Embrace

Your
Brilliance
Claudette Rowley

Transgressor
personal development
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To Ethan – my brilliant, shining star.
 Contents
Introduction i
How to Use this book iii
CHAPTER 1 1
Embrace Yourself 1
Come Home to Yourself 3

Give Yourself the Gift of Value 5

Obstacles to Embracing Our Gifts 7

Embrace Yourself – Going Deeper 9

The Art of Dreaming 11

Feeling Stuck? Use the Power of Writing 13

CHAPTER 2 16
The Gift of Obstacles 16
External Obstacles Versus Internal Obstacles 18

The Catch 19

The Benefits of Being Stuck 19

Caught in the Perfection Trap? 24

What if it’s not a Problem but a Path? 26

The Magic of Change 28

Bust Out of Your Box 29

The Nuts and Bolts of Obstacle Elimination 31

Obstacle Shifters 31
CHAPTER 3 35
Tell the Truth 35
Searching for Answers 36

Integrity: Our Compass of Truth 37

How’s Your Alignment? 39

Choices 40

Free Yourself from the Time-Money Trap 42

Kick the Habit 44

Deep Respect 47

CHAPTER 4 50
The Art of Wanting 50
Give Yourself Permission 51

So You Know What You Want … Now What? 53

The Mechanics of Moving Forward 54

Now It’s Your Turn 55

What’s Draining You? 56

Assess Your Energy Drains 57

Define Yourself 60

Float the Goal 62

CHAPTER 5 65
The Power of Perspective 65
The Perspective of Luck 69
The Perspective of Presence 71

The Perspective of Belief 74

The Perspective of Intuition 75

CHAPTER 6 82
Purpose: What Calls You? 82
Follow Your Heart 84

What Calls You? 85

Let Purpose Be Your Guide 87

Survival Mode or Purpose Mode? 90

Take a Stand for Your Purpose 92

CHAPTER 7 94
Flawed Brilliance 94
Accept Your Flawed Brilliance 95

Feel the Joy 97

Cultivate your Amazement 98

Harness your Happiness 100

The Finale … Embrace Your Brilliance 103

Acknowledgements 104
Introduction
When clients first seek out my help as a professional coach, they’ll
often start by describing an overall feeling of dissatisfaction with
their current life circumstances.

“Why can’t I just be satisfied? I’m happily married, have a

wonderful daughter and run a successful small business. Why do I
still feel the need for more?” – Marsha, florist, age 36.

“Changing careers now would be crazy, right? I earn a good

paycheck and I am well regarded in my field so who cares if I’m
miserable?” – Bob, tax attorney, age 50.

“My secret passion has always been architecture but there’s no

sense risking my job security. After all I have a family to support.
But still, I can’t stop dreaming about what being an architect would
be like.” – Cecelia, high school math teacher, age 43.

Do these thoughts mirror your own? Do you feel you should

be satisfied with what you already have? Do you feel somehow
unfulfilled, but can’t pinpoint what exactly is missing?

Don’t worry, you’re far from alone. Since 2000, I’ve coached
hundreds of clients who’ve expressed sentiments such as these.
Talented, successful people, just like you, who’ve spent years trying
to convince themselves that they like their work and that their lives
are “good enough.” People who, in short, have disconnected from
their very brilliance.

In his book Callings: Finding and Following an Authentic Life,

author Gregg Levoy writes, “It is not, in my estimation, an undue
stretch to say that if we are living lives that are wrong for our
spirits and if we say no to the calls that could put that spirit to
rights, then we, too, are lost souls.”

Part of what I do as a professional coach is help people put their

spirits to rights. I serve as a partner, helping clients to reconnect
with the parts of themselves they’ve long forgotten or buried deep
within. Thankfully, these essential parts of our being will keep
trying to find a way to break free, even though very often we
misunderstand the signals or try, much to our increasing discomfort,

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to ignore them in the hopes they’ll go away – much like those who
are quoted above. My goal, then, when I begin working with new
clients is to help them get to the root of their yearning and then
encourage them to seek out the signposts that will point them in
the direction of their natural brilliance.

I’ve long held the belief that if each person understood his or her
unique brilliance – the intersection between one’s natural talents,
abilities and passions – our world would be a very different place
indeed. We each have a unique contribution to make, be it as a
loving parent to five children, a medical researcher striving for a
cure or a fundraiser heightening awareness about an environmental
cause. We must each seek our own path. What is a fulfilling choice
for one, however, can be a prison for another, no matter how noble
it may seem on the surface.

In my individual coaching practice, most of my clients are not fully

aware of their brilliance and, like many of us, fall short on self-
acceptance. To embrace our brilliance, we must have the courage
to see ourselves clearly for who we really are (faults and all) and
accept these true selves without judgment. Those who can accept
themselves with grace and dignity, can tap into their innate power
and ability and use it to contribute to the greater good. This process
is a transformational one; it moves us from grasping at straws to
being in charge of our destiny. When you see yourself as capable,
as having a wide range of possibilities available to you and know
where your strengths lie, you can steer your own ship in the best
ways you see fit.

One major objection clients voice, before allowing themselves to

embark on this journey, is that it’s selfish. They believe focusing
on oneself constitutes a selfish act. The realities of self-care and
selfishness, however, are worlds apart. When we become fully
responsible for meeting our own needs, we have more to offer, not
less. We have more to offer ourselves, the people in our lives and
the world in which we live.

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 CHAPTER 4

The Art of Wanting

“What if the question is not why am I so infrequent-
ly the person I really want to be, but why do I so
infrequently want to be the person I really am?”
– Oriah Mountain Dreamer

Staying true to one’s self takes courage. And the foundation of

being true is to know what you want and to have the gumption
to acknowledge it and harness the energy to go after it. Unless
you build, stretch and maintain your “wanting” muscle, it’s easy
to become complacent. Too often, we get busy with our lives and
forget what all children know – the art of wanting.

Have you ever listened to a young child? If you’re paying attention,

you’ll hear an endless litany of what they want. All day. Everyday.
“When I can I have that red dragon?” “I hear the ice cream truck!
I want ice cream.” “I don’t want to go to sleep.” You get the
picture.

As adults, many of us begin to settle for what we think we’re

allowed to have – as defined by others, rather than ourselves. “Just
okay” becomes good enough. “It’s fine” becomes a way of life.
The parameters of our desires become tightly defined by what our
“inner critics,” family or friends tell us we’re allowed to have.
Believe it or not, there is no “judge of desire” holding court to
decide if our desires are legitimate or not.

Here’s what I know to be true: You get to want what you want.

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I remember speaking with a client about this exact topic. Patrick
related to me that at some point in his life, he just stopped dreaming.
Caught up in the routine of daily life, he stopped thinking about his
experience of the present and his vision for the future. At the end
of that coaching session, I gave Patrick an exercise to take away
and ponder. His task was to look at seven areas of his life: health,
career, money, friends and family, fun and recreation, physical
environment, and personal growth, and then create a vision that
he’d love to be living for each one. When we next spoke, he shared
these visions with me. Together we discovered that Patrick had
equated what he wanted to what he was willing to live with. He had
stopped giving himself permission to even contemplate what he
wanted for his life. I encouraged him to go after what he envisioned
in very tangible ways – to manifest that which he really loved.

Give Yourself Permission

Growing up, permission slips were a big part of school life. They
were required to participate in special projects, field trips or class
trips out of state. To take part in any adventure outside of the
regular classroom, a parent had to sign the slip. Now, as adults,
we can sign our own permission slips. In fact, we don’t even need
one! Yet we often don’t give ourselves permission to be who we
want to be or do what

we want to do.

How many times have you decided you wanted something, and
then denied yourself permission to have it – or even ask for it?

Here are the top 10 reasons I hear people using to deny themselves
permission to want what they want:

1. I can’t afford it.

2. I don’t deserve it.

3. What will other people think?

4. In my family, we don’t ask for things like that. (Translation:

My parents had the same sofa for20 years. Why should I
be any different?)

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 5. What if I get it and then decide I don’t like it?

6. I might fail.

7. I might succeed.

8. I can’t have that (it’s too big, too small, too expensive, too
whatever).

9. To have that would mean stepping outside my comfort

zone. No way.

10. And, the taproot of all resistance: I’m afraid.

Here’s the antidote to these limiting beliefs: it’s okay to want what
you want. It’s that simple. You get to want what you want without
judging it or measuring its merit or any justification at all.

Use these steps to get started:

1. Recognize what you want.

2. Refrain from judgment.

3. Give yourself permission to want what you want.

4. Take the action required, for example: asking, buying,

giving.

5. Notice what opportunities magically appear before you

and what opens up inside of you.

Following these steps may feel uncomfortable; you might feel fear.
That’s okay. These are simply signs that you are moving beyond
your comfort zone. It’s a sign you are growing!

Each time you acknowledge what you want, don’t judge it, act
on it. It’s part of the flow of life. Life wants to give you what
you want. Our socialization (see the previous list of 10 limiting
beliefs) tends to complicate matters and have us believe otherwise.
Recognizing what you want and giving it to yourself is a skill and,
like most new skills, it requires building “muscle.” The more you
work this particular muscle, the stronger it becomes.

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Tune in: How can you give yourself permission to want what you
want?

So You Know What You Want …

Now What?
Most of my clients hire me because they want to answer the
question “What’s next?” They feel dissatisfied with their current
job or life situation, but aren’t sure what would satisfy them.

They make lots of wonderful and necessary internal changes –

reshape their belief systems, overcome obstacles, gain clarity and
craft a vision for the future. Then they hit “The Threshold” – that
formidable mental canyon that appears after you’ve identified what
you want and blocks you from taking those first steps forward.

Once you know what you want, you must cross The Threshold by
taking action. For many people, this is an onerous stumbling block.
A new host of fears rush in, making getting started about as easy as
taking the first step onto a rickety swing bridge strung precariously
across your mental canyon. It’s common to experience:

• A fear of failure combined with such thoughts as “What if

I try out this vision and it doesn’t work?”

• A fear of success that brings up such thoughts as “What if

I bring this idea to fruition and my whole life changes?”

• An amorphous, yet fierce, resistance to the task at

hand. The kind of resistance that ignites more creative
procrastination. (Having exhausted more flashy forms of
procrastination, I’ve been known to trim my toenails and
clean my computer keyboard in an attempt to avoid a task.
In fact, I think I see a few specks on my keyboard right
now…)

Here’s a hint: Dreams and ideas come to fruition through pragmatic

action. It’s true. You can envision, manifest, pray and meditate on
the state of your cuticles until the cows come home. You’re free to
do this, of course, just don’t expect your dream to come true.

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The Mechanics of Moving Forward
How do you take action in the face of fear and resistance? Here are
some concrete steps to take you through the mechanics of moving
forward.

A – Acknowledge fear and take action anyway. Action is one of

the best antidotes for fear and anxiety. Many people misinterpret
feeling fear as an indication that they’ve taken the incorrect course
of action. Not true. (Note: At the threshold, it’s not uncommon to
feel attached to a specific outcome. Proceed with that action, just
take care to stay unattached to the outcome. We can’t predict the
results of our actions; results may be immediate or may not trickle
down for weeks, months or even years.)

C – Create a community of support. Support is critical. If I got

paid for every time I’ve told a client, “Nobody who’s successful
has done it alone,” I’d be a rich woman. If you don’t have a network
of support, build one. Find online communities in your field or
areas of interest. Visit or join professional organizations and don’t
overlook friends and family. Who could you reach out to and ask
for support? I can vividly recall the time I needed extra support
because I was crossing that precarious mental swing bridge from
one career to the next. So I asked for it. I identified two people who
had room in their lives to give me the extra support I needed and I
called them and asked for it – clearly and without apologies. They
were my lifeline during those next few months when I needed
the extra boost. (In a nice twist, I was able to return the favor the
following year when one of those friends went through a difficult
period of her own.)

T – Take charge. Be a leader in your own life. Set goals. Make

decisions. Get clear about what you’re trying to accomplish. Can’t
stand bookkeeping? Hire someone to do it. Plan. Organize your
time and use it wisely. You are the only person who can get yourself
where you want to go.

I – Interview and research. If you’re at the threshold, chances

are you have a thirst for more information whether it’s about your
career transition from crossing guard to marine biology or your
move from Times Square to Tijuana. Schedule informational
interviews. Set aside time to research online and at the library.

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Read books and magazines in your areas of interest. Gathering
concrete information is the name of the game.

O – Over-reward. This is harder than it sounds! You must take

time out to reward yourself and to keep your motivation high. The
next time you identify a reward for yourself, I challenge you to
double it. If you haven’t rewarded yourself yet, you must do so
immediately – if not sooner. Here’s why. Living with a mentality
of abundance is going to take you much farther than a mentality of
scarcity ever will.

N – Network, network, network. Each time you speak to

someone about your dream or idea, make sure you utter the magic
words, “Who else should I speak to about this?” or “What would
you suggest as a next step?” To network successfully is the act
of growing and strengthening your physical connection to other
people. When you feel uncomfortable asking others for help, ask
instead how you can be helpful to them. In fact, no matter what,
ask that anyway.

Standing at the edge of going after what you want can be the most
challenging phase of any transition. Remember, you’re walking
that unsteady swing bridge between where you’ve been and where
you want to go. The next time you find yourself on The Threshold
between your idea and bringing it to fruition, take a deep breath
and focus on this question, “What is my purpose right now?” The
answer will take you where you need to go.

Now It’s Your Turn

Take out a pen and paper and make a list of 50 things you want,
both internally and externally. An internal desire, for example,
might be to feel more relaxed, rather than so anxious and tense,
while an external desire might be to buy a fun new sofa or join that
networking organization your co-worker keeps raving about.

Write whatever comes to mind without any censoring. Got it? No

censoring! Include everything from buying new socks to achieving
more self-awareness to wanting to be a professional tennis player.
Make it a stretch. Dream big! If you can comfortably make a list of
50 desires, then push yourself to make a list of 75. If 100 is a piece
of cake, I challenge you to create a list of 200.

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As you’re making your list, notice the following:

• How do you feel? Are you excited by certain desires?

Guilty about others?

• What physical sensations do you feel? Does it feel like

someone is tightening a noose around your neck? Or do
you feel like getting up to dance or pumping the air with
your fist?

• As you write down each item, what words pop into

your head? Do you hear such gems as, “That’s the most
ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard!” or “You can’t have that!
Who do you think you are – the Queen of Sheba?”

Pick your top 10 desires. Review your newly formed short list and,
again, take note of how you feel. What voices do you hear in your
head? What beliefs pop into your mind? Where do you notice your
social conditioning showing up? How does your body feel? Do
your top 10 desires have a common theme? Have you uncovered
something of which you had previously been unaware?

At the end of day, what we want is usually pretty simple and

clear: it’s our feelings and judgment that get in the way. Social
conditioning that tells us that we must live a certain way, act a
certain way and feel a certain way. It’s these inner voices that keep
us from acknowledging and acting on what we truly want.

Tune in: What did you learn about what you want? Can you
categorize your desires? Did any themes emerge from your list?

What’s Draining You?

If you are still feeling challenged to identify what you want, energy
drains could be to blame. It can be difficult to connect to your
desires when you tolerate people, situations or actions that rob you
of energy on a consistent basis. Cleaning up energy drains is an
important component of gaining clarity about your desires.

On a daily basis, we put up with aspects of our lives that drain us of

valuable time, energy and joy. We tolerate work that we no longer

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enjoy, relationships that don’t enrich us and financial or living
situations that do not sustain us. Our energy is drained by the “little
things” as well. When your car needs a tune up, thinking about it
zaps your energy every time you drive by the garage. Each time
you glance at that wall that needs repainting, your energy dips.

As you eliminate these energy drains, you are freer to focus on those
aspects of your life that fuel you. You’ll feel lighter – physically,
mentally, emotionally and spiritually. You’ll have more energy,
sleep better and simply enjoy yourself more fully.

Now take a few minutes to reflect on what you need to eliminate

from your life to bring your energy back into balance. Make a
list.

Assess Your Energy Drains

To distinguish between what’s draining your energy and what’s
fueling your energy, do the following exercise. Hint: Notice what
you’re avoiding or denying – it’s an energy drain that should be
on your list. Use the information you gather to take concrete steps
toward eliminating those energy-draining aspects of your life.

I led one of my clients, Howard, through this exercise. What he

uncovered astounded him. Although he enjoyed his work and his
finances were in good shape, he was involved in some relationships
that were draining energy from his body, mind and spirit. Howard
realized that saying no to family members was a challenge for him.
He said “yes” to every request, be it for his time, his money or his
expertise, often to his own detriment. He carved out no time for
the activities that nourished his body or soul, such as hiking or
attending worship services. As a result, his body, mind and spirit
suffered.

In order to bring his energy levels back into balance, we discussed

ways he could put boundaries in place with family and we role-
played diplomatic ways he could say no to them. We made a list of
the things that were important to him and were to come first and
then family requests could work around his plans.

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Food for Thought:

Do you need to end a friendship that no longer serves you and is

an energy drain? Do you want to strengthen an existing friendship
that fuels you? Are you tired of wearing clothes that no longer
suit who you are today (drain)? Do you want to take yourself on a
shopping spree and buy only those things that excite you and look
good on you (fuel)?

Draw up on a piece of paper a list of the major areas in your life and
what is currently draining you of energy and what is fueling you.
Below is an example, but feel free to add additional categories, no
matter how big or how small they may seem.

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 Energy drain to What will fuel
eliminate you

Relationships

Work

Environment

Mind, body, spirit

Money

Tune in: Make a commitment to yourself to begin to eliminate

your energy drains. What would change if your life were only filled
with those people, situations and circumstances that fueled you?

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Define Yourself
Acknowledging what you want takes courage because once you
know what you want, you have choices to make. Do you go after
what you want? And if you do, will it require you to give something
else up? To take something else on? When you acknowledge your
desires, you are engaging in an act of self-definition, recognizing
both what you need and don’t need in your life.

I remember dreaming that I was sentenced to 30 days in jail. It was

a four-in-the-morning kind of dream, the kind that makes you toss
and turn, wake up for a minute, roll over, go back to sleep and find
yourself right back in the middle of the dream again. Vivid in most
every detail, the dream curiously omitted one critical element – the
crime I had committed. That detail was very hazy. It might have
been that I’d taken the wrong library book off the shelf. (No, I’m
not joking.)

You don’t have to be Freud to deduce that I’d been feeling a bit
trapped in my life at that time. But unlike actual imprisonment,
feeling trapped in life is often instructional – simply because it’s
an illusion. It’s like the elephant with its leg tied to a wooden stake.
The elephant is strong enough to break free, but doesn’t realize it.
It stays tied to the stake only because it’s been conditioned to do
so.

Although we’re smarter than elephants, we do sometimes seem to

stand with one leg tied to a stake for no better reason than we’ve
been conditioned that way. After having done some time in my
own trap, I realized that the way out was a heavy dose of what I
call “self-definition.”

Self-definition is a process. It’s an excavation of the soul. It requires

us to honestly, deeply and completely answer some challenging
questions:

• What do I want?

• What excites me?

• How do I hold myself back?

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 • How do I allow fear to hold me back?

• How can I be courageous enough to do what I need to

do?

• What’s my place in the world?

Answering these questions truthfully may not be easy. It may take

some time. I challenge you to answer them for each area of your
life and notice what you uncover. When I asked myself “What do
I want?” I heard two answers. The first: I wanted more sleep. The
second, and less concrete, was: I wanted to stop meeting everyone
else’s needs before my own. I’d fallen into a habit of superseding
my own needs much of the time and this response was taking its
toll. Between my son, my clients, friends, family and various and
sundry other people, I had lost myself in a sea of needs. I’d become,
in essence, tethered to that stake.

Self-definition is about finding the places, conditions and mindsets

in which you sparkle and shine, in which you stay focused on
your desire, in which you move away from your fear. It helps you
notice those times that you pull back and stop yourself just as you
get started. You begin to see the many little thoughts and actions,
which, taken together, are adding up to some pretty heavy self-
sabotage.

Finally, you decide to make different choices. Once you step onto
that path, you begin to define yourself rather than allowing other
people, beliefs and circumstances to determine your identity, life
path and course of action for you.

Self-definition is not about focusing on the specific “how’s” and

“what’s.” It’s not: How will I get there? What if I don’t like it?
What if I don’t make it? What if I fail? What if I succeed? What
are the steps to take? Which are the best actions?

Rather, your work is to avoid these questions. Entertaining

questions such as these will instantly start to suck the life out of
your beautiful, new self-definition. That’s because these questions
are based in doubt, rather than in faith. Once you are firmly
grounded in what is true for you, the “how’s” and “what’s” tend to
reveal themselves more clearly.

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Focus on what you want, then trust that it’s right for you. Trust is
the key here – trust in yourself, trust in the universe and trust that
the right things will happen at exactly the right time. Do that, and
you will not be trapped, your leg will not tied to a stake. And that,
my friends, is freedom.

Tune in: What do you want? If you trusted yourself completely

and shut out the inner critic, what is the first step you would take?
What would future steps be?

Float the Goal

Many people stop short of setting goals to help themselves achieve
what they want because they’re concerned that if they don’t
meet these goals, they’ll experience a sense of failure. I’d like to
propose a remedy. It’s a strategy I call “float the goal.” Here’s how
it works:

Step 1: Identify the goal

Write it down clearly and succinctly. Make sure it’s a goal you can
easily keep in your head, such as a dollar amount that you want to
earn, a distance you want to run or the kind of friendship you want
to develop.

Step 2: Periodically “float” the goal in your mind

By this I mean – run the goal through your mind and simply reflect
on it for a second or two. “Oh, that’s right. I want to earn $100,000
this year.” Then let it go by moving on to the next thought. Refrain
from getting “attached” to the goal. Being attached to the goal
sounds like “I’m afraid I won’t meet the goal” or “How will I ever
meet this goal?” or “If I don’t meet it, I’m a failure.” Negative
attachments will quickly thrust you down a mental rabbit hole that
has no exit.

Step 3: Let go of “how”

With the “float the goal” strategy, “how” isn’t a requirement. Isn’t
that nice? That’s one of the perks of this strategy that I love. In
fact, figuring out “how” to achieve the goal is counterproductive.

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You want to set the goal, float it in your mind and then move
forward intuitively, whether that’s through networking, marketing,
researching or some other method. The point is to keep taking
action and putting your energy out there by – as the author Julia
Cameron so vividly tells us – “shaking the trees.”

Step 4: Go out and have fun

You might be thinking – how does having fun connect with

accomplishing a goal? Let me explain. Sometimes when we’re
having difficulty meeting a goal, we get tight. Tight to the point
that we’re overly serious and berating ourselves or blaming
external circumstances for our troubles. All of these actions are
counterproductive. While an honest assessment of whether your
course of action is the right one or not can be beneficial – once
the jury’s made its verdict, go out and have some fun. Lighten
things up a bit. Generate positive energy. Take a mental load off – a
watched pot never boils and a watched goal is never achieved.

Step 5: Harvest “positivity”

This is the skill of active observation. Make a conscious decision to

identify and focus on the positive in any and all situations. You may
have a lifelong habit of focusing on the negative in situations that
aren’t to your liking, feel uncomfortable or are simply unfamiliar.
Again, a negative focus will steer you down an unproductive path,
so identify the positive. Once you do, you’ll feel like you have more
control. There’s nothing like looking at an array of positive options
to boost your spirits and create that “I’m in charge” feeling.

Step 6: Notice what you’re avoiding

“What we resist, persists.” I don’t know who originally uttered these

words, but they couldn’t be more true. What we resist or avoid,
internally or externally, not only persists, but usually expands over
time. Be brutally honest with yourself about what you’re avoiding
at this very moment and what you tend to avoid time and time
again. Once you have the answer, you can take action on it. This,
in turn, will open the pathway to meeting your goal with much
greater ease. What could be better than ease?

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Step 7: Go out and have fun

Seriously. It’s worth repeating. Don’t forget to have fun! When in

doubt, do something nice for yourself or for someone else. Change
the energy – don’t let it stagnate. There’s nothing like the power of
positive energy to smooth the pathway to attracting what you want
in your life.

Remember, a goal is simply a direction, not necessarily a destination.

We’re never really done. Once you reach one goal, the next goal or
goals will appear in your vision, so float your goals and watch the
new, different and exciting results that float into your life and get
ready to expect the unexpected!

Tune in: What is a goal that you’d love to float? Put these seven
steps to use and watch for the results.

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The Dream Made Real

by Keith Varnum
Open the door to more magic,
meaning and money in your world.
PDF format, 176 pages

This book is about you! Your aspirations.

Your longings. Your dream. And it's about
making your dream real, actual, tangible,
touchable. Rediscover what it means to be
alive, human and infinitely creative. Awaken
to fresh choices, options and solutions you never saw before. Open the door to more
magic, meaning and money in your world. Create your own world of dreams made
real! (more info)

Intimacy,
The Essence of True Love
by Daniel Linder
PDF format 192 pages

When you accept the premise that true love is

essentially intimacy, you can begin learning and
applying basic principles for creating intimate
relationships. When it comes to attainability and
sustainability, gaining some basic relationship
knowledge and wisdom can be the difference
between the search and discovery. Never before
has the process of developing a healthy relationship from the point of initial contact
been as carefully detailed and explained. (more info)

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Daring to be Yourself
by Peter Shepherd
PDF format, 264 pages

Find Out Who You Really Are!

You can create a new life. A life revised in small but
crucial ways—or perhaps you will totally change the way
things have been up to now. You choose, of course. But
first you need to know just who you really are and to shed
the conditioning imposed on you by decades of conforming
to other people's expectations and other people's
interpretations. This book—a blueprint to the life you really desire—has been
developed by Peter Shepherd, author of Transforming the Mind. A step by step
approach is followed throughout to help you uncover and remove the barriers to self-
knowledge and freedom of expression and action. (more info)

YOU-TURN: Changing Direction in Mid-life

By Dr. Nancy Irwin
PDF format, 253 pages

A collection of “over 40 stories of people over 40.” The

inspiring stories are from a diversity of real people who
started a new path—and will motivate you to do the same.
A grieving mother started a school for the leprosy-affected in
India; a crack dealer became a real estate investor; a 73-year-
old singer enrolled in law school; a catering director started
rehabbing used cars for low-income people; a Harvard
lawyer became a New Age healer, and more. Whether
you’re looking to change careers, begin a relationship, have
children, find meaning, or just find balance, this book is for
you. It also includes a “driver’s manual” and tips on easing yourself into a life change.
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