So think about something that affects your ability to be happy in the world, or

something which affects your inner peace. It may be a relationship issue, a phy
sical problem or illness, feelings of low self worth or confidence, it may be mo
ney worries, weight problems, an eating disorder, an irrational fear or perhaps
an internal block which you can't put your finger on. All these problems are gov
erned by the inner child at some level. Within each issue is a message which you
r inner child longs for you to understand, a message which tells you something a
bout the past. Something in your childhood which happened then, but is still hol
ding you back, keeping you stuck, creating unhelpful patterns, bringing up painf
ul feelings, or maybe even making you feel numb. Even day to day occurances like
the car breaking down, being bitten by a dog, a bounced cheque, a crisis, rejec
tion from a partner, an accident are all governed by the inner child.
What is happening is you are pulling (at a subconscious level) these incidences
and situations to you. Nobody knows how this actually happens, we just know it m
iraculously does! And it so happens we find ways to resolve it, because we are h
ere to find happiness and to fulfil our highest potential, not to suffer, strugg
le and never be at peace. There is a deeper reality functioning at all times wit
hin and around us. This reality dictates that we have come to this earth to find
joy, and often it is our inner child who stands in our way. It does not mean to
do this, it just needs to heal past wounds or address detrimental beliefs which
affected us as children.
So to undo the conditioning or upsets from the past we have to connect with our
inner child, we then have to help heal this part which will in turn free us from
all that seems to disable us.
Connecting with the inner child is a relatively easy exercise which you can do r
ight in this moment. All you need is twenty minutes where you won't be disturbed
and to be comfortable. Sitting in a cosy chair, or laying on a bed is fine. You
may even choose to play some soft mellow music to help you relax. Also if it is
possible and you think it will help you may wish to dig out an old photo of you
rself as a child to look at before you begin the exercise.
So getting comfortable and undoing any tight clothing... take two deep breaths,
breathing right down into your abdomen. As you breath out feel yourself beginnin
g to relax. It is best to close your eyes, slightly opening them every time you
need to refer to what I am saying here (unless you have a friend who can read th
is to you). Taking your time now, relax your scalp and forehead... feel the tiny
muscles letting go and becoming smooth... relax your eyes, cheeks, mouth and ja
w... let the muscles go... unclench your jaw and relax your tongue... let your s
houlders become loose and limp, let any tension go, let it flow away... relax yo
ur chest and let your breathing become slow and easy... relax all the way down y
our back, your shoulder blades down to the base of your back... let any tension
in your tummy flow away... relax your hips, right down your legs, down your calf
s... feel your feet relaxing and your toes, like when you take off tight shoes..
. and let your arms go limp and heavy... and your hands letting go... allow your
thoughts to become peaceful, breathing away tension, problems and things on you
r mind... breathing them all away... let your whole body become completely relax
ed... feeling so peaceful... and focus on your breath as you count slowly back f
rom ten to zero in your thoughts... good, now I want you to think about a place
you remember as a child, it may be your family home, school, a playground or som
ething else... just let that come into your mind, it doesn't matter if it isn't
very clear or if you just sense it... when you have something make it as clear a
s you can... now imagine you see your child self coming toward you, you as you w
ere when you were a child... you may look different to what you had expected or
you may not... notice what you are wearing and your hair... notice your expressi
on, how do you look?... Perhaps you are holding something... now imagine you, th
e adult you, are walking up to your child self... tell the child who you are...
tell them you have come to be their friend... (at this point some of you may bec
ome emotional, especially if your inner child was lonely or suffered in childhoo

d)... if it feels ok offer to hug the child (but don't do this if the child resi
sts), or you could hold their hand or let them sit on your lap... ask them if th
ey have anything to say to you and answer any questions, but always remain lovin
g, supportive and reassuring... now it is time to say goodbye to the child, do w
hatever feels natural, give them a big hug or kiss or just wave goodbye... and r
eturn back to the room you are sitting in.