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Shell Do What She Has To To Get What She Wants PDF
Shell Do What She Has To To Get What She Wants PDF
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Girls: pretty darn good at getting what they want from men.
Apologies if this is a little rough-written. I havent slept in 36 hours (save a pair of 30-minute cat naps) and just
spent 24 of those hours in a hospital emergency ward (not for myself; the injured partys going to be fine we
think). Theres a story there, though not sure if I want to share it. Suffice it to say 24 hours in an emergency ward
surrounded by people in dire conditions with loved ones wailing over terrible tragedies is not something you want
to experience if you have the chance to avoid it.
If youre waiting to hear back from me via email, please be patient; Im back over at the hospital again tonight,
and if Im not too tired after 60 hours of no-sleep I will get back to you within the next day. Anyway, weve got a
website to run here, and the show must go on, so... on with the article.
Ive had a few articles on female psychology Ive been meaning to get up. This is one of them.
One of the strangest things you will notice when men talk about women is that men fall into roughly four different
camps on how they think of the opposite sex:
1. The white knight camp: Women are all saints and angels and must be protected from horrible men!
2. The doesnt care camp: I dont really know what womens deal is, but so long as Ive got one to cook me
dinner and give me a blow job I dont worry about it.
3. The bitter guy camp: Women are all evil, scheming, manipulative succubae whose sole purpose in life is
to cause men misery!
4. The ladies man camp: Women are cute, silly beings who can be fickle and changeable, but theyre a
whole heck of a lot of fun.
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The first guy is living in La-La Land, of course. Hes the white knight who dreams of trading his valor and loyalty
in for an often ill-defined sexual payday. And the second guy just doesnt know, and doesnt care to spend the
brain cells trying to know.
But what can we say about the third and fourth guys? Guy #3 looks at Guy #4 and mistakes him for Guy #1. Or
he thinks he must have it good with women and has never seen their true nature. Guy #4 looks at Guy #3 and
says theres a guy who just doesnt know how to push the right buttons with girls.
But is one of these guys wrong? Both men are drawing from often extensive experience reinforcing their views.
Guy #4 gets laid plenty, has wonderful girlfriends who devote themselves to him, and overall has a great time
with girls. Guy #3 gets ignored by women, taken advantage of by them, and screwed over in his relationships.
So what gives? Is Guy #3 just a crummier judge of character than Guy #4 is? Hes choosing the wrong women?
Or maybe hes just worse at meeting girls and running relationships?
While those things are generally true (i.e., guys with negative thoughts about women tend to harbor these
thoughts because they arent good at getting what they want with girls), theres more to the puzzle.
The more in question is this: a girls going to do what she has to do to get what she wants from you . The
difference between Guy #3 and Guy #4 is that Guy #4 makes sure women do things he wants to get what they
want from him. Guy #3 has no such standard.
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them too much or dont meet their physical or emotional needs. Submission only lasts so long as the submission
serves her interests.
It is just another way for her to get what she wants.
Same deal with how girls behave with a man on the pick up.
If a girl acts lusty and cute with you, its because shes already gauged you to be a man with strong
fundamentals, strong game, and clear interest in her. Youre an attractive man, who is attainable, and who
seems interested in her, and so she does things to signal she is ready to receive you (i.e., she uses a lot more
soft, girlish behavior).
If any of these are missing though, she challenges you to step it up. If youre talking to her but your game or
fundamentals arent all there, shell test you. Thats the equivalent of her saying, Not buying it; what else you
got? If you arent attainable enough, shell start auto-rejecting you, flirting with other men in front of you, or
insulting you. All these are ways to challenge you to step it up with her. If you truly arent interested in her, you
wont care if she does these things. If you are interested in her, they will wake you up and plunge you into action
which is exactly her intention in doing them.
Women are winners, often in way less sexually experienced men find hard to relate to. We live (or most of the
readers of this site do, anyway) in wealthy, urbanized societies. Wealthy urbanized societies work overtime to
tame their men. You cant have a bunch of manly high testosterone men running about in crowded metropolises
or else its chaos. So you use social control to dampen their testosterone and take the edge off. You end up with
the Modern Domesticated Man.
Woman cant be tamed. And in fact, wealthy urban societies unshackle their women in ways equivalent to
impoverished hunter-gatherer societies (it is the middle societies the agricultural/pastoral ones that place the
most restrictions on their women; why is beyond the scope of this article, but basically seems to come down to
these societies need to control their women more simply to survive).
You end up with a unique situation in wealthy urban societies you see in no other type of society: constrained
men and unconstrained women.
You have a bunch of women who are looking for wins, and a bunch of men who are looking just to get by.
Women who want to rock the boat to get what they want, and men who get skittish when the boat starts rocking.
And when these domesticated men meet these free women, all they have left is to retreat to bitterness, to work
to reframe the social dialogue... or to turn themselves into free men, too.
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Get used to this face a lot while you work out the kinks of asshole-dom.
Tamed men stop acting. They cease to grasp for social initiative and dont make waves socially. They dont go for
what they want. They adopt a reactive role, just like women. This forces women around them to either adopt the
masculine active role themselves, or to just ignore these guys and wait for more energetic men. Much of the
bitterness you see in sexually inexperienced men comes down to this:
Women are reactive
Tamed men are reactive
Untamed men are active
Women can sit back and wait for untamed men to court them
Tamed men can sit back and wait, but there is no one who will take action to get them
Thus the bitterness of the tamed man: he does everything society told him he was supposed to do, and the social
rewards go to the bad boy who doesnt listen.
For the tamed man, the social contract really has been violated. Hes socialized to behave in a way directly
contradictory toward his wants in life. This isnt done for his interests, but for societys: unlike a hunter-gatherer
society, where men die young or split off to form new groups, or an agricultural society, where every man is an
island unto himself with land, children, and wife, in an urban society you have a densely packed beehive of men
and women. Some of those men will be leaders. But they cant all be leaders. Most of the rest need to submit, to
teachers, bosses, and alpha males. It is simply a reality of industrial life.
This submission, though; this taming... This becoming reactive of men.
Its not attractive to women.
In fact, it makes a man invisible to them.
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Totally didnt show that side of herself at the arts and crafts class you met her at.
This behavior is, again, in service of a woman getting what she wants.
What she wants is the untamed man allowing her into his stable. She wants him to claim her as his girl. She
wont get that by treating him poorly, because he has options, and she knows this. She desires his sexual and
romantic resources.
What she wants with the tamed man (if she wants anything at all) is his financial, status, or other social (not
sexual) resources... And often she wants them along with him kept far enough away that she may court stronger
men with more attractive sexual resources. e.g., the cheating girlfriend; the friend with benefits who isnt
interested in an LTR with you no matter what a swell guy you are to her; the wife who used to be happy but now
spends all her time insulting you and hanging out at the gym with her muscled-up personal trainer. Most of the
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time women behave this way, its because a mans weaknesses have triggered those predatory instincts in her
(the same predatory instincts you feel kick in when you see, say, a cute girl who just broke up with her boyfriend
and she is just so sad).
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active women who will court you. Women dont need to; there are plenty of active men who will court
reactive women. Theres no motivation for a woman to become active; she doesnt need it to get dates.
The only women who become active daters are the high sex drive / high testosterone ones. To every
woman except those types, reactive men are invisible.
Weakness brings out predatory instincts. Women are winners. Whatever situation theyre in, theyll find a
way to get a win out of it. If that means they get an untamed mans romantic and sexual attentions,
wonderful. If that means they get a tamed mans financial resources or social status points, theyll take
that too. Most women will not willingly enter into courtships or relationships with tamed men, but if men
show that they are tamed throughout the course of the courtship or the relationship, this causes a
womans agenda to shift from get his romantic/sexual resources to get something else from him to
compensate for this time Ive spent on him.
Women are the canary in the coalmine. Theyre the messenger. Dont shoot them. They just show you
where your weaknesses are. Even if there were no women, men would gladly continue to exploit your
weaknesses, they just wouldnt tell you they were doing it. At least women are usually obvious about it:
they ignore you, show disdain for you, disrespect to you, disgust at you. All these are signs theres a
problem, which you can then fix. Once that problem is fixed with women for you, its usually going to be
fixed with all your other non-romantic dealings too, which makes you a more effective man.
Women will show you what about you needs tweaking if you can take the criticism.
We covered a lot in this one, but I tried to keep it as tight as possible and not get too tangential. I hope its been
interesting, and encouraging not discouraging.
Every guy is tamed to some extent. No man is truly untamed, except perhaps some of the super villains you see
in comic book movies. Every other man is operating under some degree of constraint. So what were really
talking about here is degree and calibration.
The degree to which you have rewilded yourself. And the calibration to hit just the right amount of wild that you
are untamed enough to be exciting to girls, but not so untamed women are frightened of you and the police come
to get you.
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The calibrated untamed man is sexy to women for all the right reasons... Not least of which is that a woman is
going to do whatever she has to do to get what she wants. And with the untamed man, what she wants is him, for
himself, and what she has to do to get it is behave in a girly, sexy, feminine way she gets to go for something
she wants at a primal level, and gets to behave as the consummate woman to get it. This makes the man who
knows his way with girls immensely satisfying to be with, because she doesnt have to do anything weird, tricky,
or special with him (well, aside from her tests to make sure he isnt fake-untamed). She can just be a girl, and let
him be a man, and trust hell take all the action necessary to make what she wants occur.
Chase
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