ways of creating traumas. Overprotection without giving them certain independence. The person becomes closed. Insults, punishments, mocking. The child is not able to understand. First hitting and then cuddling. The child cannot understand this. He cannot understand that the parents have egos. On top of it parents often never apologize to children when they mistakenly express anger or hurt them wrongly. Traumas are also born in consequences of accidents. Traumas of cold, heat, women/men, height. We need to overcome traumas. To face the event is the best way to eliminate traumas. To comprehend and to forgive the other people. To understand that what is hurt is in fact our own egos, that is how the traumas are cleaned from our psyche. The Traumas accumulate as untransformed impressions and fuel the Complexes, Phobias, Rejections and Manias. The whole process gets started when you are mistreated as a child in your family or school. Not being able to make sense of this irrational abuse, having no knowledge how to transform it, having no way to express it back on the adults or a bullying sister/brother, most of it gets repressed in the psyche. But now, you can:

1. Begin by accepting the fact that, when you were a child, others inflicted their own internal unconscious conflicts on you and that they are not perfect and they were mostly unconsciously repeating the mistakes their parents projected to them. And that it is impossible to raise children in a conscious way when you yourself are unconscious. 2. Now, you can choose. Either, you can go on keeping your hatred and anger towards them and keep on passing it to your children and loved ones. In this way creating more pain and suffering for you and others. Or, 3. With this understanding, you can now decide to stop hating and blaming them. You can decide to stop hating others for being so mean to you; you can do this by having compassion for their suffering in their own unhealed emotional pain, and you can forgive them for their blindness and failures. And you can stop hating yourself for being unable to fix things. 4. Instead, you can seek to understand others, to transform your resentments and hatred and anger. This is a process, which you already know is accomplished through the Meditation of the Death of the Ego.

Some of the patterns that result from these childhood traumas are: 1. Susceptibility -- Its a trauma of being too much sensitive that makes us anti-natural. A susceptible person is very sensitive, vulnerable to all kinds of impressions and thus gets too much identified with any external or internal influence. Many times the people unconsciously develop this tendency of being susceptible as one form of protection that mostly benefits their egos. These psychic states of fragility make us believe that all people want to harm us or take advantage of us. With this justification we put ourselves on the defense against everybody. It is like one hurt, an open wound which is never healed. So even if air passes over it, it hurts. As never was educated from childhood to understand, to forgive, to love. These type of people are more prone to adopt a people pleasing tendency, living in a constant fear of criticism and fear of rejection. Who understands and dominate this trauma lives more in peace and tranquility. 2. Culpability/ Guiltiness- These feelings disturb and alter our lives. Its the tendency to judge ourselves. We get identified with our own mistakes. We have to understand the multiplicity within and accuse the ego. Yes, we are responsible for many wrong doings which we need to accept with courage but why feel guilty for things we never did. And when we are guilty of doing something wrong, not to justify it but accept it, comprehend it and eliminate it, without falling into guiltiness and defeatism. Its just one wrong way of applyin g judgment to oneself. We have to defeat the ego, which is the cause of mistakes; do not defeat your Essence. 3. Timidity- Its a behavior that has one psychological base i.e the pride of negation, the inferiority complex in most cases. One way to call attention. One person secretive, vague, introvert that does not speak or express and generally observes everything, can fall into

being antisocial. There are timid people who are dangerous and others not. Many of us in some form or other have some timidity. We need to make efforts to stop being like this and relate more in a natural way.

4. Feelings of Being Persecuted - These are states of traumas where one has the feeling that people want to harm us. Its created when anytime in the past we were ro bbed or assaulted. Because of wars, social problems, etc. Feeling persecuted seeing a policeman. 5. Anguish and Anxiety - Its a sensation of oppression. The anguishes and anxieties are created because of strong preoccupations about the life, ambitions, the work, the children, the economic problems etc. One person that is preoccupied too much for helping others until consumes himself, if not balanced can fall ill. We have to understand that the body has its limits. A person full of anguishes and anxieties can fall into many physical illnesses related to heart, brain hemorrhage, blindness, allergies, hypo gastric illness, ulcers etc. We have to learn to work according to our capabilities. It is a question of how to organize or regulate our life. Dont try to fly when you cannot walk. Ambitions lead to anxiety, stress, and depression, and when one is not able to fulfill them becomes anguished.

6. Fabulations - Fabulations are a kind of fantasies. Uncontrolled imaginations. Like sometimes, we have some imaginative sensation that a person is bad or negative, creating a mistaken concept about that person. The fabulations are very much related with Illusions.This happens with people who dont have control over their mind and emotions, lacking psychic stability. The women fall more into fantasies.

7. Depression and Defeatism - Depression comes from too much anxieties, expectations, worries, doubts, fears, anguishes, frustrations. All these things lead us to defeatism. A person who feels defeated is terrible, is a coward. In that moment of difficulty we have to firmly raise our head and decide to go ahead but not with ego or self image or superiority complex but with comprehension and force of will.

8. Emotivity - This is a characteristic seen in people who are sensitive. An emotive person or emotional person is alright but a hyper emotional person is exaggerated. Lack of self observation and control makes us hyper emotional. Exaggerated laughing, gestures, noises shows a low level. A persons beloved is died so he can feel some pain but making noise is terrible. We need to know how to die, how to live.

PHOBIAS
Phobias are persistent, excessive, irrational fears of certain objects or situations.People plagued by phobias recognize that their fears may be outsized and

unreasonable, but are unable to overcome them. They are essentially prisoners of fearful patterns. Fears that take control of our mind and emotions. Phobias are the consequences of traumas and insecurities. There are many kinds of Phobias(over 700), some of them are:

1. Sociophobia - Fear of social gatherings, fear of socializing, fear of embarrassment in social situations. Tendency to be isolated, a person who is introverted, close, silent.

2. Claustrophobia - Claustrophobia is a fear of enclosed places. A typical claustrophobic will fear restriction in at least one, if not several, of the following areas: small rooms, locked rooms, cars, tunnels, cellars, elevators, subway trains, caves, and crowded areas. It is the fear of having no escape and being closed in. It has two key symptoms: fear of restriction and fear of suffocation. A more accurate description of Claustrophobia might be 'a fear of not having an easy escape route' because for anyone who experiences this phobia this is the predominating feature - you feel a need to be able to get out of that situation or place, quickly.

3. Agoraphobia - Agoraphobia is the fear of being in a situation where one might experience anxiety or panic and where escape from the situation might be difficult or embarrassing.Traditionally thought to involve a fear of public places and open spaces. Sufferers of agoraphobia avoid public and/or unfamiliar places, especially large, open, spaces such as shopping malls or airports where there are few places to hide. In severe cases, the sufferer may become confined to his or her home, experiencing difficulty traveling from this safe place.

4. Specific Phobias - Fear of a single specific panic trigger such as spiders, snakes, dogs, water, heights, flying, catching a specific illness, etc. Many people have these fears but to a lesser degree than those who suffer from specific phobias. People with the phobias specifically avoid the entity they fear. Some of them are listed below:

5. Androphobia - Androphobia is an abnormal fear of men. It is often related to traumatic events in the sufferer's past. Aversion to some kinds of men that women develop. The result of the distrust and incredibility created in the childhood.

6. Gynophobia - An abnormal and persistent fear of women. Some kind of women that men develop.

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Pedophobia - An abnormal and persistent fear of babies and children.

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Sitophobia - Fear of food. An abnormal aversion to food. Feeling that some foods are

going to hurt us.

9. Thanatophobia - Obsessive fear of death. Necrophobia or thanatophobia is the abnormal fear of death or dead things (e.g., corpses) as well as things associated with death (e.g., coffins). Thalassophobia An abnormal fear of sea(water).

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11. Pantophobia - Fear of everything, to loneliness, to strange noises, the night.Omniphobia, Pantophobia or Panophobia, is a condition known as a "non-specific fear" or "the fear of everything" and is described as "a vague and persistent dread of some unknown evil".

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Zoophobia - Fear of animals, some kind of animals.

13. Thermophobia - An abnormal and persistent fear of heat, including hot weather and hot objects. The opposite of thermophobia is cryophobia, fear of the cold. 14. Xenophobia and Racism Fear (and strong antipathy or aversion) of strangers or foreigners or of anything that is strange or foreign. For a certain race.

REJECTIONS AND MANIAS

These are repressed psychological charges because of the result of not knowing how to transform the impressions. These kinds of attitudes are a form of repression that accompanies many times strong rejections, fears and aggressivity. The cause is the lack of comprehension for the things done, for lack of communications and also ignorance. Whenever we feel repressing ourselves for something not comprehended, before creating manias and rejections, lets talk about it and dissipate it so as to comprehend it.

Some of the Rejections are: 1. Social Resentment- Its an attitude of rejection towards the humanity. The causes can be many -- contempt, racism, revenge, xenophobia, isolation etc. Sociability is fundamental in the life.

2. Aggressivity- Its a rejection created in the interior of one person who is very instinctive and because of a lack of level of being and knowledge becomes like that. A suffering or indignation, a disillusion, failure in love, loss of work, abandoned or death of parentsetc. results in this state.

3. Rebellion and Resistance - These psychosocial behaviors are the opposite forces that are expressed as much in the interior as in the exterior and put brakes on the work on oneself.These are the attitudes of disagreement and rejection. The disagreement, antipathy, opposite reactions and all classes of resistance are one defensive mechanism to hide the psychic state that we have in our interior. The rebellion is a force of resistance also known as contra-transference and hides the nobility and reflection of an individual. This kind of attitude should not be seen with any consideration or empathy. Its a form of cunningness conscious or unconscious, in many cases that leads us to justification and escaping from our reactions. This is the secret weapon of the ego to have its own way in order not to accept its mistakes. The internal sincerity can eliminate the contra-transference and establish a rebellion against our own self. This is the authentic revolution.

Manias - The manias are diversity of vices and abnormal behaviors that are expressed consciously or unconsciously. Generated because of the bad examples of the parents and friends. Some of them are:

1) Kleptomania - Maniac tendency to steal without necessity and just for pleasure.Exists independently of the ego of thievery that we have.

2) Poriomania - Abnormal compulsion to wander away or leave home. Wants to escape, irresponsible person. No interest in life. No dignity.

3) Gregarious - Instinctively or temperamentally seeking and enjoying the company of others. Copying others for good or bad. Crowd behavior. A very weak person. Falling into entropy, the law of the least effort. Has no will. A serious problem as many crimes are committed in a group which singularly none of those might have committed. Such as, when in a group as part of a crowd, even educated people start pelting stones.

4) Pyromania - Pyromania is an impulse to deliberately start fires to relieve tension and typically includes feelings of gratification or relief afterward. Deriving pleasure in burning something, liking the sensation of fire.

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Sexomania - Sexomania or sexual addiction refers to a condition in which a person

shows hyper or excessive interest in sex. Kind of madness related to sex. Everything is related to sex, the life is very degenerated. Any dialogue between man and woman thinking of sex. Pornography, masturbation etc.

6) Sensationalism - Sensationalism is a manner of over-hyping events, being deliberately controversial, loud, self centered or acting to obtain attention. Identified with newspapers, TV, films. Not good. Shortens life.

7) Masochism - A tendency where one loves to suffer. Feel certain pleasure in receiving pain. It can be the deriving of sexual gratification, or the tendency to derive sexual gratification, from being physically or emotionally abused. The deriving of pleasure, or the tendency to derive pleasure, from being humiliated or mistreated, either by another or by oneself. A willingness or tendency to subject oneself to unpleasant or trying experiences.

8) Sadism - Sadism is pleasure in the infliction of pain or humiliation upon another person and watching pain inflicted on others. Some of the severe activities involved in sexual sadism include burning, beating, stabbing, raping, and killing. Some sadists experience torture as a game and the victim as a toy. The family background of a sadist often includes alcoholism, divorce, or constant fights between family members. Thus, this creates a compensating drive to be strong and tough...to avoid being vulnerable or abandoned.

9) Egotism, Egocentrism (Egomania) - Egomania is an obsessive preoccupation with one's self. One is possessed by delusions of personal greatness and feels a lack of appreciation. Necessity to attract attention of others. The problem is self estimation and narcissism, talking always about himself. Obsessed with an exaggerated sense of selfimportance; full of conceit instead of regard for others.

COMPLEXES
Inferiority and Superiority- 2 sides of the same coin, they are part of the same thing, the pride. We dont have to be more or less in the life, we have to be what we are with humility and normality. When we observe ourselves, we become aware of the fight of the opposites going on in different centers of our human machine. Firstly, we will concentrate on the dualisms of the Intellectual and Sexual Centers only. The intellect develops ideas: with its incessant battles of thesis and antithesis. Ideas for and ideas against, affirmation and negation. The dualism of sexuality, splitting them into attraction and repulsion. Acceptance and

rejection. If we see a person from the opposite sex, what are the reactions going on in the Intellectual and Sexual Centers? First reaction comes from the Sexual Center -- Attraction or Repulsion. Either we feel attraction towards that person or we reject that person. And as we already know that the Sexual Center is so fast that this whole process takes only 1 or 2 seconds. Later the slow one, the Intellectual Center jumps in with its Affirmation or Negation. If we are attracted to that person, the negation the Inferiority Complex triggers the Fear of Rejection. And the Affirmation the Superiority Complex if it would be first able to defeat the Inferiority Complex, would try to win over or conquer that person, and if rejected would feel hurt(angry) and again feed the Inferiority Complex. On the other hand, if we feel repulsion towards that person, then the Inferiority Complex triggers the Fear of Loneliness. The Superiority Complex would just reject the person by ignoring or behaving in a disinterested manner. But in each case a battle goes on in the Intellectual Center. And between the Intellectual Center and the Sexual Center. A battle of head vs sex. For example, when we observe this in the practical life, in relationships, there were these cases of two of our past students. Both had a strong degree of repulsion towards their partners. One was many years into an arranged marriage. On the surface everything was fine. But as she admitted that she felt a strong repulsion towards the husband in their first meeting itself, where she received some negative impression from him, which she never could transform till date. Because of parental pressure she had to marry this person. So, what would make her to marry such a person in the first place or keep on living with him in spite of such strong repulsion? The Fear of Rejection from the parents and relatives made her marry him and the Fear of Loneliness triggered by the Inferiority Complex keeps her to stay in the marriage. But it was very evident that at deeper levels, she had not accepted her husband. On the physical front, this conflict resulted in uterine fibroids. The second case was still in the courtship period. It was a love affair. The girl and boy both suffering from Inferiority Complex. This Inferiority Complex had created a lot of hatred, anger and envy in the boy which he would keep expressing on the girl. The question was what made the girl stick to the relationship in spite of feeling repulsion towards the boy because of these negative impressions. Again her Inferiority Complex triggering the Fear of Loneliness. Her Inferiority Complex telling her, she would not be able to get any better partner, so why lose even this one. In both cases, this rejection/repulsion for their partners implied one more thing, that is they did not accept their partners as they were or are. The result was that although both keep on being with their partners on the physical level, but internally both fantasized about being with somebody else and they wanted to make their partners like the ideal person of their fantasies.

The fight is terrible. The head vs the sex.

Welcome to the Subconscious World. The worshippers of the Mind, the Mind Power proponents would like us to believe the astonishing powers of this subconscious. Yes, there is power in the subconscious but that can only be released if we are able to free that power from these complexes, traumas, phobias, etc. Lets see how the Inferiority and Superiority complexes come into the picture? Alfred Adler who coined these words wrote, "To be a human being means to feel oneself inferior. The child comes into the world as a helpless little creature surrounded by powerful adults. A child is motivated by his feelings of inferiority to strive for greater things. When he has reached one level of development, he begins to feel inferior once more and the striving for something better begins again which is the great driving force of mankind." Now we can understand very clearly that this striving for something better is basically the Superiority Complex trying to overcome that Inferiority Complex. An inferiority complex is a feeling that one is inferior to others in some way. The inferiority complex causes shyness, pessimism, anxiety or lack of communication and is a result of prolonged lack of social contact. Still, there is no precise borderline between the inferiority and superiority complexes.Emotional manifestations like rage, revenge drive, sorrow, the incapacity of listening or looking into the eyes of someone else, changing the topic of conversation towards his/her own person, are all signs of an inferiority complex evolving towards a superiority complex. The superiority complex is the result of an individual developing exaggerated pretensions of himself/herself. The superiority complex is expressed through haughtiness, arrogance, vanity about personal look, eccentric dressing, exuberance, snobbery, bragging, tyrannical behavior, a proneness for finding mistakes and faults in others, etc.. We all want to be accepted, to belong, to participate. But if in childhood we have more of those instances where we are rejected, whether it is a perceived rejection or a real rejection does not matter; these rejections trigger the Inferiority Complex. And with each rejection the inferiority complex becomes more stronger. Also, the Fear of Rejection is developed and strengthened.

Pay attention to perceived and real both. Now, that Inferiority can take us in two different directions. Either it makes us more introvert, shy, closed and finally a total failure. This may be manifested in withdrawal from social contacts or excessive seeking for attention. Or we try to compensate it with Superiority in either that same field where we received rejection or in some other fields. For example, if I am weak intellectually, then I will try to compensate it with some other talent like music or dance, or through money. Some people can try to gain intelligence or knowledge to compensate in a big way. But whatever we can do, we try to do it. Either in that aspect or in some other way. E.g. if we are weak financially, we try to tell ourselves that other people are spiritually poor, or they do not have my wisdom. This terrible subconscious fight between these 2 complexes goes on every second of our waking or sleep life. Observe this comparison, this judgement going on in the Intellectual Center all the time. If only for a few seconds this comparison would stop, we could feel the Vasudhev Kutumbakam, the feeling of community, participation, cooperation, being a part of the whole, and in a higher sense the feeling of Divine Oneness.

And what is vasudhev kutumbakam? The whole world is my family, the feeling of cosmic brotherhood. "If you have the feeling of community, and you are interested in your fellow man, then you cannot keep competing, and trying to do one better than others. And this is what people do all the time-they want to take it away from someone else, to keep their own glory. They go in a direction that leads only to them, and is away from mankind." "If people have developed the feeling of community at the affective level, they are likely to feel a deep belonging to the human race and, as a result, are able to empathize with their fellow humans. They can then feel very much at home on the earth -- accepting both the comforts as well as the discomforts of life. At the cognitive level, they can acknowledge the necessary interdependence with others, recognizing that the welfare of any one individual ultimately depends on the welfare of everyone. At the behavioral level, these thoughts and feelings can then be translated into actions

aimed at self development as well as cooperative and helpful movements directed toward others. Thus, at its heart, the concept of feeling of community encompasses individuals' full development of their capacities, a process that is both personally fulfilling and results in people who have something worthwhile to contribute to one another. At the same time, the concept denotes a recognition and acceptance of the interconnectedness of all people." "And since true happiness is inseparable from the feeling of giving, it is clear that a social person is much closer to happiness than the isolated person striving for superiority. Individual Psychology has very clearly pointed out that everyone who is deeply unhappy, the neurotic and the desolate person stem from among those who were deprived in their younger years of being able to develop the feeling of community, the courage, the optimism, and the self-confidence that comes directly from the sense of belonging. This sense of belonging that cannot be denied anyone, against which there are no arguments, can only be won by being involved, by cooperating, and experiencing, and by being useful to others. Out of this emerges a lasting, genuine feeling of worthiness." When we feel we belong,when we feel one, when we feel connected, participating, then there is no one superior, no one inferior. But, Vasudhev kutumbakam feeling can only come with opening of crown, which in turn cannot happen till the heart opens up. If you just even meditate on these words - "Vasudhev Kutumbakam", the Divine Oneness,the cosmic brotherhood, does not the fight between the superiority and inferiority stops immediately?

And the sexual center also shuts up. Why? Because if I am one with all, where is the question of attraction or repulsion? All are then accepted as they are. The fight is going on because of the opposites, when there are no opposites, there is no fight, no competition, no discussion, no judgement. Lets say we see a smart/beautiful movie hero/heroine. What great battle begins inside us, amazing!

Sex- attract Superiority(intellectual)- oh they are all sluts Sex- repel, reject

Fear of loneliness- but they are so beautiful, may be I might get fulfillment with them Inferiority- hey, why would they accept you Superiority- anyway who wants to even talk with these dirty people Sex- (fear of rejection from the society or partner)-oh, if they find out they will just reject me for this low behavior

What a terrible fight! But if we say in that moment-who am I to reject or accept. Who am I to judge whether they are sluts or pious? And we accept that they are beautiful and we are attracted to them. And we do not reject nor feel rejected. So, we say it is fine, whatever you are, I love you, why should I hate or reject you. But we have to take some side, somebody has to win or lose. If only we just accept whatever is as it is. We are dependent on others as much they are dependent on us. Its the interdependence which inter-links the whole society. We need the maids, the cab drivers, the Municipal Corporation workers (why reject them-who will clean the gutters or take our garbage::we should love them for doing our dirty jobs), we need everybody. So lets accept everybody. Even ourselves as we are. But by accepting ourselves, we do not in any way mean that we start loving ourselves (self-love), or we start justifying our errors by saying, thats how we are, what can we do? No! By accepting ourselves as we are , means that we do not try to create a false self image of ourselves. We know we are full of egos and we have to change, to become better. We have to self realize. But many times when we do not like what we see in the mirror, we unconsciously stop accepting ourselves as we are and start creating a false self image which we like. Thats what we need to break. Because if not, then again this leads us to compare, which leads us again back to the dualisms of attraction and rejection. So when we accept others, its important to accept ourselves also. And in doing so we will feel like a big family. The feeling of community, which then takes

away the fear of rejection, the fear of loneliness. Why one wants to be famous? So that we can get over this fear of rejection and fear of loneliness. This Fear of Rejection and Fear of Loneliness is responsible for one more tendency or psychological pattern which is very common nowadays the tendency to please others. People pleasing tendency shows itself in people who go overboard trying to make everyone happy, mainly those in power like their parents, bosses, teachers, etc.. For them, the uncontrollable need for the elusive approval of others, or acceptance is an addiction. Their debilitating fears of losing approval, rejection and confrontation force them to use "niceness" and "people-pleasing" as self-defense camouflage. In relationships and marriages, people pleasers often gravitate toward extremely controlling individuals and spend their time and energies in trying to please them. One reason people develop people pleasing tendency is that as children, their parents only showed them love on a "conditional" basis. Their parents only demonstrated kind, loving behavior when they behaved in a compliant, submissive manner. On the other hand, when as children they misbehaved, such parents reacted in an excessively displeased, unloving, unkind, and furious-perhaps even abusive manner. Thus, either knowingly or unknowingly their parents sent them the message that the only way to be considered worthy of love is to act in a pleasing, obedient manner all the time. The mind of these children establish various strategies to survive in the emotional environment of their family. Those strategies are based on the assumption that if love is not natural, plentiful and given freely by mother and father then it can be gained by one scheme or another by them. The program thus implanted in their mind is: If I do right, act nice, achieve, work hard, get it right then I will be loved, belong, be given a place in the family. If I do wrong, offend people, fail, slack off, or make a mistake then I will be rejected, excluded, not be loved. When the program is working one feels good. But, when in spite of their good self image, this program does not work in some situations or with some people, then their reaction to such rejection, disapproval, confrontation and criticism is as if they are facing a major disaster. Feelings of depression, anxiety, fear, anger, rage, despair, a possible nervous breakdown all are possible. The root of the problem again lies in the Inferiority Complex resulting from the rejections

and hurts(traumas) received in the childhood. Moreover, all the past real or perceived rejections received by us create the hate and anger in us. And with all that hate, one totally opposite behavior to people pleasing is seen in some people that they reject more to be even. They reject me, so I reject them. And what more, I will reject them even before they reject me. This leads to a Superiority Complex which has as basis only hate and anger. So understand that both the Superiority and the Inferiority are based on the ego of pride. The inferiority is as much a part and parcel of pride, as superiority. Can any humble person feel inferior? Humility has nothing to do with inferiority. Moreover, the source of superiority is in inferiority. Why would somebody like to be superior if he/she does not feel inferior in the first place? And the Inferiority is in the first place because of that fear of rejection because of past experiences of rejection. If we have full faith that we are accepted, then there will be no inferiority. Without inferiority complex there cannot be a superiority complex. Superiority complex is just to compensate for our inferiority. So all attempts to disintegrate the superiority complex would go waste till we do not finish the corresponding inferiority. Nobody can make us feel inferior if in the first place we do not have that inferiority already within us. If somebody rejects us, lets not accept that rejection. Lets not reject ourselves. The problem is that we start believing that persons perception of us as true. No. That does not matter. What we feel about ourselves is more important. If we accept their view of us as inferior then we have to compensate that with superiority in some other way. But if we do not feel inferior in the first place, then no compensation is needed. So, we can change that even now by rejecting their rejections. But do not reject the person, rejecting you. Like Mahatma Gandhi rejected the British rule over India, over him, but he never rejected the British as people. In fact, he loved them as people. Therefore, reject peoples rejections but not the people who reject you. Know that you have that choice. Why should we accept other peoples judgement about us? We need not. Lets practice self honesty. Objectivity with ourselves. And doing that we need not reject them as people. We only reject their opinions about us. We only reject their wrong concepts and beliefs. This is the way to develop Ahimsa(non-violence) and real Love. Then we would not feed the inferiority and superiority complexes with more hatred and anger.

Moreover, the blame game would end too. We blame them for our failures, basically our inferiority complex, because of their rejections. But in doing that we make them our masters. As if we are saying that they control our lives. If we are the choice makers than we decide, we choose whether to accept that rejection or not. And we decided to accept those rejections in the first place, why blame them now for our shortcomings or failures or our lot. We have to blame ourselves for making poor or wrong choices. So to conclude when we overcome the fight of opposites of the Emotional Center -- like and dislike, love and hate, TRUE LOVE can generate (opening the Superior Emotional Center). When we overcome the fight of superiority and inferiority through developing the "Vasudhev Kutumbakam", the Divine Oneness we develop GOODWILL towards all (opening the Superior Intellectual Center). When we overcome the Motor Brain fight of opposites (including the fight of attraction and repulsion) we develop the WILL TO DO GOOD. As Master Samael says Action without any inner fight. Intuition flowing and resulting in action without distractions. No opposites. No fight. Meditate on this! Once you understand your subconscious deeply, real change can happen.You will be able to understand yourself and others much better.

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