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Carey,Mia Ms.Jones English46th March20,2014 DateRape

Rapeisanyactofsexualintercoursethatisforceduponapersontoobtaindominanceand itisaviolationnomatterwhodoesit.Rapeoccursinrelationshipswhereabusivebehavioralready exists.Ithasnothingtodowithbeinginloveorbeingmarried.Rapeleavesanumberofdifficulties amongthevictimlike,drasticmentalsymptomssuchasdepressionandextremesadness,drugabuse, physicalsymptoms,prolongedrecoveryandanabruptpauseonthevictimsnormallifetorecoverfrom theincident.Overtheyears,womenhavebeenviewedasamanspossessionsothismeansthatifhe rapesherthisisaviolationofpropertyrightsandnotherhumanrights.Rapevictimsareafactortoa crimethathasbecomeanepidemicinAmericaaswellasallovertheworld.

1.DateRapeDrugs Benzodiazepinesarealargegroupofdaterapedrugs.Thehistoryofbenzodiazepinesisa verybriefandstraightforwardone.Itwasdevelopedin1950sandabout2,000differentkindsof benzodiazepinesaremade.Themostcommonprescriptionsarexanax,klonopin,valium,ativan, tranxene,serax,centra,librium,andpaxipam.Theyareextremelyaddictiveandsubjecttoabuse.These pillscanbegiveninsmalldosestoseehowtheywillworkandhowlongtheywillwork.Thisisagrave factorindetermininghowthisdrugisused.Whenthesepillsaretakenalonetheyhaveareallygood

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recordofworkingeffectively.Whentakenasaoverdosethepillscancauseveryseriousproblems whichmaycausedeath.Theycanbeevenmoredeadlywhenusedwithdifferentdrugsandwithalcohol andmayleadtoproblemssuchasdepressioninminorcasesandcomaanddeathinmoreseverecases. Physicalandpsychologicalproblemswilloccursinweeks. Theyhavepropertiesinthemthathelpcalmthebodyandmindandreducetheanxietyof thevictimandtheyalsoslowdownthebody.Duetothesepropertiestheyareoftenthefirstdrugs chosenbyphysicianstotreatanxietyandotherdisorders.Ifthedrugdoesn'tlastlongthenitcanbe usedinsurgery,tohelpreduceanxietyandtohelponefallasleep.Itmakesthepatientfeelbetterfaster whichcausesaddiction.

2.DateRapeCauses
Somecommoncausesofrapecanbesocialization,miscommunication,andchanging sexualmores.Thiscanmeanthatthemalehasgottenmoreaggressive,ortheirhasbeen miscommunicationintheareaofsex,orthemaleexpectssexafterafewdates.Rapecanbecausedby manydifferentreasons,buttherearereasonableclaimsthatmostvictimsarerapevictimsarerape victimsbecauseofthewaytheyperceivethemselvesinpublic.Bythatstatement,itmeansthatthevictim dressedtoosexyorrevealedtoomuchskinandbroughtunwantedattentiontothemselves.Possible rapevictimscanbeprostituteswhodressinexplicitclothing,gomissing,andthenarefounddeadin anotherstatewithproofofrapeallovertheirbodies.

BeingawomanishardworkAnonymous Victimsthatseemnaivearealsotargetedduetothefactthattheymaybeyounginage

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andmentality.Thiscausestherapisttohaveaneasiertimemanipulatingthevictimintotrustingthemand thentakingadvantageofthem. Parties,wherealcoholanddrugsareinheavycirculation,includethemostrapeincidents. Theyalsotendtoincludesomebadturnouts.Thesepartiesareunattendedandhavemanyunderaged teens.Theagelimitforstatutoryrapetiesinthemidteensrange.Therefore,older,moremature,guys canenterthepartyandpretendtobetheirageandpreyontheyoungergirlsandleaveduetonoI.D. checks.Collegepartiesarepresumedtobethepowerhouseofalldaterape.Theytendtohavearape incidentsallthetime.Ifthevictimtriestotellauthorities,itwillbedifficulttryingtoconvincethem becauseitwasjustthemthereandthedefendantcaneasilyproclaimthatshewasintoxicatedand dreamtthesituationup. Unsuperviseddatingcanalsobeacauseofrape.Whenteensdatetheytendtowanttobe aloneandtocomeclosertogetherbygettingtoknoweachotherbettersotheygotosecludedareas wherenoonecanseethem.Thevictimhassethis/herselfupinaverybadsituationbecausetheydonot reallyknowthepersontheyarewith.Parentscanhelpstopthisfromhappeningbysuggestingthatthe couplepickamoreopenplacetohangoutwheretherearepeopleallaroundandwheretheycansee them. Nevertheless,knowingsomeoneforalongtimedoesnotknockthemoffthelistofbeinga daterapist.Trustissomethingthatmosthumanshaveineveryonethattheyhaveknownsincetheycould remember.Trustisnotapactwithasignaturestatingthattheywillneverhurtyouanditis,andcanbe, easilybroken.Trustinginthewrongpersoncanbeanopendoortoone'sdeepestanddarkestsecrets andcanleavethevictimvulnerable.Somepeoplemaysaythatfriendsaresupposedtobethereand providesupportinallyourbigdecisionsbutothersbelievethattheworstpeoplecancometothem

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whentheyareinasituationthatleavesthemdistraughtandlookingforcompanionship.Thismistakecan leaveoneinapositiontomakeevenmoremistakes. Studiessuggestthatallcasesinvolvingblackmalesuspectsandwhitefemalevictimsget themostattentionfromthecourtandthenewscastbecauseawhitewomanwasassaulted.Theyalso receivetheworstpunishmentsduetoskincolor.Thesecasesexpressagreatdealofdiscrimination towardsAfricanAmericancasesandalsoshowalackofseriousnesstootherformsofrape.Therefore, rapelawsrequireadeeperculturalchange.TworapecasesincludeWilliamKennedySmithof1991 andMikeTysonof1992.Bothvictimswereaccusedofrape.Eachtrialwasthesameduetothefact thatthevictimsaidthatthedefendantrapedherandthedefendantrepliedwithequalityinthesituation. InthetrailwithSmith,thejudgeonlysentencedhimnotguiltybecausethejurylikedthedefendant. Smithmeta29yearoldwomanatabarandsexuallyassaultedher(Unknown,W.K.Smith).Andin theTysontrial,thejurylikedthevictimbettersoTysonwasfoundguiltyandwenttojail.Tyson attendedthemissblackamericapageantinindianapolis...flirtedwithwomen...impressedDesiree Washingtonandrapedher(Unknown,MikeTysonRapes).Tryingtofixrapelawsandtheopinions embeddedwithinitwillbedifficultandwillneedextrememeasuresofreform.

3.DateRapeEffects
Psychologicaleffectsofdaterapecouldbedepression,posttraumaticstress,nightmares, alcoholabuse,drugabuse,guilt,andextremefluctuationoftheemotions.Thesesymptomscanbe treatedbysupportingthevictimandnotatallinanywayblamehim/herforwhathappened.Support groupsandtalksessionsdailycanhelpthemgetthroughanotherdaywouldmeantheworldtoavictim whofeelsasthoughtheylosttheirdignityandinnocencerippedawayfromthem.Somephysical

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symptomsaregynecological/genitalproblems,pain,pregnancy,STDs,andsuicideattempts.Thiscan alsobecuredbysupportandmedication.Thevictimwillhavetobecoaxedintogoingtogethelpeven thoughtheythinktheyareokayandfullyfunctional.Puttingtheproblembehindthemimmediatelyafterit happenedwillnotonlyhurtthevictimbutitwillalsoteartheminsideoutnomatterhowseriousor harmfulitwas.Theemotionaltolldaterapetakesonahumanisunimaginablebecauseofthefactthat thevictimcannotseeanyotherwaytogoonandthepersonwhohasn'texperiencedthesituationcan notrelate.Alltheycandoisbethebesttheycanbeatmakingsurethatpersoncanaskthemfor anythingtheymighteverneedandhelpthemdownthepathofrecovery.

4.DateRapeSolutions
Therearemanydaterapesolutionsthatcouldhelpthenextunluckyteenprotect themselves.Onesolutioncouldbethattheteenshouldnotbedrinking.Iftheteenmakeswisedecisions andchoosesnottodrinkalcoholthathasbeenprovidedandpossiblytamperedwiththentheteencan almostassurethemselvesthattheywillnotbeharmedinanyway.Theteenscanalsobeofhelpto themselvesbyjustgoingtopartiesthattheyknowarebeinghostedbyothertrustworthyteensandnot teenswhoareknowntothrowwildparties.InthebookSpeak,themaincharacterspokeupabouta rapethathappenedatapartyshewentto(Anderson,Speak). Aseconddaterapesolutioncouldusethebuddysystem.Thebuddysystemmeansto nevergosomewherealone.Predatorspreyonindividualswhoarealoneandtendtolooklost.Using thebuddysystemcanminimizeyourchancesofevenbeingapossibilityduetothefactthatthepredator wouldhaveawitness.Alsousingthebuddysystemwillhelpwhengoingsomewherelateatnightandto apartytheyknowisgoingtohavealcohol.Anothersolutionisnottoconsumedrinksthathavebeenleft

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unattended.Leavingadrinkoutofsightisabadthingbecausethedrinkcanbespikedwithdangerous drugsandthepersonwhodiditcanjustwaitfortheeffectstokickinandthentakecontrol.Whenever adrinkatapartyisleftunattended,thebestthingtodoistogetanotherone.

5.DateRapeStages
Rapeistraumaticbutbeingrapedbyapersonthevictimknowsandtrustedisevenmore traumatic.Somecharacteristicsofadaterapistsareimmaturebehavior,angeroraggressiveways, dominance,jealousorpossessiveways,noregardforspaceboundaries,noregardforthevictims wishes,hostilityandgreateraggressiveways,separationofthevictimfromfamilyandfriends,demands ofattention,insistsonbeingaloneonthefirstdate,askspersonalquestions,andobeystraditionalmale andfemalestereotypes. Somepointersonassistingavictimofrapeareencouragingthemtoseekmedicalattention eveniftheydonotwantit,showingthevictimloveandaffectionatalltimes,notaskingtoomany questions,andnotblamingthevictiminanyway.Somewarningsignsandsignalsoftheacutephaseare thevictimgetsveryquietandexpressestheirrapeinamorephysicalfeelingsuchasheadachesand sleeplessness.Voicesofcouragegivesvoicetothephenomenalcourageofmaleandfemalesurvivorsof sexualviolence(Anderson,VoicesofCourage). Somewarningsignsandsignalsofthechronicphasearethevictimconstantlythinksabout whathappenedbyreplayingthescenesinhisorherheadtofigureoutwhereheorshemissed something.Thisphasecanhappenbaseduponthefeelingofdenial.Somewarningsignsandsignalsof thelongtermphasearethevictimbecomesselfconservedfor6ormoremonthsandfullyunderstands whathappenedtothem.Thevictimnowknowsthattheywillbeokayandwillmakeitthroughthe

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situation.

6.DateRapeReporting
Afterarapeassault,instructthevictimtocallafamilymembertobewiththem,gotoa safeplaceandcallthepolice,nottotakeashowerbecausethemoreevidencethebetterthechances arethattherapistwillgetcaught,gotothehospitalemergencyroomtogetaSTDandapregnancytest, andwritedownadescriptionoftheoffenderandwhathappened.Thevictimshouldmakesurethatthey gotocounselingandgetthecorrecthelptheyneedbecausethatwillgreaterbenefittherecovery process.Thevictimwillneedcheckupstomakesurethattheyarecomfortableandrecoveryisgoing well.

Someonewashurtbeforeyou.beatenbeforeyou,humiliatedbeforeyou,andrapedbefore you.Yetsomeonesurvived.Anonymous Tellingafriendaboutwhathappenedwillmakeiteasiertobegintofigureoutwhat happened.Somemaysaythattellinganadultwillhelpyougetthenecessaryhelpneededandwillhelp yougetmoreaccurateanswersbutwhileallthatistrue,tellingafriendwillmakeiteasierforthevictim totellsomebodywhathappened.Noteveryvictimfeelsasthoughtheycantrustanadultandmany wouldratherchoosetheirfriendsoveranadultanyway.

Inconclusion
RapevictimsareafactortoacrimethathasbecomeanepidemicinAmericaaswellasall

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overtheworld.Ithasnothingtodowithbeinginloveorbeingmarriedanditoccursinrelationships whereabusivebehavioralreadyexists.Ifherapesherthisisaviolationofpropertyrightsandnother humanrights.Rapeleavesanumberofdifficultieslike,mentalsymptoms,depression,extremesadness, drugabuse,physicalsymptoms,longrecoveryandaholdonthevictimslifetorecover.Rapehappens toeveryoneofallagesanditcanbeprevented.

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