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Quarterlife Crisis

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Along with the New Year comes the realization that I'm going to be turning 25 in a couple of months. I recently came across this book and thought I'd share this excerpt: "Jim, the neighbor who lives in the three-story colonial down the block, has recently turned 50. You know this because Jim's wife threw him a surprise party about a month ago. You also know this because, since then, Jim has dyed his hair blond, purchased a leather bomber jacket, traded in his Chevy Suburban for a sleek Miata, and ditched the wife for a girlfriend half her size and age. Yet, aside from the local ladies' group's sympathetic clucks for the scorned wife, few neighbors are surprised at Jim's instant lifestyle change. Instead, they nod their heads understandingly. "Oh, Jim," they say. "He's just going through a midlife crisis. Everyone goes through it." Friends, colleagues and family members excuse his weird behavior as an inevitable effect of reaching this particular stage of life. Like millions of other middleaged people, Jim has reached a period during which he believes he must ponder the direction of his lifeand then alter it. Chances are, if you're reading this book, you're not Jim. You know this because you can't afford a leather bomber jacket, you drive your parents' Volvo (if you drive a car at all), and, regardless of your gender, you would happily marry Jim's wife if she gets to keep the house. But Jim's midlife crisis is relevant to you nonetheless, because it is currently the only age-related crisis that is widely recognized as a common, inevitable part of life. This is pertinent because, despite all of the attention lavished on the midlife crisis, despite the hundreds of books, movies, and magazine articles dedicated to explaining the sometimes traumatic transition through middle age and the ways to cope with it, the midlife crisis is not the only agerelated crisis that we experience. As Yoda whispered to Luke Skywalker, "There is another." This other crisis can be just as, if not more, devastating than the midlife crisis. It can throw someone's life into chaotic disarray or paralyze it completely. It may be the single most concentrated period during which individuals relentlessly question their future and how it will follow the events of their past. It covers the interval that encompasses the transition from the academic world to the "real" worldan age group that can range from late adolescence to the mid-thirties but is usually most intense in twentysomethings. It is what we call the quarterlife crisis, and it is a real phenomenon." Alexandra Robbins & Abby Wilner, Quarterlife Crisis: The Unique Challenges o f Life in Your Twenties I feel like I've been having a quarterlife crisis for years now, where nothing is wrong and everything is wrong at the same time. They say sometimes the heart doesn't know what it wants until it finds what it wants. I say my life would be so much easier if my heart would just do what my head tells it to.

POSTED BY LILY ON FRIDAY, JANUARY 04, 2013 LABELS: OUTFITS, PERSONAL

1 5 C O M M E N T S : Morgane le Fay said... Such a great outfit, I love it that it is different! Love, Melly http://morgane-le-fay.blogspot.de/ JANU ARY 4, 20 13 AT 3:50 AM Jaida McKie said... Love the jumper, sweater and necklace! I'll be turning 25 in May so I can relate to this 100%. It's been

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the most confusing phase of my life thus far and I can't wait to get past it! AHHHH! Lol JANU ARY 4, 20 13 AT 5:37 AM Regina said... Awesome overalls! http://fashionyard.blogspot.com JANU ARY 4, 20 13 AT 9:17 AM Sharon Lei said... Turning 25 was a great year for me. Wishing you all the best 2013 has to offer, Lily. You deserve happiness!! Love you. :))) And yay, you are totally killin' it with those overalls. xx Love & Aloha http://elisharon.blogspot.com JANU ARY 4, 20 13 AT 10 :0 4 AM thereafterish.com said... This is how most of my adult life has felt like: I feel like I've been having a quarterlife crisis for years now, w here nothing is w rong and everything is w rong at the same time. And this statement, They say sometimes the heart doesn't know w hat it w ants until it finds w hat it w ants. I say my life w ould be so much easier if my heart w ould just do w hat my head tells it to... really sums up what I feel pretty regularly... but somehow, things fell into place after being unemployed for awhile and moving to Hawaii. I question less and use my heart more and somehow, my heart and mind seem to line up a lot more once I choose that living more simply is the way to go. I don't know what started it all... but I love the place I'm at. So glad the crisis of my ENTIRE TWENTIES is over. I'm praying you can find serenity. But seriously, my life got SERIOUSLY better after 25. LOVE YOU BFF! Mae Xx // thereafterish.com JANU ARY 4, 20 13 AT 4:17 P M Alexandra said... The outfit and the copy = the best. I'm definitely going through something similar at the moment but I kind of find solace knowing that a lot of us are going through the same thing, right? And you know what...you're so inspiring and cool and straight up DOPE AS HELL (ridin dirtyyyy) that I can 1100% tell you that even if you stopped thinking about your next step and just let life take you wherever, you'd wind up a huge smashing success and exactly where you should be. Anyhoo, you also look super amazing here, but what's new. Love the overalls. We are planning a BWB ASAP - I know Jan's probably busy for you at work but can we make a solid date for either later in the month or Feb or whenever? Holla at yo girl xoxoxoxoxo JANU ARY 5, 20 13 AT 11:39 AM FASHION SPIKE said... This comment has been removed by the author. JANU ARY 5, 20 13 AT 12:45 P M Masi said... I love that you're clearly a fashionable gal, yet your posts are rarely related to fashion. You are so multifaceted and intriguing. I just love reading your blog. Also, I can totally relate on the quarter life crisis, I'm still trying to find myself and what makes me happy. Will there ever be a time of 0 unrest, when we are entirely content and satisfied with where we are in life? It almost seems in achievable. Who knows.. JANU ARY 6, 20 13 AT 1:22 AM Jarmila said... What a refreshment! I adore your blog!

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