The Elements of Perfect Love

Analysis of D.H.Lawrences Sons and

Lovers
Introduction: D.H. Lawrence was one of the major novelists of the
twentieth century. He was an important but controversial writer as
the most important element of his writing is his own philosophy
concerning sex. Sex, however, is the important and indispensable
element to form a perfect love. All the novels of Lawrence are more
or less autobiographical. But Sons and Lovers is almost a carbon
copy of the authors life. The principal characters of the novel and
the central situations are drawn from Lawrences early life. Thus, by
this novel we can get more close to the author and find out his truly
intention to write this book.
Thesis Statement: Through the four failed relationships of Mr. and
Mrs. Morel, Paul and Miriam, Paul and Clara, William and Lily, the
author implied that love without freedom and communication,
materialism and sex is not going to be perfect and long lasting.
I. Freedom and communication are important elements to
run a marriage.
A. Example of Walter Morel and Gertrude Morel
1. Walter Morel and Gertrude Morel fall in love with each
other by the first sight because of passion but their
relation also broken quickly when they realized that
there are no common topics and there are various
restrictions between them.
2. The broken relationship of Lawrences parents in his real
life
B. Example of Paul Morel and his two lovers
1. Paul Morel and Clara Dawes get madly in sex as soon as
he broke up with Miriam Leivers. But Clara returns to her
ex-husband the ending of the novel and Paul Morel
remains single because there is only sex and no shared
interests, which they both getting tired of.
2. Paul Morel and Miriam Leivers love each other but Miriam
wants to suck Pauls soul which makes Paul hardly to
bear.
II. In addition to freedom and communication, Love cannot
survive without sex.
A. Example of Paul Morel and Miriam Leivers
1. Though Paul and Miriam can become a perfect soul mate
as they know each other so well and love each other so
much, they cannot get married because their body
rejects to do so. Miriam is such a pure religious believers
while Paul is so desired for sex love, and they both
cannot bear for that opposition.
2. Lawrence and his first lover in his real life
B. Example of Mr. and Mrs. Morel

1. Though Mrs. Morels relationship with her husband

begins to disintegrate, she still chooses to stay to take
care of her husband and her children. For sake of
children is just one of the reasons, another important
reason is that Mr. Morel is actually an attractive man (at
least when he is not getting drunk). And the harmony of
sex is also the important reason for their marriage.
2. Lawrence and his wife in real life.
III. Compared to elements of communication and sex,
materialism seems embarrassed but it is of vital importance to
make up a perfect life. We cannot blame for a material love
because it is a natural part in human society.
A. Example of William Morel and Louisa Lily
1. William Morel becomes engaged with Louisa Lily Denys
Western for her hot body and sexual skill. But William is
not really love Lily just as the girl is only greedy for his
handsome face and capacity to earn money. If William is
not died for over working, however, this couple could still
go on for some days as they could satisfy each other.
2. Take Lawrances another novel Lady Chatterley's Lover
to further support
B. Example of Mr. and Mrs. Morel
1. We can learn from the novel that Gertrude Morel is a
determined woman with strong desire. She expects for a
better life and pins her hope on her husband, and loves
her husband wholeheartedly. But she turns her attention
to her sons in the hope of fulfilling her desires when she
realized that her husband is just an alcoholic.
2. Lawrences poor childhood life
Conclusion: Above the unsuccessful lovers, we can make
conclusion that a perfect love cannot lack of the three main
elements: freedom and communication, materialism and sex.
Managing love is a mutual affair. Perfect love needs the both to
communicate more as well as giving each other more space. It also
demand a harmonious sex life as this is the most direct way to
express love. Last but not least, a good living condition is the basic
condition to maintain love. Thus, communication, materialism and
sex compose perfect love, not a single one can be omitted.